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Any grownup should have a wide range of skills at their beck and call. Everyone should know how to take care of themselves and their loved ones, whether it’s just another mundane day or an actual emergency. Stuff like knowing how to sew on a button, cooking a meal that’s more sophisticated than making cereal, taking care of your verdant garden (and what not to do, say, if you come across a bear).

Unfortunately, some people still divide up some activities and behaviors according to gender, based on some pretty ambiguous assumptions. This idea sparked a discussion online after redditor u/international_red07 asked everyone to share some “unmanly” things that are actually the opposite. Scroll down to read what people had to say about this. 

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Toxic Masculinity Deems These 30 Normal And Healthy Behaviors ‘Unmanly,’ Yet People Online Think Otherwise I have a beard that would make sasquatch jealous. I like scotch whiskey, Dominican cigars, and American motorcycles. I worked most of my adult life as an ironworker. But none of that is the manly part:

When my daughter was 3 to about 6 or 7, it was common for me to go to work with my nails painted every color of the rainbow.

Letting your little girl paint your nails is manly as f**k, gentlemen.

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Toxic Masculinity Deems These 30 Normal And Healthy Behaviors ‘Unmanly,’ Yet People Online Think Otherwise Supporting women's rights. Real men don't need to control women.

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1 year ago (edited) DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

The idea of controling another human being is disgusting in any form

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Toxic Masculinity Deems These 30 Normal And Healthy Behaviors ‘Unmanly,’ Yet People Online Think Otherwise If someone tells you something is “unmanly”, tell them a real man would be secure enough in their manliness to not give a s**t what they think.

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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

"It's not for men ? Well, i'm a man and i'm doing it, what else do you need for it to be manly ?"

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It’s really peculiar to realize that some everyday tasks get stuck with labels like “manly” or “unmanly.” We’re talking about basic skills that help someone be self-sufficient.

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Everyone needs to eat, so you’d better learn how to cook and bake. You might need to mend your clothes, so knowing how to use a needle-and-thread simply makes sense. Who doesn’t enjoy watching their vegetable garden thrive? And why should someone’s gender determine whether or not they should like singing or dancing as a hobby? Someone’s gender doesn’t come into it—these are all very human things to do.
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Toxic Masculinity Deems These 30 Normal And Healthy Behaviors ‘Unmanly,’ Yet People Online Think Otherwise Ordering a fruity drink.

“A real man orders a beer!”

No, a real man orders whatever the f**k he wants.

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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I simply dislike the taste of liquor, that's all. When I was young and feisty and people tried to make me drink alcohol, I'd stand up and say, Let's fight, if you win, I'll drink. Sadly, nobody took me up on it.

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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Beer is mealy liquid bread compared to punchy, tasty cocktails like a Long Island ice tea or a Negroni

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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Why would you drink beer when you can have a Strawberry Margarita?

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1 year ago (edited) DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Because beer is delicious in its own right. That said, not everyone thinks so. And a margarita for me please! (With freshly squeezed lime on the rocks. Not that lime flavored slush.)

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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

"A real man drinks beer." As they suckle on yet another Busch Light, because Bud Light Lime is a little "heady" for them.

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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Now I am not a man but fruity drinks are the best. Never let your penis hinder you from enjoying a heavenly drink

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I love that my husband is comfortable enough to order a pinacolada. He just does it at the most awkward times when he had no chance of getting it. Like at a random Ethiopian restaurant. Like, aawww it's so cute you want one and are secure enough to order, but look around

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And then there are people who opt not to drink. Leave them alone. You don't know why they're not drinking. They probably have seen their loved ones' lives destroyed by alcoholism. They're probably a recovering alcoholic themselves. They probably just don't like the taste of alcohol. If a person, regardless of their gender, makes the decision to not drink, it's a decision, and leave them alone about it.

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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Alcohol content of a beer : 5%... Alcohol content of a pina colada : 13%.... WHO'S THE MAN NOW B*TCH?

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My response was often 'Awww, big strong man scared of the bright colours? Shut up you idiot!'

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They know they can't handle the level of alcohol of the fruity drinks... Remember everyone, alcohol is vicious. It likes to hide behind sugary words. The more sugar... The more VIOLENCE.

