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Women's fight for equal rights has achieved great success, but it's still far from over. Globally, women still have only 3/4 of the rights that men have. And while some countries are focusing on implementing new reforms, others seem to be set on reducing women's bodily autonomy. One thing is clear: being born a woman puts you at a disadvantage.

While some women experience it less than others, it's still a devastating reality. And clueless or ignorant men don't help. One Reddit user wanted to learn what women wish men would stop doing, and people were eager to share advice on how men can be better.

Almost 5k replies later, Bored Panda selected the best answers on men's behavior that bothers women the most. From enormous egos to bad communication, scroll down to upvote the answers that resonate with you the most, and feel free to share any advice that we missed!

#1

Making choices about women’s rights and women’s bodies when they have no f*****g clue what we as women go through and experience.

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Celesta
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

EXACTLY! Most men making these laws don't even understand how taxing and DANGEROUS a "normal" pregnancy is, let alone all the innumerable restrictions and potential complications that come with it. But sure, women are just lazy, selfish strumpets.

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#2

Women Are Sharing Specific Behaviors That They're Tired Of Seeing Men Do (50 Answers) If a woman tells you she's a lesbian when you're flirting, it means one of two things:

- 1: She is a lesbian.

- 2: She is pretending to be a lesbian so you'll stop flirting with her.

Either way, you should stop flirting.

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Hobistapioka
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

And 3. NO she's NOT interested in your dinky winky. Or the phrase "you haven't found the right man yet, you haven't got a good D yet etc". They don't want your dinky at all.

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#3

Women Are Sharing Specific Behaviors That They're Tired Of Seeing Men Do (50 Answers) Please stop sending d**k pics to random women online. It's just straight up creepy and gross. If a woman wants to see your d**k, she'll ask for a picture.

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#4

Women Are Sharing Specific Behaviors That They're Tired Of Seeing Men Do (50 Answers) Confuse politeness or kindness with flirting

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shan
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1 year ago (edited) DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

If we don’t smile, we get told we should smile. If we smile and are polite, we’re flirting. How do we win?

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#5

Women Are Sharing Specific Behaviors That They're Tired Of Seeing Men Do (50 Answers) When you need to get past me, please don't put your hands on my waist/hips/lower back to move me aside. I don't know you. Stop touching me.

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Pauly Donahue
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

WTF. Return the favor by by placing your knee on their groin to move them back where they belong.

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#6

Women Are Sharing Specific Behaviors That They're Tired Of Seeing Men Do (50 Answers) Please stop treating us like appliances. We aren’t your cheap labor, your free therapist, your perfect breeding animal, your expert chef and your twenty four seven child care. We are not replaceable or inferior or substitute for a punching bag.

We are people. And you can stop excusing your behavior as traditional or biological or anatomical. You do know better.

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Justme
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Please stop expecting me to do all the cooking and cleaning. I am not a housewife, I work the same hours as you do and we don’t have a maid. Also, please stop blaming me for spending “all our money” - I didn’t spend it all and I bought necessities for our family.

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#7

Assuming that when we are on a mood we have our period

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#8

Women Are Sharing Specific Behaviors That They're Tired Of Seeing Men Do (50 Answers) being mean to girls they find unattractive

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Nay Wilson
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Men who refer to themselves as ‘nice guys’ are rarely nice guys. They’re most often misogynistic pigs

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LillieMean
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

It's also entertaining how quickly a woman changes from attractive to unattractive when a man realizes that she doesn't want to sleep with him.

Binky Melnik
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

This one makes me laugh because I’ve noticed that the majority of men who does this isn’t winning any beauty pageants themselves. It always shocks me how confident, cocky, and WRONG a lotta men are about how appealing they are. 😁 It must be the universe amusing itself, because approximately the same percentage of women is terrified they’re too fat, skinny, old, ugly, or out of shape. If only we could transfer half the misplaced confidence from those men to those women, life’d seem a leeetle bit more right. (And we’d have a lot more happy, confident women running around!)

