“Living In Hawaii”: 30 Things People Dream Of Until They Actually Get It

The grass is always greener on the other side. But if you spend your entire life trying to reach that other side, will you suddenly be happy once you get there? Or will you be filled with disappointment?

Redditors have recently been discussing things that people often think they want until they actually get them. This could be a huge house, their dream job, children, the opportunity to move abroad or anything else that many people fantasize about. But the reality is that we're all different, and these things simply might not actually be for you. Enjoy scrolling through this list of items and opportunities you might assume you want too, and be sure to upvote the ones that you wish more people would be honest about.

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“Living In Hawaii”: 30 Things People Dream Of Until They Actually Get It As a tween, it was my period. The novelty of "becoming a woman" immediately evaporated.

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“Living In Hawaii”: 30 Things People Dream Of Until They Actually Get It Kids

I think most people are not prepared even if they love their kids. The majority of parents suffer and so do the kids.

I guess being in education I see first hand lots of parents who should not have had kids. .

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“Living In Hawaii”: 30 Things People Dream Of Until They Actually Get It A (really) big house. There is so much maintenance, expense, just keeping track of all your stuff… higher utility bills, more taxes, probably an HOA, just cleaning it is an impossible task without hiring professionals.

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“Living In Hawaii”: 30 Things People Dream Of Until They Actually Get It To be older.

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“Living In Hawaii”: 30 Things People Dream Of Until They Actually Get It A high paying job. Making good money is enticing but when your work starts to consume your life and deteriorate your mental health, the money isn’t worth it anymore.

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“Living In Hawaii”: 30 Things People Dream Of Until They Actually Get It Leaving their significant other for someone else only for that person not to be all that good.

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“Living In Hawaii”: 30 Things People Dream Of Until They Actually Get It Brexit.

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“Living In Hawaii”: 30 Things People Dream Of Until They Actually Get It Retirement. My dad bought a house on a small, quiet island when he retired. Some people can only dream of doing something like that.

3 months into it he realised he was bored as f**k. All he does is watch tv all day now. He's miserable on that island.

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“Living In Hawaii”: 30 Things People Dream Of Until They Actually Get It Myself included on this one— but I know many people that have certain kinks/fetishes they’ve always wanted to try, and totally did *not* enjoy it once it became a reality.

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TotallyNOTAFox 7 months ago

Fiction is always more exciting than reallity

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Mary Lou 7 months ago

I think it's not so much the exitement, but the fact that: - you are in total control of your fantasy (however submissive you imagine yourself) and the other person will always act just right - IRL knees hurt, things itch and in general don't feel as sexy as in fantasy

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Sarah Kathrin Matsoukis 7 months ago

Sex in general for me. High sex drive but the act does nothing for me I'm frustrated beyond belief.

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M O'Connell 7 months ago

You certainly aren't alone in that feeling!

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Bexxxx 7 months ago

Amen! I feel you!

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leendadll 7 months ago

A lot of effort for a little, or no, reward.

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Michael Brown 7 months ago

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UncleJohn3000 7 months ago

Having is not the same as wanting ~ Mr. Spock

11points

Captain McSmoot 7 months ago

This is why people should explore. With some things, you'll never know until you try.

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Jack and Coke 7 months ago

Try everything twice, you might have done it wrong the first time.

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Eiryn Elliott 7 months ago

Can blame this mostly on porn, which gives a VERY skewed image of what kink actually is. Also, it's not lived, it's fantasy, which of course is something completely in the control of the person's mind. I'm a hard core kinkster and deal with newbies (cis men) that always have unrealistic expectations of kink.

6points

David 7 months ago

One girlfriend wanted me to spank her. It was just a one time thing. I tried to comply but was super not into it. And another time (years apart) a different woman wanted me to talk dirty to her. Which for her was basically trash talking her. I just couldn't. I'm really not into 'romance' where I'm being abusive to my partner.

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FluffyDreg 7 months ago

That's... the point of trying new things?

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Jennlyn 7 months ago

It really is

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Bexxperience 7 months ago

On the other hand, just go for it. There's only one way to find out if you're actually into it. It's the stigma connected especially with kinks and sexual fetishes and the fear of consequences of being found out and as a result NOT trying those things that is making a lot of people unhappy or downright miserable. "Don't kinkshame" should become a general rule. You want to try something, you do it, you don't like it? Well, don't do it again then. Or change what you didn't particularly enjoy about it and maybe try again. Or don't. But supressing those curiousities isn't that great either long term.

2points

LittleTeapot 7 months ago

It’s a psychologically recognized part of our desires/sexuality that we can desire something as a fantasy that we would never be able to replicate to the same effect in reality. It’s the benefit of essentially playing all roles when it’s all in your own head!

