Most of us have likely met a person or two who don’t take things too seriously, be it health, relationships, or something way less important. However, sometimes even the seemingly insignificant things shouldn’t be played down too much.
Members of the ‘Ask Reddit’ community recently discussed things that many people take too lightly when they shouldn’t. While some emphasized the dangers of situations such as moving water or driving, for instance, others focused on social issues, like dehumanizing other people or holding individuals accountable for their actions, all of which some might consider not to be a big deal. Scroll down to find more of their answers on the list below, and make sure to upvote those you agree with the most.
Below you will also find Bored Panda’s interviews with two health experts, Professor in Social and Decision Sciences at Carnegie Mellon University, Dr. Gretchen Chapman, and Professor of Health and Human Sciences at Loyola Marymount University, Dr. Hawley Almstedt, who were kind enough to answer a few of our questions about why people shouldn’t take certain things lightly.

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Y'all won't like this, but religion. As a Christian, it is sickening to see so many of my fellow "Christ Followers" treat others like s**t.
Even if you disagree with the way someone is living, keep your opinion to yourself and love on them like you would anyone. We're all broken and nobody is perfect, so unless you're attempting to help someone in good faith, your judgement only serves to harm others.
As a former Christian, it was sickening to see how women/ girls are treated like second-hand human beings. Always expected to sacrifice their dreams and needs in favor of men, and to be permanently "ashamed". "Why should I be ashamed, I didn't do anything wrong?" "Because you are a woman, and a woman led Adam into temptation." Wtf?!
They're definitely oblivious to the fact that it is THEIR behavior which is driving people away. They blame (depending on the decade) music, TV, video games, no-fault divorce [JD Vance], LGBTQ, drag queens, liberals, etc. but lack the self-awareness to ever look in the mirror and see the real cause.
Load More Replies...this is so true. I've known some so-called Christians who were the most vile people I've encountered in my life.
All religions have their own tunder-strucked peoples. Nature of the human being
Load More Replies...Seems so simple doesn't it..?especially when their own Teacher stated "love one another" as replacing all the old testament laws, but here we are, nobody bothers to grasp the one simple act that could change everything for the better, 2000 years later.
It's bizarre how people manage to turn the words of the Bible to support whatever they want while ignoring the rest. And for the most part ignoring the main message, which is to love each other.
Load More Replies...As a Christian I agree, the reason people hate Christians is because of Christians, it's ironic
“I like your Christ, I do not like your Christians. Your Christians are so unlike your Christ.” - Mahatma Gandhi
Load More Replies...Jesus's talk is all about love - perfect love, love thy neighbour - who is everyone and everything. Some Christians forget this.
Knew if I googled it, I could find this quote "34 “Do not think that I have come to bring peace to the earth. I have not come to bring peace, but a sword. 35 For I have come to set a man against his father, and a daughter against her mother, and a daughter-in-law against her mother-in-law. 36 And a person's enemies will be those of his own household."
Load More Replies...As a Christian, I agree that people use it so often to justify things that aren't Christian at all. Imo, the thing about the Bible is that it's been translated and retranslated so many times by people who might not always have the best intentions...to me, it's much more important to think about what Jesus would do or approve of rather than what the Bible says. There's just so many mistranslations and words that shouldn't be taken at face value that unless you study theology, you won't understand all of it and it's so easy to misinterpret or cherry-pick. If you find yourself looking to the Bible to prove that you're right rather than for guidance, you're doing it wrong.
I wish I were a better Christian. I get really angry at little things (I think because I have so little control over most aspects of my life), and I just lose it. I've gotten some better, but it's an uphill battle.
As a Christ follower, I can relate, but I also know that every day is a day in my journey with Him. I'm not going to be perfect, and that's why I need Him, but every day I just try a little harder.
Load More Replies...Jesus protect me from your followers! When people ask me if I found Jesus I say didn't know he was lost.
I disagree. Keep your judgements to yourself maybe, but definitely feel free to talk about how harmful someone's behavior are, especially when they are using religion as an excuse to do them. Locking your children in their rooms and removing door handles is not safe or healthy. Forcing teenagers onto the streets with disgusting parenting because they are "sinners" or telling 5 year olds they will go to hell for not cleaning their rooms is abuse.
I watch the YouTube channel called cults to consciousness from time to time. The amount of misogyny repored by former members of different denominations of all major patriarchal religions in mind-boggling, disgusting, and frightening. The Duggar family is just one example. Recommend watching the documentary Shiny Happy People.
Dental health! A bad tooth can put you six feet under.
ETA: it needs to be covered by insurance and considered a human right instead of being considered cosmetic.
Also dental procedures are crazy expensive so it's best to maintain healthy teeth.
That depends on the country, I think. I had a molar extracted and it cost me 115 euro's. Duration of the extraction: 45 minutes due to stubborn roots. There are standard prices for procedures.
Load More Replies...It's crazy that medical insurance doesn't cover dental at all. Poor dental health can lead to poor physical health. Having gum disease increases risk of heart disease and stroke. Dental care should be covered under medical insurance.
Insurance company "logic" can be quite mind boggling. A few years ago I needed a damaged tooth removed, so I was sent to an oral surgeon. Insurance denied coverage, saying that oral surgeons were considered doctors, and doctors do not pull teeth. *Face Palm*
This! This is so important and people just don't realise. Go and brush your teeth twice a day, and, for ducks sake, use floss or interdental brush once a day. And don't whine about how inconvenient it feels to you at the beginning - get used to it and enjoy the freshest feeling your mouth ever had!
It doesn't matter how much you floss and brush if you don't see a dentist regularly, your teeth will not stay healthy. And people cannot afford it so it is not their fault when their teeth start having issues.
Load More Replies...I have no dental insurance. My health insurance will cover dental issues "in the case of an emergency." So basically if I have a tooth issue, I'm going to have to drive myself to the hospital, pull out the offending tooth, and then walk into the ER like yeah weird idk how this happened but it's def an emergency.
I live in country where dental health is checked regularly on kids, and those check-ups as well as any procedures are free. So every kid gets a good start on their teeth, and adults really rarely beed braces, because the problems have already been corrected. And correcting them in childhood is quicker and more effective anyway. This should be the standard everywhere, as it saves money in the long run.
If you have bad teeth, you can't get chemotherapy until they're pulled. Found this out the hard way when my husband was diagnosed with stage 4 kidney cancer. He had 7 rotten teeth because he'd refused for decades to see a dentist. After his cancer diagnosis, the VA managed to pull only 5 over 2 visits before he got too sick to sit in a dentist's chair. So he was never able to get the chemotherapy that might have added significant time to his life. Take care of your teeth.
Getting a pet. It requires work, that goes without saying. But what nobody talks about is the eventual loss. As I write this, I am looking at out ten year old puppy who is slated to be euthanized later today. They diagnosed him last week and scheduled this appointment. He's not in any pain outwardly but his demeanor speaks volumes. I broke down at work and left this morning after only a couple hours. He's never been nothing but a good companion and in my opinion deserves so much more than he has received. I've lost pets before, of course, but this hurts, for some reason like no other. They bring joy and if you've done your job right, they will bring a boatload of pain.
The pain is real, but so is the love. It will take time, but eventually you will remember the love first.
I've buried a few cats in my days, and I know how painful the loss is. New cats never replace the lost ones in my heart, but they make their own places.
Load More Replies...Losing a pet is like losing a family member. And I have talked to people who just recently got a new puppy/kitten/dog/cat because they lost one. Some people get a new pet a couple of months after losing one. Some people wait ten years. That is how deep the pain is. And a person should never be judged on how long it takes them to bring another pet into their lives.
I'm one of those getting a new guinea pig as soon as possible after we lose one. We take them from our local piggy shelter and often take the ones with health issues. As much as it hurts to lose one, I think the best I can do is taking and saving another soul that needs a proper home with a big, nice piggy family and someone who cares for them as long as they have life quality.
Load More Replies...I want to have cats of my own someday, but what OP describes is one of my greatest fears. My favorite cat died 9 years ago, and I'm still not over it T___T Is it different if you get to be with your pets when they die? Like, a little easier because you could be with them until the very end?
It's different every time. You just have to do what you have to do. I have always been there when my pets are shown the way to the rainbow bridge. I wouldn't have it any other way.
Load More Replies...You're doing the best thing you can. We watch people slowly diminish and die, at least with our pets we can save them from that.
You had been Family for this little one and that is precious. Have a good walk over the rainbow bridge, doggy!
Little bit of magic .was my first thought hete..but Alexia and Alexandra posted it already. so I step in too it's worth the tears you cry for all the love and joy you experienced
Load More Replies...It was Spring 2021. It still hurts like hell. We are pet free now. I couldn’t bear the grief again. The pandemic didn’t help. Had 2 relatives lose a cat and a dog previously. I mourned those too. They got “replacements”. I guess I have too big of a heart. Even after my last boyfriend it was over a year until I started dating my now husband. I never understand these celebrities that start dating immediately after a divorce or break up. I need some alone time.
I buried my cat yesterday. That part of pet ownership always sucks. But the companionship through the years was nice. PARENTS: Think about life span when you get your kid a pet. I had a pet rat when I was little. Bonded with it, it would come when I called it, rode with me on bike rides and so on. I was very sad when it died. Which was inevitable because rats only live about 2 years. My mom was trying I guess. Couldn't have a cat or dog in the apartment. But I was still kind of young to come home from school one day to dead rat. (At least mom didn't lie and say it "ran away")
It’s clear that people tend to take all sorts of things more lightly than they should; but quite a few of them relate to their health, which can have serious negative consequences, if not now than later in life.
In a recent interview with Bored Panda, a professor in social and decision sciences at Carnegie Mellon University and an expert in health behavior, Dr. Gretchen Chapman, noted that there is even a concept known as ‘present bias’, which refers to the idea that people pay much more attention to outcomes happening here and now than they do to future outcomes, which can lead to them discounting the value of said future outcomes. “That concept explains why many of us don't worry about the cancer or heart disease that might be decades in the future,” she explained.
Parenting. I can’t express enough how much of my adult life has been affected because of how I was raised. Take the time to explain things to your kids. Don’t scream at them over small mistakes they make. Don’t abuse spanking because you suck at managing your emotions. I could go on and on with this.
If today's regulations had been applied in my childhood, my parents had been arrested and sent to psychiatric wards, and I had been placed in foster care.
All we can say is there were some rather peculiar notions regarding child rearing in the past. Thank goodness we are making the slow journey into more enlightened times.
