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Modern society is gradually blurring the lines between things that used to be considered strictly "masculine" or "feminine", both in the professional and personal spheres. What was taken for granted half a century ago is now certainly being criticized and rethought.
We must say that men still remain more conservative in this regard: while enjoying something "typically masculine" for a modern woman is really cool and always worthy of support, many men still perceive "typically feminine" activities as guilty pleasures. But the situation is gradually improving.
One day a thread appeared in the AskReddit community, where the topic starter asked: "Men of reddit, what's something you enjoy that's considered unmasculine?" The thread collected nearly 1.2K upvotes and over 2K different comments, where men revealed their most diverse activities and hobbies. We have to admit that it turned out very interesting and really informative.
Bored Panda made a list of the most popular and original answers from this thread for you, so feel free to scroll to the end of this compilation. And if you are a man and you did not find your hobby in this list, perhaps you will share it with us as we highly appreciate this.
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#1
My girlfriend regularly buys me a women's shower gel called "snow fairy", a pink product that smells *amazing*. She knows it's my guilty pleasure and I don't care that I'm a tall, burly guy in the army.
Nobody messes with my snow fairy.
Kathryn Baylis 2 years ago (edited)
My husband, also a big burly manly man, has a similar “guilty pleasure”. He likes to soak in a hot bath, using the sweetest smelling bubble bath he can find. He. Does. NOT. Care. What. Anybody. Thinks. About. It. See, he injured his back when he was in his twenties, and in his forties it started to really ache if he overdid it. He soaks in the hot baths to soothe his aching back, so if he also wants to smell flowers/citrus/vanilla while doing it, that’s a privilege I wouldn’t dream of taking from a good, loving, hardworking man like him. Besides, it makes the bathroom smell good for me too!
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#2
Cats. Cats are the greatest things in the world because they're like tiny, stupid people.
#3
Cooking, baking, gardening.
I'm a 33 year old punk rocker.
#4
Flowers. Flowers are f*****g pretty and if anyone has a problem with that then may god have mercy on their souls.
#5
*Cuddling*. That's what I like even though I look like a Mountain of Pure Testosterone and Anger. Sometimes the Meanest looking Men have the kindest of Hearts.
#6
I cut down trees, I eat my lunch
I go to the lavatory
On Wednesdays I go shopping and have buttered scones for tea
#7
Crying when I'm sad.
Danny Eglen 2 years ago
My dad was the president of the local biker gang when I was a kid and it was him and his 'brothers' that taught me it was ok to cry. Big, Burly, ba dass bikers but they were sensible, well rounded dudes!
#8
Baking, its science you can eat!
#9
Just deeply caring for people. Men usually are portrayed as not caring at all but I definitely do.
Emerald Ocean 2 years ago
This one is just sad that stereotypes portray men as how they can’t care about others
#10
I know how to sew and draft sewing patterns. But everything I make is badass. I work in a machine shop and the guys love seeing the stuff I make. Hoping I can make something for my GF soon.
#11
I like french braiding hair. It's unfortunate that I have no daughters. And it's a little creepy for a 39 year old guy to offer that to people, so I haven't do it in a long time.
#12
I let my wife fight my battles on the phone with insurance companies, medical billers, vendors, banks, credit cards, whatever. She does it for work as a biller herself and she relishes going into combat with those people.
Chris berkley 2 years ago
My husband is the same way lol he will start the call and if it goes pleasant, then awesome, the second anyone starts being rude his exact quote is" well I was trying to be pleasant, but now you have to deal with my husband...I am truly sorry" and then I take over haha
#13
Actually loving things, embracing physical contact, and treating everything with care and respect.
Emerald Ocean 2 years ago
This should be normalized! I hate our world sometimes and how stereotypical we’ve made it that a gender can’t show care!
#14
It's been a while, but I used to really like to crochet.
#15
Taking a long hot bath. Especially in the winter after going to the gym, coming home and just relaxing in it is honestly one of the best feelings in the world.
DennyS (denzoren) 2 years ago
Lol nice (also kinda sounds like drugs lol)
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Nathaniel 2 years ago
A couple of frosty bottles of lager in an ice bucket and a book to read in the bath. Fantastic.
Carrie de Luka 2 years ago
Yep! Though how many times have you dropped the book? Some of mine ended up drying in the airing cupboard. I own a few books now with wiggly pages. Oh, and don't ever have crisps... those things dropped in the bath are a nightmare. Why yes, I am clumsy! Whatever made you think of that? 😬
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Segovax the Pict 2 years ago
I love taking hot bath in the winter, settle in with a good book and a nice beer, heaven.