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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

A 'manly man' bragging that he can drink multiple beers and not get drunk is a wimp for not hitting the good stuff that tastes amazing and will leave you trashed in twenty minutes.

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I need that Vitamin C to counteract what I am about to do to my internal system.

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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I was at a party years ago when one guy made.fun of another guy for drinking a "girly" drink. He shut up real quick when I pointed out the "girly" drink had twice the alcohol of his beer lol

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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I was once told that my hobby of gardening was "gay". While being gay is fine, I'm hetero, and I sometimes tell people that I'm manly enough to admit that I like pretty pink flowers.

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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

A real man falls to peer pressure and orders something he doesn't like! Bravo!

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https://twitter.com/cottoncandaddy/status/991915956950581248?lang=en "F**k you and your beer Kyle."

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I used to like fruity drinks, now they just give me a stomachs ache. Beer and liquor give me headaches. I can handle a glass of wine still but I guess I'm what you'd call California sober now

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Go ahead and have your weak 5% ABV bread water. I'll stick with my LIT and get totally trashed while playing with the little umbrella.

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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Pina Coladas and Mango margaritas all day for me. Beer can go f**k itself, except that Fuggles and Warlock strawberry beer, that stuff is dope!

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Had surgery that makes anything with bubbles cause me pain so it's either shots or a fruity drink

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Oh come on ... alcohol is bad enough already, but beer? Yikes. Tastes awful.

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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Well, it depends on who said it. If it's a 9 feet tall muscular guy and his biker gang, imma say yes sir I'll order beer right now.

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Toxic Masculinity Deems These 30 Normal And Healthy Behaviors ‘Unmanly,’ Yet People Online Think Otherwise When I was a kid I was once at a clothing store and I saw a pink men’s shirt. I said out loud “what kind of men wear pink shirts???” and my mom said “secure men”. For some reason that always stuck with me.

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Toxic Masculinity Deems These 30 Normal And Healthy Behaviors ‘Unmanly,’ Yet People Online Think Otherwise "NOTHING IS MORE BADASS THAN TREATING A WOMAN WITH RESPECT"

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When you start attaching gender to these activities and skills, you end up making everyone less independent. At the same time, you put people under a lot of pressure to ‘conform’ to how their social circle or culture views masculinity and femininity. Now imagine the stress someone has to deal with when they’re faced with entirely different cultural expectations when they move somewhere else or join a new social circle.

Objectively, boiling an egg (cooking) isn’t manly or unmanly. Neither is moving your feet (dancing), using your vocal cords (singing), or watering flora (gardening). However, our surroundings, family, and upbringing shape how we perceive these activities.
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Toxic Masculinity Deems These 30 Normal And Healthy Behaviors ‘Unmanly,’ Yet People Online Think Otherwise I had guys tell me it's unmanly to use/carry an umbrella.

Those wet, insecure bastards can go screw themselves!

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Toxic Masculinity Deems These 30 Normal And Healthy Behaviors ‘Unmanly,’ Yet People Online Think Otherwise Being an attentive and involved father. I can change a diaper one handed and I'm proud of that fact.

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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Let's give a shout out to all the fathers who don't call spending time with their kids "babysitting"!! 🙌🙌

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Toxic Masculinity Deems These 30 Normal And Healthy Behaviors ‘Unmanly,’ Yet People Online Think Otherwise Reflection and apologizing when you're wrong.

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According to a 2006 study done by The Pennsylvania State University, the social rules of gender continue to play “a prominent role” in leisure activities like sports. The researchers found that “girls experience greater social latitude in their sport participation than boys.” In other words, society sees it as more acceptable for women to participate in masculine activities than the reverse.

“Girls and women are at less risk for gender stigma if they pursue masculine activities than boys and men if they pursue feminine activities. This may be due to a higher social value and status assigned to masculine activities and the efforts on the part of girls and women to gain respect by achieving in a traditionally masculine field,” they write.

Broadly speaking, boys and men who stray from masculine norms raise questions about their masculinity. So they have less flexibility when it comes to participating in “unmanly” sports and recreational activities.
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Toxic Masculinity Deems These 30 Normal And Healthy Behaviors ‘Unmanly,’ Yet People Online Think Otherwise Sewing. When you're stuck on a boat in the Pacific during WWII, you'd better know how to stich up your own uniform. Source: both of my grandfathers.

