Kobe, same here. I used to vacuum as soon as I put my child down. He also now sleeps anywhere. Although I do have friends who tried that and it just didn't work

Thank you. I read the story, and I was like, "Yeah, sure. This once I'll wait an hour." If it happened again, then I'd say no to the neighbor: "Once or even twice is OK, but I can't change my schedule to match yours. I have my own things to attend to."

All I've done is comment that 5pm is also probably not a good time. No opinion given on whether OP was an arsehole or not. Mary Lou, in fact the majority this particular thread is us discussing the difference between midday and 5pm. We haven't vilified anyone, we haven't mentioned whether it was a one off or a regular change. You are assuming that is what we're thinking. So... right back at you.

The person made a time suggestion NOT the neighbor. The point wasn’t wait until 5, the point was, wait. She could do it at 1,2,3 or 12:45….get the point? 🙄

1. I didn't answer to you, but to Ron, it just ended up under yours 2. Dizzie D made the assumption without being corrected by those who responded, but yes "all" was a stretch. 3. Read further down: neighbor is called a "b***" and ken is called "unhinged" for suggesting politeness with Ron clearly taking it for a forever wish. 4.that said: I made zero assumptions on your jugdements, you are really projecting there...

No I'm not projecting - as you said, you wrote right under my name. If you're replying to a certain person perhaps use their name to make that clear.

Dear Tyler, you said " We haven't vilified anyone, we haven't mentioned whether it was a one off or a regular change. You are assuming that is what we're thinking" I replied "that said: I made zero assumptions on your jugdements, you are really projecting there... - in other words: the projecting was clearly refering to you claiming I accussed you of viliniving the neighbor which I didn't at all, only claimed many didn't get the one off part - No matter their judgement... If you can't figure that out, maybe work on your reading - understanding skills.btw: learn how comment sections work then you can stop to take comments randomnly ending up under yours but refering to the one it put "reply" (in my case rons) personal - no addressation needed, my deleted comments below was a nonsense one I "replied" to Ron with (used the reply botton under his comments - see?

TYKE not Tyler. I am not projecting one bit. You seem to think everything you say is fact, everyone here is speculating and giving their opinion - no fact at all.

Dear Tyke (sorry autocorrect),so in your first post to me you accuse me of accusing you of "viliviing" some one. Still waiting for you to quote me on how anywhere in my first post I did that. (Btw:Now did or didn't you give your opinion - which one is it?) I gave facts and quotes to support my claims such as the neighbor only asking for a one off according to OP (sic!) and later on some people denfending OP being im fact verbally abusive, despite you claiming otherwise (If you can't find the comment of Ron calling Ken unhinged and the one of Maria hermida calling the neighbor "b***) that's on you.). These are not opinions but facts in their own right.

Bringing cookies is cliche and weird. A neighbor and his wife did the same thing when my mom & I moved into our current place two years ago. My first thought was "I didn't know people really did that" but we thought it was nice. Next thing you know, the husband is harassing us for a year, trying to get us to be "friends." To be fair, we're pretty sure his wife has no idea and bringing the pie when we moved in might've been her idea.

Not weird. Very common in the South. It’s called having an excuse to meet the neighbors, introducing yourself, and hopefully making new friends. I really feel for this generation if you think this is weird. 🙁

My generation? You mean 40 year olds. We're fine, thanks.

Wow, "cliche and weird"? Toss those extra friends that bring cookies and pie my way.

And if that's the case then it would be inconvenient to try to squeeze vacuuming in. Since she's either busy cooking or enjoy the meal with her daughter

exactly my point, yes

1/I haven’t said that the OP asked all her neighbours. That’s a strawman argument. 2/“Stop hoovering at midday, I will make personal verbal attacks if you don’t” is not a reasonable request. 3/Hoovering is not a group activity for the whole family. It’s not an activity for more than one person. 4/If the neighbours don’t like someone hoovering their home at midday, they’re even less likely to enjoy the sound of multiple generations being goofy, having music playing, and hoovering. Alas, whilst it’s possible (and preferable!) to have a good relationship with your neighbours, it seems less easy to have a good relationship with these neighbours.

Where does it say she asked for IT on a daily basis????

How about you proof me wrong instead of just downvoting me 🤔

Btw OP quotes the neighbor as very specifically asking for not vacuuming "right now".

My old neighbour once knocked on my door, and told my wife he needed to speak to me. I was in bed, but duly got up tot talk to him. He had an issue with 2 cars being parked on my drive (because his wife couldn't drive well enough to reverse out of their drive without going on to mine) and wanted to 'nip it in the bud'. My response was a very blunt no. Anyone suggesting any alternative response clearly has no ability to imagine being in that situation. The correct answer was a clear and obvious no.

Was one of the cars overhanging the footpath? If not, good for you. I'd probably do the same. That said, if his wife is that bad a driver I'd be concerned she was going to accidentally back into my car. I'd be curious whether "nip it in the bud" referred to you parked two cars in your drive, or his wife accidentally backing into you. If it's the former, then he's an obnoxious neighbour, if it's the latter he's trying to be cautious.

Yes Ken, he was an obnoxious neighbour. If a neighbour crashes into my car whilst it is on my drive, I will claim against their insurance, I am not going to move a vehicle off my drive and park around the corner because I'm worried about someone's entitlement and incompetence. I'm amazed there is any debate.

Not the same thing. Asking someone to move property from their own property is ridiculous. Asking someone to hold off vacuuming for an hour isn’t. Even if the answer was no, I can’t, it could have been delivered nicely.

I'm upvoting to cancel your neighbor that downvoted you. :)

Why? It's a normal time, and everybody has their own needs and problems. You can't fulfill everybody's wishes! Imagine having to adapt your timetable to every neighbour's requirements!!! There are reasonable times where a normal level of noise should be expected if you live in a community. If you have a problem you must solve it without interfering with other people's daily activities. Get earplugs, headphones, a white noise machine, a sound-proof ceiling... whatever you want. You are not the centre of the universe, so you can't expect everybody's lives to revolve around your needs.

Just to be clear Ken - every time new neighbours move in do you ask them for a timetable of when you are allowed to clean your own home? And when you move to a new place, do you present your new neighbours with a list of times when they are allowed to clean? A simple “Yes, I do that,” or “No, I don’t do that, and now that I think about it my suggestion to the OP was somewhat unhinged” will suffice.

Maria and Ron, it's common courtesy to work with neighbours at least a little. Look at the story, the neighbour introduced themselves and was friendly up front. When there was an issue she came and asked them politely like an adult if they could reach a compromise. And for a valid reason, it's not like she arbitrarily said they couldn't make noise. The persons first response wasn't even a polite "Sorry I have to do this now" it was a rude response. Now she risks the consequences of her response. The neighbour works nights so instead of coming in as quiet as possible they're gonna not give a s**t if they make noise. This is how disputes between neighbours escalate and become feuds. And for the record your comment asking if I approach new neighbours when they move in to ask about a schedule is farcical. It's on the person with the unusual schedule to ask - just like they did in this story.

Yeah, the person with the unusual schedule asked. They were told no - even you describe their request as “farcical” so no surprise there. And then they became abusive - they, and they alone, are responsible for the dispute escalating. No sympathy!

Neither in OP's post nor in Ken's is any indication on that being meant as more than a one off. Think it's you being unhinged in your assumptions here

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