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Survey Says Memphis Takes The Lead For America’s Rudest Kids And Here’s Why
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Survey Says Memphis Takes The Lead For America’s Rudest Kids And Here’s Why

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Ever feel like you’re constantly dodging eye rolls and loud music from the younger generation? You’re not alone. A survey conducted in 2024 by Solitaired aimed to uncover the cities with the rudest kids in America, and the results offer an interesting glimpse into children’s behavior across the country.

According to the survey, which assigns a “rudeness score” from 0 to 100 to each city, Memphis, TN, claims the honor of having the rudest kids with a score of 99.6. Philadelphia, the 2023 champion, comes in at a close second with a score of 97.2, followed by Baltimore, MD. Interestingly, Detroit seems to be the only city where kids’ manners haven’t noticeably declined, maintaining its 10th-place ranking from the previous year.

Highlights
  • Survey reveals Memphis is the city with the rudest kids in America.
  • Respondents consider constant phone usage to be the most aggravating behavior.
  • Experts attribute this trend to the addictive nature of social media, which makes children particularly vulnerable.
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    A 2024 survey reveals Memphis has the rudest kids in America, and Philadelphia and Baltimore follow close behind

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    Phone zombies, cursing, and blaring beats top the charts as the most obnoxious behaviors reported

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    The survey dives deeper into the specific behaviors Americans consider rude in children. At the top of the list are kids who are glued to their screens, seemingly oblivious to the world around them. This behavior, often referred to as “Phone zombies,” was most commonly reported by residents of Atlanta and Fort Worth, and it is considered by them to be the most obnoxious trait in kids ages 9-17.

    Next up is the frequent use of swear words. Memphis residents reported the most encounters with foul-mouthed youngsters, highlighting the issue of children using inappropriate language in public.

    Finally, there’s the problem of loud music or videos being played in public. Many cities have children who are guilty of this, but according to the survey, no place seems to have it worse than the national average.

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    Other reported behaviors include disorderly conduct and a general lack of manners, such as avoiding eye contact and ignoring people.

    Some Americans believe parents feel the greatest impact of increased rudeness, while others argue it is strangers who suffer the most

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    The survey also asked Americans who they think bears the brunt of kids’ bad behavior. The majority (44.5%) believe it’s parents who face the most disrespect. However, a significant portion (28.4%) say it’s actually strangers who get the worst of it, while another 27.2% believe kids direct their rudeness toward their peers.

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    When asked what is to blame for the increase in annoying behavior, respondents pointed squarely at social media

    Image credits: Solitaired

    The 2023 edition of the survey successfully highlighted which behaviors and cities ranked as the rudest, but it did not delve into the causes behind the phenomenon. This year, the researchers included nine possible reasons and tasked the respondents with ordering them from most to least egregious.

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    As mentioned, kids and teens being glued to their phones was reported more than any other behavior. A whopping 74% of Americans believe social media platforms contribute to children’s rude behavior, placing this reason at the top of the list.

    Following closely behind is the belief that kids simply lack respect for others, with 65.8% of respondents citing this as a primary cause. In third place, Americans point the finger at bad personal role models, like parents, siblings, and friends, noted by a significant 63.5%.

    Rounding out the top five reasons are kids being spoiled, which ranks fourth, and bad influences from celebrities and social media influencers, in fifth place. Interestingly, the survey also found that 42% of Americans believe poor mental health can contribute to misbehavior, while nearly 40% blame gentle parenting styles.

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    Turns out, according to experts, kids and teens are not glued to their phones due to rudeness but because they are addicted and simply unable to put them down

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    Social media addiction can contribute to rude behavior in a surprising way. Platforms that are used daily exploit people’s brains’ reward system, specifically the dopamine pathways, to keep them engaged for as long as possible. This, according to a 2018 study by Trevor Haynes, a research technician at Harvard Medical School’s Department of Neurobiology, disrupts social interactions and contributes to negative behaviors.

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    Haynes explains that social media notifications act like a lever pull on a slot machine. We never know exactly what kind of social reward – a like, a comment, a message – might be waiting for us. This uncertainty triggers the release of dopamine, a neurotransmitter associated with pleasure and reward, keeping us checking our phonesrelentlessly.