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Toxic Masculinity Deems These 30 Normal And Healthy Behaviors ‘Unmanly,’ Yet People Online Think Otherwise I love growing flowers, sewing, cooking, baking, and other activities that are viewed by some as "girly" activities. I also love traditionally manly things like fishing, building furniture, mowing my lawn, etc.

A long time ago I was upset by some of my friends ribbing me for liking to do "girly" things. My dad handled this by teaching me that the manliest thing a man can do is "whatever the hell he wants".

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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

These are some of the best stress-relief activities. I pity those who do none of it

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Toxic Masculinity Deems These 30 Normal And Healthy Behaviors ‘Unmanly,’ Yet People Online Think Otherwise Buying feminine products for your SO. I have no shame buying tampons or pads when I do the grocery shopping, which is always. Men that get all embarrassed or won’t do it are the “unmanly” ones.

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Many of these issues are rooted in social expectations. To oversimplify things a bit, men are expected to never be perceived as vulnerable, weak, or soft. They’re also pushed to be aggressive and competitive. These are traits that some interpret to be examples of toxic masculinity.

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Healthy masculinity, on the other hand, is exemplified by self-reflection, embracing emotions (whatever they might be) instead of repressing them, and being comfortable with having one’s opinions challenged. 
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Toxic Masculinity Deems These 30 Normal And Healthy Behaviors ‘Unmanly,’ Yet People Online Think Otherwise I heard cooking for your family labeled as unmanly due to men wearing an apron around a gas stove, by the same people who grill for their family while wearing an apron around a gas grill.

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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I like cooking for my family, there are even some dishes my wife won't cook because they are my speciality :-)

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My friends were amazed at how I "allowed" some drunk guy talk to my girlfriend for like 10 minutes at a festival. Bro, why the f**k would I care, she didn't seem distressed and enjoyed the conversation and I'm not insecure. She'd tell me/let me know if she was uncomfortable and needed help. I don't feel threatened, I have nothing to proof and my girlfriend is not some possesion I need to protect from other men.

Going up to the guy and doing whatever just makes you seem to radiate insecurity to me. Not manliness.

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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I was at my local pub, and a woman came in with her guy friend (I didn't make assumptions about their relationship). I loved her tattoos and wanted to compliment her on them. I checked with both her guy friend and her if either one minded. Neither did.

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Holding your friends accountable and calling them out when they’re being a d**k towards women or just in general.

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My partner called out one of his friends for making racist jokes with a group of buddies. Not sure if the friendship is the same but damn, am I proud of him. That kind of conviction is hot as hell.

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Talking to cats in a cute voice.

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Toxic Masculinity Deems These 30 Normal And Healthy Behaviors ‘Unmanly,’ Yet People Online Think Otherwise Hygiene and cleanliness. I live on my own and I love having a clean and neat house.

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Toxic Masculinity Deems These 30 Normal And Healthy Behaviors ‘Unmanly,’ Yet People Online Think Otherwise Wearing sunscreen. Nothing looks dumber than a guy who’s so afraid to seem “girly” that he gets turned into a lobster.

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Skin cancer isn't pretty. I know a few people who have had this. Sometimes people go to the doctor because they have a sore or a cut from shaving that just won’t heal, which turns out to be a basal cell cancer. Use sunscreen - even if you tan easily.

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Being gay. I mean u are a man and you like man's. What could be more manly

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Ballet. Those dudes are strong!

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Several football coaches make their players take ballet. The flexibility, core strength, and leg strength ballet does for men is ridiculous.

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I’ve always been more attracted to “manly” but smart and funny. I was dating an honorably discharged marine who is now a pastry chef for maybe 2 weeks when I mentioned he’s the best of both worlds. He’s manly and strong but also smart and gentle. His response: “I know. I built this narrative.” Known each other for 14yrs, dated for 7, married for 5. Absolutely in love.

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Toxic Masculinity Deems These 30 Normal And Healthy Behaviors ‘Unmanly,’ Yet People Online Think Otherwise Cooking, cleaning, folding laundry, being good with kids, being patient, crying, hugging your good guy friends

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Toxic Masculinity Deems These 30 Normal And Healthy Behaviors ‘Unmanly,’ Yet People Online Think Otherwise When my dad was a kid, a bully told him to meet him after school for a beating. Dad simply never showed up and went directly home instead.