Load More Replies...Young adults, get your s**t together before making babies. Go to therapy, work on your childhood traumas now. Addicted to something? Find a meeting to help you quit. There's 12 step for any kind of addiction you might have. And if you don't have an addiction, but you were raised by addicts, there's 12 step programs for that too (look for "-Anon" programs). What I wish I knew sooner is that the 12 steps are really a guide for how to be an emotionally mature adult. It's about accepting others the way they are, self-reflection and admitting mistakes. That's the whole damn program. If you learn these skills before making babies, then you'll truly be ready to be a parent.
Are some parents so emotionally immature they can't use their words to communicate and restort to hitting a child? My parents never figured out negative reinforcement doesn't work.
Yes. Most people are emotionally immature and suck at communicating. Myself included.
Load More Replies...I'll always remember getting to a point (growing) my mum couldn't physically hurt me enough after a few swings for her liking when smacking me (think my brother and i had been fighting about him taking my stuff, and because i was bigger...). so went and got my dad to do it instead. I HAVE NEVER even had the desire or need to hit my child. I like to remind my mother about that every now and then
65 countries have banned corporal "punishment" of children. My own mother used to say "The quickest way to a kid's brain is through their butt. I can spend hours explaining it to you, or I can just hit you." When I was a kid, I never questioned this, because I literally only knew ONE boy growing up who DIDN'T get spanked, whipped, paddled, or switched, and I knew kids who got punched, kicked, and slapped. Girls rarely got corporal punishment, but boys? Oh yeah. It was supposed to make us toughen up or something.
Spanking, paddling, etc are all forms of abuse. It is not an effective way to teach children, nor help them learn from their mistakes. It's abuse, plain and simple.
Load More Replies...This is 100% accurate. Because of the way I was brought up, I have a hard time opening up to people. Was told "that I talked too much", "was weird" and that "boys don't like fat girls". Guess who has social anxiety and body issues. Grew up in a house of screaming adults and now I can't stand loud people. Remember, the s**t you do to and around your kids stays with them forever.
Using medical or psychiatric diagnosis terms when they're not warranted.
Being detail-oriented (in and of itself) is not OCD.
Feeling restless or bored or impatient (in and of themselves) is not ADHD.
Feeling social different or awkward or uncomfortable (again....) is not ASD or "autism"
People throw around these words (e.g. "Oh, that picture wasn't hanging straight and I needed to fix it once I noticed. I'm so OCD.") very casually or self-diagnose, often based on one feature of condition, which greatly devalues the proper use of the terms.
While this is true, people also shouldn't assume that because symptoms APPEAR mild, that the person DOESN'T have OCD, ADHD or ASD. I have all of these, and you probably wouldn't know it because I'm VERY good ... okay, pretty good ... okay, marginally acceptable ... at covering it up. For example: OCD? I use routines. Zen philosophy helps! I balance. Besides, it doesn't matter to me, and is really none of my business whether or not someone else is "allowed" to use a psychiatric term. I'm not a psychiatrist, and even if I were, I'm not EVERYBODY'S psychiatrist. Point is: I would just let it go.
The misuse of such terminology can make it much more difficult to genuine sufferers to be taken seriously. Same with allergies, notably, in recent years, gluten. Yes, some people are genuinely allergic to it,many more, i.e. Coeliac sufferers, are seriously intolerant, but sadly they're likely to be grouped together with the 90-odd% of people claiming to be allergic who are at worst mildly intolerant of the stuff.
Load More Replies...It’s pretty simple: if you have been medically diagnosed with something, you can say you have that thing. If you think you have that thing, get it tested before claiming anything.
In general yes, as long as there is an agreed diagnosis. Some things, however, cannot be tested for, like fibromyalgia, which I have. No point in a diagnosis, no root cause can be identified, nothing can be done, you just need to take the painkillers when it gets bad. TBF I did have shedloads of tests to find the cause of my pain way back before FM was widely accepted as a thing (here in CH) so all the symptoms, having ruled out other causes, is enough.
Load More Replies...I posted this below as a comment but have really strong feelings about it so am posting it again separately. Self diagnosis is not enough to claim you have an illness. You wouldn't claim to have breast cancer if you found a lump, you'd go to a doctor for a diagnosis and treatment. Symptoms in and of themselves do not equate to a medical diagnosis. It's hugely frustrating to try and explain that having something like bipolar disorder doesn't make you crazy or violent, or that depression is more than just having a few bad days. I can't emphasis it enough, please don't self diagnose, go see a doctor. If you think the diagnosis they give you is wrong, get a second opinion. But don't let the web and your own opinions tell you what (if anything) you have.
I agree. And, for whatever reason, when I see /hear people refer to themselves or someone else as having a MI it really irks me. My son has OCD and depression/BP. My sister was diagnosed with OCD, BP at 15 and narcissistic at 19. It is a huge struggle for family and friends and even more so for them. People laughing and finding amusement saying they have a MI hurts. No one LIKES feeling that way. I would do anything to "fix" my son and sister. Their feelings, behavior and actions aren't often purposeful and they would rather be like everyone else. It's the same for those who claim they have a horrible migraine while on social media or watching tv. I have had them my entire life. Lemme tell you, if you truly have a migraine, the last thing you want to be doing is looking at a lighted something, or reading. If you can open your eyes and join the world without puking, it's not a migraine (I know there are types that are what people speak of when saying they have a migraine. Not those)
Load More Replies...As someone who didn't realize she had C-PTSD and Bipolar disorder until my 30s... I have complicated feelings about this. It is important for people to know that (for instance) OCD is a lot more difficult for sufferers than just being particular is. But at the same time, a lot of people seem to want to make the bar for having a disorder so high that people who are suffering a lot from it think that their symptoms aren't "bad enough" to count, so they never look into getting a diagnosis.
I have PTSD after finding a beloved family member d**d. Worst time of my life and it sometimes gets crippling, especially if I run into someone who knew her. But in no way do I try to police how other people experience PTSD, even if they say it in a flip way. Mental disorders are hard enough without taking such things so personally.
Load More Replies...As someone who have struggled with depression and anxiety for the last ten years; this speaks to me. The last three years especially have been the worst years of my life, and it’s a struggle trying to explain my situation to other people. If you’ve never been diagnosed with any of these things you really can’t know what it’s like, and saying stuff like “I know how you feel, I had a really depressing day yesterday.” can’t really compare. Depression is not just having a bad day every now and then. It’s a constant struggle and it’s exhausting just trying to get out of bed in the morning. Same with anxiety; it’s not just being shy or awkward. It feels more like a physical inability to talk to people. And when people use those words without an actual diagnosis it really undermines the seriousness of it.
THIS....... Especially for me? It's when people self-diagnose or claim that they have - PTSD, Anxiety, say things like - "I was so traumatised!!!!" and they're basically dramatising a tiny non- event in their lives such as misplacing their phone or keys, which is/are found after... I wish people would NOT throw terms such as those associated with various aspects of mental health around as easily as they do. Why? Because it can belittle the people who HAVE actually been officially, medically diagnosed with such things, it makes it harder for us to have the support/understanding of others because it becomes - "Oh just ignore her, she's being over dramatic!"... "Oh it's just PTSD!!!" while they wave their hands around all flappily...
This fets on my nerves honestly- don't use it to undermine people with actual disorders.
Prof. Chapman continued to point out that there are many recommended actions that don't address any immediate problem but reduce the risk of future threats. "Some examples include:
- preventive health behaviors such as getting flu or COVID vaccine or taking medication to reduce high blood pressure.
- Health screenings to detect conditions that aren't causing any current problems but could develop into something serious, for example, mammograms, pap tests, PSA tests.
- Insurance decisions such as purchasing disability insurance or homeowner’s or renter’s insurance to protect against future damage.
- Safety measures such as changing the batteries in smoke detectors or routine care maintenance.”
Driving. It astonishes me how casually so many take operating a machine capable of causing a great deal of harm.
I find it astonishing the number of people who drive, whilst knowing they are neither not safe drivers, or have a condition that means they don't meet the health requirements. Driving is a privilege, not a right.
Unfortunately, in the US at least, it's hard to do anything or go anywhere without a car. Public transportation is poor to nonexistent. So even if you don't want to, you have to drive to have a job, get groceries, go on trips.
Load More Replies...Driving while sleepy is dangerous. I once pulled over to the side of the highway to take a nap. I was woken by a police officer telling me it was unsafe, and that there e was a rest stop 8 miles down the road. I told him that I was just too drowsy. Plus, my exit was before the rest stop. So many accidents happen near you homes, some because people think that since it is just a little farther down' the road, they think they can make it. I knew that I didn't think I would make it home OK. I have gladly missed out on doing things because I knew I'd be too tired to drive there and back because I had a rough day and needed a rest.
It is a constant source of shock and bafflement to me, how many people are just out there doing whatever on the roads.
Are some people reading this on their phones while driving? Yes. Will they continue to do so? Again, yes.
This is why I don’t want to learn to drive. I’m not the safest person, and I’m worried I could do some permanent damage to someone.
I witnessed a lady many times during my morning commute speeding and passing traffic on the right, in the rough shoulder. The level of recklessness (not to mention entitlement) was truly astounding. I was worried she would end up hurting people, so I tipped off the police, and I never saw her do that again.
That's why after having my learners permit for 10 years, I've only just felt comfortable and confident enough to go for my Ps. I passed my final drive, all I have to do now is 10 more hours of driving time and my hazards perception test. Then I will be able to drive by myself.
Had two uncles die in car accidents. The thought of driving terrifies me. So I never even tried to learn. I am honest enough with myself to admit that I would be a very bad driver. Because I would be a very nervous, very anxious driver
People take the dangers of glitter way too lightly. That stuff is basically craft herpes. Once you get glitter on you, it spreads everywhere and never fully goes away. You find it on your clothes, in your hair, and somehow even in your food. A single encounter with glitter and you'll be finding those sparkly specks for years. It’s like a sparkly plague that never goes away and you keep finding between your toes and in other questionable places.
I thought this was gonna be about microplastics not inadvertently sparkly toes.
The difference between many microplastics and glitter is that glitter is much more obvious - though not when eaten!
Load More Replies...My mother got an Easter egg kit with glitter when I was 8 (back in the early 90s). There is still glitter embedded in the grooves between the tiles in the kitchen table.
I had a friend who liked to give greeting cards that had glitter on the front, then she would put more sparkly stuff inside the card. I would open the card over the trashcan, look at it, then drop it. Even telling her how annoying it was, she still did it because it made her smile.. I just got to the point where I just wouldn't even open the envelope.
And to add: glitter, mostly based on a mineral called mica, is mined under worst conditions by exploiting minors in poor regions.
Disrespect from family just because they’re “family”.
Don't tolerate that. The level of "family love" is not measured by how much b******t you are able to absorb. If you are scapegoated by your family, go low contact and get therapy. You'll discover it affected you in unimaginable ways.
The "scapegoat" is the most common animal in the zoo that is life.
