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From introverted and gentle to extroverted and eccentric, the human personality is a complex and colorful thing. It describes our distinctive patterns of thinking, feeling, and behaving and derives from a mix of innate dispositions and inclinations along with environmental factors and experiences.
But sometimes, people give the impression that they have a very narrow definition of self. Interested in such cases, Reddit user StandardGenre45 made a post on the platform, asking everyone "What's something that people turn into their whole personality?" And it blew up—so far, the post has 28.3K comments. Here are some of the most interesting ones.
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#1
Being gay.
I'm myself gay but that's hardly something I communicate about unless being specifically asked about. Yet I've met a few who center their whole life and personality around that. They have to do ,"gay thing". All their behavior, taste and enjoyment and justified by "it's a gay thing".
Funny thing I've already been told something along the lines of "yeah it's pretty common among us gay people, you wouldn't know about it".
I don't understand, like if I were asked to describe myself it'd go along those lines
- french that grew up in Quebec Canada.
- love sciences and physics, studied that.
- into video games and phantasy
- big on family values n stuff
- I like languages, learned Japanese and German (although German is quite rusty now)
- my favorite food are sushi pizza and french sausage.
- I love beer 🍺 !
Then down down down the line
- I'm gay
But I dunno, I don't see people going around saying they're straight, I don't see why that should be something I say.
I just baffles me and I find it really sad... Are you so void of personality that "gay" is your number one trait ? The one thing describe you Is the type of hole you like to put your d@ck in?
Done with my rant xD
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#2
Mental Health issues that they don't actually have. Being "uncomfortable" because some papers aren't straight isn't OCD Stacy. And having high energy doesn't make you Manic. Stop turning people's disabilities into something "quirky".
Jessica J. 2 years ago
Person with Psychology degree here (and Sociology, too) This REALLY irritates me. Especially since 99% of the time, they haven't the slightest idea what the actual symptoms of the syndrome or disorder with which they claim to be be afflicted are...
#3
Being American. Put that flag away. No one gives a s**t.
Nathan Pogorzala 2 years ago
Flag, fine. Overly fake patriotic and "go back to your own country" kind of people can get f****d.
#4
Their Faith or lack of faith. I've seen Christians become hyper religious and force their beliefs on everyone around them and alternatively I've seen Atheists become toxic and anyone who deters from their worldview even slightly is a complete moron.
Let YOUR beliefs be just that YOURS and not everyone else's.
Jesse Channing 2 years ago (edited)
Yes ! And stop knocking on my door on weekends and pushing your religion in my face.
#5
Being bloody vegan.
Shaba Ding Dong 2 years ago
It is fine if your sharing food and you tell them you can't eat it because your vegan. Right?
#7
Being LGBTQ, especially the whole gender thing. Like, I consider myself non-binary but I also consider this aspect of mine fairly unimportant to be honest. It's a "nice to know" type of thing for myself but I don't ever feel the need to discuss it with other people. Because what are they going to say about it? "Cool...?" Being non-cis or non-het is not nearly as interesting as some LGBTQ people believe it is. It's just ONE random aspect of someone's personality. There are many other aspects. For example I'm probably a HSP (highly sensitive person). But again, I don't see a point in mentioning this to other people because people who already know aren't going to treat me differently because of a label. They are know how I am/act/talk etc. And people who don't know me (yet) either don't matter or they'll find out about me over time.
Emanual Henry 2 years ago
So is HSP a thing that it has an abbreviation? Not sure what it is but I feel old now.
#8
I’m Bisexual. No one in my life that hasn’t *asked* knows I’m bisexual, because it’s not my f*****g personality. Most friends I have in the LGBTQ+ community are first and foremost, queer. They’re not introduced to me as doctors, teachers, Germans, Americans, activists, introverts…no, they’re introduced as Queer and often that will be the only thing I know about them for some time.
This is a present issue in the community.
#9
Conspiracy theorist. "Open your eyes, do your own research"
#10
The generation they're born in
Bouche Clay 2 years ago
I don't know what I am. I'm vaguely curious, but not enough to Google it.
