to the people that are defending the bullies... not all bullies are also having a bad life, some people just like to hurt others, life isnt a dhar mann video...

I believe looks matter as a first impression for sure!! We are all attracted by the looks at first we can't help it cause we don't know anything about the other person! But wait until that extremely good looking person opens the mouth and says: "well, i don't really believe in vaccines and this staff"

Yeah, I don't really believe in karma. If there was karma, how come so many really good people get screwed?

Money may not buy happiness but it relieves a lot of the stresses that get in the way of happiness.

Toxic positivity diminishes the seriousness and weight of whatever your going through.

A positive attitude won't make anything better on its own, but it does help motivate you to do the things that will improve the situation as much as it can be improved... and if you despair you will do nothing. A positive attitude has value, which you'll never learn about from idiots who believe that positive thinking is magical.

That nurse is awesome. You don't have to fake anything make other feel better. But don't make yourself feel worse if you are struggling also mentally. I've seen people who survived cancer just to live rest of their lives literally being paralyzed because they didn't know what to do. They thought they won't survive and couldn't move any further, one I know is living 10 years like that. If you feel down and depressive you should get help, for noone else, just you, because you deserve the best you can get.

Okay hear me out. I think this is said for people (like me) who can actually get sick from thinking too much or stressing out or get anxious or depressed by the s**t going on in their lives. I’ve tried to change my attitude and seen a lot of change for the better. In that sense, yes, a positive attitude does help.

i dont have cancer but i do have epilepsy and bc of it i cant drive, i might not b able to have kids (thats still an unknown), its part of the reason i cant work and ive got more doctors and meds then i can keep up with. it ruined my life wen puberty triggered it at 13. everyone said to stay positive itll b ok. how can a girl with anxeity finding out she now has epilepsy stay positive all it did was make me more anxious and cause temporary depression. i tried the positive attitude thing but it never helped me with my situation all it did was cover up how i was really feeling. having a positive attitude wen u take a test, have a sports game, school play, job interview, 1st day on the job etc thats wen a positive attitude can help. saying stay positive to someone with a medical condition with no cure or a medical condition that leaves u taking a med cocktail ur whole life ya no. i wish i could go back to having my epilepsy dormant and nonactive but no medication can make that happen and as far as i kno there is no cure for it either. normal life isnt something i get to enjoy so positive attitude wont help as long as i kno that.

i think the positive thinking is about being sick and crying about will not help you recover faster either, being sick and trying to live your life as well as posible on the other side will dampen that feeling bad about being sick ... (recovering after 2 broken hands and living alone here, week 9)

My mom doesn't say this, but she does say that complaining doesn't accomplish anything and she's right.

"yeah just be happy and the tumour will jump right off and hop onto a depressed person"

Yeah. I found it really weird when I was in cancer treatment too. It felt like the message was if I don't get better it might be my fault for not having a good enough attitude.

faking positivity is emotionally and mentally draining, which will make you feel worse in the long run.

I'll take positivity over negativity every time. Clearly you don't tell a cancer patient to cheer up!, thats simple common sense. Negativity has never been a good outlook, ever.

Proper response to positive attitude is "It's not my job to make you feel better about my illness."

As someone living with disability and chronic illness, I can tell you that having a positive attitude may not make you physically better, but dwelling on misery and being grumpy and bitchy sure doesn't either. Acknowledge that life is crap right now, then find something to enjoy in life anyway - listen to music, watch a movie, ask for a hug. It won't magically make everything better, but it can make right now a little more endurable.

Had a doctor tell me I had a chronic illness and to shut up and live with it. I asked him if it was okay if I broke both his legs and told him to walk it off.

A positive attitude can help with everyday things. Cancer is something no-one wants to have. You simply want to be cancer-free for an entire lifetime. A positive attitude can at best contribute to mentally dealing with it, but in the end you just want to get rid of cancer and go back to normal life. Attitude has little influence on that.

And you can be happy without that someone

Universe: hold my beer!

Well done, you should be proud.

A person telling "their truth" us just as fallible as anyone and as likely to misjudge situation. These woke kids who believe anyone who "speaks their truth" will have a lot to unlearn.

Ugh. I hate this one so much. Same as “it’s gods plan” Like it was Gods plan for children to be molested? Or Oopsie, His bad, the Holocaust didn’t go as planned? What is the reason for horrible things to happen to innocent lives?

This is so me. I just want more than 3 hours of uninterrupted sleep at night. Brain, please, just stop and let me sleep!

There were days when they were younger and more idealistic and had fewer responsibilities. Good ole days are unique and personal and can never be returned to.

"If the punishment is a fine, it's legal for rich people"

Religion is both the reason and the excuse for just about every war that has been fought.

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Well f**k... I already think I'm stupid

I have encountered SO many people old enough to be my mum or dad but who act like they're thirteen.

It got better for me! Never to the point of being rich and beautiful or famous or anything, but some good thing have happened for me. And I gave *made* other good things happen.

If that were truly the case civilisation would not have survived. The margin may be small, but on balance more people have to be altruistic in order for society to function. Yes, everyone is selfish, but that doesn't mean everyone is unkind. If everyone, *everyone* you meet is unkind, either you are (sub) consciously only remembering the unkind and forgetting the kind, or at worst neutral, OR the common factor is you.

The thruth is that most pwople dont even make the effort or want to help. Most dont want to be around unsuccessful, ill or depresed people because they get uncomfortable. They shut us up with toxic positivity (you have so many options, others have it worse), indiference, attacks (you are being too begative) or they simply leave you

No it doesn't. I'm so glad for the uprise of workers not just settling. We need to remember to work to live, not live to work.

So sad and so true.

Doing your best=somewhere better than where you're at now, even if it's just by 0.001%*

But there's a gorge between "can" and "will".

Oh man, I'm sorry for your losses, OP.

Its not romanticized, its feeling like you actually did something because other wise you could be jerking off at home and not sitting at work doing nothing

But I still enjoy the fantasy, even though I know thats not how real life works.

It was never about "them." It was always about "you." Don't worry about "them"

Yep-usually that on coming train.