Chez2202
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

This is probably one of the most insightful, inspiring and totally wise comments I’ve ever read. You described how I often feel about myself (apart from the feeling too skinny) perfectly and I’m not doing it anymore. Thanks xxx

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Isaac Harvey
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

How men- or people in general, for that matter- treat people they don't like says infinitely more about them than how they treat people they like.

Rae Ramirez
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I still remember on the bus in freshman year of high school circa mid 90’s and this boy told my friend that if he saw both of us in the mall that he wouldn’t talk to her if she was with me because i was ugly. Prompted me to lose over 100 lbs between sophomore and junior years. And even after losing all this weight, they still called me ugly and a former fatty. Thank you, Mark. RIP. He actually died earlier this year. 30 years later, and I still remember what you said.

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StrangeOne
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

This happens to me all the time. If I got injured after falling off my bike, boys ride by telling me to "get the f**k off the sidewalk". I had just got off the bus with my daughter one day. Some random guy runs up to me and gets in my face then says "Whoa, sorry, I thought you were someone else." Then as he walked away he said "But she's not THAT ugly. Damn." I don't care about what that nasty guy thinks of me, but his words still stung because it was so out of the blue. C**p like that just continues. I may not look like a pageant queen, but not a lot of people do. Not sure what's so ugly about me that makes people go out of their way to insult me about my looks.

tabithapaquette98
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Or not liking a woman because of her looks or weight. That is just the shell. What is inside is so much more important!

Binky Melnik
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Of course, but you can’t tell by looking at someone whether their insides are nice. The best we can hope for is that we don’t scare off potential matches so that they’ll stick around long enough to find out what our insides are like. (And this isn’t a man thing; women do it, too.)

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D. Pitbull
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Oh yes... they're horrible to girls/women they arent' attracted to... whilst simultaneously whining (do that same girl/woman) about how they're such "nice guys" and women are the problem since they don't want "nice guys". Essentially they don't see women as people unless they're attracted to them.

Griffy
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Look, I know I'm fat, ugly, and scare rocks (true), but don't be an ahole about it.

Nichole Harris
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

It's aight.... Makes it way easier to dodge a bullet if it comes out like a cannon ball

BryanR
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

This is so STUPID! Every single one of them is female,and they are to be treated as such! Beauty it's on three eggs of the beholder.

Binky Melnik
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

“Beauty it's on three eggs of the beholder.” That’s one of the funniest sentences Ve ever seen! 😆 I gather autocorrect had some fun with you? What was the sentence supposed to say (can you remember)?

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It is, however, still ok for women to be mean to men they find unattractive. That's their right after all.

Tamra
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

No it isn't. No one's said anything remotely like that, nor even insinuated such.

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#9

One reason many women liked wearing masks was that they could mind their own business for once in public without getting scanned for their facial expressions.

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#10

Women Are Sharing Specific Behaviors That They're Tired Of Seeing Men Do (50 Answers) Stop putting more effort into shouting " Not all men" then you do in making sure your friends aren't being creeps.

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Bonesko
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I think I can speak for alot of women when I say we know it's not all men. But saying that can come off as dismissive to the experiences we're saying we have with certain men. It might not be intentional, but it does. So be a good person and hear what we're saying.

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#11

Women Are Sharing Specific Behaviors That They're Tired Of Seeing Men Do (50 Answers) A good rule of thumb is if you wouldn't touch a man that way to get past them, don't touch a woman that way.

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#12

Women Are Sharing Specific Behaviors That They're Tired Of Seeing Men Do (50 Answers) Dismissing our safety concerns and trying to gaslight us out of taking basic precautions.

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#13

Leaving pee on the toilet seat or floor and not wiping it up

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#14

Women Are Sharing Specific Behaviors That They're Tired Of Seeing Men Do (50 Answers) Following women when they’re walking. I’ve been followed by cars, followed by men yelling at me, had dead silent men follow me to work and then stand outside, follow my friends to a bar we’re walking to, etc. It isn’t all men, sure. But most women have been followed. I don’t know why they do it, to feel powerful I guess? To instill fear that they know where I work or what bus I take?

