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According to Shpancer, refusing to think about something we know is true is a form of avoidance. "It may provide short-term relief from discomfort, and can sometimes help us keep from becoming distracted, but in the long term, a habit of persistent avoidance—a refusal to face your known challenges—becomes a bigger problem than whatever issue you were avoiding in the first place," the author of The Good Psychologist told Bored Panda.

This, let's call it practice, sounds quite similar to denial, but, as Shpancer pointed out, the latter is a refusal to accept or acknowledge the truth altogether. "The benefit of denial is that it may, in the short term, buy you some time to summon and mobilize your coping resources," he explained.

"When we hear bad, surprising news, our first reaction is often 'No, it can't be,' even if we have every reason to trust the source of the bad news. This momentary denial may allow us to 'catch our breath' as it were, before delving into the hard work of coping. Relying on denial for the long term is, however, unhealthy. Such persistent refusal to acknowledge and face facts erodes interpersonal trust and communication and leads to bad decisions. If you're falling, there's no use telling yourself that you've learned how to fly."

#2

People Share 40 Things That Are True But That No One Wants To Hear Just because someone is related to you doesn't mean they are a good person.

ohnomyglasseye , Some Tale Report

Final score:

428points

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Well-Dressed Wolf 2 years ago

My mother and sister are my abusers. I remember seeing a Tumblr post about how great it is to have a sibling as you’ll “always have a friend”. I almost choked laughing at the naivety.

101points

Sherman, the author of Neither Ghost nor Machine: The Emergence and Nature of Selves, agreed, highlighting how human life is uniquely anxious compared to other organisms. "Just compare the range of worries a human could have compared to any other critter. No contest. To cope, we need denial, escapism, entertainment, but to survive we need all hands on deck in reality too," he explained to Bored Panda.

"I'm on a campaign I call 'optimal: see illusion, safe escapism or strategic gullibility', encouraging people to take their denialist flights of fancy but always with a return ticket to reality safe in your heart pocket. It's not how far out you go, but whether you remember to come back. The big difference between a death metal concert and an authoritarian political rally is what happens in the parking lot after. After the metal concert, people return to reality. After the rally, people think they've experienced something more real than reality. That's dangerous."

#3

People Share 40 Things That Are True But That No One Wants To Hear Voting Trump out of office won't magically fix everything. He is a symptom of a bigger disease here in the USA.

Greedence , Matt Johnson Report

Final score:

413points

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Well-Dressed Wolf 2 years ago

Yeah, but it sure made me FEEL better to help vote him out of office!

211points

Susan Flewelling 2 years ago

Feeling better now that the economy has tanked and we're on the verge of war?

5points

Night Owl 2 years ago (edited)

I think he's planing to run for the office again 2024 :/ (but that probably depends on the midterm elections this year)

5points

czac hangartner 2 years ago

It sure didn't make my wallet "feel" any better lol

4points

Wilko Lunenburg 2 years ago

He isn't in office at the moment, but make sure he, and his henchmen, never will again.

2points

Marcus A. 2 years ago (edited)

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Martha Higgins 2 years ago

Especially since he still persists in believing he won.

1point

Chase Weeks 2 years ago

How’s that going? (And no I didn’t vote for Trump either time)

1point

Kellie Whyte 1 year ago

No, I'm sorry, that would be using logical and rational thinking, instead of leading with your emotions like you lot seem to do.

0points

Kellie Whyte 1 year ago

LOL and now you have a puppet as a President. Did you ever think that THE REASON that the Main Stream Media was so against Donald Trump and tried ABSOLUTELY EVERYTHING they could to make him look bad and take him down, is that he WASN'T a puppet?

-2points

Sue Wade-Walters 2 years ago

And do you feel better now, with inflation, crime, etc. out of control? I hated Trump as a person, but many of his policies worked better.

-2points

VodkaInMySweetTea 2 years ago

No they didn't. We're just now feeling the impact of many of his policies. Same with the trump years. He benefitted from an economy that Obama built. No policy change has an immediate effect. It usually takes years to see the impact.

29points

Norah Reilly 2 years ago

Me too, but that doesn't absolve me of the obligation to try to fix the underlying issues.

-3points

Lorena Hamilton 2 years ago

Amen!!

-3points

Jason Wheeler 2 years ago

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Nimues Child 2 years ago

This comment goes beyond Trump to so many other US politicians: When it is more important to you to stay in power instead of governing, you are not the person for the job. When you are proud of blocking *any* legislation just to block it, you are not the person for the job. If you are not willing to learn the basics of working together, you are not the person for the job.

19points

Nancy Marine 2 years ago

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ben woskje 2 years ago

We recently voted out an ultra-religious-right-wing-whack job in aus.... and just having him gone has given people hope. Sure, many of the issues he (and his party) caused are kicking our arses right now.... but there at a sense of hope for many people that at least the current government is trying to make things better. I would imagine its the same in the U.S.

12points

Kellie Whyte 1 year ago

LOL I sure as hell hope you're not talking about ScoMo, and holding hope for Albenese???

1point

Eric G 2 years ago

Make racists and bigots afraid again.

9points

Ela 2 years ago

MRABAA doesn't have that great a ring, but I'll get behind it anyway.

3points

Bender Bending Rodríguez 2 years ago

Voting out or in a president is not end all. We need to vote out undesirables in congress. President can't do much without a congress.

8points

Nimues Child 2 years ago

Vote. Vote in the "small elections" - where the basis of democracy is. Look at the local officials who stood up to Trump's bullying and refused to change votes in his favor. My local alderman became mayor and then became a powerful congressman. Voting counts.

4points

Clay Russell 2 years ago

Voting that traitor out of office was one of the best things to come out of Voting for anything in this country.

7points

Id row 2 years ago

Yeah, but his presence was like turning off the lights in an infested tenement. All the roaches came out of the woodwork.

6points

Panda Who Mumbles, Constantly 2 years ago

How he managed to get into office is the part that boggles the mind. I thought the US had a lot of smart people. Trump and COVID has definitely enlightened me on that.

6points

Nimues Child 2 years ago

As you can see from the comments, one party has been using FUD (fear, uncertainty & doubt) for years to groom a base. It's was pointed out to this party in the early 2000s "if you don't give something back to the people, they will fall for the first demagogue who comes along." Trump was that demagogue.

