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Here Are 10 Psychology Tricks Shared By This Mental Health Coach To Use In Everyday Interactions
Psychology is a great discipline all around. Even if you don’t plan on being a psychologist, you’re bound to partake in this thing called socializing, so knowing how to properly talk to people, read their body language or to just know how to properly present yourself and make a good impression is always a nice thing.
TikToker and mental health coach Karissa Wampler has not too long ago shared 10 ways you can use psychology to your advantage when talking to people. This includes everything from ‘forcing’ someone into finishing a conversation to making them stop staring at you to increasing your chances of getting a positive response regarding an idea you’re pitching.
Wampler’s list of videos is neatly divided into 10 days, which you can find transcribed below. Vote and comment on the psychology tricks you enjoyed the most, and why not let us know some of your psychological tricks in the comment section at the bottom!
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#1
“If somebody is ever staring at you in public, don’t acknowledge them, but look straight at their shoes and don’t look away. Without even acknowledging them, you will make them so uncomfortable and concerned with what’s wrong with their shoes they will either turn away from you or walk away completely.”
AlmightyOne 4 years ago (edited)
I like to just give them the dead-eyes stare, where I gaze at them without blinking until they look away
Wubaluba Dubdub 4 years ago
This only works for females probably. Most men like me own the AJ's so I don't think I'd feel uncomfortable when someone stares at my shoes 🤣
Brie Sansotta 4 years ago
I stare at the hair on the top of their head until they stop staring at me. I don't feel embarrassed by looking directly at their eyes, but they aren't sure...
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#2
“Want to throw someone off? Next time somebody is trying to manipulate you, look at their forehead mid-conversation. It makes the subconscious incredibly uncomfortable. Switch between looking at their eyes and their forehead. They’ll either end the conversation completely, or lose their train of thought.”
kennedy1209 4 years ago
this one works - My wife does it to me all the time (not on purpose - just a habit) and it still throws me off when she does it.
Cassie 4 years ago
I've done this with my dad when he's saying something offensive and he generally awkwardly fumbles a bit and then ends the conversation. I didn't do it to flummox him, I just do it naturally when I'm uncomfortable, but it does work on him.
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Night Owl 4 years ago
i hope it works on Scientologists, Evangelicals and Jehovah's Witnesses too
Viviane 4 years ago (edited)
Jehovah's Witnesses who come to my door are really easy to turn away. I say, "Thank you, but I ready have my own spiritual beliefs." Some look relieved. They all depart without an argument.
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Laura Pantazis 4 years ago
My 8th grade English teacher said if you're uncomfy looking at eyes, look at the person's forehead because it's hard to tell the difference. Apparently not, lol
Margareta Hagman 4 years ago
mhm use manipulation on manipulation, how about just being yourself
Quinten_Atwell 4 years ago
If I remember my psychology undergrad correctly; the triangle between a person's inner eyebrows and the centre of their forehead is where you stare at to assert a look of aggression - the Power gaze. On the flip side, between the inner eyebrows and the tip of their nose asserts non-aggression. At least that's what my professor taught me.
Pudgy Panda 4 years ago
My whole class did this to an obnoxious teacher years ago. You could see him getting uncomfortable at first and after several days of this, he finally lost it and went into a full-on melt down, screaming at us “What exactly are you all staring at?”.
third molar 4 years ago
I glaze out. Look like i am listening intently but my mind will probably replaying a star trek episode. Worked for many years!!
#3
“A tactic used in business, sales, and law that has probably been used on you. If you are pitching an idea or delivering an argument that you want someone else to accept, nod subtly while you deliver your main points. Mirroring is a natural human behavior. People will naturally nod along with you, making them more likely to agree with you, and give you an affirmative answer.”
Andrew Gibb 4 years ago
this doesn't work in India where a head shake means yes and a nod means no
#4
“Next time you meet someone and you want to make a good impression, try this: as the conversation starts, pay attention to their eye color. Not only will this ease some anxiety that you might have surrounding the conversation, it will naturally lead you to hold eye contact longer and give you something to remember about this person.”
Roberto Durante 4 years ago
love blue eyes, green eyes and to be honest every colour have his charm
#5
“If you want people to trust you, be open and honest about your minor mistakes. The times that you do really stupid stuff, like wear your shirt backwards. People who we see as perfect threaten and intimidate us. So, when you are open about these small details, it helps others to see that you are a safe, honest person that they can share their imperfections with. It sends the subconscious message that you are safe and trustworthy, and they can be real with you.”
elStiJneriNO 4 years ago (edited)
be honest about the minor mistakes so they trust you, now you can lie and deny about the big mistakes. clever
Joanna Carmel 4 years ago
I grew up doing this, but it stopped working when I moved to Boston. I don't know what's wrong with people here.
