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Change is constant. But it takes time. Especially when we're talking about society. After all, one person's idea of what is good or positive might very well be another person's definition of bad or negative.

Interested in which processes people would like to speed up if given a chance, Reddit user NewImprovement1160 asked everyone else on the platform to list the traditions and cultural norms they wish would disappear for good. And their call was answered — continue scrolling to check out the most popular answers.

#1

38 People Share Traditions And Social Norms They Absolutely Hate I'm Spanish, so bullfighting would be a great one to get rid of.

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#2

38 People Share Traditions And Social Norms They Absolutely Hate Tipping. Just pay the waiter/waitress a real wage and stop leaving that up to the customer.

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#3

Chop off puppies' tail bones so they "look cuter" with stumps.

It's cruel and disheartening.

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#5

Changing the damn clocks twice a year. Just keep one time.

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#6

38 People Share Traditions And Social Norms They Absolutely Hate Any variation of "let's make animals fight".

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#7

38 People Share Traditions And Social Norms They Absolutely Hate All those familiy vloggers. Exploiting their children en putting them on the internet for all the creeps to see.

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#8

38 People Share Traditions And Social Norms They Absolutely Hate Not sure if this counts as a "tradition"- but there are a lot of weirdly accepted social norms surrounding pregnancy.

* Asking newlyweds when they are going to try for a baby.
* Assuming a woman is pregnant because she is not drinking.
* Assuming a woman is pregnant because she has gained weight in her belly area.
* Touching (!!!?????) a pregnant woman's belly without her consent (!!!???).

Women are women first before they are mothers! Can we please remember that?

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#10

Letting balloons go at funerals, it’s horrible for the environment and the animals that ingest it. Plant a memorial tree instead.

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#11

38 People Share Traditions And Social Norms They Absolutely Hate Forcing children to give hugs and kisses bye to family members. Children deserve bodily autonomy and you would never force a grown adult to do the same so why a child?!

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#12

I'd like to throw in stupid over the top gender reveals with all the wedding stuff. If you're literally killing yourself to let people know your baby's gender, it might be time to take a step back and plan something more quiet and simple. Or if you're just inconsiderate pricks who don't clean up all the confetti etc afterwards.

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#13

Respecting parents/elders no matter what. Some of them are just bad people.

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#14

38 People Share Traditions And Social Norms They Absolutely Hate Expensive wedding and funerals, specially with funerals, that person is already dead.

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#15

38 People Share Traditions And Social Norms They Absolutely Hate Smashing of the face on the birthday cake.

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#17

38 People Share Traditions And Social Norms They Absolutely Hate Bachelor and Bachelorette parties that are there to celebrate "your last day of freedom"
And also theyre weirdly sexual sometimes with the phalic shaped things or strippers. Id be pissed if MY husband was MOURNING what he could have had on the night before our wedding by ogling some half naked chick.

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#18

38 People Share Traditions And Social Norms They Absolutely Hate For Americans, Black Friday shopping. It's stupid, dangerous, selfish, and ruins Thanksgiving. Go spend time with your families while they're alive.

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#19

38 People Share Traditions And Social Norms They Absolutely Hate Having women doing all of the kitchen work at parties and get togethers.

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#20

Piercing babies ears.

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#21

38 People Share Traditions And Social Norms They Absolutely Hate Super extravagant and expensive weddings.

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#22

38 People Share Traditions And Social Norms They Absolutely Hate Asking the father's permission to marry a woman.

In this day and age, it's just creepy.

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#23

Paying for things as a males responsibility for a relationship. It should be a 50% 50% thing to do.

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#24

38 People Share Traditions And Social Norms They Absolutely Hate Hazing in fraternities and sororities.

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#25

38 People Share Traditions And Social Norms They Absolutely Hate Giving your kids the boot right when they turn 18.

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#26

Presenteeism at work. Even now, I have colleagues coming in when they’re sick.

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#27

The father giving away his daughter at her wedding.

Women aren’t possessions.

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#28

The idea that it's important to keep traditions.

Or just generally the overall line of thinking that "because a large amount of people have always done this/thought this/believed this, it must clearly be a good idea (for everyone)".

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#29

Women changing their name. Seriously.
When I was engaged I floated the idea. Didn't really care a LOT. Mostly it seemed like an unnecessary administrative hassle
He said: it goes to commitment.
I wish I had said: you change yours.

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#30

The husband stitch.

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#31

Men must make the first move

In all fairness, it is already dying, especially in Western culture, but I want to end its misery. It is both a pressure on guys who will hesitate and spiral into crazy plans, but also on girls who can see "making the first move" as shameful.

I met a female colleague who considered the boys HAD to make the first move, and that she will sit here for eternity waiting for someone to go to her instead of going for what she wants.

Want to know how my parents got into a relationship ? They were hanging out with friends, and after some time my mom jumped on my dad and said "You're the man of my life, we're going to get married and have kids". He obviously laughed, but still accepted to date her and eventually she proved to be right

It's not just that men want to sit and have the privilege to be the one asked out. It's that women aren't able to pick who they want, they can pick out of the few who asked her. It's a relic from a time where the women had no agenda and it must die for good. Also, yes I don't want to be the one who always ask !

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#32

38 People Share Traditions And Social Norms They Absolutely Hate Using the same first names down through generations of boys. Isn't carrying on the surname enough?!

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#33

Having to ask people to school dances in a "fun" or"unique" way (this one is mostly the Utah and Idaho area I think)

Setting the table in a particular way (who cares if my fork is on the right side?)

Not wearing hats while eating (why is this a "rule", I like wearing hats)

Baptizing children (they aren't old enough to choose to commit to any religion for themselves)

Asking what children want to be when they grow up (and expecting them to reply with a job)

Participation trophies

Child beauty pageants.