Load More Replies...I can't stand when ppl demand from others to "keep the peace" despite another person's unacceptable behavior. I don't or won't stand by and listen to or put up with or reward bad behavior. Another thing is never pull the " but family" guilt trip card. Won't work.
"Blood is thicker than water" is actually "The blood of the covenant is thicker than the water of the womb." The bonds of friendship, particularly ones forged under duress, are often stronger than family ties. Family you get gratis, but friends must be cultivated and nurtured.
Load More Replies...It took me a while to learn this. Going No Contact took a while, but I will never look back. Sometimes "family" are the worst people to/for you.
This is a different take on "family" disrespect and this happens so often in today's vast media world that I always have to scratch my head. On the TV, a mom or dad is crying while defending a family member accused of a serious crime by saying, "My daughter didn't do that or Tyler is a good son, raised right and could not have done that", even when right there on the split screen is a video of that family member doing the crime, all while grinning, laughing and pointing at the camera. Family love/respect is indeed important but so is a level of common sense. Shut the hell up Mom//Dad and stay off the TV. Get that family member the best defense available and understand your beloved family member has definitely disrepected his/her family in general.
Seen that so often at work, "I believe my son" , yes madam we've just all viewed the footage of him actually doing it, sigh....
Load More Replies...At that point, I'd consider those people "relatives" instead of "family"
I'm always shocked that so many people feel they can treat their families badly, yet will be super nice to their friends. Family are your loved ones, supposedly - if you love them you treat them better than anyone else! Not the other way around!
According to Dr. Chapman, when it comes to health, even the seemingly minor signs shouldn’t be overlooked. “Minor symptoms are sometimes an indicator of a serious underlying condition that could develop into something life-threatening,” she told Bored Panda. “An example could be a breast lump that prompts the person to seek a mammogram to check for cancer.”
Though, the expert added that a certain type of minor symptoms tend to resolve on their own and never turn into anything serious. “An example might be a respiratory virus that feels horrible for several days but resolves with time. It can be a difficult decision to figure out which minor symptoms should prompt medical attention. Health psychologists have a concept called the ‘worried well’ where healthy people get too worried about minor symptoms.”
Dehumanizing people. Its a very slippery slope to justifying sanctioned violence.
From discrimination, to apartheid, to ethnic cleansing, to genocide. And it doesn't have to be a particular creed, race, etc. - the ones being dehumanized all too often are the homeless, whom far too many of us dismiss as "winos and junkies."
Has it ever occurred to the rest of society that sometimes the reasons for being homeless are circumstances beyond one's control? A spouse dies or abandons the marriage, leaving a person and their children penniless and homeless. Losing their job due to downsizing, and unable to get another job within the same pay bracket. The list goes on......
Load More Replies...Never dehumanize people: it takes away their reason and responsibility.
Yup, which is why I hate it when other people stereotype and try and correct myself when I think I'm doing it. Even things that seem harmless or even true ("All Americans..." "All religious people..." "All parents..." etc) changes your attitude about that group for the worse
It the one and only true sin: Treating people like objects. All other evils sprout from there.
Yeah, and I know a lot of people who have a blind spot about this. They'll say that you shouldn't dehumanize people, and then they'll say really awful and dehumanizing things about people who have done something wrong or who have very different beliefs and values than they do. People on both sides of the political aisle are very prone to this.
It'd sure be neat and awesome if certain people stopped calling others fascists, the Bad German word, the Bad German leader... But I bet that never occurred to anyone reading this comment.
It's how militaries train soldiers to kill. And it's not a switch that turns off once they're civilians again.
My sister calls the homless/d**g addicts zombies. I've gone Liw Contact with her and my bil for this...and their transphobia.
Bullying in schools.
I always find it stunning how the school will ignore YEARS of a large bully (they're normally large or have a large sidekick) bullying multiple children, but the ONE time the bullied child kicks back, the school suddenly implements a "no fighting" policy. IMHO having successfully emulated a chocolate teapot for years, the least the school can do is to CONTINUE turning a blind eye. Could some kind soul from inside the system please tell me why?
I'm fortunate enough to have gone to school when the administration was allowed to use some discretion. I got in several fights, when the bullying pushed me over the edge, but I never got into any kind of trouble over it.
Load More Replies...Until I got to high school and out of the foster care system, I went through absolute hell because of bullying. Absolutely nothing was done about it, except to place the blame squarely on my shoulders. And heaven forbid that I should actually defend myself! Perish the thought! The sick part of this is that this cràp is still going on in the schools. No wonder kids are packing weapons.
Typically it really IS the victims who bring weapons to school, not the perpetrators
Load More Replies...I'm still in school and I go to private school. My school has a "zero tolerance" policy...unless the parents threaten to sue or have enough money.
There’s always that “parents threatening to sue” issue, isn’t there? As a teacher who refused to be bullied by students, I got caught up in this situation. this such a shame we have no rights when we need them.
Load More Replies...As a Gen X,it drove me out of school. Could take it anymore. Got tired of being beat up, having my money stolen,the name calling and so many other things. It had to stop. Told my parents I wouldn't go back but if they insisted I had to go to school I would go to GED school instead. I did
And yet the victim has to pay school yaxes for a broken system for the rest of his life. Education should not be a right for bullies.
Load More Replies...It's even worse when your bullies basically "showered" in axe body spray. To this day I freaking hate the smell of the stuff.
The thing that pisses me off the most is when the bullied kid finally fights back, they're the ones who get in trouble. I realize you guys have 25 to 30 kids per person, but when the normally quiet and polite kid suddenly acts out, maybe investigate further than just detention.
Mental health.
My exhusband didn't think therapy would help me or our marriage. He had a brother with schizophrenia who wouldn't take his meds. Not taking your meds meant therapy didn't help. So, they all just assumed therapy was useless. Yeah, tell that to someone who is severly depressed.
While it’s important to pay attention to the signals your body is sending that can be indicative of a certain illness or condition, it’s arguably even more important to take good care of yourself, so there is nothing—or at least fewer things—to signal.
According to Dr. Chapman, many deadly chronic conditions of old age can be caused in part by health behavior in younger years. “Examples include heart disease and diabetes that are linked to exercise and dietary habits established at a young age or lung cancer caused by a smoking addiction that was initiated as a teenager. Thus, even a young healthy person needs to take care of their health.”
Slavery still existing.
And a lot of people don't realize that in countries like the USA and Japan, slavery is alive and well. It exists in literally every country in the world.
Not literally at all. There is no slavery in my country. There are, however, more slaves today than there have ever been. In excess of 42m slaves exist today, mostly in Africa and the Middle East.
Load More Replies...Like the cobalt in your mobile phones and EV batteries. Yes. It's mostly child slave labor.
All too often we inadvertently support this evil. Check the backgrounds of the products you buy, and if you find any slavery or ill-paid labor in them, contact the companies and ask them to end their ties with forced labor.
And thats why I find people who ONLY focus on the slavery that happened in the US a****les trying to play victim cards
Water, more specifically flowing water with currents. So many people underestimate the power of a flow.
The one thing that air, water, fire, electricity, and earth have in common? They. Do. Not. Care. They don't care who you are, who your parents are, about your net worth, annual income, or your position in your church or community. Violate some basic guidelines regarding the aforementioned elements, and see how quickly you change from being a legend to becoming history.
I won't go past the sand of the beach at the ocean not far from my house. The riptides will pull you where you really might not want to go, or worse. I had ONE scary incident of my brother taking away my flotation device, and the feeling like I was going to drown has made me stay out of the water ever since. I am one of the type of person that does not just float, I sink. I might get my feet wet, but that is a far as I will go.
Many hiker deaths are attributed to flowing water. More than exposure, dehydration, or animals.
You could have numerous Olympic gold swimming medals to your name but when it comes to riptides and an unexpected undercurrent in various types of open water? All bets are off.
We should all remember that a single cubic metre of water weighs a tonne...
Sleep! People often take sleep too lightly, thinking they can get by on just a few hours.
They problem is I like to stay up and wake up late, but society makes me wake up early and I can't fall asleep early enough to get enough sleep
Some people just have different Circadian Rhythm than others. I just function better later in the day. Commonly doing laundry at midnight.
Load More Replies...As someone who has only had roughly 4-6 hours of sleep my entire life. I can say that yes the body does get used to it. But my sleep debt is ever increasing.
Some people are.long sleepers, some are short. 8.is just an average
Load More Replies...I have this colleague who loves to float the theory that all the geniuses and super-successful people are early risers. Albert Einstein, for example, was an early riser, .... apparently. People whose biorhythm and creative output are in line with socially accepted working hours. I don't know if it's true, but I could imagine that there is some truth to it - very generally speaking. I'm a nightowl, and I can't say I have experienced many successes in life.
Wasn't Einstein also a long.sleeper - like 10 hrs a night?
Load More Replies...It seems like I've been hearing about the importance of sleep more then every before. Now I'm stressed I'm not getting enough sleep, lol.
Professor of Health and Human Sciences at Loyola Marymount University Dr. Hawley Almstedt seconded the idea that it’s crucial to look after your health, no matter how young you are.
“It is important to take good care of your health at all ages, even during youth. For example, weight-bearing exercise during the two years before and after puberty can have lifelong impact on bone health, allowing someone to avoid osteoporosis and hip fractures later in life.
“People should pay attention to recommended health screenings, too. The ACS now recommends beginning cancer screenings as early as 40 years old and the AHA advises adults 20 years and older to have blood cholesterol and cardiovascular risk factors checked every 4-6 years. Screenings and early detection allow for effective and optimal treatment.”
The effects trauma has on different developmental stages. Or mental health in general.
I'm just learning now as an adult in my 50s how much different my life could have been had I been brought up in a different environment and not gone through many of the things I went through. The worst is just a general inability to trust other people.
Having also lived through the c**p of growing up in a dysfunctional family. I trust you.
Load More Replies...True. Years ago I took a 2 year course that involved a lot of therapy training. At one point there was a chart listing different issues and the other axis was age or stage of development when the trauma that caused them likely occurred. (I'm over simplifying a bit for space). My point is, at first I was skeptical but the more we studied it, compared our own histories and later that of some clients - the more I saw it to be surprisingly accurate. And a lot of it at pretty young ages where a parent might think, "Kid will forget that. It won't send them to therapy as an adult".
That's why a lot of people avoid having kids. You grow up with the feeling like you're not wanted and a bother to everyone, so you don't want someone else to ever go what you did.
Probably top of the list why I don't have kids. I have no need, want, or desire to reproduce, and it's not selfishness it's selflessness.
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Elections, especially at the local level.
Although some people think it's the worst thing ever - in Australia voting is compulsory. It makes it much fairer, though. EVERYBODY gets to vote, and there are steep fines for any employer who doesn't allow employees time to vote. Polling places are everywhere, and most will have a sausage sizzle and/or cake stand. it becomes an almost festive occasion. Honestly, it's a much better system.
