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Objections At Weddings Actually Happen In Real Life And Here Are 30 Stories That Folks In This Online Group Shared
A wedding is considered to be one of the most exciting and special occasions in a person’s life. It is also one of the most joyous occasions for family and friends of soon-to-be newlyweds. But as most of us know, there are situations where someone’s decision to marry their significant other is not met with much excitement or in the worst case, a serious objection.
Having this in mind, Reddit user @summeralexander14 asked people online to share some stories of them witnessing an objection during a wedding or even objecting themselves. The question that received 13.5k upvotes was soon filled with various stories that people decided to reveal to others. Some of these included funny and not-so-serious cases of objection, while others were quite intense and sad as it would reveal some deeper issues that lay within a family.
Do you have similar experiences with weddings? Which one of these situations do you find the most astonishing? Don’t forget to leave your thoughts in the comments down below!
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#1
At our friends marriage, there was a storm building outside. When the "does anyone object" part came up, there was a flash of lightning and a huge thunderclap. The power went out, and by candlelight the pastor said "I'm not counting that," and finished the ceremony. They were married 30 years, then she died from leukemia.
The video of their wedding is awesome.
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#2
My dad marrying his third wife.
My step brother and I were in the wedding party. He was about 6, I was 10. The preacher asks if anyone objects and my brother raises his hand so very politely. My dad asks why, and my step brother replies, "because I want you to promise to take me fishing whenever I want, first."
Axolotl King 4 years ago
I agree and also I love your username, even though I don't think you're an idiot
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#3
When my cousin got married to her wife, her parents, grandparents and a few other older family members stood up and walked out. They didn't say anything or try to stop the wedding, it was just a symbol of their disproval. My cousin was pretty devastated because she thought the attendance meant they had changed their mind and wanted to support her, but it was just a trick.
Henry Russell 4 years ago (edited)
its sad that some people object gay,lesbian, etc wedding like they can change and chose to be gay they cant change themselves but the objectors can
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Sky Render 4 years ago
What a wonderful way to tell everyone gathered that you're the scum of the Earth!
Nikki Sevven 4 years ago
It boggles my mind that a person can think that a marriage that doesn't involve them is any of their business.
Andy Acceber 4 years ago
When I married my spouse (we're gay), our officiant didn't ask if anyone objected. I'm now betting she did that on purpose. Fine with me. My spouse and I were married all the same without opening the door to any potential drama.
Tamra Stiffler 4 years ago
I fully support people who re-write traditional wedding vows/wording. I did too. I made the preacher remove the word "obey". I made no promise to obey then, and make no promises to do so now or in future. ☺️
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lenka 4 years ago
What a horrific thing to do. It is one thing to not turn up, but to trick the bride and attempt to shame and humiliate her on her wedding day is one of the most callous things they could have done. I hope they reap what they have sown.
Busy Panda 4 years ago
They are her parents and grandparents. Sadly, it is matter to the bride however her spouse wish they were not...
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#4
I was at my cousin’s wedding and someone screamed at the top of their lungs “OBJECTION, your honor” because my cousin is a judge.
S. 4 years ago
I'm really hoping it was a lawyer who's worked with that judge before!!
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Søs Rasmussen 4 years ago
I said no at my own wedding. The official who performed the wedding asked "Do you take Henrik bla bla bla" I said "No". The official looked very nervously at me, and I said "His name is Jens" 😉
Vicky Z 4 years ago
The other option would be to finish law school which is much more difficult! By the way i always wanted to say that!! I have to go to a judge's wedding!!
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#5
My wife's uncle (who owned the farm we were getting married) stood up at the objection part. Immediately, his son (who was the man of honor) yelled at him to sit down. To his credit he did. For about 12 seconds then stood up again. He objected because there was a big f**king storm coming up the driveway and about to smack the ceremony and all of our hurrying couldn't beat it. My wife made it inside before getting drenched...no one else did. Got married inside instead.
PandaGirl85 4 years ago
if you wanna object, object for a good reason. That was a good reason.
#6
I grew up in a super fundamentalist Christian community. My best friend fell in love, but her parents were pissed because they wanted to do an arranged marriage for her, so they locked her in the house for months. Finally I helped her escape and she got married in a very small ceremony.
She used to be very close to her brother, so she invited him. He was also angry about her eloping, so he wore all black, including black sunglasses, and stood there looking pissed the whole time.
We specifically asked the pastor to not do the "does anyone object" thing because we didn't want to give anyone the chance. When her brother realized the pastor wasn't going to say it, he tried to stop the wedding anyway. My brothers had to escort him out.
The whole thing was f**king heartbreaking.
ephemeral_mochi 4 years ago
I honestly thought arranged marriages were a thing of medieval times. This is sad.
S. 4 years ago
Welcome to southeast Asia, where arranged marriages are a seemingly undying trend. - a Bangladeshi girl
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K Witmer 4 years ago
Organized religion is a monster. It's prison for women and children. Only men benefit from any cult which is all organized religion. Don't get mad if you're a religious person idc what you believe or what you worship on your own. I'm talking about the organized tax stealing, oppressive, lying, hypocritical religions that operate w impunity and answer to no one. Mormon, Catholic, fundamentalism(their sects), Scientology, jehovah, etc. they are all cults.
