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We will generally hear about more life-experiences then we will actually experience in person, for better or worse. So most of us tend to have at least a basic idea of what most occurrences will look like. However, the human brain has a way of “protecting” itself, so topics like "traumatic events” are often hard to discuss and explain.

Someone asked “What is something that is actually more traumatizing than most people realize?” and people shared some poignant examples. So get comfortable as you scroll through, upvote the ones that you agree with and add your own thoughts to the comments section below.

#1

Person in a gray sweater hugging a black and white cat near indoor plants, showcasing a comforting moment. Losing a pet. People acknowledge it’s sad, but unless you’ve been through it, you don’t realize just how deeply it can break you. It’s losing a best friend, a daily companion, and a source of unconditional love all at once.

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5 days ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

When my Akita died, my family were in Japan while I was in the States (COVID restrictions went into effect when they were visiting her family). Found the dog in the morning and had a sad reaction, but nothing major. My wife called that evening (her morning)... I broke down and sobbed/ugly cried over the phone

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    Man yelling at woman working on laptop, illustrating traumatizing experiences in a workplace. Working under a toxic manager. I have work related ptsd.

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    #4

    35 Experiences That Mess Up People More Than They Notice Functioning depression. People don’t realize how exhausting it is to put on a “happy” face every day when you’re out in the world when all you want to do is curl up in a ball and cry for a week straight.

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    Lost Panda
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    5 days ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Worse when the people you care about say you need help then chastise you for trying to get help.

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    #5

    Child holding a book in a classroom setting, reflecting on traumatizing experiences not taken seriously. Growing up non diagnosed nurodivergence and never really fitting in and not knowing why while also not getting any support from the adults who should have noticed something.

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    Corvus
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    5 days ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Been there, done that. Always was the "weird" kid at school and no one could ever explain, in a meaningful way, why they considered me to be "weird."

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    #6

    Child looks upset as parents argue at the dinner table, highlighting a traumatizing experience. Being raised by parents with undiagnosed mental illness.

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    E Menendez
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    5 days ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    It isn't any better when they ARE diagnosed, unless they actually want to work on themselves. My father was diagnosed with generalized anxiety disorder and depression but used it as his excuse for his abusive and manipulative behavior.

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    #7

    Person sitting on a couch, looking serious, with a remote in hand, highlighting a common yet overlooked traumatizing experience. Job searching! The fatigue of getting multiple rejections, being ghosted, while trying to pay bills can be crushing.

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    #8

    A silhouette of a person stands by a window, framed by curtains, depicting a sense of solitude and trauma. Feeling like no one loves you or understands you.

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    Blondie23
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    5 days ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    THIS.RIGHT.HERE!!! Before meeting my current husband I felt this every day. It's crushing

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    #9

    Baby gripping an adult's hand, symbolizing support during traumatizing experiences. Not all, but a good amount of childbirth experiences. I regularly tell people it was the worst day of my life and they're shocked. Of course I was happy to meet my baby but that doesn't mean it wasn't a massively traumatic day getting there.

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    SirWriteALot
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    5 days ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Yet every woman is made to feel like a loser if she doesn't enjoy every minute of it.

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    #10

    Person experiencing traumatizing experience, facing a confrontation against a brick wall, with another person recording it. Being bullied. On TV, people act like it's funny. But it can provide life long trauma.

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    Deborah
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    5 days ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    There is nothing funny about bullying or playing "pranks".

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    #11

    Person in wheelchair reaching for items on a high shelf, highlighting overlooked traumatizing experiences. Becoming disabled. Nobody treats it as the truly traumatic experience it really is. There is no psychological support for us, as it happens. We are left to figure it out on our own.

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    #12

    Man sitting on a couch, looking distressed, holding his head, representing traumatizing experiences. Growing up as the “gifted” child, only to wind up the Family Disappointment.

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    #14

    A man appears distressed, head in hands, while a woman stands with arms crossed, indicating a possibly traumatizing experience. Someone you trusted taking your deepest traumas and insecurities to ‘win’ an argument.

