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Wife Makes 2x What Husband Does, He Sends Her Money To Random Woman, 22YO Marriage Ends Over It
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When one partner finds out about the other one’s cheating, they can choose to end the relationship or work through things. It’s painful to learn that one’s partner developed a connection with someone else and was willing to put everything at risk for it. The tougher part is if you suspect something fishy, but they deny it.
A Redditor learned that her husband had sent large sums of money from their joint account to an ex-coworker. When she confronted him, he refused to admit to cheating, but she felt there was more to it.
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Nobody could have imagined that a 22-year-long relationship would have ended this way
In this unfortunate situation, the woman’s husband was spending money from their joint account to give to his ex-coworker. He had taken out a loan and even sent her a lot of money in prior months. But when his wife confronted him, he made many excuses that she debunked over time. Finally, he admitted to secretly sending money to the woman he knew.
This seems like a classic case of financial infidelity where one partner intentionally lies to the other about their spending habits. This is more common than you’d imagine. Research by Ramsey Solutions found that one in three married couples admit to having a credit card their spouse doesn’t know about. They also noted that nearly 41% of married couples believe fighting is almost inevitable when discussing money matters.
To gain a better understanding of financial infidelity, Bored Panda contacted Lindsay Bryan-Podvin (LMSW), a financial therapist, behavioral finance expert, and consultant to Bread Financial. She provided a deeper understanding of the term, saying, “financial infidelity may include hiding debt or large purchases, or it could include taking out loans or giving money to others without their partner’s knowledge.”
“According to data from Bread Financial’s-Love is in the Wallet survey, 48% of coupled respondents admitted to financial infidelity, with more than 16% of these respondents hiding a purchase from their partner because they were embarrassed. Another reason for financial secrets is wanting financial autonomy. In fact, 46% of coupled respondents say maintaining financial independence is the biggest reason they don’t share a bank account with their partner,” she added.
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Healthy financial communication is essential for the overall health of the relationship. A Forbes Advisor survey of 1,000 divorcees found that finances were among the top reasons for conflict between them and their spouses. It’s no wonder that the poster immediately thought of ending her 22-year-long marriage over this financial infidelity.
We asked Lindsay what couples could do to have a better financial relationship. She said, “if you think you and your partner may have different mindsets, the first step is understanding where your partner is coming from. Ask curious and compassionate questions to help you learn more about their money values. Questions like, ‘Why is saving more than a recommended emergency fund important to you?’ or ‘Spending on travel and dining out seems to be your go-to when it comes to spending. Why are those categories so significant for you?’ can be helpful in starting the conversation.”
The most essential thing is to approach any conversations about money with a nonjudgemental attitude and to make your partner feel comfortable enough to share the emotions behind their money habits. But, when it comes to more difficult situations like financial infidelity, Lindsay mentioned one important thing. She said, “if you find out your partner has been hiding a financial secret, don’t wait to address it.”
“Clearly share what you know, ask them why they were doing it, what the plan is for the indiscretion to stop, and make an informed and grounded decision about how you want to respond. Engaging in couples’ therapy and creating a new financial management system that blends transparency and autonomy is the best solution for some couples. For others, separation might be the best course of action. Each partnership is different, and there is no hard-and-fast rule about what type of financial infidelity is worth working through or not,” she clarified.
If the poster’s husband were truly just “friends” with his ex-coworker, he would not have found the need to hide any of his actions from his wife. The kicker was that he used her money and their joint savings to pay the other woman. What would you have done if you discovered your partner was doing something like this? Share your most creative tips for dealing with such a bizarre situation.
People could not believe the husband’s brazen behavior and urged the woman to find the best divorce lawyer possible
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Tabitha 6 months ago
Vasectomies can be reversed. Then redone. The amount, nearly a thousand a month, sure as hell smells like child support to me. Granted, we don't have enough true context---that should come out during the divorce---so there may be another explanation, but for right now, if it looks like child support, acts like child support, and smells like child support...
Janelle Collard 6 months ago (edited)
Use MY money to pay YOUR side piece??? You'd better get a bodyguard cuz you'll never see it coming, my man. :)
Fussy1 6 months ago
I'd hold his damn eye lids open with safety pins just to ensure he saw it coming from me. But then again, I'm petty like that.
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Bec 6 months ago
I have a family member, male, who is divorced from his wife but they continued to have a close relationship and co-parent, but he keeps starting new relationships with women and 'rescuing' them, paying for their kids and emergencies while not doing the same for his kids, which led to the divorce in the first place and now alienation from the kids - get smarter, stop making the same mistakes!
Tabitha 6 months ago
Vasectomies can be reversed. Then redone. The amount, nearly a thousand a month, sure as hell smells like child support to me. Granted, we don't have enough true context---that should come out during the divorce---so there may be another explanation, but for right now, if it looks like child support, acts like child support, and smells like child support...
Janelle Collard 6 months ago (edited)
Use MY money to pay YOUR side piece??? You'd better get a bodyguard cuz you'll never see it coming, my man. :)
Fussy1 6 months ago
I'd hold his damn eye lids open with safety pins just to ensure he saw it coming from me. But then again, I'm petty like that.
Load More Replies... Bec 6 months ago
I have a family member, male, who is divorced from his wife but they continued to have a close relationship and co-parent, but he keeps starting new relationships with women and 'rescuing' them, paying for their kids and emergencies while not doing the same for his kids, which led to the divorce in the first place and now alienation from the kids - get smarter, stop making the same mistakes!
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