H Edwards 4 years ago
Having lived in a very religious country for almost a decade, I wholeheartedly agree.
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Glen MacLeod 4 years ago
I'm not a religious person, but please, don't assume all sects of a religion are this way. I know many good, kind people from various faiths and many narrow minded fanatics who worship politics as their religion.
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Official_Blink 4 years ago
Right now , In India , Some political issues are going on. India is a country where no one asks for a woman's consent for her marriage. They dont even let them study. So , The government made a new law that only woman above 21 can marry , So that they can complete their study's and be independent. But some bastards won't accept the fact that woman will be independent
deanna woods 4 years ago
It's people like this that make non bigoted Christians like myself look bad. The way I see it is this is the twenty first century and arranged marriages should not be a thing in the Christian faith. All of these religions that are essentially cults are not good for the Christian faith either.
Thorfin Wolfsbane 4 years ago
My grandparents were an arranged marriage. When they fought they would say things like, "I wouldn't have chosen you if you were the last person on earth!"
smugdruggler 4 years ago
In the UK it's a legal part of the ceremony, and if there is an objection - even if it's a joke - the wedding cannot legally go ahead until the objection is heard.
Tee Witt 4 years ago
I would like to see a Muslim girl refuse, goodness knows what would happen to her.
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Josie Bisbano 4 years ago
In the United States, it's also a legal requirement of the ceremony. It's an opportunity for witnesses present, to bring up legal issues that may void the marriage, such as either party being still married to someone else, being under the age of consent and without parental permission, or otherwise being non compos mentis (not mentally competent as previously determined by legal procedure).
Tee Witt 4 years ago
Some religions will find ways around that, I know I have seen it.
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My cousin was marrying a Korean guy she went to grad school with. His family had come in from abroad and were sitting all together on one side of the room. When they got to the objection part, this Korean girl yells out "NO!" and stands up and starts screaming in Korean at the groom. As everyone is trying to figure out what the hell is going on, an old lady calmly walks up to the girl and slaps her face. The girl starts sobbing as some more older women grab her and pull her outside.
The explanation was that she was just a drunk friend that didn't want him marrying an American. Found out later that the girl was actually a childhood sweetheart that was screaming how the groom promised to marry her-- which was awkward since the two were related to each other in some way (was not quite sure how). Anyway, cousin and her husband are quite happy, so no harm in the end.
PandaGirl85 4 years ago
This bad-ass grandma slapped her right across the face. Great job, grandma!
Henry Russell 4 years ago (edited)
kids say some of the most weirdest things my little sister whod 6 by the way had a fake boyfriend and they promised to get married then they broke up, kindergarten drama
#8
As the story goes, my parents’ wedding was officiated by my mother’s grandfather. When asked if there were any objections to my parents’ wedding, my father’s parents rose and stood silently. This was not a surprise; my mother and my father’s parents did NOT get along at all. Everyone knew this, so it wasn’t a surprise.
In response to their silent disapproval, my great-grandfather lauded their silent standing by saying something along the lines of “Ah, the parents of the groom have risen in support of the couple. Thank you!”
It’s unclear how the attendees responded, but my paternal grandparents left silently at that point. I never met them, but I think I’m glad I didn’t
PandaGirl85 4 years ago (edited)
I love the great-grandpa. You gotta be bad-ass to diss your future in-laws.
Martha Higgins 4 years ago
If you have an objection to people getting married to someone you don't like or approve of, simply don't go to the ceremony and then stay the hell out of their lives!
BluEyedSeoulite 4 years ago
I feel sorry for these people. They are so emotionally inept and unable to work through problems that they miss out on relationships. Their fault.
#9
I was at the wedding of that rare beast - a work colleague who was actually a good friend as well. Only a couple of work people were invited by her, including a guy we'll call Matt, because that is his name. Matt and the bride had dated for a while a few years ago, but had remained good friends after.
So the ceremony starts, no sign of Matt... we get to the bit 'does anyone have any lawful objections etc' and the church goes quiet, then the heavy wooden door to the church door bangs open and there is Matt, looking red faced, flustered and upset and you could see the thoughts run through everyone's mind... 'Oh s**t'... and Matt limped awkwardly to a pew in the back and sat down quietly.
He'd overslept and twisted his ankle running to the church, that was all - so no objection, no drama, but damn we all though for a second it was going to kick off. My friend the bride even saw the funny side, about 3 months later.
James016 4 years ago
a guy we'll call Matt, because that is his name - that made me laugh more than it should have
PandaGirl85 4 years ago
That is hilarious. And it's good she saw the humor, even if it was 3 months later.
#10
My dad's seen an objection - he volunteers at a church. The bride and groom were siblings, and their father hadn't told them until he objected (I believe he was estranged to both of them). They already had a kid apparently.
Terilee Bruyere 4 years ago
Oddly enough, there is a phenomenon in which family members who do not know they are family members tend to share an attraction to each other, almost like their genes recognize each other. It happens more often than people realize.
