“16 Things Your Mom Might Not Have Taught You”: Woman Creates Video Series For People Who Had Toxic Moms Or Didn’t Even Have One At All
Our moms, no matter how annoying they may sometimes be, are the reason why we didn’t dye our hair green for prom, why our nasal septum is still intact, why we didn’t run away with a guy we barely knew to Hawaii to ‘start a life from there,’ why we found the strength to finish high school and get into uni, why we charmed our date with homemade casserole, why… you name it.
But some of us, unfortunately, didn't have the best relationships with our moms, and some didn't have a mama to turn to at all. So, 130k followers of the TikToker Eva_feeva found her video series about “things your mom might not have taught you” very helpful and relatable. That's why Eva_feeva just kept making the videos.
And we're talking small life tips, tricks and advice, like shaving our legs or tying our hair. No wonder her videos have amassed millions of views, making her somewhat of a TikTok mom we all need in our often chaotic lives.
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My Dad Taught Me This One
An easy way to remember how many days are in a month is to use the hills and valleys of your knuckles. But remember, July and August both have 31 days so count off on both hands.
The way I was taught was, `30 days has September, April June and November. All the rest have 31, except for February alone, which has 28 days clear, and 29 in each leap year.
I Swear I Get So Much Use Out Of This Damn Label Maker
As we grow older we tend to accumulate a lot of paperwork. Some we need to keep. A filing box can help keep your important papers easy to find.
A filling box can be useful, but for important papers (birth certificates, will, marriage license, insurance papers etc.) I find that a fire proof safe/box is a better option (I also keep a copy of my expired driver's license and health card in case I lose the current ones, makes the process easier to replace them).
Hair Care
Bored Panda reached out to Eva Barda, the content creator on TikTok whose wholesome video series “things your mother might not have taught you” has been watched millions of times, with people finding her simple life tricks and tips very useful.
“I’m a 30-year-old mom of twin boys in Southern California, and I am a stay-at-home mom,” Eva said and continued: “I’m getting married this March and we have a giant dog named Ludo.” She started making TikTok videos “as something fun and silly. It was a light creative outlet and I enjoy making them.”
Distilled Water Is Best Fyi
Vinegar is an inexpensive, versitile, and natural cleaning product. it is antibacterial and antifungal. It's acidity dissolves gunk and hard water build up. It also eliminates fabric odors.
This Is More Cosmetologist Specific, Not Everyone Knows This And That’s Okay
Here's a little test you can do: Wash your face, pat your skin dry, do not use any other products, and wait 1 hour. During this hour go about your business. Asses your skin and now try to find your match in an assessment guide.
Found in every other issue of magazines aimed at women/girls since my sister picked up Seventeen for the first time in 1980s.
This Helps It Looking Neat When Put Away As Well
Everyone has their own method to folding, this is my favourite way to fold towels.
You are going to want to fold in half, hamburger style, then fold in half again.
Next, fold into thirds and flip.
Depends on the size of the shelf, and size of the towel. Fewer folds add less bulk, take less time.
It turns out that the “series started out light, just a quick little 'how to' on things I do every day, my first video was on how to fold a shirt. I thought it could make a cool series, on just everyday things that people may not know.” Eva said she had no idea her videos would make any kind of impact, and she is so touched and connected to the series right now. “I really enjoy helping people,” Eva said.
This Is A Great One To Keep In Your Pocket
Our world can be a little overwhelming lately. This can help you through big emotions. Used in yoga to navy seals, this will help regulate your fight or flight responses to be calm and think clearly.
In through the nose for 4 seconds.
Hold for 4 seconds.
Exhale through the mouth for 4 seconds.
Hold for 4 seconds.
Repeat cycle as needed.
I was taught this by my doctor as a way to deal with panic attacks as I hyperventilate quickly. in bad situations I start at 2 seconds and then go to 3 and then to 4 which is easier if your breathing is very fast.
