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No human enters this crazy wide world with a formed personality springing forth from their genes. Of course, there’s part of that plays a role in how we go about our lives, but much of the other half is directly linked with the upbringing we had.

And although it’s hard to determine what “good” and “bad” parenting styles are like, some of us indeed lacked attention and affection and didn’t develop a close relationship with our parents.

So when someone asked “What screams 'You weren't loved by your parents as a child' without saying it” on r/AskReddit, it was destined to stir a thread of thoughtful responses. Below we selected some of the most interesting ones, so scroll down and share if you agree with them or not in the comment section.

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36 People Share What Traits Show A Person Wasn't Loved By Their Parents Enough As A Child I was going to say this. I had to apologize to my stepmom for breathing loud, for standing somewhere she'd just decided she wanted to stand, for not being in a room when she suddenly decided she wanted to tell me something, for needing to eat and sleep and use the bathroom.

People would laugh about how they could yell 'hey, come here!' and the moment I got there I'd apologize first thing. But it was an absolute survival mechanism.

Preposterous_punk , Liza Summer Report

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Caro Caro
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3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Poor child. Some people are sadists and should be arrested if they even look at a kid. Imagine the hell this child went through and the struggles she has now.

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36 People Share What Traits Show A Person Wasn't Loved By Their Parents Enough As A Child One thing that I know I did a lot is have an extremely exaggerated personality because of how bad your social anxiety is. You constantly think everyone is judging you, so you have this carefully calculated sort of facade. You seem funny and spontaneous and extroverted, easy to talk to and friendly, basically you become that quirky weird kid. You try so hard to be funny and likable, be just weird enough but in a sort of funny way, so that people will like you. Then you get home and are absolutely drained because you really have no social battery but force yourself to have one because that's what your carefully crafted personality calls for. You seem spontaneous and funny but really every move is carefully calculated.

69frogs , Lisa Report

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aj
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3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

In people on the autism spectrum this is adapting to the people/situation around you is also called "masking"

Shane S
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3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Getting back home and judging yourself for all the mistakes and ‘stupid’ things you said trying to be extroverted.

SuperChicken
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3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

This always happens to me. As if everything and anything happened that day or weeks/months ago (maybe even years ago), bounces back hard at me. Then, I start feeling like a complete idiot then I disappear from the social scene for a while.

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PixxelDust
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3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

this is me. my WHOLE LIFE. at the end of the school day I don't even have the energy to talk to people on the bus. i just can't. so i sit there on my phone, and then PEOPLE GET MAD AT ME FOR USING MY PHONE.

Jo Choto
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3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Yeah, this is how I coped for a long time, and as AJ says in the comments below, I was masking autism.

Kay Yomi
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3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Socializing feels like play chess and then you feel mentally drained from all that brain usage. I feel this one.

Rachel Cobb
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3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

This describes me, to. The. Letter. But my parents are great?!!!😬🤨😰😫

snipergun
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3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

"then you get home absolutely drained" after literally any social interaction to the point next day you're hardly able to function (wake up, stand up, brush teeth) 🙄

Riley Quinn
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3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I wore so many different masks that I became lost in the confusion. After my extrovert behavior in public/office/club, I'd retreat back into the scared, socially awkward introvert.

Krystyna Lineberry
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3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

When I do tell people I’m actually quite introverted, they never believe me!

Marie
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3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Parents forcing kids to do things they don't want to and not repecting anxiety disorders, thinking their kid just needs to "get out there and make friends".

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Slune
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3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I was 30 years! the most varied, understanding and "Fashion encyclopedia". Students liked me and I liked them........A very long showtime.......funny: draining and inspiring. Dangerous mix!!

Paola Barbosa
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3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

wtf I didn't know I was doing this until I read this. I thought I was just being fake lol

RandomBeing
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3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

And then there is me who has tried to not be the quirky weird kid but due to ADHD is destined to be it seems.

Philip Barrett
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Im somewhat like this. I've been fat most of my life and hae a need to make fun of my self before anyone else can even though my friends would never do that in a real negative way.

Rogue Angel
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I still do a lot of that. I am the life of the party, chatty, funny and friendly, but afterwards I'm exhausted and emotional and over-stimulated, I get a headache and feel nauseous and can't do anything for 24 hours until I recover.