    This constant loop to seek social validation online can negatively impact our face-to-face interactions. When we become accustomed to immediate feedback and dopamine hits from the digital world, we might become impatient or dismissive during real-life conversations that don’t provide the same instant gratification. This can manifest as rude behavior, interrupting others, or shortening in-person interactions to get back to our phones and the promise of another dopamine rush.

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    Common Sense Media, a nonprofit organization that rates media suitability for children, has conducted numerous surveys and studies on the matter. In 2016, one of its surveys showed that half of teenagers reported feeling addicted to their phones. In 2021, another one showed an increase of 17% in screen use among them, and in 2023, another published study found that teens checked their devices more than a hundred times per day.

    The issue became part of a lawsuit against tech giant Meta, filed by attorney generals of 33 states in October of last year, who alleged that the company purposely designed its products to exploit the youth’s psychology, citing internal company presentations to highlight “emotion, the intrigue of novelty, and reward.”

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    With rudeness on the rise and social media increasing its presence in daily life, the main course of action might be early prevention

    The surveys reveal a noticeable uptick in rudeness over the years, with respondents often pointing fingers at social media and phone use. Experts highlight how addictive social media can be and the perpetual quest for validation as major culprits.

    Tackling this challenge calls for a multifaceted approach: raising awareness about social media’s sway, possibly tweaking addictive features, and promoting healthier ways to connect. Acting sooner rather than later could pave the way for managing and curbing the not-so-polite behaviors linked to social media addiction in kids and teens.

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    Kathy Dragonfly
    Community Member
    8 months ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    so, you stick your kids in front of the latest iphone as soon as they can sit up straight, allow them unlimited, unfiltered social media and internet 24/7 and then blame all that stuff - that you gave them access to - for your kids sh;tty behavior?

    TheDag
    Community Member
    8 months ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    amazes me the amount of folk who will look everywhere but themselves for accountability

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    Natalie Bohrteller
    Community Member
    8 months ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    From personal experience that includes working with children and their parents: parents not wanting to set boundaries because they want to be friends with their children or they're just overwhelmed. Or those that simply don't care because they didn't want children to begin with.

    lenka
    Community Member
    8 months ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Bahahaha. A "survery" conducted by a website that offers solitary card games. Gee.... I wonder who the respondents of the 'survery' could possibly be? Surely it's good cross section of the community? Seriously Bored Panda this is absolute b******t. One of the reasons cited for kids being 'rude' is 'poor mental health'. What kind of perverted AH blames the child and labels this as rudeness? And 5 year olds 'making a mess? And the whole study is rounded off with the comment - relax with a game of solitaire. I think we may have slipped into some kind of boomer hellscape.

    similarly
    Community Member
    8 months ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    That was my thought as well: not making eye contact, not saying hello, "ignoring" people. As lot of people with ASD do these, and it's not being "rude", or at least not intentially. I'm hypersensitive to light, sound and touch, and for me, as well, sometimes looking at people's eyes is just too intense.

    sweetrottenpeaches
    Community Member
    8 months ago (edited) DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Rather poor parenting and being raised by tablets and phones is what causes bad behavior. I know there are kids with mental problems but mostly the lack of parenting causes the issues. By the way this survey sounds stupid anyways.

    Michael Largey
    Community Member
    8 months ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Under "Kid's Rudest Behavior in 2024", items 5, 6, and 7 are also characteristics of introverts. Introversion should not be counted as rudeness.

    Lyop
    Community Member
    8 months ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I (who works in a school), can say that this is not just and American problem, but a world wide issue. We need to do better as parents. It's so easy to see exactly where the problems stem from and we need to STOP being in denial that our kids are not good people. Some of them are not. Do better everyone!

    Rayne OfSalt
    Community Member
    8 months ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    If the kids are rude it's the parent's fault - no one else's.

    BrunoVI
    Community Member
    8 months ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Since the scores of the top 20 converge with the scores of the bottom 20, I take it that there were only 40 cities? No Washington, DC, for instance?

    Al Fun
    Community Member
    8 months ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Not one word in this article explains why Memphis is the worst in this survey.

    ElfVibratorGlitter
    Community Member
    8 months ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I'm from Baltimore and my SO is from Memphis.... Honestly... Meh. My opinion will just get me down voted, again.

    Nikole
    Community Member
    8 months ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    So… This is bullshít. The criteria makes no sense and the survey is done by an online gaming company. Next.

