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When I was raped, I felt like my world was shattering. I felt completely alone, scared and confused. There was a moment that my rapist told me to stop fighting. It was no good. It was already happening, whether I wanted it to or not. This was the moment that I froze, half from fear and half from survival instincts kicking in. Freezing was a big part of why I did not believe I could call what happened to me “rape” for several days. I was trapped in my own head, hating myself for panicking and freezing, for “allowing” it to happen.
I have learned from my attack that when something this big happens, there is no right or wrong way to act, feel, or be. There is only whatever you must do to keep yourself afloat. I can’t tell you how many times I heard people say I couldn’t be believed because I was so numb that I didn’t ‘act’ like a rape victim, whatever that means. My roommate, his ex-girlfriend, did whatever she could to prove I was a liar.
Work was my only escape. I could block the hell that was my home life and throw myself into my work. I got a raise within a month of my attack for my work performance. Going through the court process, I wanted to drop the charges so many times, not because I wanted him to get away with it, but I was just so tired of it all. I stuck it out though, and he eventually changed his plea to guilty. This still was not enough to sway the minds of those who didn’t believe me.
I took these photos because I wanted others to know that they are not alone. I never knew my voice could be this powerful. Everyone tells me how strong I am for speaking out. I don’t see it as strong. Plenty of strong people never speak out. I’m just doing what works best for me to cope. But, the amount of support that I received from family, friends, and even strangers has been overwhelming. Of course there are negative people, who do what they can to bring others down, but I am able to just ignore them.
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On December 21, 2013, I was raped by someone I knew and let into my apartment. I was wearing a long-sleeve shirt and pants, nothing exposed
For six days, I told no one. I was in shock and denial about what had happened to me
I was numb for so long that I thought I would never feel anything again. I thought I was going crazy
After I turned him in to the police, my roommate called me a whore, a cunt, a liar, and a bitch for “taking a father away from his children”
I lived every day in self-doubt, guilt and anger
I wanted to die
“Stop fighting. It’s already in.” – my rapist
“How can someone like you say no to someone like me?” – my rapist
I want to educate others about their options and rights, something I never knew
I am shattering the silence of sexual assault
I chose to be strong, I still choose it today
He has no more power over me
He tried to break me…
I did not let him win
I am a survivor!
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lunanoir69 9 years ago
This is incredibly powerful. Thank you so much for speaking out for all of us who are survivors. Bless you!!!
guess 9 years ago
I'm very happy that you chose to make such a powerful and brave statement. It takes a ton of guts to put yourself out here, where people can
guess 9 years ago
be so cruel. This will and has already inspired many to be courageous as well and to not let the wolves break them. God bless you!! <3
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CommentaryFortytwo 9 years ago
I am so proud of her for the good fight. Sexual assault actually has very little to do with sex; it is much more about assault.
RebeccaWills 9 years ago
I completly empathise with you. You have helped me put my own assault into perspective. Thank you
TerriOwens 9 years ago
Thank you...for having the courage so many of us do not. You are my Hero... :)
CarlMorozuk 9 years ago
the roomate is worse than the rapist because they force you to relive it all everytime hear or think about them!
Sheila Andrea 7 years ago
Trying to make the woman seem worse than the man? Nope.
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KiriLeonard 9 years ago
I cannot applaud you enough for speaking up, your courage is admirable. I hope it will inspire & help other victims. You're an amazing woman
BeckyAbbott 9 years ago
Girlfriend, you Could have answered the door in a nighty, and it still wouldn't have been your fault. You're a brave, beautiful individual.
LudmillaWalker 9 years ago
thank you earth angel. you're right its the rapists who should be ashamed! they shouldnt dare to put the blame on us!
ShanMacDermott 9 years ago
You're incredible :) Thank you! and for the record - doesn't matter what you're wearing. You're a strong woman!
JanetLinkey-Thomas 9 years ago
You are an amazing young woman and I am extremely proud of you for speaking out! Those who have negative things to say can keep silent.
VictoriaPitt 9 years ago
Wow. Rape is so horrendous. People who defend are even worse. Great job speaking out on this! <3
LisaGreene 9 years ago
I know this was hard for her to do. Being a survivor myself. It's about time that women speak out without fear of victim shaming. Good job!
JenElliott 9 years ago
Bravo to this brave woman. I loved that she is smiling in the end. She is a survivor!
MurunEnkhjin 9 years ago
I am broken and I eat my feelings. I let what happened to me break even my spirit. What should I do?
Fubuki Hirawa 2 years ago
tell someone. don't worry, everything will be alright :D https://www.pinterest.com/pin/936537684983016767/
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JenniferScott 9 years ago
God bless you sweetheart! Always stay strong and keep inspiring others to be strong !!!
MilenaStojanovska 9 years ago
Brought me to tears, brave and inspirational. May life give you everything you want.
BarbaraHarrell 9 years ago
Very powerful..Thank you for sharing how you came out on the other side..the side of a survivor.
RobynDenton 9 years ago
Good on you, sweetheart, for having the courage to stand up for yourself!
AnnetteBlack 9 years ago
Very brave and powerful! Thanks for sharing, if we are all in this together, Noone it's alone. Much love to you!