I think that’s a brilliant thing. I vote in 3 countries because of my citizenships and resident status and it’s not compulsory in any. It absolutely should be
Load More Replies...It's frightening the damage that can be done locally when you get a bunch of right wing nuts in authority. Read up on Ottawa County Michigan election results and you will probably be surprised. It will be years before the damage is undone if in fact it can be.
What I find sad and frustrating is how fast and irrevocable the damage can be. Like overturning Roe vs Wade - it was a hard fight to get to abortion rights then a hard fight to keep it - and eventually lost because the Supreme Court was like lol no. Now it’s going to be a helluva fight to get it back. We should be able to keep progress easily once it’s won, not lose it easily.
Load More Replies...US Americans: PLEASE VOTE THIS YEAR ESPECIALLY. PLEASE PLEASE PLEASE. YOUR COUNTRY NEEDS YOU.
The local level scares me less because people are less defensive about it and it's much easier to change simple things by just going and talking to your local city council
Elections in the US are pretty much the modern day equivilant of a gladiator arena, "keep the masses distracted" type sh*t
I stopped voting when our conservative party made thought crime a thing :p
Please vote and if the candidate is as old as your grandparents, think carefully whether you should vote for them or not.
If you have not studied the candidates and or the issues, please, please DO NOT VOTE.
Or, recognize your responsibility and both do your homework and vote
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Self bashing. Love and forgive yourself, man!
This comes from living in a toxic, abusive and highly critical environment during childhood. Therapy helps, but it takes years and a lot of personal effort to change limitative beliefs and self-sabotage. But it's doable, and it's worth it.
My parents were very supporting and loving for the vast majority of my life. Compared to some things other people recall, I feel like I was blessed to have parents like them. Nonetheless, I am my own worst enemy and critic, with a very low level of self-confidence. My mother was like that too... perhaps it's a tad genetic?
Load More Replies...This should be at the top of the list. I often have a rule: never say anything to yourself or about yourself that you would hesitate to say to your friend. You have to be your own friend first.
Wow that's a really good rule. I'm going to try to use that in the future Thanks for sharing!
Load More Replies...Make a plan to improve whatever's wrong, and then carry it out. Love and forgiveness comes more easily then.
Word of advice: some friends of mine made a household rule that they were no longer allowed to make self-deprecating jokes ("Why did you do that?" "Because I'm stupid."). They were only allowed to make self-aggrandizing jokes! ("Why did you do that?" "Because I am very creative.") They said it genuinely helped with their self-esteem! The words you say or think about yourself have psychological power, even when you're kidding.
Also, pretending to be something actually does make you form habits and patterns that makes you become that. So pretending to like someone can make you actually like them, and that works on yourself too! Even just saying things that you don't mean (like "oh I'm doing such a good job today!" even when you think you could do better or are just average) can change your feelings about yourself.
It’s no secret that one good way of taking care of yourself is exercising regularly. “Exercise is crucial to overall health, fitness, and mental wellness,” Prof. Almstedt told Bored Panda. “It can improve sleep, elevate mood, relieve stress as well as help lower blood cholesterol and blood pressure. I consider exercise to be a ‘polypill’ with the ability to improve health and lower risk for many of the top 10 leading causes of death for Americans.”
Wearing a helmet.
...and a sturdy pair of boots, reinforced pants and jacket. I cringe every time I see a video of someone in sneakers, shorts and a t-shirt on a powerful bike. In the event of an impact, you end up at best with fractures everywhere, in the event of a slip like a piece of grated cheese.
First responders have a term for people who ride bikes (motorized or not) without wearing helmets: Organ donors.
I used to sell motorcycle clothing and I ride a VFR, the number of bikers who only wear a helmet is very surprising. They will do the bare minimum to be legal but beyond that they couldn’t care less. Sliding down a tarmac road at only 30mph will tear / wear your skin off all exposed areas, those areas are the ones with least flesh to protect them, you are down to bone on knees, elbows, ankles, hands and wrists in split seconds. That’s bad, really bad. As for the helmet spend what you can afford, if you have a £30 head buy a £30 lid. Otherwise buy the highest rated helmet you can, and open face, whilst feeling free, exposes your chin, good luck with the wiring they’ll do to reconstruct your jaw. As for the bike, a 30mph crash from a ‘big’ bike is pretty much the same as a 30mph crash from a moped, make sure your kids have decent kit too!
The Dutch believe in natural selection when cycling. Especially the new rage of putting kids on electric fatbikes without any protection speeds up that process, sadly. They are of the opinion that you don't need a cap/helmet if your cycling abilities are sufficient. The weak, like German tourists, wear them, or are eliminated. At the moment even the brain surgeons are really fed up with this and sent an appeal out to please protect that delicate part of your body. The Dutch: Nope, lol.
Lol. We'll check back in 200 years. Who knows, you might be a race supreme uber cyclists. Plus the world will learn the Dutch translation of that.
Load More Replies...One of my exs? His mum used to be a nurse and she said that I really needed full leather gear as well as a helmet. I had a helmet, a proper leather jacket with extra protective inserts but no leather biker trousers. You come off a motorbike at high speed?... Gosh... One guy proved her right in a horrible crash we heard about that happened near us. He needed skin grafts, his right arm bones had been ground down and it got even more horrific. So please please please wear the correct safety gear. If not for yourself? Then for the others who love you and care about you.
Jay Leno, a motorcycle enthusiast, wrote an excellent article about operating a motorcycle, what gear to wear, and why. A good leather jacket can make the difference between a macho road rash and an abrasion that goes clean to the bone. Wear the proper footwear, and you can keep all 10 toes. I have seen the aftermath of a couple of accidents involving motorists who weren't wearing their helmets. Let's just say that organs weren't where they were supposed to be.
Didn't realize leather jackets weren't just a fashion statement when riding motorcycles. Guess you really do learn something new every day
Load More Replies...I actually heard a woman say that helmets cause more deaths because they make your head heavier and snap your neck when you crash
Rappers calling women b***hes.
Rap music in general is repulsive to me because most of it is about bragging and disrespecting other people. INB4 - no, not all, and there are a few rap songs I like. But if you just have a bunch of rap on shuffle and listen to one at random - usually bragging and disrespect and gratuitous swear words.
i like rap bits in longer songs, but i don't like rap that much.
Load More Replies...IMO, about the only rapper that isn't into foul and degrading language is Will Smith (don't judge). His "Summertime" album went double Platinum--without calling women bìtches and ho's.
Listen to NF if you want to hear a good rapper who doesn't swear.
Load More Replies...Let's not forget the other slur they use all of the time. Seriously, if it's that offensive then don't use it no matter who you are. Otherwise you are suggesting that it's merely conveniently offensive.
TBF, female rappers also have some choice language for men so this one I'm a bit ambivalent about.
i may get downvoted for this, but music/lyrics don’t often reflect people’ actual beliefs.
IMO that makes it even worse. If (hypothetically) I'm a rapper, and I respect women and other people in general, but every song is angry spit rants about bitches, ho's, murdering people and so on - then I'm selling out my values for sales. I get that any ONE song from a singer / band doesn't meant they believe all the lyrics. But a lot of rap music is a one trick pony when it comes to massive posturing and disrespect.
Load More Replies...Heard a rap song once that consisted of mostly the "N-word" like 75% of the words used were just variations of it, either ending in the hard R or A
And flippantly using the N word. Most rap is c**p anyway, that's why it rhyms ;)
Just because I am "Beautiful, Intelligent, Talented, Charming, Honestly" I really don't care what anyone calls me...as long as no one calls me "Late for Dinner"
Sun exposure and skin cancer risks.
Get a high protection sunscreen. And you might want to reduce sun exposure. You don't have to look like you live at the tropics.
I love the outdoors. I am outside as much as I can be when the weather permits, but I will not go out with protection of some kind, whether it is long sleeves or sunscreen.
And people harp on me for preferring to stay indoors, or at least away from direct sunlight...
Even with good sunscreen you should limit the exposure. It's Very dangerous.
According to Dr. Almstedt, the American culture rewards those who are tough and ignore signs or symptoms of illness. “Unfortunately, our busy ‘to do’ list often takes priority over self-care,” she pointed out. “This causes us to be out of touch with what our body is trying to tell us. Many people could benefit from improving interoceptive awareness, which is the ability to notice internal sensations.”
Climatechange many still don't believe in it.
This is not the elephant in the room - this is the Argentinosaurus in the room.
Load More Replies...Lots of political folks in florida and texas should be learning this lesson, Storms keep getting worse, but oh, no, climate change is a hoax.
When the orange person's seafront properties in Florida start sinking into the sea, I trust that his insurance claims will be absent of any mention of climate change or rising sea levels?
You can't even get insurance on seafront properties in Florida
Load More Replies...Climate change is real. Treating it as if it was an apocalyptic religion is absolutely ridiculous. Haven't you got anything better to base an apocalyptic religion on?
It's ridiculous to blame us for it and assume it can be stopped. It's just a cycle that occurs on Earth. Sure it can be argued it's sped up a bit but no ones willing to give up their 50 cars and private jets. Also clearing forests for solar and wind farms isn't helping either.
Did you know that the Climate Changes through out the day, everyday? It most certainly does! And did you know that Earth's Climate also has Cycles of Change? It's not solely due to humans (although we've helped it along)
People confusing climate with weather...and thinking glaciers melt and come back every year, lol. Those things have built up over thousands of years; once they melt, they're gone.
Yes, the climate has been changing for millions of years. No, this is not the normal rate of change, it's caused by a buildup of gasses such as carbon dioxide in the atmosphere.
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I notice no one holds doors for the person behind them, people don't let others off of an elevator before they barge in, people don't share the road or let others ahead when driving
.. So I make it a point to do all these things because it's.... polite and I am hoping people will see this and do it as well.. but, when i do these things, like holding a door open for someone, almost everyone will not say "thank you" and some people won't even try to catch the door or even pretend to notice. I've had so many times where the person in front of me slithers out after the person in from of them held the door for them and they do not catch the door and I get a door slammed in my face. Its crazy how much people do this. I started loudly saying ur welcome to people who don't say thank you , and I only (barely) heard one person say oh, thank you. This is In my lifetime BTW, over 30 years, Lol. Driving of course no one waves to say thank u. I do and I do it so they definitely can see lol.
I refuse to be an unkind person, and not hold doors open, or not let others through, not sharing the roads, like how i see majority of people doing. It's not in me to do it even once.
Do these people who do this think this is what those people are supposed to do for them? Or thanking that person is basic social etiquette and the gesture shows you appreciate their kindness and acknowledge it. No gesture makes u feel invisible and unappreciated as if it was some automatic door and that opened itself. Its disrespectful and sad that people don't know what an act of kindness looks like and thinks that's what they're entitled to.