SlartyBlartFast 4 years ago
If you want people to like you, pay them compliments but when talking to other people (mutual acquaintances). Actually being nice is always better!
#6
“You actually have to be very careful how you talk about people who aren’t in the room when you’re with friends. And here’s why. It might seem harmless to talk poorly about people because they’ll never know, but you’re actually sending the subconscious message to your friends that you’ll talk poorly about them when they are not with you. So, be careful that you don’t sabotage yourself to make conversation.”
kennedy1209 4 years ago
this is so true. Not just friends - in all parts of your life - neighbors, business etc.
Danjal Jannik TIndholm 4 years ago
So, if I had an unreasonable customer at work I should ... just ... yell into the air? Nope. Gotta talk to someone about it.
Fluffy Griffin 4 years ago
This is also true when hiring... The contractor we interviewed at one point mentioned a difficult customer (and talked bad about her). Turns out he was an irresponsible contractor. 😕
Wally-Tonya Czyż 4 years ago
If they're in fact friends, why would you talk about them in a manner which would offend?
Viviane 4 years ago (edited)
I ended a long friendship last year. There were a number of factors (I moved away and changed a lot), but listening to how they discussed others didn't help. I have no issue with complaining about specific bad behaviour -- I'll probably commiserate. Saying, "We don't have that much in common" or "They're into XYZ and I'm more into ABC" acknowledges differences. Using vague adjectives ("shallow", "annoying") to put down others might tell me more about the speaker than their targets. Especially true if the speaker uses the same adjective to describe a lot of people!
#7
“Next time you’re stuck in a conversation you don’t want to be having, here’s what you’re going to do: instead of making up a lame excuse or just walking away, you can actually use psychology to make them end the conversation for you. While you’re talking, switch among looking at the left and right eyes and the forehead. Looking at the forehead makes the subconscious incredibly uncomfortable, which will lead people to believe that they need to exit the conversation. And you don’t have to say anything.”
Alloydog 4 years ago
I can relax my eyes, making it look like I'm looking into _both_ eyes at the same time. Really freaks out some people. Can end conversations really fast! :D
Angela Coker 4 years ago
And it lets you see those "hidden object" pictures easily.
Load More Replies... Night Owl 4 years ago (edited)
Kind of related: I had a friend in high school with an eye condition that made her unable to look with both eyes in the same direction at the same time. I remember talking to her once while standing very close and switching between looking at her right and her left eye because I wasn't sure on which eye to concentrate on (I didn't want to make her nervous or anything like that, though)
Smelli Mel 4 years ago
This looking at the forehead thing is really interesting. Really keen to give it a go.
#8
“Next time someone tells you something that you’re already aware of, do everything you can to refrain from saying ‘I know.’ Not only does it devalue what they are saying, but it can trigger a defense response. To avoid that altogether, simply replace it with ‘you’re right.’”
Baali Venomax 4 years ago
what if they follow that up with: course I'm right, I'm always right. You'd know that if you listened more? then can I tune them out?
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Thorfin Wolfsbane 4 years ago
This might be better than saying "reeeeeaaaalllly!?" in a scooby doo voice
Anyone-for-tea? 4 years ago
Isn’t this a tricky one, as if someone is retelling me a long story that they’ve already told me, I’m not sure I want to hear it again? Or if someone is explaining something to me without checking if I know whatever it is already, I need a way out of being patronised/mansplained to.
Viviane 4 years ago
Depending on the person, situation, etc., here are a few ideas: "I remember that story! Really cool! I had a similar situation where -- " and then start your own story; "Before you continue, I want to make sure I'll be able to follow what you're saying - this is what I know about topic X" and then display your own knowledge.
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Kimberley McMillan 4 years ago
Yeah... no I'm not about to validate someone who is condescending.
Marvin HoG 4 years ago
What if it's your spouse and they are telling you something they saw on the news while you're sitting right next to him clearly watching the same news??
Sharrow 4 years ago
That would be really annoying, I hope it doesn't become a trend. Whenever I am debriefing a person on something, I try to start from the basics, with an expectation that the person will inform me if they already posses that knowledge. Otherwise, the person might be too insecure to ask for clarification early on, leading to misunderstanding and need to go back to start. Now, if they tell me "you're right", how am I supposed to know weather I can skip that part or they're just being polite?
#9
“Next time somebody is upset with you, and they are going to get aggressive, but you want them to go a little easier on you, position yourself directly next to them. It’s been proven that confrontation is much more difficult when you are in such close proximity, so sit next to your angry boss, or mom.”