Edit: every dude in my replies arguing about how they sometimes are behind a woman and what are they supposed to do, just know that if you’re not being creepy it isn’t an issue. That’s not what I’m talking about. In this context followed vs walked behind are 2 VERY different things. If you’re simply walking behind a woman who appears freaked out it’s probably because she has been antagonistically followed or verbally or even physically harassed/threatened/harmed. As long as you aren’t being creepy, you’re good.

If you’re worried that you appear like you’re following her, my advice would be to call someone and chat (like a couple people recommended in my replies), this makes it so it’s obvious she isn’t a target of yours or even on your mind, you’re busy going about your life. OR either slow down or speed up and pass her. Don’t match her pace so that she sees you keeping stride in the corner of her eye, that’s so scary. And lastly, have some sympathy. Women don’t act afraid with the intention of insulting you, they act afraid out of protection of themselves.

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SkyBlueandBlack
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

THIS. Like, don't stand outside my store for an hour while I close, follow me a block to the bus stop, get on and sit two seats behind me, then when the bus goes up Cahuenga and it's dark and deserted for a couple miles, suddenly sit right behind me, lean forward, and whisper, "so, you got a boyfriend?"

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#15

Women Are Sharing Specific Behaviors That They're Tired Of Seeing Men Do (50 Answers) Please. God.
Some men don't wash their a**es when they shower. Because it feels "gay"
Stop worrying so much about being a macho manly man. Being secure in your manhood is way hotter.
Go wash your a*s.

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#16

Women Are Sharing Specific Behaviors That They're Tired Of Seeing Men Do (50 Answers) Not calling out other "bros" for misogynistic behavior.

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Weasel Wise
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Outright misogyny is often done amongst other men who are fine with it unfortunately.

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#17

Women Are Sharing Specific Behaviors That They're Tired Of Seeing Men Do (50 Answers) Thinking their wives are live-in maids. It’s not your wife’s responsibility to replace your crusty socks, underwear, or make you a doctor’s appointment unless you’re actually ill or otherwise impaired.

Like, does my partner have to deal with my menstrual cup? N o. Never.

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Alecto76
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1 year ago (edited) DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

My lovely husband has no household skills. Cleaning was obviously a foreign concept when I moved in. But if I'm cleaning, he tries to find something to clean too. He tries. He seems like a typical guys guy. I'm always surprised at how he's willing to learn and improve. Edit: please excuse my bragging, I waited until 46 to marry. It took time to find him.

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#18

Women Are Sharing Specific Behaviors That They're Tired Of Seeing Men Do (50 Answers) I wish men would stop needing to be told to do something around the house. They have eyes, most of them can clearly see that the trash is overflowing or that they left their dishes out. Pick up after yourself. Learn how to feed yourself and dress yourself. Stop waiting on your SO to be your mommy. Being a man is not an excuse for you to not be able to take care of yourself like a grown up.

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Escapist Panda
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Don't just divide the labor, share the mental burden/managerial aspect as well!

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#19

Playing the "what about men" game when someone is talking about a women's specific issue. If you care about a men's issue that's amazing! I love it, I'm here for it. Don't hijack a conversation about women to talk about it. Start a different thread, cause, conversation, etc.

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#20

catcalling. what's the purpose? i don't want to have sex with you just because you screamed "nice tits" at me from your car

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Sky Render
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

"If you like breasts that much, you should grow yourself a pair" seems a good response to that one.

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#21

Sexualising teenage girls

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Sky Render
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Sexualizing ANY person below age of consent is pretty gross, but the fact that it happens so disproportionately to girls is disgusting beyond measure...

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#22

Women Are Sharing Specific Behaviors That They're Tired Of Seeing Men Do (50 Answers) blaming women because they don't want to sleep with you

ever heard of a self fulfilling prophecy? Why would any woman want to be around someone who thinks like that?

