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Black Teen Reveals The Unwritten Rules His Mom Makes Him Follow To Stay Safe
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Black Teen Reveals The Unwritten Rules His Mom Makes Him Follow To Stay Safe

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Just days after George Floyd’s death, an unarmed black man who died in police custody, Cameron Welch from Houston, Texas, posted a clip on TikTok that illustrates the racial tensions the US currently faces. In the video, the 18-year-old shares the unwritten rules his mom has instilled in him in order to stay safe.

“Don’t ride with the music too loud. Never leave the store without a receipt or a bag, even if it’s just a pack of gum.” It’s heartbreaking that someone needs such a list. We shouldn’t have to live like this.

Cameron’s TikTok immediately went viral. It has been viewed more than 10 million times and has received over 45,000 comments, most of which criticize the injustice in America.

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@skoodupcamJus some unwritten rules my mom makes me follow as a young black man ##fyp ##blacklivesmatter♬ original sound – marcappalott

“I made the video for more people to understand how my people feel day to day,” Welch told Bored Panda, adding that, “The attention I’m receiving is very positive [and I] love to see that I’m making a difference.”

The teen believes that our society has been at a standstill when it comes to racial discrimination for a very long time and now we are actually moving in the right direction.

And he has a point. Similar versions of The Talk have been around since the days when a black man could be lynched for “reckless eyeballing” and “bumptious contact,” or for simply refusing to step off a sidewalk when a white person approaches.

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Sadly, it shows that there’s something intrinsically wrong in the first place. Fred Robinson, a minister and father of three children, including one teenager said he too was taught to cooperate with cops. But he thinks The Talk has to change because, according to him, it puts the burden on black behavior. There isn’t a critique of the public or the authorities, it’s all about what black people are supposed to do.

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“It puts the focus on us rather than where it should be — on racism in the police department and the way black people are targeted,” Robinson told CNN. “We are Americans and we ought to have a right to have a bad day, to question a police officer or to question an order that doesn’t seem right.”

Welch expressed similar thoughts, too. “Our voices are heard but not felt by the people. We endure too much pain and hurt to just be heard — we need you to feel just a fragment of what my people feel on a day-to-day basis in order to get meaningful change. I believe if you felt the bottled-up emotions of silence that our country makes us hold in, then we can make real change, because not one race should ever feel this way,” he said.

Here’s what people said after watching the viral TikTok

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Charlotte A.
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4 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Just a little comment to those thinking these are "normal rules for all kids" - yes, they might be considered practical, normal rules. The difference is - black people fear being hurt or killed if they don't follow the rules. Us white ones? Sure we ought to wear proper clothing and all, but the police won't shoot us "by accident" if we fail to comply. (at least the risk is very much smaller, and that's a fact!)

Dilly Millandry
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4 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

The risk is also much, much smaller in countries where the police don't have guns as standard.

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deanna woods
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4 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

To those who are saying that these are rules for everyone: Not every race gets killed or beaten or detained for just being that race. My father had the police called on him for throwing newspapers. Can any of you say that happened to you? My sister and I almost had the police called on us at a gas station even though we paid for the gas. Did this happen to you. Please stop comparing experiences and just listen to us. Please. As much as you think you do, you don't understand.

Loki’s Lil Butter Knife
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4 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Deanna, I wish that your response could get upvoted to the top of this thread. Many of us are not from the US and are reading this article with a lot of cultural bias. I think that more people really need to be directed to your response.

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Oskar vanZandt
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4 years ago (edited) DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I think the main point of this young man's post is that the things his mother taught him may actually be a life or death situation for him... where the treatment he might receive as consequence would outstrip anything done to a white person in the exact same situation. It made me sad to hear how he has to censor his life in order to survive in society (in a system that is against him from the get-go). I was horrified to learn that George Floyd was unlawfully killed because of a possible fake $20 bill!

Daria B
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4 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Plus, as the respective shop owner mentioned, he might have not even been aware it was fake.

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Charlotte A.
Community Member
4 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Just a little comment to those thinking these are "normal rules for all kids" - yes, they might be considered practical, normal rules. The difference is - black people fear being hurt or killed if they don't follow the rules. Us white ones? Sure we ought to wear proper clothing and all, but the police won't shoot us "by accident" if we fail to comply. (at least the risk is very much smaller, and that's a fact!)

Dilly Millandry
Community Member
4 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

The risk is also much, much smaller in countries where the police don't have guns as standard.

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deanna woods
Community Member
4 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

To those who are saying that these are rules for everyone: Not every race gets killed or beaten or detained for just being that race. My father had the police called on him for throwing newspapers. Can any of you say that happened to you? My sister and I almost had the police called on us at a gas station even though we paid for the gas. Did this happen to you. Please stop comparing experiences and just listen to us. Please. As much as you think you do, you don't understand.

Loki’s Lil Butter Knife
Community Member
4 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Deanna, I wish that your response could get upvoted to the top of this thread. Many of us are not from the US and are reading this article with a lot of cultural bias. I think that more people really need to be directed to your response.

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Oskar vanZandt
Community Member
4 years ago (edited) DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I think the main point of this young man's post is that the things his mother taught him may actually be a life or death situation for him... where the treatment he might receive as consequence would outstrip anything done to a white person in the exact same situation. It made me sad to hear how he has to censor his life in order to survive in society (in a system that is against him from the get-go). I was horrified to learn that George Floyd was unlawfully killed because of a possible fake $20 bill!

Daria B
Community Member
4 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Plus, as the respective shop owner mentioned, he might have not even been aware it was fake.

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