AnnaBanana 4 years ago
Apparently it's a thing with adopted people also, when they meet their biological parents and siblings. I watched a documentary on it once - there was more than one mother and son relationship, brother and sister, father and daughter etc. As an adopted person, I'm just bloody relieved it didn't happen to me when I met some of my bio family!!!
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May 4 years ago
Could be. There's a higher risk of birth defects, but they could also be perfectly fine.
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GlitterQueen541 4 years ago
He was estranged, but still at the wedding? They didn't realize at some point that their dad was the same guy at the wedding?
BluEyedSeoulite 4 years ago
Maybe he was only known as a dad to one person in the couple and a "family friend" to the other. Super common in small towns!
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Not someone who had someone object at their wedding, but....
My older sister torments me about the second wedding I went to as a kid (first being my parents wedding).
Apparently attention seeking 4 year old me thought this gap of silence needed to be filled with my best cookie monster impression, so during the silence I yelled "Cookie Monster om nom nom nom."
Obviously everyone looked around at me in shock for breaking the silence, before the bride and most of the congregation burst out laughing.
This is the only wedding in my extended family that ended in divorce (4-5 years down the line) and as such I am one of the people that get stared at everytime this moment happens in a wedding. The oracle known as Cookie Monster.
cybermerlin2000 4 years ago (edited)
*attends wedding* Pastor: "Does any one object?" *Whispers* "coooookiiieeeee" *everyone at the wedding* "This marriage is doomed"
Glen MacLeod 4 years ago
I know a little kid who would fill silent moments in church by belting out the theme to the TV show version of Batman. Da-da-Da-da-Da-da-Da-da,
Liz Siemens 4 years ago
LOL! Oh my goodness. I have a similar story!!! When I was 4 I yelled out to my oldest cousin cousin at her wedding "your dress is dragging!" As she was walking down the aisle. She called back "it's supposed to! It's called a train!" Anyway from that moment on my family would always think of me or make a joke about it at weddings!
Indy 4 years ago
I was the flower girl at my parents wedding. I was 6. My 4 year old brother was the ring bearer but he was more interested in catching fireflies.
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Priest here. Where I am, the only objection people can make is a legal one. It doesn’t matter if they merely don’t approve.
I had one objection at a wedding, where the person who spoke claimed the groom was already married. That’s enough to stop the wedding. Turned out they were Serbian (which I knew) and didn’t know our legal system. The groom hadn’t realised the church wedding was also the legal wedding, so they’d married each other in a civil ceremony a few days before. That was fun to sort out!
MiriPanda 4 years ago
Interesting, I would not have known that either as here in Germany the church wedding is not a legal wedding either.
Honu 4 years ago
In most states in the US, ordained clergy are legally allowed to sign off on your marriage license, but if you don't have a signed marriage license you're not married in the eyes of the law. The church ceremony doesn't have legal weight on its own. There are eight states that have common law marriage statutes where they recognize marriages without licenses, though.
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Alexandru Bucur 4 years ago
Yeah, I can see why they'd be confused, because in Europe the church ceremony and the legal wedding are two entirely separate things and you're not actually married until you do the latter in front of an elected city official.
Mandy Delaforce (PC Girl) 4 years ago
It's all about that piece of paper. If the religious person is also a registered person, they can sign the paper. In this case, they could have still continued with the ceremony and pretended to sign the paperwork.
Jill Bussey 2 years ago
UK both civil and church weddings are legal. Why would you pay out for two ceremonies otherwise?
Evelyn Haskins 4 years ago
Here we go out to the ?? Room behind the pulpit, and have our little civil ceremony and singing and things. To me, not being religious, that was our REAL marriage :-)
#13
Not an objection, but my mom says that during her first wedding (not to my dad), literally EVERYONE, including her own family and the groom’s, was telling her behind the scenes that she could just “run off” or simply call off the ceremony entirely. But she paid them no mind and went on with the wedding.
A month later he got physically abusive with her. She packed her bags the same day and thankfully got out of it quickly.
Kitty Jordan 4 years ago
My ex's mom one time asked me why I was putting up with some stuff my ex was doing. Looking back, that should have been a major red flag.
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At least she got herself outta that relationship while she still could.
Harri Ellis 4 years ago
I BEGGED my mother not to be in my sister's wedding. Her fiancé' had threatened to kill my boyfriend with a butcher knife, and his mother didn't come to the bridal shower. She told my mother after her son tried to run over my sister, that he had issues. There are no words to express what I wanted to do to him.
Hugh Cookson 3 years ago
Wish I'd listened to many' many of my friends who advised / told me that getting married to my first wife was going to be a mistake ....... 5 years down the line the inevitable happened, the divorce cost me my entire savings (and then some), my house, my sanity, for a while and my health. If I'm honest, I wish I'd put my bloody hand up at the point the Registrar had asked if anyone objected ..... hey ho ; the only upside of this is that we didn't have kids.
Mickie Shea 4 years ago
Ladies and a few gents, When your spouse starts to belittle you, make you wrong, that is the time to flee. Every time that ass can intimidate you they have pushed out the boundaries further. They have a new starting place. So, the abuse will only escalate, never diminish. Glad she took off. Probably saved her heartbreak, maybe her life.
