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Very often, when people open up about their problems or negative thoughts they have, the first instinct of the other person is to cheer them up, try to reassure them that everything will work out and that there are worse things that could happen. People who try to make the troubled person feel better don’t usually mean any harm, but they actually are forcing positivity on a person that can’t see the lighter side of the situation at that moment.

Dismissing negative emotions, trying to forcefully see something good in a terrible situation and trying to find false reassurances is called toxic positivity. It often becomes a way to respond to a distressful situation when you don’t know what else to say. But feeling the emotions that you’re having is important, regardless of whether they are positive or negative.

People in the subreddit AskWomen understand that and share some phrases they would consider to fall under the toxic positivity category and would like to stop hearing. What they would like to hear instead is compassion and well wishes.

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#1

40 Examples Of Toxic Positivity, As Called Out By Women In This Online Group “It all made you stronger”

It rubs me the wrong way because it invalidates all the bulls**t I had to claw through. I made me stronger. Trauma made me weak, tired, and a repulsive version of myself. If I allowed that to control my life’s outcomes I would be in a dark ass place.

I put in the work. I made me strong. All that destroyed me.

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40 Examples Of Toxic Positivity, As Called Out By Women In This Online Group My grandma telling me that I have to put up with nasty family members “because they’re FaaaMilYYYYYyyyy”.

Gtfo, they are bad people and I’m not going to let them poison my life because we’re related.

dream_bean_94 , Bev Sykes Report

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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

For the longest time for me it was; "Stop being gay when grandma's over! it upsets her!" Like wow! Where is the off switch?

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40 Examples Of Toxic Positivity, As Called Out By Women In This Online Group "You don't need medication for depression or anxiety. You just need to go outside and smile more!"

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40 Examples Of Toxic Positivity, As Called Out By Women In This Online Group When my husband passed away unexpectedly at age 50 (together 32 years) more than one person said to me " my divorce was like a death too". Nope, not even close.

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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

How anyone can compare divorce to death is beyond me. I looked this up on reddit and it was a few years ago, she is happily remarried.

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40 Examples Of Toxic Positivity, As Called Out By Women In This Online Group When my dad passed away, a lot of people told me 'he's in a better place.'

I know it's super common to say, but we're not religious in the slightest and we wanted him here, for f**k's sake.

Sensitiverock85 , Jerzy Kociatkiewicz Report

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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I always found that insulting after my father died. I get people don't know what to say when one dies, but this was the biggest slap in the face for me.

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40 Examples Of Toxic Positivity, As Called Out By Women In This Online Group "You'll change your mind" and every sentences I can hear when I tell people I don't want kids. That toxic mentality of women have to be mothers. I've realized at 12yo that I never want kids. 13 later, I still haven't changed my mind. My husband also doesn't want kids so at least we're on the same page.

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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Just reply: " you'll soon regret yours"... Oh you think that that's inappropriate?

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40 Examples Of Toxic Positivity, As Called Out By Women In This Online Group Everything happens for a reason or God never gives you more than you can handle.

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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

If God supposedly never gives you more than you can handle, then please explain all the suicides, addicts, people with depression and other mental health issues etc.

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40 Examples Of Toxic Positivity, As Called Out By Women In This Online Group Just don't think about it.

Thanks mom, sure my constant headaches will go away when I just don't think about it! A 12 year old shouldn't have headaches non-stop in the first place but whatever.

Red_tiny_Panda , Gareth Williams Report

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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I have had migraines my entire life. Once a doctor told me they were simply, "all in my head". Yes, yes they were. And that day it was right in my left temple. Some doctors are complete idiots with no empathy.

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40 Examples Of Toxic Positivity, As Called Out By Women In This Online Group Pretty much everything about using the power of prayer and positive thinking to attract good things to your life and protect you from negative experiences and outcomes. It's all victim-blaming bulls**t. Telling someone that they should simply put more effort into their positive thoughts/prayers and that they are attracting the negative things that are occurring in their lives is incredibly inappropriate and sh**ty.

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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

It is all code for "You are ultimately to blame for everything that happened to you." I even heard that the "power of attraction" means the Jews brought the Holocaust on themselves. No joke. It was in a book about positive thinking. WTF?!

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40 Examples Of Toxic Positivity, As Called Out By Women In This Online Group 'you have it much better than other people'

Okay, I know that's true. But I hate it when people invalidate my experience without being in my shoes.

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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I often invalidate my own experiences or pain by saying this. I think it's the guilt that I've been brought up with.

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40 Examples Of Toxic Positivity, As Called Out By Women In This Online Group ‘You think that’s bad? Wait til you hear what happened to me - it’s worse!’

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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Yours maybe worse but this is the worst I have delt with. I hate it when people say that it is not a competition.

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40 Examples Of Toxic Positivity, As Called Out By Women In This Online Group I lost my first pregnancy earlier this year. It sucked massively and I fell into a depression. A close family member just kept trying to make me 'see the positive side of it'. It's been a while now but to this day, I see no frigging positive side of having lost my child. That, to me, was toxic positivity at its best.