MochaChica 9 years ago
Thank you, speaking out makes a difference! You are a truly beautiful, powerful soul. God bless.
JacyntheAllain 9 years ago
Good job. Shared this story to inspire others to speak out. You are a strong beautiful person. Thank you
AmandaMitschele 9 years ago
Thank you for your powerful statement. We are survivors, we are strong, we will not give up!!
CarolineJones 9 years ago
There are many who know their abusers are indeed the weak & more damaged ones..I pity them for not getting help before abusing others.......
MirajSaxton 9 years ago
As a survivor of so many abuses I totally understand the stigma you speak of. Support from others is needed so again thank u for this. Tears
MirajSaxton 9 years ago
Thank You I am of survivor of being rape as a toddler then again as a teenager. Silence is dangerous as they just keep raping. Thank u
amiraMitchell 9 years ago
Awesome your willingness to be so open is outstanding!! I admire you and best believer your story will change lives!
GauravArora 9 years ago
Hi. I hope you are doing well now. I am a blogger. I wish to write about you. Please drop me a line at gvsparx@gmail.com
JulieFrancis 9 years ago
Your story touched my heart and I have a great respect of you! You're a very strong women.
CarmenMcRae 9 years ago
I hate being called a survivor as all it meant to me was that I didn't die. I like to call myself a winnerwinner because I've worked through
LoriStokesWright 9 years ago
Such an amazing thing you have done! Little girls need to see more young woman like you, thank you!
SuzanneJohnson 9 years ago
Stay strong and don't carry the shame which you didn't own from the beginning!
CarmenNicholls 9 years ago
sociopath. well done you for getting him off the streets or the sewer drain he managed to slime out of.
CarmenNicholls 9 years ago
im sorry i cant respond first by addressing you with your name-i cant see it here. you are amazing. that guy is one disgusting, narcissistic
JocelynZame 9 years ago
Well done you go girl. Live large and spit in its eye and have a good life.
KikiSherlin 9 years ago
From one survivor to another..... My dear, you are far braver than I. I spoke out, and was called a liar by my own family.
KikiSherlin 9 years ago
I was then put into the foster care system and thrown away. So proud of you!!!!
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LizRice-Sosne 9 years ago
You are incredibly brave, powerful and incredibly strong ... whereas your attacker is weak and powerless ... and evil.
VirginiaCurtis-Threadgill 9 years ago
Thank you and bless you for being brave and strong enough to see it through to the conviction of this person. You're an amazing young woman.
VirginiaCurtis-Threadgill 9 years ago
A very brave young woman. Bless her for putting herself out there. Congratulations for seeing it through to the end (conviction) of this man
TracieGeiger 9 years ago
Wow.....Very Powerful..... I am very sorry for what happened to you but Commend you for speaking Out To help others..... I cannot imagin. ♡
Igor Kravchenko 7 years ago
I call b******t on the entire thing. 1. I doubt anyone wants to rape that ... tank. 2. I doubt if someone made an advance, that it was unwanted. She allegedly let the guy in her apartment and knowong he had a family (or didn't do her research). 3. Sounds like she regretted the sex because he would not leave his family for the tank and made a false rape claim. Wouldn't be the firs time it has happened.
Alyson Bowler 7 years ago
This is exactly why men choose to rape fat women - they assume no one will believe the victim. At my heaviest, I was 333 pounds. I'm not attracted to classically handsome men at all. I would have turned down any prom-king type guy, even. Just not my thing. You assume that because we're fat, we don't have a type. You assume that we'll take anything we can get. Plenty - plenty - of men want to have sex with fat women. It may not be socially accepted, but men definitely still hit on me plenty even when I was very large (and yes, I turned them all down.)
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April Rose 7 years ago
I was assaulted 2 years ago. It has been a huge struggle and everyday is a battle. This is inspirational to me. People never understand why we cant talk about it at first. I did the same thing. Bless you. And i am so truly in awe by your courage
TerryHartless 8 years ago
thank you, i was raped by my husbands friend, my husband came home and beat me. it was terrible. i wont even mention the things others said.
TimberlyVanKomen 9 years ago
God Bless You! We have a voice and we deserve justice. You stay strong!
BarbWarmuth 9 years ago
God bless you! I am so very proud of you! Stay strong! Much love coming your way!
SuperAlliekat 9 years ago
you made me cry but thank you so much for what you shared you are truly the bravest person here
SaraWalter 9 years ago
Thank you for sharing your story with us! I'm glad you were given the opportunity to put your attacker in the cage that monsters like him de
LeighStovall 9 years ago
Thank you for your strong words. You did what I was never strong enough to. No one even knew my story until 2 years later.
RachaelJensen 9 years ago
You are a very strong woman, it is brave to let the public in and try to help others. Your a very good person.
AllieMartin 9 years ago
This is incredible. So courageous and powerful. Rock on you are so strong and I have alot of respect for you :)
AnnieRobichaud 9 years ago
I'm glad she is able to speak about it . Too many girls keep silent . Girls ,IT IS NOT YOUR FAULT !!!
LynnLapierre 9 years ago
You are an inspiration. Thank you for your courage to share this experience with the world and helping other survivors out.