#14
I was at a wedding where there were three parties: the bride's, the groom's, and the groom's mother's. She hated the bride, thought she was not good enough for her son, etc. I was friends with both bride and groom, and they had to invite the groom's mom and dad, but they had the priest avoid the "Objection" part of the ceremony.
At the reception, there was a moment where the groom's father danced with the bride, and a few minutes later she stormed off the dance floor. The groom's dad had offered her $5,000 cash to walk away right then and there and have the marriage annulled. The reception featured a flambeau entrée, and everybody was watching the groom's mother, half expecting her to grab one of the flaming skewers from one of the waiters and hurl it at the bride.
They're still married 30 years later and have two kids, but I believe they are estranged from the groom's family for some reason...
Ellie Rosser 4 years ago
Take the $5k and then get remarried at the registry office afterwards.
Kitty Jordan 4 years ago
$5K wouldn't even cover the cost of the wedding, I'm sure, so not only was father-in-law a jerk, he was a cheap jerk.
Eevi 4 years ago
I don't understand why they invited the grooms family at all, if they knew about their feelings. When me and my husband got married, we didn't invite his mom (because she is an narcistic a'*hole), and had the best day ever. You are not obligated to invite the people who are mean to you or your spouse just because they are related to you.
Martha Higgins 4 years ago
Good for them for being estranged, it's exactly what his parents deserve.
Mandy Delaforce (PC Girl) 4 years ago
I would have asked them to hand over the $5k immediately, then would have thanked him loudly for the awesome wedding gift!
Jane Alexander 4 years ago
A woman I worked for offered a friend of her married son and his wife $10,000 to break up the marriage. They'd been married a while and had seven kids already.
#15
Not quite an objection but sharing anyway:
When my dad and stepmother married, my litte brother was a toddler and had a hilarious and contagious laugh. Right when the objection part came up he decided to fill the moment of silence and then couldn't stop laughing at himself in a vicious cycle.
Had to stop the wedding so everyone could regain thier composure, b/c he had everyone else laughing so hard!
Melia Janssen 4 years ago
I love those kinds of laughter. You don't even need to know what's funny, just have to laugh along.
JillyMack 4 years ago
When my sister-in-law got married, my then toddler daughter really needed the bathroom during the speeches. So I crept out with her as quietly as possible. On the way back into the function room, she let loose (she was a runner) and yelled "I'M BACK!!" as the speeches were still underway. Much hilarity ensued....
#16
Not my wedding but at a friends, a family member paid some kid $20 to run in and say "Daddy don't marry that woman!" like it was his child. Did not go over well as a prank at all....
#17
First wedding in Vegas, found a homeless guy to be a witness in exchange for a sandwich from subway, objected because it didn’t have olives like he wanted.
RIP
Valley Girl 4 years ago
I'm picturing I now pronounce you Chuck and Larry.....but now I'm rereading. Why is he dead? They killed him for that?
#18
My husbands (now former) female best friend said, "you know his parents prefer me. They want me to marry him but I turned him down" the morning of my wedding.
My ILs hate her.
Busy Panda 4 years ago
I guess the husband's family are close with the bitch's family. Couldn't invite them without inviting her too.
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#19
It wasn't verbal, and no one will admit it was 100% on purpose.
My husband's grandmother intentionally made him an hour late to our wedding, hoping we would just call it off.
She gave him directions to her timeshare that was her gift to us for the wedding night - except she conveniently gave him the wrong one. The one that was on the other side of the city from both the wedding and the correct one, and that he had to cross Interstate 4 (one of the worst highways in Florida, and possibly America) during 5pm traffic on a weekday to get to.
Everyone chalked it up to "oh, she's a senile old lady, she just got mixed up."
No she wasn't, and no she didn't. She was only senile when she could use it as a cover for being malicious. I could detail many other examples, but I won't.
What happened? The wedding started an hour late, so we lost an hour of the reception, and we're still married 13 years later.
Don't Look 4 years ago
I was married into a family with at least one person like this. Good to know that marriages like this actually do last.
Diane Knight 4 years ago
Note to anyone getting married, send someone else to retrieve 'a gift' on the wedding day. You are kinda busy anyway.
Marco Hub-Dub 4 years ago
People with a personality disorder, typically borderline/narcissism, often present signs of senility or dementia when they get older which is actually the diabolical, manipulative side of their personality.
#20
Not an official objection, but when my mum was marrying my dad, my grandpa (her dad) circled her around the church over and over again telling her he didn’t have to stop, she didn’t have to go in, and they could just drive away.
It didn’t work. They’re still married 30+ years later. Eventually grandpa learned to like dad.
Joran Quinten 4 years ago
I don't know your grandpa, but I find it horrible that he didn't trust in the decision his daughter made and instead of being supportive was acting like a child.
R Soho 4 years ago
We don't know he didn't trust her decision. When I got married my father did something similar, that was just his way of telling me he loved me and that if I had any doubts he would support me no matter what. I'll add that he adored my partner, but he was letting me know he would always be on and by my side.