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Toxic Masculinity Deems These 30 Normal And Healthy Behaviors ‘Unmanly,’ Yet People Online Think Otherwise Being there for your kids

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Crying; men can have feelings, too!

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Toxic Masculinity Deems These 30 Normal And Healthy Behaviors ‘Unmanly,’ Yet People Online Think Otherwise Walking away from a physical fight, instead of getting involved/the whole “I could put you in hospital but I won’t” nonsense. A true “alpha”, if you must use that word, doesn’t need to assert his dominance like that.

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Gardening.

I've also been called a homosexual by multiple other guys for saying I like gardening.

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I'm always amazed how homophobes can't tell the difference between "gay", "not manly" and "feminine".

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Toxic Masculinity Deems These 30 Normal And Healthy Behaviors ‘Unmanly,’ Yet People Online Think Otherwise Taking care of your skin. I hate how some of the guys I work with and serve with (I'm in the army) give me s**t for using products for my face and skin. But they also wonder why I get told I look like I'm 25 even though I'm almost 36. Because I take care of my body.

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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Personally, I only use a special type of cream as an aftershave, but if a guy told me he used multiple skin care products, I wouldn't care either way. Use an angle grinder if you like. I still don't care.

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Tea party with toddlers

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Toxic Masculinity Deems These 30 Normal And Healthy Behaviors ‘Unmanly,’ Yet People Online Think Otherwise Respecting boundaries.

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Reacting graciously when a gay man makes a pass at you.

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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

So *manly" men are supposed to what? punch 'em in the face?? Do you have any idea how much time gay men spend at the gym?! We'd all get our asses kicked!

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Standing up for women’s rights or telling your friends not to make sexist jokes. “The guys” will make fun of you, call you a wuss, and the added social pressure tries to keep you in line. But the Manly thing is to face that pressure even though it’s uncomfortable and stand up for what you know if right.

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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I used to have "friends" that called me gay simply because I refused to cat call

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Recognizing that we all need some help sometimes and both helping other people and accepting help yourself.

Kindness is manly af

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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

So don't bite a man's head off for opening the door for you or thinking a guy is a creep for helping you carry something. Otherwise do it yourself

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being a gentleman: polite, courteous, respectful, tactful, manners, some style, some sophistication, educated (you don't need your masters from an Ivy league, but just being well read is enough sometimes), friendly.

Far too many guys I see think it's still cool to be rude, lazy, unkempt, and stupid.

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Being a nice guy. There’s nothing manly about being an a*****e.

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I'm a proud Southerner; a Southern boy from South Carolina. I'll tell you right now this is b******t. The (colloquial, NOT the graphic South. HUGE difference. Florida is NOT apart of the colloquial South) South has some of the biggest and manliest guys in the country and I'm telling you right now, 98% of us are raised to be kind, considerate, respectful, and an overall nice guy. We have manners and call all women we meet 'Ma'am', and all men 'Sir'. We're nice guys and we're pretty damn proud of it.

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Toxic Masculinity Deems These 30 Normal And Healthy Behaviors ‘Unmanly,’ Yet People Online Think Otherwise Going to the doctor

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I've never been on my own 🥴. I'm far too nervous to even make the phone call

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Toxic Masculinity Deems These 30 Normal And Healthy Behaviors ‘Unmanly,’ Yet People Online Think Otherwise Moaning

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Long hair, if you were in ancient times and saw a guy with long hair, that means he survived many battles for it to get to such a length.

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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Metal band dudes always has cool long hair, and it's really manly. I don't like men having a short hair.

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Skirts. I saw someone say that anatomy-wise, men should be wearing skirts because pants constrict your c**k and balls.

I mean, when you think about it, a lot of men wear skirts or skirt-like things historically. The Romans, the Greeks, the Chinese (hanfu), the Scots (? I.... think that's where kilts come from).

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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Like the guy in Harry Potter book #4 who likes the "healthy breeze around his privates"

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Being creative/artistic. There's always been stupidity behind things like musical instrument choice. A dude playing a flute seems funny.. but being drum core or bass is manly. A leather smith is manly but sewing clothes is less so. It's all art.. it's all creative.

