ADVERTISEMENT

We all grow up in our little bubbles, surrounded by what we’ve been taught is “normal.” Because of that, it’s easy to go through life thinking everything around us is just the way it’s supposed to be—until one day, something makes you realize that some of those experiences aren’t quite right. In fact, they can be downright concerning.

In a recent r/AskReddit thread, people shared some of these eye-opening examples. Find them below, and feel free to add your own similar stories in the comments!

This post may include affiliate links.

#1

40 Things People Believed Were Normal Until They Learned The Truth Thinking burnout was just part of working hard. Turns out, it's not a badge of honor—it's a big red flag.

elainesbaddecisions , Anna Tarazevich/ pexels (not the actual photo) Report

Vote arrow up
Vote arrow down
149points
Add photo comments
POST
cpt_robertchristian avatar
Cpt. Christan "Panda Bombero"
Cpt. Christan "Panda Bombero"
Community Member
4 days ago (edited) DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Truth. Also showing up to work sick, when you have sick days available. "Because my dad taught me that the only reason a real man with a work ethic calls in sick, is because you are in the hospital." Thanks for giving the rest of the flu you muck fuppet.

Vote comment up
69
69points
Vote comment down
reply
View More Replies... View more commentsArrow down menu

In many of these stories, Redditors shared how they didn’t initially recognize that what they were going through was tied to deeper mental health challenges. To learn why, Bored Panda spoke with psychologist Sabina Nazarova.

“People often don’t realize they have mental health issues or trauma because they get used to the way things are,” Nazarova tells us. “Life is complicated, and with so much going on, many don’t take the time to stop and think about why they feel or act a certain way.”

From a neurological perspective, Nazarova notes that humans aren’t as adaptable as we might think. Our brains tend to settle into familiar patterns, even if those patterns are unhealthy, making them difficult to break. Dissociation can also play a role, with the mind blocking out painful memories, preventing many of us from fully recognizing their impact until much later.

“When we go through tough experiences, we focus on surviving,” Nazarova adds. “It takes a lot of energy to change, so we often stick with what’s familiar, even if it’s uncomfortable, rather than working toward something better but unknown.”

ADVERTISEMENT
#2

40 Things People Believed Were Normal Until They Learned The Truth I thought everyone had constant suicidal ideology for years. I thought depression just meant you had it worse.

I still have a really hard time believing people who tell me they've never even considered killing themselves.

Intotheopen , Engin Akyurt / pexels (not the actual photo) Report

Vote arrow up
Vote arrow down
149points
Add photo comments
POST
reneeparry avatar
Renée Parry
Renée Parry
Community Member
4 days ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I have that. I joke about it but no one finds it funny and rightly so. I just joke to cope.

Vote comment up
59
59points
Vote comment down
reply
View More Replies... View more commentsArrow down menu
#3

40 Things People Believed Were Normal Until They Learned The Truth My childhood was worse than I thought. Not as bad as others, like nothing physical. But those are extremes and I need to understand that you don’t need to go through extremes to go through a bad time.

mnl_cntn , Pixabay/ pexels (not the actual photo) Report

Vote arrow up
Vote arrow down
142points
Add photo comments
POST
grant-mcinnes avatar
I agree with you but...
I agree with you but...
Community Member
4 days ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

It doesn't have to be physical to be awful. Kids can be tortured and live in fear without a hand being raised. Living in an environment where it's clear noone wants you alive must be hell.

Vote comment up
59
59points
Vote comment down
reply
View More Replies... View more commentsArrow down menu
#4

My Dad's abusive and controlling angry behavior.

Growing up I think you just convince yourself that your life is easier, or better than SO many others, especially living in rural North America. It wasn't until me and my siblings were in our early twenties that we even TALKED about the way he acts and even then it was just a "oh man, he's crazy, what a psycho haha"

Queue me being in college, hanging out with most of my class on a Friday evening as we all sit around drinking / chatting. The topic of "crazy dad's" come up and I think, oh here we go, this will give me something to talk about.
So after a handful or stories I chime in with my "funny angry dad" story.

