50 Disturbing Texts And Moments That Reveal How Toxic Some Dads Can Be

Just because someone is your biological parent doesn’t automatically make them family. Being a father is all about self-sacrifice, supporting your kids through all the ups and downs, and loving them unconditionally.

Unfortunately, not everyone fits the bill. Some dads are downright toxic and deeply mean-spirited. Bored Panda has collected some of the most awful message exchanges that people have ever had with their ‘dads.’ They’re examples of behavior that nobody should have to tolerate, and why healthy boundaries are vital, even when it comes to your relatives.

Warning: this topic may be triggering for some readers.

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My Father Tries To Say He Put Me Through College. My $1,000 Monthly Loan Payments Say Otherwise

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50 Disturbing Texts And Moments That Reveal How Toxic Some Dads Can Be

My Father Tries To Say He Put Me Through College. My $1,000 Monthly Loan Payments Say Otherwise

That's A Father Who Needs To Be Investigated

My Stepdad Gave My PC Away To Goodwill. He Said I Waste My Time On It And I Should Be An Auto Mechanic Instead Of Going To College For Computer Science. I Spent Like $800 On That PC

Insane Dad

Why’d I Have The Same Exact Experience

My Dad Is Sending Me To Boot Camp This Month Because I Didn't Get My Hair Cut The Way He Wanted. I Was Sobbing In The Back Of My Work When He Sent Me These Messages

My Father Tracking Me While I’m On A Date

Once A Month From My Dad

I’m A Recovering Alcoholic Who Just Moved Into A New Apartment. This Is What My Dad Left Me

Last Year's Thanksgiving With Dad Brought This Out. Not The First Time He's Made Comments Like This, And I Was Told I Was Gross For Getting Upset

Dad Decided To Tear My Room Down While I'm Away At College. He Also Threw All Of My Stuff Away Without Asking

For The First Time In My Life, I Stood Up To My Psycho Dad. His Response Was To Cut Me Out Of His Will

My Dad Thinks He Is Entitled To My Money (Which I Don't Have Much Of) Because "It's Christmas"

That’s Probably Not The Only One

My Father Sent A Video To A Group Chat With Me And My Brother Of A Guy Smashing His Kid’s TV Because They Forgot Their Chores

My Dad Still Thinks I’m 13

My Biological Dad And I Have Always Had A Bad Relationship But I Thought We Had Worked Out Something Civil When He Got "Sober". I Received $2 Two Days Before My Wedding

My Father With Whom I Have Little To No Contact, Put Me (24 Years Old) And My Sister (40 Years Old) In A Group Chat To Chastise Us For Not Texting Him On Thanksgiving

My Dad Making My Accomplishments About Himself

My Dad Is In Texas Right Now And Is Making Me Send Photos Of My Room Every Day Or He Takes 100$ From My Account

My Dad Volunteered Me To Read At Church At 6 AM. He Also Refuses To Use My New Name

Texted Dad For The First Time In A While To Ask A Simple Question. That Was A Mistake

Stepdad Ate My Only Food I Had For Lunch At Work

Gross Text My Girlfriend’s Dad Sent. He Almost Never Contacts Her And Sent This Out Of The Blue. He Never Replied

My Girlfriend Got These From Her Dad Last Night After Not Answering One Phone Call. Things Like This Happen At Least A Few Times A Month With Her Parents

My Dad Always Knows How To Make Me Feel Guilty For Things I Shouldn’t Have To Feel Guilty Over

Dad Bruises My Arm After Losing His Temper. He’s Not Very Remorseful

I Went Out Of The House For A Bike Ride, And When I Came Back, Dad Locked Me Out Of The House. Luckily, I Had A Back Door Key, But He Physically Forced Me Out Of My Own Home

My Dad Always Insults My Appearance In Pictures, So I Deleted His Comments. A Man Child

I’m So Glad My Dad Is Finally Paying Attention To Me

My Dad Called Me Almost 350 Times, Then Decided To Use A Relative's Recent Death As Leverage. This Is Over Me Packing For School

My Dad Is Threatening To Call The Cops On Me

How Do I React To This From My Dad?