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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Not to mention "being able to simply enjoying it". It kinda feels like you need to wanna be the best and train like hell or it's not a real, manly, activity. But being secure enought to just vibe and enjoy your time is way more tough.

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Dancing.

Dudes that can dance get all the sex.

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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

My ex used to joke that my hips only worked when I had no clothes on, and seized up when I went on a dancefloor.

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Toxic Masculinity Deems These 30 Normal And Healthy Behaviors ‘Unmanly,’ Yet People Online Think Otherwise Wearing "girly" colors.

Imagine being so insecure with your own sexuality that you can't wear a purple or pink shirt. It's sad, really.

I have a bunch of purple and pink dresshirts, and I have only ever been complimented on them!

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Playing with your children

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The ability to cry and express your emotions

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Being emotionally supportive and affectionate to other male friends. I've aways hated the concept of men should show emotions. Why not? I don't get it. If your friend is going through a hard time, giving them a simple hug could really help. Or just listening to them. Even if there isn't a problem, being friendly and platinically physically affectionate is sweet to me. Idky a hug is seen as " gay" lol hugs aren't sexual, it's a hug.

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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

It's not gay until your balls touch so don't worry about it

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Washing your a*s

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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

What?? Who would consider it manly to have a smelly bum? eww

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Pedicures. If you work on your feet, you need to take care of them. Work boots will thrash your toe nails, give you corns and bunions. Additionally having your feet trapped in leather boots for 10+ hrs a day in the heat and sweat will make your foot skin all scaley and flakey. Go get a pedicure. They will not only take care of your toe nails and dead skin but you also get a calf massage and some places do a hot rock massage. It’s glorious.

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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

It took everything in me to not kick the person when I got a pedicure, due to it tickling so bad.

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Realizing you are wrong, learning from it, and becoming better because of it.

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#Standing up for men who can’t stand up for themselves.

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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Or take it a step further, and stand up for anyone who can't stand up for themselves. Age, gender and species are not relevant.

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Remember reading some guy saying something like "My kids need to know who is the king, and it's all in the small things. For example, I always get served food first, no matter what, even if I'm late. Because that's what being a man is all about". And while reading that I couldn't help but think how sad it is to base you personality in a trope, but even if we go for the stereotype of what a manly man is, isn't it more manly to make sure your kids eat first so you are sure there is enogh for them, willing to go hunger as long as they don't have to?

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Eating salad. Taking care of your health is manly.

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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Agreed. Knew this guy that claimed to be allergic to "all fruits and vegetables" and, coincidentally believed that a man partaking of either is prone to becoming homosexual. Meanwhile a mutual friend pointed out to his face that for someone who held such beliefs on what defines someone as "gay", he himself always was a little too eager to be shoving thick, hot meat down his gullet like it was going out of style, most of the time without even chewing it.

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My ex was a f*****g lil b***h about even *mentioning* feminine products or menstruation. I couldn't even mention having *"period pains"* without him complaining how gross it was and that I made him feel sick for mentioning it. I was rarely around him when I was on, but I hate to think how unhelpful he would have been.

My dad on the other hand, quite a lads lad, has no issues. He used to track my mum's menstruation because he found it easier than she did, and he was always more than happy to nip to the shops and pick up feminine products. "Do you need ladies things?" He used to ask me. "What flavour do you need?" His joke, but he was referring to whether it was pass or tampons, and what flow.

Oh and I just remembered that that same ex wouldn't buy his own f*****g Pokemon game because it's "Not manly". I haven't known such a insecure stupid little b***h before or since.

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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

lmao yeah, another stupid thinking being manly means rejecting feminity

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Not giving a f**k about what other people consider to be manly.

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1 year ago (edited) DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Not giving a f**k about what others think at all. Go your own way, don't go with the herd. The herd is stupid as f**k, look at fad culture and do a 180

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Not being concerned with other people’s quantification of your manliness.

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Getting up every f*****g day to go to a job you hate, doing it with a smile because that's how you keep your kids fed, housed and healthy.

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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

It's not manliness, it's a universal misery of all genders.

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Fathering

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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Nah. Not with the state of the world. No kids. Maybe once Ukraine is free and Russia is gone.