"haha yeah my dad would always break into the bathroom because he was so impatient, it was nuts. He'd just barge in and start screaming at you even if you were mid dump because you were taking too long. On time I went to get in the shower and when I stepped a foot in, I realized I had to pee. So I turned around to the toilet, butt naked while the showers running. A moment later I hear the door get violently shaken as my dad jimmy's it open with a butter knife. He slammed it open, causing the doorknob to hit the small of my back and make me lose my footing and fall into the corner mid p**s. I'm literally upside down, p**s everywhere, I look up and see his face beet red pop around the door and scream "WHAT THE F**K ARE YOU DOING" and I go "ME?! What the f**k are YOU doing!?" and then he just loses his s**t at me.. haha it was insane.. haha ... ha ...." (realize nobody is laughing and everyone is awkwardly quiet)

The dude sitting next to me, just goes... "dude... that's crazy abusive and f****d up"

and me, still not catching onto that fact goes "Hahaha oh man that's nothing."

"THATS nothing!?"

Oooo boy, did I ever walk away from that hangout with a lot of reflecting.
My mid twenties to early thirties has basically been a bunch of emotional trauma time bombs going off regarding my dad's side of the family after ticking away for 10-20 years.
Just a lot of angry, manipulative, lying, cheating and monstrous men gaslighting everyone to put up with them.

SomebodyThrow Report

Vote arrow up
Vote arrow down
119points
Add photo comments
POST
View More Replies... View more commentsArrow down menu
ADVERTISEMENT

While trauma denial can provide temporary relief, it doesn’t lead to long-term healing.

“Trauma denial may be helpful in the short term. It allows the trauma survivor to stand up and get back on their feet,” says Sabina Mauro, a psychologist in Yardley, Pennsylvania. But as time goes on, avoidance takes its toll. “Ongoing trauma denial causes more suffering than there needs to be. Although trauma survivors may learn how to suppress this unpleasant experience from their past, their body and mind will continue to carry it until the trauma is confronted.”

Burying painful memories manifests in different ways. Some people might say, “It wasn’t a big deal. I’ve moved on,” or, “It wasn’t bad enough to be called trauma,” while others might deny that it ever happened.
#5

40 Things People Believed Were Normal Until They Learned The Truth The level of anxiety I felt growing up. everyone gets nervous sometimes. Not many people get nervous enough to start vomiting about minor stressors.

Kasmusser , Keira Burton/ pexels (not the actual photo) Report

Vote arrow up
Vote arrow down
110points
Add photo comments
POST
samanthaeddy avatar
Zoey Bear
Zoey Bear
Community Member
4 days ago (edited) DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

The level I still feel is debilitating. Mental illness needs to be taken more seriously.

Vote comment up
47
47points
Vote comment down
reply
View More Replies... View more commentsArrow down menu
#6

40 Things People Believed Were Normal Until They Learned The Truth Hoarding. Grew up in a hoarder house, didn’t realize until my teenage years that living in a house covered with hundreds of boxes, decade-old food, and cat p**s is actually bad for one’s health and hygiene. It’s also incredibly hard to unlearn.

Dagid_pl , Andrea Piacquadio / pexels (not the actual photo) Report

Vote arrow up
Vote arrow down
93points
Add photo comments
POST
pascalepierloot_2 avatar
chickpea me
chickpea me
Community Member
4 days ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I have a hard time keeping my house presentable enough to have strangers coming inside unexpectedly. I have been trying to do something about this for years but with my ADHD, it’s really not as simple as you would think. But I maybe have a messy house, which I do feel ashamed of. I would never be ok leaving with a pet doing his busyness somewhere indoors and if this should happen by accident...It’s the first thing I would clean up immediately when coming home. If you are not familiar with ADHD paralysis? It is a real thing, impossible to explain and it makes you feel like a big failure. But NEVER ever did I had a pet leaving something inside and leave it stinking up my home. I can’t help but think these people need real help because next to being unimaginable it must also be highly unhygienic and a health hazzard.