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Michael Brown 7 months ago

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DC 7 months ago

When those awful movies were in the cinemas ... everybody was oh-so kinky, and into something they saw there, and they needed to discuss that everywhere. So edgy.

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Alyssa Phillips 7 months ago

I was on the fence with that. I totally agree the movies were abysmal. BUT it made lifestyle choices less taboo. BUT so many people started showing up to parties and getting mad at the reality. BUT some people really found their niche. Conundrum.

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Csaba Horvath 6 months ago

But you try it to find out how it is.

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LAWLAWLAW 7 months ago

The orgy I went to was actually better than I was expecting

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Definitely a Human 7 months ago (edited)

If you tried it once and didn't like it, then you never actually had that fetish or kink.

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Janice Sanz 7 months ago

Yeah, no

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RiceRiceBaby 929 7 months ago

I say what what, in the butt

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Lavern Defazio 7 months ago

I don't know. Maybe just watch?

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“Living In Hawaii”: 30 Things People Dream Of Until They Actually Get It To get back with an ex.

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“Living In Hawaii”: 30 Things People Dream Of Until They Actually Get It Their dreams fulfilled.

I was watching "Soul" and it hit hard when he finally got what he'd been chasing forever and ended up with a serious case of... "now what?"

Edit: Wow, so many people seem to have resonated with this, what I dubbed "the tragedy of the dream fulfilled". Many of you commiserate, others gave good advice.

I wish all of you the best on your journeys.

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“Living In Hawaii”: 30 Things People Dream Of Until They Actually Get It Living in Hawaii. The number of people that I know that dream of living here have no idea. I've lived here for 2 years and can't wait to leave.

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“Living In Hawaii”: 30 Things People Dream Of Until They Actually Get It An affair. People fantasize, sure - having problems with your spouse or feeling unappreciated? Marriage counseling, divorce, etc. All better options than infidelity. It's leaves lasting scars and tears apart families. Over the last several years I feel like I've seen such an increasing number of families destroyed.

I know one husband that went off to the oil fields because his wife requested he find a better job. Dude is gone 6 months of the year (in two month increments). Wife starts feeling lonely and unappreciated and has an affair with a co worker. It's taken four years for one of her kids to even talk to her again. Bad blood everywhere. Marriage counseling, communication, even a divorce if it was needed all could have avoided the situation.

Another example: One of my co-workers was told by his wife "I've had an affair, it's been going on for a month." He decides to forgive, go to marriage counseling, fix whatever was broken. Well she continues to have an affair because she's still having something of an existential crisis and is feeling extra condemened for her actions. Basically she told him she was having an affair at the beginning of what turned into a year long ordeal. She started the affair while pregnant. Two young kids already in the house. Her husband is still in the mindset of fixing whatever is broken. I watched this dude get dragged through the mud for a year. He's got severe PTSD now. Is a shell of who he used to be.

Affairs are basically a hand grenade in your life and everyone around you.

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“Living In Hawaii”: 30 Things People Dream Of Until They Actually Get It Being in a boss or leadership position. The pay is nice but the amount of pointless b******t is just ridiculous. Bosses have bosses and basically I'm just a messenger letting my employees know how their job is going to suck more...for absolutely nothing in return. Which they blame me for. There are better ways to make way more money for being hated....

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“Living In Hawaii”: 30 Things People Dream Of Until They Actually Get It Being a business owner. Everyone thinks you just make your own hours and work whenever you want. Id trade it all to clock out at 5pm.

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“Living In Hawaii”: 30 Things People Dream Of Until They Actually Get It Fame.

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“Living In Hawaii”: 30 Things People Dream Of Until They Actually Get It An open relationship.

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“Living In Hawaii”: 30 Things People Dream Of Until They Actually Get It Is mental illness one? I feel like everyone is self diagnosing using webmd as a checklist and now everyone is saying they have something but it’s nothing as debilitating as real mental illnesses.

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“Living In Hawaii”: 30 Things People Dream Of Until They Actually Get It When I was a kid I really wanted a cast or crutches. Yeah, really not a good idea.

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“Living In Hawaii”: 30 Things People Dream Of Until They Actually Get It Living off grid. Boats. Livestock other than goats or chickens.

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“Living In Hawaii”: 30 Things People Dream Of Until They Actually Get It A boat, so my dad was given this great job and he bought a boat. Everyone was so hyped. Now I occasionally host parties on it, my dad ocationally goes to swim and only uses the boat as a dock and that's about it, no one uses the boat and the parking spot and maintenance costs are not cheap.

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“Living In Hawaii”: 30 Things People Dream Of Until They Actually Get It A pool. Unless you have a lot more money lol.