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Mickie Shea 4 years ago
Offered my daughter and her BFF a week on an island paradise. Kid, turned it down, with an eye-roll and a sigh. Divorced two years later. Never said, I told you so, yet, I did.
#21
My mother wrote 'help me' on the bottom of my shoes so when we kneeled during the ceremony everyone behind us would see it. It was pretty passive aggressive. But she wasn't wrong. Marriage lasted less than a year.
Ellie Rosser 4 years ago
It's not passive aggressive, it's an old joke, often performed by the groomsmen.
Louloubelle 4 years ago
When I married my ex-husband, the minister told us in the pre-wedding interview, that if this happened he would stop the wedding and not marry us. Maybe I should have done it.
Irishwoman abroad 4 years ago
My dad still had the price tag stuck on his shoes, but this story beats that.
Mickie Shea 4 years ago
Maybe ought be a marriage course folks could take prior to marriage. Oh! there is.
#22
I was told by my husband’s family his sister planned to object. The week before she told us she would go to my husband’s next wedding because we won’t last long. It’s been 10 years and I’m still happy she didn’t go, lol.
#23
A friend, call her Blonde Doctor, was getting married in five days and I definitely didn’t care for the groom based on his past behavior. I was joking around with a different friend and sent them a link to a wiki-how on “How to stop a wedding”. Went back to a text conversation with Blonde Doctor, and it turns out I accidentally sent her the link to the wiki-how, not my other friend. Whoops.
It ended up being a fairly awkward wedding. Two years later, they’re divorced and we’re friends again.
EDIT: Yes, Blonde Doctor is a Scrubs reference. Whenever I am telling a story and I don’t want to reveal personal information, I just refer to people as either Blonde Doctor or Keyser Soze.
#24
My ex-wifes Aunt said to me on the wedding day...
" you dont have to do this ya know "
I should have listened
Seabeast 4 years ago
My stepdaughter dated a guy whose female relatives urged her to be careful how she broke up with him... she waited until he got a job overseas.
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#25
It didn’t quite happen but a work friend who was a libertarian had planned to stand up during my wedding ceremony and deliver a speech objecting organised marriage as a form of government control, explaining that it’s wrong to be forced to register your relationship with the state in order for it to be legally recognised and such. Luckily he shared his plan with someone with similar political views who convinced him it would have been a jerk move so instead he no showed and put a long post on Facebook about his reasons for “conscientiously objecting”.
Nikki Sevven 4 years ago
Libertarians are idiots, at least in the US. The American Libertarian Party's manifesto specifically calls for the repeal of the federal income tax, while simultaneously supporting the existence of the gigantic monster that is the US military. Sure, guys, but who's going to pay for it if there are no taxes?!
Dave P 4 years ago
it is obvious you never actually read their platform which calls from the gutting of the US military to a bare bones home defense force (just a small Navy, small marine corps and no army or air force but keeping the National Guard for both Army and Air) and removal of all US troops and bases from around the world. LP is against the military.
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Hannah Edwards 4 years ago
Read the whole thing about librarians until I read the comments and wondered why they have an American Librarian Party. I’ll put my glasses on.
Marco Hub-Dub 4 years ago
Libertarians don’t understand basic economics. As in, I’ll trade you 10 peanuts for 1 apple.
#26
Exgfs coworker wedding. The groom’s side chick shows up absolutely hammered right when the ceremony started. Screaming at him saying she’s supposed to marry him. She was carried out by a few of the groomsmen. Ceremony went on like nothing happened. Find out about 1 year later that he was still cheating ( with that chick and another one)
Narwhal Blast 4 years ago
What is wrong with those women as well, if they accept this kind of behaviour front the man in their lives?
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Donna Leske 4 years ago
Side subject; why can't people learn to look at their back view as well as the front, especially when going to a formal occasion? The woman in white pants could have switched to pants that fit her.
#27
My maternal granddad said to my mum on her wedding day, to not marry my dad as he wasn’t good enough for her. He was right of course, but if she’d listened I wouldn’t exist.
ShriSha Kamboj 4 years ago
you live with the decisions u make.....but something good always comes out of the bad
ℙ𝕦𝕣𝕣_𝕞𝕒𝕚𝕕 4 years ago
I read that as, "but something good always comes out of the bed." (I'm half asleep)😂
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#28
I had a small chunk of my family boycott my wedding, not because of my choice of groom but because of my choice of clergy. They even promised to pay for another clergy.
I kept the clergy and they did not attend. After several years they are still spiteful and have burned many bridges aside from mine.
Sky Render 4 years ago
Religion really is the ultimate hate-maker. It's supposed to act as a support network, not as a gang!
cybermerlin2000 4 years ago
Now I can't get the image of a bunch of catholic priests driving pass a mosque in a white BMW doing a drive by preaching
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Tracy Sellars 4 years ago
But why were they against the choice? I can think of a multitude of reasons why they could be right to want a different clergy and the same for why they were wrong. More info is really needed.
deanna woods 4 years ago
People that act like this about religion, make all religion look bad.
Billy Haake 3 years ago
"There is just enough religion in the world to make men hate each other, but not enough to make them love each other" - Louis Cypher
Evelyn Haskins 4 years ago
Ummmm. Religion is for bigots, All religions! It is designed to be a "them versus us."