    Kaminari Mizu
    Community Member
    8 months ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I think it's obvious the kids are modeling their behavior after their parents and the culture. I wonder who are the worst.

    T'Mar of Vulcan
    Community Member
    8 months ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    If kids bring their phones to school, we confiscate them. We were specifically told my our local police department not to allow phones because criminals get to know which schools allow phones and will mug kids for their phones. We had two teachers mugged for their phones while standing outside the school. One teacher had her hand sprained (her finger was in the ring at the back and the guy yanked the phone and hurt her finger). The other froze and the guy couldn't get the phone out of her hand.

    Nizumi
    Community Member
    8 months ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Saw a couple the other day and the mum had her infant - couldn't have been more than 6-8 months old - in her arms, and she's holding her phone in front of the baby's face. The baby's eyes were glued, but GLUED, to the screen. Poor kid doesn't stand a chance - being force addicted before he even learns to walk, and his parents clueless to what they're doing.

    Mason Kronol
    Community Member
    8 months ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I have to say I agree kids in Columbus Ohio are very nice and well behaved. I’m not that old but have had surgeries so have been on a knee scooter, used a cane, been in a boot… kids are always the most helpful and kids in Columbus and Toledo were really nice! Just normal kids. And the parents were great. Apologize ¿d when it wasn’t necessary. [unnecesary apologies for excited toddlers jumping around in excitement at animals]

    Belle Miles
    Community Member
    8 months ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Hands down... Denver Colorado. Bar None. They are the nastiest, most fowl mouth beasts to ever roam in public. The teacher actually told my child NOT to say yes Ma'am to her because she is not OLD. That is undoing every effort I put into teaching her to show respect to her elders. I hope those nasty kids spit at her some more after we left.

    Nimitz
    Community Member
    8 months ago

    This comment has been deleted.

    KDS
    Community Member
    8 months ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Kids are rude because parents just don’t want parent anymore this comment might make parents mad but it just the way I see it.

    Breadcrumb.
    Community Member
    8 months ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I recently heard a podcast on this radical idea that older generations are trying to control and stop younger generations from banning together on social media to make changes for what they believe in. It definitely has me curious.

    talliloo
    Community Member
    8 months ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    while i do think that social media has influenced kids to demonstrate bad behavior i would have to say that the parents themselves have probably given them the biggest influence. so many parents forget that they are a role model and mirror to their kids. you can't adopt an attitude of 'do as i say not as i do' and expect the kids not to follow suit. if they witness parent's using profane language as easily as breathing or actions that are abusive towards others then they are going to think that is acceptable. i know i have said or done things that i don't want my kids doing but i also make sure that i let them know i screwed up and, if necessary, make amends for such deeds. parenting is not for pussies.

    Jon Stuart
    Community Member
    8 months ago

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    Wow the USA at it's best (pretty much sums up new money)

    Kathy Dragonfly
    Community Member
    8 months ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    so, you stick your kids in front of the latest iphone as soon as they can sit up straight, allow them unlimited, unfiltered social media and internet 24/7 and then blame all that stuff - that you gave them access to - for your kids sh;tty behavior?

    TheDag
    Community Member
    8 months ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    amazes me the amount of folk who will look everywhere but themselves for accountability

    Load More Replies...
    Natalie Bohrteller
    Community Member
    8 months ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    From personal experience that includes working with children and their parents: parents not wanting to set boundaries because they want to be friends with their children or they're just overwhelmed. Or those that simply don't care because they didn't want children to begin with.

    lenka
    Community Member
    8 months ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Bahahaha. A "survery" conducted by a website that offers solitary card games. Gee.... I wonder who the respondents of the 'survery' could possibly be? Surely it's good cross section of the community? Seriously Bored Panda this is absolute b******t. One of the reasons cited for kids being 'rude' is 'poor mental health'. What kind of perverted AH blames the child and labels this as rudeness? And 5 year olds 'making a mess? And the whole study is rounded off with the comment - relax with a game of solitaire. I think we may have slipped into some kind of boomer hellscape.

    similarly
    Community Member
    8 months ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    That was my thought as well: not making eye contact, not saying hello, "ignoring" people. As lot of people with ASD do these, and it's not being "rude", or at least not intentially. I'm hypersensitive to light, sound and touch, and for me, as well, sometimes looking at people's eyes is just too intense.

    sweetrottenpeaches
    Community Member
    8 months ago (edited) DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Rather poor parenting and being raised by tablets and phones is what causes bad behavior. I know there are kids with mental problems but mostly the lack of parenting causes the issues. By the way this survey sounds stupid anyways.

