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The_Splenda_Man , Ketut Subiyanto Report

35 People Share Things That Confuse Them But They're Too Afraid To Ask I feel like I’m really articulate when I’m going about my day especially over text, but as soon as I get into a verbal disagreement, it’s like my brain shuts off and I forget how to think. Like a deer in the headlights. I don’t remember it always being this way, but it’s like I struggle to accurately express myself.

Final score:

284points

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Foxxy (The Original) 3 years ago

I'm not very articulate but I have the exact same problem.

62points

35 People Share Things That Confuse Them But They're Too Afraid To Ask I have no idea how often I should text, call or hang out with a friend to maintain a friendship. Especially long distance. I’ve lost friends over the years because I hate texting and don’t understand how often I need to keep in touch with someone. The only friends I’ve kept are the ones I can meet in person.

iceunelle , Nathan Dumlao Report

Final score:

266points

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therarestbanana 3 years ago

Same!

56points

sixhoursneeze , SHVETS production Report

Redditor Wijting told Bored Panda that they were inspired to create the thread because they hope that it would help them work some stuff out. "The reason why I made the thread was because I had something on my mind. I think I've been doing something wrong for a while. I was hoping the thread would give me the courage to ask the question myself. To be honest, my particular problem compared to some answers on the thread was rather small," they opened up.

I was also interested to find out whether the redditor thinks that being candid in embarrassing and awkward situations actually helps bring people closer together. "People like honesty and honesty within any type of relationship will make the bond stronger. This is a personal view though," they told Bored Panda.

35 People Share Things That Confuse Them But They're Too Afraid To Ask I really wish someone could supervise me during social interactions and give me real honest feedback about what I am doing wrong.

Final score:

236points

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Kerstin Fransen 3 years ago

That would actually be amazing! I struggle with social interactions from time to time and I really wonder how I actually come across.

49points

35 People Share Things That Confuse Them But They're Too Afraid To Ask Parenting. For the last 20 years.

They all appear to be functioning human beings, so we can't be too far off the mark, but I do worry we've screwed up somewhere along the line and they'll pay the price for our mistakes in the future.

EnailaRed , Steven Van Loy Report

Final score:

186points

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James016 3 years ago

There is no one right way to parent. There are plenty of things you should never do though.

67points

35 People Share Things That Confuse Them But They're Too Afraid To Ask Flirting. Let's face it. I don't even know what the heck that is, how it works and what the difference between talking and flirting is. Funny enough, apparently that leads to me constantly flirty without wanting to be. At least, I often get told that I flirt with almost every single person I meet.

OverlyShyEnby , Katerina Holmes Report

Final score:

178points

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mulk 3 years ago

" I flirt with almost every single person I meet." : that's because you are a charming person ;)

84points

According to redditor Wijting, taking small steps "to build up courage" can be a good way to admit our flaws and ask someone for some helpful advice. "Try to hint at, or try to lead with smaller questions."

Wijting shared with me that they were "taken aback" by the response their thread got. "A lot of people think they are doing things wrong that I have always taken for granted. Not knowing how to shave, for instance. These questions have made me think if I'm actually doing these things wrong myself... Some questions were rather deep, and I do hope the people that have asked them got some satisfying answers."

Meanwhile, Age UK had this to say. "We know that our thinking skills change very gradually throughout our lives, but there are things we can do to help us to stay sharp," Age UK told Bored Panda. "Evidence from the Global Council of Brain Health suggests that having a positive mental attitude, a healthy diet, taking exercise, socializing, and engaging in new activities are all linked to better thinking skills later in life."

35 People Share Things That Confuse Them But They're Too Afraid To Ask Treating my depression.

I've been in therapy for years now, have tried various anti-depressants, made huge life changes including abstaining from alcohol, removed toxic relationships, even changing my diet. I've tried everything I can find, and, if anything, things are getting worse. It's getting to the point where tomorrow I have an appointment to find out if I have cancer, and can't decide if I will bother with treatment in the case that I do.

nubsauce87 , Nik Shuliahin Report

Final score:

149points

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Hedgielover98 3 years ago

Hugs. I know the feeling of meds, diet, etc not making a difference

72points

35 People Share Things That Confuse Them But They're Too Afraid To Ask My finances - no idea how to properly manage my money.

FinnbarMcBride , Kyle Murphy Report

Final score:

146points

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James016 3 years ago

Start by keeping a list of ALL of your spending, no matter how small an amount.

41points

35 People Share Things That Confuse Them But They're Too Afraid To Ask Life.

Like what I supposed to be doing? I have about 80 years total. So far, I’ve learned stuff, got married, and got a good job. Am I just grinding out the rest of my years?

OPmeansopeningposter , Huy Phan Report

Final score:

139points

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Daria B 3 years ago

Ever since the earliest age, we are introduced and guided through a set of rules. As a result, we expect there's always a task, or a model image for us to emulate. But once you're out of school, there's no more guidance. Now it's up to you to guide others. So you have to change the approach to life. Stop thinking in terms of "supposed to do" and start with "what do I really want to do? What is it that makes me happy?" If you're not sure, try to accumulate different kinds of experience, be it through hobbies, friendships, education, travel, work etc. And keep observing how you do within these and how it makes you feel, whether you want to keep it, improve it, or leave it. You have way more freedom than you know.

49points

According to a representative of Age UK, it's vital that we keep our bodies and our minds in tip-top shape. The relationship between the two is well-established, so taking care of your body is bound to have a positive effect on your mind, too.

"It is clear to scientists and doctors that keeping the blood vessels and blood flow healthy is also key to maintaining your brain function as you age so what is good for the heart is good for the brain too," Age UK points out.