#29
On my first wife my entire family objected, they said I was making a bad choice
They were right, I shouldn't have married her. So happy I divorced her 2 years later...honestly should have divorced her sooner, honestly shouldn't have married her to begin with.
Thank god I had no kids with her.
Don't Look 4 years ago
That last bit, no kids, absolutely makes things so much easier. That was the second question my divorce lawyer asked me.
AnnaBanana 4 years ago
Yep. When I left my ex husband, I was ecstatic that we didn't have kids so I wouldn't have to see his ugly face ever again! From the day I walked out, I haven't clapped eyes on him since.
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Robert Thompson 4 years ago (edited)
Been there. It is not the social norm for a man to identify as the abused partner in a relationship. But when that is the case, it is important to escape to safety.
ShriSha Kamboj 4 years ago
i would say u listened to yourself and lived with your decision.....in ur defense u couldn't have known
Evelyn Haskins 4 years ago
Sorry.. Parents can be incredibly nasty. Possibly it was your wife who left you because your parents were extremely unpleasant to her?? AS far as I am concerned if my child loved the person, then they were welcomed into the family.
#30
My dad objected leading upto my wedding. Even went as far as making a Facebook(he's 60+) and letting a bunch of people know he was against it.
There was no way he could object at the wedding cause he didn't come.
Craig Reynolds 4 years ago
Maybe this info will be helpful to those with questionable family or friends. There are places in the US you can have what is essentially a Quaker wedding where simply declare yourselves married. No officiant is needed. Still need a license though. (California, Colorado, Illinois, Kansas, Maine, Nevada, Pennsylvania) and the District of Columbia.
#31
One wedding I was invited to the bride was a friend from school. As the priest went to the objection part everyone in her side of the family looked at me and this made everyone else look at me too.
I was weirded and later learned that everyone thought I had a crush on her and would be injection to the wedding. She was a friend and I had no romantic feelings for her and I was dating her sister at the time (no one knew). She's still married to him and they have kids so I guess it's a good marriage.
Distant relative's wedding, she was marrying a foreigner and the wedding in her home country was just a formality as she was already legally married. We get to the objection part and some dude screams out and starts sobbing and yelling at the bride on how she was a wh**e for not marrying him.
Turns out the object was an ex she had before moving away, the ex was a piece of s**t abuser who left her to be a movie star but became a drug abuser. He was pissed she was getting married to someone else. Here's the biter her family brought that guy to the wedding knowing this was going to happen.
To those asking and getting all sus, I'm okay I genuinely did not have any romantic feelings for her. It was weird how they all looked at me but i thought I must've carted out loud or was saying what I was thinking.
ShriSha Kamboj 4 years ago (edited)
people cant just go around sabotaging weddings....and this should be common knowledge....not for u..but for the "movie star"
#32
I objected to my sister marrying her second husband six months after her divorce... she told me to f*#! Off. Married him anyway... they now have 3 kids and are happily married
K 4 years ago
Per the reddit thread: "i didnt want her hopping into another marriage so soon..."
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#33
Not at the wedding itself, but in advance. My Unitarian minister initially refused to perform the service because he thought my wife was LDS (she's not), and that she would end up being "only" the first wife in a polygamous arrangement. (Neither one of us believe in polygamy. And not even the LDS do polygamy anymore.)
juice 4 years ago
LDS means Latter-Day Saints, so the minister thought the wife was a Mormon. that being said, i still don't understand this one
Ria C. 4 years ago
The LDS has a branch that still believes in polygamy. There is a whole issue with Warren Jeffs (sp) and his underage grooming to put it politely. There was a show called Escaping Polygamy that some of the higher ups daughters fought against and helped others escape.
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Lady of the Mountains 4 years ago
That's just.....I mean, he assumed she was a member of a church she was not a part if. Andcassumed the church practiced polygamy, and assumed you would become a polygamist....that's a lot of assuming
#34
When I was a kid, I wanted to object at my cousin’s wedding because his bride-to-be was mean. They’re still married 30 years later and she’s still an awful person. Everyone knows he won’t leave because she’d keep his daughters from him.
I’m not going to go into any more detail because it might dox me or my family. I just want to say my family is massive, there’s a s**tton of interpersonal drama and I am not close to this particular branch for more than just my cousin’s wife.
ShriSha Kamboj 4 years ago
being mean to kids is a red flag........even if the kids are annoying:/
#35
When I was like 5 I objected at my cousins wedding. I didn't know what that really meant. I saw it in a clip of a movie... never knew what the movie was...
cybermerlin2000 4 years ago
He said "I object!" The pastor asked "On what grounds young man?" to which he nervously looked at his feet and said "umm" pointed at the floor and replied "This bit of ground here!"
