Kinda wild that we’re in the year 2024 and yet parents think they have power over the reproductive organs of their married 28-year-old offspring.

My partner and I planned on and intentionally waited 3 years into our marriage to start trying for a baby. The amount of times my mother asked if I was pregnant, the number of times THEIR parents asked us "When?". It didn't matter how often we said we were waiting. Baby, baby, baby! I don't blame OP for losing their shlt. Oh and it won't stop once they finally have one either. The nearest they can get to the birthing room will be the first time they start talking/asking about "The next one".

My daughter’s FIL told her to quit nursing school and start having babies. She didn’t quit and now has her dream job being a labor/delivery nurse. She has 3 children now and the in laws live to post any/everything the grandkids do on Facebook. Sick.

It is literally no-one's business but yours as to when you start your family. I never told any family members when my husband and I decided to start a family. They were informed after my three month point. MYOB. (Mind your own business.)

I'm childless. I find friends and family with children are happy to let me play grandma even if the kids already have a full set of grands. You don't need your children to have kids to get the grandparent experience.

If the in-laws want babies so badly, why don't they have one, then!

This is YOUR time, live it how you wish. Be happy, enjoy yourselves. "If" or when you are ready you will know it. It's not their business nor their right to interfere or dictate. That boat sailed when your wife turned 18.

Esh. Sure, tell them no and to mind their own business. But no to continuing to berate them after you made your point and your wife told you to drop it. Btw, this arrangement isn’t that uncommon for wealthier families. My cousin promised to pay all the daycare and provide a college fund for any grandchildren. Now she has four and paid up without hesitation.

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OP's response was spot on! Sometimes you have to be really blunt and explain stuff to people in words they can understand.

My mother was 19 when she was married & had me. When I turned 19, I was single & temporarily staying w/my parents while looking for a new place to live in a new state. My mother started asking me when I’d give her grandkids. I asked her if she would prefer I married 1st & then had kids, or did she not care if I went out of order from what I thought was best for me. Fast forward to the year I’m 21. I had married & 1 month into my marriage found out I was 2 weeks pregnant. I called my mother & she just wept & gnashed that we weren’t in a place to have kids & what were we thinking? She did this same song & dance every pregnancy . The 2nd ended in miscarriage & she practically danced for joy that I wouldn’t be bringing a 2nd child into the world. My 3rd was born 6 years after the first & I found out I was pregnant 1 month before my now ex husband came home to announce he had a girlfriend & I’d just have to deal with it. She was not supportive any pregnancy.

GenX here...you don't get to demand grandchildren. Would I love it if my daughter had a child? Yes...but only if she's physically, emotionally, and economically ready to be a parent. She didn't choose to be born; I chose to have her. She gets to make those decisions for herself, and I support her in whatever decisions she makes.

i had a friend who honestly never wanted (and never had) kids. her parents were relentless about her getting married and having babies. she wanted a career, not babies, and not marriage. nothing wrong with that at all and she had my full support. finally at a family get together they brought it up yet again and her response was "I had originally wanted to wait at least 2 years before starting any of that. every time you have asked me, i have added a year so you are currently looking at a 20 year wait time. would you like me to add another year?" eventually they gave up on her ever getting married and having kids. she is now traveling and living her best life.

Saying they won't back off is a cop out, You need to tell them once and for all your stance on that, and tell them you either respect our boundaries. Or we're going low to no contact. Do you understand me? You bring this up again you disrespect my boundaries and you are done..