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Attraction can often be based on the most subtle of things. The way someone behaves. Their tone. Their attitude. How they carry themselves. The way they interact with other people and the world around them.
In some cases, one mistake is enough to snuff out any affection that might’ve been flowering there. Reddit user u/NumerousBeach1420 turned to the r/AskMen community to hear everyone’s thoughts about all the things that women do that make them lose interest. Scroll down to read their opinions. Meanwhile, feel free to share your thoughts on them in the comments, Pandas.
We got in touch with the author of the viral thread, and they shared their perspective on relationship red and green flags to look out for. Scroll down for Bored Panda's full interview with u/NumerousBeach1420.

#1

“If They Like Crystals”: 50 Things That Make Men Lose Interest In A Woman Incessant social media posting about our "amazing" dates.

Me: "I thought we could have a nice evening just the two of us."

Her: "Absolutely, but first, let me post this on my story!"

Me: "Okay, but maybe we can put the phone away after?"

Her: "I need to update my followers on the night. They're like, waiting for it."

It's like I'm an accessory to her online persona rather than a partner. I want to be in a relationship, not a reality show.

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Michael Largey
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1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

He: "I think I'll just go home. I'll follow you from there."

L. Murphy
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1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Anyone who cannot put down their phone is a turn off.

J
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1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Don't have your phones on the table during a date, leave it in your pocket or bag on silent!

StrangeOne
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1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Basically she's an social media influencer.

Sarah Matsoukis
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1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

No one's waiting for it exept maybe some simps who hope it goes bad so they feel like they have a chance again

Janet C
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1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Instagirls are the worst. Their entire lives are a status for their followers. They are exhausting.

Tony Zecco
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1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

The more people insist on posting about their relationship online, the worse their relationship probably is.

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    #2

    “If They Like Crystals”: 50 Things That Make Men Lose Interest In A Woman I recently had a girl tell me she was pregnant and then say “it was a prank to see how you’d react”. Needless to say I lost interest.

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    Huddo's sister
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    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    'Pranks' and games in a relationship are toxic. Always best to end it when someone pulls that s**t. People need to talk about it too, don't let the future generations think it's healthy. Just like 'treat 'em mean, keep 'em keen' or 'they won't respect you if you call the next day' they need to die out.

    justagirl
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    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    unless it's something like putting googly eyes everywhere for other to find.

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    Lea S.
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    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I was fully cuddling after the first time we had sex with somebody when he told me he was addicted to cocaine. It was a hilarious joke, he wanted to se how I'd react. For the love of Pete, please stop with this method.

    J
    Community Member
    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    That's not funny, a prank is meant to be funny not spiteful.

    Terry Step
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    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    A prank is loosing a top on something to spill not HAVING A NEW LIFE ...BYE BYE FLY MY LITTLE COO COO BIRD

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    #3

    “If They Like Crystals”: 50 Things That Make Men Lose Interest In A Woman Rude to waiters is a total mood killer for me. If I see that it has to be a bad day or something or I'm out.

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    Susan W.
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    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Even having a bad day is no excuse to make someone else have a bad day. Kindness costs nothing.

    Jen Samara
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    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    And kindness can make yourself feel better too.

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    Heffalump
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    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Let's stop treating the practice of humiliating people who can't answer back and keep their jobs as if it was just 'rude'. It's not bad manners, it's bullying. Let's call it what it is.

    Mia C
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    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    This here is Number 1 for me

    Alexia
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    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Big YES to this one, and it goes both ways. Applicable for friends too.

    SheamusFanFrom1987
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    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I've been in the customer service sector before and for a while, waiting tables. Kindness and courtesy goes an absolute long way and I make it (or at least try to) a part of my communication with them now.

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    #4

    “If They Like Crystals”: 50 Things That Make Men Lose Interest In A Woman Demand princess treatment but don’t reciprocate anything. Can’t treat you like a queen if you won’t let me be your king.

    Edit: for those who can’t see past the metaphor. lol. Entitlement is the turn off. Someone acting entitled to your affection or time or money while offering up little to nothing in return.

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    Bobert Robertson
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    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    When did people start this whole king and queen trend? Most self titled "queens" are trashy entitled women who don't want to work and just want to be spoiled but have nothing to offer. And the "kings" are deadbeats who think they're all that

    Haywood Jablome
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    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    You're an expert at missing the point. The point is that 2 people in a relationship love each other so much they each treat the other like royalty

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    Papa
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    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I don't know why so many people seem to have a problem with this one. It just means that you shouldn't expect to be treated well in a relationship if you don't treat the other person just as well. Don't get hung up on the terminology used.

    Lew k
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    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Oddly enough mine is anyone who refers to themselves as any time of royalty. It's super cringey. That said every girld I ever dated that called themselves princess or queen was a pita. Dudes who calk themselves king are just as weird.

    Mike F
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    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Cringey and tiresome. Who has the time for all those gymnastics?

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    Ge Po
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    1 year ago (edited) Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Treating your partner like a king/queen, makes you stand out like royalty. Demanding to be treated like a king/queen makes you an arrogant fraud. (Edit:) expecting to be treated equally is the key here.

    Michael Largey
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    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    The French figured out how to handle this king/queen thing over two hundred years ago.

    StrangeOne
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    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I'm guessing this means he doesn't mind being chivalrous to a women, just so long as she's being polite and also showing kindness and consideration to him. I hope. But I can also read it as he may expect the date to go further because he opened a few doors for her.

    DC
    Community Member
    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    ... if you demand queen treatment from a devout antimonarchist, you might get abducted, you know... Seriously, "Queen Treatment" doesn't sound like what any adult, or rather mature, person would offer or demand. You're equals, equal in worth, importance, equally obligated to each other, equally obligated to pay for meals, equal in everything short of biology. "I demand queen treatment", he-hehe-hey, news, I'm like an antiroyalist.............

    nottheactualphoto
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    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Short form: I try to be a decent human being. I hope you'll do the same. I don't demand.