Vote comment up
32
32points
Vote comment down
reply
View More Replies... View more commentsArrow down menu
ADVERTISEMENT
#7

40 Things People Believed Were Normal Until They Learned The Truth My sister going to the bathroom after every meal. She told me she had a bad stomach, but it turns out she's bulimic. Wish I could help her, but I can only support and love her with all my heart. We'll get through it, Cara.

Dressed_Up_4_Snu_Snu , mikoto.raw Photographer / pexels (not the actual photo) Report

Vote arrow up
Vote arrow down
91points
Add photo comments
POST
View more commentsArrow down menu

One of the most heartbreaking aspects of unresolved trauma is how it can become ingrained and passed down through generations. For example, someone raised by parents who used physical punishment may believe it’s an effective way to raise children, thinking, “I turned out fine, so it must work.” Unfortunately, they often carry other emotional burdens along with this belief.

“They may also think that constant anxiety, meltdowns, trust issues, and coping mechanisms are normal and healthy,” says Nazarova. “It’s all about what our window of tolerance is.”

Breaking these harmful cycles is possible, but awareness is key. “Learning how to set healthy boundaries helps stop the transmission of harmful patterns, especially in relationships where past trauma may be affecting current behavior,” Nazarova explains.
#8

40 Things People Believed Were Normal Until They Learned The Truth When I was younger I used to hear the ice cream van at night as well as all throughout the day. One day I mentioned it to another kid and they all said I was crazy. Turns out, it was a stress reaction from what would go on to be my bipolar.

BananaHairFood , Lazar Gugleta/ pexels (not the actual photo) Report

Vote arrow up
Vote arrow down
81points
Add photo comments
POST
nathbp1 avatar
Nathaniel He/Him Cis-Het
Nathaniel He/Him Cis-Het
Community Member
4 days ago (edited) DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I did not know that stress reactions could make you hear things like ice cream vans. The brain is weird how it processes feelings.

Vote comment up
47
47points
Vote comment down
reply
View More Replies... View more commentsArrow down menu
ADVERTISEMENT
ADVERTISEMENT
#9

40 Things People Believed Were Normal Until They Learned The Truth Was always tired. Sometimes multiple naps a day, sometimes falling asleep doing something. I figured I was just a sleepy person, or maybe it was because of my autoimmune disease. My dad kept telling me I had to see a doctor because how much I slept wasn’t normal. Turns out it’s type 1 Narcolepsy, worst case my specialist had ever seen.

Kirst_Kitty , MART PRODUCTION / pexels (not the actual photo) Report

Vote arrow up
Vote arrow down
77points
Add photo comments
POST
sbarber999 avatar
John Harrison
John Harrison
Community Member
4 days ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I've got a friend like this. His car insurance is through the roof because of his numerous accidents.

Vote comment up
18
18points
Vote comment down
reply
View More Replies... View more commentsArrow down menu
#10

I thought movies and shows of parents caring for their young kids was like Disney with princesses. I thought being 8 and knowing how to cook (self taught) was completely normal. It wasn't until I was around 14 I realized how fed up my life was.

prettysouthernchick Report

Vote arrow up
Vote arrow down
76points
Add photo comments
POST
acey-ace16 avatar
Ace
Ace
Community Member
4 days ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I still find it difficult to watch, in movies and TV shows, where kids and parents say they love each other. Makes me cringe, cos no, parents just don't do that. Well that's what I thought.

Vote comment up
39
39points
Vote comment down
reply
View More Replies... View more commentsArrow down menu

While it can take time to address issues tied to unprocessed trauma, professional support can make the journey easier. Nazarova, for instance, specializes in Cognitive Behavioral Therapy (CBT) to guide people through these situations.

“CBT allows people to recognize and address issues they might have thought were normal but are actually unhealthy,” she says. “For example, someone might believe that constantly pleasing others is the only way to maintain relationships because they grew up in a household where their needs were ignored. They might think, ‘If I don’t make everyone happy, I’m a bad person,’ because that’s how they’ve always lived.”