I hope I'm not just old lol and it's getting phased out
Edit.... I came back on and saw notifications... I thought I was getting in trouble for something lol.. I'm so happy people see this and are thoughtful. It's so nice to know that!
I live in western USA and I still see a lot of this common kindness. Yes there are exceptions and those probably stand out more in our minds. You remember the 'rude a-hole' longer. But holding doors, or one car at a four way stop waving the other car through when you both arrive about the same time. Stopping for the person trying to cross the road. Things like that - I've seen in the past week. I'm not in elevators a lot but on my trip in January I routinely saw people waiting for others when using elevators. (that was some in US but more in Korea / PI).
I don't know where OP lives, but in my part of the world it's very common to hold doors for people, and the sex of the person holding it or having it held for them is irrelevant.
Load More Replies...They do this all the time here. Someone did it for me this morning. Problem is I'm sick and lost my voice so I couldn't say thank you
I live in the eastern U.S., in the city but not a very big city, and actually, most people are really good about the door holding and thanking you and such. Driving etiquette, on the other hand...
In my city? I cut through the train station quite a lot, it's a shortcut, one of the automatic doors wasn't working and omg the guy in front of me didn't hold the door open because you're so used to automatic or slow closed doors here and it shut right onto me!!! He realised straight away and he was so apologetic! I started laughing and then he did too but it was such a goofy thing! So... All good! 🙂
Yelling "You're welcome!" to someone isn't being kind. Complaining about not being acknowledged for your acts isn't being kind.
Work/Life balance. No matter where you work, you are replaceable within days. No matter what you do, someone else can do it, too. Spend time with your family, friends, and pets. Your job will not be there for you when you are dying, nor will it care that you are gone.
It depends on the job. Mine did love me back. But let us remember that few romances are without some turmoil.
Load More Replies...Its a gift to have that option. Majority of people work all the time for MONEY not because they enjoy it or are proving themselves or showing loyalty. Most everyone would be somewhere else rather than work if that was ever an option. Its not unless you want to live under a bridge.
Had to switch off third shift due to feeling like I had no life outside work. Nearly had me at the end of a rope.
Very true.. Taking an unpaid week off for surgery is just outstanding.
Tourists will go right to the riptide, cliff edge, waterfall or volcano with a stupid smile on their face.
Omg I've a not-so-secret hatred of selfie sticks!!! 😄 The amount of times I've been accidentally hit over the head by one with tourists taking photos using one here???
Load More Replies...tbf, lots of tourists don't know what a riptide looks like, and there's far too little education about it for people going to beaches. They should make warning signs on boardwalks that explain the dangers, how to spot one, and how to get out of one. --signed, somebody who almost got drowned by a riptide when she was 13....
Don't forget the ones who think that cougar kitten is just a normal kitten and mom won't eat them! Or the ones taking selfies with a FREAKIN BEAR!
Apparently the bison in Yellowstone are very popular with Darwin Award contestants...
Load More Replies...Cool with me. Thinning out the herd. If there are warning signs that were ignored then I suggest not risking other lives to rescue the idiots. You just giving them the chance to do something else stupid that could take others with them. Life is only precious if you treat it that way.
Freshwater loss. Whole lakes are being drained and rivers diverted completely so they never reach the ocean. We're generally treating natural freshwater like it's an unlimited resource and it's not.
Yes. The Soviets drained the Aral Sea to grow cotton. https://www.columbia.edu/~tmt2120/introduction.htm
This didn't mention aquifers so I will. There is an AI thing (structure? plant? who knows) being built in my area, which, if you didn't know, AI takes up a huge amount of water. They're using the aquifer which means that we will have much less water to use for ourselves
A friend recently informed me of a freshwater loss we don't think much about, when we throw away an unfinished beverage or cups with ice in it, all that water gets trapped in trash bags in landfills, never to return to the water cycle 🤯 a colleague of hers did a whole report on it. Now I make sure to dump out ice, shake out my seltzer cans real well, and letting moist paper towels dry before disposing!
Wouldn’t the water evaporate from the landfill piles? Genuine curious question, do you have any links you can share? This sounds interesting
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Seat belts. "I read about this guy who was ejected from his car which then caught on fire - if he had been wearing his seatbelt he'd have been killed, so I don't wear one." Yep, one in a million accidents, a seat belt does more harm than good, but to me, this is outweighed by the other 999,999 where it helps.
Also "my car has airbags, so I don't need a seat belt". If you've never had the pleasure of being in a car when the airbag deployed, I suggest you find some videos of people doing silly things like setting a barrel over one in a junkyard and then triggering it with a battery, launching the barrel into orbit. Please believe me when I tell you, an airbag deployment is an INCREDIBLY violent thing to happen inside the confined space of a car, and you do NOT want your face (or any other body parts you prefer not to injure) anywhere NEAR a deploying airbag.
Your car is designed as a complete, integrated safety system, from crumple zones to anti-submarine seatbelts and airbags to soft interior fittings they are all working in conjunction to save your stupid, squidgy organic mass from getting pulverised. If you remove an element by not wearing a seatbelt or bodging the welding on your sills then you weaken the system significantly, why would you do that? It’s there, use it and save your own life. PS I got t-boned by a big Merc, my tiny Honda took it like a champ, written off but side airbags and decent design meant I climbed out of the window and was well enough to be pissed off at the guy who hit me instead of needing an ambulance.
I got t-boned once and hit in the face with the airbag so hard that I had a black eye and very bruised nose. If there hadn’t have been an airbag there, my face would have hit a solid steering wheel and shattered. So grateful for seatbelts and airbags.
Load More Replies...Princess Diana. The only person in the car to survive was wearing a seat belt.
My father likes to say that seat belts should be called "life belts."
A seat belt can be the difference between walking away from a crash, and getting carried away in a trash bag
The thing about airbags is that they deploy faster than your head can hit it. So the airbag is already deployed by the time your head is near it.
I've read of enough horrible car accidents involving no seat belts in Stephen King novels to have become very adamant about wearing one
In the 70s a shoulder strap saved me from being decapitated by my windshield. Car hit a dirt bank and back end went up to about 45 degrees, then slammed back down. Even with a shoulder strap I bent my steering wheel. Teeth slammed together so hard I had a bit of grit in my mouth. I was very lucky that only injury was a tiny scratch on my left cheek.
I'm only alive because my seatbelt and airbag worked together to save me. I had a spectacular bruise from the seatbelt and all the nurses who saw the bruise praised me for wearing it exactly as I should - snug and low across your hips not your tummy. I never understood people balling at wearing them, it's not a huge hassle and it gives you a much better chance of not only surviving, but of not injuring someone else when your body becomes a huge projectile.
Hearing protection in clubs and concerts.
I went to see a lot of live music in the late 80s and early 90s. I have pretty significant industrial deafness now - my hearing is still really good when it's relatively quiet, but if there's a lot of background noise (pubs, bars, restaurants, etc) everything becomes white noise. Still worth it - I had a lot of fun seeing all that live music!
If everyone needs to be using hearing protection, then the sound levels are too high.
Have you ever been to a large venue concert? They aren't all built with speaker to cover the entire place. Sometimes it's hard to keep it at "safe decibels" up front while still making it loud enough for the folks much further away to hear.
Load More Replies...The last time I didn't use hearing protection at a concert was when I went to see Nightwish in 2015. But even before that, I had acquired tinnitus to excessive listening of loud music on my discman during my teenage years. Hindsight is a bit of a b*tch, because now I have no way of experiencing actual silence again...
Upvote for Nightwish! And a fellow tinnitus panda
Load More Replies...Ah Motörhead I love you so. Small venues, big PAs, completely bathed in the sheer volume of the music. When I was younger (so much younger than today) I attended many gigs and club nights, the music beat your insides as much as your ears, it was a complete assault on your senses. Now, I’m lucky to still have my hearing and at the ripe old age of 49 I’m still gigging and always have earplugs with me. Weirdly I’ve always worn earplugs on my motorbike but didn’t wear them to gigs until recently, no idea why I didn’t 🤷🏻♂️
Not just for the those attending but also for those who are working at said events/places.
Must be louder in concerts now than when I was younger. Or I just didn't go to the loud enough concerts...
Sorry, my mind is in the gutter... What kind of protection??
Wearing protection for your hearing while at clubs and concerts. Not hearing the word "protection" said in a club. Two vastly different things, I agree. 😉
Load More Replies...Women hitting men.
And women hitting women. Lesbian relationships are not immune to domestic violence. As my daughter found out.
I am so sorry that that happened. The physical and mental trauma that must have caused makes me feel bad, even though I have no connection. I hope that never happens again.
Load More Replies...As a woman, I am disgusted at how women-induced violence gets played down - because apparently some think feminism means never to point fingers at women? Um, that's not it, chief
Yep, feminism is about equity. So many people think feminism = misandry, but that's not what it's about.
Load More Replies...This is definitely treated way too lightly. Abuse is abuse, regardless of gender.
This one really gets me... It's... The inequality of Domestic Violence and Abuse. The Preconceptions that people can hold... A man hits a woman? "Oh He's a Vile Evil Person!"........ A female hits a man? "Oh but she's so tiny! He's bigger than her! What did he do to her???"... When He Has Done Nothing and She Is The Violent One...... No. We need to get past that biased horrible way of thinking. Men are just as likely to be subjected to Domestic Violence/Abuse as Females are.... Anyone is, whatever Gender. ....... The fact is that Men are less likely to speak up, report it because of the whole stigma of Female on Male Domestic Violence. They're seen as being "weak" or what the heck ever..... And That Needs To STOP.
I remember a Dr. Phil episode where his audience cheered when his guest admitted to abusing her husband.
All it takes is for one time to try that Joan Crawford routine with the wrong guy. Wrong, as in someone who don't play that. Wham, bam, goodbye Ma'am.
Blood pressure. In the past few years I've learned that a number of people in my life just walk around day-to-day close to stroking-out and don't bother going to the doctor about it.
The trouble with hypertension is that it's often completely asymptomatic. I had alarmingly high BP and felt absolutely fine. I went to the Dr, though, and it's under control now.
Since they are readily available and fairly cheap, get a blood pressure monitor for home. I monitor mine regularly at home, because I have what is commonly referred to as "white coat syndrome". Normally my pressure is fine, but high only at the doctor's office. I can physically feel the results on my body from the anxiety around midnight before a doctor's appointment. The same thing with the relief when walking out.
But only if you can afford health insurance (to detect the problem) and you can afford the meds (to treat the problem).
There are machines in a lot of places that you can take your own blood pressure. My pharmacy has one, Walmart, Sam's club etc have machines.