Texting My Dad About A Previously Organized Visit With My 9-Week-Old Baby. We Agreed Yesterday That He Would Come Up Around Lunchtime. How Dare I Suggest A Time For Him To Arrive

My Grandma Is In The ER And All My Dad Is Thinking Of Is Calling Me

Conversation With My Dad About Him Forcing Me To Sleep On The Couch So His Other Kids Can Have My Room

I Am 22 Years Old, Living On My Own With My Husband, And My Dad Still Tries To Control What I Do

Dad Decided To Throw My Boots Away Because They're In The "Middle" Of The Way

Gotta Love My Homophobic Dad. I Wasn't Even Intentionally Making An LGBTQ+ Design, Just Wanted A Rainbow

Didn’t Give My Dad 150$ For Beer. He Must Have Found Some Money Somewhere, Because He Drunk Texted Me This Lovely Mess

Dad Gave Away My Cat A Couple Of Months After I Moved Out. He Refuses To Tell Me Where He Is. I Can't Pursue Legal Action Because I'm 14 And He Was In Legal Ownership

A Text From My Father, Who Has Blamed Me For All Of His Marriage Problems With My Mom Since I Was 9 Years Old. He Sent Me This Gem While My Husband Was Deployed

I’m The Only Kid In The Family Who Didn’t Become A Doctor. My Mom Forced My Dad To Post For My Graduation Since He Always Brags About My Doctor And Dentist Siblings. This Is What I Got

23 And Can’t Spend Time With My Boyfriend, Without Dad Constantly Threatening To Come To His House

My Father Sent Me This For My Birthday. The Bottom Says "You Didn’t Think This Was A Birthday Gift, Did You?"

This Was Completely Out Of Nowhere

My Brother Has Some Major Behavioral Issues, So I Put My Mom And Dad Into A Group Chat So They Can Work Out Putting Him In Therapy. My Dad Refuses, And Has No Problem Calling Him A Loser

I Turned Off My Location Services For My Own Privacy. My Dad, Citing Safety Reasons, Turned Off My Wireless Data Until I Share My Location

My Dad And I Were Having Such A Nice Conversation For Once, Until This

My Dad Doesn't Like When I Try To Cool Down The Hottest Side Of The House (My Side). He Closed All The Vents, Took My Fan, And Decided To Do This. It's Set To 82 Degrees. We're In Arizona

My Dad Not Letting Me Borrow An Umbrella Because It’s In His "Bunker Room"

Another Conversation With My Dad

My 75-Year-Old Dad, Asks Me, A 32-Year-Old Female, For An 8x10

Dad Refuses To Give Me Back My Keys After I Loaned Him My Car

My Father Set A Password... To The Thermostat

I Confronted My Dad About Making My Little Brother Pay Half The Electricity Bill When He Barely Earns Any Money. This Was My Dad's Response

The One Time I Wish My Dad A Happy Thanksgiving

My Dad Always Asks For Expensive Things And Wants Me To Pay For Everything

I’ve Been At College For One Day. He Dropped Me Off Yesterday. It’s Orientation Week

I Have No Words. My Dad Suddenly Decided That He Doesn’t Want To Pay The Full Share Of His Rent And All I Asked For Was An Explanation

Almost The 5-Year Anniversary Of When My Dad Sent These To Me

My Dad Says I’m Dead To Him

This Is My Dad's Idea Of An Acceptable Amount Of Screen Time

My Dad Posted This On Facebook The Day I Moved In With My Mother When I Was 16

My Father Just Randomly Sends Messages Like This For No Reason, And Then I Hear Nothing Again For Months. I Hadn’t Heard From Him For About 5 Months Before This

Dad Will Text Me Stuff Like This To Guilt Me Into Ordering Him Take Out. I’m Sick Of It And Don’t Know What To Do

My Dad Only Contacts Me When He Wants Something. This Is What He Messaged Me Out Of The Blue With While I Was Crying At Work

My Dad Threatening To Burn My House Down

My Stepdad’s "Apology" After Two Decades Of Abuse

Biological Dad Found My Post On A Public Game Group And Commented This. I'm No Contact With Him And 7 Years Sober

Dad Takes $20,000 Out Of My Account Which Had $17,000 And Proceeds To Guilt Trip, Gaslight, And Deny Me My Own Money. I Still Haven’t Received My Money Back, By The Way

I Felt Good About My Response When Dad Tried To Make Fun Of My Mother's Spiritual Beliefs When She Mentioned That She Wanted To Get Me A Healing Crystal To Put In My New Apartment

Dad Is Mad That His Subscription Didn’t Automatically Renew

My Dad Opens My Mail Without My Permission

I Dared To Wish My Father A Happy Birthday. Now He Blames Me For All His Friends And Family Cutting Ties Because He Treats Everyone Like This

My Father Told The Cops I Came Onto His Property When I Was Getting My Cat, Whom He Told Me He Would Take To A Shelter If I Didn’t Collect

Meet My Dad

My Dad Being Himself After I Told Him Happy Thanksgiving

My Dad Randomly Unplugged My Ethernet, And This Is What I Come Back To After I Plug It Back In