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    HardBoiledBlonde
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    5 days ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    "You must have liked being raped by your Uncle considering it happened so many times."

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    #16

    Couple experiencing a serious moment while holding a baby, reflecting traumatizing experiences. Growing up with parents who simply do not love each other, who scream at each other all the time, and never get divorced.

    Growing up in a household where you learn to be responsible for your parents’ feelings from a very young age.

    Edit to add: I didn’t think this would resonate with so many people. Thank you to everyone for sharing if this hit home for you. Just knowing that there are other hearts out there who know what it felt like, and feels like to carry into adulthood no matter how old you are, feels supportive. 🤎.

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    Little Bit
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    5 days ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    When i was growing up my parents couldn't stand the sight of each other. My mother treated my dad and I like dirt and she was having a long term affair. In front of others, though, they were the most stable couple you could ever meet. Even now, decades later, I still maintain that if they had divorced and gone their separate ways, everybody, and I repeat everybody involved would have been much happier.

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    #17

    Person in a floral shirt holding a smartphone, potentially reflecting on traumatizing experiences. Being ghosted for no reason by friends.

    Made me lose all respect I had for myself and made my anxiety 10× worse.

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    #18

    Person sitting on stairs, head down, conveying a sense of a traumatic experience. Feeling emotionally invisible. It’s a slow, quiet kind of trauma that builds over time. I think people often underestimate how much it affects your mental health when you constantly feel like no one truly sees or hears you.

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    Orysha
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    5 days ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Then they wonder why you yell, it's just because nobody listens if you don't.

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    #19

    35 Experiences That Mess Up People More Than They Notice Volunteering with animals. it’s not just playing with puppies and kitties. i work in animal welfare now and i have years of trauma and guilt from the terrible s**t people have done to these animals.

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    Multa Nocte
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    5 days ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Sadly, veterinarians have one of the highest rates of suicide, and I would imagine it's from this and from having to put animals down.

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    #20

    35 Experiences That Mess Up People More Than They Notice Growing up with a parent who goes silent when angry. I never knew if it was me she was mad at, and if so, what I did. I’m 70 years old, and while I consciously fight the feeling, if someone is quiet I assume they’re angry with me, even if there’s no reason they should be.

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    #21

    35 Experiences That Mess Up People More Than They Notice Being laid off through no fault of your own.

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    Little Bit
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    5 days ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    This. Being made redundant from the best job I ever had or was ever likely to have broke me. I brought the best results and was consistently top in my department for years. I worked with some fantastic people and loved every minute. Most of the managers couldn't understand why i had been given my notice and not other people in my department who didn't work as hard and did nothing but complain about their job. I now have a perpetual fear of losing my job.

    #22

    Person sitting alone on a bench at night, illuminated by a streetlamp, representing underrecognized traumatizing experiences. Close friend break ups. Just as bad if not worse than relationship breakups.

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    #23

    Two women standing in a dimly lit stairway, illustrating a potentially traumatizing experience. Having a verbally or physically a***ive sibling.

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    Boo
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    5 days ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    My "brother" ladies and gents. There's a reason I wouldn't cross the street to pïss on him if he were on fire. Same goes for his wife!

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    #24

    35 Experiences That Mess Up People More Than They Notice Taking care of a parent with dementia. It is soul draining. It's a full time job. It's dirty and embarrassing for all involved. It's heartbreaking watching your once competent, intelligent, funny parent regress until they are a husk of a person. You struggle with keeping them in their home and "honoring their wishes". Dealing with insurance, Medicaid, hospital stays, and affording any kind of respite care is mine-boggling complex and expensive. Cleaning up grown man pee and poop from every corner of the house is maddening. The tedium of repeating yourself a hundred times a day, listening to the same questions, the same complaints and stories. The list is neverending.

    I wish there was assisted s****de in America that you could put into an advanced directive for circumstances like this. He wouldn't want to live like this and it is ruining lives.

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    Renee H.
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    5 days ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Yes, I've seen this first hand as an RN professionally , but also being close to someone going through it .

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    35 Experiences That Mess Up People More Than They Notice Chronic illness.

