“It Gets Better”: 30 Lies People In This Online Group Convinced Themselves To Believe In To Feel Better About Life

Unfortunately (or not), life isn't always rainbows and butterflies. Being alive inevitably means getting used to stuff not turning out quite the way we planned, misfortune happening for no particular reason, losing loved ones, getting lost, and plenty of other things most of us aren't that thrilled about. However, that "getting used to" and accepting reality for what it is has its challenges.

Recently, Reddit user mynameisnotbecky1 asked fellow community members "What is an untruth people tell themselves to feel better about life or the world they live in?" The post received quite a bit of attention and, as of now, has over 13k answers and almost 30k upvotes. With that being said, Bored Panda invites you to look through some of the best comments we managed to find.

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"It Gets Better": 30 Lies People In This Online Group Convinced Themselves To Believe In To Feel Better About Life There's a few but the main one I tell myself if that the people who hurt me are also hurting. As a kid I thought people bullied each other because their lives sucked, and then I realized my life also sucked and I didn't treat other people like that so what was their excuse

dumpsterfire1998 , Henry Burrows Report

Final score:

187points

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moon 3 years ago

to the people that are defending the bullies... not all bullies are also having a bad life, some people just like to hurt others, life isnt a dhar mann video...

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"It Gets Better": 30 Lies People In This Online Group Convinced Themselves To Believe In To Feel Better About Life "looks don't matter"

I've noticed that this is generally said by attractive people, and people who have never struggled in dating

RadiantHC , Alex W Report

Final score:

178points

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Vicky Z 3 years ago

I believe looks matter as a first impression for sure!! We are all attracted by the looks at first we can't help it cause we don't know anything about the other person! But wait until that extremely good looking person opens the mouth and says: "well, i don't really believe in vaccines and this staff"

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"It Gets Better": 30 Lies People In This Online Group Convinced Themselves To Believe In To Feel Better About Life People always get what's coming to them.

The reality is that sometimes the people who tormented you all those years ago are likely living pretty good lives.

yeetgodmcnechass , Frederick Dennstedt Report

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157points

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Kookamunga 3 years ago

Yeah, I don't really believe in karma. If there was karma, how come so many really good people get screwed?

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"It Gets Better": 30 Lies People In This Online Group Convinced Themselves To Believe In To Feel Better About Life Money can’t buy happiness.

Don’t have a house, job, and are starving? Don’t worry, just because you’re poor, doesn’t mean that having a mansion, 5 course meals, or a six digit salary will make you happier!

Dark_Wolf04 , Casey Fleser Report

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147points

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Libstak 3 years ago

Money may not buy happiness but it relieves a lot of the stresses that get in the way of happiness.

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"It Gets Better": 30 Lies People In This Online Group Convinced Themselves To Believe In To Feel Better About Life A positive attitude will make you physically better. As a chick with cancer, I get the “just have the positive attitude” advice a lot … which always irked me. No one who feels like c**p wants to fake a positive mindset to make others feel better. My fave response to someone telling me that (again) was actually from a nurse in the room who said: “Please! I’m seen a whole lot of true b****es survive cancer.” That nurse is forever my hero.

KATinWOLF , Alejandro Forero Cuervo Report

Final score:

147points

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LaGitanaTriste 3 years ago

Toxic positivity diminishes the seriousness and weight of whatever your going through.

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"It Gets Better": 30 Lies People In This Online Group Convinced Themselves To Believe In To Feel Better About Life There is someone out there for everyone. Not everyone finds their partner, there is no rule love must follow.

Barbicore , Kevin Dooley Report

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121points

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Aroace tiger (any pronouns) 3 years ago

And you can be happy without that someone

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"It Gets Better": 30 Lies People In This Online Group Convinced Themselves To Believe In To Feel Better About Life "If I only get this over with , everything is going to be easy!"

Life never runs out of waves to shake you. But while it isn't easy, you do learn to surf better.

charlie_wonka , chenutis Report

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119points

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Vicky Z 3 years ago

Universe: hold my beer!

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"It Gets Better": 30 Lies People In This Online Group Convinced Themselves To Believe In To Feel Better About Life Im not an alcoholic , it's not an addiction i can stop whenever i want .. it's just party , birthday, Wednesday or whatever i earned this one and next one !

being like that for 22 years, coming from heavily alcoholic home , sobered up few years ago and it was by far best decision of my life !

thekrecik , mojoaxel Report

Final score:

118points

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Libstak 3 years ago

Well done, you should be proud.