TahaIftikhar 9 years ago
I just felt this warmth in my hear the minute the pictures transitioned form depressing to pictures of her smiling :')
AishwaryaThilak 9 years ago
You are an incredible woman! You've gone way beyond just standing up for yourself. You've stood up for a community!
SarahSpiller 9 years ago
Really sorry for what happened to you, and congratulations for your way to cope with it. Not giving him the power to ruin my life was...
indigogirl 9 years ago
you are beutifull, keep going and don´t let yourself put down by the others..
indigogirl 9 years ago
you are beutifull, keep going and don´t let yourself down by the others..
LudmillaWalker 9 years ago
thank you earth angel. you're right its the rapists who should be ashamed! they shouldnt dare to put the blame on us!
JulesThompson 9 years ago
Well done, you are incredibly brave lady. Thank you for standing your ground and getting the pervert jailed.
AnnaKuzmina 9 years ago
Thank you. It's disgusting how men think that they have the right to choose what to do with someone else's body.
Stanley Corr 7 years ago
Or indeed women... Never forget that it's not just men doing the raping.
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LisaPeterson 9 years ago
I just love that "WINNER!" smile! Your bravery, love, and all-the-way-through beauty just shines through! Thanks for doing this!
KennethBoysen 9 years ago
Fantastic!, you go girl. You sharing, will help other victims, very strong!
MalinaMalina 9 years ago
Encouraged me to speak but not to real people around me https://loveartandgod.wordpress.com/2015/04/25/sexually-damaged/
ElizabethMolloy 9 years ago
I know so many women who were abused in some way in their lives by a family member or friend. I hope you inspire many more to demand justice
NoorPekala 9 years ago
I once read a book called Lucky about a rape victim. She like this lady fought and won, but the odds are stacked against us ladies!
DebMartinKnaff 9 years ago
The shameful women who made horrible remarks...you are not human. To the survivor, you are strong and such a role model. You go girl!!!!
WalterMillsap 9 years ago
Hey Earth Angel, great recovery, now go and put all of that great energy into YOU and all that YOU chose to be, have and hold...
RobinKilburn 9 years ago
when will people get the truth, rape is not about sex, it is about power over your victim
SallyHioks 9 years ago
Good for you. I'm interested to hear more about how your weight affected the response of people around you. Was there a stigma? So many Q's.
Jen Huddlestone 7 years ago
I think you are just about one of the most arrogant and rude women in the world. You cannot speak for everyone. You have insulted and maligned survivors all in some attempt to feel important. You disgust me. You need to apologize and remove this entire post on all forms of social media.
Amanda Yunek 7 years ago
I think it is an amazing thing to speak about your horrible experience and turn it into something positive for others. Way to go!
Abderrahman Ghouli 7 years ago
stop crying i already shot you in the ball " me to the rapist "
Shattering Khaos 7 years ago
She's about 4 stones from her own episode of My 600 Pound Life. "Stop fighting... it's already in..." Maybe she couldn't tell because it could've easily been a roll he was "in". "How can someone like you say no to someone like me?!" Looks like the only thing she says "no" to is healthy habits and veggies. Shattering the silence of SEXUAL ASSAULT? Looks like the only thing shatter here is the Earth beneath her feet. Now she wants to be strong? Not when she was trying to fight cravings? No? Not when she was at the buffet? No? Only thing that ever had power over her might've been her monstrous appetite. He tried to break her? What; was she dressed in a KitKat color scheme? She didn't let him win... had it not been for the context, I would have assumed she didn't let him win the pie eating contest. What would happen if she put all her weight on that tree... She's a survivor alright - a survivor of cardiac arrest, high cholesterol, and high blood pressure. I''m going to hell. Straight away!
Shattering Khaos 7 years ago
Still! The message is VERY powerful regardless! I love it... almost as much as she may love cake. Alright I'll stop now. I'm sorry... Almost as sorry as she looks hungry. OK! OK! I'm done... I'm done for real now... Just like the steak she ate... SHOOT! I'M SO SORRY! This isn't my normal self... I'll stop. I'm sorry. I'll stop for real now.
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Lynnzie Marie 7 years ago
You are so brave, as a fellow survivor, I AM SO PROUD OF YOU.. keep sharing and know that you are helping other through their own journey by sharing your and helping them know that they are not alone. and what they are feeling is normal. People who haven't experienced such trauma have no clue and only know to blame.
Serene Warren-Howe 7 years ago
Thank you for speaking out... god bless you. ❤️ I too, was raped by someone I knew. He was actually my boyfriend when it happened so I wasn't even sure how to react or what to say. Not many people who know me, know what happened....and it's really hard. But it's already been 3 years since it happened, and although I fear running into him around town, I have my wonderful fiancé and my best friends and sisters to keep me strong 💪🏻 they help me gain the confidence and courage to keep moving forward despite my rapist being free, walking around like he did nothing wrong.