However, some other things that help us stay curious and willing to learn and explore new things include having a strong sense of purpose and having an active social life as well. What's more, we ought to be as realistic as possible about our own limits and plan accordingly.

#10

35 People Share Things That Confuse Them But They're Too Afraid To Ask My job.

Everyone says I'm doing great and praises me for being so efficient or being ahead on my training but I feel like I'm constantly having to ask questions and do extensive research on what the f**k I'm supposed to do in specific situations.

KleinLoki , Ant Rozetsky Report

Final score:

127points

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Francis 3 years ago

imposter syndrome! i got that aswell

64points

concernedcitizen4520 , Brady Wahl Report

#11

35 People Share Things That Confuse Them But They're Too Afraid To Ask Literally just standing still. I have terrible posture.

Final score:

126points

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mulk 3 years ago

Strange walking is worst: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=eCLp7zodUiI

8points

#12

35 People Share Things That Confuse Them But They're Too Afraid To Ask Relationships. Throughout my life I've never gotten much romantic attention, and when I do receive it, I tend to be obnoxiously clingy, which leads to being left alone again. I don't know how to break this habit, because my emotions are just strong.

CrystalTear , Crew Report

Final score:

110points

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Katherine Boag 3 years ago

You just need to find someone that matches your behaviour

30points

"Keeping active and busy and discovering new things and even making sure we stay socially active all help to keep us brighter as we get older. Setting goals and making plans gives our lives meaning and purpose, but make sure they’re realistic plans. For example, rather than saying ‘I plan to exercise for one hour every day,’ plan instead to go for a 20-minute walk, three times a week."

Finding the courage to admit that you’re doing something wrong is commendable. Being brave enough to set your ego aside and actually reach out for help is worth applauding, in my personal opinion.

Earlier, I had a chat about healthy and unhealthy ways of showing embarrassment with regards to our knowledge blindspots with Vanessa Bohns from Cornell University.

#13

35 People Share Things That Confuse Them But They're Too Afraid To Ask Anything related to being an adult, straight up no F**king idea what I’m doing…

Giftyd , Oleg Magni Report

Final score:

108points

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eeeeeeeee 3 years ago

Perfect. You've got it!

55points

#14

35 People Share Things That Confuse Them But They're Too Afraid To Ask Standing up for myself and maintaining boundaries. I'm working on it but it's hard because I am just figuring it out (kind of) and people keep trying to push me back to being the doormat I used to be. It's so tempting to be that person again because I hate disrupting the calm, but I was just so tired.

skeptic_narcoleptic , Uriel Mont Report

Final score:

105points

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Brian Bennett 3 years ago

In any situation (as long as a gun isn't pointed at you) stand up for your self even toward people who think they are superior to you because no one is!

25points

#15

35 People Share Things That Confuse Them But They're Too Afraid To Ask Supervising. I am put in the position, but just rely on the efficiency of my subordinates. As soon as there's someone who's lazy or a troublemaker, I've got to figure out how to approach it.

sinf_wacht , Christina Morillo Report

Final score:

95points

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Stephanie Keith 3 years ago

Be encouraging but direct. It takes a kind, humble, straight forward, strong minded, truthful, and understanding person to be able to manage other people. We tend to think calling people out or getting other's to do their job properly. Is somehow mean or we don't want to come off as bossy. But the right attitude and getting to know those you manage somewhat personally. Helps you figure out how to guide them. Just remember to encourage and be nice. People usually want to do what you say when they feel needed and lifted up.

14points

"We spend a lot of time and effort presenting an ideal version of ourselves to other people. When something happens that contrasts with the image we’ve been projecting—when we say or do something that shows we actually aren’t as graceful or as smart as we’d like people to believe—we feel embarrassed," Vanessa told Bored Panda in a previous interview.

"Discovering you were wrong about something most everyone else around you has long known to be true is one of those moments. In that moment we learn, 'Wait a minute, maybe I haven’t been presenting the image of being smart or worldly that I thought I was presenting all this time,' which is embarrassing,” she noted that embarrassment comes from the contrast from what we thought was true and what reality is actually like.

#16

35 People Share Things That Confuse Them But They're Too Afraid To Ask Showering. I have very very long thick hair and I just kind of blast shampoo and conditioner at it. People ask me what I do to keep my hair so nice and I have no idea what to say. People seem to have such complex hair rituals and I’m here just apeing it up.

SkylordZoey , Jaysin Trevino Report

Final score:

94points

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Joonscrab 3 years ago

Humble brag lmao... I mean good for you for having thick healthy hair ig

70points

#17

35 People Share Things That Confuse Them But They're Too Afraid To Ask General conversation I just suck at talking to people I don't really know or don't know at all. Sometimes when I get tips for stuff I respond "yes" or "ok" or "thank you" and even that feels weird or wrong, even the action of saying "hello" feels off... It even happens with firends sometimes...

Burcus254525 , cottonbro Report

Final score:

93points

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Truth Monster 3 years ago

Try talking about the other person. Most people love talking about themselves. Find out about their hobbies, their pets, their favorite bands.

20points

#18

35 People Share Things That Confuse Them But They're Too Afraid To Ask Dating. Like how the f**k do you find people, that are equally interested in going out with you as you are with them. And then you somehow have to notice that they'd be interested in going out. I just don't understand it, and it sometimes makes me feel like I'll never go on one because of it

Ezechiell , René Ranisch Report

Final score:

85points

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MrOwlAteMyMetalWorm. 3 years ago

No no no ,the question is how the hell do people just agree to go on a date with humans they don't even know?! I am scared to go out with my friends.Forget that how do you trust ,it'll all be ok?What this blind faith?I am awkward just talking with humans I've known for decades.Dating is just plain scary.Well,relationships are scarier.But we somehow survive.