    Michael Largey
    Community Member
    8 months ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Under "Kid's Rudest Behavior in 2024", items 5, 6, and 7 are also characteristics of introverts. Introversion should not be counted as rudeness.

    Lyop
    Community Member
    8 months ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I (who works in a school), can say that this is not just and American problem, but a world wide issue. We need to do better as parents. It's so easy to see exactly where the problems stem from and we need to STOP being in denial that our kids are not good people. Some of them are not. Do better everyone!

    Rayne OfSalt
    Community Member
    8 months ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    If the kids are rude it's the parent's fault - no one else's.

    BrunoVI
    Community Member
    8 months ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Since the scores of the top 20 converge with the scores of the bottom 20, I take it that there were only 40 cities? No Washington, DC, for instance?

    Al Fun
    Community Member
    8 months ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Not one word in this article explains why Memphis is the worst in this survey.

    ElfVibratorGlitter
    Community Member
    8 months ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I'm from Baltimore and my SO is from Memphis.... Honestly... Meh. My opinion will just get me down voted, again.

    Nikole
    Community Member
    8 months ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    So… This is bullshít. The criteria makes no sense and the survey is done by an online gaming company. Next.

    Kaminari Mizu
    Community Member
    8 months ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I think it's obvious the kids are modeling their behavior after their parents and the culture. I wonder who are the worst.

    T'Mar of Vulcan
    Community Member
    8 months ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    If kids bring their phones to school, we confiscate them. We were specifically told my our local police department not to allow phones because criminals get to know which schools allow phones and will mug kids for their phones. We had two teachers mugged for their phones while standing outside the school. One teacher had her hand sprained (her finger was in the ring at the back and the guy yanked the phone and hurt her finger). The other froze and the guy couldn't get the phone out of her hand.

    Nizumi
    Community Member
    8 months ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Saw a couple the other day and the mum had her infant - couldn't have been more than 6-8 months old - in her arms, and she's holding her phone in front of the baby's face. The baby's eyes were glued, but GLUED, to the screen. Poor kid doesn't stand a chance - being force addicted before he even learns to walk, and his parents clueless to what they're doing.

    Mason Kronol
    Community Member
    8 months ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I have to say I agree kids in Columbus Ohio are very nice and well behaved. I’m not that old but have had surgeries so have been on a knee scooter, used a cane, been in a boot… kids are always the most helpful and kids in Columbus and Toledo were really nice! Just normal kids. And the parents were great. Apologize ¿d when it wasn’t necessary. [unnecesary apologies for excited toddlers jumping around in excitement at animals]

    Belle Miles
    Community Member
    8 months ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Hands down... Denver Colorado. Bar None. They are the nastiest, most fowl mouth beasts to ever roam in public. The teacher actually told my child NOT to say yes Ma'am to her because she is not OLD. That is undoing every effort I put into teaching her to show respect to her elders. I hope those nasty kids spit at her some more after we left.

    Nimitz
    Community Member
    8 months ago

    This comment has been deleted.

    KDS
    Community Member
    8 months ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Kids are rude because parents just don’t want parent anymore this comment might make parents mad but it just the way I see it.

    Breadcrumb.
    Community Member
    8 months ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I recently heard a podcast on this radical idea that older generations are trying to control and stop younger generations from banning together on social media to make changes for what they believe in. It definitely has me curious.

    talliloo
    Community Member
    8 months ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    while i do think that social media has influenced kids to demonstrate bad behavior i would have to say that the parents themselves have probably given them the biggest influence. so many parents forget that they are a role model and mirror to their kids. you can't adopt an attitude of 'do as i say not as i do' and expect the kids not to follow suit. if they witness parent's using profane language as easily as breathing or actions that are abusive towards others then they are going to think that is acceptable. i know i have said or done things that i don't want my kids doing but i also make sure that i let them know i screwed up and, if necessary, make amends for such deeds. parenting is not for pussies.

    Jon Stuart
    Community Member
    8 months ago

    This comment is hidden. Click here to view.

    Wow the USA at it's best (pretty much sums up new money)

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