Liezl Rudolph
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Wow, this describes me perfectly. And I hate this and trying to rebuild because my social battery died, and I just want to stay at home and not have to see people.

Evelien Stijger Martens
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

The reason I stopt visiting people in General, I do not want to Invest my energie in stuff that Will not give me energie back. O am totally uncomforatble amongst people. I studies the Fist 5 minutes of andere in counter and that is as far as it Goes. More I don't care for anymore, ot doesnt work anyhow. Mitch childhoodbulliing, not feeling apreciatied at home , so than be someone you are not and it does not help One bit in the end.

Timmy Jor
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I've been doing the exact same thing my entire life but for completely other reasons. I was greatly loved by my parents while growing up, never had the tiniest complaint about them. Also I do not care what people think of me, and if they judge me I kinda find it funny to be so insecure and petty as them. My social skills have always been terrible and always struggled to meet and maintain friends, so I had to adopt this fake upbeat, exaggerated personality so people like me and socialize with me instead of I with them.

Full Nameю
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Also the primary trait of a sociopath. Manipulating the situation for your comfort. Which shows you how to manipulate & Control a group of people.

Maryjohn deBrun
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3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Did somebody have a running video of my entire life from about 6 years old right up to now?

Dawn Turner
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3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

So often, I’ve tried to put how I am into words. This. This is exactly me. Damn. Thank you.

Martin Forbes
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3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Yep, this is exactly me. Trying to fit in and needing to go to the bathroom, not to do anything, but to sit for a few quiet minutes to get my mind reset and ready for going back out to "perform" just drains me so much.

njudge 68
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3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I think this has something to do with me going to a different school every year until 6th grade. No sense of security.

Helenium
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3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

My dad would judge me on everything even now. I never think I’m good enough and people pretend to like me when really I’m a parasite weirdo

Patrick Watkins
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3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

as an introvert with aspergers i resonate with this one on a personal level.

Marie
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3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

THIS. I found out I have severe social anxiety disorder once I was no longer forced to go to church. I can't even be in a room with more than two strangers without a debilitating anxiety attack. Like an instant hyperventilation crying nightmare that takes hours to get over.

PineappleQueen
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3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Wow. You just described me personally. I always put on a face that I’m funny and carefree. But actually, I’m so stressed, never get a day of between school and babysitting. My parents are constantly on my back about grades, and my friends are always doing stuff around me.

Nicki
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3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

This...is...me. I was just talking to m y son about this, he has social anxiety too, but he is the opposite, he just likes to fade in the background. My hubs call this other version of me "Uber-Nicki". It is me but it is very extra, and when I am alone or in a comfortable place, I literally need to reset and am exhausted. It is...not fun.

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To find out just how exactly our upbringing affects us later in life, Bored Panda reached out to Susan Petang, a certified life coach from “The Quiet Zone Coaching,” teaching women how to stop feeling overwhelmed and start waking up happy in the morning again.

“The relationship we have with our parents is super important,” Susan stated and continued: “When we're children, the adults in our lives are our role models. They show us what it's like to be mothers and fathers, wives and husbands, and how to handle problems, stress, and difficulty.” According to her, we emulate their behavior, whether we realize it or not.

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36 People Share What Traits Show A Person Wasn't Loved By Their Parents Enough As A Child I've had two girlfriends who were able to cry completely silently. Not just a few tears, but full ugly, balling your eyes out crying, with absolutely zero noise.

The first one I knew about her past, but the second I was completely blindsided. She didn't speak about her past, but had said that other than 'occasionally arguing' with her father she's has a good enough childhood. When I saw it, it absolutely sent chills down my spine, and I immediately knew. When I later asked her about it, and mentioned that people only learn that out for quite narrow reasons, the flood gates opened I learned more about her childhood than I was ready to.

CreativeSun0 , Claudia Wolff Report

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Sheila McEnany Markowitz
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3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I too, learned how to cry silently for fear of an ex who would get more angry and abusive if he caught me actually crying and making noise. Happily, I have been with my husband for 12 years now, and he loves me, crying or laughing. Also happy to say the latter occurs much more often than the former.

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#5

36 People Share What Traits Show A Person Wasn't Loved By Their Parents Enough As A Child Not liking or loving yourself.

Being able to identify people by their foot steps, the sound of their car outside, how they move around the house, etc.

