American brain washing... "thank you for your service"... I mean, yes, thank you! But war needs to be feared not celebrated!

profound truth

Also, I am closer to being a long-term BP commentator than a long-term professional writer 🤷‍♀️

And neither do good people.

All non-human babies are, for some reason.

I have a professional qualification where you have to have said "sorry, I can't answer that question" to qualify. My boss primed the customer to ask something silly.

Mistakes are unavoidable. Failure is unavoidable. We cannot run from it and need to stop being so afraid, because it's ok to not get everything right all the time, and like this says, sometimes it's out if your control

I don’t have kids and don’t want them and it’s simply because I don’t want to spend all of my adult life looking after and raising a child, I just want to live my own and not worry about that.

I know someone who is not a good parent and it's difficult to watch. She loves her kids, but her lack of good parenting instincts is turning her kids into jerks. Endless excuses for their rudeness and bad behaviour, someone else is always to blame, victim mentality etc. Her (teenage) children are obnoxious brats because they have no idea what a consequence is.

What kind of horrible coward are you to put the responsibility to save your marriage on a baby?

Some good people are bad parents, some bad people are actually good parents. Being a parent is a weird, amazing, fun, soul-destroying, enlightening roller coaster of emotions!

With my job I see too many people having children either as fashion accessories or because they need a "friend"

Some people should never have had children.

I was born because a priest told my parents that having a baby would save their marriage. It didn't work. My parents fought ALL THE TIME while my siblings and I were growing up, got separated a few times, and finally divorced. But hey, my brothers and I wouldn't be here if that priest hadn't given them terrible advice.

I never understood why people would think that a baby would fix a bad relationship. Let's add a lot of work, little sleep and a financial drain...that'll fix it. I'm not saying having a baby is a bad thing, but only for couples in a strong relationship.

Or staying on welfare, or in government housing. I had a co-worker divulge she was trying to get pregnant to stay in a government housing complex they wanted to change to families-only.

Not always.. But in my case, kids are the reason we still going on

By the same logic, are some kids just bad? Even to good parents?

this is so true. I am not the greatest parent but I try each day and when I see something I am doing wrong I try to fix it. I apologize to my kids and work on myself. Too many parents refuse to have the attitude of "I need to improve" they just take it out on the kids. It's sad.

I'm 61, never had kids, almost never wanted kids. I'm mental, spent a lot of my life homeless even when I had employment. My mother was mental. I don't know if it's 'nature or nurture' but I wasn't prepared to risk giving some poor child the life I've had. So I didn't.

parenting/family life, managing finances should be courses in school, among others, so young people will at least have a guide especially if their lives are less than ideal.

I think people who have kids so that they have someone to look after them when they are old are the most selfish. Poor kids, they have their own lives - if you need a geriatric nurse then pay for one!

How times have changed! When I announced in 1967 that I didn't want a baby, people were horrified. I was shamed and criticized for being "selfish". Well I look back now with no regrets. I was a superb teacher, changing many young lives for the better. And now a lovely girl working at Safeway, calls me "Mom" and says she's adopted me! Jokingly of course. But it brings a smile to both of us when we pretend it's true!

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I know i am not qualified to raise a human being. Nor do i want to. But there are plenty of people who say "but maybe if you had one, you would change your mind". How stupid is that? People shouldn't have pets with "maybe i will like it" assumption, let alone kids.

Slow down your typing so you will hit the "o" and not the "I" !

90% of parents are bad parents. they just lower the average

This is so true

I love kids, I'm a frequent babysitter and I think I'm a really good aunt, couldn't love my niece and nephew more. But I know I'd have been an insecure, overwhelmed parent and just not a happy mom. I admire my sister's well thought out and intuitively kind parenting choices and I'm honestly just really happy to be able to support her and be a part of their lives, maybe a part they can turn to when the parents just suck and they need a safe place for a little break lol.

I'm 35 and childless because there's still noway in hell I can provide a child a finantially stable life let alone pay the hospital bills to birth a child.

And don't do it just so you have someone to take care of you when you're older.

No shitt.

Unfortunately, social media has made a lot of people forget this rule.

You don't like everyone, so don't expect everyone to like you.

When you look at the impact of 7 billion humans at a time on the surface of the planet, yeah. This is probably true.

Nepotism is the guarantee of a job.

After the 1918 influenza epidemic came the roaring 20's which was revolutionary for both the arts and society, a similar thing happened with the renaissance, so who knows, maybe it will never be the same again for the better ( for those who have lost jobs/loved ones to Covid i am not minimising ur suffering)

This should be way higher. It's important to be at peace with yourself otherwise you will never be happy.

and you will often learn it the hard way: when you would need them the most - they will disappear.

No. You're part of the main cast for some.

Niceness, kindness, small random acts, these are one of the things I love about life. Even if they are few and far between. And doing them always feels good so it's a win win ^-^

I live in Phoenix, where 200 people move to every single day. Also, where it will be uninhabitable within 20 years because of the rise in temperatures. Don't move here.

Very true

I read this as "corporation," doubted it, then realized that was probably true too.

Just like covid.. would never have imagined lockdowns precovid

And please do not go to people in a bad situation and tell them that x “happened for a reason”. It doesn’t matter what you believe. Telling them that their mum just died, they lost they lost their job or they are severely ill “for a reason” is extremely invalidating and rude.