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cybermerlin2000 4 years ago
At my aunts wedding, at the objection part, we all heard my grandad say "Sit the f*ck down and shut the f*ck up!" We all looked and my Nan was sat there, arms crossed and a face that would freeze the deepest pits of hell. Turned out she objected as my aunt was a better cook. Took a few months but they broke the ice when a big surprise party came up and my aunt asked my nan to help her cater for it. They made awesome food together and did so for a few decades. Grandad passed and aunty did the catering for it with nans blessing and aunty had nan move in not long after. My nan left my aunty with a book filled with all the recipes they had done together and a note saying 'The best part of my life was in the kitchen with you. Share these delicacies with the grand children' My Aunt has been married for 34 years now and still with my uncle. My cousin (2nd eldest) in that family loves to cook
Jo Choto 4 years ago
I didn't bother telling my family I got married until after the fact. I knew they would object because he was a person of colour. When I did tell them, they all had a s**t fit and most of them never spoke to me again. Not my problem.
Yoga Kitty 4 years ago
Sounds like a very good decision on your part - just because they are family you do not have to put up with toxic people!
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Effseven Six 4 years ago
So, I know a girl who was supposed to file the marriage papers for her best friend... and never did. Not too long after the "marriage", married friend told her she was getting a divorce.... then was told there was no divorce, because the papers were never filed.... The best friend knew the dude was an a-hole.. she did that girl a solid.
Harri Ellis 4 years ago
My husband and I just decided to get married one day to avoid having his mother there. She was a staunch Southern belle, and still believed everyone should still own slaves. Add to the fact that I was from the North, and therefore a dirty Yankee. She used to tell me every chance she got how many Yankees her grandfather hanged in front of house. Lovely woman whose children despised her beliefs.
Ivana 4 years ago
When my great grandfather married my great grandmother his parents objected because she was a working woman. My great grandmother had become a war time nurse and then continued to be a nurse until she got married. My great great grandparents threatened to disinherit my great grandfather if he married her. They came to an agreement where my great grandparents could keep the farm only if they gave my great great grandparents their first born son. They agreed and that is why my great uncle grew up a mile down the road with his grandparents instead of with everyone else.
ForgotMyPWSendHelp 4 years ago (edited)
That's... kind of messed up. Who would give up their child for land? Also, was the great great grandfather Rumpelstiltskin?
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kim morris 4 years ago
I'm a JP in Ct, I do weddings all the time. And that 'objection' bit isn't in any of the paperwork we use. And I have to say, I've never been to a wedding where it was used. And I'm old. Where is this awful custom still being used? Is it a certain religious sect? A certain state law?
Tim Douglass 4 years ago
It persists in some religious services, but it is a bit of a carry-over from the old custom of posting (or reading) the Banns several weeks before the wedding. The purpose was to let people know the couple was getting married so that if there was a prior marriage (remember, no divorce in general) the new marriage could be stopped. The truth is that only a legitimate, legal objection was to be entertained, although in some cases trying to marry outside of your religion would qualify. In the modern era it's mainly just an anachronism which is intended to indicate by silence that all in attendance are supportive. As a pastor I have never, and will never, include it. I also will not use the "obey" part of the vows.
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Don't Look 4 years ago
I guess most people don't know this but an objection at a wedding is not quite the threat it's perceived to be. When I asked the priest "what happens if someone objects" she said that she and the person go have a quiet conversation elsewhere for a couple minutes and then we proceed.
Miss Frankfurter 4 years ago
My parents had a very quickly put together wedding as my dad was in the military and was being shipped out in less than a week. It was a very small wedding where my dad met his soon to be brother-in-law for the first time in the church office. My mom's little nephew's had to be at the wedding as the wedding dinner was being prepared back at the house and they would be in the way. There were maybe 8 people there. It just echoed in the church. One of the nephew's, just a little guy, could not pronounce my mom's name, so he made up his own for her. Almost empty church, the minister asks for objections. Her little nephew said very loudly "What ya doin' Auntie Dodo?" Everyone broke up laughing.
Yoga Kitty 4 years ago
Why does anybody have this stupid text in their ceremony? If there is a real, important reason to object, do it before everything is arranged and the wedding is already in progress - if you want to be petty, funny, dislike or want to declare your everlasting love for either bride or groom just STFU. Thank you very much.
Calyfan Yelood 4 years ago (edited)
I wholeheartedly agree. I think it acts as more of a reminder to the attendees that they shouldn't object (unless abuse) to the marriage after it is already done.
Load More Replies... Just saying 4 years ago
Some context. In the UK, Weddings conducted in church are legal ceremonies. The celebrant is acting as an officer of the crown. The wedding certificate is a legal document signed (until very recently) physically in the church during the ceremony. As such, this question must be asked publically of the congregation and the couple before the marriage takes place. The correct wording is 'If anyone here knows a reason IN LAW why this man and this woman should not be wed, you are to declare it now'. The only reasons acceptable are legal ones, and if made the whole ceremony has to stop while the objection is investigated. To prevent this happening on the day, Banns are read at each of the couple's home churches and also at the church they are to be wed in each of the three Sundays prior to the wedding. This gives a chance for anyone in the local community to go 'hang on a moment', before the big day happens (a bit redundant now since we all live in towns and don't know our neighbours)
cybermerlin2000 4 years ago
At my aunts wedding, at the objection part, we all heard my grandad say "Sit the f*ck down and shut the f*ck up!" We all looked and my Nan was sat there, arms crossed and a face that would freeze the deepest pits of hell. Turned out she objected as my aunt was a better cook. Took a few months but they broke the ice when a big surprise party came up and my aunt asked my nan to help her cater for it. They made awesome food together and did so for a few decades. Grandad passed and aunty did the catering for it with nans blessing and aunty had nan move in not long after. My nan left my aunty with a book filled with all the recipes they had done together and a note saying 'The best part of my life was in the kitchen with you. Share these delicacies with the grand children' My Aunt has been married for 34 years now and still with my uncle. My cousin (2nd eldest) in that family loves to cook
Jo Choto 4 years ago
I didn't bother telling my family I got married until after the fact. I knew they would object because he was a person of colour. When I did tell them, they all had a s**t fit and most of them never spoke to me again. Not my problem.