Bender Bending Rodríguez 4 years ago
How does one sit right next to boss? Am I suppose to move chair from one side of table to the side where boss's chair is?
Amy Dodds 4 years ago
I think it's best applied in the case of meetings. So you would sit next to the person you know is going to give you grief
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I am avoiding my homework 4 years ago
I do not want to be that close to my sister when she is mad
Anyone-for-tea? 4 years ago
Not sure this is a good idea to position yourself within someone’s “fighting arc”. I don’t want to get hit!
Joanna Carmel 4 years ago
This "psychology coach" has definitely never worked with an inpatient population.
Baali Venomax 4 years ago
then they will simply alter their position until you're facing them again, so this could turn into a weird dance off
#10
“If you want to achieve a super lofty goal, put it down on paper! (I like to write mine in the self journal). As soon as you physically put it down on paper, you are 43% more likely to achieve it.”
Hans 4 years ago
Write down today: "I will not listen to unsubstantiated advice onTikTok again."
Bella Jones 4 years ago
I like this one. I've just written down 2 goals I really want to achieve.
Colleen Hindson 4 years ago
These are interesting. But I find her eye makeup distracting. To me, someone who needs this much makeup to feel attractive is a bit insecure.
TunaCan Cat 4 years ago
NOPE. This gives me flashbacks to my office intern days and all the PAPER STICKY NOTES with things to be done that nobody did. sticky-not...693603.jpg 
Roberto Durante 4 years ago
on the safe screen of your laptop as visualisation everyday you open it
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What do you think ?
Hans 4 years ago (edited)
a) Never trust psychological advice if no sources to scientific articles or at least contemporary textbooks are given. The field is vast and complex and too many people seem to believe they understand psychology. b) Be aware that Karissa Wampler is an influencer, who normally would be frowned upon on BP. One of her Youtube videos is "TIKTOK /INSTAGRAM GROWTH HACKS". You can do good and get attention at the same time, no question, but if I am not sure what it is about, I will always suspect attention as the goal. As a side note, I do not find any hints to qualification or at least references on her Web site. What does all of that mean? Not necessarily much, but keep being critical to content on social media, folks!
WilvanderHeijden 4 years ago
An influenza on Tiktok doesn't qualify as "expert". Could BP stop giving those idiots with their "life hacks" any further attention?
Commander Rex 4 years ago
Yeah this post is pretty much entirely bull. Don’t talk about stuff you don’t know about.
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Beeps 4 years ago
Just keep looking at her forehead, it will make her go away.
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Al Christensen 4 years ago
Another psychology hack: If you want to appear credible, lay off the photo filters.
Shelby P 4 years ago
Is anybody else completely distracted by her disappearing/reappearing freckles?
HooowlAtTheMoon 4 years ago (edited)
They're in every one of those above pictures, but they look way different in all of them. They're probably makeup
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Pauline Forrester 4 years ago
Jezzz you lot are such a bore..!! Criticising everything...Its just a bit of fun for goodness sake...I for one will be trying a few out to see if they work...Unlike you lot, I won't be having a hissy fit if they don't.
Hans 4 years ago (edited)
a) Never trust psychological advice if no sources to scientific articles or at least contemporary textbooks are given. The field is vast and complex and too many people seem to believe they understand psychology. b) Be aware that Karissa Wampler is an influencer, who normally would be frowned upon on BP. One of her Youtube videos is "TIKTOK /INSTAGRAM GROWTH HACKS". You can do good and get attention at the same time, no question, but if I am not sure what it is about, I will always suspect attention as the goal. As a side note, I do not find any hints to qualification or at least references on her Web site. What does all of that mean? Not necessarily much, but keep being critical to content on social media, folks!
WilvanderHeijden 4 years ago
An influenza on Tiktok doesn't qualify as "expert". Could BP stop giving those idiots with their "life hacks" any further attention?
Commander Rex 4 years ago
Yeah this post is pretty much entirely bull. Don’t talk about stuff you don’t know about.
Load More Replies... Beeps 4 years ago
Just keep looking at her forehead, it will make her go away.
Load More Replies... Al Christensen 4 years ago
Another psychology hack: If you want to appear credible, lay off the photo filters.
Shelby P 4 years ago
Is anybody else completely distracted by her disappearing/reappearing freckles?
HooowlAtTheMoon 4 years ago (edited)
They're in every one of those above pictures, but they look way different in all of them. They're probably makeup
Load More Replies... Pauline Forrester 4 years ago
Jezzz you lot are such a bore..!! Criticising everything...Its just a bit of fun for goodness sake...I for one will be trying a few out to see if they work...Unlike you lot, I won't be having a hissy fit if they don't.
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