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We got in touch with u/Diligent-Log6805 and the Redditor agreed to have a chat with us about his post.

"Just before I asked that question, [I was talking to someone] about a relative who's had a series of failed relationships and we were wondering whether she or her boyfriends were the problem. So I went to Reddit to ask," he told Bored Panda.

And the discussion took off. It now has 18.8K upvotes and 13.5K comments.

"The Ick": 30 Things Women Do That Make Them Less Attractive To Guys Refer to themselves as a boss b***h, queen, princess, or baddie.

frostymasta , Charles Nunes Report

Final score:

150points

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Johnny Helfridge 1 year ago

It's the female equivalent of a dude calling themselves an "Alpha Male". Instant red flag.

116points

"The Ick": 30 Things Women Do That Make Them Less Attractive To Guys Hilariously fake eyelashes

AnonyKlau5 , Iulia_M Report

Final score:

135points

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Zephyr 1 year ago

You mean cumbrella

65points

When asked about any topics that stood out to him in the thread, u/Diligent-Log6805 said, "There seemed to be a pattern where guys feel like women give nonverbal cues and expect men to correctly interpret those cues instead of clearly saying what's on their minds."

"This leads to a lot of miscommunication."

"The Ick": 30 Things Women Do That Make Them Less Attractive To Guys The f*****g testing.

I appreciate that you have been in previous relationships where someone lied and/or cheated on you but don't spend your entire single life trying to catch me in some lie so you can have your self fulfilling prophecy that all men are liars.

Plzdontshadowbanmeh , Vera Arsic Report

Final score:

130points

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Mike Hunt 1 year ago

And expecting, expecting nice things to be said or done...cant get mad when you don't get or hear nice things...and if you don't like it then leave, that person isn't nice!

10points

"The Ick": 30 Things Women Do That Make Them Less Attractive To Guys Duckface. It’s 2023. Duckface was cringe 15 years ago but some women are STILL doing it.

broberds , Carl Roi Report

Final score:

128points

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Eva Kašu 1 year ago (edited)

I´m a straight woman and i find duckface and every other stupid ´cute´ grimace women (and men too!) do on photos/social media as massive cringe.

64points

SlightlyCheezed , Евгения Карпова Report

"Personally, I think communication is key to harmonious relationships between men and women, especially when there's a disagreement," u/Diligent-Log6805 added. "Basically, try to at least talk and let each other know how you feel about something."

"Lastly a little empathy and patience goes a long way in fostering harmonious interactions between men and women."

"The Ick": 30 Things Women Do That Make Them Less Attractive To Guys When they think a toxic trait of theirs is cute/quirky. There's a big difference between being blunt in a respectful way and being a b***h.

Final score:

126points

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Monday 1 year ago

"Yeah I steal change from homeless people! I'm quirky like that!" *insert childish giggle sound*

58points

"The Ick": 30 Things Women Do That Make Them Less Attractive To Guys Baby voice

RedCutty , Katerina Holmes Report

Final score:

125points

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Ingo Sauer 1 year ago

and baby-speak from #4

19points

HoneyInBlackCoffee , Kristina Paukshtite Report

"The Ick": 30 Things Women Do That Make Them Less Attractive To Guys In Scotland. Obvious fake tan and over done makeup. You're in f*****g Glasgow not madrid

Final score:

122points

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Natalie Bohrteller 1 year ago

I read that in a Scottish accent and it's freaking hilarious.

98points

"The Ick": 30 Things Women Do That Make Them Less Attractive To Guys This girl said 'sowwie' to me trying to be cute, and I instantly lost interest in her.

hopsinduo , Anna Pou Report

Final score:

118points

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Yepper OPinTex 1 year ago

Oh I thought it was calling a pig - that's funny. Speaking like a toddler not funny

16points

Gubzs , https://www.pexels.com/photo/expressive-young-black-lady-arguing-during-video-conversation-on-smartphone-5699832/ Report

#10

"The Ick": 30 Things Women Do That Make Them Less Attractive To Guys Loudly empathizing with every cause and group on the planet but treating people in their personal lives like trash.

Final score:

115points

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lenka 1 year ago

This is not a girl ick, this is a human ick. Same goes for "cherry picking" social issues i.e. caring about housing affordability for the middle class but not giving a s**t about homelessness.

