My Gen X parents said this all the time when I was being tormented by a boy in middle school. I cringe looking back on how many times they told me he probably liked me, or joked that I wasn't allowed to date him. I was a socially inept tween and he was a minor bully who found an easy target. I didn't need dating advice, I needed the jerk to not be sitting directly next to me in multiple classes.

Exactly! Bullying ≠ Love

Yeah, that's bullsh*t. My tiny kindergarten daughter was being bullied at school by a much bigger boy and I heard that a few times (or "boys will be boys"). I complained for a couple of months. She (5 y/o!) had anxiety about going to school so bad, she started having digestive issues. Since I wasn't getting anywhere by complaining, I did the next best thing - I taught her some self defense. The next time he picked on her, she kicked him so hard in the nuts he dropped and started bawling. THAT got their attention. Met with the principal & his parents. Dad was a bully, too. I told this prick that I would be more than happy to file sexual assault charges against Jr. for pulling my daughter's pants down, he would have a record & would have to file as a registered offender (not at all sure if it was true). They moved him to another school.

I was told this about a boy who bugged me all the time in 4th grade. I wouldn’t say he bullied, but he certainly made it hard for me to focus and fit in at a new school. 20 years later I find out that HE’S GAY. And god, does that feel like sweet vindication. (We also buried the hatchet in high school and were friends by graduation, but we were both little brats to each other for years, and I can safely say he started it.)

ok GenX'er here....there is some validity in the above though it's for very young children who often don't know how to express or explain themselves effectively (reminds me of some adults too) if it's older kids tweens and teens then yes they're asshoops

My parents always said this to me. Turns out I was actually just bullied straight through elementary school and never given any tools to defend myself, which was fun

I was a a depressed 5th grader cuz u was getting bullied and that’s all adults said to me

As a boy, I remember being told this about girls as well.

I’m one of the last boomers and I still believe this but only in kids that are 7 or under. 7 is pushing it. Kids are older maturity-wise now days. My husband and I laugh about the things kids do in kindergarten that we didn’t do until we were much older. Like damn I was still drooling at that age.

We were taught this and sadly passed this on to our kids.

Once went out with someone who's boss (nepo hire) was always mean to her, from her description it sounded like he was behaving like a preschooler with a crush. I told her that it sounded like he was attracted to her and was behaving like an in infant, anyway, we split up, around a year later I bumped into a friend of hers and asked how she was. She'd married her boss.

depends on the age. young kids learn by observation, so if its a super young kid, odds are the parents are the actual AHs and the kid is copying the behavior theyve been taught as okay

Yes and no. It just means that he's an Arschloch who likes you but is too insecure to tell you.

Growing up in the 70s I told mom I was being picked on by a boy mom would ask, "maybe he just likes you." My response, "no mom he is just mean, really just mean." So, I was allowed to be mean back but I rarely was. I normally responded with "so, you really like me then. That's why you always pick on me." Normally stopped it.

This also works inversely. Tell that to a few of my HS Bullies.

I guess it's universal. It's the same in ex-USSR countries. The only difference is, there is also an even more obsolete version for the adults, in Russian "Byot znachit liubit" - "If he hits you, that means he loves you".

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Means he's trying to get your attntion.

I would watch this in a second

Yeah, this would be indicative of a problem with that person today

No kidding, and that 500$ you accrued and managed to save up is gone before febuary as u had to use it for GAS to get to ND from work the month of January and because of your job being closed a handful of days for holiday you couldn't afford gas with the shorted pay

I understand what this is saying, but can everyone just agree that living is hard and no one generation ever truly “had it easy”? We could just start working together now to try and fix it

Also every third or so post on BP, "135 new photos of horrible bad ugly tattoos what were they thinking".

I'm 60, ex-marine-engineer and I still sometimes buy Lego. It's therapy.

Ah yes, advice from the wealthy to suckers.

That's not her fault though, because that used to be true.

This was a problem for me many years ago for a short time when I was on unemployment. UE office has you fill out a form for each job application you place. You have to list who you spoke to and stuff like that. In other words - they assumed you are applying in person. But my field of work was in IT and IT type companies were early adaptors with the "apply online" stuff. I would like to think in 2023 they have caught up with the idea of online applications since it is so common now.

Did you just say a half million dollar trailer?!

1000%%%

if i said this to either of my grandmas they’d smack the living s**t out of me

Yes the boomers don’t get it, they had a life where land was cheap, jobs were secure, and the government wasn’t owned by Billionaires. I’m sure they mean well because that’s what worked for them, but basically, STFU.

In cemetary for sure

My father (76) insists that his method of getting a mortgage would work for us kids. He got his mortgage in 1970, for a $10,000 loan which was about 4 times his annual income by borrowing the deposit from his dad. That home is now worth about 20 times MY annual income and no bank in the land would loan on that. But sure, dad.

The amount of times my mother told me to work through my problems with my alcoholic now ex makes me want to vomit.

no they won’t. theyd replace you in 4 seconds, maybe less. but to me y’all are worth everything 🩷🩷

I work 2 jobs (maybe 60-65hrs a week) and my 78 YO grandpa told me I’m doing something wrong if I still can’t afford a new car and house with “two sources of income.” Love him to death but also told him to shut the truck up. This is how I afford to rent an apartment, drive a beater car, afford to house and spoil 2 cats and enjoy my life in small ways like Sunday morning waffles and camping trips and occasional treats like new towels or a nice new winter coat every 3-4 years.

That article that suggested lentils were a great alternative to meat to save money… (edit: I am definitely not knocking lentils, they are delicious. I am knocking the article, which was called, “ Inflation Stings Most If You Earn Less Than $300K. Here's How to Deal.” That is an enormous portion of the population, and their advice is just to switch to lentils and things like that lol)

“That’s how men are.” No, that’s how you allow them to be.

When I was joung, there was a thing. The Bohemian,(or Polish, or Chech, etc) purchase plan. %100 down, and no payments ! And definitely no Door Dash !

A small selection of rich white men redirecting tax money and future taxes into the pockets of their wealthy friends. What could possibly be wrong with that?

Is she encouraging silently putting up with domestic abuse...? If so, that's messed up. Or is she referring to a toxic work environment? Even so, that's still messed up. O_O

The 1970s was when Americans learned about things like serial killers. Stalking a coed just doesn't work as well in a world with Ted Bundy in the public consciousness.

I honestly question (privately) why my mother's parents got married. My grandmother has always complained about my grandfather - he was selfish, he expected her to do everything, he never helped with anything around the house even when she was sick... Looking back on it, she was from a desperately poor and dysfunctional family with a bunch of kids, an alcoholic father and a mother who supported all the children and his drinking habit as a waitress. My grandfather's family wasn't rich or anything, but they had a farm big enough to feed themselves from the garden and raise a few steer for meat, which they handed over to my grandparents when they retired to a smaller house. He worked at the local steel mill most of his life, in what was then a very good union job. It's hard not to wonder if she married him more for stability than love.

Yes, just in time to be drafted to Vietnam.

Grease ruined it for you ;)

I couldn't treat my parents that way.

When my grandparents bought their current car, they had to put my grandmother on the title for the first time ever, because she has a credit history and he's never used a credit card in his life. Don't know what they would've done if she hadn't embraced online shopping and needed the card. My grandfather's sole use for computers is playing Solitaire.

Good God, that sounds like my mum

My aunts was - “ if you want to be rich and successful like me, finish school” . I told my mum when I got home and she laughed her a*s off cos that Aunty married an ‘old money’ guy she met in Fiji 😂

Hmm worst house in Beverly Hills…let’s just see what that comes in at… Oooo quite a lot actually