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#23

If a women says she doesn’t want children, don’t respond by saying she doesn’t know better. Idk where you guys get off of telling a grown woman that she doesn’t know what she wants, but it needs to stop. If she dosent want children, respect her decision.

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#24

Engaging in toxic masculinity. Fellas, you're beautiful people worthy of support, kindness, and love. It's healthy to have emotions. ALL emotions. To feel scared, sad, insecure, etc. Support one another. This goes for all genders. Life is hard. Let's be excellent to one another.

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#25

Thinking they know our bodies better than us

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Alecto76
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

What do you mean? Women give birth out of their belly button and pee out of their butt. Obviously - (a man who knows no women.)

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#26

Unsolicited advice. Don't tell me to smile, I'm not here for your amusement. Don't tell me I'd look nicer if I let my hair down, it's up for a reason. Don't approach me with some comment about my appearance, I promise I'll make you feel 2 cm tall when I'm done with you. I don't want your comments about me, I'm perfectly happy with myself.

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#27

Women Are Sharing Specific Behaviors That They're Tired Of Seeing Men Do (50 Answers) Weaponized incompetence.

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D. Pitbull
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I think of this more like abusive incompetence. "oh... but... I dunno if you still wanted to use that toilet roll... so.. uhh... I didn't change it. Yeah... I just carry my own toilet paper with me to the bathroom? Is that wrong?" - guess what... I know you're not actually that stupid - and you're just being a selfish petty jackhole...

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#28

Women Are Sharing Specific Behaviors That They're Tired Of Seeing Men Do (50 Answers) harming or threatening harm to women who reject them

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Nikole
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Yeah, a woman was just killed because of this: https://www.independent.co.uk/news/world/europe/neuschwanstein-castle-women-attack-dead-b2358624.html

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#29

Women Are Sharing Specific Behaviors That They're Tired Of Seeing Men Do (50 Answers) Just because a woman is not smiling, it is not your job to change that.

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Rumblebear
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1 year ago (edited) DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

this! being commanded by a stranger to smile for his pleasure ! really? how do you know i am not grieving, orr was assaulted and this is my first trip out since?! why is it a thing? out *in public* is not mens fantasyland guys!!!!!

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#30

Acting like a genuine friend only to try and have sex with you.

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Lace Neil
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Ugh, "nice guys". Then, when you turn them down, they whinge about being " friend zoned."

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#31

1. The disgusting s**t that’s said about women in the boys’ group chat
2. Exchanging pictures (screenshots or non consensual nudes) of women you aim to “conquer” in the group chats
3. The entire culture of “south east Asia trip with the boys where we talk about and treat chicks like walking vaginas and egg each other on to cheat on our missus”
4. Laughing at the one mate who’s a f*****g pig rather than calling them out
5. Stop getting defensive when you’re called out for speaking or behaving in a way that’s hurtful or upsetting — no one is telling you that you can’t be angry or upset, but you do need to actually learn how to express your emotions in a respectful and clear manner, especially your anger

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#32

Stop believing that men are superior than women.

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Michael P (Perthaussieguy)
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

There will always be some things a man can do better than a woman and some things a woman can do better than a man. The rest of 'things' both can do equally as well. So really, it all balances out that men and women are basically equal.

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#33

It’s wild to me how movies and TV shows treat a woman saying 'no' like it means, 'You haven’t put enough effort in. Keep trying.'

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1 year ago (edited) DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Yea luckily it doesn’t happen much anymore in modern films / shows

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#34

Please do not try to flirt with us when we’re sitting in a coffee shop reading a book with headphones on. This has happened to me and other friends multiple times over the years. The headphones are to keep you away.

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#35

Stop assuming my emotions are irrational or illogical. Start valuing communication, empathy, and understanding in our interactions.

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Helena
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

"You just don't understand what I'm saying" No. I understood you. You're wrong. Here is a list of reasons why.