#11
Hair color. If I hear my co-worker talk about how ‘natural red heads’ are or how you shouldn’t mess with them use it as an excuse for a shitty character trait, I’m gonna lose it.
Deborah Harris2 2 years ago
Personality traits have nothing to do with hair colour , blondes do not have more fun, red-heads are not hot tempered, brunettes are not brainy ...we are all different 😊
#12
Guns
Lauren S 2 years ago
😔 I know many of these people. I know people with hundreds of guns. People who share pics of their preschool age kids posing with massive automatic weapons (AK whatever, I have no idea the names). I don’t understand it and I grew up around it. My elementary school was always closed on the first day of deer hunting season.
#14
Their own perceived persecution/ victimization.
"Being suppressed and personally attacked is who I am."
#15
This will get buried, but some of these things become a person's entire personality because it consumes a majority of their life. Typically at a young age.
Kids that saw active duty in Afghanistan, living that 24 hours a day, yeah, probably has a large influence on your personality.
Woman with 3 small kids, raising them while her partner is absent (could be a deadbeat, could be working 18 hrs a day to support them), is gonna have a lot of anecdotes about motherhood.
Point being, some individuals choose not to grow. Some just don't get the opportunity to.
Edit: Thanks for the awards.
RafCo (he/him) 2 years ago
It's funny, i saw a lot of violence and death growing up in a conflict zone. I only ever talk about it here. I don't talk about it to my wife or kids. Definitely not to friends. But it can be hard to "just get over it". I still wake up at night screaming. A single mom of three kids, that was my mom. My father was taken when i was little. She never talks about that either. I don't think it's what defines us as people though. My mother is a doctor and educator. I am an engineer and artist. My brothers are a scientist and an architect. We are all voracious readers. Nietzsche said, "to live is to suffer, to survive is to find some meaning in the suffering". I think he got it backwards. I think living is looking into the moments between the suffering. Living in the cracks will be joy, springing up like flowers in the sidewalk. You can can keep walking, or you can sprinkle a little water, and watch those flowers bloom. Just don't be too hard on yourself for feeling a little dry sometimes.
#16
Harry Potter and I’m sick of pretending that a 45 year old woman running around saying she’s a f*****g Hufflepuff is normal.
#17
Loving Disney.
Firstname Lastname 2 years ago
I mean, it's good to know if you're going to join me if I bust out some "I'll Make a Man" in public, but you can have other dimensions too.
#18
Being a youtuber
CAT /ᐠ｡ꞈ｡ᐟ QUEEN 2 years ago
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Riley Quinn 2 years ago
Being a YouTuber or Podcaster is a job. Anyone who can't speak on a topic outside of their job is boring, whether they're a physicist or street sweeper.
Two_rolling_black_eyes 2 years ago
That's their job. We go home and log in to watch their videos after work. After they make the videos, they log out and go play soccer, read a book, do another hobby, etc. All people are more than their job.
MagicalUnicorn 2 years ago
what's more sad is that being youtuber becomes career goal for some youglings
Shane Clark 2 years ago
Being a youtuber is job for a lot of people. If you are annoyed at people over this you should point is to all celebrities like actors or models who make it their enitire personality for it is the same thing at this point. Only difference is the medium their fans watch them from.
deanna woods 2 years ago
I have a Tiktok account, but I don't make that my entire life. I will do a video every once in a while. Mostly when something stupid happens that I feel the need to speak on. Also, if you like stories of the strange, dark, and mysterious, check out Mrballen.
#19
Born-again Evangelicals
Anne Roberts 2 years ago
My ex-husband became "born again" after we divorced. He hooked up with and married the woman he'd been having an affair with for years. Doesn't get more holy than that...
#20
Having kids
Lauren S 2 years ago
My world does revolve around my son, but I don’t disagree with you. I may tell you a story about my kid but I promise I’ll pick a ridiculous one you will love (wanna hear about when he opened a penis store?) and I will happily listen to your story about your cat, car, job, shirt, whatever because that’s how conversation and relationships work. I will not expect anything because I’m a mama bear and I do not think I’m more important or better. Oh, and I will read you the first time I tell you a kid story and won’t do it again if you’re annoyed or bored. Regardless, I’m guilty of this.