ADVERTISEMENT

“In CBT, I work with them to see how this belief leads to behaviors like burnout or resentment. I challenge that thinking by asking, ‘Is it realistic to make everyone happy all the time?’ or, ‘What happens if you take care of your own needs first?’”

By understanding that constantly putting themselves last isn’t beneficial, they can start setting boundaries and prioritize self-care without guilt. “This realization helps break the cycle of harmful thinking and behaviors they’ve accepted as normal for so long,” Nazarova says.
#11

40 Things People Believed Were Normal Until They Learned The Truth Parents fighting *viciously* quite frequently across the scope of my upbringing then immediately act like nothing happened afterwards

ikindalold , Gustavo Fring / pexels (not the actual photo) Report

Vote arrow up
Vote arrow down
73points
Add photo comments
POST
rosiecoyle avatar
Pandarosa
Pandarosa
Community Member
4 days ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

One of my parents frightened and belittled the other, didn't matter if us children were in the room or not. We're all emotionally scarred in our own special ways, but we rock at black humour so there's that ....

Vote comment up
25
25points
Vote comment down
reply
View More Replies... View more commentsArrow down menu
#12

40 Things People Believed Were Normal Until They Learned The Truth Snoring. Turns out I have sleep apnea and stop breathing 80+ times an hour.

jono454 , Kampus Production / pexels (not the actual photo) Report

Vote arrow up
Vote arrow down
72points
Add photo comments
POST
View More Replies... View more commentsArrow down menu
#13

40 Things People Believed Were Normal Until They Learned The Truth Wife had weird fleeting stomach aches that would flare up conveniently when I wanted to go out to dinner or the kids needed a ride to school. We chalked it up as ulcers and she adjusted her diet. Turns out it was cancer—a really f****n deadly one—which announced itself when a tumor perforated her bowel and sent her in to septic shock.

Changeurblinkerfluid , Sora Shimazaki/ pexels (not the actual photo) Report

Vote arrow up
Vote arrow down
70points
Add photo comments
POST
endragon07 avatar
Red PANda (she/they/he/ze)
Red PANda (she/they/he/ze)
Community Member
4 days ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

To everyone wondering if she’s okay, she had a bone marrow transplant and is recovering

Vote comment up
138
138points
Vote comment down
reply
View More Replies... View more commentsArrow down menu
ADVERTISEMENT
#14

40 Things People Believed Were Normal Until They Learned The Truth I thought that everybody has to go to a hospital at every three months for a check up and has their blood sample taken and ultrasound done.
Turns out no, my classmates where horrified when I began to explain in detail how does certain medical prodecures work and where I got my scar on my stomach.
To sum it up I had kidney cancer at the age of 4. It was so bad the surgeon had to remove my whole left kidney.
I really thought that this was normal.
My father is a cancer survivor, my mother has rheumatoid arcthitis. Going to any kind of doctor is basically a family trip for us.
Now I am more mindful of how I speak about this, because when I was younger I used to say things like "and thats how I got my blood drawn sixteen times on one day! But the nurse was so nice she played polly pockets with me after that! :D"
And the face my classmate and her mother made is burned into my head this day.

luca_aaa , Pixabay / pexels (not the actual photo) Report

Vote arrow up
Vote arrow down
70points
Add photo comments
POST
fortnitesuxsxd avatar
"Disembodied voice"
"Disembodied voice"
Community Member
4 days ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I've been chronicly ill since I was born, definitely surprised others didn't spend as much time at the hospital as I did.

Vote comment up
31
31points
Vote comment down
reply
View More Replies... View more commentsArrow down menu
ADVERTISEMENT
#15

40 Things People Believed Were Normal Until They Learned The Truth Having skin like velvet and being super duper flexible. turns out i have ehlers-danlos syndrome. whoops.

wifeunderthesea , Roman Davayposmotrim / pexels (not the actual photo) Report

Vote arrow up
Vote arrow down
66points
Add photo comments
POST
View More Replies... View more commentsArrow down menu
#16

40 Things People Believed Were Normal Until They Learned The Truth I had a headache, which happens sometimes. I don't know that I'd call it "normal," but it's not so abnormal that I saw it as cause for immediate concern. Whatever, I'll just go to bed early, surely I'll be fine the next day.