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#36

Continuing to do a thing a person has asked you to stop doing as a joke.

Like there's this thing that dudes often seem to think is cute and funny, where like, in a movie, the funloving man and the stick-in-the-mud lawyer lady are taking a painting class, and it's his solemn duty to teach her to *loosen up and live a little.* So he dabs a bit of paint on her nose, and she goes "OMG STAHP" and he does it again and now they're rolling around covered in paint making out while romantic music plays.

But in real life, he is drunk, has sat on her chair and broken it, and instead of apologizing is now laughing and leaping around her kitchen swinging a chair leg over his head, hooting and hollering while she powerlessly begs him to stop before he breaks any more of her belongings.

I don't think men realize how terrifying it is when you're a woman asking a man to stop something and he doesn't. Even a harmless joke. It makes you realize, holy s**t, I can not shout loud enough for him to hear how serious I am, I can not physically stop him from doing whatever he wants to do to me, he can do whatever he wants and there is nothing I could do short of causing grievous bodily harm to stop him.

Always. Every single time. If someone asks you to stop something, even if they're laughing, stop immediately, even if you just stop long enough to explain why it's important to you to keep doing it. Always stop immediately.

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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Ladies, the best thing I ever did was take martial arts classes. I did Krav Maga a few years. Its the hand to hand combat of the Israeli army and it is brutal. And I've done boxing for a decade and continue. In addition to skills you learn, the confidence that you can take care of yourself is immeasurable. Bleeds into every aspect of your life. Highly recommend.

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#37

Thinking that being a woman is a reason for her mistakes.

I was one of the only three girls in engineering course (60 people). And if I did a mistake at class it was because I was a girl. But if my male course mate made a mistake, it is only because humans are not perfect, and next time he will do better 👍🏼

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#39

Women Are Sharing Specific Behaviors That They're Tired Of Seeing Men Do (50 Answers) No is a complete sentence.

Sorry, I bored at work, so this was a bit short. What I meant is, if you are in a relationship with a guy, no would be a short, perhaps cold answer, but I don't think that's what OP meant.

I meant it as, if a guy bothers you for any reason, like he wants your phone number or any socials you don't want to give him, you don't need to provide a reason, because a simple no should be enough. Unfortunately, a lot of men (yes I know, not all) won't take just a no for an answer an *must* know the reason, because whatever.

So, to answer the original question: I wish some guys would just accept a simple no and would stop asking again and again and again for something that has already been answered with a no.

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#40

Getting mad at rejection

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Justme
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Men are afraid women will laugh at them. Women are afraid men will hurt them.

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#41

Acting like anger isn't an emotion and saying women are more emotional than men.

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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

In my experience men are much more emotional, especially younger men. And that's fine, but don't pretend that your unreasonable drama is logical and the women that's dumbfounded by what you're doing is the one in the wrong. Emotions include anger, frustration, confusion- emotions are just being sad or crying and all the other "girly" ones they're do desperate to avoid the stigma of

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#42

Touching me without consent.

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Celesta
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

YES! I was a cashier at a...red and white store, and happened to get a case of hiccups. A random (of course male) customer came up behind me while I was checking some out (his wife was next in line), grabbed me from behind and screamed. His only response when his wife (justifiable) went ballistic on him was "but she's not hiccupping anymore, see). Yes, bc unknown to HIM, I had been violently SAed less than 6 months earlier, by a man who grabbed me from behind. They ended up calling emts bc I couldn't stop the panic attack.

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#43

Communicating to us through our husbands/ boyfriends/ fathers etc.

I was doing 3D modelling work for a guy in Italy a few years back and when he needed something done he’d tell my husband what he wanted done and tell my husband to tell me.

It was so frustrating and belittling. My husband was working on something else for him that had nothing to do with my project. Yet every damn time he wanted something done he’d tell my husband, not me.

Ever since then I’ve refused to work on the same project my husband is working on.