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3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

holy crap I do this, I can tell who is walking down the halls and how angry they are and so my mind goes to danger levels...s**t.

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Moreover, Susan warned that lack of attention and affection can cause all kinds of emotional dysfunction later in life. “Lack of self-esteem and the inability to communicate, resolve problems, and manage stress are just some of the problems that can result.”It’s important to understand that what “we observe as children guides our behavior later in life,” Susan said.

“If our parents didn't get along with others, we probably won't, either; if the adults in our lives were distant, remote, critical, or negative, the chances are high that we'll do the same.”

#6

36 People Share What Traits Show A Person Wasn't Loved By Their Parents Enough As A Child Constantly apologising for basically existing.

thescreamingtree , Liza Summer Report

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Caro Caro
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3 years ago (edited) DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

The physically abused tend to do this. That startled look and an immediate apology. God, the things people do to others, it's depressing.

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36 People Share What Traits Show A Person Wasn't Loved By Their Parents Enough As A Child Not being able to self validate. No one taught you how to be confident and sure of yourself.

Poor decision making/indecisive.

Insecure attachments.

dragonborne123 , Ethan Sykes Report

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#8

36 People Share What Traits Show A Person Wasn't Loved By Their Parents Enough As A Child Being shocked when a “kid” says how much they love their parent and they mean everything to them and the parent is loving and affectionate

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3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I was surprised to see how loving and caring my boyfriend’s parents are, along with how welcoming of a home they had. And the cool thing is that they’ve treated me as their own, I’ve been able to have the parent relationships that I’ve wanted for so long and I’m very grateful for that

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“It's also possible that we'll become the extreme opposite of our parents. For example, a girl who has an emotionally unavailable mom might decide that she's not going to be like her mother—and might end up being used and taken advantage of emotionally, instead.”

If you’re wondering, Susan assured us that it doesn't mean that you're doomed to a miserable life if your parents weren't warm and fuzzy. “Even if your childhood role models were poor, it's still possible to learn how to have healthy relationships and positive behavior,” the life coach concluded.

#9

36 People Share What Traits Show A Person Wasn't Loved By Their Parents Enough As A Child My special talent is breaking into full-on hysterics in total silence *with my bedroom open* and then less than 2 minutes later, walk out of my room and nobody has a clue I just had a total breakdown.

I cried myself to sleep most my 26 years so you just get used to it and forget it's not normal.

Secret_Life_Shh , Alex Green Report

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3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

My habit is to hide in the bathroom and have a silent meltdown, then panic over how I’m gonna fix my face before I leave the room. Usually results in cold water and eye drops being on hand.

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#10

36 People Share What Traits Show A Person Wasn't Loved By Their Parents Enough As A Child Constant need of approval by an authority figure. For example, trying to constant please your history teacher that kind reminds of your dad, so everytime he grades you well you feel like you accomplished something, even though he's just your teacher, not your dad, he won't listen to your problems or be present. He's just grading the tests.

yeri_berry , Taylor Wilcox Report

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Samantha Lomb
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3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

You might be surprised about the teacher listening. Many of us try to provide an ear for kids in need.

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36 People Share What Traits Show A Person Wasn't Loved By Their Parents Enough As A Child Having a huge void in your life where no matter how much love you receive, it’s never enough and you never feel like enough.

… or so I’ve heard.

bedofneuroses , Juan Pablo Report

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36 People Share What Traits Show A Person Wasn't Loved By Their Parents Enough As A Child Having trouble asking for basic needs.

starrygayz , SHVETS production Report

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Aski Markup
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3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I feel like this all the time. I feel like I'm even forcing my husband to be with me, and asking him for things can be too much much of a bother. Especially if it's for me.

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36 People Share What Traits Show A Person Wasn't Loved By Their Parents Enough As A Child Spending every moment of your waking life, all 20 hours a day of it, overanalyzing everything and everyone for that exact moment they are going to snap and lash out at you.

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#15

36 People Share What Traits Show A Person Wasn't Loved By Their Parents Enough As A Child They can't mention any achievement without "balancing" it with a mistake.

Your whole family sees you as nothing but a punchline.