A visit to the emergency department led to a nearly two-week stay in the hospital, where they administered an MRI, which led to a diagnosis of acute autoimmune idiopathic dissemminated encephalomyelitis.

In other words, for no readily apparent reason, my immune system decided something it should attack is the protein sheath that is the insulation for the complex circuit that is the brain. It's not supposed to do that.

metalvessel , Andrea Piacquadio / pexels (not the actual photo) Report

Vote arrow up
Vote arrow down
65points
Add photo comments
POST
View More Replies... View more commentsArrow down menu
#17

Antagonistic parents. People succeeding in spite of them instead of with their support. My parents abandoned me, my guardian was super abusive. The kids I knew at school also had wildly s****y parents in different ways (some had cult-level religious brainwashing, some were narcissistic and relied on children to take care of them instead of the other way around, etc). For the longest time I thought everything I and the people I knew had to deal with was just normal.

Silvervirage Report

Vote arrow up
Vote arrow down
64points
Add photo comments
POST
View More Replies... View more commentsArrow down menu
ADVERTISEMENT
#18

I had a friend growing up when we were 14 who had an older brother in his 30s that would hang out with us when we had parties and him and his friends would flirt with the girls. At the time we thought he was the coolest dude but now looking back at it he was just a predator.

novicemma2 Report

Vote arrow up
Vote arrow down
64points
Add photo comments
POST
View More Replies... View more commentsArrow down menu
#19

40 Things People Believed Were Normal Until They Learned The Truth Drunk driving, parents did it alot and honestly drove better drunk than normal, it wasn’t until I was 14 and a friend was driving me home after a beach party late at night and almost killed everyone in the car because he fell asleep for a few seconds.

GreatAd6193 , energepic.com / pexels (not the actual photo) Report

Vote arrow up
Vote arrow down
63points
Add photo comments
POST
View More Replies... View more commentsArrow down menu
#20

Mormonism.

Ydok_The_Strategist Report

Vote arrow up
Vote arrow down
63points
Add photo comments
POST
sneacy123 avatar
ILoveMySon
ILoveMySon
Community Member
4 days ago (edited) DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

My former office was attached to the home of my broker. The founder of Mormonism, Joseph Smith, lived there briefly. Every summer those on "pilgrimages" would stop and request tours and we obliged. They were nice but a little"off".

Vote comment up
18
18points
Vote comment down
reply
View More Replies... View more commentsArrow down menu
#21

That repeat illnesses with pneumonia and sinus infections was just part of having allergies and asthma. Two years ago, at my annual appointment, my immunologist asked me to get a blood panel I’d never heard of before. I’ve had the test several times now, and it turns out it’s an antibody titer, and I don’t retain immunity to polysaccharide bacteria, even with repeat immunizations. I’ve had a pneumovax every year for almost 15 years and I have almost no immunity to 14 of the 23 variants tested, and, of the ones I do have some immunity to, only two have fully “protective” immunity. What kills me is that my mom, who was a critical care nurse, was convinced that I had something amiss with my immune system. She passed away in 2009 unexpectedly and I didn’t get to tell her she was right. Way to go, Mom!!

susanreneewa Report

Vote arrow up
Vote arrow down
57points
Add photo comments
POST
View more commentsArrow down menu
ADVERTISEMENT
See Also on Bored Panda
#22

Grew up with an erratic volatile unpredictable very unusual quite beautiful mother who I thought was “eccentric” and it was just normal to me. She spoke with a strong accent and was very silly and flighty and energetic and would enroll me in things but then sabotage the event—children’s pageants, department store modeling runways, local tv shows, summer children’s events, acting auditions, pets that were gifted but always disappeared after a week or so. I learned not to get attached to any thing or situation.