Load More Replies...There's also the problem of low blood pressure. Any irregular blood pressure is obviously a problem. Watch your salt intake btw, I was advised that. My local pharmacy has a blood pressure device that you can use. Try a Google search of your local area to see if anywhere has one........ And the nurses knew me, were really great with me and explained why my blood pressure being low was a problem too. Me when my daily blood pressure readings kept coming back as low - "Okay, so my blood pressure is obviously just extremely laid back..."...... Although one time it was because the cuff was too loose. I called the nurse over and said, "There's either a problem with cuff or machine or I'm technically dead!" Thank gosh she laughed! 😄
I actually witnessed a woman having a seizure due to an hypertensive episode. It can happen that quickly.
Holding friends and family accountable for their words and actions. A lot of people like to think they would act reasonably and morally when their close relationships do terrible things, but they often don't. Usually they create excuses for the behavior and learn to adapt around it.
"You made me scream and swear! You made me hit you!" - um, no. It was your own decision, and your own lack of anger management. Your close ones are not your emotional garbage basket. Get help.
Or, opposite end of the spectrum, not reporting your children when they murder someone. Have a coworker who admitted they'd hide their child, and I'm just sitting here thinking "oh, so the other person didn't matter, got it". Makes me wonder about our line of work for them.
Load More Replies...A few years ago I was having a seemingly nice conversation with a friend. He said something and I was surprised by how judge mental and close minded it was. I called him out on it, said I was surprised to hear him be this judge mental and closed minded. Haven’t heard from him since. I thought we were closer than that. All he did was start to insult my intelligence and get very defensive. Like a 30 year old guy I had been friends with for at least 10 years.
"Well, they're family, so we need to get along with them." "Blood is thicker than water." No and no.
People don't think they're ever wrong these days. Somehow admitting you may be wrong about something is considered weakness instead of intelligence.
Deleted my own reply as it was self serving, a bit whiny but basically? I think that it's okay to cut people out of your life if they're too much for you. As in - they're Emotional Vampires...
Load More Replies...I have social anxiety and awkwardness and I am forever scared that something I did or said is coming out wrong. Sure I have an excuse, I don't know what to do right, but it's not a reason to never try or to not apologize when something comes out way differently than it was meant.
Having kids.
Kids are such a huge investment in life. I really wish more people who consider it before just having kids just because.
oh, but my parents were catholic. Their main goal was to "be fruitful and multiply" - I mean have kids whether you should or not.
Load More Replies...Ppl should have kids because they can afford to and want to as well as because they are fit to be parents. They should not have kids because other ppl want them to or expect them to. They should not be forced to keep babies they don't want. This is why we have so many messed up kids and damaged adults.
My theory is that in some cases, kids are had because people get fooled by the picture-perfect family life as pictured in adverts. But because I don't ever wants kids, having an opinion is apparently not an option. -eyeroll-
Having children of your own is a huge privilege. Apart from the miracle of our being able to share in creation, they are the arrows we fire into the future...
As a Dad of 4 children I can relate. 2 of my child is not planned, but we love them anyway. If I don't have my 4th kid then I will not working so hard like today. But again, we love them all
Parenting is a huge responsibility and not an easy job. I'm not a parent, but I was a child and saw how hard my parents had to work to support me and my siblings and how much patience they had to have on our bad days, especially through their divorces.
Related - I would say taking too lightly your chances of getting pregnant. Sex is fun, feels great etc. I've known a lot of young adults over the years who were not planning to commit to parenthood yet. No (temporary) birth control is perfect, the statistics are easily available - but people adjust them in their heads with "just this one time" or "it won't happen to me".
For f***s sake, stop telling people what to do and what not to do! Each of these 'don't have kids'-posts is riddled with comments of people without kids writing about how other should better reconsider before wanring kids! Stop judging, dramatising and writing what you don't want to read in the other direction.
I don't see people saying "reconsider" - I see people saying "it's a huge responsibility, take the decision seriously". How can you possibly have an issue with that?
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Heat stroke. It can really sneak up on a person, and even be counterintuitive, esp. in young children.
Heat exhaustion can be easily treated if you spot it early enough to prevent it developing into heat stroke. Fluids and salt. Oh, and get out of the sun if possible.
More than that. Both insect bites and sunburn will exacerbate heat stroke. Most people don't know that when they've even bitten by mosquitos then they need to keep out of the Sun.
Load More Replies...The sun in general. We need it for the Vitamin D, but there's a fine line between need and burn
Unfortunately, all those super Christians in Texas outlawed requirements to let outdoor workers have shade and drink water.
Antibiotic resistance.
I’ve been lucky to avoid serious infections and only had antibiotics as a child, this year I got a very painful infection in my testicles that scared the living daylights out of me, one ultrasound later (and yes that was an experience I don’t wish to repeat) and a short course of antibiotics and it was dealt with very swiftly. I implore people to ONLY use antibiotics when they are essential, we have good immune systems, keep them in tip top condition by ensuring you are filling up on decent vitamins and minerals! Be kind to your body and it’ll be kind back!
If you don't take your full course of antibiotics, you will not completely resolve the issue you are taking them for. Even if you feel better, continue to take the antibiotics for as long as prescribed. If you don't take them as long as you should, you have not killed the bacteria, and then they get stronger for the next time. Bacteria are mutating, folks.
PSA: Related is how antibiotics mess up your gut health. I struggled with sinus infections for years (still do a little bit). So over the years - antibiotics many times. When I was younger medical science was less aware of the roles our gut health plays. Older me started taking daily probiotics and intestinal issues I've had for decades went away. One embarrassing but outwardly noticeable one is problems with flatulence / gas. Frequent on 'normal' food and if I ate beans or cabbage it was the campfire scene in Blazing Saddles. Now I can eat even those foods with pretty much zero gas. I wish I knew that 40 years ago.
70% of all antibiotics are given to food animals. So even if you personally never take them, if you eat farmed meat, fish, eggs, chicken etc., you're getting plenty - and it frightens me
That depends on where you live. In Australia, the use of routinely giving antibiotics to livestock is banned unless necessary.
Load More Replies...Bacteria multiply insanely fast, and it only takes 1 genetic mutation in a couple bacteria to be resistant to an antibiotic. When you take that antibiotic, you wipe out all the bacteria except the ones with the mutation. The next time the bacteria multiply, they all have the mutation that makes them resistant to that antibiotic.
I got a double whammy on December 31st, 2023. Bacterial pneumonia and influenza A at the same time. Because I take my brother and father's line of thinking and just...try to deal with s**t myself, the antibiotics worked on the pneumonia. But you need to be careful with it. Very close eye kept on it.
Honestly? R*pists and child m*****tors. Yeah sure everyone talks about how awful they are, but here in the USA many are released back into society and reoffend continuously. I’ve read tons of cases where serial r*pists were released only to escalate to m***ering their victims. It’s more common than you’d think, unfortunately.
Also the victim blaming mindset. If the offender is charismatic enough or is part of someone’s political party, sports team, church leadership, school administration, family, etc. the people who think “r*pe and child m****tation is awful” will turn and tear apart victims even if there is undeniable physical evidence to prove the accused did the crime. Apparently all sex offenders have to do is join and become involved in our close circles and we’ll sit and turn a blind eye to everything they do.
The number of women AND men who were sexually abused as kids is absolutely horrifying. The statistics that are known are scary, plus I definitely believe the majority of victims never say a word so the true numbers must be much higher.
The 'victim blaming'...... "What were you wearing?", "How much did you have to drink?", "Did you lead him on?"....... I was stone cold sober, he knew I only liked him as a friend and I could've been wearing a goddamn fricken HAZMAT suit but it wouldn't have stopped what he did.... Oh and btw? I was 8yrs old.
This happens all the time when the rapist is a police officer. The only way that they get incarcerated is when they get back on the streets and rape more children. It’s completely predictable, and horrifying.
Tons of cases? I hardly hear of any...usually they just get sent to another church.
This is sadly and infuriatingly true, and it needs to change. You rape or murder someone, you get out with little to no punishment, but if you fight back in self defense or defense of another victim of violent crime, you go to jail for f*****g life. I could rant about this all freakin night, but I'll just end it here.
Two ways to handle sèx offenders: 1) PUT THEM IN JAIL. Stop trying to keep them from being behind bars. That's where they belong, where they can't continue to control and destroy innocent lives. 2) KEEP them behind bars. If they are sentenced to 15-25 years, the length of time they are incarcerated should be based on the severity of the crime and the age and mental capacity of the victims. Not because "they've served their time." Their victims are STILL serving THEIR time for something beyond their control, unless they're deceased. "Time off for good behavior" should never apply to child molesters and rapists. 3) Immediate imprisonment for ANY sèx offender found to be violating the terms of their parole or monitoring. Not relocation, not "counseling," imprisonment. Period.
Churches used to be a prime target for sèx offenders, especially pedophiles. The "let's just pray about it" philosophy resulted in many children being victimized and never receiving justice. Now, anyone working with kids has to undergo a background check and take classes on how to recognize and report abuse. Clubs and youth organizations are also not immune. Look at what went on with the Boy Scouts of America. Because of this, certain organizations, wanting to avoid a potential lawsuit, will no longer charter them. A 4-H club in our state was called out for protecting an advisor who molested boys for 30 years by allowing him to resign discreetly. Fortunately, he was caught.
Load More Replies...Nah my dad was best friendals with someone who turned out to be a pedo... he thought he saw him and almost started a fight- it was not him tho
Subscription service models for existing items...(think the BMW heated seat shenanigans and things like ceiling fans or other devices that require an app to function)
Battle passes...
Pre-order bonuses...
Always online requirements for ANYTHING...
I'm starting to see companies talking about subscriptions for physical items, with logicool talking about a "subscription super mouse" and a housing director talking about "subscriptions" for ceiling fans.
Ceiling fans? Really? I cannot think of a more warped way to nickel and dime someone to death.
Load More Replies...No added service - no added money. I really hope there continues to be a large amount of backlash over the stupid stuff like there was for BMW trying to sell subscriptions for seat heaters.
Do they still have the seat heater subscriptions?
Load More Replies...I wouldn't put Battle Passes in this category because they make major changes to the game every 3 months. You're paying for the new content. Plus, at least with Fortnite, after you buy the battle pass once, you can earn enough v-bucks that season to buy the next battle pass and keep doing that season after season. Buying the battle pass is completely unnecessary to play and enjoy the game, it's purely to get cosmetic stuff.
Obesity. Especially U.S. Nearly half of everyone I see in my day is overweight to obese. Never a healthy weight range. It's sad how everyone treats their one body like absolute s**t and then wonder why when they hit 40, they have all these medical issues that will give huge financial loss and pain for the rest of their life. Take care of yourself, your body does so much to keep you alive, the least you can do is make it easier, show it some love and it'll love you back in your later years.