#22
Being overworked and barely sleeping.
Edit: To clarify, this isn’t meant to be an insult. I know exactly how it feels to work an ungodly amount of hours with little to no reprieve. It’s a routine that’s become ingrained in us and I think it’s important to remember being overworked, under slept, and having little to no time to ourselves is not healthy.
Dana Ondráčková 2 years ago
I hate when people tell me I look tired And I say "yeah, kinda tired from work" And someone else goes balistic saying they havent slept for X days, had so much work And Kids And husband.. Like ok? I dont have those but I still can feel tired from working 8 hours, 5 days of week, ok? I dont see any glorification in working till your early death
#24
Faking Mental Disorders. Ideally DID and such.
I can understand those who do have these disorders and just want to spread awareness and the struggle in their lives. But be aware that not everybody tells the truth, especially internet influencers. Whether it's for views, money, popularity, or attention.
RafCo (he/him) 2 years ago
I get annoyed when people say, "I'm so OCD". I have a friend with OCD. He needs constant help. He's in therapy for stress related anxiety, he can't hold a job. He can't even leave his apartment. Wanting things to be neat and organized isn't a mental illness. Also, getting excited isn't ADHD. It is a serious effective emotional disorder that requires treatment. People with ADHD cannot regulate their emotions in the same way that others can. Being Hyper or lacking Attention is the tip of a much larger proverbial iceberg.
#25
‘Girl bosses’/MLM cult engagers
And social media.
BadCat 2 years ago
"HEY GIRL. Haven't heard from you since High School. Glad I found you. How have you been? Anyways, I wanted to reach out to invite you to a party. Just a small get-together with some AMAZING friends of mine. We'll have wine and catch up. Have you heard of Keto? When you come by I'll tell you all about it." That was the last I ever heard from her.
#27
Alcohol. It’s so annoying. Constant posts of drink in their hand, every selfie is a drink in their hand. Or a random day during the week “I’m home from work, some one stop me from drinking 🤪”
RoanTheMad 2 years ago (edited)
middle aged woman: "it's WINE O CLOCK HAHAHAHA IM HILARIOUS AND SO QUIRKY gin GIN GIN PROSECCO LOLS" .... (im guilty of liking wine but i dont make it a joke or personality trait)
#28
Pickup trucks. There are people that happen to own pickup trucks, then there are people who's pickup truck owns them.
We all know the type, flood lights, muddn tires, grill racks, lifted, spotless paint with a wax, and optionally a diesel stack coming out of the bed, truck muts, and a snorkel.
I get it, printing out business cards that tell people that you're a douche would be difficult to distribute on the highway at 70mph, but it might be more cost effective than your $100K Raptor.
Kimberly Carlino 2 years ago
We call these "Payment Princesses" where i live. I own a pickup truck with an all terrain package because i go backcountry a lot. The truck got detailed because i spilled something sticky inside so it was shiny and perfect. I came out of a store and found a bunch of guys standing around it checking it out. As i approahed, they started asking what other accessories i had or started suggesting some that would not improve my performance. I finally got mad and "It's a (boop) truck. It does truck things. She's not here to look pretty." They were so offended
#29
Smoking weed
Phobrek Taz 2 years ago
I'm a Cannabis-American and I take offense at your denial of my culture /s
#30
being a 'dog mom' or having a 'fur baby'
#31
Sex. I don't even mean sexuality I mean the coomers and the guys who stalk this sub and ask 11 NSFW questions a day about "Hey ladies what do men get wrong about your bods" and "Ladies, what's your sexiest sex sexual experience where sex was had and it was sexy?"
Lust controls some of these people man. They gotta go outside.