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    Pol Sigerson
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    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    exploiting others and giving nothin in return?....that's the definition of Queen, or any royalty

    Snow_White
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    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I love it how many people are not seeing past the metaphor in this comment section 😂😂

    Tom De Paul
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    11 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Only the smartest people can think at the level of analogy.

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    Hollerfloozy
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    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Why not just be decent people to our partners? Like why bring royalty into it at all ? He is my rock and I am his dirt. ( Personal joke between the two of us. lol )

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    #5

    “If They Like Crystals”: 50 Things That Make Men Lose Interest In A Woman Any cruelty towards someone for no reason is an instant turn off.

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    persephone134
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    10 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    That woman in the greyish turtleneck again. A favourite Bored Panda stock photograph.

    Tony Zecco
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    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Double that for cruelty to animals.

    María Hermida
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    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Even for selfish reasons: if they are cruel to other people for no reason, they'll end up being cruel to *you* any day.

    Dekker451
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    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    So cruelty with a reason is okay?

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    #6

    “If They Like Crystals”: 50 Things That Make Men Lose Interest In A Woman Never wanting to do anything.

    Me: Would you like to.....? Her: No, that sounds boring

    Me: how about....? Her: Nah, I don't want to do that.

    Me: Ok, what would you like to do? Her: IDK, whatever you want to do.

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    Mobey Drunk
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    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Sounds great to me. I'm a big introvert and prefer a quiet night at home.

    SM
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    1 year ago (edited) Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    The problem with that is, that isn't what she meant. You are supposed to keep suggesting things until by some magic you hit on what she wants to do, or failing that, you are the one "wrong" because you couldn't think of something to do.

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    Hollerfloozy
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    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    This individual may have some unaddressed mental health issues. Sounds a LOT like depression. Not saying you dont have a point, you do. But there could be underlying issues that cause it.

    Dan Flo
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    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Then: Me: Gives up asking... Her to her friends: He never wanna do anything.

    Bryn
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    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    sounds like depression

    Honey
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    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    lol that’s me. My husband is so chill about it though. He’s a homebody like me and if I’m like idk you can pick whatever’s he’s like ok! And I just go with the flow

    Snow_White
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    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Sounds like my boyfriend..

    Jill Rhodry
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    Yeah fair, but what about asking her what she'd like to do so you can both find common ground or compromise?

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    Someone who ranks high in agreeableness in the Big Five psychometric tests is generally more caring and compassionate. A person who’s agreeable and also physically attractive is more likely to be the target of someone’s desire for a serious relationship. It makes sense. It’s difficult to envision starting a long-term relationship with someone who is unkind.

    #7

    “If They Like Crystals”: 50 Things That Make Men Lose Interest In A Woman Duck lips.

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    Linda van A.
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    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Never knew ducks have lips. What about lips like a baboon buttock.

    G A
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    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Pouting usually by plastic orange women

    Dekker451
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    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Kind of. In my experience, it's not as common as it used to be, but I still see it done occasionally. Even by celebrities.

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    J
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    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    That and sticking your tongue out, can't stand either.

    Philly Bob Squires
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    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Treat them like ducks... throw bread at them!

    Key Lime
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    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    What's with this trend where folks pose for photos with their mouths open and their tongues hanging out?

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    #8

    “If They Like Crystals”: 50 Things That Make Men Lose Interest In A Woman 1.Any of these …
    “ a real man would ”
    “ if he wanted too , he would”
    “ princess treatment “
    “ I don’t need a man”
    “I’m the prize”
    “My man had to pay for everything “

    If they think I’m paying for everything and they don’t at least offer or help out

    3. If they think a relationship is a sponsorship than a partnership.

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    Lew k
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    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I stopped with the kept princess bs 20 years ago. Huge red flag for me. It's nice to be with someone hard working and at least somewhat ambitious. My wife and me leapfrogged each other on earning for the first 10 years of marriage. I'm doing a bit better now but she's no slouch. On top of that she's not scared to get out and help in the yard. Actually it's usually me helping her. Guys completely right. Marry a partner not an ornament.

    Jill Rhodry
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    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    “ if he wanted too , he would” - I don't get why this one's on his list, what am I missing?

    Nina
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    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Don't get it either. Unless it's for something outlandish, I think this one stands. If someone wanted to see you/text you/etc, they would find the time for it.

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    Vvee Work
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    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Actually a lot of women really don't need a man,and a lot of men don't need a woman,independence is a thing ya know

    Pittsburgh rare
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    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    "If he wanted to, he would" is totally valid.

    Javelina Poppers
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    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    A parade in Moscow has fewer red flags.

    WindySwede
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    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    "A real man would.." *...walk out of here* ?

    LB
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    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I don't get the 'if he wanted to, he would" in this list. I've mostly seen it to make people aware that abusive behavior isn't okay and just because he's sorry doesn't mean s**t.

    Mrs.C
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    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Most of what I've seen using that phrase is women not communicating and expecting their partners to read their minds.

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    Mia C
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    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I had a co-worker like this and I once asked her why she thought that a man has to do all the heavy lifting in a relationship. Her answer: "because I am a girl". Note: she was a grown a*s woman.

    Jessica Shookhoff
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    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I really like #3. That's a good way to phrase it!

    Amanda Panda
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    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    So you don't want her to not need you but you also don't want her to need you.

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    #9

    “If They Like Crystals”: 50 Things That Make Men Lose Interest In A Woman S**t talking other women. A little playful banter is ok but when their whole personality is just s**t bagging others... Neeeext.

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    V
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    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Don't get me wrong, when I meet up with the ladies from my mother's group we do spend a bit of time bagging beige Pinterest mums, but after that we talk about other stuff.

    Mia C
    Community Member
    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Some women are our worse enemy for no reason. Instead of supporting and empowering one another they are hell bent in dragging others down

    G A
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    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Women who don't have any female friends= instant red flag!

    keyboardtek
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    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Women raised in a strict religious family tend to think they are superior to everyone else and are righteous and judgemental. They are constantly criticizing others behavior.