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“Living In Hawaii”: 30 Things People Dream Of Until They Actually Get It To elect a non-politician to political office.

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Sex in a pool or hot tub.

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“Living In Hawaii”: 30 Things People Dream Of Until They Actually Get It To be in charge.

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“Living In Hawaii”: 30 Things People Dream Of Until They Actually Get It A “crazy” gf. yeah it’s all fun and game until i’m messaging you in detail abt how i just hurt myself expecting you to not care. bpd and other “crazy” disorders aren’t cute. stop romanticizing it.

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“Living In Hawaii”: 30 Things People Dream Of Until They Actually Get It Hookups. On the 100th hookup, I assure you, your balls won't be the only thing empty. You'll realize that what you're really after is the warm embrace of someone to share intimacy with.

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“Living In Hawaii”: 30 Things People Dream Of Until They Actually Get It A private jet. unless you fly extremely frequently the cost of maintenance outweighs any pros.

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“Living In Hawaii”: 30 Things People Dream Of Until They Actually Get It The chance to meet a hero.

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“Living In Hawaii”: 30 Things People Dream Of Until They Actually Get It A nympho partner.

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#31

I thought I really wanted my belly button pierced but it was annoying and always irritated from my pants etc so it didn’t last and left a scar.

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#32

Exercise equipment.

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#33

A puppy. They're not just cute they're a pain in the a*s.

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For anybody who wants to homestead/live self sustainable: skip Cornish Cross Chickens. Short of industrial food production they’re not worth the hassle. They’re not gonna live long enough to reproduce so their not actually self sustainable, buying them is always a hassle and chances are 25%-40% are gonna be dead on delivery because they don’t do well in the mail. They’ll s**t more than you can imagine so you have to build a chicken tractor or shovel an entire coop 3-4 times a week to keep them healthy. Finally your gonna end up butchering all of them within about a week so most of them will end up in the freezer, and personally, after spending two and a half days butchering and defeathering the smelliest, nastiest, fattest chickens, I’ve ever seen I wasn’t in the mood for chicken for a hot minute.

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#35

McDonald's. It's so incredibly mid, at the same time it's getting more and more expensive.

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#36

Being recognized by strangers in public.

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“Living In Hawaii”: 30 Things People Dream Of Until They Actually Get It An overly attractive SO

You need to be overly attractive yourself or have rock solid self esteem to watch them get hit on or flirted with by the whole planet everytime you leave the house.

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#38

Job.

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“Living In Hawaii”: 30 Things People Dream Of Until They Actually Get It A pool table.

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“Living In Hawaii”: 30 Things People Dream Of Until They Actually Get It A real goth girlfriend.

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#41

In my opinion, true online privacy. After installing Linux, using proton mail, creating over 20 fake emails and such, and a bunch of other stuff it kinda sucks. Like I will never go back, but I spend like $140 bucks a year on services to make sure I can not be tracked online, and the user experience is worse than just using windows and having a jolly good day. I personally can deal with it, and I am now a Linux Mint user. But most people would not want, nor be able to understand how to switch to different programs or how to use them. Add that it takes money that most people would rather spend on other stuff, and overall most people will never make the switch.

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Whatever the new shiny is in some battle pass.

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Aussiegirl 7 months ago

I thought having smaller boobs would make me happy, finally had a reduction & then I could see my stomach & then wanted it to be smaller. Never going to be happy with my body 🤪

Bouche and Audi and Shyla, Oh My! 7 months ago

We went to the zoo. I was 10? The gift shop had an adorable monkey doll in a cute little blue dress. The monkey could suck its thumb. I wanted it so badly. Our parents said we could get something five dollars or less. I got the monkey! Going home in the car, I got annoyed with the monkey. It just didn't seem as cute anymore. It ended up living in the bottom of the toy box. I could never remember why I wanted it so badly.

Sunday Destiny Nice 7 months ago

Yes you're very right!!!

Dre Mosley 7 months ago

I remember when I couldn't wait until I had to start shaving. Turns out, I don't like doing it and often have stubble/five o'clock shadow because I put it off and don't do it daily.

5points

Mike F 7 months ago

And the bumps/random rashes are a pain in the @ss.

Katie Lutesinger 7 months ago

Be careful what you wish for, lest ye end by getting it.

April Armstrong 6 months ago

In my 20s I was so sad cuz my friends had boyfriends, I was seriously so deflated thinking I would never have a boyfriend or get married. Now I'm 68 yrs old after 3 marriages and 1 son. When my 3rd husband died 2 years ago I was so relieved and adore living alone!

Meami 6 months ago

Mine was dating my crush in college. The guy was a flaming narcissist. It ended badly, needless to say.

Croissanterang 7 months ago

Sounds like aspiration sucks.

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