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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I'm so sorry you've had to endure this toxic comment. I've been waiting 15 years for a reason my healthy 26yo died.

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40 Examples Of Toxic Positivity, As Called Out By Women In This Online Group “At least he doesn’t hit you!” like wow I’m supposed to put up with allllllll the BS because he’s doing something he should?

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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

My stepdad was an abusive alcoholic when I was little (in high school he was diagnosed with a chemical imbalance and it was treated, making him the most amazing dad ever). When I expressed the desire to divorce my first husband whom had been cheating on me for over a year with the same woman, and with other women in years prior, my mom asked, "are you sure that is bad enough for you to end your marriage??". Which made me stay for 5 more years. I guess in perspective, no, it wasn't as bad as what we had been through with my stepfather, but... really???

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40 Examples Of Toxic Positivity, As Called Out By Women In This Online Group Different variations of "You can't have kids? Take mine for a day and you'll be happy you don't have one of your own! Kids suck lol" Yeah, you being a s***ty parent certainly makes me feel better about being infertile.

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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

If you want children and can't have them then that's really sad and saying stupid stuff like that is cruel.

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40 Examples Of Toxic Positivity, As Called Out By Women In This Online Group In group therapy someone said that they're proud, they never got depressed, no matter what life threw at them. Because they're such a positive and strong person. With a person with depression sitting right next to them.

I am glad I don't have a tendency towards depression either. But I'm not proud of it, because it's a sickness you're prone to, or you aren't. It's not a weakness. And the fact that we're all sitting together in group therapy shows that we all have one or another unhealthy coping mechanism in place and so far, we weren't able to positive-think our way out of them.

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40 Examples Of Toxic Positivity, As Called Out By Women In This Online Group “Pain is all in your head”

Do f**k off with that.

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40 Examples Of Toxic Positivity, As Called Out By Women In This Online Group There's someone for everyone. You just need to believe and you will find love. No, there isn't and no, love isn't guaranteed.

arcticshqip , Kevin Simpson Report

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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Perhaps there isn't someone for everyone but a lot of people have ridiculously high expectations. I have a permanently single friend who is not very handsome and will only date model-looking women (without much success). Gets offended when someone points it out to him and I know a lovely girl who fancies him but "he likes her but she's not his type looks-wise"...

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40 Examples Of Toxic Positivity, As Called Out By Women In This Online Group Someone told me I was “polluting” their space with “my sadness”. I asked them wtf they meant (because I wasn’t acting sad or even saying anything) and they said they could “feel” a “deep sadness” in me and that my presence itself was harmful. Like holy s**t talk about thought police

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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Once on a bus after visiting my terminally ill mother in the hospital a woman turned the baby stroller around so that the baby faced away from me and said to her friend "I don't want anyone to look at my child like this". Bitch, I just visited my dying mother, I am NOT sorry that my sadness offended you.

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40 Examples Of Toxic Positivity, As Called Out By Women In This Online Group “You’re really pretty for a chubby girl” Thaaaaaanx.

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40 Examples Of Toxic Positivity, As Called Out By Women In This Online Group “I just strive to be an honest person. I’m sorry if it hurt you”.

Some s**t should just not be said ok?

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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Also on the internet. An opinion is ok, but you don't have to go out of your way to shout it out and hurt people by doing so. You can also have an opinion and not let the entire world know.

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40 Examples Of Toxic Positivity, As Called Out By Women In This Online Group Why can’t you just be happy?

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40 Examples Of Toxic Positivity, As Called Out By Women In This Online Group Family is meant to hurt and forgive.

I call bs.

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40 Examples Of Toxic Positivity, As Called Out By Women In This Online Group “Happiness is a choice.” Shudder.

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40 Examples Of Toxic Positivity, As Called Out By Women In This Online Group “Life will be easier if you just accept that you’ll be doing most of the house work”…. Ex-boyfriends mom in response to a conversation about how ex-boyfriend did not help with chores.

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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Tell me you're a sh1tty parent without saying you're a sh1tty parent.

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Something along the lines of “you have as many hours in the day as Beyoncé.” I just can’t even begin with how much I hate everything about that.

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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

You have the same amount of hours as Hitler and look what he achieved!

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40 Examples Of Toxic Positivity, As Called Out By Women In This Online Group "Having expectations on relationships only lead to disappoiment" So am I supposed to put up with whatever the f**k they want to treat me? Wtf.

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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

They meant well somewhat. Expectations can be bad, but that is meant totally different. Hard to explain for me in english, maybe someone could find better words? It’s like having the expectation to be loved coz you did something for someone. It’s the expectation you put on others to make you happy. That’s not how this works. You can only control yourself, your actions, your feelings (somewhat) But you can keep your expectations in check. Don’t confuse this with boundaries or rules, anticipation, or apathy. Sure you can expect your partner to be loyal, honest and so on, doesn‘t mean you can control them though. But you can control how much you trust them, and how far you wanna challenge this expectation or trust. Alot in life is about how WE handle it and less the actions put in front of us. We often confuse this actio/reactio as causality, neglect the control we ourselves have and put our life(happiness) in other people’s hands. That you might wanna prevent.