Clarissa Briggs 7 years ago
Thank you so much for speaking out! You are strong, brave & a survivor ♡ Good on you for speaking to police & getting him charged! So what if he has a family !! This does NOT give him the right to do what he did and walk free !! Im a survivor too - my father was my abuser !! I was always too scared to say anything. I want every person to know they do mot have to be quiet, they dont have to be scared. And you are helping this happen by speaking out. Thank you xx
Heidi Naylor 7 years ago
Good on you for speaking out x So many stay silent because they think people will say it's they're fault when it's not x You're so brave and I admire you for it x
Tammy Bower 7 years ago
Thank you I know how it is I went threw it and it's no fun I'm glad u stood up for yourself and showed people what he did wrong I'm proud of people like you for speaking out
Kassi Pierre 7 years ago
Heartbreaking I'm Kassi Pierre, similar to what I'm facing in the U.S. I have a lot of mental illnesses , I am disabled i have Major Depressive disorder, anxiety, Bipolar disorder, PTSD, OCD, Psychosis, and a possible new diagnosis being Shisco-affective I've been staying at hospital for months with treatments for the past few years, I feel like a prisoner. Afterwards I was raped, twice and i am constantly being street harassed and molested. I couldn't leave the house or finish my university. It became a bigger problem when i try to commit suicide. People don't want me to be gay and forcing me to be straight that's why I was raped and I'm not allowed to meet other gay women. I am persecuted and I think the government is involved. More information on my facebook page.
Jess Chapin 7 years ago
Thank you for writing this..... I hid away for days not saying anything to anyone,being tormented in my own mind, believing it was my fault, he was a friend, I quit fighting all of them praying I could go home, and I felt the same,that I couldn't call it rape, after weeks of hiding it,and continueing to work with the person who himself started it and allowed his friends to ravage my body, when my silence was broken,I was hated by everyone,I was the bad person, I lost my job, and suffered years of hate from people who were my friends, I've wanted to speak for years,but have never found the courage, your courage has given me courage to reach out to those who have been through the same. We are not dirty,we are not whores, we are beautiful, those that didn't believe is are blinded by the charm of the men whom are deeply evil
RomaVakade 8 years ago
I love the way you have shown how u felt through the pictures. Its wonderful to see you smile after all you must have gone through.
LorienP 9 years ago
I'm so sorry that this has happened to you. A family member had this happened to her so I understand on a limited level how you must have felt. Good for you for being strong and overcoming this! Who ever it was, let them burn in Hell. You are an amazing woman and I hope you have an amazing life ahead of you.
MerannBartle 9 years ago
Well done! And thank you for your brave act! So many women will be empowered by your actions.
jace 9 years ago
Hi, you inspire me so much. thank you for speaking out. i'm an 18 yo girl, i just graduated from school last week. a month ago, i had a field trip. we took a bus and it was a 15 hour drive. i fell asleep and at 4 am, i woke up to feel my breast being groped by a guy friend of mine who was sitting behind me. i flinched and he pulled his hand away. just like you, i then freezed. i even pretended i was still asleep. he poked my arms several times (i think it was to test where there i am awake. i pretended i just woke up and play with my phone until we arrived. i was still very sleepy but terrified to fall asleep. I think he doesn't know that I know what he did, till this day. Although i am no longer shocked, it is still breaking me apart. what should i do?
PınarŞekerci 8 years ago
Just couldnt figure out how he has no power on her and couldnt break her when he got what he wanted (which was to ejaculate) and already caused her to want to die. Im sure he couldnt care less how powerful she's feeling right now. Makes no sense.
Alyson Shipley 7 years ago
he's the one in jail, she regained her life back that's the power she reclaimed from him
Load More Replies... PınarŞekerci 8 years ago
Just couldnt figure out how he has no power on her and couldnt break her when he's already got what he wanted (which was ejaculating) and caused her to want to die. Im sure he couldnt care less about how "powerful" she's feeling.
RollingStoneMagazine 9 years ago
Six days later? So no physical evidence. Your word against his. And women never lie (except Emma, Jackie, Lena Dunham, Ellie Clougherty...).
Fubuki Hirawa 2 years ago
I would grab a knife and slash you to shreds but I'm not a lazy, useless misogynist who slams people for their body size on Bored Panda, unlike you.
Load More Replies... Fubuki Hirawa 2 years ago
Again, I would grab a knife and slash you to shreds but I'm not a lazy, useless misogynist who slams people for their body size on Bored Panda, unlike you. Why would you post this twice. You massive a*****e.
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skaf2 9 years ago
Wtf, how did he raped that whale? By harpoon? xD “Stop fighting. It’s already in.” - she's not felt by hersfelf ;)
Fubuki Hirawa 2 years ago
I bet you're that pathetic a*****e that used to be the popular guy that joked about rape and choking people. I bet you peaked in middle school and now you're a homeless loser.
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broskinigski 9 years ago
I don't understand the logisitics of how someone would rape you, they'd have to hold back fat flaps to penetrate and you have mass on them.
Fubuki Hirawa 2 years ago
I don't understand how people like you are such massive retards.
Load More Replies... broskinigski 9 years ago
This is b******t he would have to hold back your fat flaps while attempting to penetrate you, no one would have sex with you.
Alyson Shipley 7 years ago
Seriously are you this much of an awful person irl?
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EyeBicycle 9 years ago
you couldn't pay me enough money to look at this woman naked much less anything else
Fubuki Hirawa 2 years ago
I bet you won't be laughing when the grim reaper comes to kill you because you laugh at people's suffering, you sadistic a*****e.