22points

However, embarrassment isn’t all that bad. In fact, it has some upsides that should have you rushing to embarrass yourself as often as you can. “One thing that’s interesting about embarrassment is that, for as much as we might experience it as painful in the moment, it’s actually very socially adaptive.”

Vanessa continued: “Being embarrassed signals to other people that you care about what they think. And that actually draws people in to you.” In short, embarrassment has painful short-term effects but very positive long-term effects. If we learn to deal with the former well, then we’ll be able to reap the latter.

#19

35 People Share Things That Confuse Them But They're Too Afraid To Ask Studying. I have no idea how other people do it. When I read something I retain very little of it, so I resort to writing down what I think are important details, which is most things for me, but it takes so long and I still have to rely on my brain to remember thing by simple repetition.

chocolateskittlez , energepic Report

Final score:

81points

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MelFunction 3 years ago

Writing it down is the only way I retain information. It takes a really long time, but it's the only thing that really works for me.

41points

#20

35 People Share Things That Confuse Them But They're Too Afraid To Ask How to handle anger? I'm too embarrassed to ask

Ok-Plastic-62 , engin akyurt Report

Final score:

80points

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Aman Varkkey 3 years ago

My friends used the gym as a way to help vent a lot of frustration he has, he says that it helps him think things through.

20points

trippin_on_daydreams , Andrew Neel Report

#21

35 People Share Things That Confuse Them But They're Too Afraid To Ask Is is bad to say everything I have no idea what the f**k I’m doing anymore

Final score:

64points

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Seonag Udell 3 years ago

This is how I feel all the time.

19points

“So blushing, burying your head in your hands, laughing, acknowledging how embarrassing something was, are all totally healthy ways to react,” Vanessa explained to Bored Panda. “The unhealthy way to react is to pretend you’re not embarrassed, that you didn’t make a mistake, or to get angry. Those things undo the positive effect of embarrassment typically has on other people by conveying insincerity and pushing people away rather than drawing them in.”

#22

35 People Share Things That Confuse Them But They're Too Afraid To Ask When I started my first job I didn't know if an 8 hour work day meant including the break or not, and I was too afraid to ask.

Penguin-Fairy , Martijn van Exel Report

Final score:

63points

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Sanne H. 3 years ago

Don’t people have contracts where it’s included?

26points

#23

35 People Share Things That Confuse Them But They're Too Afraid To Ask Parallel parking.

Poshbish , thienzieyung Report

Final score:

62points

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James016 3 years ago

For me I either parallel park perfectly on the first attempt or it is a total catastrophe with nothing in between.

11points

BenignFrustration , Daria Shevtsova Report

#24

35 People Share Things That Confuse Them But They're Too Afraid To Ask Kissing. I’ve had no complaints but it’s not really something your parents taught you to do properly (unless you’re into that)

Final score:

62points

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SentimentAndBadJokes 3 years ago

Let's hope not....

58points

#25

35 People Share Things That Confuse Them But They're Too Afraid To Ask How to speak up on problems or expressing certain emotions. I keep stuff bottled up inside

No_Leader_2711 , Kate Kalvach Report

Final score:

59points

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Maria Schneider 3 years ago

Because you are afraid of the possible reactions. Only trying and finding out you are accepted is helpful.

9points

ApolloThe3LeggedDog , Oladimeji Ajegbile Report

#26

35 People Share Things That Confuse Them But They're Too Afraid To Ask My PhD.

Going into my third year and I still don't feel as if I ever adjusted, or developed healthy habits.

Just trying to take it a day at a time and not procrastinate beyond no return.

Final score:

55points

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Kathryn Baylis 3 years ago

Stick with it. You’ll have the degree, instead of regrets about quitting when you were so close. A doctorate will also open more doors, especially in your field, so you’ll have jobhunting options. You’ll always have the fallback to teaching at the university level, where the real money is, as long as you stick with it long enough to gain tenure. Plus it allows you to continue doing research, and often fully funds it as well.

11points

PurpleStabsPixel , Wagner T. Cassimiro Report

#27

35 People Share Things That Confuse Them But They're Too Afraid To Ask Being a picky eater. So preparing food, I've been wanting to try new things, but I have no idea what to buy, how to prepare it, and it scares me to ask because I don't want it to sound like I'm some sort of alien.

Final score:

54points

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Katherine Boag 3 years ago

The best way (when there's no pandemic) is to ask a friend if you can try a bite of what they're eating. Or go to restaurants that encourage sharing. Or host a pot luck dinner

19points

#28

35 People Share Things That Confuse Them But They're Too Afraid To Ask The proper way to wipe my butt after pooping.

benjam1ng Report

Final score:

53points

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DumYum 3 years ago

Just never flush a wet wipe, no matter if it says flushable.

72points

#29

35 People Share Things That Confuse Them But They're Too Afraid To Ask Writing. I love writing, and have written a few short stories older the years, and I show it to friends of mine who read, but every single person has said they loved it. I ask for constructive criticism, and sometimes they want the story to go differently, but it's so damn rare I get an opinion on my actual writing. My descriptions, vocabulary, the flow of the story, etc. Well, too scared to ask someone who will give me an actual opinion.

Maxtrix07 , cottonbro Report

Final score:

49points

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Demi Zwaan 3 years ago

There are writer communities online that proofread eachothers work. You can also hire a professional proofreader. Google is your friend.

37points

#30

35 People Share Things That Confuse Them But They're Too Afraid To Ask Relationships.

I recently started out in the dating scene and i dont know whats the difference between being a couple and being really good friends.

Also: sex is really strange to me.