Deborah Harris2 2 years ago
Coomers?Stalking subs? Is this in a BDSM club or something? God I feel so old lol
#33
I’m in recovery and there are some people who make their entire personality being in the program. It’s their entire life. I understand it for people who are new because some have literally had to change everything and they NEED recovery to be their life for a while in order to stay clean and stay alive. That’s perfectly fine, but when you have 25 years clean and you still go to 6 meetings a week, go to every single event and your life entirely revolves around it, it might be time to maybe branch out a little.
I’ve distanced myself from these people in the last few years. I stick to the few small meetings that these people don’t frequent, call my sponsor when I need too and have a handful of close friends. Other than that, I have an entire life outside of recovery. I have other friends, hobbies and goals to achieve and don’t really talk about recovery unless I’m asked about
It. I feel this is healthier.
#34
Being a fan Elon musk
#37
You ever see a police officers wife? It's crazy but they turn their entire existence into being a police spouse, it's very odd. I have two neighbors that are police, they younger the wife the more intense the alternate reality they create for themselves. The husbands never mention their profession but the wifes cant shut up about it and try and prove how much they know about local law enforcement.
Dana Ondráčková 2 years ago
My sister is police qife And she is absolutely normal, she loves men in uniforms, Everybody knows that, but its Just a funny quirk we all get behind than being obnoxious
#39
Being confidently incorrect.
#40
Anime
I enjoy watching anime. But then I see other folks who spend a ton of money cosplaying Random characters. Going to conventions in those multilayered cosplays. They buy a f**k ton of figurines, posters, swords, flags, etc.
I don't really find that annoying at all. Cause I have a bunch of jerseys, go to professional sporting events and I have like three posters. And I also play Fantasy football in like 4 leagues. A league I've been in for a decade. Two money leagues and a charity league..... I'm sure Fantasy football will be listed here....so I get the passion
What I do find annoying is how they confuse their anime fanhood and convert it to Japan fanhood. Some go as far as thinking Japan is the greatest country and they want to move there. Like look man. Sushi, Ramen, and Tempura is great but Japan is as flawed as most countries and maybe even more flawed than others. Their Work Life Balance is stupid. You often hear about how people work 20 hr days sometimes and die of exhaustion. It's adding on to a declining population. Japan's population declined from 128 mil in early 2010s to 120 mil. There's also High rates of depression and a lack of mental health care in Japan. People aren't as opening as you think they are to. Not saying this is specific to Japan I'm just saying that in Japan isn't as open as you think it is like enjoy the anime
#41
Music, I know some people who are so snobby about their music choices.
CHRIS DOMRES 2 years ago
As a lifelong improviser, composer, and jazz pianist, I found that no religion can make a human feel the level of joy that music does. It becomes a passion. Should not criticize anyone for surrounding their life with something creative and uplifting!
#43
Politicians they follow
BadCat 2 years ago (edited)
Upon listening to every candidate during election question period, they all sound the same. They all waste time thanking everyone and every opportunity they've had in their life, reminiscing about something that happened in their family 20 years ago and then barely answer the question in the last 2 seconds, and usually going over the time limit. No matter the party, there's very, very little impacts I've noticed in my life that has been changed so dramatically that wouldn't have happened if different party was elected.
#44
Driving a Tesla
FakeOptimist 2 years ago
When I see one on the road I watch out : a lot of them are driven by rich people without driving skills. Over here they are cheap to run (if you can afford the investment) because of tax write-offs.
#45
Being in the military.
FakeOptimist 2 years ago
Here it's just a job. Granted : an interesting and sometimes risky one, but done by all kinds of people : straight/gay, morning/evening people, grumpy/friendly, right/left wing, rock/classical/techno lovers....
#46
Their beard. As a guy with a beard it’s annoying. Although it’s not quite as bad as it was 5 years ago or so. We get it. You have a beard
FakeOptimist 2 years ago
Me : sometimes just too lazy or lacking the energy to shave more than once a week.
#48
Wokeism
Vix Spiderthrust 2 years ago (edited)
Counterpoint: using the word "woke" to mean anything you're having a hissy fit about at the time.
