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naterzgreen , Sam Dan Truong / unsplash (not the actual photo) Report

38 People Share Traditions And Social Norms They Absolutely Hate Tipping. Just pay the waiter/waitress a real wage and stop leaving that up to the customer.

Final score:

184points

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james stevenson 6 months ago (edited)

So true, apparently in america waiters/waitresses practically have to LIVE off tips.

37points

Chop off puppies' tail bones so they "look cuter" with stumps.

It's cruel and disheartening.

Raymond74 Report

Final score:

161points

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TotallyNOTAFox 6 months ago

Thankfully it's illegal here in Germany

45points

AnnemarieOakley , Spora Weddings / pexels (not the actual photo) Report

38 People Share Traditions And Social Norms They Absolutely Hate Forced marriages.

Final score:

158points

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flower petals 6 months ago

These abominations are destroying the lives of (mostly) girls/women around the world every day. 🥺

34points

Changing the damn clocks twice a year. Just keep one time.

MisterSmithster Report

Final score:

158points

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TotallyNOTAFox 6 months ago

We should agree on the natural time once and for all - which is the winter time btw

26points

Mairhiel , David Taffet / unsplash (not the actual photo) Report

38 People Share Traditions And Social Norms They Absolutely Hate Any variation of "let's make animals fight".

Final score:

155points

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james stevenson 6 months ago (edited)

Cruel and pointless. they'll probably end up fighting over something anyway

20points

bananasareverycool1 , Julia M Cameron / pexels (not the actual photo) Report

38 People Share Traditions And Social Norms They Absolutely Hate All those familiy vloggers. Exploiting their children en putting them on the internet for all the creeps to see.

Final score:

137points

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BoredPossum 6 months ago

Just because you give birth to someone it doesn't mean you own them and can use them for profit.

7points

catsandthat , John Looy / unsplash (not the actual photo) Report

38 People Share Traditions And Social Norms They Absolutely Hate Not sure if this counts as a "tradition"- but there are a lot of weirdly accepted social norms surrounding pregnancy.

* Asking newlyweds when they are going to try for a baby.
* Assuming a woman is pregnant because she is not drinking.
* Assuming a woman is pregnant because she has gained weight in her belly area.
* Touching (!!!?????) a pregnant woman's belly without her consent (!!!???).

Women are women first before they are mothers! Can we please remember that?

Final score:

121points

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devotedtodreams 6 months ago

My godmother once said something along the lines of "being a mother makes you a real woman". I had been adamantly child-free for years before she dropped that one, and it infuriated me.

45points

Mr_Alan_Stanwyk , Chad Kirchoff / pexels (not the actual photo) Report

38 People Share Traditions And Social Norms They Absolutely Hate Celebrity idolatry.

Final score:

113points

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Bols 6 months ago

Never understood that tbh. They are people doing their job, ok they do it well and it gives us entertainment, but they are veeeery well paid for that, that should be enough, let's not worship them, they are just people.

23points

#10

Letting balloons go at funerals, it’s horrible for the environment and the animals that ingest it. Plant a memorial tree instead.

anon Report

Final score:

106points

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Ace 6 months ago

Never heard of this - where is that the norm?

28points

books_and_tacos , Andrea Piacquadio / pexels (not the actual photo) Report

#11

38 People Share Traditions And Social Norms They Absolutely Hate Forcing children to give hugs and kisses bye to family members. Children deserve bodily autonomy and you would never force a grown adult to do the same so why a child?!

Final score:

105points

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flower petals 6 months ago

*Never* teach *anyone* that they should accept being touched even when they don’t want to.

29points

#12

I'd like to throw in stupid over the top gender reveals with all the wedding stuff. If you're literally killing yourself to let people know your baby's gender, it might be time to take a step back and plan something more quiet and simple. Or if you're just inconsiderate pricks who don't clean up all the confetti etc afterwards.

Widepaul Report

Final score:

102points

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Ace 6 months ago (edited)

Not only 'stupid over the top' ones, but the whole concept of a 'gender reveal. Just tell people if they want to know.

