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There's a subreddit called '[Stuff] Mom Groups Say' and it's dedicated to the drama that unfolds in online parenting communities.

From those who believe that essential oils cure all diseases to big anti-vax showdowns, the subreddit positions itself as a place to critique the "no judge" culture of these groups.

One of the more popular tropes here is what the internet considers the toxic boy mom. The subreddit's members believe some mothers are just too obsessed with their son's gender. More vivid examples include a fascination with their kid's penis and looking at him as the partner they never had.

Continue scrolling to check out the pictures and let us know in the comments if you also think that these are not okay or if you believe the subreddit is reaching a bit too far.

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When You #boymom Too Hard On Instagram, And The Internet Calls You Out

When You #boymom Too Hard On Instagram, And The Internet Calls You Out

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    A solid relationship with a mother is one of the most beautiful things in the world and a good portent for a happy married life.

    Women are often credited with fostering emotional intelligence in their children, and research shows that couples with greater emotional intelligence are likely to have a higher degree of marital satisfaction and fewer conflicts.

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    Mother Of The Groom’s Outfit - I’m Sure The Bride Was Thrilled!

    Mother Of The Groom’s Outfit - I’m Sure The Bride Was Thrilled!

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    Oh My God Finally Someone Said It

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    ...or a girl in her early or mid twenties is baffling to me. I don't know what boy mom needs to hear this but your son is not responsible for romantically furlilling your needs. Your son is eventually going to move on. And your son is eventually going to start a family without you. Yes, he's a part of the family that you created. But you're not gonna be a part of his immediate family forever. Your husband or partner is responsible for emotionally fulfilling you. And if you don't have a husband or partner, you are responsible for emotionally fulfilling yourself. Because our kids owe us nothing. And as a matter of fact, we chose to bring them into this world. So our responsibility to fulfill them and expect nothing in return. It's your responsibility to be the bigger person. And stop fighting with his girlfriend or wife

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    However, an unhealthy relationship might lead to what we call mommy issues. Even though it isn't an actual clinical term, the concepts behind it can often be explained through a psychological lens, like the attachment theory.

    This theory came from John Bowlby, who figured out that attachment styles formed in early childhood can dictate the nature of a person's relationships in the future. Many times, people who had issues with their mothers develop an insecure attachment style, which can be categorized into three groups:

    • Anxious-preoccupied: If you find that you are particularly clingy or demanding in relationships, it could be a sign of an anxious-preoccupied attachment style. It's basically the ongoing concern that your partner won't be around when you need them the most.
    • Fearful-avoidant: If you find it hard to connect and generally become more distant and detached in romantic relationships, this can be a sign of a fearful-avoidant attachment style. This happens when someone is afraid of getting hurt, so they close themselves off in order to protect against the possibility.
    • Dismissive-avoidant: If you find yourself avoiding romantic relationships altogether, this could be a sign that you have a dismissive-avoidant attachment style. In this case, people typically avoid deeper relationships as a whole because they have proven too difficult to navigate in the past.
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    Research from the University of Reading says that children, especially boys, who have insecure attachments to their mothers in the early years have more behavior problems later in childhood.

    The analysis by Dr. Pasco Fearon, from the School of Psychology and Clinical Language Sciences, looked at 69 studies involving almost 6,000 children aged 12 and younger and sought to clarify the extent to which bonds between children and their moms early in life affect children's later behavioral problems, such as aggression or hostility.

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    "Don't Mind Me, Just Enjoying A Good Old Cup Of Boymom Fuel"

    "Don't Mind Me, Just Enjoying A Good Old Cup Of Boymom Fuel"

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    The Boy Moms Are Not Ok Y’all

    The Boy Moms Are Not Ok Y’all

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    #boymomlife

    #boymomlife

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    1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Hey! Look at you stepping outside appropriate social boundaries and being gross!

