What the hell is wrong with grown ass people?! crying because a colleague wont eat your cake? my five year old wouldn't be offended by that. People have lost their minds completely! This women is a bully and an obnoxious human being to begin with, why is it her business what other people eat or don't eat? I would also file a complaint against a boss who thinks he has a right to force his employee to eat something against their will. has the world gone mental?

"A lot of vegans die from losing on that nutrient." Ummm, no.

Wanna make a vegan dessert? Bake an apple pie, with a crust that uses shortening instead of butter or lard! Vegan desserts aren't hard... its just vegan *cakes* that are hard. Cakes usually need eggs to turn out right, so i think the OP was right to pass on a cake from a dubious source.

NTA...and I'd be contacting HR about her too...I work with a vegan who is very respectful about other workers dietary habits as we are hers. We had an office BBQ and we made sure to include and cook separately her vegan burgers, which we tried and liked. We draw no attention to it and when I offer her stuff I tell her I read the label carefully because I do like some of the vegan options at grocery stores even though I eat meat as well. This person was being a straight up asshole and is lucky she didn't pull that crap in my office.

imagine being highly allergic to shellfish or peanuts, eggs, milk or what ever.. having to be super strict about your diet even when going out with your dramatic and having that one friend pressuring you to eat some of her food, that you are-too dramatic and a little bit won't kill you for sure... and one day when you are out with friends on a picknick she hands you a set of fork and knife to eat your food (what you don't know is that she has rubbed the fork and knife with crabs meat before giving them to you.) all of this just to prove a point of how you can survive a bit of shellfish.

Sounds like the boss thinks that a coworker routinely mocking and antagonizing another employee doesn’t count when it’s just “women being catty.” Don’t hurt her feelings? OP, your coworker is an ass, your boss is an ass.

Sounds like Bea is just a giant B. People should just mind their damn business about other people's diets - it has no effect on you or your own body so don't worry about it.

im_a_good_troglodyte is "facking s**t" (to use her language) disgusting, disrespectful moron. She knows nothing about nutritional science. We have health and opioid crisis and vegans are not responsible for them. Reference: Physician Committee for Responsible Medicine. Also the psychologist claims that vegans are snobbier? Well, not those who have chosen this life style for ethical reason; yes, it is depressing to see all that cruelty and destruction in the world.

... that kind of coworker is the exact type of person who writes all the vegan-bashery on BP - stupid af and totally not even getting the point. It begins (likely without bad intention) when it is called a dietary choice. It's not. It just happens that it's influence in decisions about eating are the most visible ones that you can't even hide for very long if you try to.

I just do not get why people feel the need to debate Vegans and Vegetarians. You would never become argumentative or debate someone with a food allergy or food restriction due to religious beliefs. But say you are a Vegan or Vegetarian and the negative comments and debates come out. I have been a vegetarian for 10 years and every time I go out to eat with the family the eye-rolling and negative comments start when ordering. We are all middle ages people too. Far too old for that kind of crap. They will literally sit there and put me down for my dietary preferences. Strangers will boldly ask "WHY" when they find out I do not eat meat. It is so insanely stupid. I don't ask meat eaters why they like to eat the rotting flesh of murdered animals. I just sit there quietly and let you enjoy your food.

I think that it is important to recognize that relentless teasing is not having fun--it is purely a form of aggression and humiliation. The best way to predict future behavior is past behavior and considering what she has done, I would not eat ANYTHING she brought to work. If she has a meltdown because you don't eat the food that is just another HUGE red flag that you are dealing with someone who has some serious psychological issues. If your boss does not recognize this, then he/she is emotionally naive. You did the right thing. However, I know I would have told the woman that after all the stunts she has played to get you to eat non-vegan food, and her lack of respect for your food choices, you do not trust her to eat the cake.

I don't know if this particular story is true, but it may be. There is this sort of people who, having found out that somebody doesn't eat a certain product, will go on a mission to convince this person to try or "trick" them into eating it. It doesn't matter why a person doesn't eat something - for medical, ethical, religious reasons, or just because they don't like this food - just let them be and find another hobby.

Veganism can be spiritual and religious for many. If that's the case with you this is harassment and you should file a formal complaint with HR. Coming from someone in HR

This woman's attitude is insane. She was obviously waiting for a "gotcha!" moment. But I have to say, I've been "called out" by vegans for the "sin:" of eating animal flesh. It goes both ways, people need to chill and accept that other people choose a diet that seems strange to them. You go eat your leaves and grasses, I'll stick with my steaks.

This wouldn't happen between 2 men

I feel this person so much, not vegan but I have life threatening allergies to some foods, the number of times I have been "encouraged" to eat things I simply cannot is astounding, by encouraged I mean let the bullying begin.

Does not matter if you are a vegan, lactose intolerant, have celiac disease, diabetic, fasting, on a diet or some other sht! If you don’t want to eat a fkn cake then no don’t eat a fkn cake! The drama lady probably made a scene because she was trying to get you to eat something she knew you wouldn’t, and got called out for it. Vegan baking is freaking hard and not something you do for the first time overnight.

NTA. Aside from the vegan issue, it strikes me as weird to offer coworkers a bite of food from one's own lunch during the coronavirus pandemic.

There are ONLY 2 A-holes here. Your coworker and your boss and that boss should be reported to HR. How can a person even bake anything but cookies vegan and have it come out right if the recipe calls for eggs or dairy. I'm guessing yeast is allowed since it's not an animal.

Though I do not agree with veganism but I strongly believe in people living the way they want. So you do not have to do something that opposes your believes as long as those believes do not harm anyone like anti-vaxxers do. Definitely NTA. That lady with that princess attitude can kick rocks.

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Yes, you are the asshole. Not because of refusing to eat the cake, but because you're vegan. An i'm an asshole for saying so I'm sure.