Maybe we should stop putting corn syrup, and gross amounts of it, in all manufactured food.
I'm in the UK and whenever I follow an American (US) recipe I omit the sugar for savoury dishes and use a quarter of it for sweet dishes.
Load More Replies...Some people have medical conditions and/or take presriptions that can cause them to be overweight. You don't know people's stories. Ever hear of the thyroid?
I believe that this post is directed at people who CAN control their weight, but choose not to.
Load More Replies...It's the "take care of youself"-aspect that is the problem here: many people don't know what to do to take care and the media isn't the most reliable source for information (try looking for "weightloss" on any site and half of it is ads for diet shakes or some mlm bs). We need to teach our children how to take care, at best at school, and at the same time, we need to make certain unhealthy products illegal.
Schools should be aggresively teaching nutrition at every grade level AND start serving nutritious school meals.
Load More Replies...I see a lot of people saying stuff like "just don't buy unhealthy food then". But it's not that simple. Organic or otherwise unprocessed foods cost so much more than manufactured foods, and many people don't have time to exercise or take care of themselves because of work hours, having kids, disability, etc. Not to mention food deserts, in which healthy food literally isn't an option. The richer you are, the more healthy food is accessible.
It really is that simple though. Eating minimally or non in processed food is just as cheap, if not cheaper than processed junk. I eat extremely cheap with a healthy diet. If I'm being lazy and buy junk/processed food my grocery bill is significantly more. I can buy a 20 lb bag of rice for 10 bucks, that will last months and cost cents per serving. Broccoli, carrots, onion, garlic... All of that is very cheap and go a long way. Eggs are still a cheap form of protein. Quinoa is cheap and is a whole grain with complete protein. Oats are cheap. A 20 lb bag of dried beans is extremely cheap and lasts forever. I can easily spend less than $250/ month in healthy food, and that includes coffee and tea.
Load More Replies...I've struggled all my life with my weight so I can identify and it's taken many, many years to get it under some control and it's a constant battle... working in the food industry as I do most "healthy" foods cost more than the cheaply made and priced junk /unhealthy food.
I know this is very, very serious issue, but that burger just looks SO good!
You can have a burger from time to time. If you eat generally healthy you can cheat sometimes. And you could have a healthier burger, homemade, with proper meat and bread, etc.
Load More Replies...Tbh?.... At this point I think my body is about ready to give up it's been through so much!!! My brain sympathises with it!!! 😄
Driving. Anytime you get in there, might be your last.
Road rage needs to be aggressively addressed. The roads are the new wild wesr.
It's called risk analysis. Sometimes you're wrong, but it's quite rare.
Nah. Yes, you can die in a car. Or a plane. Or falling off my front porch. That is cause for being cautious / driving defensively - which I do. But I dont feel I take it too lightly. I just recognize the odds of it "being my last" are extremely small. I've been driving for 50 years.
When your government lies to you over and over and over.
It's horrible that this is happening all around the world and people are just accepting it. This society needs to evolve and change somehow . . . some countries need better politicians.
Condoms, a friend of ours is promiscuous. But she thinks that birth control and being somewhat picky about the guys you sleep with will prevent STI’s. She says she only uses them the first few times. I fear for her future.
You can fix stupid but not if stupid doesn't want to be fixed.
Load More Replies...She's more than welcome to risk pregnancy as long as she's willingly doing it all. If she's very picky, she likely has them get tested first then screws them. As long as they get tested, let her enjoy herself if she's willing to risk pregnancy.
Why would she be "risking pregnancy" when she's using birth control? Miderna IUDs for example are over 99% effective - better than the pill
Load More Replies...I once heard, and it stuck with me, that when you have sex with someone new? You're also having sex with their past few previous partners as well... Anyway, definitely "Bag it before you shag it"... Horrible way to say please wear condoms but it's what I heard a lot when I was a teen!.... Your sexual partner could cheat, not be open about it and some STIs are "hidden" as in you might not have symptoms such as Chlamydia which can leave you with very serious issues including being infertile if left untreated.
The importance of flossing.
This song agrees with you 😄https://www.google.com/search?q=baz+luhrmann+always+wear+sunscreen+lyrics
I have lived my LIFE according to that song. Its so good! Trust me on the sunscreen.
Load More Replies...Being a decent human.
I was late to therapy one time because I helped a trucker find where he was supposed to go. A county road was closed, with no nearby detour route. The trucker was new to the area, so wasn't sure how to get to their destination. I told him to follow me, and I would get him there. I got to therapy late, and apologized for being late. I told my therapist why I was late, he said "you didn't have to do that". Well, why wouldn't I help someone that was easy enough to help, and that wouldn't take me too much time.
As far as being a human being, I'm not great or even very good. But decent.
Be the best person that you can be, even if you don't get anything in return... Because it's not about the return... It's about being a kind person and helping out others....
Speeding. People drive around at 10-15 over the speed limit then act like it's the cops fault that they got a ticket. Yea, you save 3 minutes on your drive but you also drastically increased your stress levels as well as your chance of a car accident. Speed limits are set with local traffic, pedestrian frequency, and road design. Ignoring that is just begging for an accident.
I had two colleagues who got enough speeding tickets each they had to go to remedial drivers’ training and would bìtch about it. Well, if you don’t speed, that won’t happen. The time you “saved” speeding likely doesn’t add up to the time you spent in remedial training either!
I knew an idiot who bragged frequently about doing triple digits on his motorcycle. I was just concerned about the person who is traumatized for life because they thought they could merge and then there's a bike going 150 and splat.
Load More Replies...Traffic deaths in general are not given the attention they deserve. Most traffic deaths are caused by driver errors, such as speeding, DUI or distracted driving. You are several times more likely to die by car accident than from gun violence. https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Motor_vehicle_fatality_rate_in_U.S._by_year
It increases my stress levels too, even though I'm not the one speeding.
Especially - racing. Both illegal and legal. Deadly, even when precautions are taken.
Posture/sitting. Sitting is going to be the next cig killer because of health issues. And posture is already doing it as so many issues are due to bad posture(bad wrist? Prob posture or sitting, headache at the back of your neck? Posture. Trouble breathing/chest tightness? Try to adjust your posture. I bet a good chance it goes away(fun fact this can cause anxiety). It's insane how we've just accepted text neck, hunching, rolled shoulders, and other stuff as normal.
I find it really difficult to maintain any kind of posture these days without some or the other support. I do try but it’s hard
I really believe a standing desk saved my back and probably my life. I got one for my home office and I felt so much better and had more energy just from being able to stand while taking meetings and doing menial tasks that I asked for one at my office, too. I have noticed such an improvement overall from being able to stand when I want to.
Random question but? Anyone else ever have to balance two books on their head while walking as a child by their parent/parents?
Grandmother. And she made me read the entirety of Miss Manners, printed circa 1956. Thanks, Gran! 😊
Load More Replies...Walking and swishing your bottom like it's a railroad crossing signal is a sure way to end up with hip and back problems. Sure, it might look cute and sexy. But how cute and sexy will you look having to use a four-pronged cane or a walker?
Their words, they have weight. A lot of people act like they’re invisible so they go hurt others for attention without knowing it has impact.
I've met a few who do it precisely BECAUSE the know it has impact. A couple of them did it for attention and power. A third one actively enjoyed it like a zingy topping to food that was otherwise flavourless.
An ex's family was like this with me. I was around 11 at the time, and they must have at least been in their 40s or 50s, and because he lied about how our relationship was handled, they were very aggressively trying to get me to commit suicide. I toyed around with them and it was hilarious.
Load More Replies...One of the most frightening things about being a teacher is finding out that some of your students are really listening to you and are actually taking your advice.
Yes - sticks and stones may break my bones - but they heal fairly quickly. Whereas words will stay with me forever.
Covid, for sure. It's not just the flu or a cold, people. It's not even just a respiratory disease. It can damage your heart, brain, kidneys, arteries, and more. And every time you get it, even if you're asymptomatic, your risk for long Covid or just cumulative damage to your vital organs goes up.
And the fun part is it's causing literal brain damage, so like the longer we wait to address it the less mentally agile we'll be as a country to design and implement counter measures.
Just heard about a study where really serious COVID cases, such as those needing hospitalization has caused cognitive defects and lose of IQ point by almost 10 points. https://www.amenclinics.com/blog/does-covid-lower-iq-scores-what-new-study-says/#:~:text=Perhaps%20the%20most%20surprising%20finding,3%2Dpoint%20decrease%20in%20IQ.
Load More Replies...Having had Covid, being in hospital because I already had spinal bruising and other injuries etc... I saw the lady in the opposite hospital bed from me die. I saw her... I'd been comforting her as best I could but I was recovering, she wasn't and there was absolutely nothing I could do... I can't, won't go to further into it. But I recovered myself from Covid... Slowly but recovered. I fought to learn to walk again, I fought that goddamn f*cking virus and kicked it's a**e straight back into the hell it belongs in..... The day I got the call, when I was finally home and had survived... About a year later? The day I got the call that I could finally stop taking Apixaban, which was the d**g I had to take for Covid? I cried over the phone to my doctor and he said "Cry all you want to because it's very rare that I get to give people good news"... So... Dunno...
I'm a medical scheduler and have had 3 calls before 11:00 a. m. From people that had positive home tests and wanted video visits to get meds for it. Other people have also had patients call for appts today for positive home tests. It's still out there and not going away any time soon
Yep. My son and I each had it in June. It was the first time for me. Fortunately both of us had mild cases.
Load More Replies...It's especially fun when you wake up because you can't breath...because your lungs aren't working.
Yes, and people have been refusing to take it for 4 years now...
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Saving money for rainy days or retirement. People are living beyond their means and they don't even know it. When you factor in the fact that you're going to have to depend on what you saved up it becomes even clearer.
People are living beyond their means because that’s often the only way to live now. Not by choice, but by necessity. It’s hard to put money away when all of it goes to necessities. Of course, if we regulated prices in a way that favours most people, the billionaires would be inconvenienced and it would be “communism”.
Everyone who isn't rich is forced to live beyond their means, because everything is so damn expensive now and a small percentage of the population hoards all the wealth for themselves.
Living beyond our means?? That's because it's hard to find good paying jobs with people who don't treat you and your coworkers like s**t. I'm in an "alright" job and I get paid peanuts. I can't afford to live within my "means". Even if I just got food for a month, it would still push the boundaries of my paycheck and I need some crafting supplies for my mental health or I go crazy. We even moved in with family to help save and now we can barely afford to do that
From what I understand, people need three incomes: one to live on, one for saving in case of an emergency, and one to save for the future. Well, too many of us only had, or have, one income: the one we live on. And most of the time it doesn't even cover that.
Hydration.