Viking_Ship , Khamkéo Vilaysing Report

Final score:

46points

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Joonscrab 3 years ago (edited)

You might be on the asexual / aromantic spectrum

39points

#31

35 People Share Things That Confuse Them But They're Too Afraid To Ask Nutrition.

gardenroses23 , Kari Sullivan Report

Final score:

44points

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Sarcastic Cow 3 years ago

A lot of vegetables, a lot of water, less processed food.

15points

#32

I'm a girl. Not sure if I'm supposed to shave the thin blonde hairs in my thighs or not. Sometimes they look darker, but sometimes they look blonde.

I shave the rest of my legs ( below the knee), but I'm in my 30s. Feels like I should know this already....

busycleaning Report

Final score:

42points

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Jihana 3 years ago

The saddest part is that this woman thinks she is SUPPOSED to shave certain body parts.

55points

Gunnard-Magnuson , Jennifer Feuchter Report

#33

35 People Share Things That Confuse Them But They're Too Afraid To Ask Gym exercises and weights. I am very afraid of the public gyms... I opted to buy my own weights and machines but... When lifting stuff I don't know if I am carrying too much or too little. Is it supposed to not hurt? My back hurts a bit when I'm doing basic stuff like dumbells.

Final score:

39points

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Anne 3 years ago

just get a personal trainer to come over for an hour

18points

#34

35 People Share Things That Confuse Them But They're Too Afraid To Ask Babysitting. I babysat a few times when I was 13 or 14, and I wasn’t sure if I was just supposed to check in on the kid, or play with them, or just like, make sure they're good. I’m really good at kid-sitting, but babysitting (or for me watching a kid under 7 years old) is just hard.

Teabeany , Lina Kivaka Report

Final score:

36points

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SentimentAndBadJokes 3 years ago

This just comes naturally to some people I guess. I've always loved little kids, and know how to interact with them, but can relate with very few people in my own age groups. Different people relate with different folks?

17points

#35

35 People Share Things That Confuse Them But They're Too Afraid To Ask Riding a bike. I hopped on one for the first time in 15+ years and loved it! So I bought a bike. But... I don't know if I'm shifting and turning and doing the road rules correctly. Are there resources for grown adults who can stop, go, dismount, but not much else?

abqkat , Dan Zen Report

Final score:

35points

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Dispatcherqueen 3 years ago

Google bicycle road rules for where you live

15points

Dutch Swimmer Goes Viral For Super Revealing Trunks During 2024 Olympics: “Is This Legal?”

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Thrill-Seeking Diver Jumps Down Extreme Waterslide, Ignoring The Strict Ban For Women

#36

Trying to save my 16 year marriage. My wife (35f) told me (35m) she wants a divorce (2 weeks before Im supposed to have spinal fusion surgery) and hopes we can figure out how to be friends for our 2 boys.

She has had a few emotional affairs (nothing physical), and is a bit of a narcissist (blames everyone else for her problems, and takes no responsibility. Accusess anyone who disagrees with her as attacking her, Refuses counseling, and has for years) and appears to be using this as a way to create content (tiktok). I freely admit, Im not perfect and have caused issues in our marriage.

therealcapthowdy Report

Final score:

29points

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Demi Zwaan 3 years ago

She doesn’t sound worth fighting for. Cheating emotionally is way WORSE then just physically. Lust can happen, even though in a good relationship you’d never act on it, but being emotionally attached to someone else means the current relationship is done.

44points

#37

Thinking, every time I speak someone say how what I just said is wrong and they are right

georgeps1234 Report

Final score:

25points

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Maria Schneider 3 years ago

Blame the others, they're disgusting

6points

#38

Programming.

I mean, I mostly understand the concepts, but I struggle and fail WAAAY more often than I succeed.

Dathouen Report

Final score:

21points

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Mohsie Supposie 3 years ago

We all do... Every programmer does. At least, that is how I have managed to learn programming.

8points

Woman Put A Water Fountain With A Camera In Her Yard, Here Are 24 Photos Of Regular Visitors (New Pics)

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#39

Parenting my child who is 12, born female but just asked us to use him/they pronouns and a male name. I’m a lesbian. My (37F) wife (47F) and I fully support our kiddo. But my thoughts wander, because I don’t feel like this kid is trans. I think they are on a journey of self discovery. Then I feel guilty. I just want to be 100% supportive. I am ashamed to be a member (advocate, equal rights-fighting lesbian) of the LGBTQ++ community and yet feel so helpless and confused.

thesebreezycolors Report

Final score:

20points

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Vicki Louise 3 years ago

I saw recently that Angelia Jolies kid has gone back to using female pronouns after insisting on being called John for years. Just be supportive, if it's a phase then they'll grow out of it naturally no matter how you respond. Better to be there for them than to make them feel like you don't understand them.

20points

#40

Not currently, but for the first 3 years neither my gf nor I knew how to use a can opener. We broke many over the years using them at 90° angles until finally I googled it.

bmcle071 Report

Final score:

17points

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Brian Bennett 3 years ago

Ever tried one of them electric contraptions?

0points

#41

35 People Share Things That Confuse Them But They're Too Afraid To Ask Brushing my teeth. Why do the foam tend to dribble down my chin and sometimes down my right arm? When did I bite the toothbrush? Why does my toothbrush wear out in a month? How do I brush my tongue well enough?

And washing my hair. I feel I over-wash it, but if I try lessening the washing, my hair sounds foamy when I dry it. Everyday, I live in the fear of shampoo still left in my hair.

charlie_wonka , Judy Van Impe Report

Final score:

16points

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Yevvie ART 3 years ago

Massage, not brush. Use a soft toothbrush. Take your time - divide your mouth into 4 sections and brush each for 30s. Use only a pea-sized amount of toothpaste. With hair, wash only the hair on your scalp and let the soapy water go down your whole hair to clean it while rinsing. This way you don't overdry your ends, as they need the oils to keep alive. The amount of shampoo and the type will depend on your hair. In my teens I needed to wash my short hair twice to get grease out, in my late 20s I need a lot more shampoo but only one wash as my hair is porous and dyed. Don't be afraid to experiment!