4points

VodkaInMySweetTea 2 years ago

Yes, but he gave people the permission to say the quiet part out loud. So, all the shittiest, most racist, most hateful parts of America that had at the very least been kept at bay by reasonable minds, are now on full display and gloried in. Taking away his platform will *eventually* temper the rhetoric. As long as we don't bring in someone even worse in the future.

5points

Eric Schultz Saindon 2 years ago

People think "Trump isn't the real problem" idea is a "hot take." And while, yes, Trump is absolutely a symptom of larger issues that began with conservative talk radio and Reagan in the 80s, continued with Newt Gingrich and republicans of the 90s, and then amplified through Bush II and social media, however Trump is uniquely dangerous. He literally put his VP's life in danger because he wouldn't participate in his coup. Among 1000s of other examples. Trump is a clear and present danger.

4points

Nimues Child 2 years ago

He would sacrifice anybody and everybody to get more power and ego feeding.

4points

Poultry Geist 2 years ago (edited)

Yep I’m feeling that now ! I’m still glad he’s gone but nothing got better

4points

Stamuse Erenest 2 years ago

Voting Biden into office made it worse, he is another symptom of the same problem and becasue of him we will get Trump in office once more. We need leaders that unify not bring us apart. There are no more good choices, politics does not attract good quality people, it attracts corrupt, attention-hungry, not so smart people.

3points

LH25 2 years ago

I think we will have a Rep president next, I just pray it's not Trump.

2points

Mike Dumas 2 years ago

Maybe not, but voting against him was a start. I got mine!

3points

Len Mastin 2 years ago

Oh yes, the democrats are doing a bang up job, aren’t they!

3points

RedCorvette 2 years ago

As long as he and his fail children are out of WH, it’s good.

3points

Ash 2 years ago

He made it okay for racist, misogynistic, homophobic and hate filled people to come out of the hole they crawled out of.

3points

Frank Miller 2 years ago

Correct, the disease is referred to as 'Republicans".

2points

Chilly Chili 2 years ago

Sure... there's a fire but you don't have to pour gasoline on it right? Diaper Donnie had to go.

2points

Sally Barry 2 years ago

I got a mail-in ballot to vote and I drove several miles in a rainstorm with a fever of 101, to the building to cast my vote, in order to vote against Dump.

2points

Idahogirl 2 years ago

And now your gas is around or over $5.00 a gallon. Biden is an absolute idiot. If you look at Trump with regards to what he accomplished, you would not be so negative. You don't have to love the President's personality for him to be a good President. Trump is for America. Biden puts America last. How the gas prices haven't proven that to you, I don't know. Maybe the outrageous inflation at the grocery store will open your eyes? Or when your ability to buy a house goes out the window because the interest rates are so high you can't afford it. All of that is on Biden's shoulders. Stop blaming things on Trump and see reality for what it is, please. When Biden took over from President Trump, none of these a problem. It's all because of Biden and his horrible decisions. But go ahead and brag that you didn't vote for Trump. Sounds like you'll cut off your nose to spite your face.

0points

Will Thix 4 months ago

how's that working out for you guys over there in the US now?

1point

Francie Traschen 2 years ago

You lost, trump! Now freakin' admit it! Can't wait to see him go to prison

1point

Jaxier Lucies 2 years ago

Donald Trump was the best president the US government ever had. He kept the attention on himself while the government screwed everyone in silence. The perfect clown

1point

notnow 2 years ago

Our problems didn't start with him or Obama. It goes back to trickle-down economics. That same President sent allowed manufacturing to go overseas. This has been coming for 30 years.

1point

Trinity 2 years ago

Politicians and baby diapers have 1 big thing in common: the fact that they need to be changed regularly and for the same reason.

1point

Nikkie Pirog 2 years ago

He's an evil EVIL man!

1point

Shyla Clay 2 years ago

*Whistles to herself and moves to a less volitile entry*

1point

Nicki 2 years ago

This, unfortunately, is very very true...

1point

David Timmons 2 years ago

He definitely was the catalyst for the disease to speed up the infection in society in a HUGE way.

1point

Alicia Kessinger Bader 2 years ago

I disagree. I think Trump is the seeping nipple of one of the "bigger diseases" here in the USA. The breast are the people who believed/believe in him to be some kind of middle class savior/radical/spokes-person when he was just using their need for attention & confirmation.

1point

Jill Taylor 2 years ago

This is true. The sheer volume of problems he created while in office will be unfixable for at least one generation, if not more, and is causing us to move backwards at a terrifying speed.

1point

Jill Hojnacki 2 years ago

Yes. And, if we allow him - or his supporters - back in office the things that are wrong are going to get worse and are going to become increasingly difficult to fix.

1point

Doggo 2 years ago

WE NEED TO BUILD WALL

1point

Nimues Child 2 years ago

Gotta ask - where do you want this wall and for what purpose? Or is it just trolling Trump's "Build The Wall" stance?

0points

Lex 1 year ago

This is part of the reason I never vote.

0points

Gypsy Lee 2 years ago

As an American I agree. But people, be real, not all Americans are like the trash they so often over-focus on here on BP. - That’s like saying ALL Catholics are pedophiles, or ALL Europeans are arrogant. Nationalists. If you want to find fault, you will. Be better.

0points

Adedoyin Kugbiyi 2 years ago

Agreed 100%

0points

Kevin J. Henning 2 years ago

Well said.

0points

Andy Frobig 2 years ago

But it did fix the thing about the double-digit-IQ wannabe-mafia-boss fascist who wants to dismantle the country from the inside. Gotta start somewhere.

0points

Shannon Hawks 2 years ago

oh yeah. king joe and the camel toe are doing a much better job than trump. moron

0points

LucasRadford 2 years ago

America had never been stronger until Trump made us as strong as he did! Let's go Brandon

0points

Tamra 2 years ago

Trump made this country a laughingstock. He was willing to sacrifice his VP because Pence refused to play into his delusion about losing the election. He fires or turns against any and everyone who doesn't kiss his a*s. The man is a spoiled child at best, and unhinged at worst.

0points

Rost it 2 years ago

Putin got him elected...