43points

#13

Respecting parents/elders no matter what. Some of them are just bad people.

Mossberg500_ Report

Final score:

94points

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Stardust she/her 6 months ago

In my culture we show respect to elders by bending down and touching their feet. My parents only touch the feet of those who they actually respect and unless they know what character the elder person has they don’t force me to do it (unless I’m receiving blessings for important stuff)

15points

ALI4MHR , Rhodi Lopez / unsplash (not the actual photo) Report

#14

38 People Share Traditions And Social Norms They Absolutely Hate Expensive wedding and funerals, specially with funerals, that person is already dead.

Final score:

88points

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Jill Rhodry 6 months ago

Funerals are for the living.

60points

Arlington817 , shotprime / envato (not the actual photo) Report

#15

38 People Share Traditions And Social Norms They Absolutely Hate Smashing of the face on the birthday cake.

Final score:

83points

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BoredPossum 6 months ago

Not a tradition in most parts of the world.

33points

Whole-Bank9820 , Go to Alex Kotliarskyi's profile Alex Kotliarskyi / unsplash (not the actual photo) Report

#16

38 People Share Traditions And Social Norms They Absolutely Hate 5 day working weeks.

Final score:

82points

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B 6 months ago

I work 9 hours a day 5 days a week now. I would gladly work 10 hours 4 days per week to have Fridays or Mondays off

22points

HelloCrazyFanfiction , Zoriana Stakhniv / unsplash (not the actual photo) Report

#17

38 People Share Traditions And Social Norms They Absolutely Hate Bachelor and Bachelorette parties that are there to celebrate "your last day of freedom"
And also theyre weirdly sexual sometimes with the phalic shaped things or strippers. Id be pissed if MY husband was MOURNING what he could have had on the night before our wedding by ogling some half naked chick.

Final score:

81points

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BoredPossum 6 months ago

This says a lot about how people see marriage. Why would you be less free after the wedding? Why would you see yourself as free in an exclusive relationship? Does not compute.

28points

WeaponX-92 , Ashkan Forouzani / unsplash (not the actual photo) Report

#18

38 People Share Traditions And Social Norms They Absolutely Hate For Americans, Black Friday shopping. It's stupid, dangerous, selfish, and ruins Thanksgiving. Go spend time with your families while they're alive.

Final score:

80points

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Nichole Harris 6 months ago

And the majority of the "deals" are BS!!!

23points

colleen2163 , Le Creuset / unsplash (not the actual photo) Report

#19

38 People Share Traditions And Social Norms They Absolutely Hate Having women doing all of the kitchen work at parties and get togethers.

Final score:

80points

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Daniela Lavanza 6 months ago

Change your friends if they do so. Among my group, everyone contributes. Or tell the men you'll charge those who won't help, just to see their face.

20points

#20

Piercing babies ears.

Drownedgluten11 Report

Final score:

79points

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Upstaged75 6 months ago

This makes me SO mad! Inflicting pain on an infant for fashion? That's ridiculous! It should be the child's choice if they want them pierced or not. My parents waited until I was old enough to ask for them.

13points

llcucf80 , Ahmed ツ / pexels (not the actual photo) Report

#21

38 People Share Traditions And Social Norms They Absolutely Hate Super extravagant and expensive weddings.

Final score:

77points

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Ace 6 months ago (edited)

Spend as much as you like, but only if you can afford it. Spending the equivalent of a deposit to buy a house and then being unable to afford one and living in rented accommodation instead is just plain stupid.

25points

endorrawitch , Korie Cull / unsplash (not the actual photo) Report

#22

38 People Share Traditions And Social Norms They Absolutely Hate Asking the father's permission to marry a woman.

In this day and age, it's just creepy.

Final score:

77points

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October 6 months ago

Allso: the bride taking her husbands family name. I kept my own name in marriage, but lots of institutions still instist on adressing me with my husbands name.