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    Chrissy Mangrum
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    5 days ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Chronic illnesses and chronic pain. It just changes a person. A ( no longer) friend said to me..." You're soft now. That's not the girl I remember " You're right. After 3yrs of battling cancer and the after effects; I'm not the same girl you knew.

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    People working in an office setting, collaborating on a project, highlighting serious experiences in the workplace. Having a boss who criticizes every little thing you do, for literally hours at a time, until finally you start to wonder whether you actually ARE that stupid and incompetent. .

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    Michelle C
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    5 days ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I have never had a boss like this, but former coworkers have engaged In similar behavior over the years. 😮‍💨 It’s just about as demoralizing.

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    #27

    Person sitting with head on knees, symbolizing overlooked traumatizing experiences in a dimly lit room. Being the black sheep of the family.

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    Angela B
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    5 days ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    My Grandmother would say to me "In a family of black sheep, you are definitely my Llama".

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    #28

    Man in blue sweater looking concerned on sofa, illustrating overlooked traumatizing experiences. Going through a divorce. Even though divorcing my ex was one of the best decisions I ever made , at the time it was so much more painful and stressful than I could have imagined.

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    #29

    Person on a couch, appearing distressed, highlighted by dim lighting, possibly experiencing a traumatizing moment. Choking on food. It's literally life or death and it can stick with you if you survive that scenario.

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    #30

    Person in protective gear using a sprayer, representing potentially traumatizing experiences not taken seriously. Infestations. Bed bugs, roaches, fleas, mice, you name it. Absolutely corrodes your psyche.

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    Blondie23
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    5 days ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Oh this is so true. Especially if you are living in an apartment type of situation and you keep your space clean and bug free... if your neighbor doesn't they can come over to your space and there is little you can do about it. I have dealt with this and you just feel dirty all the time regardless of how much you clean.

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    #31

    Two people in red jackets tending to a foil-wrapped stretcher in a snowy forest, representing traumatizing experiences. Legitimate near death experiences. People will say "I thought I was going to die" but if you actually have a moment when you deeply and truly believe that, it can really mess you up. If you've had one of those moments then you understand what I mean.

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    Deborah
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    5 days ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I was in a car crash that should have killed me. Totally not my fault, I was stopped at a red light. That was about 1984, around there. And the time in the hospital when an infection almost reached me brain. Again, in the 80s. I hear the doctor telling me at discharge that the first few days he wasn't sure I was going to make it.

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    #32

    Having a confrontation with neighbors. Having anger/fear/discord invade your living space is really upsetting on a basic subconscious level.

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    Allowing bad friends to stay in your life for too long.

    Do not waste your life , energy and time on people who only take.

    Seperate from them and watch how much better your life gets.

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    Eve Mraz
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    5 days ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    yup, I'm still messed up from a lot of friendships, specifically one where my 'friend' molested me and her older brother groomed me. Rory if you see this at all, screw you.

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    #34

    Getting paid late, bills don’t stop just because a company can’t plan ahead financially. .

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    Crowded airport check-in area with long lines, illustrating stressful experiences often underestimated. A book I read on trauma listed immigration as one of the top 5.

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    Nice Beast Ludo
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    5 days ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I can't imagine what that feels like. Especially if you are in this country illegally right now. The risks taken to get here and the fears they must live with. The saddest part is, I think many people are duped into believing the US is this wonderful place and I wonder how many people get here to find it worse than the place they came from

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    #36

    Pair discussing traumatizing experiences with a woman writing notes in an office. Being adopted. Not the adoption necessarily because loads of people love their adoptive parents and feel complete in their new family, but the act of being abandoned. Especially if the child spends time in an orphanage where they don't necessarily always get the care they need.

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    Blondie23
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    5 days ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    My husband was adopted as a baby and luckily for him he was in a situation where he eventually met his birth mom and found out why she gave him up and it was actually for really good reasons so he was at peace with it. But yeah... a lot of people that are adopted struggle with feelings of abandonment and it's really sad.

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    #37

    A toxic work environment.

