At least you let yourself contemplate these things. Lots of people refuse to.

As far as need goes vs want, all i technically need in life is food water shelter clothes and I would throw in purpose. Me and my husband our pregnant with our first and i can say that before i never wanted to be pregnant but i wanted to be a mom. At midnight on my 31st birthday i all of a sudden (literally) got extremely excited about the process of being pregnant. Me and my husband have always wanted to take care of and nurture our family we knew it would be larger one day and it has become part of our purpose in life to to teach and let our new one experience life and be there for him when its not so great. Not everyone has this desire and not everyone thinks about it. Some people are just being irresponsible with there actions. But for those of us who want its a part of our purpose. Anytime we don’t work towards, even in The smallest way, our purpose or dreams, we end up regretful, and regret is like a poison that when not dealt with kills us faster.

Parents have children for themselves.

Can you provide anything to back up that initial premise? I know no one who hasn't thought about the kids they are or are not having!

And hated every minute of it? Or are you just that frustrated to begin with... Dude. There is no point to procreation, there is no point to live except the ultimate distribution of all possible information at which point it collapses and starts all over. Also kids can be fun at times.

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When these thoughts come to my mind i always look at miserable old people who never had family. They usually get old alone, going depressed, have no one to talk to, old friends and neighbours are not interested in them anymore, usually no motivation in life whatsoever... miserable life where you die alone sadly at the end.