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Sky Render
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

This attitude is infuriating! Especially when you run into it working at a call center. So you want me to transfer you to a "male colleague" before I've even finished asking for your name because...? Oh, because you're a sexist pig. Got it, lemme get you on over to one right away.

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#44

Thinking you have some kind of power over us.
Like we have to speak to you, we have to reply to you, we have to do what you say…
No, we don’t.

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#45

Don’t put others down to raise me up. Had an ex gf who actually did this, saying how I’m “smarter than most girls” or “really good at this for a chick” or even berating a waitress and saying “you would never dress like that for attention”. You can compliment me without putting others down! I don’t say “you’re nice for a boy” so don’t say I’m something or other for a girl!

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Isaac Harvey
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

If you act like the only way to make someone feel better is by intentionally making others feel worse, you're not going to be a good partner.

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#46

Your friends with vaginas are *just as fully human* as your friends with d***s. They're not pets, or Playstations, or weird robot dolls you have to feed scripts to so they'll f**k you, or drop on the side of the road if they don't.

They don't derive their social status from whichever friend of yours they're dating, and they don't exist on this earth specifically to entertain your friends' girlfriends. Sometimes they don't even *like* your friends' girlfriends. On account of they are people, not some kind of...hivemind that happily drones in the background while you and your male friends do Important Man Social Things For Men Only.

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Violet Bunny
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

In other words... a woman is a person in her own right, not just "arm candy."

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#47

Women Are Sharing Specific Behaviors That They're Tired Of Seeing Men Do (50 Answers) Calling yourself an “alpha” or “sigma” male. You aren’t necessarily hurting anyone by doing it, but no one takes you seriously when you talk like that. Edit so people can stop asking: I could be wrong, but I think people who call themselves sigma consider themselves “lone wolf” types. IMO, I think they’re trying to come across as one step less douchey by not believing they exist to boss people around, but it is clearly ineffective.

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and_a_touch_of_the_’tism
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Also the study that did the whole alpha/beta stuff with wolves was actually retracted, the guy who made it admitted that it was badly done and not accurate.

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#48

acting like the Big Man of the Family, the provider, while being so needy that they can't prepare a piece of toast or pot of coffee or pick out a a pair of clean underwear for themselves.

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Got Myself 4 Pandas
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I'm so very grateful my husband is a fully functioning independent human being that is a real partner and friend - and a great daddy to our kids.

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#49

Coming on our forums and arguing/harassing us

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#50

Being thirsty and assuming every woman on the net is looking for some...

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#51

Stop telling women who are blunt that it’s rude. Men are allowed to be blunt, why aren’t we? Seriously dudes, I’m one of those women who says what I mean and means what I say.

If I say I’m working, it means I’m working. The amount of times I get ‘oh, you’re just being mean’ is ridiculous.

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Alecto76
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Conversely, ladies, quit caring. Be blunt, be rude if the situation calls for it.

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#52

Stop thinking its ok to body shame and belittle women

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Got Myself 4 Pandas
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

And usually totally hypocritical of them - some overweight neckbeard with questionable hygiene telling me I've let myself go after having 4 babies which still being a uk size 10 - oh the shame I must carry knowing I've ruined my body by going up a size or two by bringing life into the world, each stretch mark is just another failure on my part

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#53

Never tell her you'll 'make her straight.' That's threatening

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1 year ago (edited) DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Corrective r*pe is a thing in some places. This is 100% a threat, intended or not.

#54

It would be great if I could walk 2 whole blocks while wearing shorts and a tank without being approached. Stop it. I'm not looking for attention. It's just hot out.

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Lace Neil
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Also, we larger ladies are also feeling the heat. I'm not going to stop dressing for the weather.

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#55

Assuming we want children.

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#56

Thinking that what the guys in p**n do is what we want.

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Got Myself 4 Pandas
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

My do men think we want our legs bent in every direction at the same time? That's not how joints work!

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#57

Wash your hands after you p**s. It’s disgusting how many men don’t do this.