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Being in touch with your emotions

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Compromising with your partner.

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Admitting defeat. What's "unmanly" (or "unwomanly," really) is throwing a tantrum, denying reality, or refusing to soldier on.

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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Dude, my Dad is the typical male chauvinist who refuses to admit he's wrong. My husband is the opposite

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Having a tea party with your young daughters. I have drank more fake tea than anyone on Earth.

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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

That claim, Sir, is a duelling matter. Meet me in front of Mrs Wilberforce's Wendy house at 5pm tonight!

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Cooking and washing the dishes right after!

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Wearing short shorts. Lemme see them thighs.

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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I miss the men of the 1960's and thereabouts. Men's shorts were SHORT and this girl couldn't wait to grow up so I could enjoy my own man's thighs. Who came up with baggy stuff? We're supposed to keep flashing flesh while dudes cover up? Talk about insecure!

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I’ll start: Admitting when you’re wrong.

When anyone with eyes can see your earlier statement was misinformed, taking accountability and control of the situation with a simple “Yep. You were right, I was wrong. Here’s what we’ll do now,” shows leadership, responsiveness, and confidence.

Trying to deny or defend or justify your earlier statement comes across as insecure and reactive or oblivious, none of which are qualities traditional “manly men” try to embody.

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Honestly, pretty much everything that some people consider unmanly. Things like personal hygiene, taking care of your kids or spouse, and being emotionally available are all manly as f**k.

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1 year ago (edited) DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

About the only thing everyone rightly agrees is unmanly is throwing tantrums like a toddler. I just wish the usual crowd that's overly concerned with manliness recognized that tantrums thrown the middle schooler way are equally cringeworthy because boy can they throw 'em as adults.

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Driving a minivan.

There is literally no better proof of your virility than driving a minivan full of children.

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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

my favorite cars were breaks, ver usefuil. Now the children have left the house, I have a Renault Twingo, and I have nou doubt about the fact being a man :-)

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Keeping your pubes trimmed, c**k shaved, and your junk and a*s clean and washed.

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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Hell yeah! I am a proud manscaper. So much more comfortable down there! Guys, if you don't, give it a try. You'll thank me.

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Crying. I know that older generations instilled the need for lack of emotional. But having emotions bottle up then explode later is not healthy.

Cry when you need to cry. If anything It shows you care about your own emotions, so you'll care about your partners too. And if anyone calls you names or makes you feel bad for being emotional, then that person is the problem. Not you.

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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Already commented your on one further back, but I love a good ugly cry. It always feels so good to just let it out.

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Was on a date with a guy once that held my hand every time I had to step up or down from a curb, and he lifted my hand lightly by my fingers. Thought it was the sweetest and most chivalrous thing.

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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Were you disabled or wearing ridiculously unstable heels or something? I'd find that weird and infantilizing if I wasn't encumbered.

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Putting on lotion. I don't want to be touching no crusty a*s man.

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Holding your wife's purse in public. I do a few push ups, a few pull ups, roll up my sleeves and show off the pump when I do it... be a man...

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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

My husband will do that for me and even keep the purse in his wheely cart at the store. He and I will joke about how fabulous he looks and how the purse totally completes his outfit

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A good quality pink cotton shirt.
Kindness.

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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

So we're just repeating everything at this point. I predict this thread will be limited to 40 things that are manly

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Taking care of your Hygiene.
Clip your nails, use stuff to make you smell good.
Basic hygiene is manly.

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Body trimming. Reduces your body odor, easier to wipe your a*s, makes muscles look bigger, penis look longer, and removes visible grey hair to make you look younger. Always feel great after a body trim.

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Showing your emotions

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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Anger is an emotion, and many "manly men" have no problem showing it.

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Being vegan. You have to stand up for your principles in the face of near-universal mockery and derision.

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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Not trying to force your choices on other people. Which includes the choice to eat meat or gluten or anything else. I can't stand preachy vegans, but I can't stand preachy meat eaters either. Count your blessings that you live in a place wealthy enough to be able to choose whether or not to eat a particular food. Also, it is actually possible to develop an allergy to red meat,so no one should be judging anyone's health related dietary needs. If something makes me sick, it shouldn't imply anything about how well I fit your definition of my gender if I don't eat it.

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