38points

willy_the_seahorse Report

#23

Paying for things as a males responsibility for a relationship. It should be a 50% 50% thing to do.

Final score:

70points

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Alexandra 6 months ago

Fortunately, this is already changing. Just give it another generation...

11points

DJlonghammer , Juan Vargas / pexels (not the actual photo) Report

#24

38 People Share Traditions And Social Norms They Absolutely Hate Hazing in fraternities and sororities.

Final score:

69points

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Ace 6 months ago

Fraternities and sororities.

46points

DeathbySnuSnu84 , Ketut Subiyanto / pexels (not the actual photo) Report

#25

38 People Share Traditions And Social Norms They Absolutely Hate Giving your kids the boot right when they turn 18.

Final score:

67points

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BoredPossum 6 months ago

Is this tradition? Not a tradition I've ever heard of. Who does this, people who wanna have a bad relationship with their kids?

20points

Dutch Swimmer Goes Viral For Super Revealing Trunks During 2024 Olympics: “Is This Legal?”

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Thrill-Seeking Diver Jumps Down Extreme Waterslide, Ignoring The Strict Ban For Women

#26

Presenteeism at work. Even now, I have colleagues coming in when they’re sick.

Seleniuret Report

Final score:

65points

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BoredPossum 6 months ago

Corona should have changed this.

24points

Lavender_Llama_life Report

#27

The father giving away his daughter at her wedding.

Women aren’t possessions.

Final score:

61points

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BoredPossum 6 months ago

This.

11points

#28

The idea that it's important to keep traditions.

Or just generally the overall line of thinking that "because a large amount of people have always done this/thought this/believed this, it must clearly be a good idea (for everyone)".

FoilHattiest Report

Final score:

55points

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flower petals 6 months ago

Tradition = peer pressure from the dead.

46points

#29

Women changing their name. Seriously.
When I was engaged I floated the idea. Didn't really care a LOT. Mostly it seemed like an unnecessary administrative hassle
He said: it goes to commitment.
I wish I had said: you change yours.

ArnieBird1 Report

Final score:

55points

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MotherofGuineaPigs 6 months ago

My ex didn't really care about this. I hyphenated our last names and gave my daughter the same. Both of her families are represented.

6points

Woman Put A Water Fountain With A Camera In Her Yard, Here Are 24 Photos Of Regular Visitors (New Pics)

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“Ma’am I Live Here”: Woman Refuses To Back Out Of Driveway, Learns A Lesson The Hard Way

#30

The husband stitch.

Minionhunter Report

Final score:

51points

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Dread Pirate Roberts 6 months ago

I had to Google that, and I almost wish I didn't. What kind of pig started this practice? It's f*****g appalling!

25points

#31

Men must make the first move

In all fairness, it is already dying, especially in Western culture, but I want to end its misery. It is both a pressure on guys who will hesitate and spiral into crazy plans, but also on girls who can see "making the first move" as shameful.

I met a female colleague who considered the boys HAD to make the first move, and that she will sit here for eternity waiting for someone to go to her instead of going for what she wants.

Want to know how my parents got into a relationship ? They were hanging out with friends, and after some time my mom jumped on my dad and said "You're the man of my life, we're going to get married and have kids". He obviously laughed, but still accepted to date her and eventually she proved to be right

It's not just that men want to sit and have the privilege to be the one asked out. It's that women aren't able to pick who they want, they can pick out of the few who asked her. It's a relic from a time where the women had no agenda and it must die for good. Also, yes I don't want to be the one who always ask !

Dahns Report

Final score:

43points

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TheElderNom 6 months ago (edited)

My grandma asked my grandfather out back in the early fifties. They were married for over sixty years.

12points

50 Of The Most Incredible Shots That Were Submitted To The Comedy Wildlife Photography Awards

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French Diver’s “Jewels” In Tight Swimming Trunks Become Talk Of The Town At Olympics

#32

38 People Share Traditions And Social Norms They Absolutely Hate Using the same first names down through generations of boys. Isn't carrying on the surname enough?!

