My brother's ex girlfriend did this too. I believe it did actually hurt him though. Either way... it's not right.

If one person gives all the orders, allows no negotiation, no consideration of the partner's preferences, no compromise, that's abuse. My sister and I have our bossy moments, as do our husbands, but it's usually in the spirit of solving a problem (budgeting when money is tight, for example). I don't see the appeal of being a control freak. Too much stress and too much work.

That doesn’t make them more controlling than men, it’s just an example of control. Much of the world’s 3billion female population is living under state sanctioned male control, unable to make their own marital, educational, economic, travel, political, religious, reproductive decisions. Many have to grapple with stalking, bullying, extreme domestic and sexual violence that puts them in hospital and kills two every week with the law providing mitigation. A woman might be more controlling than a man in a given relationship, but taken as a whole, there is literally no equivalence.

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Yes, this. Thinking about all the metoo stuff at the moment - the most common horrible and vile things that men do to women are normally illegal as they normally involve some kind of violence and physical harm - a Harvey Weinstein can be prosecuted; but the most common horrible and vile things that us women do to men are not illegal, cannot be prosecuted as they leave very little physical trace - women can be experts at destroying the soul through manipulation, control, ridicule, exclusion, depriving access to kids, lying. Yes, these may be skills we have developed to survive the more physically dominant men, but these skills are no less vile.

True, but it depends on culture. I've heard some "jokes" depicting violence towards women as funny and people actually laughing at that, while I try to understand where's the funny part. I mean, I can take dark humor, but those were just plain stupid. Much like 99% of racist jokes, really. Some people really do believe a man has to punch a woman to "teach" her. Such a barbarian mentality. Just don't punch ANYONE. Full stop.

Men aren't always condemned for being abusive either. I'm a social worker and so many times I've heard stories where people have told abused women like "you just need to love him, he's not actually evil he's just going through tough times, he didn't mean to hit you" etc

Or people think it's cute or funny when a girl hits a guy. It's not cute or funny.

An eye for an eye makes the whole world blind.

The problem with this solution is that when the cops show up, it's the man that will be arrested every time. He will be labeled a woman beater, and lose quite a few friends. Society all too often gives abusive women a pass.

I woke up to one night getting pummeled in the face while sleeping. Having to fight off my girlfriend because she was mad again. Swing at me again. She wouldn't stop coming at me so I snapped finally. Guess who went to jail with a black eye, bruises, and scratch marks, then had the next two years of his life having to leave every event when she showed up uninvited just to ruin my day. I was trapped due to rent, taking abuse from her, watching her break my s**t, having her force me to move back in while there was still a restraining order or she would call the cops on me, because guess what, even if I was 100 miles away, she can claim I harassed her at a bar that night, I would get arrested for violating by default, then I had to prove I didn't. So I became a prisoner. It was cheaper and easier. Now a days I cant wait to see her again, and only pray she f***s up, so she can see what it felt like. She ruined my life for 4 years and I'm never dating again. So maybe longer then 4 years.

Idiot.

Every human has weak spots. No strength needed to seriously hurt somebody if that's your intention. Also, tools. The kitchen is filled with tools.

Yeah. I do.

so, since some don't have the capability of hurting with just their bare hands, it makes it okay? Emotional implications have an impact as well, off yourself

This post is wrong in so many ways. The language used here is a language of black-and-white mentality, where women’s actual, real and living proof of being abused and violated is reduced to a “feminist” hateful discourse trope. You do realise that kind of language attempts to blur, denigrate, and muffle despair and pain, don’t you? What about those women who do not identify as “feminists”, but who were raped or abused and want to talk about it? How self-righteous on your part to assume that such voices have no merit and are worthless. Plus, dude, you are in no position to tell any woman they have “zero rights” in anything, especially here. Hate and violence concerns us all, we live next to one another, for f...’s sake.