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#58

Cut and file your God damn fingernails before they get close to my lady bits. If you don't, don't stop and complain and look confused when you fingers are f*****g bloody.

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#59

Acting oh so cool when there are other guys around. Especially not speaking up when they are being s****y to a woman, or making sexist jokes, just because you might be a "mood killer". Be a decent human being and tell them to stop; one of your other friends or even the majority might back you up on this and are just waiting for someone else to say something.

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#60

Treating women as if they’re children.

There’s a level of protectiveness that I find attractive in a partner when it pertains to me, but what I absolutely loathe is a partner mansplaining or talking down to me due to their own superiority complex.

I’m a 28 year old female who has worked for everything she has (yes, I really am). I don’t need a partner who backs me into a corner like a kid. Challenge me, certainly. Treat me as if I don’t know any better, absolutely not.

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A girl
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Watching sports. My husband is not overtly difficult but he can be quite annoying during sporting events. Dude, I understand football, hockey, baseball and golf. I'll ask if something comes up that I need additional info on.

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#61

Asking women in meetings to take notes

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A girl
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I always laughed at this because my handwriting is illegible. Here's those notes. Good luck:)

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#62

(Obviously this only applies to specific people), I wish they'd stop speaking on behalf of women when it comes to things like how women feel on issues (what they find attractive, how they think) and their bodies (making comments that sound like a medieval medical diagnosis about women), that they really have no evidence for. Also wish they'd stop trying to revert the world to both 1950s and 1800s Western society so they can have subservient underage brain empty wives. Manosphere and sexist nonsense. I'm tired of it. It's draining.

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#63

My ex-friend used to outright pretend that unattractive-to-him women didn't exist at social gatherings and whatnot. Then, he wondered why despite being 'nice' to the women he did find attractive, they didn't want to talk to him.

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#64

Stop hitting on lesbians. We really don’t like that s**t, to put it mildly.

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Ryan
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I wish guys that do that could have some awareness and look at it from the other perspective. I don't think they would appreciate if they were getting persistently hit on by a guy after they already said they are straight.

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#65

Start off with energy they can’t keep up. I had a guy who did little things for me like if the air in my tires was low he’d go and fill them without my even asking. This is something I can do myself, but it was such a kind and thoughtful thing to do. Similarly, he refilled my wiper fluid after I mentioned it was out (bug splatter everywhere). We’d pick up croissants on Sunday and he said it was “one of our things” and he’d say, “Have you ever done this?” then when I said no he’d say okay we’ll do this on a good weather weekend, etc. Just little stuff that made my life easier and made me feel like he was someone I could count on, etc., but inevitably he stops doing these things and I’m left knowing *something* is missing, but I can’t put my finger on it or if I bring it up, I’m told I’m being demanding or needy and suddenly I’m putting too much pressure on him. Like no, babe, I was just wondering if you still wanted to go up to the lake you’ve been hyping up so we could go jet skiing like *you* suggested.

The first time this happened to me it was such a mindf**k lol.

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Dandelion Patch
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

That's where they're putting in the effort to court you, but once they figure they have you, they don't have to put any effort into it anymore.

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#66

Stop being misogynistic. It would solve a lot of problems.

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#67

Acting like they’re single while having a girlfriend

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#68

me being nice doesn't mean I'm interested in them, it's a concept called politeness

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#69

Whataboutism.

Even here.

It’s not always about you.

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#70

Commenting on the fact that I'm a woman while I'm working. I don't really care if you haven't met a "woman cabinet refinisher" before, just let me do my job and stay out of my way

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#71

Spitting on the floor in public. Why do they do it?

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Midnightoil
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Dang gross- and spitting 'chew tobacco '. Who would EVER consider kissing a guy like that??? Yuck

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#72

Assuming women are on their period every time we get upset about something

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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

THIS! I had a panic attack the other day and one of my female friends whispered (very loudly) to my friend that I was probably being emotional because I was on my period.