0points

Timothy Leung 2 years ago

Taking cough syrup doesn't cure the cold, but it's a start.

0points

Alicia Kessinger Bader 2 years ago

My point is that the majority of people who voted for Trump will continue to NEED such attention & confirmation. So, in essence, I retract what I said earlier of "I disagree." I do agree. But I still think he is the "seeping nipple." Every human has a nipple ... so the metaphor still applies.

0points

Paul Werner 2 years ago

Trump wasn't a good person but he ran the country a hell of a lot better than this dipshit but hey we get to vote in another dipshit that doesn't give two shits about us soon,then we can all fight over which one will make America great again or whatever dumb slogan they come up with!

0points

Gregory Mead 2 years ago

It's a start.

0points

Bryan W. 2 years ago

He was alright while in office. A bit mouthy but just another conservative. Certainly not the Messiah his idiot zealots think he is but was fun watch him p**s off the ultra-liberals. But no one likes a sore LOSER who kicks and screams and trashes the place on his way out. F him.

0points

Mental Liberals 2 years ago

The US government is the bigger disease! Corruption galore!! FJB!

0points

Grady'sRaider 2 years ago

Agi-prop is nasty stuff.

0points

Jaded McQueen 2 years ago

Yeah but it SURE DOES HELP

0points

Tami 2 years ago

I think the basic problem is that our survival instincts are out of control. We keep feeding our desires way beyond what's necessary for physical survival and mental health. No one person or government can fix that, each person has to fix themself.

0points

S 2 years ago

Same with voting him back in as so many wish to do in 2024

0points

Archer Harris 2 years ago

I would have to disagree with this. Hear me out… I don’t really like to pick sides with politics because I think both side are absolutely horrible but what I have seen on the news with the left trying to take away the second amendment is scary. They think that by taking our second amendment rights away will lead to a safer place but it really won’t. There are so many school shootings and just shootings in general because people are sitting ducks if they don’t have the tools to defend themselves. Also if you look deeper into other countries that have banned guns evil people still find ways to kill and if those evil people in a gun banned country get their hands on a black market gun or literally any weapon, who is going to stop them from shootings up a store and killing 50 people before the police get there?

0points

Tofu 2 years ago

I truly appreciate your thoughtful response. As a gun-owning liberal, I have to disagree that we're trying to completely take away our 2nd amendment rights. I think we'd be happy to have assault rifles banned at least. What actual reason does a civilian need an AR for?

9points

Powerful Katrinka 2 years ago

I haven't heard a single person on "the left" who has ever suggested that we get rid of the 2nd amendment. This is a straw man argument made up by the NRA. (A straw man argument, sometimes called a straw person argument or spelled strawman argument, is the logical fallacy of distorting an opposing position into an extreme version of itself and then arguing against that extreme version.)

8points

LH25 2 years ago

No one is talking about taking away second amendment rights. We are talking about limiting ownership of one type of gun.

7points

Nimues Child 2 years ago

Archer, thank you for your considered response. Please look deeper into this. It is not as knee-jerk simple as "the left is trying to take away the second amendment". That outcome is not what people want. We simply want common-sense, responsible gun ownership and accountability. Like any other dangerous activity (driving, performing surgery, etc.) you should need to be trained, you should need to show you are capable of handling that kind of responsibility and need to be licensed so others know you are trained and responsible. I don't know how old you are, but when I went to school in the US, we didn't have to learn how to hide from shooters. No child should. Please, please, when you are tempted to just believe one side or the other of the discussion because of good rhetoric, take some time to look at facts on both sides and go with facts. BTW: I live in a state where people don't feel the need to carry guns all the time. We actually feel safer.

2points

Bender Bending Rodríguez 2 years ago

You lost me at both sides. Only one side is trying to solve problems and trying to help working class. Other just want to make rich richer. FU5MaffXoA...d24bd4.jpg

1point

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Dan Nickason 2 years ago

I would vote for him

-1point

Nancy Marine 2 years ago

And choosing Biden so he can decimate the country financially sure didn't fix anything at all, but I'm just someone who is sick and tired of not being able to afford gas and food in the same paycheck.

-1point

LH25 2 years ago

So, what specific policies and decisions from Biden led to this?

1point

Talysen 2 years ago

Hope you “feel” better at the gas station and grocery store.

-2points

edgar 2 years ago

Voting Biden is the proof of that.

-2points

jmdirks 2 years ago

Being a democrap means you are correct 100% of the time.

-2points

KLo 2 years ago

The symptom is called vomitus

-2points

Deborah Barron Brown 2 years ago

Angry white guy syndrome.

-2points

Crazy Dog Lady 2 years ago

Rob DeSantis is no better and he’s not going anywhere.

-2points

Chris Gaulding 2 years ago

Anyone that disagrees with progressive liberal policies is a disease in your eyes. Y'all just posted about hearing differing opinions, as long as they aren't conservative, right? Because all conservatives are racist bigoted LGBT haters

-2points

Tofu 2 years ago

There's a big difference between being conservative and being a trumpster imho

3points

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Auntriarch 2 years ago

We have both of those in UK, and I'm pretty sure it's nothing to do with the current inhabitant of the White House. Or the last one

10points

Powerful Katrinka 2 years ago

Inflation and high gas prices are a global problem. In fact, many countries have worse inflation and higher gas prices than the U.S. None of this has anything to do with Biden. This is common knowledge; your argument is ridiculously easy to refute.

7points

Idahogirl 2 years ago

I agree, Maureen! I don't know how people do not see that with Trump, all of these things were under control. Under Biden, gas, inflation, etc... are out of control. Don't give me the "gas prices are a global problem" lie. America was energy independent before Biden took over! Energy Independent!!

-3points

One study of 2,000 adults across the United States, which was commissioned by global tour operator G Adventures, suggests that the average American spends 12 hours and 56 minutes escaping their reality each week. (That's roughly four years over a lifetime.)

The most popular forms of disconnecting from work, responsibilities, and everything else that drives them crazy came in the form of reading books (1 hour 34 minutes), watching movies (2 hours 37 minutes), and dreaming of vacations (44 minutes).

#4

People Share 40 Things That Are True But That No One Wants To Hear Life is easier for attractive people.

