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It can be satisfying to see a niche thing you love – a book, a band, an artist – become popular in the mainstream. Yet it can also be upsetting. You root for their success for so long, but once everybody knows about them, it doesn't feel as special. That's gatekeeping, the grown-up cousin of "You can't sit with us."

But there is a community that doesn't gatekeep: the Gates Open, Come In subreddit. It's where people invite each other to like and enjoy stuff others might tell them is inappropriate or uncool, and generally have each other's backs. Like the kids say these days, "In the clurb, we all fam."

Bored Panda got in touch with one of the community's moderators, u/Merari01, and they kindly agreed to tell us more about the subreddit. Read our short chat with them below!

u/Merari01 told us that the theme of the subreddit drew them to become one of the moderators for the community. "The internet can be a negative place, full of angry people and content, which in some form makes people feel excluded," they told us via a message. "This subreddit is positive, inclusive, and shows a welcoming atmosphere."

The Redditor believes that people want their feeds to have more positivity. "Having a space that is explicitly inclusionary resonates with a lot of them," the netizen added. While moderating the subreddit's comment section can sometimes be challenging when members get into petty arguments, u/Merari01 is pretty happy with the job overall. "It's a fun space to be in, so, it's not a real challenge."

We can gatekeep many things: the recipe for our favorite pasta, where we bought our fabulous shoes, our favorite sports teams, and many other things. In 2022, Vogue actually chose "gatekeep" as the word of the year. What, according to them, used to mean institutions or people withholding power now means not sharing information or access to something.

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On TikTok, not gatekeeping means sharing where you got that sweater from and how much your tickets to see Taylor Swift cost. But Vogue writes that this is slightly ironic: if anything, the app made information and the world itself more accessible than ever. "Want to find out where a media-only fashion party or sample sale preview is taking place? You can probably hunt down the invite on TikTok."

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1 week ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Someone with authority setting an example for self-styled dictators. Bravo.

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Licensed psychologist and lecturer on the psychology of metal and punk rock Steve Byrne explains that social psychologists have observed our tendency to divide into groups. We make friends with people who have similar interests and outlooks on life, and we align ourselves against those who are different.

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Byrne points to the Robbers Cave experiment, carried out in the 1950s. In it, social psychologist Muzafer Sherif studied 22 boys who, during the experiment, divided themselves into in and out-groups. It reflected the most basic truth that we divide ourselves according to many things: political beliefs, likes and dislikes, and even for the benefit of our own social standing.

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Byrne writes that it's natural for us to see those who are different from us as a threat. Then we want to appear stronger, more sophisticated, and cooler in front of them. And that's where gatekeeping comes in. In essence, we gatekeep because we're insecure. Putting others down is one of the ways we cope with insecurities. "At least we're not as bad as them," we comfort ourselves.

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Brooklyn Librarians Subverting Censorship & Allowing Any Teenager In America To Have A Library Card

Brooklyn Library allows teens nationwide to access ebooks, promoting inclusivity and combating censorship.

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1 week ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

In my town there's a new library with a room with access to free wifi, coding programs, a 3-d printer, and of course e-books, books, C-ds, and audiobooks. There's also a genealogy center so you can trace your heritage and a teen room with games and crafts. There's also private study rooms, and conference rooms, and there's classes for everything imaginable. And it's all free with a library card!

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Perhaps now more than ever, division into insiders and outsiders is hurting us all around the world. Byrne suggests that some political leaders thrive on sowing division with the "us against them" mentality. In reality, there must be very little that's actually different about us.

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1 week ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Amigurumi in this size and complexity takes a lot of time. This man is not only thoughtful and kind but also really skilled.

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It Got A Little Aggressive, But I Like The Message

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1 week ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I'm Indian and 100% approve of this message. Culture is something to be shared, no kept exclusive.

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"Those who are seemingly kept out by these gatekeepers might be seeing the gate as some hulking castle drawbridge, sealed up tight and ready to defend a kingdom against marauders when it’s really just a broken garden fence, easily stepped over," Byrne writes.