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#73


The act of insisting and not taking rejection well. It's so creepy and pushes the person away more

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#74

Reacting weirdly if i say something nice

either they dismiss the compliment

or they get angry

or they think im flirting

its rare for them to say 'thanks ive been working really hard on this'

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A_Dilophosaurus
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I think a lot of us just don't know how to react to compliments, like if someone told me I look good today I wouldn't be able to tell if they're flirting, joking, being sarcastic or what

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#75

Confusing “expressing your emotions” with angry violent outbursts.

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and_a_touch_of_the_’tism
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

But god forbid you call that stoic manly man “emotional” because he punched a hole in the wall when the other sportsball team scored…

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#76

believing women are a monolith and just because this one woman liked something, all women will. Goes for sex, friendships, work relationships, anything

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#77

Stop leaving hair everywhere after shaving. My sink is a disaster zone after he trims the beard.

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Anouk T
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Hahahah true but come on! Women leave hair everywhere too 🙈

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#78

Trying to initiate chit chat while a woman is at the gym, clearly wearing earbuds, and not wanting to talk with anyone.

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Vera Diblikova
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I really hate people walking dogs with earbuds (not dogs, but people). Oft I will ask if the dog will play or bite, if it is he or she dog etc., some dogs (and owners) are problematic and i will to know it before s..t happens.

#79

Following women when they’re walking. This is the most annoying and fear-inducing action that I have ever experienced. I have been out walking through my neighborhood, walking around the block on my lunch break, etc., and on multiple occasions, men have passed me in their cars and turned the vehicle around to ask me out on the side of the road. One guy even got out of his car, and I had to sprint away because I was so terrified. One guy walked up to me while I was reading on the stairs outside my office building and said he’d been watching me for a while and wanted to go get coffee with me.

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#80

So, I think it’s a thing only from Philly because I haven’t seen it anywhere else, but just randomly spitting on the sidewalk. It’s so nasty. One time some old man hacked a loogie on my lawn in front of my house. It was so gross.

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and_a_touch_of_the_’tism
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

My little brother does something similar that we call “snot rocketing” where he blows a giant blob of snot out of his nose onto the ground and it’s so gross

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#81

‘Alpha man’ mentality especially when the guidance tries to make the women the clear subordinate/borderline slave in some cases with SERIOUS power imbalance instead of a loving equal companionship. Basically treating women like something you can own and not seeing us as people with our own wants and needs.

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#82

Monologuing when you're supposed to be having a conversation. I've talked to so many dudes who will just talk about themselves for two hours straight and not even let me get a word in edgewise. Believe it or not, women have thoughts and opinions too. We're not here to just listen and nod and agree with everything you say. Ask us for our thoughts. Be curious about our minds. Just ask us a f*****g question. It's not that hard. We're people too. Listen and you might actually learn something.

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#83

Stop assuming I'm mad at you. If I'm quiet it's not me being mad at you. Sometimes I just need to be quiet!

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#84

Calling anything that isn’t straight up deep fried meat and cheese “vegan food” or mocking anyone for eating their veggies. Come on, man.

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#85

Harassing wemon online games or VR, I get harassed way to much and it's getting to a point were I just don't go online any more be nice and I will like you more?? Stop feeling wemon up in VR stop stalking wemon I have had all this happen to me I'm sick of it I hope someone agrees

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#86

Telling us " girls can't do anything" when we don't know how to do one thing

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#87

Bottling in emotions

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VonBlade
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

That's ingrained in us from an early age and is phenomenally difficult to overcome.

#88

Insulting our makeup preferences.

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Michael Largey
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Never tell a woman that you don't like the smell of her perfume. She may not be wearing any.

#89

Try to touch me with dirty hands. Go clean your talons first.

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Vera Diblikova
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

How can dirty hands touch me? Absolutely not!!! Why will anybody touch me without my consent? Not a handshake, I am a woman and I offer hand, if I will.

#90

stop telling me you like me when you don’t :)

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