Real men don't worry whether they're real men. They worry whether they're good men.

Wait...is telling men that facial hair is toxic masculinity a thing? Weird. Never heard that. As for dates, my first date with my husband I paid for the dinner and he paid for the movie. Just switch off who pays.

How about the constant drumming of these ideas by magazines/ social media. 1. Men cant please women sexually 2. In a divorce the woman is always the better parent. 3. Men cant be abused..look at johney depp 4. Women never lie.

Hardly any men in Asia have beard so... a thing of culture? (No problem if they grow one in my opinion) The 'men must pay for dates' aren't that common anymore, I see most people go Dutch nowadays. About 'losing to a girl', well I would personally feel offended if someone is ashamed of losing to me cuz I'm a girl, so it's racism on both sides. I'm not even sure what kind of action is 'like a girl'. Sounds derogatory. The 'men should make the first move' is still true, I think, although I wouldn't mind asking a guy out first. Toxic masculinity or not, why would people think they have the rights to judge what others are doing, as long as it isn't illegal? Men, women, masculinity, feminity, anything in between, anything at all. It's none of their business.

Yeah, there seem to be quite a lot of "real man" purity tests out there. Nobody can pass them all... there are 3.5+ billion different ways of being a man.... and anyone telling you otherwise is selling you something that you don't need. I love who I am, but I hate the toxic baggage that we all have to face.

I remember when I was a kid, my father told me never to arm wrestle a girl. Because if I won, then I beat a girl, so who cares? If I lost, then I lost to a girl and that’s shameful. It’s so strange how much has changed, relatively, in the last 30 years.

How about stop saying your man is a baby when he is sick...men are more prone to getting sick/ having more severe sympthoms due to a naturally weaker immune system

Everything has to be offensive now?

I agree with the rest but I have never once in my life heard someone say that having a beard is toxic masculinity. Has anyone else? That one just seemed bizarre.

1) It's okay to lose to a girl. What's wrong with that? 2) What does "Man Up" mean? Some of the most powerful "men" I know are now "(wo)men". Do they still have to "man up?" 3) Everyone is human. Humans get hurt. Deal with it, men get hurt too. 4&5) It's their face, let them chose what to do. 6) Okay, but why? Girls can make the first move too. 7) What if the other person wants to pay? The dude is poor? What then? 8) What's a girl supposed to act like? Huh? So now we have to listen to YOU and YOUR opinion on how WE'RE supposed to act? 9) Everyone cries. It's human nature. Go ahead. It's okay :D Just be you, people. We'll still love you if you're you

These are very good representations of what actual toxic masculinity is about.

Once at a party everyone was rough housing in a bounce house and a hit this kid and he fell forward (he didn't get hurt cause it was a bounce house) and his friend said"ugh, you got hit by a GIRLLL!!!"...??????

Had a supervisor once tell me to "man up" when I brought a grievance about a coworker to him. Took it to another supervisor and left early that day as I was exceptionally close to losing my s**t.

Women have had it hammered into them from infancy that men make the first move. (Or you're 'forward, and asking to get raped.) Can we lose this one on BOTH sides, please?

Saying stuff like "never fight a girl because it doesn't matter" is just shameful. I think it's more of them being afraid to lose.

"Men don't cry." This may be correct in some ways, but false in others. I am a senior in high school, a second-degree black belt, and a survivor of childhood brain cancer(August 2013), and even I break down from stress- yes, I have a high mental stress threshold, but when problems arise from multiple angles- for example, balancing learning stuff in school I couldn't care less about, being physically separated from classmates during virtual classes, and also maintaining a clear understanding of at least 15 different forms for Taekwondo. I don't even know if I will be able to make it through this school year and graduate. I half-force myself to cry on the inside. Taking two different prescriptions for epilepsy(May 2020) does not help.

"lost to a girl" is as harmful to girls as it is to boys

When it's men's day, NOBODY CARES! When it's women's day, things are advertised EVERYWHERE. Parades are held. Parties are held. And meanwhile, on that day, people look down on men. I'm sick of this.

why can't men wear makeup? why must womyn wear makeup? I personally love beards, my dad has one, but it's their choice, not mine. "man up" "woman up" how about "crying is ok" showing emotion is strong and courageous in my opinion. I hate sexism. (yes womyn is a real word, look it up)

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How about teaching resilience rather than telling people you can't say this and that? It's getting ridiculous now

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Where is toxic femininity. It's not just male

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1)"Real men never can get hurt" - Yeah, can't confirm that after helping out in a MASH. 2)All the other stuff the guys say are considered idiotic where I live, never heard any of that, actually. 3) The toxic masculinity thing is also more a minority, mostly online - there are some media websites specialzed on that... men are sexist when they sleep (breathing at the woman), men make women uncomftable while running (they boast with their speed) etc. A lot of crazy stuff can be found about that

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Things I try never to say to my bf: 1. Can you open this? (sprained wrists and shattered jars later - 'No') 2. Can you get that down for me? (After EVERYTHING on the same shelf comes down with it - 'Yes') 3. I'll drive. (His response: 'I'll park.') 4. Have you got the cold? ('It's nothing. If I'm not up in the morning, I might be dead.')