Even though a wedding is typically one of the happiest moments in a couple’s life, it’s also a time when, due to stress, tensions might run high, too.
That’s likely one of the reasons behind the fight this redditor had with her friend during the latter’s wedding. The bride went off the deep end when she saw the dress the OP arrived in, which was the same outfit she wore to her own wedding. Soon enough, a fight broke out, leaving the redditor wondering if she was a jerk in the situation.
Unless specified otherwise, people are often expected to follow certain unwritten rules regarding wedding attire
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This redditor got into a huge fight with her friend over the dress she wore to the friend’s wedding
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Some colors are considered off limits during weddings
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A wedding is an excellent occasion to dress up, which might require airing out something that’s been hanging in the closet for months, if not years. But while some people enjoy trying to come up with the best outfit, others might find it as fun as a headache, especially considering the limitations that come with the occasion in regards to the attire.
One of the most common ones is, of course, not wearing white. New York-based stylist Anny Choi told Vogue that it’s a no-go, “unless the invite calls for it”. She added that the same goes for cream, ivory, beige, and similar off-white shades, suggesting that it’s better to play it safe as not all brides go for a pearl white dress. “What a bride looks like today varies and can be so different,” Choi pointed out.
A fellow expert, stylist Micaela Erlanger, emphasized that bright colors should be avoided, too, unless specified otherwise. “Unless it is a wild disco party, avoid colors that really stand out,” she told Vogue. “Avoid neons, avoid red, avoid anything that’s super loud. Unless, of course, your friend’s getting married at a rave.”
In some countries, traditional bridal clothing includes bright colors and intricate patterns
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In some countries, though, a pop of color is not only acceptable, but expected, too. In quite a few places around the world, the bride, or both of the soon-to-be-wed, choose colorful clothing for their big day.
BRIDES magazine pointed out that in China, for instance, brides often opt for red, as it symbolizes luck, happiness, and joy. Happy couples in Morocco and India also tend to wear something rather vibrant and colorful, typically adorned in intricate detail, too. In Peru, where celebrations usually take place for two days, the traditional bridal clothing entails bright colors and geometric patterns, as well as all sorts of decorative elements.
Even in the western world, where brides typically choose white as their go-to option, they might stick to the tradition of bearing something blue on the big day. Originating from the late 19th-century rhyme—”Something old, something new, something borrowed, something blue, and a sixpence in her shoe”—it encourages brides to add a blue detail, as the color reportedly symbolizes love, purity, and fidelity.
Whether or not Ciara had something blue on her during the wedding, she didn’t appreciate the OP wearing a blue sequin dress; but not because of its color. The bride was upset over the fact that the redditor chose a dress she wore to her own wedding, a decision that seemingly split the internet community into camps about it.
Some netizens didn’t think the OP was in the wrong here
Others sided with the redditor’s friend
Why would anyone say YTA? Everything's expensive these days. If this woman has a quality dress that fits the parameters of the occasion, there's no reason for her to waste money on another. This seems more like a power move on Bride's part to force her friend to spend money she doesn't have and then shame her when she didn't.
Imagine ruining a friendship because of the clothes someone's wearing. Beyond ridiculous.
Load More Replies...TIL I am apparently an AH according to some people for wearing my pretty black dress, that I happen to wear on my wedding day more than once and also to other weddings 🤣 - but I do always ask the bride in advance if it's ok if your friendly goth shows up dressed in black at her wedding
If you don't approve of what I'm wearing, then I'll leave, problem solved, nice knowing you.
I approve of what you're wearing, Jan. *low-hugs*
Load More Replies...Why would anyone say YTA? Everything's expensive these days. If this woman has a quality dress that fits the parameters of the occasion, there's no reason for her to waste money on another. This seems more like a power move on Bride's part to force her friend to spend money she doesn't have and then shame her when she didn't.
Imagine ruining a friendship because of the clothes someone's wearing. Beyond ridiculous.
Load More Replies...TIL I am apparently an AH according to some people for wearing my pretty black dress, that I happen to wear on my wedding day more than once and also to other weddings 🤣 - but I do always ask the bride in advance if it's ok if your friendly goth shows up dressed in black at her wedding
If you don't approve of what I'm wearing, then I'll leave, problem solved, nice knowing you.
I approve of what you're wearing, Jan. *low-hugs*
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