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"It Gets Better": 30 Lies People In This Online Group Convinced Themselves To Believe In To Feel Better About Life "I am going to tell/live MY truth." Your truth is just an excuse for your actions just or not. It's not the objective truth.

madevilfish , MissMessie Report

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106points

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Otter 3 years ago

A person telling "their truth" us just as fallible as anyone and as likely to misjudge situation. These woke kids who believe anyone who "speaks their truth" will have a lot to unlearn.

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#10

"It Gets Better": 30 Lies People In This Online Group Convinced Themselves To Believe In To Feel Better About Life Everything happens for a reason

Glittering-Ship1910 , Presidencia de la República Mexicana Report

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104points

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LaGitanaTriste 3 years ago

Ugh. I hate this one so much. Same as “it’s gods plan” Like it was Gods plan for children to be molested? Or Oopsie, His bad, the Holocaust didn’t go as planned? What is the reason for horrible things to happen to innocent lives?

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#11

"It Gets Better": 30 Lies People In This Online Group Convinced Themselves To Believe In To Feel Better About Life “If I fall asleep right now I’ll get X-hours of sleep.”

You’re gonna be awake for a while, honey.

PM_ME_UR_LAST_DREAM , TCL8TO7 Report

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99points

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Tweetysvoice 3 years ago

This is so me. I just want more than 3 hours of uninterrupted sleep at night. Brain, please, just stop and let me sleep!

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#12

"It Gets Better": 30 Lies People In This Online Group Convinced Themselves To Believe In To Feel Better About Life That there used to be "The good ole days" when in fact there never was.

warlordwinters , University of Essex Report

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94points

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NsG 3 years ago

There were days when they were younger and more idealistic and had fewer responsibilities. Good ole days are unique and personal and can never be returned to.

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#13

"It Gets Better": 30 Lies People In This Online Group Convinced Themselves To Believe In To Feel Better About Life Crime doesn’t pay. I know someone that embezzled over $1 million and got probation and has to pay back less than 10% restitution

ATXdadof4 , Tim Brennan Report

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88points

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Thorfin Wolfsbane 3 years ago

"If the punishment is a fine, it's legal for rich people"

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#14

"It Gets Better": 30 Lies People In This Online Group Convinced Themselves To Believe In To Feel Better About Life Religion does more good than bad

PositivityCentral , Francisco Anzola Report

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84points

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Tweetysvoice 3 years ago

Religion is both the reason and the excuse for just about every war that has been fought.

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#15

"It Gets Better": 30 Lies People In This Online Group Convinced Themselves To Believe In To Feel Better About Life The government would never lie about ______.

HealthyMmm , ThatMakesThree Report

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81points

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Valerie G. 3 years ago (edited)

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#16

"It Gets Better": 30 Lies People In This Online Group Convinced Themselves To Believe In To Feel Better About Life I believe that every single person (me included) think that they are a bit smarter than what they truly are.

CartWader , Pedro Ribeiro Simões Report

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78points

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Aroace tiger (any pronouns) 3 years ago

Well f**k... I already think I'm stupid

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#17

"It Gets Better": 30 Lies People In This Online Group Convinced Themselves To Believe In To Feel Better About Life Wisdom comes with age.

Scallywagstv2 , Pieter De Praetere Report

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71points

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Katie Lutesinger 3 years ago

I have encountered SO many people old enough to be my mum or dad but who act like they're thirteen.

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#18

"It Gets Better": 30 Lies People In This Online Group Convinced Themselves To Believe In To Feel Better About Life It gets better.

10 years later and you still tell yourself that.

ShawnWilson000 , Jessie Pearl Report

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67points

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Otter 3 years ago

It got better for me! Never to the point of being rich and beautiful or famous or anything, but some good thing have happened for me. And I gave *made* other good things happen.

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#19

"It Gets Better": 30 Lies People In This Online Group Convinced Themselves To Believe In To Feel Better About Life That the majority of people have a good soul and a good heart.

I tell myself this all the time. I’m constantly proven wrong. In reality, the majority of people are selfish and unkind, especially when it comes to other people.

Retrosonic82 , DVIDSHUB Report

Final score:

67points

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NsG 3 years ago

If that were truly the case civilisation would not have survived. The margin may be small, but on balance more people have to be altruistic in order for society to function. Yes, everyone is selfish, but that doesn't mean everyone is unkind. If everyone, *everyone* you meet is unkind, either you are (sub) consciously only remembering the unkind and forgetting the kind, or at worst neutral, OR the common factor is you.