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Kise Miarse
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1 week ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I really thought that as a grown a*s adult I wouldn't encounter this so much anymore. LET PEOPLE LIKE THINGS. It doesn't mean it has to become your obsession - you can still enjoy something just for what it is.

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Interestingly, some people see gatekeeping as a good thing. In an article for The Cut, Ann Friedman suggests that some communities gatekeep to preserve their culture. She writes about Anthony Bourdain worrying about sending tourist masses to mom-and-pop restaurants, as well as Black creators feeling conflicted when white creators use their aesthetics, language, and memes and calling it appropriation.

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1 week ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I went to an expensive private school and can tell you for a fact that quite a few of the other kids ultimately went to trade school instead of university. And are now gainfully employed. (Ironically, I got three degrees and am currently... not employed).

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Shout Out To The Solo Eaters

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1 week ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I don’t understand how people don’t do what they want to do because they don’t have someone to do it with. They lose so much.

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Kelly Elizabeth Wright, a lexicographer with the American Dialect Society, explained that gatekeeping in this context gives minorities back that little bit of power they lose in this age of vast media consumption. "You could be making a piece of content that is for other Black people or for your community, but then it's public or it gets algorithmically exposed. There is less control in the way social media is surfaced and served to people."

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Depression Gateopening

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1 week ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

People at work wouldn't think I have MDD. It's easy to hide while others are around. It's when I'm home by myself that it comes to the fore. This is a perception that needs to change.

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Sirena Bergman writes for Business Insider that the boom in tourism in Hawaii during the pandemic caused native Hawaiians and Pacific Islanders to "gatekeep" the state. The natives talked about the rise of COVID-19 cases and the environmental impacts of tourism and asked people not to travel there, but still faced backlash.

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You Don't Have To Be Good At Something To Enjoy Doing It

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1 week ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I need more upvotes to give. When I was younger, so many things I enjoyed were ruined by other people's negative reactions. We're not all born being perfect at everything. Let others enjoy. Let them learn. Don't be a d*ck.

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That's how "gatebreaking" came to TikTok, the opposite of gatekeeping. The idea is that there should be no barriers to information, expertise, places, or knowledge. But Bergman observes that there's more nuance to this problem. While being against gatekeeping is, in essence, standing against inequality, it's alright for some people to sometimes stay on the fringes of certain spaces.

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1 week ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I always start off so excited to share my nerd sh*t and then get self-conscious that nobody probably wants to hear it and I don't want to be "that guy" so I taper off. It makes me sad though.

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However, in most cases, the old cliche "sharing is caring" might just be true. Sharing information, access, knowledge, and just genuinely having each other's backs. If this wholesome list is right up your alley, Pandas, check out the previous ones that we've done about the "Gates Open, Come On In" community here and here!

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Words To Live By

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1 week ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

"Be kinder than necessary. Everyone you meet is fighting some kind of battle."

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Good Parentin

Tweet about a dad showing support to his child, illustrating someone having their back in a wholesome way.

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1 week ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Oops. I first read it as "There is a family next to me at the stove." My thought was, I hope it's your family! 🤭🤦🏻‍♀️ Now that I've confessed my reading blunder, this kid has a great dad!

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Sh*tter’s Open!

Bathroom dispenser with supportive message, highlighting trans rights and remembering Brianna Ghey.

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1 week ago (edited) DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I've never understood the toilet issues. I mean if you have male and female guests in your home they all use the one bathroom and nobody blinks. Nobody checks their friends and family for proper hygiene eitquette in some questionnaire or some c**p before they come either, they are literally unknown in their toilet habits and everybody is just okay. So wtf with the outrage everywhere else?

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I'm Sure Many Of Us Needed To Hear This

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1 week ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

My lane is supporting all of youse on the internet and wasting the trolls' time, when I get a little spare time. Because I simply don't have the time (and truthfully, often can't be arsed) to be "active".