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    "The central question we posed was whether attachment insecurity was associated with behavior problems across all the studies conducted to date," Dr. Fearon said. " The results showed quite clearly that the answer to this question is a firm yes."

    "More specifically, our analysis showed that children with insecure attachments to their mothers, particularly boys, had significantly more behavioral problems, even when the behavioral problems were measured years later."

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    The study also recommended the need for treatment studies focusing on attachment and for more research on the significance of attachment between children and their fathers.

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    Why Can't It Just Say 'Mom' Instead Of 'Boy Mom'?

    Why Can't It Just Say 'Mom' Instead Of 'Boy Mom'?

    What's the big difference? Paul and Morgan always hate on trans people for finding their identity in gender, yet they do the exact same thing all the time, and at such random moments none the less.

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    These Boy Moms Are Out Of Control

    These Boy Moms Are Out Of Control

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    Why does this happen? Well, the way that mothers treat their children directly correlates with the way their mothers treated them.

    For example, one study found that mothers who felt that they were accepted and supported by their own mothers as kids went on to have balanced relationships with their own children; they were more sensitive to their child's needs and less intrusive.

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    Boymom

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    Majungasaurus
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    1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    It’s a weird word to describe yourself in relation to your crotch goblins, not a personality trait

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    [gendered] Only Boy Moms Know About Adjustable Waist Bands

    [gendered] Only Boy Moms Know About Adjustable Waist Bands

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    Boymom, You Say?

    Boymom, You Say?

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    Take me to dinner first
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    1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I had absolutely no idea people were so obsessed by being a boymom, I didn't even know this was a thing and now I'm horrified

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    Poor Kid. I Feel So Bad For Him. This Is In A Boy Moms Group

    Poor Kid. I Feel So Bad For Him. This Is In A Boy Moms Group

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    Sassawrasse
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    1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    My child hit me so I hit him back. I have no idea where he gets it.

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    But if it makes you feel any better, we humans aren't the only creatures who have trouble with our attachments.

    In a recent paper published in the journal Current Biology, Michael Weiss, the research director at the Center for Whale Research in Friday Harbor, Washington, and his colleagues looked back across four decades of life history records of Southern Resident killer whales in the Pacific Northwest and noticed a clear trend.

    "Killer whale mothers pay a really huge cost to take care of their sons," says Weiss. That cost is that they have fewer offspring. "And they do this throughout their son's life and never really stop paying that cost to keep their sons alive."

    In fact, when a mom dies, her son usually perishes within the next year or two. "We think that is largely because they're seeing a huge reduction in the amount of food they get," Weiss explains.

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    We Get It Loren, You’re A Boy Mom. Odds Are You’ll End Up On I Love A Mamas Boy As One Of The Mamas. We. Get. It

    We Get It Loren, You’re A Boy Mom. Odds Are You’ll End Up On I Love A Mamas Boy As One Of The Mamas. We. Get. It

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    Comparing Your Children's Penis Size And Wondering How To Make Them Endowed

    Comparing Your Children's Penis Size And Wondering How To Make Them Endowed

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    Somebodys grandmother
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    1 year ago (edited) DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    This what Pink Floyd warned against in their song: " Mother" from the album The Wall... 50 years ago and people are not smarter today 🙈🤯😥

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    She's Panicking About Being A Boy Mom Because She Can't Find Cute Clothes!? Also, The Girls Are Sooooo Easy Because You Neglect Them Smeli. Just Neglect The Boy Too And It Will Be Easy

    She's Panicking About Being A Boy Mom Because She Can't Find Cute Clothes!? Also, The Girls Are Sooooo Easy Because You Neglect Them Smeli. Just Neglect The Boy Too And It Will Be Easy

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    Dreaming Spirit
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    1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Okay, please laugh all you want, but when I was pregnant I had a breakdown in the middle of baby clothes aisle precisely for that reason - all girl clothes were so cute, the boy ones, not so much. I blame that one on the hormones, though :)

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