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    #10

    “If They Like Crystals”: 50 Things That Make Men Lose Interest In A Woman Spend too much time on their phone when they are out on a date or social engagement with other people.

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    Shark Lady
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    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    So rude. Why bother going out to see friends or a date if you ignore them in favour of your phone.

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    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Oh, my gosh. I was one of these people until recently. Husband and I went out for lunch and I purposefully left my phone in the truck. I'm trying to get detached from it. Anyway, while at lunch I saw so many people sitting at tables together, but just staring at their phones instead of talking to each other. It was so sad! I was more ashamed because I realized that's how I was for so long! And yes, I'm on my phone now, but we're in bed and he's asleep so this doesn't count. Lol

    Traveling Lady Railfan
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    1 year ago (edited) Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I don't go out to restaurants often except when traveling, in which case every meal is at a restaurant, and we play a game, whether it be breakfast, lunch, snack, or dinner, look around discretely at the tables where there are two or more people, how many people are attached to their phone? It's bad enough if there's two people and one person staring at the phone constantly. It's weird when they both are. They don't talk. They don't look at each other. They both just sit there on their phone like two strangers on a bus.

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    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    The only justification I can think of: if there's an actual need. Even then, people either explain the situation ("In case my wife is a bit early giving birth") or they discretely excuse themselves at reasonable intervals to check their messages (such as parents checking in with a new babysitter).

    Jan Olsen
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    8 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Spend ANY time on their phone.....

    Bryn
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    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    It matters if it's okay with the other person. it's like adult parallel play - just vibing in the same place as other people.

    Sven Horlemann
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    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    It's like me taking a book along and do a bit of reading in between.

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    #11

    “If They Like Crystals”: 50 Things That Make Men Lose Interest In A Woman I'm big on accountability, whether male friends, female friends or dates.


    Constantly blaming others / society / etc has become a huge turn off to me.


    On the flipside, I was chatting with a girl who mentioned she got in a wreck because "she's a bad driver who wasn't paying attention" and this immediately made me want to ask her out.

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    Helena
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    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Not big on that either, but are you good at discerning blaming others/society/etc or explaining how others/society etc has impacted their lives and/or decisions. One is blaming, the other is explaining. I know I've been accused of 'making excuses' when I'm just trying to explain the backstory.

    Papa
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    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    There's a fine line between explaining and complaining, and I'm sure we've all crossed it at one time.

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    lwolf1952
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    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Sure, just don't let her drive.

    Mimi M
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    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    That last one is a bit of a head-scratcher.

    Becky Samuel
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    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Not a single person with a drivers permit has ever driven with full attention at all times. Whether an accident is caused or not is largely down to luck. Owning up to your mistakes is important.

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    AMaureen Dance
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    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I'm the bad driver. When people ask me why I don't have a licenwse, I tell them that any examiner who would actually approve me needs their own license revoked, and a seeing eye dog.

    nuberiffic
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    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    ...you wanted to be with some who is massively irresponsible and potentially lethal to other people?

    StrangeOne
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    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I want to know how long that lasted. Some girls think being a bad driver and causing accidents is cute and "quirky".

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    #12

    “If They Like Crystals”: 50 Things That Make Men Lose Interest In A Woman Assume they understand my intentions or motivations because they "know how men think" or otherwise claim to be exceedingly perceptive or intuitive.

    Even if that's true, by believing and acting on those things it takes away my agency as an individual to express my thoughts and feelings on a given matter, and that really grinds my gears I must say.

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    Manana Man
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    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I think it's more common for this to be the other way around, women who expect a man to know what they want without being told.

    Pyxelle
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    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    This is very much a both sexes thing. My husband has a VERY bad habit of doing this and it drives me CRAZY.

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    quentariel
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    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I don't even understand my own thoughts, much less those of anyone else's.

    StrangeOne
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    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I'm sorry but it sounds like she called him out on some BS and now he's backtracking to make her sound like the bad guy. Women have very strong intuition that has saved us many times.

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    1 year ago

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    Yea, most woman think that all men want is sex when sometimes all we want is to cuddle you to sleep so I can wake up fresh the next day and bang you're brains out

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    Redditor u/NumerousBeach1420 opened up to Bored Panda that it was simple curiosity that drove them to start up the online discussion on r/AskMen.

    "Most of the answers were about being rude or having a bad personality. It’s nice to know that there are still guys out there who care more about a girl’s personality than her physical appearance,” the author of the thread told us.

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    We asked the author for their personal opinion on what relationship red flags are best to be avoided.

    From their perspective, your alarm bells should be ringing if the person you're dating is unfaithful, rude, or irresponsible.

    #13

    “If They Like Crystals”: 50 Things That Make Men Lose Interest In A Woman My ex would talk about other guys in front of me. “I’m just saying, his arms are really hot!” I’ve seen other women do this to guys to try and see how insecure he is or isn’t. I can’t have any respect for someone who plays games like that.

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    Shark Lady
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    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    If you are old enough to be in an adult relationship, then you are too old for playing games and testing your partner.

    Miki
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    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I can't see that as games. I don't care if my SO will say some guy is hot. Sometimes I am saying some girl is hot. I love my girl, she love me, and i would never leave her.

    AnkleByter
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    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I think something most of the people commenting "I do it too" are missing is that they are talking about themselves and their partner(s) doing something mutually. It's great if you and your partner do this, enjoy it, whatever. This person is saying they do NOT enjoy those things and don't like women who do it to them. If it's being done to "test" someone, it's immature af, among other things, and borderline (if not over) the "this isn't going to work out" line.

    Lumen Papulus
    Community Member
    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    There's nothing wrong with finding other people be hot, too. I'd be glad he/she feels secure and comfortable to talk about it with me.

