Not every person is suited for parenthood, and that’s okay. What isn’t acceptable is choosing to raise a child even with the apparent lack of ability and willingness to do better.
Today, we’re putting a spotlight on toxic mothers. You’ll see screenshots showing their blatant disrespect for boundaries and privacy. Some may have even risked their kids’ health and well-being. Be forewarned, as a few of these are disturbingly wrong.
We’ve picked out these posts from this subreddit to highlight some of their behavior. Hopefully, none of you went through similar ordeals as children. If you’re a mom, let these bad parenting examples be your reminder of what to avoid at all costs.
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The Emojis Are The Icing On The Cake
A Mother’s Love 💕
Absolutely Accurate
Minimizing a child’s feelings is a common toxic mom behavior. Some are guilty of telling their kids not to feel a certain way because it is wrong. According to Florida-based psychotherapist Dr. Tracy Hutchinson, this sends a message that feelings are better off suppressed.
In an article for CNBC, Dr. Hutchinson recommends asking children what they think would make them feel better. She says this trains them to manage their emotions independently at a young age.
Homeopathic Side Effects
You Can Do Everything Right And Still Fail
I Don't Have A Problem With Extended Nursing, But Omg Still Using Months?
And here I am where my age should be counted by decades instead of by years.. a five decade old guy.
It’s one thing to encourage your child to strive for excellence. Demanding perfection is when things can get problematic. Dr. Hutchinson says it could lead to confidence and self-esteem issues as they grow older.
“Build mental strength in your kids by making sure expectations are realistic,” she wrote. She adds that setbacks will only teach kids how to bounce back and hopefully lead them to success in the future.
More Essential Oil S**t
A Water Bottle
Couldn't Have Seen This Coming?
Growing up with a toxic mom can have a profound effect on a person. According to licensed psychotherapist Christine Scott-Hudson, the inability to trust oneself is one of the few manifestations.
In her interview with Bustle, she says this mainly happens to people who dealt with a gaslighting mother. As a result, they could suffer a lifetime struggle with self-doubt.
Baby Boy Can't Date
Please For The Love Of God Say Sike
I Asked About Learning Activities For My Toddler
The inability to maintain healthy relationships or a constant attraction to toxic individuals is another by-product of having a toxic mom. New Jersey-based therapist Vanessa Watson-Hill says it’s because emotionally unavailable mothers fail to model a healthy relationship for their children.
So How's Your Morning Going? ....i Thought Mine Was Bad Until I Read Hers, Damn
Discrimination!
Sex Ed Fail
Whether it’s about picking a major for college or choosing an ice cream flavor, indecisiveness isn’t always innate. Sometimes, a mother’s negative behavior could be a catalyst for developing such a trait.
That’s because moms greatly influence decision-making. According to research, those who’ve used psychological control as a primary parenting tactic may negatively impact their child’s sense of judgment when they reach their adolescent years.
I Wonder Why This Isn’t Working
"Monat Makes Me A Millionaire"
So Nice To Read Something Funny Where No Harm Is Done To Children
Tbf, with 14 they said if he wasn't out in the next 10 minutes they would do a C-section. That was my motivation.
People who grow up with toxic mothers carry that pain their entire life. This is the case for Randi Latzman, owner of the Surviving Mom blog. She created the site as an outlet for the abuse she endured. In one of her recent posts, she recalled the breaking point in their relationship.
She Has Quite A Burden To Bear
You are responsible for your own faff and the goblins that emerge from it. Stop trying to make your daughter responsible for your choices.
Bed Is Actually Going To Be On Fire Now!
Homeschool Group Comforting A Mom Who Never Taught Her 14 Year Old The Months Of The Year Or His Tables
Congratulations, you are at fault for not teaching your child the basics whilst supposedly home schooling them. Dingleberries.
“On that fateful day, she told me she didn’t like me and wanted nothing to do with me. I felt like a knife was plunged into my heart,” Latzman wrote.
The author ultimately decided to break all contact after that argument. According to her, what hurt the most was her daughter’s broken relationship with her grandmother.
Found: Sister Of The Wicked Witch Of The West
Umbrellas. Coats with hoods. Waterproof clothing. Do you think rain ever stopped us in the UK?
*stares In Cps*
This Extreme Fear-Mongering Pisses Me Off So Much
Dealing with a toxic mom may feel like coming to a dead end. According to psychotherapist Brittany Boufard in the same Bustle interview, the parent in question may resort to the same cycle of denying your feelings and rejecting the idea of change.
When the worst happens, most experts recommend seeking professional help. A licensed therapist or doctor could mediate the conversation as a third party. As Watson-Hill points out, a professional could also help adults gain a better understanding, especially about developing healthy boundaries.
Really Sorry Your Baby Is A Baby
"Your Not A Real Mum Unless You Gave Vaginal Birth To It"
Gatekeeping being a mother? You are the worst, you absolute numpty.
Now, we want to hear from you, dear reader. Do you know someone who grew up with a toxic mother? How has it affected their life? And how are they coping? We’d love to know your thoughts in the comments!
Poor Baby
Why would anybody in their right mind go to a chiropractor at all?
How Can I Be Needlessly Strict And Not Respect My Child's Bodily Autonomy But Make Him Not Hate Me Like I Hate My Mom For Doing The Same Thing?
It is an innocent thing that your son enjoys. Let him paint his nails you bumnugget.
From A Mom Group On Instagram. I Guess People Without Children Are Not Allowed To Be Tired
The further down the list I read, the more I hoped that these were all some kind of elaborate spoof. Toxic just isn't the word for what some of them are doing, they should be locked up.
Calm down. Have a cookie. No, not that cookie, that moron put poop in it and sold it to her kids' friends at a discount because it's his birthday. ;) I think most of them should be locked up. Some in jail, some in a nut farm
Load More Replies...It's mind-blwoing how many people out there think they now better than experts who actually learned and studied their field of expertise. And it's always either medicine or nutrition. Never plumbing or car maintenance.
It's hard to get people to buy into alternative plumbing when they can see the water leaking everywhere, right? What these people don't understand is that the problems with their alternatives are just as apparent to most people as the leaking water is to everybody.
Load More Replies...The further down the list I read, the more I hoped that these were all some kind of elaborate spoof. Toxic just isn't the word for what some of them are doing, they should be locked up.
Calm down. Have a cookie. No, not that cookie, that moron put poop in it and sold it to her kids' friends at a discount because it's his birthday. ;) I think most of them should be locked up. Some in jail, some in a nut farm
Load More Replies...It's mind-blwoing how many people out there think they now better than experts who actually learned and studied their field of expertise. And it's always either medicine or nutrition. Never plumbing or car maintenance.
It's hard to get people to buy into alternative plumbing when they can see the water leaking everywhere, right? What these people don't understand is that the problems with their alternatives are just as apparent to most people as the leaking water is to everybody.
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