Yoga Kitty 4 years ago
Sounds like a very good decision on your part - just because they are family you do not have to put up with toxic people!
Load More Replies... Effseven Six 4 years ago
So, I know a girl who was supposed to file the marriage papers for her best friend... and never did. Not too long after the "marriage", married friend told her she was getting a divorce.... then was told there was no divorce, because the papers were never filed.... The best friend knew the dude was an a-hole.. she did that girl a solid.
Harri Ellis 4 years ago
My husband and I just decided to get married one day to avoid having his mother there. She was a staunch Southern belle, and still believed everyone should still own slaves. Add to the fact that I was from the North, and therefore a dirty Yankee. She used to tell me every chance she got how many Yankees her grandfather hanged in front of house. Lovely woman whose children despised her beliefs.
Ivana 4 years ago
When my great grandfather married my great grandmother his parents objected because she was a working woman. My great grandmother had become a war time nurse and then continued to be a nurse until she got married. My great great grandparents threatened to disinherit my great grandfather if he married her. They came to an agreement where my great grandparents could keep the farm only if they gave my great great grandparents their first born son. They agreed and that is why my great uncle grew up a mile down the road with his grandparents instead of with everyone else.
ForgotMyPWSendHelp 4 years ago (edited)
That's... kind of messed up. Who would give up their child for land? Also, was the great great grandfather Rumpelstiltskin?
Load More Replies... kim morris 4 years ago
I'm a JP in Ct, I do weddings all the time. And that 'objection' bit isn't in any of the paperwork we use. And I have to say, I've never been to a wedding where it was used. And I'm old. Where is this awful custom still being used? Is it a certain religious sect? A certain state law?
Tim Douglass 4 years ago
It persists in some religious services, but it is a bit of a carry-over from the old custom of posting (or reading) the Banns several weeks before the wedding. The purpose was to let people know the couple was getting married so that if there was a prior marriage (remember, no divorce in general) the new marriage could be stopped. The truth is that only a legitimate, legal objection was to be entertained, although in some cases trying to marry outside of your religion would qualify. In the modern era it's mainly just an anachronism which is intended to indicate by silence that all in attendance are supportive. As a pastor I have never, and will never, include it. I also will not use the "obey" part of the vows.
Load More Replies... Don't Look 4 years ago
I guess most people don't know this but an objection at a wedding is not quite the threat it's perceived to be. When I asked the priest "what happens if someone objects" she said that she and the person go have a quiet conversation elsewhere for a couple minutes and then we proceed.
Miss Frankfurter 4 years ago
My parents had a very quickly put together wedding as my dad was in the military and was being shipped out in less than a week. It was a very small wedding where my dad met his soon to be brother-in-law for the first time in the church office. My mom's little nephew's had to be at the wedding as the wedding dinner was being prepared back at the house and they would be in the way. There were maybe 8 people there. It just echoed in the church. One of the nephew's, just a little guy, could not pronounce my mom's name, so he made up his own for her. Almost empty church, the minister asks for objections. Her little nephew said very loudly "What ya doin' Auntie Dodo?" Everyone broke up laughing.
Yoga Kitty 4 years ago
Why does anybody have this stupid text in their ceremony? If there is a real, important reason to object, do it before everything is arranged and the wedding is already in progress - if you want to be petty, funny, dislike or want to declare your everlasting love for either bride or groom just STFU. Thank you very much.
Calyfan Yelood 4 years ago (edited)
I wholeheartedly agree. I think it acts as more of a reminder to the attendees that they shouldn't object (unless abuse) to the marriage after it is already done.
Load More Replies... Just saying 4 years ago
Some context. In the UK, Weddings conducted in church are legal ceremonies. The celebrant is acting as an officer of the crown. The wedding certificate is a legal document signed (until very recently) physically in the church during the ceremony. As such, this question must be asked publically of the congregation and the couple before the marriage takes place. The correct wording is 'If anyone here knows a reason IN LAW why this man and this woman should not be wed, you are to declare it now'. The only reasons acceptable are legal ones, and if made the whole ceremony has to stop while the objection is investigated. To prevent this happening on the day, Banns are read at each of the couple's home churches and also at the church they are to be wed in each of the three Sundays prior to the wedding. This gives a chance for anyone in the local community to go 'hang on a moment', before the big day happens (a bit redundant now since we all live in towns and don't know our neighbours)
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