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As Someone Who's Gone For 6 Years, It Really Does Make A Difference

Wholesome online support: a tweet emphasizes that therapy is beneficial for everyone, not just those with "issues."

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1 week ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Waiting for my ADHD/depression/whatever it is diagnosis (or no diagnosis, perhaps) :) Due to insane waiting lists I'm only due october next year, but I guess that's something.

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Sometimes You Win Sometimes You Learn

Tweet expressing willingness to explain the difference between science fiction and fantasy in a wholesome way.

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1 week ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Often a very easy way to spot the difference is fantasy uses 'gold' or 'crowns', and sci-fi uses 'credits'.

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Women Wearing What They Like In Peace

Two girls in Halloween costumes promoting self-expression and non-judgment in a wholesome illustration.

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1 week ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

A unicorn onesie would be pretty awesome. I wonder if they do them in my size?

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A Wheelchair Accessible Swing At A Public Park

Accessible swing in playground showing someone having another's back in a wholesome way.

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1 week ago (edited) DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

That's gotta be the least secure wheelchair swing I've seen though...We have had wheelchair swings where I live since before my older brother died (2002) so I've seen a lot. I do like they also have the other adapted accessible swing next to it though, those are less common.

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Soup And Bread, Mate

Soup And Bread, Mate

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1 week ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I've heard this give as advice for authors. If you can't write sex, write romance. If you can't write romance, write conflict. If you can't write conflict, write food. If you can't write food, write sex.

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At The Minnesota United Game Last Night

At The Minnesota United Game Last Night

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1 week ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Beautiful sign! (Although I’d be a tad píssed off to be sitting BEHIND it! 🤣)

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#54

Life Is Short: Play Nintendo

Life Is Short: Play Nintendo

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1 week ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

'How sad is it...' Ask the people that use puppets to represent themselves. But I bet they thought that those puppets are really cool and didn't care what anyone else thought... You see how easy it is guys, right?

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Some Comfort

Some Comfort

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1 week ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

It's also okay to grieve for pets that have passed away. Grief is grief, regardless of the subject of it.

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You Are Still Valid No Matter What

You Are Still Valid No Matter What

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1 week ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

So many people need to hear this, and it makes me sad. It doesn't matter if you've never been with someone of your same gender, it doesn't make your bisexuality any less valid! If you've been happily married to someone of the opposite gender for years and years, that doesn't erase your bisexuality. If you go your whole life without ever being with someone of the same gender, it doesn't make you any less bisexual! And if anyone tells you otherwise, they don't understand the spectrum of sexuality and they need to take a seat and shut up. Nobody gets to define your sexual identity except YOU!

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#59

Paper Books Are Great

Paper Books Are Great

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1 week ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

For me, audiobooks are the best, with ebooks trailing behind. (I'm dyslexic.) I've friends who adore paper books, and that's grand. The packaging is what makes the contents accessible, but it's the content that's important.

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Just Like The Pied Piper LED Rats Through The Streets... 🎵🎵

Just Like The Pied Piper LED Rats Through The Streets... 🎵🎵

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1 week ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I dragged my mum into Star Trek in exactly this manner. Now she LOVES it, and I love watching it with her :)

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Metallica Invites Y’all To Come On In

Metallica Invites Y’all To Come On In

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1 week ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Gatekeeping has no place in life. You only like Nothing Else Matters? Cool, that’s one more than the next person along. Only just heard of Metallica? Man, you’ve got an amazing rollercoaster of a ride ahead of you, tell me how it goes and welcome to the club!