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40 Examples Of Toxic Positivity, As Called Out By Women In This Online Group "If I can do it, you can do it."

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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

i never understood this one. if you can do it, then i can do it, because i am inherently better than you and so anything you can do is clearly within my superior grasp? is that what you're saying? or are you saying that everyone has exactly the same abilities?

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40 Examples Of Toxic Positivity, As Called Out By Women In This Online Group 'You're not like the other girls'

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40 Examples Of Toxic Positivity, As Called Out By Women In This Online Group "You either trust me or you don't. Trust doesn't get built" - said my disgusting ex earlier in our relationship

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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Trust takes ages to build, actually, and seconds to get destroyed.

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A YouTube video opened my eyes on how body positivity can be toxic. I've realized I'm just body-neutral. I don't think my body is beautiful and I don't have to! I'm more than my body and I'm at peace with it even if I wish some things were different. They don't affect my self-esteem.

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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I'm okay with the body positivity thing. If it helps people let go of self-hatred, it's worth some annoyance.

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"well, everyone has a little bit of depression here and there." ok and that's supposed to make me feel better or something?

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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Having depression and being a bit depressed as in temporarily down/upset, is not the same

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40 Examples Of Toxic Positivity, As Called Out By Women In This Online Group "You are only hurting yourself when you are crying look I'm unaffected."

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"Don't waste your time worrying about it." Sorry but I can't help it

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40 Examples Of Toxic Positivity, As Called Out By Women In This Online Group Fake it till you make it. Ugh. The f**king worst.

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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

One of the most dumb ideas I've ever heard. I got group jumped by fellow managers when I told the lead manager I didn't know how to accomplish a certain task. They all gasped and looked at me like I'd took a dump on the breakfast table. One of the managers leans over and says you're not supposed to say that you don't know, you fake it till you make it. I went off on her and the rest of them. I was in the Marine Corps. That idea would get you killed or your team killed! It is best that you know each others strengths and weaknesses so that you can plan accordingly. If someone doesn't know how to do something that they should or need to in the circumstances then you provide the tools and education to raise them up, thus elevating the whole group. You don't leave them floundering in the dark, fearful of f'ing up because they're left to their own devices.

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40 Examples Of Toxic Positivity, As Called Out By Women In This Online Group "Its not your situation. Its about how you react to it." - my bff

And how am I suppose to react to office sexual harassment of a senior management without the risk of losing my job and not be able to pay my rent, dare I may say???? There's also the risk of ruining connections and forever barring me from the industry completely.

I was venting to my friend. All I needed was to vent and cry. I know the consequences involved with even a tiny move against this person who has such great influence my chosen feild. No, I cant just "react" my heart out, dear.

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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Ehm. No. There is stuff you can do. Seek help, collect evidence. Fight back. You often have choices, either you aren’t aware of them, or afraid, or afraid of consequences. There she should have helped you. I learned being silent is most often the wrong choice.

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40 Examples Of Toxic Positivity, As Called Out By Women In This Online Group The HR person at my old job told me to "lean in more" when I requested a meeting about sexism in the office.

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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

HR isn't there for the employees, they are there for the employer and for their own job security.

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40 Examples Of Toxic Positivity, As Called Out By Women In This Online Group Not sure if this fits, but "Just keep eating. Don't worry about how much. Eat until you're happy" Eat until I'm happy? I prefer to separate food from emotion, thank you. I've seen people approach the brink of passing aaway by tying food and emotion. No thank you. Not for me.

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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

following that advice is the path to a eating disorder.

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40 Examples Of Toxic Positivity, As Called Out By Women In This Online Group "the act of smiling makes you feel better, so even if you're feeling really bad you can start smiling and eventually your feelings will catch up" No thank you

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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

There's actually science behind this one. Studies conclusively proved that even a fake smile causes your brain to produce dopamine, serotonin, and endorphins. I've used this to help me when I'm depressed, by seeking out things that will make me smile and laugh. And it does help me manage my depression.

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When I vent I don't enjoy a certain aspect of my jobs to a friend/colleague: "but it won't be any different in a different field"

Well thank you that is very relevant

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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I've learned that a LOT of people don't understand the difference between when someone needs a shoulder to cry on or an ear to vent to, and when they actually want advice or help. If you're not sure, ask. It's not helpful if you give shitty advice to someone who just needed to vent or maybe needed a "don't worry, you'll be OK" or whatever.

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40 Examples Of Toxic Positivity, As Called Out By Women In This Online Group It’s not you it’s me

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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Actually that's true. If they have issues being with you or whatever, that really is theirs to deal with.

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