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Female Employees Have Had Enough Of Planning Secret Santa, All Refuse To Participate This Year

Female Employees Have Had Enough Of Planning Secret Santa, All Refuse To Participate This Year

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It’s a strange world we live in. How else could you explain why people give celebrations a “gender”? Oddly enough, our society is so steeped in stereotypes that even a trivial team-building activity at work can get labeled as a “woman’s job.”

These female coworkers refused to take it anymore after being expected to put in extra labor to organize Secret Santa in their male-dominated field—every year. Their boss was taken aback by their refusal, and instead of asking male colleagues to do it, he just decided to cancel it altogether!

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Weirdly, the whole world is developing quickly, yet gender stereotypes still prevail in our day-to-day lives

Image credits: Christina Morillo / Pexels (not the actual photo)

The poster works in a male-dominated field where she and another woman are the only female workers in a team of 15

Image credits: Throuwuawayy

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Image credits: cookie_studio / Freepik (not the actual photo)

Unfairly, every year, the responsibility of organizing Secret Santa falls on these two just because they are women, so they refused to do so this year

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Image credits: Throuwuawayy

Image credits: fauxels / Pexels (not the actual photo)

Their boss was so shocked when they didn’t “volunteer” for it that he even singled the poster out, but she politely declined

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Image credits: Throuwuawayy

Instead of asking any of the men to arrange it, the boss straightaway canceled Secret Santa after the two women refused

Today, we dive into another workplace story where you will see the blatant gender discrimination that the original poster (OP) faced. She works in a male-dominated field with just one other female coworker in a team of 15, and organizing Secret Santa silently fell on their shoulders every year, even when it wasn’t in their job description.

Sadly, about four in ten working women (42%) in the United States say they have faced discrimination on the job because of their gender. The poster and her female coworker are part of this group, as they were expected to “volunteer” their extra labor without pay, reminding the men about their recipients while the men asked their wives to buy the Secret Santa gifts. 

To gain a deeper understanding of gender discrimination and stereotypes in the workplace, Bored Panda interviewed Apoorva Kale, an industrial and organizational psychology practitioner. 

She narrated that when additional tasks unrelated to the job fall upon marginalized groups or women, it can reinforce stereotypical views leading to assumptions that other groups are more competent and are making real contributions. As per her, these women might be perceived by others as not important or authoritative in the organization, undermining their professional credibility.

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“This will affect their morale and workplace engagement, resulting in withdrawal,  doubting their competency, lack of trust towards their leadership team, low self-esteem, and low work satisfaction. When employees feel less valued and deal with unfair responsibility distribution, job satisfaction will decline dramatically as a result of decreased motivation.”

“Being assigned disproportionate responsibilities, employees will feel a sense of dissatisfaction, frustration, and lost sense of professionalism, this will also lead employees to resign and look for jobs with respect, appreciation, and equality, increasing the turnover rates,” Apoorva added.

Image credits: Aminaashfaq / Freepik (not the actual photo)

The poster and her female colleague were also fed up with this additional, unpaid task, already burned out by their work. They finally decided to take action and didn’t raise their hands when their boss asked who wanted to participate in Secret Santa this year. Well, this surprised him, so he singled out the OP, but she politely declined.

Now, this man completely ignored the men who had raised their hands and declared, “I guess we are passing on Secret Santa this year.” When the story went viral, folks were simply baffled by the boss not even thinking of asking the other men to do it, calling out his discriminatory behavior.

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Apoorva explained that when informal responsibilities like event planning are dumped on women as compared to their male counterparts, there’s a shift in the team dynamics as well, which might impact the work environment. The poster’s decision to stop being forced into organizing the event seems like an amazing decision, and many women applauded her.

We also spoke to Apoorva about how organizations can ensure that non-job-related tasks, like event planning, are distributed equitably, rather than defaulting to gendered expectations. She said that to avoid any gender-related disparities, the organizations should promote inclusivity, fairness, and transparency, which can be addressed by creating guidelines.

“These guidelines should define how non-job-related tasks should be assigned based on interest, skill set, and availability, encourage participation by all the employees of the organization by providing rotating volunteering schedules to avoid any implicit bias, check in with the teams regularly and track what tasks are being completed to avoid unfair distribution of responsibilities,” Apoorva advised.

Well, that does sound like a wonderful solution, which might help organizations navigate these events without making women feel discriminated against. Wouldn’t you agree? Have you ever experienced something similar at work? Feel free to narrate your stories in the comments below.

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Netizens didn’t hesitate to call out the gender bias at the poster’s workplace and her discriminatory boss

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Hey, am Rutuja! A storyteller at heart and a writer at Bored Panda. I have a strange love for words, and I mostly survive on coffee which is the driving force behind my writing. I enjoy working on articles that purely entertain our readers. When am not writing or trekking, you can find me staying up late and watching all the matches of Football Club Barcelona!

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Rutuja Dumbre

Rutuja Dumbre

Writer, BoredPanda staff

Hey, am Rutuja! A storyteller at heart and a writer at Bored Panda. I have a strange love for words, and I mostly survive on coffee which is the driving force behind my writing. I enjoy working on articles that purely entertain our readers. When am not writing or trekking, you can find me staying up late and watching all the matches of Football Club Barcelona!

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I am a visual editor here. In my free time I enjoy the vibrant worlds of art galleries, exhibitions, and soulful concerts. Yet, amidst life's hustle and bustle, I find solace in nature's embrace, cherishing tranquil moments with beloved friends. Deep within, I hold a dream close - to embark on a global journey in an RV, accompanied by my faithful canine companion. Together, we'll wander through diverse cultures, weaving precious memories under the starry night sky, fulfilling the wanderlust that stirs my soul.

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Monika Pašukonytė

Monika Pašukonytė

Author, BoredPanda staff

I am a visual editor here. In my free time I enjoy the vibrant worlds of art galleries, exhibitions, and soulful concerts. Yet, amidst life's hustle and bustle, I find solace in nature's embrace, cherishing tranquil moments with beloved friends. Deep within, I hold a dream close - to embark on a global journey in an RV, accompanied by my faithful canine companion. Together, we'll wander through diverse cultures, weaving precious memories under the starry night sky, fulfilling the wanderlust that stirs my soul.

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Fabulous chocolate cookie
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20 hours ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

What surprised me the most is how people reported the reddit post, causing the reddit helpline to message the author. Doesn't reddit only do that when someone wants to unalive themselves?

Nina
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20 hours ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

It is indeed meant for people who seem to be in need of help, but unfortunately sometimes gets abused by trolls.

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Do-nut touch da donut
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16 hours ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Not a fan of secret santa... i much prefer white elephant/dirty santa... less strict and much more fun amongst friends

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Fabulous chocolate cookie
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20 hours ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

What surprised me the most is how people reported the reddit post, causing the reddit helpline to message the author. Doesn't reddit only do that when someone wants to unalive themselves?

Nina
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20 hours ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

It is indeed meant for people who seem to be in need of help, but unfortunately sometimes gets abused by trolls.

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Do-nut touch da donut
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16 hours ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Not a fan of secret santa... i much prefer white elephant/dirty santa... less strict and much more fun amongst friends

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