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Where did it say he was her ex?

I know, right? This moral high ground everyone seems to be taking regarding engagement rings is getting pretty extreme.. to the point where women with expensive rings are heavily shamed for them. I always thought that if the man earns enough money, and the woman isn't like unemployed or earns significantly less, then the woman should be able to want a ring where its cost is relative to their earnings that both parties are comfortable spending. Who decided that an engagement ring isn't worth spending money on? Maybe they have enough savings already for a house? No-one knows the story when it comes to engaged couples, yet apparently an expensive engagement ring=fickle, shallow, gold-digging woman. It's crazy.

An engagement ring is just a symbol, it is the gesture that counts. A guy liked her and wanted to marry her so he gave her a ring. She could have rejected him. But she accepted, meaning she wants to spend a significant chunk of her life with him. What does a stone size or the ring design have to do with that? Why be unhappy with the stone size when you are getting the man of your dreams?

I just think it is really low to try and humiliate the man who wants to marry you on the internet to strangers because he didn't spend A LOT (to him) of money on a ring. Maybe he wanted to design the band together and was going to spend more on that? She should have kept it to a private conversation to really express herself, not try and get people on the internet to make fun of him.

If she didn't want other people's opinions, and she feels that it's "her thing to discuss only with her dude".. well, then I guess she shouldn't post it on the internet.

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Yeah, I think it’s very trashy when people brag about not liking this engagement ring stuff. It’s great to have your own path and sense of style but it’s nauseating when people get off on their ultra frugal superiority. And honestly if most of those people COULD afford it, they would buy fancy jewels too because why not? Those same people probably have kids, which are massively more expensive than any engagement ring. Mine is worth about 8k I think which is like only a months salary for a normal person or family. You can’t compare that to the 260k it costs to raise a child for 18 years on a tight budget. But yet people don’t judge families of four as harshly as these internet people judge “expensive rings.” The fiancé is a jerk not for the price of the ring but for not paying attention to jack s**t about his lady to know what her style is, what she likes and dislikes, etc. My fiancé and I went through styles together wayyy before he proposed. Her fiancé should have paid more attention.

engagement rings arent dumb - they kind of signify to members of the opposite sex that they neednt bother wasting their time - precurser to a wedding ring - but to need a huge diamond to tell everyone your fiance is rich?? thats dumb -- can just imagine "my boyfriend is loaded and look at this pathetic ring he bought me"

$1600 isnt exactly stingy - and if she is used to him buying her expensive presents then she should maybe sit back and think

Are you talking about the engagement ring or the wedding ring? Because I thought it was the norm for the couple to pick out their wedding bands together. The engagement ring is different though, it depends on whether or not the bride-to-be wants a surprise proposal or not.

Think I paid halves on my engagement and wedding rings - he couldnt wear one because of his job

if it makes you feel any better there is growing research that indicates people who spend lots on rings or weddings tend to divorce more often than people who kept the ring and wedding expenses reasonable. Frugality seems to support long term love :)

Me too. That ring seems expensive to me.

By the hour?

your dignity

Why would you sell them? That was a testament of your love. (or should've been) The no longer apply? God forbid if My husband dies before me I will wear my rings until I die as well. Even if I ever got re married, they'd be on my right hand. He will always be part of you. I'm sorry I just think this is extremely odd. Unless you sold them to help with end of life costs, then maybe I could see. I guess I'm just old fashioned. I would sell everything else before I sold the one thing that represented our love that was tangible. I suppose because at one point I'd want to hand them down to my children / grand children or what have you.