    I've worked in corporate America for 22 years now and the office politics. The nepotism, the toxicity level in a corporate work environment could do irreparable damage to your ability to be creative, to communicate in a comprehensive way to build healthy and professional and Cohesive relationships in the office. It could also stifle your ability to network. It could cause you to have cortisol levels that are so high you actually may need to retire early because of an autoimmune disease.
    It's just so traumatizing to work in an environment where somebody could potentially demean you, manipulate and use you, and there is nothing that you can do about it. There's nowhere to go to file a complaint. It could ruin your trajectory to go get a job at another company. It is incredibly traumatizing.

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    Michelle C
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    5 days ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Yup. I have had a coworker like this. Even the boss disliked her but didn’t fire her for some time because we were short-staffed often and needed qualified staff, especially given the nature of the work.

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    #38

    Recently, fire trauma. Not being ON fire but losing your home to fire. We lost our home to a fire and people have been so helpful and generous and lovely. Then LA caught on fire and all of that kindness was out the window.

    "They deserved it!" "They have so much money!"

    Like yeah but there are a lot of people who lost their home. Who lost sentimental items. Who lost pets. Who lost the places they've built their families. Who lost their safe place.

    It's amazing how people don't realize how traumatic that is.

    Sore spot for me. "At least you're all safe!"

    Yeah but my home isn't. My animals are traumatized and can barely sleep. I'm traumatized and can barely sleep. Every noise is an alarm suddenly. But yeah. We're all safe. Cool cool cool.

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    Deborah
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    5 days ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Please get some therapy to help you deal with this trauma. You don't need to be living in this state, it's not good for your physical health as well as your mental health.

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    #39

    Living on the welfare system. I'm a disabled single mother who has no other choice than to be on welfare but I can't begin to describe how traumatizing this poverty stricken life has been. The amount of crime that I've had to raise my children around in the ghetto (government housing assistance), raising them on next to nothing in disability benefits and barely any food stamps. We've witnessed so much crime and been the victim of criminal acts while having to live in low income neighborhoods, there's never enough food (I skip meals so the kids can eat), and only a few hundred dollars a month in disability to pay all of our bills and the basic needs for the kids. I will say that Medicaid has been great though. 


    Living on welfare has been a nightmare and I wish I had another option but I'm disabled. I strive to instill in my childhood the importance of education and a career so they will hopefully one day escape the system and make something of themselves so they don't have to suffer or struggle anymore. I wish I could have given them better. .

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    Michelle C
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    5 days ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    For those who need welfare like he or she does, I’m supportive. Those who scam the system truly baffle and anger me for the sakes of those who truly need it!

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    #40

    Growing up w a disabled sibling.

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    Michelle C
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    5 days ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Seeing others hurt my sibling by exclusion, mockery, or simply coming to me to inquire about her experiences often bothered me as a child. She was just as capable as I was emotionally, et cetera, and I would often think, “Why don’t you talk to her? She’s a human being, too.” I didn’t dare express that, though, more than twice that I can remember. In fact, I would describe her as being more capable than I am in some ways, even though I don’t have the extent of disability that she does. Disability sure didn’t impact her intelligence, for example!!

    #41

    False accusations. Someone accuses you of doing something heinous and you lose your family, friends, job, future employability, financial security, if you were married with kids then you lose half of everything and all of your wife and kids, you're now homeless. You probably become an alcoholic, possibly s*****al. All because someone thought nothing would happen when suggesting you're a r**ist.

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    Isa Wan
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    5 days ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I don't know where the "innocent until proven guilty" went. I know it's not that black or white but why can people accuse someone and why aren't they punoshed when it it a proven lie?

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    #42

    Healthcare professional smiling during a patient's exam, highlighting overlooked traumatizing experiences in medical settings. Getting an IUD. Most painful thing I have ever experienced, and I managed to break and dislocate my ankle at the same time.