65points

#11

"The Ick": 30 Things Women Do That Make Them Less Attractive To Guys Littering, Wasting food, Being very materialistic

Jarcookies , Brian Yurasits Report

Final score:

110points

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BewilderedBanana 1 year ago

i think this applies to everyone, not just women no?

82points

To get around these barriers and allow men and women foster harmonious relationships, u/Diligent-Log6805, who is a husband and a father himself, believes that communication is key. Especially when there's a disagreement.

"Basically, try to at least talk and let each other know how you feel about something. [Also,] a little empathy and patience go a long way," he added.

#12

"The Ick": 30 Things Women Do That Make Them Less Attractive To Guys If they act entitled, no one wants to be drained like that

NaiveAd8426 , Antony Greco Report

Final score:

100points

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Feathered Dinosaur 1 year ago

These entitled people most often turn out to be narcissists. And you better keep them as far away from you as possible

28points

#13

"The Ick": 30 Things Women Do That Make Them Less Attractive To Guys silent treatment, I've hated it for the longest time, when you do something wrong and you try to apologize and they say nothing is even worse, just hurtful.

StxrrVA , Alex Green Report

Final score:

97points

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Michael P (Perthaussieguy) 1 year ago

Guy, "So, what did I say/do wrong to upset you?" Either *silence* or "If you don't know, I'm not going to tell you"

41points

That's true. While all relationships are different and each one has its own unique ups and downs, being able to talk to your partner means that you'll be able to share your worries, show support for one another, and work together to handle conflict more effectively.

According to Dr. John Gottman, a clinical psychologist and founder of the Gottman Institute, a couple's communication pattern can even predict how successful a relationship will be.

This can also translate to our overall well-being. For example, one study found that when people feel that their partner values them, they are more likely to sleep better.

#14

"The Ick": 30 Things Women Do That Make Them Less Attractive To Guys Be super clingy, not have a life outside of the relationship, and baby talk when trying to be cute.

Hemogoblin_7 , Brooke Cagle Report

Final score:

87points

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Kathryn Baylis 1 year ago (edited)

Yikes, do they want to date you or be adopted by you? BTW, how old are we talking here, guys? Be sure you find that out, and confirm it, first, OK?

5points

#15

"The Ick": 30 Things Women Do That Make Them Less Attractive To Guys Saying dumb s**t like “ as a MAN why are you taking care of yourself?” Or “ as a MAN your house shouldn’t be so clean”. Like sorry for not being a tramp.

Sea_Villain , Pavel Danilyuk Report

Final score:

86points

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Erla Zwingle 1 year ago

Seriously sexist, actually. Why should every man conform to your screwed-up notions of masculinity? How about trying a compliment, sometimes: "Wow, the place looks great!" "Hey, you're looking good today." You know, simple stuff just exactly like the stuff you like.

37points

#16

"The Ick": 30 Things Women Do That Make Them Less Attractive To Guys One time an ex screamed at her 2 year old nephew. Instantly unattractive

feralgrandma , Yan Krukau Report

Final score:

85points

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V33 Namkrow 1 year ago

Sure both men and women do vile things,but this is about what guys dislike in women,not everyone

24points

#17

"The Ick": 30 Things Women Do That Make Them Less Attractive To Guys Over-the-top solipsism. That whole "I don't perceive it that way, therefore you perceiving it that way cannot be valid" mindset.

UnoriginalUse , Monstera Report

Final score:

75points

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BewilderedBanana 1 year ago

This is usually due to a lack of empathy and failure to appreciate someone else's viewpoint, nothing to do with women specifically

8points

Environmental_Arm637 Report

#18

"The Ick": 30 Things Women Do That Make Them Less Attractive To Guys Call themselves fat in front of ppl who are fatter

Final score:

75points

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SadieCat17 1 year ago

I think most of the time this is just caused by body dysmorphia, which needs psychiatric attention, but it could also just be someone being an a*****e. Both need addressing but for different reasons.

48points

#19

"The Ick": 30 Things Women Do That Make Them Less Attractive To Guys I saw a cute girl on a treadmill at the gym sneeze 4 times and not attempt to cover her mouth once. Absolutely disgusted me

JBean85 , Edward Jenner Report

Final score:

74points

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Michael P (Perthaussieguy) 1 year ago

That's something that should be taught by parents at a very young age

38points

LabAfraid8005 , RDNE Stock project Report

#20

"The Ick": 30 Things Women Do That Make Them Less Attractive To Guys Lie/do something hurtful, then play victim so you end up comforting them for what they did even tho you wanna cry Lol

Final score:

70points

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Zephyr 1 year ago

The key is making them understand that they hurt you, no matter how much you don't want to, let them know they f****d up and stick to your right to feel hurt/betrayed/angry/annoyed, HAVE SOME SELF RESPECT!!