4points

50 Of The Most Incredible Shots That Were Submitted To The Comedy Wildlife Photography Awards

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#42

My marriage and dealing with mental health.

For starters, I’m 23 my wife is 21. I have pretty much ruined my marriage, what’s killing me is I don’t know how. We’re both in the Army. She went home for a medical emergency 2 weeks ago for 10 days. All she did was drink and party. Barely talked to me at all. Told me to leave her alone. She comes back. Acts super shady. Changed her password and sleeps with her phone under her pillow and when I ask who she’s talking to she says don’t worry about it or nobody. She wears glasses so I can clearly see her switching from Snapchat to another app… Got on her MacBook to talk to my mom on Skype and her texts popped up. Her friends were encouraging her to go hook up with an ex. She hung out with this dude several times when she was there. I am 90% sure she cheated on me. This weekend is our anniversary and she’s doing a girls weekend. I have no idea what to do. I try talking to her and she says she wants space and a break. I’m super f**king depressed. As I’m writing this I am on my 30th hour without sleep. I can’t get out of my own head. Im so depressed and I’m so alone. I’m so tired. Any advice is welcome. Not sure if this is the right place to post this

AlwaysLurking1997 Report

Final score:

15points

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Demi Zwaan 3 years ago

Yeah, get a divorce, this is clearly not working out. Then take some time to heal and love yourself, then go out and meet new people. You’ll find someone else. Someone who wants to be with you as much as you want to be with them.

34points

Woman Moves Out Of Parents' Home After They Asked Her To Give Her Space To Brother, They Freak Out

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#43

That I care way more for people than they care for me

__Valkyrie___ Report

Final score:

15points

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Nicole Blomkamp 3 years ago

People are assholes- take care of YOURSEF

5points

#44

Handling my partners depression and newly developed suicidal thoughts

Callmemuddled Report

Final score:

14points

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Maria Schneider 3 years ago

Maybe because you tried to help and found out you can't. Sounds hard, but you really can't. Simply BE THERE.

8points

#45

35 People Share Things That Confuse Them But They're Too Afraid To Ask Shaving.

LexLuthorJr , lokieduc8 Report

Final score:

13points

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Foxxy (The Original) 3 years ago

Apparently I can't shave properly coz I don't use anything except water and a razor. I thought that's how everyone shaved (except beards) until a friend told me that I'm supposed to use a cream, soap or lotion etc. Tried it, but found it irritating so I just do it the way I've always done it.

4points

#46

How to lock the petrol pump so I don't have to hold the handle the whole time will refueling. I know there's a little latch down there somewhere but it never works for me..

PeachfuzzX Report

Final score:

13points

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eeeeeeeee 3 years ago

This is no longer legal in the UK, (for obvious reasons) so it no longer works (unless you are a truck driver, as the guy says below, with a special device).

1point

#47

I've been living in my first apartment ever since april 2020. I vacuum clean regularly, but I never cleaned the floor with water. Is that bad? How do I get rid of the water on the floor, does it just dry up? I'm sorry for the noob question but I was literally too scared to ask somebody.

KevDero Report

Final score:

12points

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Dotti blue 3 years ago

You should vacuum once or even better twice a week. Your bath and kitchen should be cleaned with water every week, if you don't wear shoes inside, for the rest of the apartment, once a month wet cleaning is enough. You buy a mop, you put a bucket with water and cleaning detergent (special one for every floor type or an allrounder), you wet the mop and wring it out until it is not really wet any more, then you swipe a little part of the floor - repeat until finished. It is a very intense work. If there is water left on the floor wipe it up with another towel. Do not let the water on the floor! it will destroy your floor and if it is a lot or done often, even the apartment underneath yours.

6points

Woman Refuses To Chip In For Babysitting Because She Doesn’t Even Have Kids, Asks If She’s A Jerk

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#48

Being a dad. I think I’m doing okay at it, but won’t really know for a few years.

StefeSoo Report

Final score:

12points

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James016 3 years ago

For the first couple of years, the fact my son woke up every morning and I hadn’t accidentally killed him was my big achievement in my mind. Then I started to feel like I was doing ok.

8points

#49

Why Im just a loaner. Something about me drives people away. I'm too blind to see it but no it to be true. I have never been anyone's best friend. No friends reach out to me. I'm never invited anywhere. I'm obviously doing something wrong but not sure I want to find out.

mrmeanah Report

Final score:

11points

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eeeeeeeee 3 years ago

Find someone else who seems alone and reach out to them. Most people are too wrapped up in themselves to notice others, especially if you are quiet and waiting for them to come to you. There are many people alone and feeling like you are. Find some! Make your own friend group!

5points

Brian Bennett 3 years ago

Why maybe it was meant to be! Try to find people like yourself or someone who has the same interests for me it was reading!

1point

Paradise 3 years ago

Loner. LOL. you're a borrowed car? JK

0points

Spring Fisk 3 years ago

If you want friends, be a friend. I know you have probably heard this before but when I actually started doing this I started to have friends. It is hard because our first inclination is to think about ourselves but once you start thinking of others (being in their shoes) and what they need and want and what would help them it will get easier and easier.

0points

Zydakohdee-O 3 years ago

I agree to a degree but I have a somewhat different take... I see it as people are hesitant to be vulnerable to other people who may or may not reject them or their advances towards friendship. So if both people are being hesitant then they both will still be alone. One of them has to take the initiative and offer the first olive branch so to speak. You have to be willing to give up a bit of your vulnerability to allow the chances of friendship opportunities to be greater than what you have now. My wife is a lot better at this than I am. I am very introverted in the sense that I'm usually overwhelmed by the stressors of making small talk. I hate talking about sports and weather, which is a lot of what guys my age to talk about. Best of luck to you and put yourself out there a bit.