The upside tho was that I very quickly realized that, even as a very young child, I could not depend on her much and needed to always rely on myself for planning and safety and care. I became super-independent and capable at a young age. It made me very strong and creative and self-confident.

But it all got much worse later—public fits, outbursts, arson, nudity, inappropriate language—and we realized that she was mentally ill, finally diagnosed as schizophrenic, moved on to near-constant paranoid hallucinations and a frightening death.

This was all a long time ago tho. She passed more than 35 years ago.

lemeneurdeloups Report

Vote arrow up
Vote arrow down
55points
Add photo comments
POST
View More Replies... View more commentsArrow down menu
ADVERTISEMENT
See Also on Bored Panda
#23

40 Things People Believed Were Normal Until They Learned The Truth I grew up routinely bullied by cousins for everything from the way I talked to the music I liked and even the way I walked and stood up. I didn’t think much of it because I assumed if they’re family it means they love you and the behavior is normal.

thedustoflife , Mikhail Nilov / pexels (not the actual photo) Report

Vote arrow up
Vote arrow down
53points
Add photo comments
POST
nkgamble1014 avatar
RainyCityMomma
RainyCityMomma
Community Member
4 days ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I was bullied relentlessly by cousins, too. Then they called me a cry baby when I would eventually cry. I don't talk to any of my cousins now that we are all grown up.

Vote comment up
33
33points
Vote comment down
reply
View More Replies... View more commentsArrow down menu
#24

40 Things People Believed Were Normal Until They Learned The Truth Health insurance. Masquerades as a way for people to be able to get healthcare but really doesn't give a damn about you or ensuring you actually get healthy. .

greenmachine11235 , Jonathan Borba / pexels (not the actual photo) Report

Vote arrow up
Vote arrow down
51points
Add photo comments
POST
barbyperess avatar
CatchTheWind
CatchTheWind
Community Member
4 days ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I think OP misunderstands the purpose of health insurance. It's not supposed to be "a way for you to get healthcare." It's a way to help reduce the financial burden of your healthcare. It's up to YOU to get that healthcare.

Vote comment up
12
12points
Vote comment down
reply
View More Replies... View more commentsArrow down menu
#25

That my dad would never speak to me. Like, at all. He would rarely eat meals with me, never asked about my day, or had any interest in what I'd been up to.

But, he would pounce on the opportunity to yell at me or belittle me for any perceived failure. There were never any mistakes or accidents, only personal failures that meant I was doomed for failure forever, and that meant I was utterly worthless.

It never ended as long as I lived with him, but he chilled out later after getting cancer. I intentionally rebuilt our relationship, mostly because I think he's probably autistic, definitely was abused as a kid, and was not able to form emotions in a healthy way, and because I want that closure when he does eventually pass away.

AbismalOptimist Report

Vote arrow up
Vote arrow down
51points
Add photo comments
POST
stan_y234 avatar
LaserBrain
LaserBrain
Community Member
4 days ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

That's a healthy reaction, rather than blame - throwing. His parents probably grew up in similar environments

Vote comment up
44
44points
Vote comment down
reply
View More Replies... View more commentsArrow down menu
ADVERTISEMENT
See Also on Bored Panda
#26

I thought being light headed and almost passing out and then panicking was normal for people. I had random spurts of it often, especially in middle school. My parents thought I was making it up, even after I did pass out once.

Turns out it was a mixture of anxiety attacks and chronic dehydration, with the stress of school. I can't hold water like most people can so I drink a lot every day. If I don't then I start getting the symptoms again.

sicksages Report

Vote arrow up
Vote arrow down
50points
Add photo comments
POST
samantha-hinson-sh avatar
Helena
Helena
Community Member
4 days ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

There are a handful of us in the family who pass out. This combo would certainly explain it. We've been tested for just everything, never had a conclusive answer.

Vote comment up
10
10points
Vote comment down
reply
View More Replies... View more commentsArrow down menu
#27

40 Things People Believed Were Normal Until They Learned The Truth I thought that my brother coming into my room every night when i was a child was normal until my first boyfriend in middle school told me otherwise.

