Fr he is probably cheating

Pulling a Hollywood confession the night before his wedding was an honest move and he knows she still loves him. The AH move of him inviting her could be interpreted as an olive branch. He should have let an awkward pause after she said she was dining alone and then tell her he hoped she enjoyed her meal. Wife was completely in the right to leave. His birthday, his family, his friends, his dinner, his invite. His mistake.

Ever heard of social media? She is probably stalking him

Or she might be stalking him. If one can leave a 6 year of relation for a crush then idk? They've been friends for such a long time, I'm sure she knows his fav restaurant and follows him there. Or she might have asked his other friends that are invited

They where having dinner with family and friends. I don't think that he can easily just follow his wife, just because she leaves. It's his fault for inviting the woman to have dinner with them. Sure. But I also think, that people can be dellusional about the feelings others have for them. He came to his now wife, when this woman confessed her love for him. So why should he be the one who's cheating.

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she might have just seen it on social media.

On the other hand, the woman set a very reasonable boundary. She doesn’t have to stay somewhere and feel awful because her husband decided her boundaries didn’t matter

if everyone is acting in good faith, sure, but his behaviour suggests otherwise imo. it's a great way to manipulate people and move the goalposts, to agree to something and then go back on it for a reason like "it's been a long time" without the courtesy of a conversation

Or Ava could've rejected the offer in the first place. She knows the couple is awkward around her and she still accepted the offer.

He invited the girl who tried to ruin their relationship to celebrate his bday with her. Sorry this whole story is ridiculous. "Ava" betrayed the OP's trust by stabbing her back and tried to ruin her marriage, why should she have to deal with it share her husband's birthday with her?? So because it's husband birthday she should stay quiet ? Wtf. He did wrong and couldn't care less because they had celebration even if the wife was gone. For me this is a big red flag.

I agree, what OP did, 1000%. I am, a 62 year old man, and throughout my life, I dated 29 different women. I am, dating my 29th gf, at this time, and she is such a blessing. We both know about red flags, whether it's in a friendship, or in a dating relationship. What happened, at the restaurant, during her husband's 30th birthday is a three red flags, in a row. The first one, is Ava walking in the restaurants door. The second, red flag is Ava coming to the exact same table OT, and NT we're sitting at. And the third, and MAJOR RED FLAG, is NT, inviting Ava to join them. NT, may have uninvited Ava to the wedding, but I strongly suspect, that NT, shared the same strong feelings, towards Ava. I was only engaged three times. So, I am unsure if after being married for five months, qualifies, for a divorce, or it's still only an annulment. Either way, OT, needs someone, way much better than NT.

I would not have waited till after dinner. I would have cleaned off a spot right then and there and thrown a fit. I would have nailed him to the wall and heard right next to him Imperial and I would have embarrassed them both in front of our dinner party. I would not have raised my voice, I would have made it sound very pleasant and conversational, but they would both know that I'm ready to rain destruction down upon them.

If it was me, i'd stay just to observe them together..

No way. That would show approval of the arrangement. I would have probably done the same thing, and if he hadn't followed me out immediately, I would have not been home when he got there.

Nah. After giving him the look and him not giving af, she had every right to do what she did. Now had he gotten up and asked her to talk about it and she still left then maybe. But dude didn’t, so….

So it's okay because of the occasion? The way her husband sound.. if she waited until later he would be upset because she didn't say something prior and probably look at her as being fake. I'm not giving the impression everything is okay when it's not! Staying and acting like everything is normal gives him and her both the wrong thoughts about the situation.

Id probably do the same, stay and talk about it later.

Thank you for seemingly being the only adult in this room. You're right, OP made it about herself and her reaction was immature. What he did was reasonable, polite, and may have been designed to avoid "a scene" in front of his family and friends. As is far too often the case these days, everyone else commenting is jumping to negative conclusions about his motives. Of course, we all know what they say about people who assume.