The only reason you fear them outliving you is that they'd use your funeral as an excuse to humiliate you even further in front of people who actually cared.

MesocricetusAuratus , Nik Shuliahin Report

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3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

This is awful. You deserve so much credit for every achievement and accomplishment.

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36 People Share What Traits Show A Person Wasn't Loved By Their Parents Enough As A Child Seeing your phone ringing with your parents name and having an anxiety attack about answering.

HiddenSecrets , priscilladupreez Report

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Caro Caro
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3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

This is horrible, the overbearing parent that make's you break out in a sweat.

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36 People Share What Traits Show A Person Wasn't Loved By Their Parents Enough As A Child Flinching up and closing everything out when someone yells or gets mad at me or something I did.

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AnnaBanana
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3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Yep, I do this. Shouting at me causes an instant shutdown. Left overs from an abusive marriage, even though I've been divorced for 20 years.

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36 People Share What Traits Show A Person Wasn't Loved By Their Parents Enough As A Child Constantly feeling like everyone has a problem with you even if you have no reason to believe such thing. I have great roommates and they're some of my best friends, but at times I feel that they hate me. I know they don't, I have no reason to believe such things, but when I wake up I sometimes believe that my friends absolutely hate me. In response to these emotions I tend fo work very hard to try and get them to "like me", I'll buy them food, or surprise them with things I know they'll like. It eats away at me but even more I tend to believe everyone I meet for the first time hates me. Constantly I need people to tell me they're not mad at me, I need to be reassured, it's a dreadful feeling.

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#19

36 People Share What Traits Show A Person Wasn't Loved By Their Parents Enough As A Child - Not knowing how to take a compliment, because you're waiting for the other shoe to drop like, "you're so smart. So, why aren't you doing better in school?" It's better to deny the compliment.

- Feeling a constant need to placate, mediate, intervene, and concede to avoid arguments. You don't like to see other people fighting or for them to be angry at you, so you do your best to make other people happy, to reduce your anxiety.

- Learning to walk silently, avoid interrupting people, talking softly, and just generally avoid sticking out because you fear that confrontation is the first step to abuse.

- Doing kind things to people, but being unable to say kind things. Love means providing things like food and shelter and clothes, but not gentle words, because you didn't learn them.

- Surrounding yourself with toxic friends, because that's "normal". Your loved ones are supposed to take advantage of you and be mean, if they follow it up with something equally nice after.

- Having an abusive or neglectful significant other because you've learned to associate love with being hurt or neglected. You don't deserve constant love all the time from your partner. People hurt you sometimes, but you still love them. Being uncared for when you need to be comforted isn't the worst thing, when negative attention means feeling worse than being alone.

yakusokuN8 , Rosie Sun Report

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#20

36 People Share What Traits Show A Person Wasn't Loved By Their Parents Enough As A Child I seek the empathy I didn't have, I try not to overshare but it's hard when you're starving, but I do have good boundaries otherwise.

BenedithBe , Polina Zimmerman Report

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Helen Haley
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3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

The verbal diarrhea is real. Inappropriate oversharing. Sometimes for empathy and sometimes trying to explain some reaction you've had or action you've taken. Even though, nobody wants to know.

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36 People Share What Traits Show A Person Wasn't Loved By Their Parents Enough As A Child People pleasing

___Changeling , Sam Lion Report

#22

36 People Share What Traits Show A Person Wasn't Loved By Their Parents Enough As A Child They said” I have to love you, but I don’t have to like you” I was 7

AnonymousHeyoka , Dimitri Report

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Kristal
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3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Is "I always love you but I don't like you right now" similar or different? (Why?)

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36 People Share What Traits Show A Person Wasn't Loved By Their Parents Enough As A Child Oversharing. Not being able to set boundaries.

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36 People Share What Traits Show A Person Wasn't Loved By Their Parents Enough As A Child I work in schools and I find often kids will purposely get themselves into trouble to get attention from the staff because they're starved for attention at home

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36 People Share What Traits Show A Person Wasn't Loved By Their Parents Enough As A Child Insecure attachment (both avoidant and anxious). Love and/or sex addiction.

leopardessa , Trinity Kubassek Report

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AnnaBanana
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3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Sex addiction when I was younger. Hated myself so much that I thought the only things I had going for me were a pretty face and a body I was willing to give away.