BobSacramanto , AYKUT AKTAŞ Report

Final score:

409points

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Momma Panda 2 years ago

And being unatrractive woman makes you invisible.

191points

However, as previously mentioned, this can't go on forever and we need to come to terms with the world around us. Jeremy Sherman thinks people can make it easier for themselves by focusing on what he calls ironic fallibilism.

"An ironic situation is one where you get the opposite of what you expected: you do the right thing and it comes out wrong or vice versa. An ironic attitude is recognition that despite your best effort, ironic situations are not entirely escapable. There is no sure-fire formula for living. Just when you discover the meaning of life, it changes."

"Ironism is not cynicism. It's the recognition that life is deeply tragic and deeply slapstick. Life is tragicomic," he explained.

#5

People Share 40 Things That Are True But That No One Wants To Hear We need to stop consuming animal products the way we currently are. It's absolutely unsustainable.

The amount of downvotes this post will receive proves the title of this post.

Nemo1ner , Annie Spratt Report

Final score:

400points

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Ripley 2 years ago

The key part of this is "the way we currently are", and this is very true. You don't have to be a vegan to not participate in the cruelty of intensive factory farming. It is possible to eat genuinely ethically raised animal products where the animal had a happy life - it's just really expensive. Killing is not inherently cruel - subjecting an animal to pain and terror before it's killed is.

189points

"Fallibilism is a concept in philosophy and more than any other notion, fallibilism has given me peace of mind about dealing with reality," Sherman continued. "I think of the fallibilist mantra as 'no matter how confident I am in a bet, I remain still more confident that it is a bet. Life is iffy guesswork. Yoda is wrong. There's only try. One can make better bets. One can bet with high confidence. One can't escape betting."

Sherman sees ironic fallibilism as the antidote to two unworkable approaches that are often combined:

The first one is fundamentalist hypocrisy, or pretending you have the formula for living though you don't, can't, and shouldn't live by it. And the second one is cynical hypocrisy, or pretending there's no formula so you can do whatever you want.

"[Jerks] (I'm a psychoproctologist) employ both. Everyone should live by their supposed fundamentalist formula that they cynically don't think they have to live by. No deed is too dirty for saints like them."

#6

People Share 40 Things That Are True But That No One Wants To Hear Just because you've been doing something longer than other people doesn't mean you're better at it (driving, job role, sports etc)

northsouth261 , Israel Andrade Report

Final score:

380points

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Jakub Neumann 2 years ago

It doesn't, but it is a good indicator you might be.

119points

Professor Noam Shpancer added that we should revise our expectation that life should be easy, and the attendant aversion to discomfort. "Hardship is not the end of the world," he said. "It is just the world. The default position for human beings is resilience. Normalizing the struggle is useful."

"Second, accepting reality tends to be easier when we take a long-term perspective, because the danger and damage associated with a failure to face reality are usually obscured in the short run and clarify only in the long run. When making decisions, it is, therefore, useful to consider not only your present self but the well-being of your future self as well. When you fail to deal with the facts of your circumstance, you in effect sell out your future self."

#7

People Share 40 Things That Are True But That No One Wants To Hear "You can achieve anything you put your mind to" is NOT true.

Not even close.

Genetics play a HUGE role in whether or not someone will be a good athlete, or a super successful scientist.

Can you be an "OK" athlete if you try really hard and practice really hard? Sure. Will you break world records or play for a professional team? No. You have to be especially gifted in the genetics department to do those sorts of things.

The same thing applies for mental pursuits. Not everyone is smart. Some people just don't... get it. You can try a million different ways of teaching a subject and some people just... won't... get it. Critical thinking (the ability to see a problem and visualize how to get a solution) comes MUCH MORE EASILY to some people than to others. Can you sit there and memorize things and get good grades and what not? Absolutely. Will you ever be a scientist who does extremely important research and solves the world's next huge problem? Probably not, unless you get hired because of nepotism are dragged along by someone who IS good at critical thinking.

Furthermore, much of what you CAN do is limited by who you know. If you're rich or your parents are rich and they know lots of people and have a large social network or a lot of people who want to please them for one reason or another, you'll likely find a job in whatever career you want to extremely easily provided you're not totally inept. If you're the first in your family to get a degree and aren't good at maintaining a social network you'll likely have an extremely hard time finding a job, even if you are the person best suited for the jobs you are applying for. Even if the job you're applying for is LITERALLY what you spent 5 years getting a PhD on, if you don't know somebody, you likely won't get that job.

corrado33 , Chris Chow Report

Final score:

375points

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Isabella 2 years ago

This should be much higher.

81points

Finally, we must constantly work on educating ourselves and seeking knowledge that can provide answers to questions we sometimes can't even articulate. Shpancer believes that history is the subject to start with, as it "shows what happens to those who deny the facts, and about the scientific method, which shows that in refereeing competing truth claims, following the evidence is our best bet.

"'Facts,' said John Adams, 'are stubborn things; and whatever may be our wishes, our inclinations, or the dictates of our passion, they cannot alter the state of facts and evidence.' The evidence wins out in the end. Don’t you want to be on the winning side?"

#8

People Share 40 Things That Are True But That No One Wants To Hear All children are innocent, but they’re not all good. Some people will grow up to be f*****g assholes regardless of what they’re exposed to.

BiggChimpin , Piron Guillaume Report

Final score:

371points

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Katie Lutesinger 2 years ago

Oh yeah, there are some shockingly evil kids out there. I've met a few.

118points

#9

People Share 40 Things That Are True But That No One Wants To Hear Money can actually make your life happier.

mlo92895 , Alexander Mils Report

Final score:

351points

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Gin. No tonic 2 years ago

Up to a certain point. If you have 100 million or 500 million, then it might not make much difference.

61points

#10

People Share 40 Things That Are True But That No One Wants To Hear You need to have your views challenged.

Being around and positively engaging with people who disagree with you is one of the healthiest intellectual practices we can do.

Big_Muff_Pie , essica Da Rosa Report

Final score:

327points

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Ellie McGrath 2 years ago

Not stuck in the echo chamber of fb groups

8points

#11

People Share 40 Things That Are True But That No One Wants To Hear Having an opinion doesn't make you right.