Philly Bob Squires 2 years ago
Oh hell yeah! I absolutely LOVE my bubble tub! For hours sometimes! (I fall asleep in it!)
Daniel Mattock 2 years ago
A bath with a glass of red and something on Netflix is never a bad time
Lazy Panda (she/her/hers) 2 years ago
Social conditioning about gender norms is so strong that half of humanity have been convinced that they shouldn't like sitting in warm water. That's some serious brainwashing.
Marissa Taylor 2 years ago
I love taking baths. Especially with essential oils infused epson salt. My muscles are sore so this helps
Marilyn Russell 2 years ago
For some reason, I can’t picture men having relaxing bubble baths.
TrippyBanana 2 years ago
I would love a deep bath like that once lived in a house that has a jacuzzi tub, honestly the best relaxation time of my life.
Zack Podany 2 years ago
I miss being able to do this. I live with my grandmother and take care of her, and she had to replace the tub with a walk-in. I SO miss my baths!
LayDiva in the Zone 2 years ago
My boyfriend takes baths all the time. He loves eucalyptus Epsom salt, so I buy it for him to soak in after work. Nothing wrong with that!
$cagsy 2 years ago
Interesting. I like a nice long bath. I always take a book in so I can demolish a few chapters. The thing is, and maybe it's just me, but I don't feel as if baths are designed for men. I hop in and sit down and my knees are stuck up out of the water. So I stick my feet on the edge of the bath and now my knees AND my feet are stuck up out of the water. There seems to be no way of wetting my knees in a bath (it's on my bucket list). Anyhow, I read for a bit and then my elbows hurt because the bath is too narrow. So I rather crossly, get out of the bath and have a shower instead. I'm not huge btw, I'm 189cm tall and around 115kg. It can't just be me. Surely.
#16
I wear makeup sometimes. I understand now why women say they wear it for themselves and not for other people.
sakura wolfee 2 years ago
Makeup is an art 🤌🤌 it's makes you feel good and gives you confidence
#18
Flowers, cleaning my entire apartment and lighting candles, singing and dancing, and outwardly showing love and concern for people around me. Everyone says they want to be known that they're loved before they die, then act so weird when a guy says they do.
#19
i like using those little puff ball things to shower and like the flowery pretty smelling soaps over the typical ones sold to man. I like vanilla lilac and almost breeze over diesel bear engine, tornado fist explosion, and bulsa wood smells/flavors
#20
Women's hair. I can layer/texture and blend. I can do 2 tone/free hand color however you want/however you want/across a spectrum of ombre to balyage.
Jennifer Norton 2 years ago
My husband cuts my hair and the hair of our daughters. He even does their hair sometimes, especially our oldest who is special needs. He really loves the bonding time with the girls.
#21
I don't know exactly what it is but my SO has bath stuff that makes the water kind of milky and smooth. I used it once. Would definitely use it again if the mood struck. Made my beard crazy soft, like a super conditioner.
#22
First of, thanks for this question. I feel like it's an important one for men to read the answers to.
Now for my own answers:
I love when people play with my hair. It was one of the reasons I grew it out back when.
I'm very keen on physical contact (with permission of course), like hugging, people touching my shoulder while talking to me or vice versa...
Crying during emotional scenes in movies
Remi (He/Him) 2 years ago
I think this one is very deep in our biology. My bf loves getting scrithes and so do I until I reach my sensory input limit, but sometimes I think we're just two old monkeys sitting on a sofa and scratching each other's backs
#24
Jewelry, hair care, poetry, and I can't see a puppy without making a scene.
Emerald Ocean 2 years ago
I love jewelry too! Hygiene is important and shouldn’t be ridiculed. And you’d be just cruel to see a puppy and not fall in lone instantly!
#26
Looking after my skin, my favourite part of the day is cleaning my face- exfoliating and then moisturising.
Alan Watkiss 2 years ago
I make sure to look after my hands, I've had ex girlfriends say it's very "gay" of me to do so. What's wrong with having nice skin......
#27
Having stuffed animals. They're so cute. I also use them instead of pillows and they are much more conforming to your head and neck than a block of fluff. I also decorate my place with them as pets are not allowed where I'm staying.
Miss Frankfurter 2 years ago
My best friend’s husband is such a big guy his nickname is Magilla (as in old cartoon Magilla Gorilla). When they were a thing, he loved Bernie Babies. Went out of his way to get collectible ones. Had them on the dashboard of his truck.