#49
Here in the Netherlands people who live in Amsterdam base their personality on Amsterdam
#50
Their job
What do you think ?
spirit wolf 2 years ago
This may be an unpopular opinion but this post is rather ridiculous and judgy and nitpicky. Why does it matter? Is it getting in your way? At the end of the day everyone's personality is going to be associated with and deeply entangled with something external after all.
WonderWoman 2 years ago
It is more than someone liking something, what this is about, imo, is people who become completely absorbed into things. That thing is the only thing they can talk about, or every topic somehow makes its way back to that one thing. Fanatics more than fans. They are all encompassed by it.
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Issey 2 years ago (edited)
ooh those are annoying, especially the elitist ones on unicycles
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Loki’s Lil Butter Knife 2 years ago
BoredPanda used to be a website that focused on artwork quirky and feel good stories around the world. However, now I feel like so many of their listicles are negative and judgmental and just for click bait.
Load More Replies... Joseph Moore 2 years ago
A little bit concerned about how many people were quick to tell queer people to shut up about being queer. :/
Claire 2 years ago
I am a bit concerned that people think that if a gay person speaks their mind about something "controversial", it means that the opinion is now invalid or anti-queer. Yes, us queers can be rude, annoying and a-holes. And many do go over-board with making "being gay" their only trait.
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Natty Glass 2 years ago
Well what a lovely list of self righteous twits giving there opinions- often clearly rooted in forms of misogyny or internalized homophobia.
Appalachian Panda 2 years ago
I was gonna mention the internalized homophobia. Three of 'em in the first dozen posts. Sad. If people want to be out, loud, and proud, good for them! They may have spent their youth being told they were weirdos, perverts, and sinners. Maybe harassed and bullied on a regular basis. The freedom to finally be yourself is a big deal.
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2WheelTravlr 2 years ago
Basically, anyone who creates their persona around a single obsession is boring. Whether it's collecting stamps or conspiracy theories, variety is the spice of life.
JustinTime 2 years ago
Hunting, I drive for FedEx and I’m on the road all day. The biggest bumper sticker violators are the ones who need to let everyone know they hunt, and they ALWAYS have some item of woodland camouflage on at all times.
jknbt jknbt 2 years ago (edited)
it's a mistake to base your personality on your job... are you living your own life story out, or somebody else's cliched expectations of how you should act in your job role?... Look to any group of licensed professionals for examples... These people do a metamorphosis when they get home after a long day, calm down, and turn back into their regular self.... Lawyers have got to be the worst at this...
Aisling Raye 2 years ago
This whole list was (mostly) a plea for people to have more than one interest and I'd say the vast majority of people do. It may have been dumb but it killed some time and that's the purpose of this site so I'm not mad about it.
Enlee Jones 2 years ago
Fat Activism, screeching 24/7 about diet culture, fat phobia, thin privilege and making Rebel Wilson’s weight loss all about them.
OnlyMyOpinion 2 years ago
This is probably the most judgey, picky, b:tcy article I have seen on BP. Doesn't feel right.
CanidaeVulpes 2 years ago
Really, there shouldn’t be any one thing that defines you. That would be…one dimensional :D I don’t know anyone who taken one thing and made it their entire persona
tuzdayschild 2 years ago
After reading these and the comments all I can say is...just let people be who they are. If it's not for you, don't participate.
R. H. 2 years ago
You ride a HONDA (snicker) My bikes outside, where's yours? The road is wet. It might rain, etc. (Went back to my beer)
2WheelTravlr 2 years ago (edited)
I don't care what you ride. My only consideration is if you're a rider or a biker. With bikers it's all about the bike and its cult of personality. Riders just ride, sure, they love their bike but as a tool - a fantastic means to an end.
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Thomas Bastiaan de Vos 2 years ago
Wow, this is not a good post..... Just because someone gives expression to an important part of their lives, doesn't mean they base their whole personality around that part. This seams more like an post about "what I feel uncomfortable seeing in other people about myself" and that's ok. Just don't express it like this, it makes you seem judgemental and petty.
spirit wolf 2 years ago
This may be an unpopular opinion but this post is rather ridiculous and judgy and nitpicky. Why does it matter? Is it getting in your way? At the end of the day everyone's personality is going to be associated with and deeply entangled with something external after all.
