I'm sorry, but "that country"? What country do you think this took place in? If you're going to say "America" (or really any specific country), I'd like to pull out the many articles I can find on a quick Google search of all the creepy stalker dudes assaulting/stalking/raping/murdering/etc women in YOUR country. Creepy pervert stalkers are NOT endemic to only one country.

I as well would like to know what singular country all of these collective posts are from. Please enlightened us, Nitka.

Are you serious 😭 😭 You are SO lucky in my opinion; I don’t know anyone (AFAB) who hasn’t experienced this. I’ve lived in so many countries (travelling parents) and it doesn’t matter where you go, there’s creeps everywhere. Maybe because I’m a an abuse victim there’s some vibe that attracts predators but ever since I (and my sisters) were kids this s**t happens. I got followed around the grocery store last week in my current relatively small town.

Someone has loved a sheltered life apparently

I once had a guy go full stalker because I drove him to a hospital after his appendix burst during a dinner party at my house. Somehow in his twisted head that meant I loved him as opposed to me not wanting him dead in my living room.

Nitka, consider yourself lucky. I have experienced $hit like that for most of my adolescent life and well into my 40s. At 11 years old, a friend told my dad that if I was just a little older, he would date me. I was ELEVEN.

Weird, I'm a 40 year old woman who realized I can't just be nice to men, can't compliment them or joke around without them thinking I'm into them. At work. And I'm not even particularly friendly or chatty. I get phone numbers marriage proposals and creepy date offers just for doing my job and it's soooo awkward and occasionally scary.

oh yes unfortunately. there are ...and more than you can think of and now they even have a name : incels

Judging from your quotemarks I'm guessing you're in germany? Anyway. I took the liberty of googling using google-fu™ and could not find cross-country comparisons on stalking EXCEPT one article from malaysia which seemed to show that english-speaking people are more likely to report stalking. That's all.

Girl, entitled men at that level are in EVERY country

You are lucky. I can't tell you how many times stuff like this has happened to me. Thankfully I'm old and frumpy now, and the difference in the ability to go about my life unbothered is amazing.

Lucky you

Most aren't these, I think ... but there seem to be a lot of creepos and sickos out there who a. don't believe in friendship outside of their own gender and b. are horny af, due to not having that much success claiming they were "lead on" after someone told them what time it is or if the bus already departed or so. I mean, the word "hey, let's play some adult games after Uni, alright?" actually DO sound different than "I've heard your speech about variable valvetrains, and am interested in writing an assignment on that topic - it seems like you might fill me in?" - both sentences I've heard while in uni ... both required a vastly different answer ... the one asking the second I found a lot more interesting, but never had any intention of effing with her whatsoever ... I'm pretty sure she was a closeted lesbian anyway. But then, again, I've heard dudes flexing about how they get "hit on" like 20 times a day by various "chicks", and the kind of broad standard by which they seem to measure if or not they're being led on, hit on, whateveron may have an influence in this, as the actual number of such requests I could witness was exactly one, while for that day and the walk with me alone, he claimed having had at least 5 "minor chances". Those consisted of a dialogue that went like "Hi, Elisa, 's'it going?" - "Well enough, Paul, yourself?" - "Fine, see ya!". If THAT is what already is seen as "hitting on a guy", I can't even think about which letters to LGBTQ are to add for me alone after I go buy a bread at the bakery or so. I mean, I might meet the post deliverist, and this deliverist may be female, and we may say, like, "Good Morning, something for me?", and then she'd give me stuff. Or he, obviousestly hittingest on me'est, thereby, ... what else could he mean? What else could she mean? - actually easy, but people tend to be, kind of, brokenminded.

I live in Canada and I've experienced garbage like this more often than I can count. Being just myself (friendly) seems to be an invitation for a lot of guys to assume things about the interactions. I will say, not every man, but enough for there to be a problem. I don't flirt either, I'm bad at it, I'm just "too nice" apparently. lol (edited because I made a spelling error)

Unfortunately, and as a male and I don't why, but an awful lot of men are like this. I have met them and I am friends with some of them. Maybe they have just not evolved as far of the rest of us, or maybe they were not properly socialized in their upbringing.

You've been lucky, Hon. Congrats. Please have empathy for those with less good fortune. It helps w/ the PTSD to be able to finally talk about it.

Sadly, in America, yes. There was this one guy who started an active shooting over the fact he didn't find love. He was super delusional. Look up Elliot Rodger, Wikipedia should give you what you need.

Nitka Tsar, where do you live, I want to move to your country?!

I've had male friends and acquiantances all my life, right from junior school to now, aged 55. I've met some I'd rather not hang out with, and one or two who were creepy. The vast majority - in shops, businessess, at work - they've just been human beings that interact normally. If I happen to be out after dark, I'm alert to my surroundings and avoid unlit places if I'm on my own, but I don't live in fear of random men. I know bad s**t does happen, and women are victims of crime. Life is not blissful for all. But it's a minority of men who think like the one in this text exchange.

Which country again? And there are so many people In this world, and these stalkers get so much attention it can make it seem like a majority, whether it is or not. I'm sure you don't know everyone in your country to say whether or not they're stalkers, and likely not even everyone in your city. If you still have troubles believing it, there is always the possibility that they are simply not reported

"Our men"? What the...

*that you know of. It may just be that you aren't hearing their internal dialogue or what they may be saying about you behind your back. Don't get me wrong, not all men are like this. These are more drastic examples. But keep in mind that every crazy one we have that posts something publicly that we can point out, there are probably 10 that you don't ever see on social media. Some men are perfectly wonderful and normal but there are definitely a lot that think of women as just a means to sex and don't understand why women do not feel the same way. Sometimes just the way they talk when they're trying to impress you... they think talking about their penises or sexual prowess is the way to do that because that's what turns them on and they assume that it's the same way for women when 99% of the time it isn't.

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Your all acting like theirs no nice guys, there definitely are

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