0points

#50

I don't know how to use spices and seasonings while cooking. The main ingredients are always cooked well but are missing something.. I only know how to add salt but anything else scares me like...do i add a tiny bit of spices? a handful? do i mix stuff together and hope it tastes good? I have no idea despite coming from a culture that uses a lot of seasoning. Everything I have learned to cook is white people food because my culture's food takes so long to prepare and cook my mom can't stand anyone in the kitchen with her during it >__< rip.

froggywitch Report

Final score:

11points

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Yevvie ART 3 years ago

Experiment! Try with a little bit, sprinkle it throughout the food, see if you like it like that, up the amount next time if it still feels lacking. Over the years you'll find what you like and in what amount.

4points

"I Didn't Start The Dryer": Karen Gets Taught A Lesson After Throwing Out Neighbor's Wet Clothes

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#51

Calculus 2

This happened last semester. I was horrible at integrals and didn't want my classmates to find out how much of a dumbass I was.

BrownSugar08 Report

Final score:

10points

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beastmachine. 3 years ago

Try using RD Sharma, pretty simple book for understanding basic calculus.

2points

#52

Empathy. I don’t know if I experience empathy normally or if it’s too low.

Elliot_The_Idiot7 Report

Final score:

10points

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Evil Little Thing 3 years ago

Neurotypical people do not need to learn empathy because it comes naturally, but a certain subset of every population has different frontal lobe function and low-activating mirror neurons, and we don't naturally understand other people's feelings. We can learn cognitive empathy and we can decide to respect other people's feelings even if we don't understand them.

4points

SexcaliburHorsepower Report

#53

There's so many big life things in here, mine all feel simple. I'm not sure how to shave, nobody ever taught me so I kind of just do whatever to shape my face up. Making coffee, how many scoops do I use? But what 30 year old man asks how to make coffee? Cooking is hard in general but I just make things until they look or taste done. HOW DO I PROPERLY CLEAN MY HEDGEHOGS CAGE ON A 3RD STORY APARTMENT? You can just dust s**t off outside... or can you? What if it gets on my neighbors stuff?

Final score:

10points

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SentimentAndBadJokes 3 years ago

I'm sorry, this just made be laugh. It's too trivial to take deadpan XD

4points

“All Three Shot Out Pink”: Triplets' Baby Shower Turns Sour, Pregnant Wife Wants A Divorce

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#54

The balance between being emotionally mature and a pushover. I can never seem to get the balance right and I always end up being a b**** or getting walked all over

Marionette777 Report

Final score:

10points

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Daniela Skovajsova 3 years ago

Do what feels right to you. How people perceive you is their issue, not yours. If you express your self authentically (you do not judge, you express your feelings, what is going on inside of you), then you can sleep soundly and stop caring so much about other peoples’ opinions. Notice the difference between “You look good” and “I like the way you look.” First one is judgment (even when positive) and the other one is expressing your opinion and/or feeling. Another example is “You piss me off” and “I am angry with what you just said/did.” Good for you to ask this, I hope you will find your way!

3points

CluelessEngineer82 Report

#55

Using Reddit. Specifically the quote feature. No idea how to do it. (Exclusively using Reddit app on iPhone).

Final score:

9points

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Albino 3 years ago

Highlighting it in the test (when answering), it gives you that option then.

2points

#56

I'm worried I made a bad decision. Everyone tells me it was a good decision but it feels wrong.

I was self employed, doing pretty well, making ends meet. I made my own schedule, the work changed often, I loved what I was doing. But I was not declaring any income, not paying taxes, no insurance, no way to expand....basically no future until I died working...but I was happy.

I got a "real" job. I now work in a factory. Paying taxes, have health insurance, paid weekly with no variability, bonuses...and I hate it. No climate control, 50 hours a week minimum, 2nd shift, bringing home less money after everything. I keep telling myself I am doing this so I can buy my house in 2 years...but I don't think this job will ever make more than 45k/yr. I feel like once again I am gonna die working but this time it will be miserable doing something I hate instead of happy doing something I love.

But everyone else feels comfortable with it, so Its gotta be right, right?

MkLiam Report

Final score:

9points

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Demi Zwaan 3 years ago

Uhm, what about being your own boss ánd not being fraudulent? You can pay taxes, get insurance, etc. while being self employed…

14points

#57

Therapy. My psychologist constantly tells me it's small steps but it feels like nothing is changing. He wants me to catalogue each day devoid of emotion and it feels so pointless. What does it matter if I spent all day playing a game and then the next reading? Most of my anxiety is from external sources that I can't control and therapy hasn't reduced it at all so far. This is my third therapist, my second one did help but I moved. Basically I set a few goals and it feels like I'm not even moving towards them. It's gotta be me doing something wrong because I know he's a talented and qualified therapist. Or maybe I'm just expecting results too soon.

Tbf my issues are complex. But idk. I just want to be better.

OriiAmii Report

Final score:

9points

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pusheen buttercup 3 years ago

Ask to zoom remote therapy with the one you feel was helping

5points

#58

When they say 2% milk, I don’t know what the other 98% is.

altiif Report

Final score:

8points

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Demi Zwaan 3 years ago

It’s 2% milk fat and 98% milk.