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    E Menendez
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    5 days ago (edited) DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Women's healthcare standards are so archaic. I had an endometrial biopsy (biopsy of the uterus) and I was told there was nothing they could do for the pain. I had a piece of my uterus taken and told there was nothing they could do for the pain. Any biopsy from any other part of the body gets some sort of anesthesia. But if it is cervix or uterus, forget it. WTF

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    #43

    Death. My favorite uncle died at age 32 suddenly when I was 11. He and my dad were very close. Although he had his own family he would stop over every evening on his way home from work to visit us. After the funeral no one ever uttered his name again. I would lay awake every night for six months thinking that you just die and the world goes on forever and ever and no one cares 😢💔.

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    Corvus
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    5 days ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    My great-uncle passed away when I was less than 5 y.o. Heart-related issues due to previous alcohol abuse. I do have some vague memories of him. My grandma often said I reminded her of him, as he was a bit of a goofball, a joker, and a weirdo, just like I am.

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    #44

    Having to get older and watch your parent become more and more debilitated. Experiencing the fear and exhaustion. Wanting them to get better and more active, but also a part of you wishing them to pass away so you can have peace. And feeling like s**t and scum for even wishing that. I feel like a horrible person.

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    #45

    A masked individual attempting to break into a car, highlighting a traumatizing experience. Having your car stolen, even if you get it back a couple days later. I felt personally violated and ended up selling the car a couple months later.

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    #46

    Emotional Betrayal

    My ex intentionally slept with somebody else to hurt me in the deepest way possible then gaslit and manipulated me. When I finally decided I deserved more that trauma lives on and is hard to get past to trust new people.

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    #47

    Having an addict sibling. Raising other people’s kids that they traumatized.
    Not being good enough in a parents eyes.
    Being born female when dad demanded a boy.

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    Deborah
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    5 days ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    And them not realizing that it's the dad's contribution that determines the sex of the offspring.

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    #48

    Being the "weird one" in the workplace. showing up to just work while being left out of all of the camaraderie is so lonely. it makes work drag. it makes life harder for no reason.

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    5 days ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    In this situation right now, but the older I get, the less I care!

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    #49

    Being called hypersensitive your entire life by your family.

    Sounds rightful, but I put up with a lot of disrespect in my adult life now and have gotten myself into some sticky situations for not being able to express my feelings in fear of being “hypersensitive” or dramatic.

    These people turn into chronic people-pleasers, and often struggle to express themselves in relationships and will resort to shutting away emotionally.

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    Deborah
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    5 days ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    My dad just to called my oversensitive, particularly when I didn't get over a "minor" - in his opinion - injury as quickly as he'd liked, or displayed more pain. Despite my mom tell me when I was grown that there was something wrong, and I did physically feel pain more acutely than most people. As I didn't learn until almost 70 years later, it was all related to autism.

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    #50

    Having a manipulating partner who ends up slowly but steadily removing any signs of your own original identity from yourself and the relationship.

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    Renee H.
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    5 days ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Been there once, thankfully not for too long, but enough that I had to seek therapy for ptsd. Seeking treatment was the best decision I ever made.

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    #51

    Early internet access

    For me atleast. I stumbled upon so many things I should’ve never seen at that age, that I feel I will never unsee.

    I had social media at a young age and I made..some pretty immature decisions and I got cyber bullied, and sometimes publicly scrutinized by people much older then me, many times who KNEW I was a kid. A lot of those accounts I have to accept I’ll never be able to delete and just hope and pray they get banned.

    I’m worried for these “iPad kids” it’s ok to let your kid watch YouTube a bit or play games but kids don’t understand “once you put something on the internet it’s there forever” and most of the time they don’t care. Monitor your kids phone, block social media websites and put content restrictions on it and if you find they stumbled upon something weird, or are doing something weird don’t make them feel bad for it. That’s one mistake my parents made.

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    Michelle C
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    5 days ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Yup. I have worked with teenagers recently and fear for their psychological health as they age due to what they see on social media, among other factors!

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    #52

    Being raised by parents who treat you like a little adult instead of a child. Examples include having your parents treat you as a therapist, having access to the whole internet and films/TV of any rating and subject matter, being told "you're so mature for your age" but in reality you're just being given way too much responsibility and are tasked with managing your parents emotions. Also being belittled for liking childish things like cartoons.