Philosofried , Kristin Wolff Report

Final score:

321points

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Max M 2 years ago

Some are even left

56points

#12

People Share 40 Things That Are True But That No One Wants To Hear The more children you have, the more you contribute to environmental decline. Literally nobody likes hearing this because HUMANS MUST REPRODUCE YADA YADA.

turtlemari , Kelly Sikkema Report

Final score:

277points

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iseefractals 2 years ago

Most true for Americans, and to a lesser extent the other "western" countries. There were 1 billion people on the planet in 1800. In 1950, there were 2.53 billion, 1980 4.43 billion, 1999 6 billion, 2011, 7 billion, today we sit at 7.95 billion, and will reach 8 billion people by next year. We can't effectively sustain the human population now, 1/3rd of food production ends up wasted, while 1/4 of the global population doesn't have enough to eat because getting it everywhere is a logistical nightmare, and yet a large portion of the population continues to think the only way to solve the big problems of the world is to stay the course, continue unchecked expansion and hope that solutions will be born along with the rising population. We've been playing this game for 40 years with the climate, and we're almost out of time. Yet the mindset seems unchanged.

61points

#13

People Share 40 Things That Are True But That No One Wants To Hear Just because you love someone it doesn't mean they will love you back. No matter how hard you try to get them to, they just won't.

anon , Milan Popovic Report

Final score:

270points

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Joan Bohlmann 2 years ago

this could also apply to one's own parents or children.

2points

#14

People Share 40 Things That Are True But That No One Wants To Hear Everyone's a hypocrite. Even you.

booksoverppl , Adrian Swancar Report

Final score:

251points

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Ripley 2 years ago

But it's alright when I do it! 😁

101points

#15

People Share 40 Things That Are True But That No One Wants To Hear I guess to counter some people in here:

Not every "real talk", "tough to swallow pill", or "harsh truth" that you have to offer someone is going to be accurate to them, or their situation.

Sometimes you're actually a f*****g d**k that is incapable of considering their perspective or feeling empathy towards them.

¯ _(ツ) _ / ¯

NappyFlickz , Jon Tyson Report

Final score:

247points

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BadCat 2 years ago

Exactly. Just let people be. Maybe things will work out for them. Maybe it won't. At least they tried. This is a huge problem with long distance relationship communities. You could have one minor question, seeking a boost of optimism. Then people want more information about the relationship. They use that information against the op and base dooming "opinions", some irrelevant to the op's main issue, on their own past experiences that could have been much, much different of a situation. I don't even bring it up anymore. Don't need to.

28points

#16

People Share 40 Things That Are True But That No One Wants To Hear There's going to be a day where you are totally forgotten by everyone.

PunchyPractitioner , Dan Meyers Report

Final score:

245points

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DennyS (denzoren) 2 years ago

They can't forget you if you're already forgotten.

4points

#17

People Share 40 Things That Are True But That No One Wants To Hear Things are going to keep getting worse on our planet and we are in for some serious human tragedy.

LemmeLaroo , Li-An Lim Report

Final score:

223points

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Erin Geiger 2 years ago

Here's the thing, the planet is going to be fine, it's been around 4.5 billion years. It's the people who are F***ed

121points

#18

People Share 40 Things That Are True But That No One Wants To Hear Your spouse/child/home/job/vacation, etc. is not nearly as important to anyone else as it is to you.

tappytaps , Natalya Zaritskaya Report

Final score:

222points

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SelkieBlackfysh 2 years ago

And their quota/hours/numbers mean much less to me than to them.

35points

#19

People Share 40 Things That Are True But That No One Wants To Hear You can't control what happens to you, only how you react to it.

sheikhyerbouti , Jorge Saavedra Report

Final score:

213points

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SelkieBlackfysh 2 years ago

You can also hold anyone who causes those things accountable for it.

45points

#20

People Share 40 Things That Are True But That No One Wants To Hear That there are people who won’t like you or agree with you and you won’t be able to change their mind so you just have to deal with it

animeweebgrill , Ketut Subiyanto Report

Final score:

208points

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Gian Marco 2 years ago

I don’t agree with this.

22points

JesusChristsGayLover Report

#21

That all gods are man made, start taking responsibility for your own actions and stop thinking that some magical being is going to come and help you out.

Final score:

203points

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rspanther 2 years ago

Religion is the worst invention humans have ever created.

114points

#22

Your skin color / sexual orientation is the least interesting thing about you.

dreck_disp Report

Final score:

198points

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flutterbyy 2 years ago

Are you telling me my neon purple skin is the least interesting thing about me?? Oh well then.

81points

#23

Capitalism as it’s currently implemented doesn’t work and only increases the wealth of the wealthy at the cost of the poor, the oppressed, and the world. We are literally destroying our ability to live on this planet, and we’ll need drastic societal change to barely survive the coming era.

Monkeycrunk Report

Final score:

189points

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CJay M (They-them) 2 years ago

Fun fact: social capitulation, a rare system used in some insignificant island nations and small Asian countries (tu mi au, xibi San ma) in which the basic necessities of survival are provided but to live comfortably you need to work. It’s an interesting system that seems to work well and I’d be willing to give it a try. An interesting blend of capitalism and socialism

59points

#24

People Share 40 Things That Are True But That No One Wants To Hear There is always someone better than you

Planarian171 , Jonathan Chng Report

Final score:

188points

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Autistic apricot 2 years ago

But then who is better than the most best person?

47points

#25

So many of these are negative... So how about the truth that one of the best ways to be happy in life is by helping other people. People don't want to do it, because helping other people feels like you're losing out, but it's true

TimberDog12 Report

Final score:

184points

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Nimues Child 2 years ago

This is part of my mail .sig: "You're not a sucker to have integrity and treat people with respect." - Barack Obama

58points

#26

Sometimes, you are the toxic person

gummycherrys Report

Final score:

175points

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Gin. No tonic 2 years ago

If everyone around you is an a'hole, then you're the a'hole

45points

#27

People Share 40 Things That Are True But That No One Wants To Hear No matter how nice you are, people will still just be assholes to you just cuz.

anon , Deva Darshan Report

Final score:

167points

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BadCat 2 years ago

I've dealt with people at work who tried so hard to get me upset. Like really reaching. There are people who will just try to get a reaction out of you, make you feel bad for doing your job, or even just being somewhere. What they really hate is calmness and positivity in their presence of negativity.