#28
I enjoy chick flicks. Not all the time but they're usually worth the watch. I've probably watched The Ugly Truth five times haha
#29
Talking articulately about feelings. Also, related, talking with people where the point is to get to know someone and develop a bond with them, rather than to exchange factual information to get a task done. And yes, I'm aware that the latter does create real bonds between people, and can be an awesome solution for men who are not comfortable talking about their feelings. But I prefer to skip this "pretend we're actually only getting together to do stuff" part and cut right to the getting personal part.
#30
If i see a cute animal when others are around, i try my hardest not to have my usual reaction... I feel like people would laugh... I brows both r/aww and r/eyebleach
Im also knitting a scarf
#31
Talking about my feelings, It took a bit to be able to do it but now I can have conversations with my friends a majority of them being girls about how I feel about things or how I am doing mentally. So many guys don't understand the benefit of just venting away frustrations, ever since my bros and I have been having deep psychological discussions about how we feel we have changed so much. we are more responsible and level headed and we know that our plans our big and that it is taxing mentally and that sometimes all you need is a hug and a good talk.
Emerald Ocean 2 years ago
I get it! I’m a gal, but I’m super shy so it took awhile for me to vent to others. It’s helped a ton!
#32
Leggings. Not only are they comfortable as a mother f****r, but they come in awesome colors and patterns. Plus, different durability quality. Hiking in a good pair of leggings is a God send compared to heavier cargo pants.
#33
Rings and bracelets actually look so good
#34
Fancy coffee drinks with little hearts drawn using the foam.
#35
It's not considered feminine anymore but was for a long time... cooking!
I love cooking, basically anything to experiment with new foods.
#36
Growing my hair long. Although I will look like Gandalf the next time I decide to do it.
Remi (He/Him) 2 years ago
It's so weird that long hair was such a normal thing on the 90s guys and now it's almost like we've gone backwards
#37
Apparently listening to, singing along with older Katy Perry and Taylor Swift songs is Unmasculine. Still love to do it.
Segovax the Pict 2 years ago
Love this, i was in the Marines when Teenage Dream was released. My MG crew would sing that and California girl all the time! Sang a lot of Lady Gaga in the field as well.
#38
Princess movies (e.g. Disney), magical girl shows (e.g. Sailor Moon, Star vs. the Forces of Evil, etc.), & the color pink.
#39
Not unmasculine per se but I can’t get enough of Ru Paul’s Drag Race. Entertainment, bitchiness, drama, humour...what’s not to like!
#42
I enjoy romance anime and I refuse to be shameful of it
#43
The movie 'To all the boys I loved before'. Watched it with my sister and I think I enjoyed it more than she did
What do you think ?
UpQuarkDownQuark 2 years ago (edited)
I unabashedly admire strong women. Sometimes for their physicality, like Simone Biles or Serena Williams, whose power and grace are simply astonishing; sometimes for their intellect and courage, like Alexandria Ocasio-Cortez, Stacey Abrams and Elizabeth Warren (Tell me Warren wasn’t the smartest person the stage in the 2020 Democratic primaries. I’ll fight you.) Physicist Janna Levin, science writer Ann Druyan, comedians Tina Fey and Amy Poehler, journalists Robin Young and Amanda Marcotte, activist Greta Thunberg, actresses Kate Winslet and Frances Mcdormand, the list goes on. Amazing women still being amazing in a world in which they have to wade through so much prejudice and bile and unreasonable expectations. 💗
Miss Frankfurter 2 years ago (edited)
🫵 You’re gonna have to fight me. I’m 5ft tall and 65 years old, but my friends will guarantee you’re gonna lose.😆 Mayor, now Secretary Pete. But yes, Elizabeth Warren is incredibly smart, especially in financial. Liked her idea about just 2 cents on the dollar from all the richer than God people. And everyone else on your list. BTW, have you checked out Congresswoman Katie Porter? SO BAD@$$. Any of these so called brilliant businessmen should be on their knees crying and begging not to have to be questioned by her.
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I I 2 years ago
i love holding my wife's hand when we're out and about , been called all kinds , still do it , i really dont care what you think
Cashme Outside 2 years ago
Wait, where are you that people talk bad about that? I hold my wifes hand all the time and have never heard a word about it.
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Remi (He/Him) 2 years ago
True. A cousin of mine is a competition level ballroom dancer and so so many people are surprised as heck that he's straight.
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All's Gravy 2 years ago
Errr, NOPE! Crafting with hands, whatever it is, understandable. Interest in the natural world, flora & fauna, is, well, natural, instinctive. Research/insight into love/relationships, even if the source material is rom-com or Disney - excusable. Gardening (Capability Brown), sewing (any number of couturiers), cooks/bakers (the world's best and most famous chefs): all men! All the 18th century romantic poets - men, hardly afraid to express their feelings, and often enjoyed and recited by masculine men through the ages.
censorshipsucks 2 years ago
Can I add "wearing something other than blue jeans and lumberjack shirts" ? ffs. I hate it.