11points

#59

Oxford commas.

cj_cusack Report

Final score:

8points

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Sleazy Weaver 3 years ago

The Oxford comma is the comma after the second to last item in a list of things. Let's say we're writing a grocery list. Without an Oxford comma, it would be "eggs, milk, bacon and bread." With an Oxford comma it would be "eggs, milk, bacon, and bread." It separates bacon from bread with a comma. It comes after the second to last word, before the word and. This can be very useful when seeing two things as related could change the context completely. For example, "The party had strippers, Washington and Lincoln." With an Oxford comma you would be able to tell I'm saying strippers were at the party, as well as Washington and Lincoln. Without the comma, it can be read as though Washington and Lincoln are the strippers. Hope this makes sense for anyone confused about the Oxford comma!

19points

#60

My whole job lol. I didn’t ask questions when I first started and now all of a sudden I’m a manager but I don’t know how to do anything

misternuggies Report

Final score:

7points

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DumYum 3 years ago

Just have your department each submit their job description to you. Say you need it to make sure they understand all their job responsibilities. LOL

7points

#61

Planning with friends. I feel as though if I'm ever a part of some hang out with my friends it's because I'm the one that's setting it up. It seems like I'm not really invited to anything and i don't really know how to approach that. I don't feel as though they don't want to hang out with me but I also don't wanna be the guy who demands he gets invited to stuff and I don't really know how to take this.

Megamage778 Report

Final score:

7points

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Paradise 3 years ago

"You saw *Movie*? I hear thats a good one, cant wait to see it. Next movie let me know I'm up for it!" "A pottery class? sounds cool, maybe I can join you sometime."

1point

#62

Walking, it's silly I know. But I broke my leg when I was 2 and according to family learned to walk with a cast, then had to learn to walk without it again. I just know my walk is messed up because of it, but I'm afraid that if I ask my Dr for a referral to fix it that she won't take me seriously. It's kinda also why I don't run, my run is worse

FlowerPower_Daisy Report

Final score:

6points

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Yevvie ART 3 years ago

Just tell your doc the story and ask for help. Walking wrong can affect your spine and cause you a lot of posture problems over the years, so for your own wellbeing, try to go and get it fixed. If you're dead serious, they'll take you serious. If they wont, go to another doc.

4points

#63

I've been driving for 15 years and when a merge lane is ending with no cars around I don't know what I should actually be doing. It was only just recently when my buddy driving turned into the ending side of passing lane almost right away that I was like hmm? Wonder if I'm doing wrong all along

I'm just lazy and stay in the closing lane until the end

cory140 Report

Final score:

6points

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Spring Fisk 3 years ago

I did not really learn this till latter in life but it is considered polite to try to merge as soon as you see that your lane is merging. People get grumpy if you go all the way to the end and then merge. It ends up slowing down traffic and it is kind of like you are cutting in line.

2points

#64

I got my Bachelors in Chemistry this Spring and have sent out a nice few resumes and had one interview (didn't get the job) but now I have no idea what I want to keep doing. There isn't many opportunities in my province and the thought of having to possibly move to the other side of Canada alone to a place where I know no one and have never been before is terrifying.

While I was still in uni I had a set routine of what I can expect to be doing for the next year but now that is all gone and I feel so lost. Do I stick around here for god knows how long and try and get a job related to my degree in this province? Do I go back to school next year and try and do something else to go along with my degree (Education degree or something)? Do I bite the bullet and move away knowing that it will wreck me mentally? I have no idea

Migoobear5 Report

Final score:

5points

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beastmachine. 3 years ago

Well sometimes you need to move out of your comfort zone to achieve something, I too am leaving my hometown for Uni next week and I too am scared but hey man you aren't alone, everyone faces these problems. You could also try online/distance learning couses if you aren't still able to move away for jobs.

2points

#65

Using the clutch on a manual vehicle. I have heard you're not supposed to keep the clutch depressed while your approaching stop lights or standing at them. They say it wears more when you do, but I never understood how. The way I understand clutches, they should wear less while the clutch is disengaged because all the parts that wear are not pressed into each other causing friction.

I use my clutch a lot when I drive at low speeds, because no one ever told me you shouldn't until i had the habits built. No one has ever been able to explain the problem to me, even with some googling.

theblade4x4 Report

Final score:

5points

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Hayhaypaula 3 years ago

If you don't depress the clutch at a stop, your engine will stall, since giving it any gas would make it move the car forward. Did someone tell you to put the gear in neutral when you stop? That would let you let the clutch up without stalling the engine, but it isn't an efficient way to drive. I keep my clutch in at a stop, or when slowing, and use that time to shift into the gear number that I will need next (usually first gear at a stop). I also use a combo of partial clutch and gas to keep my car from rolling back on a hill! This is a skill - not a failing. Clutches don't wear out that fast. Don't worry about it!

3points

#66

My degree, I'm not exactly failing but I'm not doing too good either and I know I could do better if I just tried, but I just don't have the anymore

PM_ME_YOUR_B00BAS Report

Final score:

3points

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Kristin Ingersoll 3 years ago

Maybe take a break? Go work for a year. Give some serious thought to if the degree is what you want. Would a different degree get you interested and engaged again? If you take time off and find yourself happier, then maybe school isn't right for you right now. Maybe take a longer break? It sounds like you need to shake things up, no matter what.

1point

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What do you think ?

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Getthepopcornout 3 years ago

This post makes me realise I am really not alone with some of what I sometimes consider ridiculous thoughts/feelings/questions/fears. We're all just winging it really!

21points

wawiw66250 3 years ago

This comment has been deleted.

0points

MrOwlAteMyMetalWorm. 3 years ago (edited)

Do redditors know ,we have full blown discussions about their lives on BP?

14points

$copper-fractions avatar$

Tiny Dynamine 3 years ago

I'm sure some of them do as reddit posts feature on about 90% of BP posts.