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    Lyone Fein
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    5 days ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I hear this. Currently reading a good book: Adult Children of Emotionally Immature Parents.

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    #53

    For me, it was a cross-country move while I was in high school. Moving is difficult when you're a child, particularly an older child who already has established peer networks. It is true that I didn't leave the country, but I live in a large country with distinct subcultural regions. High School is already an awkward experience but add in a cross country move and I didn't have a chance. It took me years to recover from this and in some ways I never did.

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    Amelia Jade
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    5 days ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    My entire life I never lived anywhere longer than three years until I was in my mid 20s. I went to 4 or 5 different elementary schools, and 3 different high schools. I lived in three different countries before I was 18, and at least 7 different states--I might be forgetting some. Such is life when you're a military brat. I got to see a lot of cool things though, and living in Europe for 3 years as a teen is something I'll never be mad about. That was a great time.

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    #54

    Pain. Real pain. Humans can experience pain that is completely illogical so much that there is nothing you can do but roll around in agony wanting to die (can last days or longer). For example, acute appendicitis is f*****g horrific is not treated quickly and can cause death. To anyone who has not experienced it I hope you never do for those who have I'm sorry for your illogical pain.

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    Cee Cee
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    5 days ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I remember only too well. 5 years old, serious pain. 300 miles over unmade roads to hospital in Kampala. Luckily my mother was a nurse, doctor father away working. Sunday no petrol. Mother had to borrow money from Bimji. Get there after hours of a very painful journey and they refused to believe my mother's diagnosis until my appendix began to rupture in the middle of the night. Excruciating.

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    #55

    Working from home and not having much of a social life outside of it, which I’ve been doing for 12 years now.

    The loneliness from it is a long term downer.

    I work 50 hour work weeks at home and once I’m done I don’t even feel like going anywhere.

    There are so many weeks out of my last decade+ of working from home where my only human in-person interaction is just buying something from a store clerk.

    I have a wonderful dog who I take out regularly at least, but unfortunately my schedule doesn’t sync well with the few friends I do have and unfortunately they don’t like going out much.

    Working in my pajamas and saving money on gas and time getting ready for work isn’t worth the immense loneliness working remote long term can bring.

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    Green Tree
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    5 days ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    That is one bad experience but mine has been great. I hope I never have to return to office.

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    #56

    Jury duty. People think it's annoying, boring, and inconvenient. It is all of those things. But you're also being dragged into somebody's tragedy, hearing details you never wanted to know. I've been on a r**e case, and I just wrapped up jury duty on a manslaughter case. It's a jarring experience, and since most people (that I know) have never had it *at all*, I can't really talk about with anybody, other than to say "yeah it sucked".

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    Lyone Fein
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    5 days ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Not everyone looks at it so negatively. I've been on jury duty twice, and it was a positive, eye opening experience for me both times. I look forward to serving again.

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    #57

    A parent that constantly yells at their children. Corporal punishment style parenting.

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    #58

    Contracting an STI. There’s this huge stigma behind it that you are a disgusting person and that’s the reason you contracted it when in reality everyone is a victim.

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    Renee H.
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    5 days ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    It shouldn't be a stigma. As an RN is makes my blood boil that there is such a stomach attached to an STI. It's a disease like any other disease and or infection that needs to be treated as such.

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    #59

    Being dumped out of the blue. He was coming over for dinner one day, broke up with me 15 minutes after arriving saying he “couldn’t give me what I needed” and left. He never told me what it was he thought he couldn’t give me. Never responded to another text ever again. It was like he died. I haven’t dated anyone in just over 1.5 years. Hard to trust when this man told me 4-5 days prior that I was the love of his life, showed me his wedding guest list. That one really broke me.

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    Green Tree
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    5 days ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Sorry to say but I'm going to guess you were not the only woman in his life

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    #60

    Neglect a**se. Whether it's children, partners, pets, neglect a**se is at least as damaging as more obvious forms of a**se, but it's a lot more difficult to spot. Like neglecting to provide your child discipline and structure. You see a lot of kids raised that way now that end up at least as badly screwed up as if they'd been physically a**sed. At least then they wouldn't have to feel guilty about blaming their c***py parents.

