30 People Divulge The Most Spot-On ‘You’ll Understand When You’re Older’ Lessons They Were Told

It’s one thing to be intelligent. It’s a whole different can of worms to possess wisdom. And all those times when someone was telling you “you’ll understand when you’re older”—those were moments when they were exercising the latter.

And once folks grew up and understood that all the grown-ups were right—they did understand once they got older—they took to Reddit to share their wisdom and experience in a dedicated thread about the single most “you’ll understand it when you’re older” thing.

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30 People Divulge The Most Spot-On ‘You’ll Understand When You’re Older’ Lessons They Were Told It’s better to be alone than in bad company.

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DennyS (denzoren) 9 months ago

100000% Accurate.

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30 People Divulge The Most Spot-On ‘You’ll Understand When You’re Older’ Lessons They Were Told That sitting outside in a nice weather just doing absolutely nothing is a gift, and that you can really think of nothing.

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SCamp 9 months ago

Same in a hot bath. Can happily sit in a steaming hot bath and be in utter heaven.

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30 People Divulge The Most Spot-On ‘You’ll Understand When You’re Older’ Lessons They Were Told Not everybody is going to like you, even if you're a good person.

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JoyfulZebra 9 months ago (edited)

In many circumstances people won't like you because you're a good person

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The online thread in question was one from r/AskReddit, the second biggest subreddit on the platform. Reddit user NetworkOver7742 approached the community with the question what is the single most “you’ll understand it when you’re older” thing?. The thread quickly gathered a crowd, netting it 9,000 upvotes and 5,300 comments.

30 People Divulge The Most Spot-On ‘You’ll Understand When You’re Older’ Lessons They Were Told That turning 18 doesn't make you an adult. Neither does graduating, getting your first place, getting married, or having a baby. It's kind of a gradual thing, and then one day you're excited because your favorite variety of potatoes are on sale, and you go "Oh, this is adulthood."

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Nerenahd Dhaneren 9 months ago (edited)

I'm 48, married, 3 kids, all is fine.... But I still don't feel I'm a "proper" adult, whatever that means. Everyone else seems more "adult" than me.

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30 People Divulge The Most Spot-On ‘You’ll Understand When You’re Older’ Lessons They Were Told Sex won’t make them love you and a baby won’t make them stay.

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Scrappychick 9 months ago (edited)

Having a child to "save" a relationship is one of the most selfish things anybody can do, more often than not that child will experience some sort of trauma as a result. My parent split when I was 3 years old, my mother got custody and used me as a weapon against my dad and it has caused so many issues for me as an adult, things like forming healthy long term relationships (not just romantic but with family and friends) and allowing people to take advantage of me, financially and emotionally because I'm driven to please other people

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30 People Divulge The Most Spot-On ‘You’ll Understand When You’re Older’ Lessons They Were Told How fast time actually passes.

A year feels like an eternity as a kid. As an adult. i'm pretty sure I just blinked and missed my time since I left university

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Corvus 9 months ago

So true. One possible explanation that I've heard is that each year becomes relatively shorter compared to your ever-increasing total lifetime, which creates this sensation of time going by faster and faster... whereas one school year + 1 summer truly felt like a very long time in childhood.

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So, why is age such a big factor in understanding the world?

The short answer is: more time means more experience, and more experience means more smarts (hopefully).

It goes without saying that kids too can be smart, but the amount of things they have experienced throughout their short lives do not stand against the sheer volume of time grownups have spent living on this planet.

30 People Divulge The Most Spot-On ‘You’ll Understand When You’re Older’ Lessons They Were Told The joy of a good mattress.

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Tams21 9 months ago

And a good pair of shoes. You spend most of your day in one or the other.

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30 People Divulge The Most Spot-On ‘You’ll Understand When You’re Older’ Lessons They Were Told "Annoying" or "boring" things like listening to older people tell stories or eating dinner with your family become precious memories when they're gone. When we're younger we take so many people in our lives for granted. You never know how much time you're going to get. Be grateful for "boring".

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Candace 9 months ago

One day, your parents will be gone, and then you'll wish you listened to those stories. Just remember, it might not be for you now, but for you in the future.

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30 People Divulge The Most Spot-On ‘You’ll Understand When You’re Older’ Lessons They Were Told Sleep is a gift, not a punishment.

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Marie Dahme 9 months ago

Ain’t that the truth brother ! And there are no music (looking at you MTV & VH-1) videos to chill out to at 3am except YouTube.

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But there is more to it than just time.

You see, the brain also needs to develop in order to be able to take in and properly process certain information. Studies suggest that older adults have larger vocabularies and greater knowledge of the depth of the meaning in these vocabularies than younger adults caused by changes in cognition in the brain.