AwesomeLeoWife 2 years ago
I find this whole article highly annoying. Traditional masculinity and balanced male actions/emotions can be the same thing but this article tries to state otherwise.
Kay Phillips 2 years ago
This is such a negative way of looking at it! To me it's about what used to be considered feminine, but for no good reason, and prompting men to embrace that part of themselves. Pure wholesomeness
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Alan Watkiss 2 years ago
That's always been my thinking behind it. It also keeps my eczema at bay so it's a double win by looking after them
Laura Ketteridge 2 years ago
I am so sorry that men have grown up with toxic masculinity. The idea that you have to do X, Y and Z to 'be a man' is utter rubbish. Be kind, be compassionate, love the people around you, love life - that's how to be a man!
Kay Phillips 2 years ago
This is such a wholesome, lovely article. The men who shared seem like fantastic people, and confident in their masculinity to not give a c**p what the naysayers say. I wish all men embraced their feminine side (which of course would mean a different thing for everybody)
UpQuarkDownQuark 2 years ago (edited)
I unabashedly admire strong women. Sometimes for their physicality, like Simone Biles or Serena Williams, whose power and grace are simply astonishing; sometimes for their intellect and courage, like Alexandria Ocasio-Cortez, Stacey Abrams and Elizabeth Warren (Tell me Warren wasn’t the smartest person the stage in the 2020 Democratic primaries. I’ll fight you.) Physicist Janna Levin, science writer Ann Druyan, comedians Tina Fey and Amy Poehler, journalists Robin Young and Amanda Marcotte, activist Greta Thunberg, actresses Kate Winslet and Frances Mcdormand, the list goes on. Amazing women still being amazing in a world in which they have to wade through so much prejudice and bile and unreasonable expectations. 💗
Miss Frankfurter 2 years ago (edited)
🫵 You’re gonna have to fight me. I’m 5ft tall and 65 years old, but my friends will guarantee you’re gonna lose.😆 Mayor, now Secretary Pete. But yes, Elizabeth Warren is incredibly smart, especially in financial. Liked her idea about just 2 cents on the dollar from all the richer than God people. And everyone else on your list. BTW, have you checked out Congresswoman Katie Porter? SO BAD@$$. Any of these so called brilliant businessmen should be on their knees crying and begging not to have to be questioned by her.
Load More Replies... I I 2 years ago
i love holding my wife's hand when we're out and about , been called all kinds , still do it , i really dont care what you think
Cashme Outside 2 years ago
Wait, where are you that people talk bad about that? I hold my wifes hand all the time and have never heard a word about it.
Load More Replies... Remi (He/Him) 2 years ago
True. A cousin of mine is a competition level ballroom dancer and so so many people are surprised as heck that he's straight.
Load More Replies... All's Gravy 2 years ago
Errr, NOPE! Crafting with hands, whatever it is, understandable. Interest in the natural world, flora & fauna, is, well, natural, instinctive. Research/insight into love/relationships, even if the source material is rom-com or Disney - excusable. Gardening (Capability Brown), sewing (any number of couturiers), cooks/bakers (the world's best and most famous chefs): all men! All the 18th century romantic poets - men, hardly afraid to express their feelings, and often enjoyed and recited by masculine men through the ages.
censorshipsucks 2 years ago
Can I add "wearing something other than blue jeans and lumberjack shirts" ? ffs. I hate it.
AwesomeLeoWife 2 years ago
I find this whole article highly annoying. Traditional masculinity and balanced male actions/emotions can be the same thing but this article tries to state otherwise.
Kay Phillips 2 years ago
This is such a negative way of looking at it! To me it's about what used to be considered feminine, but for no good reason, and prompting men to embrace that part of themselves. Pure wholesomeness
Load More Replies... Alan Watkiss 2 years ago
That's always been my thinking behind it. It also keeps my eczema at bay so it's a double win by looking after them
Laura Ketteridge 2 years ago
I am so sorry that men have grown up with toxic masculinity. The idea that you have to do X, Y and Z to 'be a man' is utter rubbish. Be kind, be compassionate, love the people around you, love life - that's how to be a man!
Kay Phillips 2 years ago
This is such a wholesome, lovely article. The men who shared seem like fantastic people, and confident in their masculinity to not give a c**p what the naysayers say. I wish all men embraced their feminine side (which of course would mean a different thing for everybody)
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