    Lene
    Community Member
    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Eehhmmm..... my bf and I look at other ppl and talk about them to eachother. It's not at all to try and make our partner insecure. We are people watching together, basically. :) and sure, we talk about how beautiful, sexy, weird (etc.) people look.

    Aroace tiger (she/they/he)
    Community Member
    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I mean some couples talk about others being physically attractive and dont care- one of my favourite YouTube couples literally react to women they find attractive occasionally (they're both lesbians for context)

    MrsFettesVette
    Community Member
    1 year ago (edited) Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Or...if you're so insecure you can't handle me saying I find someone or something about someone "hot" when I'm choosing to be with YOU- we won't be a good fit for one another. It's not playing games, it's human nature to notice attractiveness.

    Javelina Poppers
    Community Member
    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Hey Sweetums, I want you to take this National Inquirer compatibility test.

    Sandra Romanowska
    Community Member
    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Of course playing games is wrong. But I don't have respect for people putting everyone in one box. I'm not playing games, I want to be relaxed in a relationship to the point that I can talk about anything. If someone see games in me being open - f**k them. It's their mind that has some weird scheme. It's their job to be secure enough to start a relationship.

    Steve Hall
    Community Member
    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    That's a bad game to play, but it is also something that you should be able to deal with.

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    #14

    Treat those that they perceive as "lower" in status with disdain, disrespect, poor manners, while buttering up those with "higher" social status. We are all in this together, we all have our good and bad days. Be kind.

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    Mia C
    Community Member
    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    This behavior here is uncalled for, period! There is no such thing as a lower status. It takes nothing away from a human to be kind

    StrangeOne
    Community Member
    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    We all end up in the same place in the end.

    J
    Community Member
    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I have nothing but contempt for people who think they're better than others. People in low paid jobs deserve respect, if they stopped working, everything would grind to a halt pretty quick!

    #15

    “If They Like Crystals”: 50 Things That Make Men Lose Interest In A Woman Unrestrained alcoholism.

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    CanadianDimes
    Community Member
    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    So restrained alcoholism is ok?

    Con O Cuinn
    Community Member
    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Well that's called recovery, so yes. You don't stop being an alcoholic just because you quit drinking.

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    They said that a huge red flag is that the person is "someone who doesn't have dreams and plans in life."

    However, we were also curious about their thoughts on green flags to look for in romantic partners. They told Bored Panda that among the qualities they value the most in a partner are honesty, loyalty, and being a provider.

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    For them, a truly great partner is someone who has high emotional intelligence and is a responsible individual.

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    Meanwhile, the author shared some advice with anyone who struggles to keep other people's interest on dates.

    "Just be yourself. Work on yourself. Keep the good things about you and change the bad ones," u/NumerousBeach1420 said.

    #16

    “If They Like Crystals”: 50 Things That Make Men Lose Interest In A Woman Getting their relationship expectations from social media.

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    Jen Samara
    Community Member
    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Again, perfect lives you see on social media are. Not. Real.

    Papa
    Community Member
    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Social media, or the Hallmark channel.

    G A
    Community Member
    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Went to m8's house-his wife barely looked up from her phone to acknowledge him, me or their child.

    Joshua Seaman
    Community Member
    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    And here I am reading about relationship preferences on social media 😅

    Fabulous chocolate cookie
    Community Member
    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    This is exactly how my ex broke up with me. She got a misguided view of relationships from tiktok videos (those "perfect" relationship videos) and couldn't stand the fact reality ain't like this due to us both being students and having long distance relationship.

    Tony Zecco
    Community Member
    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    It's like the new version of Disney ruining peoples' expectations of relationships. Or romance novels ruining peoples' expectations. Really, anything like that can ruin your expectations about relationships.

    #17

    When they bend over backwards to interpret anything and everything you say in a negative light. I'm not here to mess with you. And I'm certainly not interested in fighting every time I try to talk to you.

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    Community Member
    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Those girls are not over a former relationship which was very contentious. They need to heal before dating again.

    lwolf1952
    Community Member
    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I call it "constantly looking to be offended". It's a form of control if you are constantly walking on eggshells worried about saying the wrong thing.

    James Forman
    Community Member
    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    People who can't communicate think that everything is an argument. People who lack accountability think that everything is an attack

    Torben Møller-Nielsen
    Community Member
    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    "I don't like your tone of voice!" Sorry if my normal voice offends you. I'll stop talking to you. Problem solved.

    Papa
    Community Member
    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    It gets very tiresome someone seems to always assume other people have the worst intentions.

    ʁɨɂɥɒ
    Community Member
    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I have this syndrome, i try to think otherwise, but couldn't help and always think they're going to ditch me anytime in near future

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    ʁɨɂɥɒ
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    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    And that's how i stopped making any conversation!

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    #18

    “If They Like Crystals”: 50 Things That Make Men Lose Interest In A Woman She kept insisting she was "weird".

    "Oh, I don't really like popular music I must be really weird, ahah"

    "Oh, I don't like girly things I guess I'm just weird like that, haha"

    Get stuffed.

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    Brittania Kelli
    Community Member
    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    But I'm not like other girls who say they're not like other girls.

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    The Other Guest
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    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    If you have to tell people you're weird, you're not weird.

    V
    Community Member
    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Yeah, anyone I have ever met who called themselves weird have always had the personality of a wet cardboard box

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    stars.for.kaylee
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    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Girls say “theyre not like other girls” because society insinuates it’s a bad thing to be ‘like other girls’ or basic. The same reason why a lot of girls nowadays grow up hating pink so they dont have to be like ‘other girls.’

    Steve Robert
    Community Member
    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I was once with a girl who said " I feel like getting weird". That was her way of saying she wanted to have sex. Worked for me!

    Dan Flo
    Community Member
    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    People in genral giving themself a lable. If you feel a need to explain to people what kind of person you (think you) are, chances are that if people dont see that in you unless not - that trait is actually not a very prominent one in you...

    Zoe's Mom
    Community Member
    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    "Get Stuffed'. My new go to phrase.

