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To put it simply, gatekeeping is an act when someone takes it upon themselves to decide who does or does not have access or rights to a community or identity ("You can't be a real Phoebe Bridgers fan, you just discovered her. Real fans follow her since at least Stranger in the Alps.") If this sounds ridiculous to you, don't worry. You're not alone.

There's a subreddit called r/GatesOpenComeOnIn and it describes itself as the polar opposite of gatekeeping. Created in 2018, this online community collects and shares pictures of wholesome acts of kindness when people had each other's backs. Whether it's encouraging everyone to share their Spotify Wrapped or simply allowing someone to feel tired, it doesn't take much to acknowledge another person's emotions, thoughts, experiences, values, and beliefs. Continue scrolling and check out how it's done.

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Wholesome Patriotism

Wholesome Patriotism

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As you can see from the pictures, empathy goes a long way. Developing it is crucial for establishing relationships and behaving compassionately. Since empathy involves experiencing another person’s point of view, rather than just one’s own, it enables prosocial or helping behaviors that come from within, rather than being forced.

Sadly, some surveys indicate that empathy is on the decline in the United States and elsewhere. But at least these findings motivate parents, schools, and communities to support programs that help people of all ages enhance and maintain their ability to walk in each other’s shoes.

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Halloween For Everyone!

Halloween For Everyone!

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Come On In And Long As You’re Nice

Come On In And Long As You’re Nice

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Empathy really is a superpower: it helps us cooperate with others, build friendships, make moral decisions, and intervene when we see others being bullied.

Humans usually begin to show signs of empathy in infancy and the trait develops steadily through childhood and adolescence.

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That being said, most people are likely to feel greater empathy for someone like themselves and may feel less empathy for those outside their family, community, ethnicity, or race.

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Everybody Say Thank You To Andy

Everybody Say Thank You To Andy

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Making Your Child Happy

Making Your Child Happy

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Minding Your Own Business Is Free

Minding Your Own Business Is Free

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Like other traits, empathy may have evolved with a selfish motive: using others as a "social antenna" to help detect danger. From an evolutionary point of view, creating a mental model of another person's intent is critical: the arrival of an interloper, for example, could be deadly, so developing sensitivity to the signals of others could be life-saving.

Babies display an understanding that people’s actions are guided by intentions and can act on that understanding before they turn 18 months old, including trying to comfort a parent. Advanced reasoning about other people’s thoughts develops around age 5-6.

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Bikinis For Boys

Bikinis For Boys

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Gates Open Slide On In!

Gates Open Slide On In!

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Read Whatever You Want

Read Whatever You Want

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Experts say that people high in narcissism, or who have a narcissistic personality disorder, can exhibit empathy and even compassion. However, that ability only goes so far, as ultimately they prioritize their own needs.

Some researchers believe narcissists can become more empathetic by developing greater self-compassion, which can increase their own feelings of security and self-worth and enable them to open up to hearing others.

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Shout Out To The Solo Eaters

Shout Out To The Solo Eaters

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Do What Makes You Happy For You

Do What Makes You Happy For You

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Unexpected Pet

Unexpected Pet

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Someone I Went To School With Posted This About Giving Their Son A Unicorn-Themed Birthday Bash. Positive Parenting For The Win

Someone I Went To School With Posted This About Giving Their Son A Unicorn-Themed Birthday Bash. Positive Parenting For The Win

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"Do a thought experiment," Mark Davis, a professor of psychology who has spent decades studying empathy, said. “Imagine if humans didn’t have the capacity for empathy. What would it mean if, in fact, we never gave a damn about what happened to other people? That’s an almost an inconceivable world."

"As awful a species as we can be — and we certainly have the capacity for terrible things — we’re also capable of some pretty wonderful things, noble things, self-sacrifice."

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Family Is A Family Is A Family

Family Is A Family Is A Family

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Southern Hospitality

Southern Hospitality

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Anyone Can Be Tired!

Anyone Can Be Tired!

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Never Too Late To Join A Movement

Never Too Late To Join A Movement

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Interestingly, the word "empathy" is relatively new. It didn’t enter the English language until the early 1900s, derived from the German word einfühlung, according to Daniel Batson, a researcher of empathy and professor emeritus at Kansas University.

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Felt Like This Might Belong Here

Felt Like This Might Belong Here

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It's The Thought That Counts

It's The Thought That Counts

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Never Too Late For New Beginnings

Never Too Late For New Beginnings

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While some people are more naturally empathetic than others, there are easy, evidenced-based exercises that anyone can do to increase their empathy. 

First, talk to new people. Trying to imagine how someone else feels is often not enough. Luckily, the solution is simple: ask them. "For me, the core of empathy is curiosity," Jodi Halpern, a psychiatrist and bioethics professor at the University of California, Berkeley, who studies empathy, told The New York Times. "It's what is another person’s life actually like in its particulars?”

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We Are All Nerds Together

We Are All Nerds Together

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Does This Truck Count?

Does This Truck Count?

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Good Guy Owner

Good Guy Owner

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Hi Milly

Hi Milly

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You can start conversations with strangers or invite a colleague or neighbor you don't know well to lunch. But the trick is to go beyond small talk – ask them how they're doing and what their daily life is like.

Put away your phone and other screens when you’re having conversations, even with the people you see every day, so you can fully listen and notice their facial expressions and gestures.