41points

#28

People Share 40 Things That Are True But That No One Wants To Hear We don't know everything and probably never will.

joculator , Niklas Ohlrogge Report

Final score:

165points

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geo 2 years ago

Curiosity is a major part of life. We need to have space to learn

37points

#29

People Share 40 Things That Are True But That No One Wants To Hear Your friends and family likely talk tons of s**t about you behind your back

CrustyTowel , Rui Fernandes Report

Final score:

163points

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BadCat 2 years ago

I already know this.

71points

#30

Sometimes bad things happen to good people. Sometimes good things happen to bad people.

oyuno_miyumi Report

Final score:

161points

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Ezigma 2 years ago

Sometimes?!

42points

#31

You can’t love someone into loving you

-dingbat- Report

Final score:

156points

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flutterbyy 2 years ago

SO many people need to understand this! For others' sake and for themselves as well.

28points

#32

That people need to stop putting their trust in god to do things and do it themselves

Unovaboy Report

Final score:

137points

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Tofu 2 years ago

Yes, more personal responsibility please!

50points

6675636b5f6675636b , Pavel Danilyuk Report

#33

People Share 40 Things That Are True But That No One Wants To Hear Everyone you love will die. Everyone you hate will die. Everything ends.

Final score:

134points

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Alex Hamilakis 2 years ago

thats kinda a relief

40points

#34

People Share 40 Things That Are True But That No One Wants To Hear Corona may never go away and be in our lives forever in some capacity.

fib16 , Gabriella Clare Marino Report

Final score:

134points

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Peej Maybe 2 years ago

Or some other vaccine / antibiotic-resistant pandemic. I think COVID has definitely demonstrated rather graphically what I've feared has happened to people over the course of the last 30 year though - people have become more selfish and more prone to f*cking each other over, even for something as simple as a toilet roll - and far more opinionated and entitled when presented with something relatively simple that they could do to prevent getting infected or spreading an infection (like wearing a mask)

48points

#35

People Share 40 Things That Are True But That No One Wants To Hear No matter what you do you polluted the planet

Rusky82 , USDA NRCS Montana Report

Final score:

128points

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DennyS (denzoren) 2 years ago

Yes, I agree but I can take steps to minimize my impact.

63points

#36

The only person responsible for -you- is -you-.

ladderrack Report

Final score:

117points

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Csaba Hegedűs 2 years ago

So parents should just leave their newborns in the woods or something?

26points

anon , Metropolitan Museum of Art Report

#37

People Share 40 Things That Are True But That No One Wants To Hear Americans don't want to hear that Columbus murdered and enslaved people.

Final score:

116points

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SelkieBlackfysh 2 years ago

It's not that they don't want to hear it. It's that they were taught a GROSSLY different version of the story. Though some probably would prefer to keep believing that old lie.

88points

#38

People Share 40 Things That Are True But That No One Wants To Hear No one really gives a s**t what your eyebrows look like.

amynivenskane , Rune Enstad Report

Final score:

115points

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Jayne Kyra 2 years ago

But if being and looking groomed and neat makes you feel good and happy, go for it. Not everything is about others´ opinions.

122points

_kartikeytripathi_ Report

#39

You are always replaceable.

Final score:

113points

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Well-Dressed Wolf 2 years ago

Oh, thank god. I’m starting to wear out. They’d better replace me soon before one of my internal components breaks.

67points

#40

People Share 40 Things That Are True But That No One Wants To Hear You aren't special.

MrM0nday , Katie Montgomery Report

Final score:

103points

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Mistiekim 2 years ago

I am too. Jerk.

81points

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#41

As long as we fail to protect and provide for all children in our society, we will continue to suffer the crimes of the damaged adults we produce. We have no right to expect any different, and we deserve everything that we get.

TruCelt Report

Final score:

36points

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M Calad 2 years ago

👏 yes! We punish, judge and blame harshly those who fail, mistake and go astray in life. But WE made them. It was us (parents, family, friends, neighbours, coworkers, society) who conditioned them and shaped them into what they were or are or will be. We all fail when everyone else fails. We are all accountable. My humble way of seeing this. If it wasn't us, then we were somehow lucky to be born in good surroundings. But that doesn't make us better or in the condition to push down those who weren't lucky. The world needs more empathy and understanding. My naive opinion. Feel free to downvote.

2points

#42

Some people are just evil. There’s not always a reason behind it.

DuckyBalboaBroa Report

Final score:

35points

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#43

Racism is universal, as in anybody can be racist.
The recent attempt to redefine it is laughable.

If you assume things or judge anyone based on skin color, good or bad things, you’re a racist.

anon Report

Final score:

31points

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SelkieBlackfysh 2 years ago

I just judge people on their quality of character.

14points

#44

When you die, it could very well be nothing. Just blackness, like before you were born.

304rising Report

Final score:

28points

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BetterBitterButter 2 years ago

Cheers to that 🍻

10points

#45

The downfall of many celebrity and quasi-celebrity males over the past few years, as a result of sexual assault, is just the tip of the iceburg. Sexual assault is real, it has been going on for centuries, and the news shedding light on the matter is a good thing.

Donler Report

Final score:

28points

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Amber Fox 2 years ago

Downfall? Moat of them celebs are making bank on it

0points

#46

China is always expanding their influence and the Chinese communist party treats people terribly.

redduht Report

Final score:

27points

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Freddy H 2 years ago

It's really sad that you actually have to point this out.

0points

#47

We are not all equal, in any sense.

TheDevilsAdvokaat Report

Final score:

26points

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Isabella 2 years ago

We are all different, not better or worse, just different, but we should all have equal rights.

25points

#48

Nobody cares that you are Vegan

spimothyleary Report

Final score:

26points

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Aileen Grist 2 years ago

Unless you're coming to dinner

15points

#49

People Share 40 Things That Are True But That No One Wants To Hear Life isn’t fair and you aren’t owed a damn thing.