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#20

"It Gets Better": 30 Lies People In This Online Group Convinced Themselves To Believe In To Feel Better About Life I just saw Dear Evan Hansen. It's way off base when it comes to mental illness and personality disorders, but it comes as no surprise that it was such a hit on Broadway. It leans heavily on all the myths people want to believe. The truth is that reaching out to your family or friends often doesn't help because they have no idea how to help you or might even be partly responsible for your trauma. For some people, depression and anxiety are intractable even with the best possible treatment. Some people are constitutionally incapable of empathy and will always harm those around them

j0m1n1n , Paul Schultz Report

Final score:

62points

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Ozacoter 3 years ago

The thruth is that most pwople dont even make the effort or want to help. Most dont want to be around unsuccessful, ill or depresed people because they get uncomfortable. They shut us up with toxic positivity (you have so many options, others have it worse), indiference, attacks (you are being too begative) or they simply leave you

16points

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#21

"It Gets Better": 30 Lies People In This Online Group Convinced Themselves To Believe In To Feel Better About Life If you just work hard it’ll all work out in end

SlimWorthy , Rosewoman Report

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60points

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Tweetysvoice 3 years ago

No it doesn't. I'm so glad for the uprise of workers not just settling. We need to remember to work to live, not live to work.

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#22

"It Gets Better": 30 Lies People In This Online Group Convinced Themselves To Believe In To Feel Better About Life That the good times we have now --cheap and available gasoline, food in abundance, even pleasant weather-- can continue indefinitely. We will run out of Nitrogen for crop growth, we will exhaust the available crude oil, climate change will catch up with us. Our grandkids will not have the plentiful resources we have enjoyed for decades, period.

milescowperthwaite , Alison Day Report

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58points

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Rconn 3 years ago

So sad and so true.

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#23

"It Gets Better": 30 Lies People In This Online Group Convinced Themselves To Believe In To Feel Better About Life For adults specifically: doing your best = success. Don’t get me wrong, doing your best is something to be proud of, but doing your best without preparation/dedication/practice leads to nowhere

bowlingforbats , melanie m Report

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56points

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Mohammad Ammar 3 years ago

Doing your best=somewhere better than where you're at now, even if it's just by 0.001%*

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#24

"It Gets Better": 30 Lies People In This Online Group Convinced Themselves To Believe In To Feel Better About Life Police can protect me.

DayVCrockett , ICMA Photos Report

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46points

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Theoretical Empiricist 3 years ago

But there's a gorge between "can" and "will".

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#25

"It Gets Better": 30 Lies People In This Online Group Convinced Themselves To Believe In To Feel Better About Life I live for my loved ones. I lost my wife during childbirth and 4 months later my daughter passed away from a heart condition that was inoperable

ThatOneWildWolf , Cristian Ungureanu Report

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43points

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Susie Elle 3 years ago

Oh man, I'm sorry for your losses, OP.

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#26

"It Gets Better": 30 Lies People In This Online Group Convinced Themselves To Believe In To Feel Better About Life People who romanticize being busy at work

justheretoscroll_ , UNclimatechange Report

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39points

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Requiem 3 years ago

Its not romanticized, its feeling like you actually did something because other wise you could be jerking off at home and not sitting at work doing nothing

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#27

"It Gets Better": 30 Lies People In This Online Group Convinced Themselves To Believe In To Feel Better About Life For kids, good heroes always wins. When you grow up, its just a fantasy.

DarkVoid_666 , Olga/ Олька Report

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39points

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Otter 3 years ago

But I still enjoy the fantasy, even though I know thats not how real life works.

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#28

"It Gets Better": 30 Lies People In This Online Group Convinced Themselves To Believe In To Feel Better About Life That the world is just. Karma is a b***h. What’s coming to them. Etc.

VividTangerine , Bluedevil266 Report

Final score:

38points

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Loty 3 years ago

It was never about "them." It was always about "you." Don't worry about "them"

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#29

"It Gets Better": 30 Lies People In This Online Group Convinced Themselves To Believe In To Feel Better About Life “There is light at the end of the tunnel”. Life is the journey inside that tunnel. Sometimes that journey gets hard, other times it gets easier, but we will never reach that light. The idea of a perfect place does not exist, because life itself is not perfect as we always have something to complain about.

qwerkykev , Jarle Refsnes Report

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36points

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R Carson 3 years ago

Yep-usually that on coming train.

19points

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#30

"It Gets Better": 30 Lies People In This Online Group Convinced Themselves To Believe In To Feel Better About Life God has a plan

D00fenshmirtzEvilInc , Pedro Ribeiro Simões Report

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27points

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Scagsy 3 years ago

God does have a plan. In fact, he's in a meeting right now with Santa Claus, Batman and Bigfoot devising his 2022 strategies.

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#31

"It Gets Better": 30 Lies People In This Online Group Convinced Themselves To Believe In To Feel Better About Life That they're more unique than they are similar to everyone else.

No. No. No. You're a typical human being. Nice try Karen.