Load More Replies... Fubuki Hirawa 2 years ago
I bet you won't be laughing when the grim reaper comes to kill you because you laugh at people's suffering. Please go jump off a cliff.
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Fubuki Hirawa 2 years ago
You are such a disaster of a human being that I don't even know how to roast you. Just stop with the rape jokes. It makes you 1000x worse than the disgusting creature you are.
Load More Replies... Alyson Shipley 7 years ago
Are you this much of an asshat douchebag irl? Because you're extremely repellent.
Load More Replies... Fubuki Hirawa 2 years ago
Are you a female dog? Because you sure are a f*****g b***h!
Load More Replies... Tintirito 9 years ago
You are full of s**t. Who would rape someone like you? A penis has to get hard for it to happen, right? Now go lose some weight, manhater!
Fubuki Hirawa 2 years ago
So are you. Have you ever heard of something called empathy? I suppose not. Well, I guess the only way to cure your existence is to pitch yourself to the depths of hell, where you'll rot for all eternity. Everyone would be so much happier if you suddenly just dropped dead.
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lunanoir69 9 years ago
This is incredibly powerful. Thank you so much for speaking out for all of us who are survivors. Bless you!!!
guess 9 years ago
I'm very happy that you chose to make such a powerful and brave statement. It takes a ton of guts to put yourself out here, where people can
guess 9 years ago
be so cruel. This will and has already inspired many to be courageous as well and to not let the wolves break them. God bless you!! <3
Load More Replies... CommentaryFortytwo 9 years ago
I am so proud of her for the good fight. Sexual assault actually has very little to do with sex; it is much more about assault.
RebeccaWills 9 years ago
I completly empathise with you. You have helped me put my own assault into perspective. Thank you
TerriOwens 9 years ago
Thank you...for having the courage so many of us do not. You are my Hero... :)
CarlMorozuk 9 years ago
the roomate is worse than the rapist because they force you to relive it all everytime hear or think about them!
Sheila Andrea 7 years ago
Trying to make the woman seem worse than the man? Nope.
Load More Replies... KiriLeonard 9 years ago
I cannot applaud you enough for speaking up, your courage is admirable. I hope it will inspire & help other victims. You're an amazing woman
BeckyAbbott 9 years ago
Girlfriend, you Could have answered the door in a nighty, and it still wouldn't have been your fault. You're a brave, beautiful individual.
LudmillaWalker 9 years ago
thank you earth angel. you're right its the rapists who should be ashamed! they shouldnt dare to put the blame on us!
ShanMacDermott 9 years ago
You're incredible :) Thank you! and for the record - doesn't matter what you're wearing. You're a strong woman!
JanetLinkey-Thomas 9 years ago
You are an amazing young woman and I am extremely proud of you for speaking out! Those who have negative things to say can keep silent.
VictoriaPitt 9 years ago
Wow. Rape is so horrendous. People who defend are even worse. Great job speaking out on this! <3
LisaGreene 9 years ago
I know this was hard for her to do. Being a survivor myself. It's about time that women speak out without fear of victim shaming. Good job!
JenElliott 9 years ago
Bravo to this brave woman. I loved that she is smiling in the end. She is a survivor!
MurunEnkhjin 9 years ago
I am broken and I eat my feelings. I let what happened to me break even my spirit. What should I do?
Fubuki Hirawa 2 years ago
tell someone. don't worry, everything will be alright :D https://www.pinterest.com/pin/936537684983016767/
Load More Replies... JenniferScott 9 years ago
God bless you sweetheart! Always stay strong and keep inspiring others to be strong !!!
MilenaStojanovska 9 years ago
Brought me to tears, brave and inspirational. May life give you everything you want.
BarbaraHarrell 9 years ago
Very powerful..Thank you for sharing how you came out on the other side..the side of a survivor.
RobynDenton 9 years ago
Good on you, sweetheart, for having the courage to stand up for yourself!
AnnetteBlack 9 years ago
Very brave and powerful! Thanks for sharing, if we are all in this together, Noone it's alone. Much love to you!
MochaChica 9 years ago
Thank you, speaking out makes a difference! You are a truly beautiful, powerful soul. God bless.
JacyntheAllain 9 years ago
Good job. Shared this story to inspire others to speak out. You are a strong beautiful person. Thank you
AmandaMitschele 9 years ago
Thank you for your powerful statement. We are survivors, we are strong, we will not give up!!
CarolineJones 9 years ago
There are many who know their abusers are indeed the weak & more damaged ones..I pity them for not getting help before abusing others.......
MirajSaxton 9 years ago
As a survivor of so many abuses I totally understand the stigma you speak of. Support from others is needed so again thank u for this. Tears
MirajSaxton 9 years ago
Thank You I am of survivor of being rape as a toddler then again as a teenager. Silence is dangerous as they just keep raping. Thank u
amiraMitchell 9 years ago
Awesome your willingness to be so open is outstanding!! I admire you and best believer your story will change lives!
GauravArora 9 years ago
Hi. I hope you are doing well now. I am a blogger. I wish to write about you. Please drop me a line at gvsparx@gmail.com
JulieFrancis 9 years ago
Your story touched my heart and I have a great respect of you! You're a very strong women.