Also, follow people on social media with different backgrounds than you have (different race, religion, or political persuasion). 

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Stress Relief

Stress Relief

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#26

Money Is Power, But Also Not

Money Is Power, But Also Not

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Better Late Than Never

Better Late Than Never

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Oh Thank You

Oh Thank You

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But don’t just stand in someone else's shoes, as the saying goes—take a walk in them. For example, consider attending someone else's church, mosque, synagogue, or other houses of worship for a few weeks while they attend yours, or visit a village in a developing country and volunteer.

If you don't have enough time for these activities, you can simply explore a new neighborhood, or strike up a conversation with a homeless person in your community.

If someone’s behavior is bothering you, think about why. Consider what it’s like to live their daily life.

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#29

Gay Pride Can Be Whatever You Want/Need It To Be

Gay Pride Can Be Whatever You Want/Need It To Be

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Friendly Encouragement

Friendly Encouragement

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How Lovely

How Lovely

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Showing Respect For One Another’s Professions

Showing Respect For One Another’s Professions

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Remember, you don't need to understand everything about someone to make them feel respected. Just don’t make assumptions about people based on what your life is like. The people on this list certainly haven't.

We’re all humans, and we all have a desire to connect with one another. Building our empathy, considering the perspectives of others, and opening ourselves to uncomfortable conversations can make that happen.

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Witches vs. Patriarchy

Witches vs. Patriarchy

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#34

Jesus Never Stutters

Jesus Never Stutters

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You Get To Decide How You Define Being "Grownup"

You Get To Decide How You Define Being "Grownup"

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All Allies Welcome!

All Allies Welcome!

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Taking Care Of Your Mental Health Is Important

Taking Care Of Your Mental Health Is Important

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We’re All In This Together

We’re All In This Together

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Ok Zoomer

Ok Zoomer

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They Had Us In The First Half

They Had Us In The First Half

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I Love Sharing My Book Collection

I Love Sharing My Book Collection

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Just Flush

Just Flush

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Speak Everything

Speak Everything

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Learning Is Awesome

Learning Is Awesome

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Read What You Love

Read What You Love

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You’re Doing Just Fine

You’re Doing Just Fine

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Blake Knows What's Up

Blake Knows What's Up

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Gonna Remember Who Spoke To Me And Who Didn’t

Gonna Remember Who Spoke To Me And Who Didn’t

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Accept Everyone And Respect Their Decisions Y’all

Accept Everyone And Respect Their Decisions Y’all

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Do Whatever Makes You Happy

Do Whatever Makes You Happy

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Always Puts A Smile On My Face

Always Puts A Smile On My Face

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Very Positive Message I Saw Scrolling Through IG

Very Positive Message I Saw Scrolling Through IG

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Sorry. I Just Had To. It's Too Nice

Sorry. I Just Had To. It's Too Nice

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Let People Live!

Let People Live!

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We All Handsome

We All Handsome

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If It Makes You Happy

If It Makes You Happy

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Good Reminder

Good Reminder

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Dad Knows Best

Dad Knows Best

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Make Those Comics!

Make Those Comics!

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Perfect

Perfect

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Sizes

Sizes

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On Self-Diagnosis

On Self-Diagnosis

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Come On In! Keep Trying

Come On In! Keep Trying

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The World Is Ready

The World Is Ready

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Do What You Like

Do What You Like

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I'm Sure Many Of Us Needed To Hear This

I'm Sure Many Of Us Needed To Hear This

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Wholesome

Wholesome

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Gotta Clean Up

Gotta Clean Up

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Girl In Red's Music Is For Everyone

Girl In Red's Music Is For Everyone

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Final Fantasy

Final Fantasy

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Just Let Them

Just Let Them

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Everyone Deserves The Right To Complain

Everyone Deserves The Right To Complain

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Nobody Cares If You Can’t Dance Well. Just Get Up And Dance

Nobody Cares If You Can’t Dance Well. Just Get Up And Dance

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Melon Flavored Jellyfish's Mom Says The Gates Are Open

Melon Flavored Jellyfish's Mom Says The Gates Are Open

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I Decided To Make Some Original Content, Am I Doing It Right?

I Decided To Make Some Original Content, Am I Doing It Right?

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Nice To See This

Nice To See This

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We Are All Just Humans Trying To Make It To Tomorrow

We Are All Just Humans Trying To Make It To Tomorrow

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For Those That Might Not Have Known, And Those That Know But Needed To Hear It All The Same

For Those That Might Not Have Known, And Those That Know But Needed To Hear It All The Same

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All Consoles Are Good!

All Consoles Are Good!

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One Of My Favorite Tweeters With His Gates Wide Open!

One Of My Favorite Tweeters With His Gates Wide Open!

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No Hamsters!

No Hamsters!

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Everybody Is Something

Everybody Is Something

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We’ve All Been There

We’ve All Been There

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We’re All In This Bumpy Sweaty Party Together

We’re All In This Bumpy Sweaty Party Together

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Ian Opining The Gates

Ian Opining The Gates

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Gym Doors Open, Come Inside

Gym Doors Open, Come Inside

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I Swear To God

I Swear To God

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It’s Spooky Season

It’s Spooky Season

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What Counts As Traveling?

What Counts As Traveling?

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Spotify Wrapped

Spotify Wrapped

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Fixed It

Fixed It

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A Little Advice For The Ladies

A Little Advice For The Ladies

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