6points

Data1001 3 years ago

Good lord, have none of these people heard of YouTube? Aside from very specific questions, they could find nearly any answer there.

10points

Paradise 3 years ago

I concur

0points

Demi Zwaan 3 years ago

Well, most of these questions should’ve been addressed by parents in raising their kids and most others are easily googled. Do people not raise kids anymore? Just feed, keep alive and done?

4points

Dani_has_arrived <3 3 years ago (edited)

Probably not relevant but sometimes I forget to breathe?

1point

Penny Kemper 3 years ago

Jeez... some of these people can learn online

1point

TiaMa 3 years ago

Small talk. I'm fine starting it and exchanging 3-5 sentences, but after that I lose my attention completely and I'm stuck saying "uh-huh" and "that's nice" for oh so much longer.

1point

Joi Cain 3 years ago

I google errrthing!

1point

Seabeast 3 years ago

One of the good things to come from the internet is that people who previously felt alone and thought they were the only people on earth to ever feel uncertain about how to do things now have all sorts of online communities where they can learn things.

1point

Tonja Massie 3 years ago

I would really like an answer to the study question. Been in college for a couple years now and still feel like I'm not doing it right

0points

Everything AGR 3 years ago

So much of this is just imposter syndrome. If someone thinks youre doing well, even if you dont really know what ur doing, just keep doing it!! its working apparently!! fake it til u make it lol

0points

Izzy_ 3 years ago

Been married for 9 years now and my husband and I have absolutely no idea what a marriage is supposed to feel like. We're pretty much just two big kids playing house, who occasionally argue about stupid stuff

0points

Paradise 3 years ago

Well, if it works it works. No set rules for marriage there.

0points

Marnie 3 years ago

I looked at the first dozen or so, and it wasn't what I expected. I was hoping for me quirky things like they shave their legs with a butter knife.

0points

Julie 3 years ago

Wow, a bunch of scared, insecure people out there. All of us are scared but we buck up, brave up, and grow up and ask in order to learn.

0points

Paradise 3 years ago

And unfortunately this advise falls flat on people who want their hand held through life. I get sympathizing and empathizing as I get anxious at some stuff-socially really, but sometimes it is too much and people cannot even function theyre too scared.

0points

sylvantic 3 years ago

three things: 1. how to not move around constantly (i'm always moving. always. when i stay still it feels wrong, kinda like my limbs aren't there? idk. i think what i do is called stimming but i'm neurotypical to my knowledge so idk) 2. how to social interact. i get really into things and want to tell everyone everything about it that i know but im bad at reading cues so idk when people get bored.

0points

Paradise 3 years ago (edited)

You sound autistic vs neurotypical actually.

0points

Anne 3 years ago

Bored Panda should stop stealing Reddit topics.. we all give super good advice to the questions.. but.. because the posts originate on Reddit.. the poster will never see the advice.

0points

J. F. 3 years ago

But the pandas with similar problems will see it

11points

K Witmer 3 years ago

My best friend and I went to the midnight screening of each movie. We took turns paying brought our wine tumblers. Yes we were in our late 30s no I'm not ashamed it was so much fun.

-1point

K Witmer 3 years ago

Oops that was meant for the twilight post lol

4points

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Getthepopcornout 3 years ago

This post makes me realise I am really not alone with some of what I sometimes consider ridiculous thoughts/feelings/questions/fears. We're all just winging it really!

21points

wawiw66250 3 years ago

This comment has been deleted.

0points

MrOwlAteMyMetalWorm. 3 years ago (edited)

Do redditors know ,we have full blown discussions about their lives on BP?

14points

$copper-fractions avatar$

Tiny Dynamine 3 years ago

I'm sure some of them do as reddit posts feature on about 90% of BP posts.

6points

Data1001 3 years ago

Good lord, have none of these people heard of YouTube? Aside from very specific questions, they could find nearly any answer there.

10points

Paradise 3 years ago

I concur

0points

Demi Zwaan 3 years ago

Well, most of these questions should’ve been addressed by parents in raising their kids and most others are easily googled. Do people not raise kids anymore? Just feed, keep alive and done?

4points

Dani_has_arrived <3 3 years ago (edited)

Probably not relevant but sometimes I forget to breathe?

1point

Penny Kemper 3 years ago

Jeez... some of these people can learn online

1point

TiaMa 3 years ago

Small talk. I'm fine starting it and exchanging 3-5 sentences, but after that I lose my attention completely and I'm stuck saying "uh-huh" and "that's nice" for oh so much longer.

1point

Joi Cain 3 years ago

I google errrthing!

1point

Seabeast 3 years ago

1point

Tonja Massie 3 years ago

I would really like an answer to the study question. Been in college for a couple years now and still feel like I'm not doing it right

0points

Everything AGR 3 years ago

So much of this is just imposter syndrome. If someone thinks youre doing well, even if you dont really know what ur doing, just keep doing it!! its working apparently!! fake it til u make it lol

0points

Izzy_ 3 years ago

0points

Paradise 3 years ago

Well, if it works it works. No set rules for marriage there.

0points

Marnie 3 years ago

I looked at the first dozen or so, and it wasn't what I expected. I was hoping for me quirky things like they shave their legs with a butter knife.

0points

Julie 3 years ago

Wow, a bunch of scared, insecure people out there. All of us are scared but we buck up, brave up, and grow up and ask in order to learn.

0points

Paradise 3 years ago

0points

sylvantic 3 years ago

0points

Paradise 3 years ago (edited)

You sound autistic vs neurotypical actually.

0points

Anne 3 years ago

Bored Panda should stop stealing Reddit topics.. we all give super good advice to the questions.. but.. because the posts originate on Reddit.. the poster will never see the advice.

0points

J. F. 3 years ago

But the pandas with similar problems will see it

11points