LucyVialli , Vika Glitter / pexels (not the actual photo) Report

Final score:

42points

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Justanotherpanda 6 months ago

Never in my life have I ever considderd this to be a problem.

24points

#33

Having to ask people to school dances in a "fun" or"unique" way (this one is mostly the Utah and Idaho area I think)

Setting the table in a particular way (who cares if my fork is on the right side?)

Not wearing hats while eating (why is this a "rule", I like wearing hats)

Baptizing children (they aren't old enough to choose to commit to any religion for themselves)

Asking what children want to be when they grow up (and expecting them to reply with a job)

Participation trophies

Child beauty pageants.

Nitsuj_ofCanadia Report

Final score:

41points

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Dread Pirate Roberts 6 months ago

I agree, even with the baptism one. In my faith, baptism has to be a personal choice, since it's an action of voluntary commitment. And like OP says, a baby obviously can't make that decision. The participation trophy thing reminds me of George Carlin lol "You're the last winner!" 😂 Damn, I miss that guy

15points

Tyranamar Seuss 6 months ago

It's a commitment by the congregation and parents to raise the child in faith.

5points

Kaedyn Walsh 6 months ago

That's why some won't consider themselves baptized if it was done at birth. But I believe kids shouldn't be told about hell until they're in their teens or something. It's akin to a form of child abuse to tell them if they're bad they'll go to hell and be punished in a lake of fire, beaten non stop, etc., for eternity. I also believe that kids shouldn't be indoctrinated into any religion til they're old enough to understand, and THEN start teaching them about every religion possible, even atheism, so they can then try all/some of the religions out if they want, or even none at all.

5points

Julie Schulz 6 months ago

A person can always decide to be baptized later in life when it is there choice. That's what I did. The church I go to says that baptism is the parents dedicating the child to God not the child dedicating itself. So really, a person should have two baptisms in life: Once as a child and once as an adult should they choose to.

3points

Jan Rosier 6 months ago

euhm, fork and knife on the 'correct' side of the plate is just plain and simple practicality

9points

Privacy Much 6 months ago

Unless you're left-handed

2points

Mary Kelly 6 months ago

some of table setting rules are there to make it easier to serve food and bevarages, remove used items, etc....it just makes it easier for everyone to move in the world...i like "manners" that help people know what to do (e.g., pass to the left when walking), but when they are just there to establish rank, well, f that

8points

David 6 months ago

Disagree with a couple of these. Asking kids what they want to be is not expecting them to lock onto a lifelong career at age 5. It is encouraging them to think / dream about things they would like to do. Plenty of kids who wanted to be Batman found enjoyment in some other career. As for baptism - depends on the beliefs. I agree a baby can't choose their faith. But in some churches baptism is simply the parents stating they plan to raise the child with their values. I totally agree with the last two items on the list.

7points

yoyoyo 6 months ago

The removal of a gentleman's hat indoors was considered proper etiquette historically. You will still see men of a certain age doing so (my 86 yr old dad for example). However, in this century, it really is only observed as proper behavior in formal settings. I only wish the fabulous hats of yore were still the norm for women, then again, I just would love to have an excuse to wear fancy hats more often, alas, fancy hats probably wouldn't go w/ my yoga pants and tee-shirt clothes that i wear 80% of the time these days. :-)

7points

Auntriarch 5 months ago

Wear the fancy hats. I can confirm that if your hat is fabulous enough, no one will care about or even notice the yoga pants

0points

Lorraine Woollands 6 months ago

I was baptized when I was a baby. Not religious at all. Only ever went to church when forced by school. Or when I attend a wedding (,once as a bridesmaid when I was 7 to my Godmother, who I never saw again)

3points

Poppy 6 months ago

I'm 48 and I don't know what I wan to be when I grow up

2points

DrBronxx 6 months ago

One or two legitimately problematic things here that should go away, accompanied by some "I don't wanna!" things.