CarmenMcRae 9 years ago
I hate being called a survivor as all it meant to me was that I didn't die. I like to call myself a winnerwinner because I've worked through
LoriStokesWright 9 years ago
Such an amazing thing you have done! Little girls need to see more young woman like you, thank you!
SuzanneJohnson 9 years ago
Stay strong and don't carry the shame which you didn't own from the beginning!
CarmenNicholls 9 years ago
sociopath. well done you for getting him off the streets or the sewer drain he managed to slime out of.
CarmenNicholls 9 years ago
im sorry i cant respond first by addressing you with your name-i cant see it here. you are amazing. that guy is one disgusting, narcissistic
JocelynZame 9 years ago
Well done you go girl. Live large and spit in its eye and have a good life.
KikiSherlin 9 years ago
From one survivor to another..... My dear, you are far braver than I. I spoke out, and was called a liar by my own family.
KikiSherlin 9 years ago
I was then put into the foster care system and thrown away. So proud of you!!!!
Load More Replies... LizRice-Sosne 9 years ago
You are incredibly brave, powerful and incredibly strong ... whereas your attacker is weak and powerless ... and evil.
VirginiaCurtis-Threadgill 9 years ago
Thank you and bless you for being brave and strong enough to see it through to the conviction of this person. You're an amazing young woman.
VirginiaCurtis-Threadgill 9 years ago
A very brave young woman. Bless her for putting herself out there. Congratulations for seeing it through to the end (conviction) of this man
TracieGeiger 9 years ago
Wow.....Very Powerful..... I am very sorry for what happened to you but Commend you for speaking Out To help others..... I cannot imagin. ♡
Igor Kravchenko 7 years ago
I call b******t on the entire thing. 1. I doubt anyone wants to rape that ... tank. 2. I doubt if someone made an advance, that it was unwanted. She allegedly let the guy in her apartment and knowong he had a family (or didn't do her research). 3. Sounds like she regretted the sex because he would not leave his family for the tank and made a false rape claim. Wouldn't be the firs time it has happened.
Alyson Bowler 7 years ago
This is exactly why men choose to rape fat women - they assume no one will believe the victim. At my heaviest, I was 333 pounds. I'm not attracted to classically handsome men at all. I would have turned down any prom-king type guy, even. Just not my thing. You assume that because we're fat, we don't have a type. You assume that we'll take anything we can get. Plenty - plenty - of men want to have sex with fat women. It may not be socially accepted, but men definitely still hit on me plenty even when I was very large (and yes, I turned them all down.)
Load More Replies... April Rose 7 years ago
I was assaulted 2 years ago. It has been a huge struggle and everyday is a battle. This is inspirational to me. People never understand why we cant talk about it at first. I did the same thing. Bless you. And i am so truly in awe by your courage
TerryHartless 8 years ago
thank you, i was raped by my husbands friend, my husband came home and beat me. it was terrible. i wont even mention the things others said.
TimberlyVanKomen 9 years ago
God Bless You! We have a voice and we deserve justice. You stay strong!
BarbWarmuth 9 years ago
God bless you! I am so very proud of you! Stay strong! Much love coming your way!
SuperAlliekat 9 years ago
you made me cry but thank you so much for what you shared you are truly the bravest person here
SaraWalter 9 years ago
Thank you for sharing your story with us! I'm glad you were given the opportunity to put your attacker in the cage that monsters like him de
LeighStovall 9 years ago
Thank you for your strong words. You did what I was never strong enough to. No one even knew my story until 2 years later.
RachaelJensen 9 years ago
You are a very strong woman, it is brave to let the public in and try to help others. Your a very good person.
AllieMartin 9 years ago
This is incredible. So courageous and powerful. Rock on you are so strong and I have alot of respect for you :)
AnnieRobichaud 9 years ago
I'm glad she is able to speak about it . Too many girls keep silent . Girls ,IT IS NOT YOUR FAULT !!!
LynnLapierre 9 years ago
You are an inspiration. Thank you for your courage to share this experience with the world and helping other survivors out.
TahaIftikhar 9 years ago
I just felt this warmth in my hear the minute the pictures transitioned form depressing to pictures of her smiling :')
AishwaryaThilak 9 years ago
You are an incredible woman! You've gone way beyond just standing up for yourself. You've stood up for a community!
SarahSpiller 9 years ago
Really sorry for what happened to you, and congratulations for your way to cope with it. Not giving him the power to ruin my life was...
indigogirl 9 years ago
you are beutifull, keep going and don´t let yourself put down by the others..
indigogirl 9 years ago
you are beutifull, keep going and don´t let yourself down by the others..
LudmillaWalker 9 years ago
thank you earth angel. you're right its the rapists who should be ashamed! they shouldnt dare to put the blame on us!
JulesThompson 9 years ago
Well done, you are incredibly brave lady. Thank you for standing your ground and getting the pervert jailed.
AnnaKuzmina 9 years ago
Thank you. It's disgusting how men think that they have the right to choose what to do with someone else's body.
Stanley Corr 7 years ago
Or indeed women... Never forget that it's not just men doing the raping.
Load More Replies... LisaPeterson 9 years ago
I just love that "WINNER!" smile! Your bravery, love, and all-the-way-through beauty just shines through! Thanks for doing this!