WonderfulDrawing8585 , Artem Podrez/ pexels (not the actual photo) Report

Vote arrow up
Vote arrow down
48points
Add photo comments
POST
icanhazpanda avatar
Raven DeathShade
Raven DeathShade
Community Member
4 days ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Yep, me and my sisters thought that my older brother groping us and trapping the youngest (9 at the time) in the laundry room with him for hours was normal. 6 years later...we now know it was not and he is dead to us.

Vote comment up
38
38points
Vote comment down
reply
View More Replies... View more commentsArrow down menu
#28

That your partner shouldn't cheat on you. I grew up with my dad constantly cheating on my mom and being her therapist through it. I would go through his phone for her or listen to them fight and then be the therapist for her the next day. I never knew how bad it was until I met my friends parents who loved one another, rarely fought, and never had issues with cheating. When I spoke about the things I knew (like my parents swinging) and how my life played out, they were HORRIFIED. I still struggle with being the therapist friend and allowing myself to be treated like s**t and cheated on....

BriBee1301 Report

Vote arrow up
Vote arrow down
48points
Add photo comments
POST
carr_jacquie avatar
Jacquie Carr
Jacquie Carr
Community Member
4 days ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

You didn't "allow" anything; it was dumped on you and you did the very best you could

Vote comment up
24
24points
Vote comment down
reply
View more commentsArrow down menu
ADVERTISEMENT
See Also on Bored Panda
#29

For me it was that my bed, which is just a box spring with legs, is supposed to have a mattress. I mean i do but its only an inch thick and cushions as much as your hoodie. So yeah, turns out i've been sleeping on a super hard spring for the past ten years. F**k you dad for cheaping out on my bed.

Brutustheman Report

Vote arrow up
Vote arrow down
46points
Add photo comments
POST
dancollins_1 avatar
Dan Collins
Dan Collins
Community Member
4 days ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I spent 20 years in furniture. So many parents went cheap on the kids mattress. If you really love your kids the should get the good mattress before you get your next whatever you think you deserve more.

Vote comment up
16
16points
Vote comment down
reply
View more commentsArrow down menu
#30

I remember being a kid, my sister was barely 16 and invited some of her friends of the same age. One of them was dating a 24-year-old guy. I thought it was cool but as I grew up, I realized how f****d up it was.

donttalktomeimangy Report

Vote arrow up
Vote arrow down
46points
Add photo comments
POST
acey-ace16 avatar
Ace
Ace
Community Member
4 days ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Was absolutely not uncommon in the 1970s and presumably earlier.

Vote comment up
32
32points
Vote comment down
reply
View More Replies... View more commentsArrow down menu
#31

My mom discussing all of her life and marriage problems with me in middle school. Basically *wanted* me to believe my dad was up to no good and cheating. Also shared way too many details about their sex life, or the lack of one.


Their parenting was just a big mess, but everything seemed fine because there was no physical abuse, they had jobs and we lived in a nice house.

randomasking4afriend Report

Vote arrow up
Vote arrow down
44points
Add photo comments
POST
sbarber999 avatar
John Harrison
John Harrison
Community Member
4 days ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

If you know any social workers, or are one, you know this happens waaaay too much.

Vote comment up
15
15points
Vote comment down
reply
View more commentsArrow down menu
ADVERTISEMENT
See Also on Bored Panda
#32

40 Things People Believed Were Normal Until They Learned The Truth Eating the same thing for a couple weeks in a row like rice or baked chicken.

sweetpealadyyy , Trista Chen / pexels (not the actual photo) Report

Vote arrow up
Vote arrow down
42points
Add photo comments
POST
endragon07 avatar
Red PANda (she/they/he/ze)
Red PANda (she/they/he/ze)
Community Member
4 days ago (edited) DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

This is either irresponsible parenting or neurodivergent parenting. My dad will get obsessed with one food or restaurant for a week or two and we’ll eat it almost every day. His Belgian waffle phase was my favorite 😋

Vote comment up
37
37points
Vote comment down
reply
View More Replies... View more commentsArrow down menu
#33

When i was a little kid i thought it was normal during big thunderstorms to hang out with your neighbors and shop vac water out of basements. turns out there was an actual problem in a wall of the basement that took* a while to find and fix.