Hyrax09 , Nathan Dumlao Report

Final score:

25points

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Tofu 2 years ago

That balloon is an actual representation of my life lol

2points

#50

People Share 40 Things That Are True But That No One Wants To Hear You can’t make everyone happy

choccymint95 , Kurayba Report

Final score:

25points

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Mortague 2 years ago

Also: clowns are creepy

20points

#51

the fact that the two presidential candidates are old men who should be in nursing homes is depressing

Basebooster Report

Final score:

24points

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Mistiekim 2 years ago

There needs to be an age limit on who can run an how long they can serve

11points

#52

No matter what you do you will never be more popular then cheese.

animepurest Report

Final score:

24points

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SelkieBlackfysh 2 years ago

You take that back! That's a step too far! Lol

6points

#53

People Share 40 Things That Are True But That No One Wants To Hear No one is at the wheel. There is no one leading the planet, just powerful people, companies, and countries all struggling together against everyone else for power, money, and control.

Sethor , GR Stocks Report

Final score:

23points

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#54

People Share 40 Things That Are True But That No One Wants To Hear Just because you’ve been with someone since high school doesn’t mean they’re right for you. Don’t base your future on childish dreams

Jibjab83 , Long Truong Report

Final score:

23points

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Ace Girl 2 years ago

Married my high school sweetheart. Still very much in love 2 kids and 16 years of marriage later. <3

2points

#55

Both of the world's current super powers (China and USA) are committing genocide on undesirables near their borders. Nobody can do a damn thing to stop them. The future of the world is bleak.

Oh yeah, Climate Change is happening, and the evidence points to us going down the *worst case scenario* path, which means a nightmarish world for the next thousand years.

theclansman22 Report

Final score:

22points

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#56

* Some people will never find a long term partner and that's okay...
* ... because even if you live your life surrounded by people and love, you will die alone. Being married or with a LT partner, having children, having lots of relatives... All in all, it's no guarantee / insurance against ending up alone.
* People fall out of love for no reason and sometimes there's nothing you can / should do about it.
* Not everyone wants children, even the ones who will have them anyway.

nelmo87 Report

Final score:

21points

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#57

Good things don't come to those who wait. They come to those who take them. Be patient in your efforts, don't wait apathetically for the things you want to come to you.

ZaraPattinson Report

Final score:

21points

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Tofu 2 years ago

Good things are worth the wait, but you have to work to get there.

1point

#58

The people who bother you the most in your life probably do so because you’re the most similar to them.

arcticdeth Report

Final score:

20points

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Tenacious Squirrel 2 years ago

I’m not sure about this one. Sometimes the things that drive you the most crazy are the opposite to yourself.

6points

#59

The eradication of the most devastating diseases that we fight today (i.e. cancer) will have potentially devastating unintended consequences. Humans weren't meant to live forever, and a "cure for cancer" will have interesting effects in the economy and society as a whole with a world already overcrowded with people.

Before I get killed on this, I don't mean for this to sound cruel or heartless.

ta_507john Report

Final score:

20points

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Mistiekim 2 years ago

Don’t worry - another disease will come along in it’s place. Also we are creating more and more multi-drug resistant bacteria by the day.

5points

#60

The democratic and republican parties are the same party. They want the same things. Any differences you may find in them is only to keep you distracted from taking the power away from the already powerful.

Pavementaled Report

Final score:

18points

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J. F. 2 years ago (edited)

Same goes for extreme left vs extreme right - same thing with just a different label. Extremism should never justify violence or oppression, no matter what the intend is

6points

#61

People Share 40 Things That Are True But That No One Wants To Hear That you need to uplift others to improve society and the world

but everyone is more focused on crushing those around them to ensure their current, or potential, position in the world.

wisedoormat , Dylan Gillis Report

Final score:

17points

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Lyone Fein 2 years ago

Everyone?

4points

#62

The world does not owe you anything and government is not going to take care of you.

anon Report

Final score:

16points

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SelkieBlackfysh 2 years ago

Then they need to stop taking my money and expecting taxes when they don't do a thing for me.

13points

#63

Just because you don't agree with someone on a personal level doesn't mean you can't be friends.

I personally don't agree with a lot of the things my boss says, but he's an awesome boss and a mentor for me.

Hans_of_Death Report

Final score:

15points

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Bonnie Block 2 years ago

We learn by listening to others' perspectives, not by villifying them.

0points

just_a_tiny_phoenix Report

#64

Healthy relationships require a lot of work. Sometimes more, sometimes less. But in total – a whole f*****g lot.

Final score:

15points

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Joe Blowe 2 years ago

Communicating efficiently and often is a large part of the work.

4points

#65

That most people probably don't hate you just because you're black/gay/etc.

They hate you because you're really an a*****e.

SouthJerseyPride Report

Final score:

14points

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Kiri 2 years ago

I don’t like this one . Sounds like a excuse for homophobics and racist

2points

#66

"You're going to die and you have no idea when" Stop pretending that you're invincible. Acknowledge the fact of your own mortality, and then start structuring your life in a more meaningful way.

rotonmyna Report

Final score:

14points

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Aileen Grist 2 years ago

Learn like you'll live forever, live like you'll die tomorrow

5points

#67

People Share 40 Things That Are True But That No One Wants To Hear Costco has tubs of 7lb Nacho cheese for sale at $6.50 a piece. 7lbs of Nacho Cheese works out to about 2,800cm^3 . A typical bathtub has a volume of 160,000cm^3 . Here are your volumes based on weights (approximately) and how many bottles you would need to fill up the tub:

1. 120lbs = 50,000cm^3 means you need 40 tubs for 255 dollars

2. 150lbs = 70,000cm^3 means you need 32 tubs for 208 dollars

3. 200lbs = 90,000cm^3 means you need 25 tubs for 162.5 dollars

4. 250lbs = 110,000cm^3 means you need 18 tubs for 116 dollars

See the trend? The fatter you get, the more cost effective it becomes to bathe in cheese.

reeper147 , Galen Crout Report

Final score:

13points

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Autistic apricot 2 years ago

Well done for doing all the calculations, now eat it

5points

PrideParadeinSaudi Report

#68

Prophets had no excuse. If you claim to have a connection to god and hear his voice, then the time period in which you live doesn't excuse what you do or prescribe for society. Otherwise, it means your god was limited by the spirit of the era, meaning he isn't omnipotent. Or that god was just wrong.