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    What behaviors and qualities do you find to be the most unattractive in a potential partner, dear Pandas? What do people do on dates that really irks you and gets under your skin? On the flip side, what do you find the most attractive in a partner?

    If you have a moment, we’d love to hear your thoughts on all of this. Grab your digital quill, scroll down to the bottom of this list, and feel free to pen a comment or two.

    #19

    Play mind games and talk about past relationships, I get it Becky that your last boyfriend cheated on you, but I'm not him, please stop talking about him.

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    G A
    Community Member
    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    When I got compared to her Iranian ex-husband who left her, I got righteously f****d off at her.

    StrangeOne
    Community Member
    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    "Please don't let me go. I've been hurt before." Basically holding a guy hostage as a love slave because she's too insecure and distrusting to be in a relationship but too selfish to heal first.

    Lorena Gtz
    Community Member
    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    My ex would constantly ask about my past relationships and s3xua1 life but every time I talked about a time when an ex was in my life (even when I was not talking about them specifically) he would throw a tantrum, haha. Glad he’s out of my life, a total psycho.

    Mia C
    Community Member
    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    On that note, a partner, GF, BF, whatever that has to start an argument over petty things or constantly picking a fight.

    Vermonta
    Community Member
    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    People forget they are on the same team

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    Sandra Romanowska
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    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    LOL "Stop talking, you should talk about fun stuff only"

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    #20

    “If They Like Crystals”: 50 Things That Make Men Lose Interest In A Woman Gas lighting to think youre only wrong in every conversation.

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    #21

    Endless complaining.

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    Sandy Jones
    Community Member
    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    So true of my ex, for gods sake smile at something.

    AMaureen Dance
    Community Member
    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    had this couple in my friend group, She was rude to everybody, but in his eyes, she was an absolute angel. Unlike his ex, who we never met, but was the Devil incarnate.

    #22

    Religious. Especially if it involves referencing Bible/Torah/Quran quotes.

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    Lew k
    Community Member
    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    This one I'm on board with. If you're not religious don't date religious people. It will only lead to problems later. I'm sure there are exceptions but generally true.

    justagirl
    Community Member
    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    my mom's religious, dad's not. get along fine. maybe because my mom doesn't actually talk about it.

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    Aroace tiger (she/they/he)
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    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I mean my mums sikh and my dads atheist, my mum doesn't do a lot of religious practices but it works without struggle- my dad mostly finds religion intresting so :)

    EmAdoresHerKats🇮🇪🇩🇿🇵🇸
    Community Member
    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I would find it odd if any person who has faith would date anyone who hasn't? I'm Muslim and would have no interest in dating anyone who wasn't because its a big part of my life.

    G A
    Community Member
    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Wouldn't have owt to do with a fanatic in the 1st place.

    Donna Peluda
    Community Member
    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    They can be really freaky in bed. I once hooked up with an Irish woman, She was a teacher in a catholic school in rural Ireland. looked and talked very sweet. She was wearing like a summer frock, long dress. completely out of place in the rock bar. We went back to her hotel, she started talking in this weird demonic voice, your are the snake, I want you poison in my pussy, things like that, she really went crazy. After the "act" she would get on the floor and pray, begging for forgiveness, "o lord the devil tempted me and I fell bla bla " Then she was up for another one. She was on holiday for a couple of weeks, she sinned and prayed a lot.

    Rosecat
    Community Member
    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Fair enough. If you're getting serious, it's hard to have mixed religious beliefs.

    Mark Patterson
    Community Member
    11 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I don't know. I like the Bible. It is fun to have a girl friend who's a bit of a Bible nerd

    Stephen Sachs
    Community Member
    11 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Yup, I cann't relate to anyone who can't think for themselves.

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    #23

    I think if their existence makes other people uncomfortable and they may not be aware or don't care if they bother others. It comes off like they own the place and can do whatever they want even if it bothers others. Like being loud, rude, and demanding to draw attention from everybody and not respecting other people.

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    Paul C
    Community Member
    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Sorry, but this depends of context. I'm sure Joseph Merrick would have made a lot of people uncomfortable to see him, but that was their problem, not his. But one of those types who walks into a room and wants & expects everyone to turn to look at them. Sorry, next.

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    #24

    Ghost me until they want something, then become my best buddy. :-/.

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    Zoe's Mom
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    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I had a lady friend do this. The last time was for 5 months and when she finally reached out, I asked her not to contact me again.

    AMaureen Dance
    Community Member
    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I have a neighbour like that. If she even says 'hi' to me, I ask her what she wants. She then proceeds to get all offended, then asks for a 'loan' which will never be repaid.

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    CanadianDimes
    Community Member
    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Ugh I’ve had “friends” do this too. No, thanks

    #25

    “If They Like Crystals”: 50 Things That Make Men Lose Interest In A Woman Bad communicator, bad personality, hot and cold personality and mood, someone that lacks affection and is a bit cold physically, people that date someone based on their astrological sign, someone that is judgmental, someone that does not initiate texts or phone calls (I don't want to be the one doing all the work in the relationship, that is only one sided and not fair).

    Also someone that never offers to pay her half of the bill, or never pays at all when we go out. Again, I am not a walking ATM or a weak doormat, I refuse to be used as I know my self worth.

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    Courtney Olander
    Community Member
    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    A slight exception...my partner works unusual hours, so I initiate texts, but I can't always be sure when it's okay to call, so he initiates calls?

    Carlotta Müller
    Community Member
    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Why is it a problem if someone is physically a bit cold? A person can't much about their body temperature. That seems like somethinbg only a real moron would mind.

    JB
    Community Member
    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I think what OP means is touch averse. Perhaps they are into cuddling, holding hands, lots of kissing and other physical interaction. So, someone who isn’t would be a turn off because OP needs/wants the touch to feel secure in their relationship. Then again, maybe they mean that thing where someone always has cold feet in bed and insists on warming them up on your body. I had a bf like that… told him to wear socks to bed.