Eternal_Bagel Report

Vote arrow up
Vote arrow down
42points
Add photo comments
POST
sneacy123 avatar
ILoveMySon
ILoveMySon
Community Member
4 days ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

This is so much better than most on this list. It actually gave me a giggle.

Vote comment up
35
35points
Vote comment down
reply
View More Replies... View more commentsArrow down menu
#34

When the light switch finally came on and I realized I was, in fact, raised in a cult. I would not be able to list all the things that I was raised to believe were normal lmfao.

itsnotastatement Report

Vote arrow up
Vote arrow down
42points
Add photo comments
POST
View More Replies... View more commentsArrow down menu
#35

Lots of abusive behaviors from my parents. I knew my childhood wasn't awesome, but didn't realize the extent until I'd pop jokes to my friends about some of that s**t and they'd look at me like 😐😶. Then I'd get self conscious and say something like "just a joke, it wasn't THAT bad..." It was usually worse.

gut_sack_ Report

Vote arrow up
Vote arrow down
40points
Add photo comments
POST
tyranamarseuss avatar
Tyranamar Seuss
Tyranamar Seuss
Community Member
4 days ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Isn't interesting how many abusive families use "humor" and "joking" to cover up what psychopaths they are.

Vote comment up
21
21points
Vote comment down
reply
View More Replies... View more commentsArrow down menu
ADVERTISEMENT
See Also on Bored Panda
#36

A school I went to used to give out around 10 pieces of homework everyday and at least half have to be handed in by the next day.

Turns out even by Asian school standard mine was insane.

542Archiya124 Report

Vote arrow up
Vote arrow down
39points
Add photo comments
POST
2026n-panditha avatar
¬_¬
¬_¬
Community Member
4 days ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

My school does the same but each subject has 2 homework (except for triple science which has 3 homework for each science) so basically we get around 23 pieces of homework ;(

Vote comment up
8
8points
Vote comment down
reply
View more commentsArrow down menu
#37

I always thought my mom just really loved me a lot since I was her only child. But looking back now as an adult, I think I was a victim of covert incest.

MacheteAndMeatballs Report

Vote arrow up
Vote arrow down
38points
Add photo comments
POST
View More Replies... View more commentsArrow down menu
#38

Constantly ruminating about things. Apparently not everyone does this.

YamLow8097 Report

Vote arrow up
Vote arrow down
37points
Add photo comments
POST
View more commentsArrow down menu
#39

To some degree I knew that my partner drinking a whole bottle of wine plus 6 beers in a day wasn't a normal thing when I first started dating him but the extent of the addiction and the affects of his health didn't become fully clear to me until some time had passed .

Mischiefmanaged715 Report

Vote arrow up
Vote arrow down
37points
Add photo comments
POST
samanthaeddy avatar
Zoey Bear
Zoey Bear
Community Member
4 days ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Alcoholics need a strong support system. Unfortunately I am an alcoholic and double unfortunately, I do not have a strong support system with trying to quit. :-(

Vote comment up
24
24points
Vote comment down
reply
View More Replies... View more commentsArrow down menu
ADVERTISEMENT
See Also on Bored Panda
#40

40 Things People Believed Were Normal Until They Learned The Truth Smoking in adolescence. Well, I've been a smoker for 15 years now.

NoRecording66 , cottonbro studio/ pexels (not the actual photo) Report

Vote arrow up
Vote arrow down
32points
Add photo comments
POST
c_lee_8920 avatar
Courtney Christelle
Courtney Christelle
Community Member
4 days ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I smoked for 14 years starting when I was 14. Never too late to quit.

Vote comment up
22
22points
Vote comment down
reply
View More Replies... View more commentsArrow down menu

Anyone can write on Bored Panda. Start writing!

Follow Bored Panda on Google News!