People respect prophets too much.

Final score:

13points

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LAWLAWLAW 2 years ago

People crave answers and understanding, religion gave people those answers and understanding, now that we have figured out evolution and genetics etc to a level where it shows that religion is probably wrong (no magic beardy guy on a cloud starting the human race with 2 people) religions need to step back and say yeah at the time (thousands of years ago) religion made sense and gave answers but over the thousands of years since we have grown and learned and religion is probably mostly wrong, obviously feel free to keep all the thou shall not murder etc ideas but all the seven days 2 people etc, just grow a pair and admit you were wrong

7points

Ambitious-Lime-5308 Report

#69

Your employer steals from you more than the government does

Final score:

13points

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SelkieBlackfysh 2 years ago

And I steal right back by not working for hours and getting paid. Ha.

7points

#70

Either you will have to deal with someone else dying or, someone else will have to go through you dying.

Honk_N_Quack Report

Final score:

13points

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rspanther 2 years ago

Both of my parents are gone, and now it's only my brother and I.

5points

#71

You are as insignificant to most people on earth as a stranger you pass on the street is to you.

RicharKing Report

Final score:

13points

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Tofu 2 years ago

Isn't there a term for this? I can't remember it.

1point

#72

There are a LOT of violent people out there and we aren't really doing much to change that.

There are a lot of people hurting each other through sexual violence. And no one is ultimately making any effort to change that.

Despite the fact that Reddit doesn't want to hear it, there are a LOT of people who are attracted to young people. Throughout history, and today. And until we actually acknowledge that, we are never going to stop people from being abused.

The best solution for gun violence in the US that everyone could agree on is targeting the causes of violence. Now there will be issues on specific methods which people will debate, but you would be 10 times more effective in getting movement in that area than by trying to fight the brick wall of gun control vs gun rights. And politicians are never going to do this unless citizens tell them to change focus.

Educated people have beliefs too, education alone is not a magic solution to issues.

incvthrowaway Report

Final score:

12points

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SelkieBlackfysh 2 years ago

Lengthy program/class that's mandatory to own a fire arm. You'll have to prove to professionals you can mechanically operate it. Prove to professionals you're mentally capable of making rational choices while possessing a gun, make it tedious. We treat lethal firearms the same way we treat a freaking dirtbike any more.

8points

#73

Not everything revolves around you

Edit: I don’t give a f**k what planet you are or what space object you identify as stfu lmao

CrocodileToast97 Report

Final score:

12points

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#74

Having a culture that is so focused on getting high or drunk squanders much of the time in our youth that we need to develop into thoughtful, pragmatic, and mature adults.

wreckchain Report

Final score:

12points

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Tofu 2 years ago

I feel attacked

1point

#75

It's our fault the world is not the way it's supposed to be.

We didn't start it, it's just the people that came before us didn't fix it, and now it's our responsibility.

Expecting politicians, athletes, and celebrities to influence positive change is b******t when so many of us don't take extra steps to contribute positively in the world.

Kukantiz Report

Final score:

11points

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SelkieBlackfysh 2 years ago

It's our responsibility to fix it. While they obstinately stand in our way trying to keep us from fixing it. Show both sides, c'mon.

7points

#76

- Mental illness is not an excuse for shitty behavior
- Your problems are generally the consequence of your own action
- If you live in the Western developed world, you are a lot more shallow and materialistic than you'd like to admit
- In terms of looking for a partner, your looks and money are huge factors. Possibly even more important than personality

istami Report

Final score:

11points

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Mical Scott 2 years ago

True that mental illness is not an excuse for shitty behavior, but in reality childhood trauma and the effect it has on the brain's development is very real.

5points

#77

No matter how much time, energy, love, etc. you put into someone, the only way to ensure you get results from that effort is to put it into yourself. Everyone else is a calculated gamble.

Wambocommando Report

Final score:

11points

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#78

People Share 40 Things That Are True But That No One Wants To Hear Your (our) mother(s) will put us down one day. And never pick us up again.

B_tchlasagna , Jake Thacker Report

Final score:

10points

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Nemo 2 years ago

Why leave fathers out?

2points

#79

Being computer illiterate is not something to be proud of and should not be accommodated. Especially with the boomer crowd that literally demands to be hand held through copying and pasting. You cant ask them to think or learn because 'I just don't understand computers'.

Well you're just fine with your iPhone and Facebook and surfing the net. You can learn this new system YOU requested instead of demanding IT do it for you simply because it runs on a computer.

Also, USE BIRTH CONTROL. This is the worst possible time to be bringing babies into the world. We're already overpopulated and strained for resources. Itll only get worse as time goes on. No, having a baby wont fix all your problems. Itll just amplify them and bring in an another innocent sufferer.
If you want kids that badly, think about the 400,000 in foster care instead of demanding that only your genes are good enough.

greffedufois Report

Final score:

10points

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Bonnie Block 2 years ago

I agree about being computer illiterate; however, I am a boomer and am not computer illiterate. Please stop stereotyping an entire age group. I have worked at more than 30 places in my life, each of which required that I learn a new program or use a different platform. Don't forget: Boomers invented Microsoft, Apple and the internet. We used tech before many of you were born.

7points

#80

Your dog will probably die before you

FellowOfHorses Report

Final score:

8points

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Tofu 2 years ago

The worst truth! 😫

4points

#81

we have no chance of mitigating climate change to a point where billions of people will have died by 2050

anon Report

Final score:

7points

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Adam Zad 2 years ago

Defeatist. Does not mean we shouldn't try. When lead pollution was a problem, we took action and made things better. When smog was a problem, we took action and made it better. The sooner we start, the better our chances.

3points

#82

You might not ever find the love of your life.

Yes, you may marry. But it might not work out. You might end up divorced, lonely, and unfulfilled at 60 years old. It is technically a possibility, it is not impossible.

Don't worry, I'm not talking about myself.

Squillimy Report

Final score:

7points

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smugdruggler 2 years ago

Or worse, you might. I was lucky enough to find the love of my life. She was my everything. Then last September, after 22 years of happy marriage, she died. I've never been so lonely or depressed and I wonder if it would have been better if I'd never met her. (I'm 50, she was 60 if that matters.)

2points