Psa: Everyone Has Toe Hair, Not Just You
Shaving your legs is best started with a nice warm shower. Make sure to use a washcloth or body glove for a light exfoliation. If you are comfortable, shaving is much easier done in the shower. But if this is new to you, it may be safer to hop out of the shower. Lather your legs well with shaving cream or hair conditioner, I prefer to use hair conditioner. A 4 or 5 blade razor is preferred. If your hair is very long of dense, it is better to start going in the same direction that the hair grows (down). Every couple of strokes rinse off your razor. Then, go against the growth of hair (up) for a super close shave. Use a medium pressure. If your hair is already short and not too thick to begin with, you can start your shave going against the growth. Joints like knees can be tricky. Use light pressure and follow your skin carefully. Rinse off with warm water to get rid of any residue. Finish up by using a gentle lotion.
Always Keep In Your Pocket
Don't be afraid to be yourself. You deserve to take up space in this world just the way you are. We are all learning, growing, and completely unique. You are capable of doing amazing things. We only do our best with what we can. Be proud of yourself.
“The feedback has brought tears to my eyes hearing everyone’s journey,” Eva said when talking of all the responses she received. “Many of my followers have had their mother pass away, been abused, in foster care, etc. I am just so touched to be able to make an impact or help any of these sweet people at all.”
Moreover, “many of them were never taught basic life skills, or have had to figure it out along the way, and I am so happy to be able to help fill in any of those gaps. My heart is so big for all of my followers.”
Keeps Your Mattress Like New! I Bleach Mine Every Time I Wash The Sheets
One of the most overlooked parts of bedding is your mattress protector. It provides a waterproof barrier between your fitted sheet and mattress. Which protects your mattress from things that might slip through the fibers of your fitter sheet like: sweat, spills, allergens, dead skin cells.
Hmmmmm, sweat has to go somewhere. If you have a protector-rubber-thingy then your sweat can't leave your body that easily. Just sprinkle cleaning soda (baking soda) on matress, rub it in a bit, leave for an hour and vacuurm. Also, in the morning open window and air bed and room.
Pumping Your Own Gas
Turn off your car and take the keys out. Open the gas door and screw off the cap. First, put your card in and they will ask for your pin or zip code. You can also go pay inside if you have cash. Next, pick your gas. Majority of cars need just Unleaded. Pop it in snuggly, then flip up the tab to hold your handle in place. Wait for it to fill up. put the gas pump back, screw back on the cap and close the door.
Don’t Forget To Check The Pockets & Pretreat Any Stains
Your detergent bottle will tell you which line to fill to. Mine is the top line. Put in the detergent first. Then load your clothes. Don't pack them too tight, you want the clothes to be able to swish around. For this kind of load, a medium soil, warm water, and normal cycle is just fine.
Fun Fact: I Am A Licensed Cosmetologist. Also Don’t Be Afraid To Extend Care To Your Hands, Chest, And Back Of The Hands
Make a little swmming pool with your hands to gently wet your skin. Try to match your cleanser to your skin type: normal, dry, oily, combination, or sensitive. Make your little swimming pool again to rinse and pat dry. Toner helps wipe any leftover impurities and prep the skin for serum. Serums are highly concentrated with ingredients to give your skin whatever boost it needs. Don't forget your neck. Moisturize for your skin type as well.Lastly is a facial sunscreen. Sun damage takes 10-20 years to appear. Wear your sunscreen.
When asked if there are any plans for the future in terms of TikTok videos and content creation, Eva said that she’s planning on “continuing with the series and maybe making more subcategories, like a series dedicated just to basic cooking skills.”
How To Make Eggs
I find it easiest to prep your eggs in a big bowl. It is best to use a wisk, but mine is broken so today I'm using a fork. Next, it is great to add some milk or cream, which can keep your eggs a little softer. Then add a small slice of butter to a pan on medium-low. I like to use a flexible spatula to fold the eggs around. Let them sit for a minute then fold around again. Add salt, pepper, and some grated colby cheese. Fold around again.
Adding milk or cream is great, but adding a little melted butter into the egg mixture will make it fluffier. Also, I usually add salt and grated cheese before cooking, just to make sure it's more evenly mixed. I also recently found adding a small dash of nutmeg really adds to the flavor.