16points

EvolvingEachDay , Cameron Sanborn Report

#21

"The Ick": 30 Things Women Do That Make Them Less Attractive To Guys Confusing confidence with being inconsiderate.

Final score:

69points

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Zephyr 1 year ago

Being oblivious

14points

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#31

"The Ick": 30 Things Women Do That Make Them Less Attractive To Guys Whenever i get called a “Sassy man” Whenever i talk about my feelings and actually wanting a woman who puts in emotional work like i do? Like sorry if my only options aren’t “fun boyfriend”, “Horndog”, and working 12 hours

Sin_Nombre18 , Anna Shvets Report

Final score:

19points

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cerinamroth 1 year ago

This picture is very confusing to me. Has she just emerged from the sea? If so, why the watch? Is her neck cold? Then why the low-cut style? Is her head cold but her shoulders are warm? I just need to know!

35points

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Monday 1 year ago

Hey equality! We had a post about dumb men and a post about red flags in women on the same day!

38points

kidr1409 1 year ago

Funny how the people hating on the post are the same who enjoy posts that list all things wrong with men.... Yes women can be awful too, they are not all Queens and heroins. (From a woman)

33points

Jerusalem Cat Syndrome 1 year ago

Or heroines. Heroin is a drug and it's no lady.

4points

Tobias Reaper 1 year ago

articles about men's issues or mens issues in general and a woman trying completely invalidate them because women have it worse nobody says they don't but issues that one person has doesnt cancel out others issues

20points

Bex 11 months ago (edited)

Your argument is that men don't invalidate women online? Not saying it's right either way but...really?

3points

René Sauer 1 year ago

Nobody mentioned the "dropping hints instead of just saying what you want and then getting mad when her partner doesn´t get it?"

17points

ConstantlyJon 1 year ago

I really don't like women who aren't my wife. If you're not my wife, total turn off.

12points

K- THULU 1 year ago

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11points

Angi 1 year ago

How about cute animal pics? I want to see all the animals

14points

Fabian Bernard 1 year ago

Also : a date telling me that my ex ''won'' because we tried our best to get separated in a decent way, without hurting each other and protecting the children as more as possible, taking the best decisions possible in their interest,when we realised that we were not in love, and that it was better to take our own roads before creating stupid conflicts, and trying to build a healthy father/mother of two relation. Sorry, but I feel no one ''wins'' a séparation, especially when children are involved in the middle of that

7points

Gardener of Weeden 1 year ago (edited)

EDIT ADD women who don't fully read titles... LOL ( did not notice it was a men's poll. makes more sense) Only part I really agree with is the baby talk. the rest seem to be a problem with both genders. As a woman, I do have to say that when a woman acts "helpless" it irritates the fluck out of me. Being ignorant is not cute, admit you don't know how to do xyz and learn like an adult.

3points

John L 1 year ago

Funny how there wasn't such a controversy, when the male version of this article, came out...yesterday/day before. :D

0points

John L 1 year ago

Black fingernail polish....

2points

Addi 1 year ago

Why? It’s not for you. It’s something for someone to enjoy on themselves.

1point

Lydsylou (she/her) 10 months ago

I feel like a lot of these generally applied to everyone but a few I definitely I agreed with that were directed at women. Like the whole baby talk thing is actually just weird.

1point

Rapunzel With The Loced Hair 1 year ago

I have a female friend who has quite the number of red flags in my opinion and I always say if I were a guy, I would run as fast as I can from her. Even in friendships she does the following: is never wrong, never apologizes, demands to be treated like a princess (waited on hand and foot), demands for everyone to buy/give her stuff, gets angry if you dare point it out when she is wrong, gets angry with you for being upset with her for something she has done wrong, blames everyone, is not empathetic, is self centered: if it's not about her then STFU etc. The list is honestly not exhaustive, but she is. Most days I think of just ending our friendship, it usually doesn't feel like it's worth it to hold on to her as a friend.