LowerCanary , Bernard Goldbach Report

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14points

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Bee / she/her 3 years ago

Everyone is unique. That doesn't make them special or eligible for some sort of special treatment.

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#32

"It Gets Better": 30 Lies People In This Online Group Convinced Themselves To Believe In To Feel Better About Life They tell themselves:

"It doesn't matter what others think of you. Just be yourself, lead your life the way you wish - things have a way of working out."

Back2Bach , Kevin Dooley Report

Final score:

9points

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Vicky Z 3 years ago

Actually the moment you stop caring about what others think, you become happier i believe

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#33

"It Gets Better": 30 Lies People In This Online Group Convinced Themselves To Believe In To Feel Better About Life That they could have been a world beater in a sport if they hadn't found alcohol/drugs/search etc.. the discipline is what separates most of us, unless you have a huge support network to keep you on track it's self discipline and ambition which drives people to be world class. But its easier to blame other things than yourself

Jimi1454 , Tom Mullen Photography Report

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9points

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Otter 3 years ago

The main things that make a great athlete are inborn ability, sheer determination to win, and being freed from the everyday responsibility that use up most of our time.

6points

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"It Gets Better": 30 Lies People In This Online Group Convinced Themselves To Believe In To Feel Better About Life "Time I enjoyed wasting was not time wasted."

Aureliusmind , David Davies Report

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8points

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OoNijNoO 3 years ago

Well you weren't really wasting you're time in the first place then amiright?

12points

OoNijNoO 3 years ago

*Your

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El muerto 3 years ago

sometimes thing you though were important, show themselves to be waste of time...what is important is something we learn afterwards

5points

Bee / she/her 3 years ago

We're not machines; not all time away from work and productivity is wasted.

3points

Otter 3 years ago

Thats another thing that is sometimes true.

2points

MyOpinionHasBeenServed 3 years ago

People who take time that seriously, where they think about how they're being productive and only doing what they want to do every second of the day, are in a losing battle.

1point

Nikole 3 years ago

Who would downvote this?

0points

Bee / she/her 3 years ago

People like me who disagree; this is often true

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What do you think ?

Save the best for last. You might end up filling up your stomach or depleting your energy to the limit before you get to your favourite thing.

4points

Memere 3 years ago

Have dessert first sometimes!

Natalie Oleander 3 years ago

Exactly. Do the favorite things first...within reason, of course. You still have to adult.

GaeFrog 3 years ago

Yeah and your least favorite stuff might clash with the best so it might be better to start off with a fresh palette so you enjoy the best even more

Huddo's sister 2 years ago

Save the best to last and drop it in the dirt was a common saying in my house, which sounds as if it means the opposite. I always eat the part I eat least though, so the lingering taste is the best one. (That's how I decided to eat the crust first, and still do).

Gabby M 3 years ago (edited)

Good things come to those who wait. Or that if something's not working out right now, it's because something better is in the works for you. Didn't get the job you really wanted? Something better is coming along! Didn't work out with your partner? Something better is coming along! There are no guarantees in life. Sometimes things work out the way you want them to, and sometimes they don't. There's peace in accepting that.

Jo Choto 3 years ago

Everybody wants to feel good about themselves and their lives and it can be really hard. I think younger people are really self-critical and hard on themselves and that makes me sad. They are living in one of the most economically and politically challenging worlds we've ever had and a lot of older people do nothing but piss on them. Celebrate all your small wins and small achievements. Start there. Brushed your hair today? Tick. Showered? Tick. Cleaned teeth? Tick. Said something nice to another human being? Tick. Finished a chore. Tick. Paid a bill. Tick. Faced a messy cupboard and sorted part of it. Tick. Did something nice for yourself. Tick. This stuff REALLY matters and you can love on yourself regardless of what anyone else thinks.

Laura 3 years ago

Oh what about "I don't hold any grudge against my ex, I wish him the best" while internally you're wishing his penis catches a disease and falls into chunks? 😂😂😂 Applicable to female ex with obvious substitutions.

Ben Smith 3 years ago

So many sad, negative people in this post.

BorPand8 3 years ago

Yes, the emo is strong with this one.

COLA 3 years ago

In conclusion: being human is weird... It's sad that we grew to be a cynical person

First Name Last Name 3 years ago

#1 "If I post on reddit I will be automatically smart and socially relevant."

Sarah Kathrin Matsoukis 3 years ago

Obese people me they're happy wth their weight/looks. I'm not, I was never, it sucks on every level and I don't believe you. Change is just too hard for you.

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Evil Little Thing 3 years ago

They deserve that money. Their loved one was murdered by a (so-called) public servant on camera. We *all* watched him die. We *all* are a part of the system that allowed it to happen. We f*****g owe them something that cannot ever be repaid.

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