How To Fold A Shirt
Going To The Airport
Make sure your bags are packed following airport rules. Many airlines have an app to check in ahead of time. Get familiar with your gate number and terminal. When first arriving to the airport, get dropped off at your terminal. You can arrive by a friend, Uber or airport parking shuttle. Now it is time to check your bag. You can check in curbside, or inside the airport. If you don't have the app, here is where you can also check in and print a physical boarding pass. Keep your ID and boarding pass handy to be scanned at security. You might be asked to take off your shoes and to place your carry on on the conveyor belt. All other smaller personal items will go in a basket. Then you go through a metal detector or xray machine. Take a seat to regather yourself and belongings. Phew! Take a deep breath if you need it. You're doing great! Now let's find our gate. Your gate might have a letter and a number. Follow the signs and don't be afraid to ask someone who works there for help. Keep following the signs and be aware of your surroundings. Check your gate screen to make sure you are at the right place and the boarding time hasn't changed. There are seats at the gate to wait or you can walk around. There are restaurants, coffee shops, and general stores. It's time to board! Go back to your gate. Your seat may be zoned into boarding groups. Wait until your coarding group is called. You're on the plane! Find your seat. Place your carry on above your seat. Sit down, take a breath, you did it!
A taxi seems like an expensive method of getting to the airport, but saves on parking costs and makes life easier. Get there early- better to sit reading a book with a coffee than late!
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People encouraged her to post more videos, because they found them very helpful
I find it sad that so many here call others stupid. This is not meant for people growing up in average families. But if your parents spent all day on the couch, passed out because they were drunk or high, while the whole apartment is filled with garbage, if you never had friends because your clothes were torn and filthy because your parents never washed or cleaned anything, if your parents never cooked because they a) didn‘t care or b) didn‘t have the money, then you might not know such every day things. And I‘m not talking about myself, but I‘ve met people growing up in such circumstances. They certainly didn‘t have anyone to teach them how to brush your hair or how to clean a bathroom or how to make scrambled eggs. Some people might just have left an abusive home and might be glad to find this list, and the last thing they need is someone calling them stupid.
Agreed. I don’t think people understand the gravity of what an abusive household looks like or what true neglect can look like. It’s so sad to see all of these kids getting called stupid. It’s not their fault. I like how simple she keeps it.
Load More Replies...I think this is sweet. A lot of those kids from foster care probably weren’t taught the basics. Great way to break it down and keep it simple. Bravo.
What make you think that kids in foster care don't get advice??
Load More Replies...Well done on topics that are often overlooked as being too obvious. In general those who need this info will already feel inadequate and incompetent so it's nice that it's being presented without prejudice or assumption. Thank you.
This!!! I can only imagine the embarrassment that must come with not knowing day to day skills, & being too afraid to ask as an adult. I am blown away by the comments on here. This beats those TikTok dances any day!!!
Load More Replies...I find it sad that so many here call others stupid. This is not meant for people growing up in average families. But if your parents spent all day on the couch, passed out because they were drunk or high, while the whole apartment is filled with garbage, if you never had friends because your clothes were torn and filthy because your parents never washed or cleaned anything, if your parents never cooked because they a) didn‘t care or b) didn‘t have the money, then you might not know such every day things. And I‘m not talking about myself, but I‘ve met people growing up in such circumstances. They certainly didn‘t have anyone to teach them how to brush your hair or how to clean a bathroom or how to make scrambled eggs. Some people might just have left an abusive home and might be glad to find this list, and the last thing they need is someone calling them stupid.
Agreed. I don’t think people understand the gravity of what an abusive household looks like or what true neglect can look like. It’s so sad to see all of these kids getting called stupid. It’s not their fault. I like how simple she keeps it.
Load More Replies...I think this is sweet. A lot of those kids from foster care probably weren’t taught the basics. Great way to break it down and keep it simple. Bravo.
What make you think that kids in foster care don't get advice??
Load More Replies...Well done on topics that are often overlooked as being too obvious. In general those who need this info will already feel inadequate and incompetent so it's nice that it's being presented without prejudice or assumption. Thank you.
This!!! I can only imagine the embarrassment that must come with not knowing day to day skills, & being too afraid to ask as an adult. I am blown away by the comments on here. This beats those TikTok dances any day!!!
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