1point

CJMcNut 2 months ago

I'm a woman, and I have to say that I agree with most of these things.

0points

Rachelle 4 months ago

archaic thinking here as humans all can do this no matter female or male Men need to HONOR women to get RESPECT from them Both need to work on thier OWN character verses taking photos of themselves and thinking so highly of "themselves!"

0points

Ragnarok 1 year ago

Lenka, you have two eyes, two ears, and one mouth for a reason. Learn to read the title of a post 😂

-1point

Saint_Zipcodus 1 year ago

Most of these are valid regardless the person's gender...

-1point

Tracy Wallick 1 year ago

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RandomEpiBioPerson 1 year ago

Nothing says they are exclusive to women.

9points

Kelly Kirkpatrick 1 year ago

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Carrie Laughs 1 year ago

As it says in the opening paragraphs, it was men who were asked and these are their answers. That's the whole thrust of the article. If women had been asked it would be their perspective. Doesn't mean that it can't be issues that both would be irritated by. Just that in this instance, it's men. Let's be honest, when men make these comments on women-focused pieces they get roundly told off for it.

15points

lenka 1 year ago

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Laure 1 year ago

Fully agree, but not a popular opinion apparently.

-3points

Laure 1 year ago

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Ren Karlej 1 year ago

Yes, but men do often say on BP that they don't get their say so why not let them? There are different issues that affect men/women/trans and so forth and it's okay for each of those who wish to be whoever they are to say what they have issues with. Let all have their voice.

16points

James S 1 year ago

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Carrie de Luka 1 year ago

To be fair it's an article where only men were asked what gives them the ick. That doesn't mean there aren't things that are issues by both and for both, just this piece explores the male perspective. That isn't ipso facto sexist especially as we often, in fact more commonly, get the women's perspective on BP (which I'm not criticising, just pointing out). As a woman I don't have an issue with the article, especially as it says going in what it is about and so we can choose to read it or not.

21points

COCO puff 1 year ago

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Monday 1 year ago

Hey equality! We had a post about dumb men and a post about red flags in women on the same day!

38points

kidr1409 1 year ago

Funny how the people hating on the post are the same who enjoy posts that list all things wrong with men.... Yes women can be awful too, they are not all Queens and heroins. (From a woman)

33points

Jerusalem Cat Syndrome 1 year ago

Or heroines. Heroin is a drug and it's no lady.

4points

Tobias Reaper 1 year ago

20points

Bex 11 months ago (edited)

Your argument is that men don't invalidate women online? Not saying it's right either way but...really?

3points

René Sauer 1 year ago

Nobody mentioned the "dropping hints instead of just saying what you want and then getting mad when her partner doesn´t get it?"

17points

ConstantlyJon 1 year ago

I really don't like women who aren't my wife. If you're not my wife, total turn off.

12points

K- THULU 1 year ago

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11points

Angi 1 year ago

How about cute animal pics? I want to see all the animals

14points

Fabian Bernard 1 year ago

7points

Gardener of Weeden 1 year ago (edited)

3points

John L 1 year ago

Funny how there wasn't such a controversy, when the male version of this article, came out...yesterday/day before. :D

0points

John L 1 year ago

Black fingernail polish....

2points

Addi 1 year ago

Why? It’s not for you. It’s something for someone to enjoy on themselves.

1point

Lydsylou (she/her) 10 months ago

I feel like a lot of these generally applied to everyone but a few I definitely I agreed with that were directed at women. Like the whole baby talk thing is actually just weird.

1point

Rapunzel With The Loced Hair 1 year ago

1point

CJMcNut 2 months ago

I'm a woman, and I have to say that I agree with most of these things.

0points

Rachelle 4 months ago

0points

Ragnarok 1 year ago

Lenka, you have two eyes, two ears, and one mouth for a reason. Learn to read the title of a post 😂

-1point

Saint_Zipcodus 1 year ago

Most of these are valid regardless the person's gender...

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Tracy Wallick 1 year ago

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RandomEpiBioPerson 1 year ago

Nothing says they are exclusive to women.

9points

Kelly Kirkpatrick 1 year ago

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Carrie Laughs 1 year ago

15points

lenka 1 year ago

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Laure 1 year ago

Fully agree, but not a popular opinion apparently.

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Laure 1 year ago

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Ren Karlej 1 year ago

16points

James S 1 year ago

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Carrie de Luka 1 year ago

21points