KennethBoysen 9 years ago
Fantastic!, you go girl. You sharing, will help other victims, very strong!
MalinaMalina 9 years ago
Encouraged me to speak but not to real people around me https://loveartandgod.wordpress.com/2015/04/25/sexually-damaged/
ElizabethMolloy 9 years ago
I know so many women who were abused in some way in their lives by a family member or friend. I hope you inspire many more to demand justice
NoorPekala 9 years ago
I once read a book called Lucky about a rape victim. She like this lady fought and won, but the odds are stacked against us ladies!
DebMartinKnaff 9 years ago
The shameful women who made horrible remarks...you are not human. To the survivor, you are strong and such a role model. You go girl!!!!
WalterMillsap 9 years ago
Hey Earth Angel, great recovery, now go and put all of that great energy into YOU and all that YOU chose to be, have and hold...
RobinKilburn 9 years ago
when will people get the truth, rape is not about sex, it is about power over your victim
SallyHioks 9 years ago
Good for you. I'm interested to hear more about how your weight affected the response of people around you. Was there a stigma? So many Q's.
Jen Huddlestone 7 years ago
I think you are just about one of the most arrogant and rude women in the world. You cannot speak for everyone. You have insulted and maligned survivors all in some attempt to feel important. You disgust me. You need to apologize and remove this entire post on all forms of social media.
Amanda Yunek 7 years ago
I think it is an amazing thing to speak about your horrible experience and turn it into something positive for others. Way to go!
Abderrahman Ghouli 7 years ago
stop crying i already shot you in the ball " me to the rapist "
Shattering Khaos 7 years ago
She's about 4 stones from her own episode of My 600 Pound Life. "Stop fighting... it's already in..." Maybe she couldn't tell because it could've easily been a roll he was "in". "How can someone like you say no to someone like me?!" Looks like the only thing she says "no" to is healthy habits and veggies. Shattering the silence of SEXUAL ASSAULT? Looks like the only thing shatter here is the Earth beneath her feet. Now she wants to be strong? Not when she was trying to fight cravings? No? Not when she was at the buffet? No? Only thing that ever had power over her might've been her monstrous appetite. He tried to break her? What; was she dressed in a KitKat color scheme? She didn't let him win... had it not been for the context, I would have assumed she didn't let him win the pie eating contest. What would happen if she put all her weight on that tree... She's a survivor alright - a survivor of cardiac arrest, high cholesterol, and high blood pressure. I''m going to hell. Straight away!
Shattering Khaos 7 years ago
Still! The message is VERY powerful regardless! I love it... almost as much as she may love cake. Alright I'll stop now. I'm sorry... Almost as sorry as she looks hungry. OK! OK! I'm done... I'm done for real now... Just like the steak she ate... SHOOT! I'M SO SORRY! This isn't my normal self... I'll stop. I'm sorry. I'll stop for real now.
Load More Replies... Lynnzie Marie 7 years ago
You are so brave, as a fellow survivor, I AM SO PROUD OF YOU.. keep sharing and know that you are helping other through their own journey by sharing your and helping them know that they are not alone. and what they are feeling is normal. People who haven't experienced such trauma have no clue and only know to blame.
Serene Warren-Howe 7 years ago
Thank you for speaking out... god bless you. ❤️ I too, was raped by someone I knew. He was actually my boyfriend when it happened so I wasn't even sure how to react or what to say. Not many people who know me, know what happened....and it's really hard. But it's already been 3 years since it happened, and although I fear running into him around town, I have my wonderful fiancé and my best friends and sisters to keep me strong 💪🏻 they help me gain the confidence and courage to keep moving forward despite my rapist being free, walking around like he did nothing wrong.
Clarissa Briggs 7 years ago
Thank you so much for speaking out! You are strong, brave & a survivor ♡ Good on you for speaking to police & getting him charged! So what if he has a family !! This does NOT give him the right to do what he did and walk free !! Im a survivor too - my father was my abuser !! I was always too scared to say anything. I want every person to know they do mot have to be quiet, they dont have to be scared. And you are helping this happen by speaking out. Thank you xx
Heidi Naylor 7 years ago
Good on you for speaking out x So many stay silent because they think people will say it's they're fault when it's not x You're so brave and I admire you for it x
Tammy Bower 7 years ago
Thank you I know how it is I went threw it and it's no fun I'm glad u stood up for yourself and showed people what he did wrong I'm proud of people like you for speaking out
Kassi Pierre 7 years ago
Heartbreaking I'm Kassi Pierre, similar to what I'm facing in the U.S. I have a lot of mental illnesses , I am disabled i have Major Depressive disorder, anxiety, Bipolar disorder, PTSD, OCD, Psychosis, and a possible new diagnosis being Shisco-affective I've been staying at hospital for months with treatments for the past few years, I feel like a prisoner. Afterwards I was raped, twice and i am constantly being street harassed and molested. I couldn't leave the house or finish my university. It became a bigger problem when i try to commit suicide. People don't want me to be gay and forcing me to be straight that's why I was raped and I'm not allowed to meet other gay women. I am persecuted and I think the government is involved. More information on my facebook page.