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    Rosecat
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    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Bad communication isn't necessarily out fault..

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    #26

    If they like crystals , if they scream and talk loud for no reason , if they think it’s cute to act dumb or immature , if they litter , if they talk s**t about any of their close friends that they hangout with and plenty more things.

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    Blue Bunny of Happiness
    Community Member
    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    But crystals are fascinating! Got to love a bit of geology.

    CanadianDimes
    Community Member
    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Exactly! Plus they are cool to look at. I recently went on a tour of a cave famous for its crystals. Enjoyed seeing them.

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    justagirl
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    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    i like crystals! to look at, that is. i enjoy looking at sparkly things.

    René Sauer
    Community Member
    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Eh, it´s not bad if they like crystal as a decorative element. But if they start claiming that they have healing powers or something, then it get´s weird...

    ⨺⃝ ~Just-A-Black-Cat-Lover~ ⨺⃝
    Community Member
    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    uh guys i need help i have crystals in my room right and apparently they were listed as like calming gems or whatevs and my mom believes in those... AM I WEIRD XD

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    Subaru645
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    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Don’t forget, they identify as crazy as well…

    Guy Bare
    Community Member
    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    And the famous "I'm not like other girls !"

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    Jessica Shookhoff
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    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    You forgot if they believe essential oils can cure cancer...

    CanadianDimes
    Community Member
    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Oh god this reminds me of some whack job on a community group I was on at the start of Covid, claiming violet light would save and heal us all. Got her banned.

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    Hodge Elmwood
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    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I like shiny rocks, ohh deal breaker!

    LakotaWolf (she/her)
    Community Member
    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    But... my NAME is Crystal XD and I like myself! So I apparently would automatically make men lose interest in me, just by existing XD

    Zoe's Mom
    Community Member
    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Can you excuse us Puerto Ricans; we are just loud in general. 😉

    Wysteria_Rose
    Community Member
    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Whatever. I'm going to sit with my pretty and sparkly rocks and enjoy life. They don't give me a headache like people do.

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    #27

    Always vent about every tiny little thing (and that’s fine) but as soon as you are going through something rough they respond with a one-liner cliché sentence or somehow start venting back making it their issue.

    People wonder why I struggle immensely to open up, well, here you go.

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    ʁɨɂɥɒ
    Community Member
    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Yes. Sometimes people don't want lecture but just someone who listen and just be there, i don't want preachings,i am wise enough but just want this out, even cup overflows and drinks fall out

    Bret Sander
    Community Member
    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Enough of me talking about me, what do you think of me?

    Fabulous chocolate cookie
    Community Member
    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Even worse when the person later uses your venting or struggles against you in a argument or something

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    #28

    Lying about small things - because it means they'll also lie about big things, inevitably.

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    #29

    Having a unidirectional personality.

    Dated a “gym girl”. All she did was talk about her gym.

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    Agamemnon O'Neill
    Community Member
    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    For every gym girl there are 10 gym guys who talk incessantly about their "reps."

    #30

    “If They Like Crystals”: 50 Things That Make Men Lose Interest In A Woman When you're talking to them and they reply, "OMG that's so funny" while they're occupied with their phones, not laughing or even smiling.

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    Cool crow
    Community Member
    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    That is just so sad. Put down the phone and live.

    lwolf1952
    Community Member
    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    If it's funny then laugh, you know, like a human.

    L. Murphy
    Community Member
    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Too many people need to have their phones slapped out of their hands.

    CanadianDimes
    Community Member
    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Off topic but what is the drink in that photo? Looks amazing!

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    #31

    Too concerned about their social media presence. Also not being punctual but I think that more a personal preference cuz it’s disrespectful to not keep your word when you say you’re gonna do something.

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    #32

    “If They Like Crystals”: 50 Things That Make Men Lose Interest In A Woman Flirt and give their attention to other men, and when caught try to pretend like it was harmless and we’re overreacting which will sometimes cause us to really ponder on if we’re really overreacting or not.

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    Max Fox
    Community Member
    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    There's flirting and there's flirting. My wife and I do flirt with other people (both genders), but we have boundaries, we don't hide it, and we don't deny it. I don't see either flirting to paying attention as being the problem, it's crossing the agreed-upon boundaries and the gaslighting.

    Anna Ekberg
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    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    "Give their attention to other men"? Do you mean like talking to other men? Cause i see no problem with that, i think this one might be a matter of insecurity?

    Matthew Savestheworld
    Community Member
    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I think we have a definitional problem here. SOme people refer to flirting as just innocent joking that no one is taking seriously... That is all okay with everyone. But Flirting can also be defined as making sexual/ romantic overtures to someone that you are interested in. That is generally a bad thing to do when you are committed to someone else. The lines between the two can be difficult . So some people who are upset about flirting may be insecure and others may be actually in the right.

    Helena
    Community Member
    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    You are overreacting. You either trust her or you don't. You aren't the only human alive. I'm a flirt by nature, Doesn't mean I've ever cheated. I wouldn't even call it flirting, so much as charming. Everyone in my family is this way, not changing it for you.

    Dekker451
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    1 year ago

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    Flirting by definition is without serious intent. Anyone who is worried about it has trust/ownership issues.

    Kkg
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    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    It's not flirting I'd be worried about. It's about why a person thinks that flirting with others is ok when in a relationship. Especially when comes to strangers. You don't know if someone won't take it seriously.

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    #33

    Get jealous over little things.

    Show up at my house uninvited.

    Get mad when I don’t text back right away.

    Expect me to yell at them, otherwise I don’t care about them.

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    Pixie
    Community Member
    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Major red flag ! You are not her puppy or her daddy 🤷‍♀️

    G A
    Community Member
    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Ex would phone me up on tears after a fight with parents etc etc, realised after 3rd occasion it was always on Boy's Night Out. We didn't even go pubbing/clubbing-just out to the local arcade/pool club on a weeknight and we're home before midnight. Major jealousy issues.