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36 People Share What Traits Show A Person Wasn't Loved By Their Parents Enough As A Child Overly defensive about everything. Always trying to defend yourself for things you know are in the right. I.e (My room is already clean why are you even yelling, or stop telling me to do things I already do) I only know this because I’m always put in situations like this and allow other people’s words to have power over me

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36 People Share What Traits Show A Person Wasn't Loved By Their Parents Enough As A Child Please, for the love of God, laugh at my [lame] jokes and listen to me talk in circles for way too long while I try to kid myself I’m making an interesting point

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#28

36 People Share What Traits Show A Person Wasn't Loved By Their Parents Enough As A Child feeling the need to create a false, altered version of events to tell to people, and then realizing that the actual version of events was A) perfectly acceptable and B) makes more sense than the fabricated version of events. so f***ed up

bestmincraftruknow , Sam Lion Report

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Leo Domitrix
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3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Telling truth can get you into trouble. You don't do it. Abused people become excellent story-tellers.

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36 People Share What Traits Show A Person Wasn't Loved By Their Parents Enough As A Child Having a parental unit tell you multiple times that they "never wanted kids"

having them yell at you for not understanding how to do math problems when you're just learning them.

Having them talk more to the father of your child than they do to you.

Praising themselves for your accomplishments that have nothing to do with them and any hobby or activity is because "you take after me".

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AnnaBanana
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3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Ugh. The "you take after me" thing...my biological mother does that and it drives me CRAZY.

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36 People Share What Traits Show A Person Wasn't Loved By Their Parents Enough As A Child When you marry into a family and you completely shut down at family gatherings because you don’t know how to insert yourself into conversations because this family actually loves each other. And all you know is that you were told that no one wants to hear about you and they only want to talk about themselves so you have to be the giving person but then feeling sad that no one took the time to ask you about yourself. Feeling bad for feeling sad or lonely but thinking you also deserve it because you must be selfish if you feel negatively about people just not asking about you even though you put so much effort into talking about them that you know good and well they likely never had the opportunity. Censoring your own art because you had to do that where you grew up, but if someone stumbles upon your art and praises you for it you freeze up because you have no idea what to do about it.

Rozlun_The_Monster , Stefan Vladimirov Report

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Caro Caro
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3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

You know, my ex sil had (was) borderline ... she couldn't handle being with our loud and goofy family. She would sometimes hide in the loo the poor girl. Once she got to know us we heard some stories that even today still piss me off.

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36 People Share What Traits Show A Person Wasn't Loved By Their Parents Enough As A Child Working extra hard to get your parents attention (getting good grades, making their favorite food, etc) just to get acknowledge that you too are part of the family and you are also important as well.

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Rose Yellow Mint
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3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I was doing this till last year. And then at last i accepted that whatever i do they would never appreciate.. then i relieved, yes really :) Because just after that i started to focus on myself, my own beauties and abilities

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36 People Share What Traits Show A Person Wasn't Loved By Their Parents Enough As A Child No activities or visits

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Caro Caro
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3 years ago (edited) DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Being lonely is horrible. We should be more aware of people around us. The neighbour alone needs a visit and if elderly a visit and a quick check to see if he/she is ok. I live 5 hours drive from my elderly mum and I can't always visit. She is lucky to have friends and good neighbours who pop by for a cuppa or phone for chit chat. They pick her up for shopping. I am so grateful for these kind people.

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36 People Share What Traits Show A Person Wasn't Loved By Their Parents Enough As A Child Compulsively apologizing for minor/non-existent transgressions, just so people don't lash out at you. Perceiving every compliment as back handed. Eating as quickly as possible because you know someone is gonna throw your plate on the floor and force you to finish eating it.

Thebestnumberispoop , Mojtaba Ravanbakhsh Report

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Caro Caro
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3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Abuse and neglect as well. People should take a test before being allowed to become a parent.

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36 People Share What Traits Show A Person Wasn't Loved By Their Parents Enough As A Child Stealing - my sister was always told she was 'too expensive' to take care of now she literally will steal even if she has money in her pocket.

Shortyrocks256 , Emil Kalibradov Report

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3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Wow! This is such an eye-opener for me, and explains sooooooo much. Thank you.

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