Jess Chapin 7 years ago
Thank you for writing this..... I hid away for days not saying anything to anyone,being tormented in my own mind, believing it was my fault, he was a friend, I quit fighting all of them praying I could go home, and I felt the same,that I couldn't call it rape, after weeks of hiding it,and continueing to work with the person who himself started it and allowed his friends to ravage my body, when my silence was broken,I was hated by everyone,I was the bad person, I lost my job, and suffered years of hate from people who were my friends, I've wanted to speak for years,but have never found the courage, your courage has given me courage to reach out to those who have been through the same. We are not dirty,we are not whores, we are beautiful, those that didn't believe is are blinded by the charm of the men whom are deeply evil
RomaVakade 8 years ago
I love the way you have shown how u felt through the pictures. Its wonderful to see you smile after all you must have gone through.
LorienP 9 years ago
I'm so sorry that this has happened to you. A family member had this happened to her so I understand on a limited level how you must have felt. Good for you for being strong and overcoming this! Who ever it was, let them burn in Hell. You are an amazing woman and I hope you have an amazing life ahead of you.
MerannBartle 9 years ago
Well done! And thank you for your brave act! So many women will be empowered by your actions.
jace 9 years ago
Hi, you inspire me so much. thank you for speaking out. i'm an 18 yo girl, i just graduated from school last week. a month ago, i had a field trip. we took a bus and it was a 15 hour drive. i fell asleep and at 4 am, i woke up to feel my breast being groped by a guy friend of mine who was sitting behind me. i flinched and he pulled his hand away. just like you, i then freezed. i even pretended i was still asleep. he poked my arms several times (i think it was to test where there i am awake. i pretended i just woke up and play with my phone until we arrived. i was still very sleepy but terrified to fall asleep. I think he doesn't know that I know what he did, till this day. Although i am no longer shocked, it is still breaking me apart. what should i do?
PınarŞekerci 8 years ago
Just couldnt figure out how he has no power on her and couldnt break her when he got what he wanted (which was to ejaculate) and already caused her to want to die. Im sure he couldnt care less how powerful she's feeling right now. Makes no sense.
Alyson Shipley 7 years ago
he's the one in jail, she regained her life back that's the power she reclaimed from him
Load More Replies... PınarŞekerci 8 years ago
Just couldnt figure out how he has no power on her and couldnt break her when he's already got what he wanted (which was ejaculating) and caused her to want to die. Im sure he couldnt care less about how "powerful" she's feeling.
RollingStoneMagazine 9 years ago
Six days later? So no physical evidence. Your word against his. And women never lie (except Emma, Jackie, Lena Dunham, Ellie Clougherty...).
Fubuki Hirawa 2 years ago
I would grab a knife and slash you to shreds but I'm not a lazy, useless misogynist who slams people for their body size on Bored Panda, unlike you.
Load More Replies... Fubuki Hirawa 2 years ago
Again, I would grab a knife and slash you to shreds but I'm not a lazy, useless misogynist who slams people for their body size on Bored Panda, unlike you. Why would you post this twice. You massive a*****e.
Load More Replies... skaf2 9 years ago
Wtf, how did he raped that whale? By harpoon? xD “Stop fighting. It’s already in.” - she's not felt by hersfelf ;)
Fubuki Hirawa 2 years ago
I bet you're that pathetic a*****e that used to be the popular guy that joked about rape and choking people. I bet you peaked in middle school and now you're a homeless loser.
Load More Replies... broskinigski 9 years ago
I don't understand the logisitics of how someone would rape you, they'd have to hold back fat flaps to penetrate and you have mass on them.
Fubuki Hirawa 2 years ago
I don't understand how people like you are such massive retards.
Load More Replies... broskinigski 9 years ago
This is b******t he would have to hold back your fat flaps while attempting to penetrate you, no one would have sex with you.
Alyson Shipley 7 years ago
Seriously are you this much of an awful person irl?
Load More Replies... EyeBicycle 9 years ago
you couldn't pay me enough money to look at this woman naked much less anything else
Fubuki Hirawa 2 years ago
I bet you won't be laughing when the grim reaper comes to kill you because you laugh at people's suffering, you sadistic a*****e.
Load More Replies... Fubuki Hirawa 2 years ago
I bet you won't be laughing when the grim reaper comes to kill you because you laugh at people's suffering. Please go jump off a cliff.
Load More Replies... Fubuki Hirawa 2 years ago
You are such a disaster of a human being that I don't even know how to roast you. Just stop with the rape jokes. It makes you 1000x worse than the disgusting creature you are.
Load More Replies... Alyson Shipley 7 years ago
Are you this much of an asshat douchebag irl? Because you're extremely repellent.
Load More Replies... Fubuki Hirawa 2 years ago
Are you a female dog? Because you sure are a f*****g b***h!
Load More Replies... Tintirito 9 years ago
You are full of s**t. Who would rape someone like you? A penis has to get hard for it to happen, right? Now go lose some weight, manhater!
Fubuki Hirawa 2 years ago
So are you. Have you ever heard of something called empathy? I suppose not. Well, I guess the only way to cure your existence is to pitch yourself to the depths of hell, where you'll rot for all eternity. Everyone would be so much happier if you suddenly just dropped dead.
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