    Dekker451
    Community Member
    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    In other words, drama llamas.

    Pittsburgh rare
    Community Member
    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Define "little things". Other than that, all valid reasons to block and move on

    Michael Largey
    Community Member
    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I can see why she's surprised that the OP doesn't yell at her. She seems to be trying her best to provide a whole range of reasons to do so.

    #34

    Was on a date with a gorgeous redhead. Found out real quick she didn’t need a bf, she needed a therapist. She literally made me think of eyore from Winnie the Pooh, all she needed was her own personal rain cloud. She was pitying herself the whole damn time.

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    Alexandra Nara
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    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I'm gonna use this metapher with the rain cloud too

    Mia C
    Community Member
    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Not only on a date, but people like this in general

    Vermonta
    Community Member
    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    She probably got sick of hearing this chant in grade school..--I'd rather be dead than red in the head--

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    #35

    Entitlement, boss babe personality, lack of appreciation, bad listening, no empathy, lack of reciprocation, playing hard to get.

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    Donna Peluda
    Community Member
    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I've been talking to a girl I liked for a couple of weeks, I know she has fallen out with her family all about her worked and friend, She hasn't bothered to ask or even listen when I tell her things about me. She's smart and independent, that's what I liked about her originally but she's so full of herself

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    #36

    “If They Like Crystals”: 50 Things That Make Men Lose Interest In A Woman Dating more than one dude at a time. Choose the other guy I don't have time for that c**p.

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    Zoe's Mom
    Community Member
    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I honestly don't think this is an issue as long as she is honest. If not, then carry on.

    WinterLady
    Community Member
    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I think dating more than 1 person at a time is actually a great idea in the "getting to know you" phase, as long as you haven't gotten serious. Once you go further than a good night kiss, it is time to be exclusive.

    Ace
    Community Member
    Premium
    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I think it depends on what you mean by "dating". To me the word always implied something prior to being in a long-term, fixed or monogamous relationship, in which case, yes, I might be going out on 'dates' with lots of people, male or female. I suspect that this definition is not universal though, when I see things like "we've been dating for two years".

    Paul C
    Community Member
    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    To me, dating is different to going on dates. You can go on as many dates with as many people as you like, but when you turn the corner with one (each person has their own views on what the corner is), then you stop going on dates with others and are now dating. But as you said, I suspect others may have other views.

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    Kay
    Community Member
    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    If you expect exclusivity since the first date, you're the problem.

    Pickle (any pronouns)
    Community Member
    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Depends on whether or not this is an open relationship- as long as all parties are aware of what's going on and are okay with these circumstances it should be fine.

    Bewarethere@gmail.com
    Community Member
    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Oh please! Men r notorious for doing that s**t

    Tony Zecco
    Community Member
    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Unless the two of you explicitly say you're not dating other people, this is just a dude getting pissy over nothing. You're probably not as great as you think you are to demand her full attention immediately

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    #37

    “If They Like Crystals”: 50 Things That Make Men Lose Interest In A Woman Talk about all their past lovers.

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    Iva Kazalova
    Community Member
    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I have never done that to a guy but guys used to do it to me a lot and it made my blood boil, it’s so disrespectful

    Black Cat
    Community Member
    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    It's disrespectful when anyone does it. Makes me think people who do it are too scared to be single and are just on the rebound.

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    Lola Donathan
    Community Member
    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    "mY eX dIdN't Do ThAt!" "I wIsH yOu WeRe LiKe HeR!"

    Kraneia The Dancing Dryad
    Community Member
    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    My current one got upset because I didn't talk about my past ones... You looking for pointers or just nosey???

    #38

    “If They Like Crystals”: 50 Things That Make Men Lose Interest In A Woman Take zero initiative.

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    Mobey Drunk
    Community Member
    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Sometimes that can mean they're really shy. It can take some time to come out of their shell.

    jimmy pop
    Community Member
    11 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Well, it's about what people find uninteresting. I'm shy myself, I need someone who isn't. Shyness can certainly be unappealing, too. Though, I don't think this is about shyness.

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    Sarah McManus
    Community Member
    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    This is something that isn't just women. My husband has zero initiative.

    #39

    Express contempt, hatred or distaste for men in general

    You know it's only a matter of time before they turn that on you

    Stuff like that is often how abusive people vet potential partners, to find the ones who will put up with it

    After a while, you're just over it, and don't want to hear that s**t anymore.

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    Thom Serveaux
    Community Member
    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    This is a very common trauma response, but if you want to be with a man you need to deal with it. There are good guys out there!

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    #40

    Smoking.

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    Miki
    Community Member
    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Oh yes... I tried once. We dated for like 2 months. I couldn't stand it.

    #41

    Playing hard to get.

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    Subaru645
    Community Member
    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Then they’re playing a solo sport

    justagirl
    Community Member
    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    what? why would anyone do this? if someone wants to date me i'd be flattered. and if not interested i would...i dunno...something crazy like DECLINE POLITELY.

    trevor
    Community Member
    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Or ... like me ... hard to want. 🙂

    Sandra Romanowska
    Community Member
    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I'm always curious, how these people know, that someone is playing and not have some real issues or higher standards.

    Michael Largey
    Community Member
    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Declare her the winner, and move on.

    Bewarethere@gmail.com
    Community Member
    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Really? In what sense? Maybe she's not sure if she's interested in someone just yet

    #42

    When she talks to me about other guys she’s into especially if she’s trying to make me jeleous it makes me feel like you’re not interested in me instant turn off for me like why even talk to me in the first place.

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    Sandra Romanowska
    Community Member
    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Because talking may be just talking and you may be imagining something.

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    #43

    Never being physically intimate and treating sex just as a chore.

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    Pixie
    Community Member
    1 year ago (edited) Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    You are not the one for her.

    Tracy J
    Community Member
    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Dude, women generally don't like it if you jump on and off. Think about your partner, tpp.