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30 People Divulge The Most Spot-On ‘You’ll Understand When You’re Older’ Lessons They Were Told From Time by Pink Floyd

And then one day you find
Ten years have got behind you
No one told you when to run
You missed the starting gun
And you run, and you run to catch up with the sun
But it's sinking
Racing around to come up behind you again
The sun is the same in a relative way
But you're older
Shorter of breath, and one day closer to death
Every year is getting shorter
Never seem to find the time

I heard this in the 80”s and never thought anything of it. After cancer and a heart attack it hits hard

Treasure the little things. Love where you can

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VonBlade 9 months ago

Hanging on in quiet desperation is the English way.

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How awesome staying home can be if your home is comfortable and safe.

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Marie Dahme 9 months ago

YES ! Just a good book, a comfy lap blanket, a cat on your lap in a big poofy chair next to a window on a rainy day beats all the partying on a Saturday night any day.

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30 People Divulge The Most Spot-On ‘You’ll Understand When You’re Older’ Lessons They Were Told How dumb you actually are as a teenager and well into your twenties.

We all thought we knew better, didn't we? Some of us still do, but most of us have matured enough to realize that aside from maybe one or two topics, we know exactly two things: "Jack" and "S**t", and Jack left town.

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Adam S 9 months ago

Part of the joy of being young is being a bit clueless, doing a few crazy things, and the optimism that you are gonna change the world. And of course you know a lot less than people older than you. But I wouldn’t wish wisdom and sensibility on anyone under 25, there’s time for that later!

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And it doesn’t stop there as the older you get, the more your brain changes—certain parts of the brain shrink, the neurons in some parts become less effective, blood flow may decrease, and inflammation can become more frequent. Unfortunately, all of these aren’t all that good of a change, but that doesn’t stop folks from learning new things, nor does it diminish their aptitude for it.

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How much of a waste of time and mental energy it is to be very concerned with your looks. Especially as a woman. There's a reason most makeup/fashion etc social media gals are in their 20s ... older women have stopped giving a s**t. Doesn't mean we've given up on our appearance, we've just realized we are naturally hot anyway and devoted our attention to other things that enrich our lives.

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Marie Dahme 9 months ago

Amen sister. Amen. 🙏

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30 People Divulge The Most Spot-On ‘You’ll Understand When You’re Older’ Lessons They Were Told How your body really does decline even if you do everything right (work out, maintain a good weight, good sleep, food, etc). When you're young you can't imagine not having the strength or energy to do anything you want. Then you get much older and your body can just give out on you.

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Marie Dahme 9 months ago

Aging is not for the weak or faint of heart. I’m 52 and I dread every morning wondering if I am gonna sleep wrong causing a new ache and pain that will totally ruin whatever I had planned for the day.

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Sometimes, you don't get closure, either as the victim of wrongdoing, or what I'm really talking about, as the perpetrator.

Let's say you did someone badly, and you've really, honestly had a change of heart and mind, and you want to make amends.

If they don't want to hear from you, and don't want to forgive you, you're out of luck. I know you want to put it to rest. But you don't get to force your "sorry" on someone who may still be traumatized by your prior actions. They don't owe you that opportunity for atonement. And insisting on them forgiving you, or even talking to you, is forcing them to relive the trauma from the first time, and re-traumatizing them.

It doesn't matter that your intentions are pure. They have a right to be left alone.

If this happens to you, as the perpetrator, the only step left to you is to live with your guilt. How you go about that is up to you, as long as you continue a life of not hurting others. Get comfortable with that guilt, because no one owes you closure.

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Scrappychick 9 months ago

Absolutly this. My ex was abusive to the extent that the law was involved, after his bail conditions expired he began writing to me, I opened and read the first letter because I didnt recognise the writing, there was no apology just how he's working on himself. I managed to save enough to move about 6 months after his arrest and have been contacted recently by my old landlord that the new tenant was still receiving post for me and it can only be more letter from him as I informed all the utilities/bank/credit cards/insurance etc when I moved. Its been almost 2 years and I owe him nothing

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Another study suggests that kids see words and faces differently from adults. TL;DR: the center of the brain that processes these is in a slightly different place and the different sides of the brain process information at a different pace. Again, another indicator that the brain needs to develop in order to reach a certain milestone of understanding.

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30 People Divulge The Most Spot-On ‘You’ll Understand When You’re Older’ Lessons They Were Told How rare real friends you can count on.

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SCamp 9 months ago

Your circle of friends tends to get smaller as you age, hang on to the good ones

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30 People Divulge The Most Spot-On ‘You’ll Understand When You’re Older’ Lessons They Were Told "We got food at home."