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The R/Crochet Community Is Very Wholesome

The R/Crochet Community Is Very Wholesome

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Sharing A Love Of Music Does Not Have To Be Limited By Genre

Sharing A Love Of Music Does Not Have To Be Limited By Genre

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1 week ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I’m a music obsessed individual, I’m a vinyl lover, I’m a huge fan of live music, I’m normally to be found immersed in something noise related, I listen to all sorts of genres, variety is the spice of my life.. My partner loves music but she’s limited by her illness to listening to small chunks of music or she’ll end up getting totally overstimulated and that’ll slay her, she’s more interested in mainstream music. We share a love of music but we approach it from different directions and in very different quantities. There’s no wrong way to love music.

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With All The Brouhaha About Whether Marvel Movies Are True Cinema, Here's Steven Spielberg's Take:

With All The Brouhaha About Whether Marvel Movies Are True Cinema, Here's Steven Spielberg's Take:

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#73

You Are One Of Us Now

You Are One Of Us Now

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1 week ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Only code I ever wrote was in 1973 on the Univac 1219. An Admiral was impressed and pleased. Can I still say that?

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November Reminders

November Reminders

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1 week ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

how I want to spend my time: Spend time with my family and make sure the last thing I say to them is I love u bc I never know if I'm gonna come home from school and find that their not there.

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Testing Your Fluency

Testing Your Fluency

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1 week ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

A fantastic way to practise another language is to re-watch a programme you already know, but watch it in the practise language. Having subtitles on can make a big difference too.

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April Fools 😁

April Fools 😁

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People Only Like You Because

People Only Like You Because

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1 week ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

All my friends are a******s, lmao. But it’s a friendly assholery. S calls everyone short. K pokes people. I insult everyone as creatively as possible. And then we play D&D. It’s great.

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A Little Body Positivity From 1977

A Little Body Positivity From 1977

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Don’t Let Anyone Make You Feel Bad For Feeling Bad. These Are Big Things And It’s Normal To Be Upset

Don’t Let Anyone Make You Feel Bad For Feeling Bad. These Are Big Things And It’s Normal To Be Upset

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Wholesome Avatar Meme

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1 week ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I joined the fnaf fandom just after ruin came out so I get this energy a lot

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Wholesome Venom

Wholesome Venom

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1 week ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Or perhaps tell him that he is still a good person even if he can't bench 10 pounds.

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Anyone Can Appreciate Kind Words ❤️

Anyone Can Appreciate Kind Words ❤️

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1 week ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Yearly? I don't even remember when I last got a compliment.

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1 week ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Jihana, I looked through some of your posts here on Bored Panda. It struck me how often you delight in the small things, and add praise. This lept out at me within the first 6 of your posts. It's wonderful to see this! You are a person who sees good in the little things, and a person who spreads joy.

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Doctor Strange
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1 week ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I remember the last time I got an unsolicited compliment on my looks. I was 6 years old, a girl called me cute. That was the last time. I'm over 40 now.

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People Who Know How To Sew But Don't Call Themselves Girls Are Also Valid, We Love You Too :)

People Who Know How To Sew But Don't Call Themselves Girls Are Also Valid, We Love You Too :)

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1 week ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Had to sew the pocket of my coat this morning after it got caught on a gate arm and tore

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Don't Matter You're A Skateboarder

Don't Matter You're A Skateboarder

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There Is No Difference

There Is No Difference

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🎺🎷🎺🎷🎺🎷🎺🎷

🎺🎷🎺🎷🎺🎷🎺🎷

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(They’re Both Sports Cars)

(They’re Both Sports Cars)

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1 week ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Being the owner of a sportscar that is the bottom end model of a prestigious brand, I appreciate this.

#97

Just Tell People Their Shirts Are Cool!!

Just Tell People Their Shirts Are Cool!!

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Old Players 🤝 New Players

Old Players 🤝 New Players

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1 week ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I remember I joined a little bit before the World of Color update. It’s so amazing how far it’s come!

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Narcissistic Survivors Have My Heart

Narcissistic Survivors Have My Heart

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1 week ago (edited) DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

They all were great until this garbage last one. This one just sounds like somebody who is narcissistic and abusive who wants to not be called out anymore. And then they're going to turn around and usually abuse their own family.

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