    Gen X Feral
    Community Member
    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Exactly. We are not life rafts, thank you very much

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    LB
    Community Member
    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Yeah idk, this *could* also be partially due to OP. It *was* a chore for me in many relationships because they weren't really able to meet my needs.

    AnkleByter
    Community Member
    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    You can't blame the OP if the woman fails to express her needs aren't being met. People aren't mind readers, they need to know if what they're doing isn't working for you. Sometimes it might be a case of they just don't care, but you won't know that if you don't tell them. Always treating it like a chore and doing nothing to solve that problem, makes it a you (not you, general you, lol) problem, not a them problem

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    Anna Ekberg
    Community Member
    Premium
    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Asexual and not knowing it yet?

    AMaureen Dance
    Community Member
    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Maybe it is a chore when he's only interested in his own gratification.

    Miriam Boyce
    Community Member
    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Yeah she is unhappy about something.

    G A
    Community Member
    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Selfish in the bedroom. Wants gratification but not interested in returning the favour. Seemed to think me getting her off should be enough for me.

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    #44

    Cancelling date plans with a terrible excuse and asking to reschedule. Why'd you agree to a date you were never intending on actually going on?

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    Blah blah blah
    Community Member
    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Because sometimes men are scary about rejection, but thinking of an excuse later on to get out of it seems milder and isn't a face-to-face confrontation

    Khavrinen
    Community Member
    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    This may be a good rationale for doing it once, but if it's a continuing pattern, there's got to be another explanation.

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    Oskar vanZandt
    Community Member
    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Better than being stood up and ghosted...

    Pixie
    Community Member
    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Things happen, but having to wash her hair is no excuse.

    #45

    Being clingy and needy all the time and testing you by asking your thoughts on other women.

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    Pixie
    Community Member
    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    She is insecure, doesn't know where she stands with you yet. 🤷‍♀️

    similarly
    Community Member
    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    This explains why they do it, but it doesn't magically make what they do okay.

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    Oskar vanZandt
    Community Member
    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    As long as I can reciprocate by asking about other men... Nothing wrong with guaging eachother's perspectives on what they find attractive in others. Can also be an intro into interesting conversations about movies, books and other pass times.

    Pittsburgh rare
    Community Member
    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    They might have an anxious attachment style or YOU make them anxious because they don't know where they stand by being deliberately ambiguous (went on a date with a dude who complained that women ALWAYS asked him where they'd stand,).

    Donna Peluda
    Community Member
    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Just say, yea she's cute, maybe we could invite her over, Id love to watch you to together.

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    #46

    Being rude to the other women as they leave my house.

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    #47

    Agree to go on a date and just be boring or not intrested in conversation. Like why did you say yes in the first place.

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    Kay
    Community Member
    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    And how interesting were you? Did you ask anything better than "how are you", "where are you from?, and "what do you do for a living?"

    Apatheist Account2
    Community Member
    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    One has to have a few failures before finding a soul mate. As an inventor once said: "I didn't have 1000 failures. I just found 1000 ways to make it not work."

    Michael Largey
    Community Member
    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    It may just be that the OP was on a date with an introvert.

    Neopet22
    Community Member
    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Most of my dates were like this. I'm a girl and many of my dates didn't speak much or ask anything. even if you lose interest in the middle of the date,either end it or at least pretend to not make the other person feel bad for wasting time

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    #48

    Not having goals or a sense of direction in life can be a turn-off for those who value ambition and drive.

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    Oskar vanZandt
    Community Member
    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    For me, having an interest in life and learning/experiencing new things are more important...

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    #49

    Short texts, infrequent texts. Okay okay I get it, I’ll f**k off then. I’m not going to carry the relationship and you’re clearly not head over heels.

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    Lew k
    Community Member
    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Meh, some dating is casual. It's a bit clingy to expect head over heels from the jump. Also I don't like or have time to always sit around and have drawn out text conversations. If you want a conversation call.

    LSD
    Community Member
    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    This definitely applies to men too. The number of times a guy has matched with me via online dating and then proceeded to give the briefest responses and not bother to ask any questions is so disheartening.

    Dekker451
    Community Member
    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Texts *should *be short. I don't want to get multiple paragraphs of something that should probably be said in-person anyway (or at least on the phone). And anyone who expects every relationship partner to be head-over-heels for them needs to get over themselves.

    Steve Hall
    Community Member
    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I don't care if I never get another text!

    MrsFettesVette
    Community Member
    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    That's a bit much, some people just aren't texters.

    Kay
    Community Member
    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Haha I've had guys tell me they were the ones carrying the conversation, while all they asked were generic boring small talk questions. If you do that - yeah, better f**k off 😂

    #50

    I was on a date with a girl, we were having lunch., At one point she was talking to me, her mouth was moving but her eyes were tracking another guy who was walking across the room.

    (a) What a rude thing to do

    (b) She didn't even notice that I noticed...how obtuse.

    (c) no more date for you.

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    Helena
    Community Member
    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Could be she set off her safety sensor. Could be she is trying to place if she's knows him. Just ask, the assumption is stupid.

    Dekker451
    Community Member
    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    So she can't even look at other men? Insecurity, they name is TheDevilsAdvokaat.

    Nota Robot
    Community Member
    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    ....because you don't look at attractive women at all when you are with your date /s

    Strings
    Community Member
    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I've gotten accused of this before: for me, something about the person has demanded more attention from my threat assessment skills. Very rarely anything more than that

    Donna Peluda
    Community Member
    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I have that problem. If I'm in public open space I track everything going on around me. Never sit with my back to the door, and keep eye on any movement. I think it comes from when I worked as a bouncer. For 10+ year I was in clubs and bars nearly every night and just observing. It very hard to turn off.

    Kay
    Community Member
    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    And you're assuming she was checking him out because that's what you do to women (she might have been thinking where she knows him from, or a million other things). But you are a controlling freak, and she dodged a bullet.

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