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Dread Pirate Roberts
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5 months ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I agree, even with the baptism one. In my faith, baptism has to be a personal choice, since it's an action of voluntary commitment. And like OP says, a baby obviously can't make that decision. The participation trophy thing reminds me of George Carlin lol "You're the last winner!" 😂 Damn, I miss that guy

Tyranamar Seuss
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5 months ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

It's a commitment by the congregation and parents to raise the child in faith.

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Jan Rosier
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5 months ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

euhm, fork and knife on the 'correct' side of the plate is just plain and simple practicality

Mary Kelly
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5 months ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

some of table setting rules are there to make it easier to serve food and bevarages, remove used items, etc....it just makes it easier for everyone to move in the world...i like "manners" that help people know what to do (e.g., pass to the left when walking), but when they are just there to establish rank, well, f that

David
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5 months ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Disagree with a couple of these. Asking kids what they want to be is not expecting them to lock onto a lifelong career at age 5. It is encouraging them to think / dream about things they would like to do. Plenty of kids who wanted to be Batman found enjoyment in some other career. As for baptism - depends on the beliefs. I agree a baby can't choose their faith. But in some churches baptism is simply the parents stating they plan to raise the child with their values. I totally agree with the last two items on the list.

yoyoyo
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5 months ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

The removal of a gentleman's hat indoors was considered proper etiquette historically. You will still see men of a certain age doing so (my 86 yr old dad for example). However, in this century, it really is only observed as proper behavior in formal settings. I only wish the fabulous hats of yore were still the norm for women, then again, I just would love to have an excuse to wear fancy hats more often, alas, fancy hats probably wouldn't go w/ my yoga pants and tee-shirt clothes that i wear 80% of the time these days. :-)

Auntriarch
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5 months ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Wear the fancy hats. I can confirm that if your hat is fabulous enough, no one will care about or even notice the yoga pants

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Lorraine Woollands
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5 months ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I was baptized when I was a baby. Not religious at all. Only ever went to church when forced by school. Or when I attend a wedding (,once as a bridesmaid when I was 7 to my Godmother, who I never saw again)

Poppy
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5 months ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I'm 48 and I don't know what I wan to be when I grow up

DrBronxx
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5 months ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

One or two legitimately problematic things here that should go away, accompanied by some "I don't wanna!" things.

Michael Largey
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5 months ago (edited) DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

When people asked me as a child what I wanted to be when I grew up, I learned to reply "I want to be a philanthropist!" No one asked me twice. I hear it's a good gig.

Mark Alexander
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5 months ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

As Paula Poundstone noted, adults ask children what they want to be when they grow up because they're still looking for ideas.

Hans Georg
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5 months ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Call me old-fashioned, but If I am under a roof, I remove my hat. I also take of my sunglasses when I talk to someone. It is impolite to not do so.

WhatEvenIsLife
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5 months ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I agree with all this, but one thing that's always annoyed me is that most of the people sh*tting on the generation that received participation trophies don't acknowledge that they were the generation handing them out.

Mysteria
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5 months ago (edited) DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

We talked about the Protestant Reformation in history this year and learned about the different religions that came from Catholicism. Anyway fun fact; Baptism doesn’t believe in baptizing infants because they can’t decide that for themselves (If I’m remembering correctly).

El Dee
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5 months ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Most of this doesn't apply or no longer applies in my country. I imagine they will disappear in OP's country too..

CheshirePhrogg
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5 months ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Catholics do baptism and confirmation. I like this plan. Baptism is about the parents and family and church teaching you letting you grow into (or away from) your faith. It used to be confirmation was at about 17/18 years old and you as the individual made the choice to accept and continue in your faith. Now they are confirming third graders and I'm regretting my choices

Toothless Feline
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5 months ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Half of etiquette is treating others reasonably, and the other half is snobbery.

LaserBrain
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5 months ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I think religious people considered baptism as something akin to inoculation, in case the baby died it could go to heaven instead of hell. Religion is weird.

Ivona
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5 months ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

The hat should be taken off when you enter a building unless it's a religious head covering.

Lilybdcsa
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5 months ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

More and more churches are going to child dedications rather than baptisms.

~nope~
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5 months ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Do they mean promposals? I always thought those looked kinda fun 😅

Elchinero
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5 months ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

A person can be baptized "by proxy" via the LDS doctrine

Mysteria
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5 months ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Mormon church. Why am I not surprised. Y’know the entire deal with Baptism, the religion clearly named after baptisms, condones baptizing infants and those who cannot choose for themselves? :)

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#34

Groom pulling off the garter with his teeth, throwing the garter into the crowd of single men, throwing bouquets at crowd of single woman. Yuck.

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#35

38 People Share Traditions And Social Norms They Absolutely Hate I love my lawn but grass that has to be maintained is kinda dumb.

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#36

Valentine’s Day. It puts pressure on relationships, especially if they’re new. It’s also terribly unromantic to be dining out with crowded restaurants while being up charged to do so.

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#37

We have an Easter tradition in Hungary and Transylvania where girls that day simbolise flowers and guys have to water the flowers. It used to be with actual buckets of water and guys just went around to all the girls' houses they knew and they said a poem and threw the water at the girls. Now they do the same but they buy perfume instead of water and grandpas usually perfume the girls' head instead of their clothes. It's an annoying tradition, I thought I didn't have to face it this year but I did. It always happens after you wash your hair. Who thinks girls like to think of themselves as flowers and like to be "watered"?

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#38

Greeting each other by kissing both cheeks and even people you barely know. For me as an introvert, this was a Nightmare each time.

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