Best one yet. Many people get stuck in their own views and echo chambers. Sometimes it's good to do more research and look at arguments from the other side. Maybe you will stick with your views but maybe you see there is more than you first thought.

Same goes for the reverse: Don't set others on fire to warm yourself.

Also always remember that children can’t save an unhappy marriage

..and remember that the wedding is just the begining, not the end, and that it is the easy part. It is in the marriage that comes after the honeymoon that you have to put in the hard work, so that is where you must put most of the effort.

and if you do, is not an arrival. You havent finished working, you've just started

My mother used to say "children came to separate, not to bond". If your marriage/partnership is circling the drain, a child will not save you at all

this is a big one to me. I got married and had a kid because it was what I was taught to do. Then later got divorced. Now I love my kid. I am obsessed with her so that worked out. But the dude having to be in my life because of the kid is a nightmare. I will be so glad when she becomes an adult and I can block him. My current man is amazing and opted to just be together and raise our kids together and it's been the best 8 years of my life. Do what makes you happy, not society!!!!

You get trapped no matter what your choices are

Getting married is no different to living with someone/being in a normal committed relationship, so it’s an irrelevant/meaningless thing (unless you’re religious) and I honestly don’t know how it hasn’t died out yet. Having kids however is a huge difference to not having them, and being child free needs to be normalised. Discrimination against child free people (mainly women) needs to be seriously addressed.

Marriage- I think to many of us fall for the idealistic view shed upon us by happy parents and grandparents and the relationship they had. I thought I could be "just like my folks" and have it golden as they did. Marriage is hard.

as a boy and later teen, i always imagined, i dont want to live the traditional couple life at all, it felt really odd.

Amen!

Don’t hang on to toxicity. Period. Be it freinds , siblings, parents, partner, employer etc

I didn't do well in school, and I still don't do well. Where does that leave me?

I try to assume nothing when it comes to other people.

some people fall in love with the wrong people sometimes,it’s alright Listen to this song

There are literally 8 billion people in the world and none of them act or think the same whatsoever , don’t try to mimic any of them

Dentist appointments are damn costly in us so make sure you don’t need them

No one deserves a pedestal until they prove it.

All my days seem to be "good old" now that they are in the past. Wish I could say this has taught me something...

*Cough in auto immune betrayal*

This happens a lot- people cancelling themselves.

People can be extremely unpredictable

Buttercup?

Blood or not

My most hated term "good enough". But yeah, designers are never finished, we tend to abandon work because otherwise we would go insane.

Yup. My grandmother who witnessed 3 wars died at the age of 105 in a "poor area" by western standards, just by living in a village up in the mountains which requires lots of exercise, and eating nothing but a bit of meat and vegetables from her garden (no processed food)

Those types of people are insufferable. They're everywhere.

Please yourself, and that's enough.

I've got to say; those 28 years must have been hard. Look at all those grey hairs!

...and we never quite get there, do we?

I got a lot of this from my mom when I was in school. She did a lot to try and sabotage what I was working toward and tried to keep me from anything I was passionate about. Missed out on a lot of opportunities because of her. My grandmother stepped in and had my back when she could but was only able to do so much.

You can afford to save?

Easier saiid than done :(

Correction- people are going to hate you for it but thats alright.

We may not be big, but we are all pandas :)

As someone who has been "toxic" or at least not not cool, I can relate. It's more being very very self-centered. It took me time (and people not cutting ties with me) to realise my behaviour was not justified, but during the whole ordeal I was convinced I was in my right

As one of of the 90% women with endometriosis who were diagnosed too late, to the point where I might never be able to have kids: if periods hurt a lot, if bleeding is consequent to the point it prevents from doing usual tasks --> go see a doctor, insist and ask for an echography to be performed. It is not normal to endure significant pain when having your periods.