We sure as hell do and it cost me 10x less than any fast food place my kids point out every day.

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Candace 9 months ago

Buying ingredients and making your own food is ALWAYS cheaper than store bought. ALWAYS.

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30 People Divulge The Most Spot-On ‘You’ll Understand When You’re Older’ Lessons They Were Told How limited your own perspective is. It's something you can really only learn with age, no amount of explaining will help a kid understand how biased they are towards their own lived experience.

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Tams21 9 months ago

Never mind kids, this is something so many adults struggle with, including those that really should know better.

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Yet another study showed that kids have trouble understanding what people say sometimes for a number of reasons. This might be caused by trouble with focus, working memory or processing sounds and words in general. However, since the brain works on a practice makes perfect basis, working on it might likely help develop the skills needed. Again, it’s all about putting time and effort into it.

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30 People Divulge The Most Spot-On ‘You’ll Understand When You’re Older’ Lessons They Were Told The importance of good posture and stretching.

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Candace 9 months ago

Helps with aches and pains as you grow older.

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#20

Comfort trumps all. Good warm socks and very comfortable shoes. Brands be damned.

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Marie Dahme 9 months ago

Those old guys wearing socks and sandals aren’t so dumb after all now are they ? lol

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#21

Karma is a myth. Plenty of s****y people out here living their best life. So when people hurt you, dust yourself up and move on. Don’t wait on the “universe” to avenge you, it will not.

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PattyK 9 months ago

Well, actually, karma is not a myth. Americans think karma is punishment, revenge, vengeance, evening the score — it’s none of those things. Karma is the path you choose to follow. “Karma is conscious action. Karma is not fate, but, in fact, it’s opposite: karma is choice.” — Sy Montgomery, “The Soul of an Octopus”

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It’s not to say kids don’t understand anything. On the contrary, they excel in other ways. Because kids are extremely curious and their attention is all over the place, they often notice things adults don’t. Even if they are asked to focus on a particular aspect of a picture, they will likely notice changes where they weren’t asked to focus, while adults often fail at that.

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30 People Divulge The Most Spot-On ‘You’ll Understand When You’re Older’ Lessons They Were Told Choosing your battles.

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B 9 months ago

You want to stay married?? Learn to say you are sorry even if you don't think you are wrong. There are some hills not worth dieing on.

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30 People Divulge The Most Spot-On ‘You’ll Understand When You’re Older’ Lessons They Were Told Pop music, slang, and other teen culture.

Teens always think they invented culture and their opinions are objective truth. Older people see those fads come and go every year and know they are just passing fads.

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Marie Dahme 9 months ago

I still think I’m cool. Until a nurse at the hospital had never heard of Kurt Cobain or Nirvana. What ???? But I have shoes older than her and she wasn’t even around in the 90’s. So much for me being cool. Sigh 😞

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You really do stop caring about other people’s opinions. That self doubt you have in your 20’s where you’re always concerned about how you appear to others- it absolutely diminishes or goes away completely in your mid to late 30’s. For most people anyways.

As I’ve gotten older I’ve cared less and less about clothing trends, people pleasing, and sacrificing my own well being for the happiness or pleasure of others. I see TikTok’s from younger generations that talk about how millennials can change their style to look less old or dated. And I just can’t fathom who actually needs that information except younger folks who wanna dogpile on an older generation.

I can say with the utmost confidence, the vast majority of people have so much more to worry and care about than what a 20 year old thinks of the rise on their pants. You realize that the majority of people aren’t actually thinking about you at all, let alone what you’re wearing or how you look.

ETA- I’m not saying that no one should ever care about anyone else’s opinion ever. Some level of awareness is important. However, so many people spend so much time trying to become something or someone else in order to fit in. People spend so much money and time trying to be *that girl or guy*. Women especially have so much pressure to fit certain standards under the guise that everyone is watching and judging them. When you get older, you realize that the vast majority of that pressure was most likely a lie to either sell you something or to make you feel bad so others can feel better about themselves.

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Marie Dahme 9 months ago

Corporate marketing is a scam to take your money. Ain’t no magic eye cream gonna make you look 20 when you’re 50. Take care of yourself but be realistic too with the expectations

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At that point, their brain is in a different mode—one that allows them to soak in more from their environment with that kind of unfocused focusing. Of course, they do need to learn to focus as it is a skill that will benefit them in later life, but you can see how perspective changes over time.

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30 People Divulge The Most Spot-On ‘You’ll Understand When You’re Older’ Lessons They Were Told I would say that the world is not black and white. What seems to clear and straightforward becomes murkier and harder to cleanly divide as you get older.