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    Kiki Likes Sweets
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    5 days ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I think the word you're looking for is ABÜSE!! FFS, this is getting pathetic!

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    #61

    Caregiving. I loved my husband and wouldn't change having cared for him for all the money in the world but it was traumatizing.

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    #62

    The silent treatment. It’s cruel and a***ive. Not to be confused with setting clear boundaries with someone.

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    Beak Hookage
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    5 days ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    The kid who inspired the song "Jeremy" by Pearl Jam was given a form of suspension where he was still going to class, but nobody would talk to him. Kid f*****g shot himself dead in front of everyone.

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    #63

    Being "the peacemaker" sibling. I was often praised for being the calmest, most rational, able to smooth over situations child, even arguments between my parents. I developed an ability to calm down most people.

    Now as an adult, I am easily triggered by arguments, being blamed for things, being shouted at etc,. and if I am not sure where I stand with people then it messes with me quite badly.

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    Michelle C
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    5 days ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Dad and my sibling both to shut up and stay out of it whenever they fought. Worse was that one or both of us would receive some sort of physical abuse regardless of whether my peacemaking helped, usually me. I think the only reason he didn’t hit her or similarly as he did to me was due to her physical disability as well. Mostly, I was usually trying to protect said sibling from being abused, too. Dad wonders why neither of us talk to him much nowadays and that’s a big part of why.

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    #64

    Alienation. It starts in adolescence and can continue through adulthood. Bullies exist in the real world too, and feeling isolated or picked can do a number to your self esteem.

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    #65

    A man and child washing fruits in a kitchen, illustrating everyday traumatizing experiences often overlooked. Growing up the child of a self employed father. I was an employee to him, not a son.

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    #66

    Being tickled without permission. Laughing does not equal consent.

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    meeeeeeeeeeee
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    5 days ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    It does mean you can kick the person doing it though, can't control what your limbs do when being tickled.

    #67

    Everyone thinks that moving between so many countries as a child/teenager is super fun. It was most definitely not and as an adult now makes me grasp at anything that can give me some sense of stability.

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    #68

    When people talk over you (esp as a shy person) and project weird things about themselves onto you without letting you speak, label you "crazy" things and do not let up on you.

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    Lost Panda
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    5 days ago (edited) DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I'm going to add constantly getting interrupted. Between my wife and children, I can rarely ever say what I want (big or small) without getting cut off. Now, I know it isn't the same, but it seriously starts to mess with you. I have got to the point if I am interrupted, I just stop trying to talk. Then you get labeled an a-hole for not wanting to talk to your family.

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    #69

    Being bullied at work by charismatic persons who outrank you. A ready excuse for every situation, immunization attempts to keep their perspective more believable, it can quickly get utterly demoralizing.

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    Our friends/family commenting on our insecurities.

    My friend from elementary school (we're in our thirties now and still good friends) once made an off-hand comment about my looks.

    I was kind of chubby in what would be middle school years, and she once made a comment that "my body is not great, but my face is alright".

    I don't think I will ever forget that comment.

    Of course I knew I wasn't skinny or the prettiest girl, but that s**t hurt so, so much. And it's not like she was the prettiest girl in our class either, but she was skinnier than me.

    Like I said, we're still good friends and she never made any further comment on my looks, and I don't hold it against her (we were in our early teens), but still.

    I don't think I am particularly ugly or pretty, I'd say I'm fairly average and normal, and I'm not skinny but not chubby either, but I don't think I will ever really feel confident about my looks because "my body is not great, but my face is alright.".

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    meeeeeeeeeeee
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    5 days ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    ...where I grew up your friends would call you much worse multiple times a day.

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    #71

    Being alone most of your childhood. I was an only child, mom worked 12 hours a day and stepdad drove a truck all week.

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    Lost Panda
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    5 days ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    This... I'm 35 now and just now starting to see how even though my mom tried this was horrible for a little child