Obvious YTA. Vegans really need to understand that their dietary preferences do not grant them the right to break rules and act like some sort of entitled nobility.

You. Get angry at a STEAK HOUSE. For not catering to your VEGAN choice of diet? Can you tell why so many people called you TA? That wedding is not about you. You are a guest. Behave accordingly and stop being entitled. Also: That restaurant sprinkled parmesan on your food? Jesus Christ calm down. Half my family is vegan and in case something like this happens you take it in stride and don't make a fuss.

Wants aten't needs.

YTA. Lying about allergies makes life harder for everyone else. You already know that this restaurant struggles to accomodate veganism. Fair, given that they are a *Steakhouse*. The convo with the chef should have been: "I don't eat any animal products - no meat, no eggs, no dairy. I know this is off menu for you, and will be an inconvenience - can you accomodate this, and can we plan a meal? If you can't, I will bring outside food." Then you plan the meal, with the chef, for something they can accomodate. Also: The restaurant clearly knew you lied, and decided on malicious compliance - deep clean the entire kitchen because your "allergies" are "life threatening" and then bill you for it. The chef was not the one humiliated - your parents were, because they were called out for their child being an entitled, lying, condescending, b***h.

Are you off your rocker?? Claiming you have a deadly allergy when you don't have one is absolutely shameful. It doesn't matter why you lied: you shouldn't be lying. If your diet is that important to you, I expect you to tell your parents that this particular restaurant doesn't cater to your requirements and that therefore you won't be attending. Do you really think everyone is always going to cater to your dietary requirements? No, I can tell you that right away. So make a choice: let your veganism take a backseat every once in a while in favour of, say, your sister's rehearsal dinner, or make it the end all and be all of your life and accept the consequences.

What "ignorance and inconsideration"? Please tell me! You have CHOSEN a specific lifestyle, a lifestyle that others haven't chosen for themselves, why is it Ignorant or Inconsiderate for them to not be just like you? It's vegans like you that make people hostile (again, NOT ignorant), towards veganism. You're downright rude, entitled, and absolutely uncalled for in your treatment of others. Simply because of your Choice of food. Bring your own food next time princess, or better yet, don't bother socializing with other humans if you can't play nice. You're a rude little tw@t. I hope your family excludes you next time so they won't hurt your widdle feewings.

Those defending don't realize that the special accommodations they made were for a food allergy that they needed to be sure there was no cross contamination. This wasn't about being able to make a vegan meal, but about avoiding exposing someone who may sue them if they end up hospitalized. That's a huge consideration and no small thing. Frankly, they should have just apologized and let you know that that would be too restrictive of their kitchen and they can't reasonably accommodate your request. But they tried. Because you lied.

Something tells me this is more on the restaurant trying to milk the Wedding Tax. I've worked in food service and that level of cleanliness to accommodate allergies is unheard of and not even necessary. The chef who is supposedly friendly with the family is the one who should be ashamed for providing such poor accommodations to OP in the past and further ripping off the family with whom chef is supposedly friendly. This has less to do with OP's veganism and more to do with a corrupt restauranteur with a pattern of providing poor service. People need to stop acting like accommodating a vegan diet is akin to inhaling cat p**s fumes and grow up.

This is the reason why people with actual allergies aren't taken seriously.

This restaurant promised her on two occasion that they were going to prepare a vegan meal for her and did not. They should have just told her they don't do vegan meals. So, when you get down to it they both lied.

I am deathly allergic to rice. This lie ticks me off. It creates the issue where the restaurant will not necessarily take a true allergy seriously because they know someone lies. The OP just created a potential problem for people who actually have an allergy. If I know rice is on the menu and there is a chance of cross contamination, I try to eat something ahead of time or pack an alternative. Sometimes substitutions are not possible. Lying about an allergy just makes more trouble for others

Anyone who lies is an AH, period.

ESH - YTA for lying about having life-threatening allergies you don't have when you could have just made yourself the martyr you people seem to desperately aspire to be, but it's also like, wildly unethical for a restaurant to charge several hundred dollars extra to a customer for requiring allergy accommodation, and might actually be an ADA violation.

If they charge extra for accommodating a disability, and are in America, they are committing an ADA violation. The whole being charged extra part makes me think no part of this is real, there's no reason they needed to clean the entire kitchen if they knew what they would make her, and if it causes an undue burden, at least in America, they can refuse to accommodate her.

Imma say esh cause giving a vegan a non vegan died and purposly hiding it is dangerous.

Selfish arsehole deserves all they get.

I feel bad for people with genuine allergies eating out. Those of us who have worked in the food industry know almost all people claiming allergies are lying and unfortunately this usually ends with people who have legitimate allergies paying the price. Your insane diet you follow from a "self-taught nutritionist" who has done "their own research" isn'ta food allergy, it you being a self entitled rude dumb a**e.

The chef should have said no, we cannot accommodate you, get out!

Idiot.

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NTA. Obviously, and everyone claiming YTA is also to be considered part of the group of exhaust orifices. They don't take her beliefs serious, but yet they decided to promise to consider them, just to not do so in the very same moment. I'd not go there, because such places deserve to go down and have a successor that takes customers seriously. If they don't accept your beliefs as valid enough, you gotta come up with something they will. Their choice. But, I wouldn't go there, because every penny spent in that shidhouse is one too many.

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"Plethora" ...ooooh, somebody's showing off their community college degree.