1point

Michael Largey 6 months ago (edited)

When people asked me as a child what I wanted to be when I grew up, I learned to reply "I want to be a philanthropist!" No one asked me twice. I hear it's a good gig.

1point

Mark Alexander 6 months ago

As Paula Poundstone noted, adults ask children what they want to be when they grow up because they're still looking for ideas.

1point

Hans Georg 6 months ago

Call me old-fashioned, but If I am under a roof, I remove my hat. I also take of my sunglasses when I talk to someone. It is impolite to not do so.

1point

WhatEvenIsLife 6 months ago

I agree with all this, but one thing that's always annoyed me is that most of the people sh*tting on the generation that received participation trophies don't acknowledge that they were the generation handing them out.

1point

Mysteria 6 months ago (edited)

We talked about the Protestant Reformation in history this year and learned about the different religions that came from Catholicism. Anyway fun fact; Baptism doesn’t believe in baptizing infants because they can’t decide that for themselves (If I’m remembering correctly).

1point

Julie Schulz 6 months ago

I've always heard it as the parents dedicating the child to God.

0points

Carla Olavarría 1 month ago

Asking pre schoolers if the y have Bf or GF?

0points

censorshipsucks 6 months ago

all these. I hated school dances particularly.

0points

El Dee 6 months ago

Most of this doesn't apply or no longer applies in my country. I imagine they will disappear in OP's country too..

0points

CheshirePhrogg 6 months ago

Catholics do baptism and confirmation. I like this plan. Baptism is about the parents and family and church teaching you letting you grow into (or away from) your faith. It used to be confirmation was at about 17/18 years old and you as the individual made the choice to accept and continue in your faith. Now they are confirming third graders and I'm regretting my choices

0points

Toothless Feline 6 months ago

Half of etiquette is treating others reasonably, and the other half is snobbery.

0points

LaserBrain 6 months ago

I think religious people considered baptism as something akin to inoculation, in case the baby died it could go to heaven instead of hell. Religion is weird.

0points

Ivona 6 months ago

The hat should be taken off when you enter a building unless it's a religious head covering.

0points

Lilybdcsa 6 months ago

More and more churches are going to child dedications rather than baptisms.

0points

~nope~ 6 months ago

Do they mean promposals? I always thought those looked kinda fun 😅

0points

Elchinero 6 months ago

A person can be baptized "by proxy" via the LDS doctrine

-1point

Mysteria 6 months ago

Mormon church. Why am I not surprised. Y’know the entire deal with Baptism, the religion clearly named after baptisms, condones baptizing infants and those who cannot choose for themselves? :)

1point

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#34

Groom pulling off the garter with his teeth, throwing the garter into the crowd of single men, throwing bouquets at crowd of single woman. Yuck.

Final score:

41points

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Nina 6 months ago

The bouquet toss seems much more innocent to me, it's not like it was strapped to the grooms upper leg.

33points

Woman Moves Out Of Parents' Home After They Asked Her To Give Her Space To Brother, They Freak Out

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Mom Leaves $250k Inheritance To Son, Throws A Fit When Daughter Stops Looking After Her

#35

38 People Share Traditions And Social Norms They Absolutely Hate I love my lawn but grass that has to be maintained is kinda dumb.

bigmistaketoday , Kelly / pexels (not the actual photo) Report

Final score:

39points

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Nichole Harris 6 months ago

I'm slowly swapping my grass for a mix of clover, creeping thyme and mint..... Bout NEVER needs cut, smells AWESOME when you do and bunnies and stuff like it!!! And it still looks good

47points

#36

Valentine’s Day. It puts pressure on relationships, especially if they’re new. It’s also terribly unromantic to be dining out with crowded restaurants while being up charged to do so.

remgirl1976 Report

Final score:

38points

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flower petals 6 months ago

In Finland, February 14th is also Friendship Day, where people send cards and flowers to their friends, or get together for a special celebration. I like the inclusivity of this tradition! 💐

33points