This is a hard one for me. With my chronic pancreatitis, even drinks of water increases my pain and I never know when a meal or a drink will set me into a multii day flare. Complete pancreatic rest is best for flares, but that's not doable when managing it at home (which is the usual case since I flare once or twice a month and deal with daily pain).
I have been told by both my primary care physician and my voice therapist to drink more water. It makes a difference.
Eating junk.
If by "junk" you mean things that are foraged or are usually deemed inedible, then yes everything can go very bad very fast. Perforated digestive system, poison, bacterial and viral disease.
I think they’re referring to what we call “junk food.” Meaning highly processed food laden with sugar and salt and chemical preservatives we don’t need to eat.
Load More Replies... Jokes
Everything is so f*****g serious and argumentative these days it's exhausting
Can we not just have the craic.
I think we need to allow a degree of latitude in jokes, but I remember movies in the 80s that had jokes that just make me cringe now that I'm old enough to see the hostility these "jokes" masked. I think we have to make sure that "It's just a joke" isn't just a cover for bullying.
If someone has to follow up with "Omg, lighten up, it's just a joke!"... Then no, it's not just a "joke". A joke is never "just a joke" if it demeans or hurts the person it's obviously directed to.
A lot of people with depression make a lot of jokes. We see things in such a funny way. It is a great mask, so people don't even realize you are depressed.
A guy drinking at a pub gets drunk and throws up on himself. He mortified saying that his wife will leave him if he comes home like this again and drunk. The bartender tells him to relax. Put $20 in your pocket, and tell her someone else got sick on you and gave you $20 for the cleaning bill. Brilliant says the man and goes home where his irate wife is waiting for him. Before she started in on him, he pulls the money from his pocket and explains that someone else got sick on his shirt and the $20 was for the cleaning bill. She asks Then why do you have $40? He says the other $20 is from the man who shat in my pants.
genuine question please don’t downvote me, are slightly offensive jokes that are genuinely not meant to upset anyone ok?
I think that depends on the audience. I tell jokes at home I would never say to anyone else, but my family knows beyond a shadow of a doubt I don't mean those things.
Load More Replies... This is gonna be niche but safety in westen riding/rodeo sports. Especially with kids.
I watch the videos online of 10 year olds almost being thrown from horses 20 times their weight before doing their barrel racing run wearing a hat only and I can't believe this is where we are still at. Concussions ans TBIs are not taken anywhere seriously enough in these circles purely for the sake of looking "tough."
I understand the culture behind the hat and I understand why some safety precautions aren't practical in a working farm/ranch setting, but this is a sport involving live animals, high speeds and crazy maneuvers.
I grew up riding western and absolutely loved barrel racing and rodeo but I saw (and experienced) FAR too many concussions where the immediate treatment was encouragement to "get back up on the horse" to show you were ok and not wimpy.
My last concussion was WITH my helmet. There was a rule at our barn (which was a common rule at many other barns) that you only had to wear a helmet IF you lost/forgot your hat and it was mostly to shame you for forgetting or losing your hat. I was thrown and landed head first on the ground. Imagine if I had just been wearing my hat.
I could understand not forcing adults to wear helmets since it's their choice but to put small kids into these sports with absolutely nothing protecting their heads is straight up insanity.
Very specific, but true and does very much need to be addressed
I had a friend who got amnesia falling off of a horse. Lost 3 years of her teenage life, and when you spend all that time with them, it's amazing how much people mature in that short time when you're that young. Seeing her act 14 again was so much more jarring than I expected it to. Head injuries are no joke. She eventually got her memories back, but she never regained that maturity, she had to learn all those life lessons again and it was really hard. Love your friends, you never know what can happen.
I would have never considered how dangerous this is until it was pointed out.
Earning things, delayed gratification. I never learned this as a kid or teen and now in my 30s having to force myself to put things away or shelf things I want for things I need to do first.
As an older person, I do feel like I've seen a shift in this over the decades. Cell phones didn't exist when I was young but if in my youth / young adulthood someone was whining about couldn't purchase next model iPhone or some computer game the day it was released - most of us would have laughed at them. The concept would have seemed silly. Now you see news articles about folks getting in line the day before and camping out on the sidewalk overnight. And when I was young, credit cards were for major purchases you needed to pay for over time - usually that you NEEDED. These days I use mine for most things and pay it off for the cash back. But the casual mentality for CCs gets a lot of folks who can't pay it off each month in a rut. I think it was the Bon Marche (clothing store) that used to have signs everywhere that said, "Like it? Charge it!" Those were so cringe to me.
Alcohol consumption. too much and you destroy your insides and will lead to lots of health problems.
My dad died to this. I laughed the entire time. I even grinned at him as they were putting him on loads of morphine so he could die without pain. He abused me, my mom, and my little sister our entire lives. His death was the greatest thing that ever happened to us. We are free. My blood pressure went down, I don't need as high a dose of anxiety meds, and pot makes me high now instead of normal!
The subject of alcohol always makes me think of a line from Stephen King's novel "Christine": "There is a great outcry about d***s in the schools now, and I don't oppose that outcry because I think it's obscene to think of children fifteen and sixteen years old reeling around full of dope, but I still believe alcohol is the most vulgar, dangerous d**g ever invented - and it's legal."
The fact that alcohol is not only cheap, but in some places free, makes it THE most dangerous d**g available, compounded with the other fact that alcohol consumption is not only tolerated, but even encouraged, even with underage individuals.
That your access to healthcare is heavily dependent on who you work for. Not just in how much money you earn, but certain insurances allow for more testing and better treatments than others do without extreme costs. Quitting your job could literally mean risking your life.
Yes, we know the US health system sucks. Why you collectively allow it to continue that way by voting for progressively more right-wing governments over the years I do not understand.
We (Americans) don't understand it either. I felt like I was living in a TV satire the day Trump was elected. All we can do is keep speaking the truth and voting. I hope we make the sane, constructive choice in November.
Load More Replies...This. People stay miserable at their job because if they no longer have that job, they will lose their health insurance. This sucks, people!
Casual drinking turns into problematic drinking really easily if you're not paying attention, especially with how "social drinks" focused American society (I can't speak for other cultures) is.
Alcoholism is not about frequency or quantity. It's about physical and emotional dependency on the drink.
People think clobbering yourself with alcohol is funny or cool. Do what you want of course, but I find it a little disturbing when people talk about how hammered they get and they're not in their early 20s.
Sugar addiction.
Not a thing. Having a sweet tooth (or a food industry that adds too much sugar to everything) is not an addiction.
Sugar addiction is a real thing. It is also a big part of WHY food manufacturers add a lot of it to their products.
Load More Replies...Responsibility is taken too lightly. You name it, they don’t want to be responsible and do the right absolutely correct thing.
Oil companies. They tell "the little guy" to recycle or lower your thermostat. Yet we are less than a milionth of a drop in the bucket when it comes to pollution and reducing the use of their products.
Why take responsibility when you can blame everyone else and point fingers?
Ableism.
Just because you yourself can walk though a doorway easily, doesn't mean you are better than the person who needs a "special door" or ramp instead of steps.
I find most disabled people are better, braver, and stronger people than I am. Unfortunately, they need to be. One of my former students, Emily Voorde, is such a person and now serves as Vice Chair of the National Council on Disability. I am intensely proud of her.
Load More Replies...disability is a minority someone can join at any time in their lives, through no fault of their own, and you don't necessarily have any recourse. the ableism you display, vote for, reinforce, teach those around you, can and likely will come back to you, if not in the form of disability, in lack of accessibility as you age and lose pieces of your health.
Not appreciating your parents. Call and speak with them more they won't be around forever!
Exactly. It took an awful lot of effort to get it to the point where I don't hafta. 🙂
Load More Replies...Living beyond their means.
Buying stuff you don‘t need, with money you don‘t have to impress people you don‘t like… I just don‘t get it. I was raised to save money and buy what I want when I saved enough!
Yes! I constantly talk about it. Everyone is just always in debt so they can have shiny nice things.
Yes there are people like that, awfully much of them. But still most people are living beyond their means just because the money isn't enough to actually live.
Load More Replies...Watching p**n.
Pörn gives people unrealistic expectations about séx, just as action movies depict unrealistic physics.
Watching sex is to having sex is what reading music is to playing it.
Load More Replies...The problem with poʻrn is the same problem as with any other addiction: it warps your sense of reality. Also, after a while, merely watching it isn't gratifying enough. Poʻrn tends to "inspire" people to act on desires that didn't exist before. The distance from the brain to the hand is shorter than you think.
Something that people take too lightly - the dangers of sport. Not just football and basketball, but skiing and almost every other type of sport as well.
Well, with that election system the US operates, I would be frustrated, too. Our wall filling party and candidates sheet you have to choose from might look overwhelming, but at least every vote has direct influence on the result. And we do percentages, so the parliament is an actual mirror of the diverse opinions of the people.
I have a couple from the medical profession!! I can't tell you how many patient's don't know their allergies or believe the hospital records. IF IT'S ON THERE, IT'S THERE FOR A REASON! You may have had an issue as a child or something, and it stays on your chart for LIFE! Just go with it. Could save your life. The other is how amazing that so many people, mainly men, don't know their medications! Write it down, keep it in your wallet or phone. This too can save your life. Shouldn't always rely on your spouse or the accuracy of the office that isn't your primary care. You should know this beyond "it's a round red pill."
When I was in the physiotherapy hospital just after having Covid etc? The nurses were fantastic, basically we had to memorise our medications, the times we had to take them etc. When it was time for them? We had to had to, without cheating! Recite what we had to take. "Thiamine, Iron, Coleslaw, Pixie!" was mine!
Load More Replies...Something that people take too lightly - the dangers of sport. Not just football and basketball, but skiing and almost every other type of sport as well.
Well, with that election system the US operates, I would be frustrated, too. Our wall filling party and candidates sheet you have to choose from might look overwhelming, but at least every vote has direct influence on the result. And we do percentages, so the parliament is an actual mirror of the diverse opinions of the people.
I have a couple from the medical profession!! I can't tell you how many patient's don't know their allergies or believe the hospital records. IF IT'S ON THERE, IT'S THERE FOR A REASON! You may have had an issue as a child or something, and it stays on your chart for LIFE! Just go with it. Could save your life. The other is how amazing that so many people, mainly men, don't know their medications! Write it down, keep it in your wallet or phone. This too can save your life. Shouldn't always rely on your spouse or the accuracy of the office that isn't your primary care. You should know this beyond "it's a round red pill."
When I was in the physiotherapy hospital just after having Covid etc? The nurses were fantastic, basically we had to memorise our medications, the times we had to take them etc. When it was time for them? We had to had to, without cheating! Recite what we had to take. "Thiamine, Iron, Coleslaw, Pixie!" was mine!
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