WonderWoman 2 years ago
It is more than someone liking something, what this is about, imo, is people who become completely absorbed into things. That thing is the only thing they can talk about, or every topic somehow makes its way back to that one thing. Fanatics more than fans. They are all encompassed by it.
Load More Replies... Issey 2 years ago (edited)
ooh those are annoying, especially the elitist ones on unicycles
Load More Replies... Loki’s Lil Butter Knife 2 years ago
BoredPanda used to be a website that focused on artwork quirky and feel good stories around the world. However, now I feel like so many of their listicles are negative and judgmental and just for click bait.
Load More Replies... Joseph Moore 2 years ago
A little bit concerned about how many people were quick to tell queer people to shut up about being queer. :/
Claire 2 years ago
I am a bit concerned that people think that if a gay person speaks their mind about something "controversial", it means that the opinion is now invalid or anti-queer. Yes, us queers can be rude, annoying and a-holes. And many do go over-board with making "being gay" their only trait.
Load More Replies... Natty Glass 2 years ago
Well what a lovely list of self righteous twits giving there opinions- often clearly rooted in forms of misogyny or internalized homophobia.
Appalachian Panda 2 years ago
I was gonna mention the internalized homophobia. Three of 'em in the first dozen posts. Sad. If people want to be out, loud, and proud, good for them! They may have spent their youth being told they were weirdos, perverts, and sinners. Maybe harassed and bullied on a regular basis. The freedom to finally be yourself is a big deal.
Load More Replies... 2WheelTravlr 2 years ago
Basically, anyone who creates their persona around a single obsession is boring. Whether it's collecting stamps or conspiracy theories, variety is the spice of life.
JustinTime 2 years ago
Hunting, I drive for FedEx and I’m on the road all day. The biggest bumper sticker violators are the ones who need to let everyone know they hunt, and they ALWAYS have some item of woodland camouflage on at all times.
jknbt jknbt 2 years ago (edited)
it's a mistake to base your personality on your job... are you living your own life story out, or somebody else's cliched expectations of how you should act in your job role?... Look to any group of licensed professionals for examples... These people do a metamorphosis when they get home after a long day, calm down, and turn back into their regular self.... Lawyers have got to be the worst at this...
Aisling Raye 2 years ago
This whole list was (mostly) a plea for people to have more than one interest and I'd say the vast majority of people do. It may have been dumb but it killed some time and that's the purpose of this site so I'm not mad about it.
Enlee Jones 2 years ago
Fat Activism, screeching 24/7 about diet culture, fat phobia, thin privilege and making Rebel Wilson’s weight loss all about them.
OnlyMyOpinion 2 years ago
This is probably the most judgey, picky, b:tcy article I have seen on BP. Doesn't feel right.
CanidaeVulpes 2 years ago
Really, there shouldn’t be any one thing that defines you. That would be…one dimensional :D I don’t know anyone who taken one thing and made it their entire persona
tuzdayschild 2 years ago
After reading these and the comments all I can say is...just let people be who they are. If it's not for you, don't participate.
R. H. 2 years ago
You ride a HONDA (snicker) My bikes outside, where's yours? The road is wet. It might rain, etc. (Went back to my beer)
2WheelTravlr 2 years ago (edited)
I don't care what you ride. My only consideration is if you're a rider or a biker. With bikers it's all about the bike and its cult of personality. Riders just ride, sure, they love their bike but as a tool - a fantastic means to an end.
Load More Replies... Thomas Bastiaan de Vos 2 years ago
Wow, this is not a good post..... Just because someone gives expression to an important part of their lives, doesn't mean they base their whole personality around that part. This seams more like an post about "what I feel uncomfortable seeing in other people about myself" and that's ok. Just don't express it like this, it makes you seem judgemental and petty.
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