It's not (just) dementia: as you get older, you realize more and more what causes people to act the way they do and the roles of victim and perpetrator become harder to distinguish. The key concept is that victims become perpetrators.

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Karl 9 months ago

Very few absolute truths - just ever more complicated shades of grey

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30 People Divulge The Most Spot-On ‘You’ll Understand When You’re Older’ Lessons They Were Told There's always room to grow, never stop.

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OhnoI’vebeencensored 9 months ago

My jeans indicate otherwise.

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#27

1. Avril Lavigne was right. It has all been done before. So chill out.
2. This, too, shall pass. No, really.
3. How awesome it is to be a mostly average human being living an average life of whom only mediocrity is expected. For one thing, you're never alone with whatever it is.
4. If you're young you take for granted so many things. Your time. Your health. Your natural beauty. The friendships you so easily make. Only by getting older and seeing those things get jeopardised or taken away, can you learn to understand the power of these things.

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Shelby Moonheart 9 months ago

1. Song Of Solomon.

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Ultimately, these changes lead to new and more complex understandings of the world and the things in it. And throw some creativity into the mix—you might end up with more than just an understanding, but actually with a better way of dealing with issues in general.

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30 People Divulge The Most Spot-On ‘You’ll Understand When You’re Older’ Lessons They Were Told The phrase 'youth is wasted on the young' I would always get so offended hearing that when I was a child, usually spoken to me after I had done some ridiculous feat that took so much energy to do absolutely nothing at all. I know what they meant now. And I'm only in mid 30s. The adults that would tell me this were 50 and up and looking at me so wistfully. I understand.

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Nerenahd Dhaneren 9 months ago

Time is waisted at any age. Period. Even on your late years. Carpe diem.

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Naptime

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DennyS (denzoren) 9 months ago

Naptime is the best!!

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30 People Divulge The Most Spot-On ‘You’ll Understand When You’re Older’ Lessons They Were Told The sheer power of compound interest over time.

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Satan Laughs 9 months ago

Please start a retirement account for your kid. Very smart.

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So, what are your thoughts on any of this? What are some pearls of wisdom that you understood later on in life? Share your experiences in the comment section below.

And don’t forget to check out the Reddit thread for more wise understandings.

What do you think ?

Flora Porter 9 months ago

Make it a policy to ignore all advertising, and any vehicles that are majority advertising, like glossy magazines. It's literally about creating envy and designed to make you dissatisfied with your life. Not good for contentment.

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majandess 9 months ago

Make it a policy to understand what advertising actually is. The weekly ads that tell you what's on sale at the grocery store? Advertising. The poster at the library announcing the activities for the week? Advertising. The post on FB from your kid's school talking about the open house Thursday night? Advertising. I have learned about cooking classes and new stores and activities to do with my kid from advertisements. I depend on advertisements. No, I'm not gonna go buy a car just because I saw it on TV, but to say all advertising is bad is to completely fail to recognize it.

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The Original Bruno 9 months ago (edited)

I finally just realized why leftist media promotes glamour so hard in spite of the apparent hypocrisy. I've long known that the incumbent industry leaders love big government because it helps them protect market share against upstarts... and of course that they profit directly off of this c**p. But why aren't the POLITICAL leaders and grass roots bothered by the hypocrisy? Because socialism relies on envy.

Adam Michael 9 months ago (edited)

Lol look up Australia lol we swear and whoop nonsense

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Rick Seiden 9 months ago

The poor tax. When you are poor, you can't afford a car so you take the bus. But you can't save up money to buy a car because you're taking the bus everywhere. And when you can buy a car, it's not a good one, because you can't get a good loan because you don't make enough. And now you have a c**p car, so you have to pay repairs that you wouldn't if you got a better car, maybe that was still under warranty.

There are a lot of taxes on being poor, like over-withdrawal charges, wasted rent, etc. But as someone who drives old cars, I guarantee you that driving an old car is way cheaper than buying a new car under warrantee, despite government policies which reduce the inventory of old cars. The most poor-hating legislation ever was "cash for clunkers": rich people get paid extra for spending wastefully on polluting vehicles, but poor people have to pay more money because we took millions of older vehicles off the road, all while we ignore the fact that building a new car pollutes SO much more than the reduced efficiency that comes with a car aging.

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The Original Bruno 9 months ago

Here's another one: the more money you spend, the more carbon you generate. Seriously. Some expensive things actually last longer so save money in the long run, and these are the truly "green" purchases. And sometimes the carbon generated is from paying someone else to generate carbon, but obviously creating jobs is sometimes a good thing. But the only real time there isn't an iron-tight negative correlation between spending money and being green is when you pay for cheap, overseas labor in nations that pollute. We should all live more like St. Francis of Assissi and less like New York hipster greens.

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