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“I Have Become My Father”: 30 People Share What They Swore They Would Never Do As Children But Failed
We say a lot of things when we're kids. Especially "I will never do this" or "I'm never going to be like my parents." We have a lot of expectations for our grown-up selves and imagine our lives in all sorts of ways - magical and full of adventures. However, it usually doesn't work out the way we want it to and we end up "disappointing" our younger selves. Probably the most common thing kids swear off is tobacco or alcohol, but most of them do try it when they grow up. And that's just one example.
This internet user asked, "What did you swear in your childhood you would never do, but ended up doing anyways?" and people flooded in to give their answers and stories. Some are more surprising than others, but you'll probably be able to relate to most of them.
Feel free to share your own stories in the comments!
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#1
Gardening. We had a large garden. We raised and preserved what we grew. It was me and my sister's job to care for this garden. This was back when whipping your child was acceptable punishment. I was whipped sooo many times, because I hated that I had to grew and preserved vegetables I did not like. I hated it! Swore I'd never have a garden. Never do THAT to my kids. Then I had kids. A switch flipped in my head. I had to have a garden! I never made my kids take care of it. Gardening was my "me" time. But being little kids, they wanted to be with mom and "help" with the garden. I "gave" them an area and they were allowed to grow whatever they wanted. If it was a fruit or vegetables , they had to eat it. As a result, they both love gardening and neither are picky eaters.
We talked to Patrick McGrath (Emeritus Professor, Psychiatry, Dalhousie University) and he shared some insights on why kids often proclaim they will "never" do something: "Many children have times that they defiantly want to be independent of their parents and times they want to be the same as them. This shifting back and forth is how they learn to be their person."
#2
Drank like my alcoholic mother
Until I got sober at age 31, thank God (and AA)
#3
I grew up Mormon, sooooo...
Drinking coffee, green tea, black tea, alcohol, maturbating, having premarital sex, going clubbing, losing faith in God, dating a non-religious person, trying psilosyben mushrooms, becoming politically left wing, and getting a tattoo.
The professor also shared how he would answer this question: "I was raised in a large, Irish-Canadian family. My father had started his own business, a bill collection agency. I saw the demands of starting one's own business and I swore I would never start my own business. I became an academic clinical psychologist doing administration, seeing patients, and doing research at home (crfh.ca). Fast forward many years, and I have started several businesses. The latest is 90Second Health, 90Second Health Letters - Trusted Health Information. It is fun."
#4
Give up drawing.
I actually broke my own heart when I recently found a school project we did back when I was a kid. We had to write a letter for our future selves and mine starts with: "Hey, did you become an artist already? I really hope you did not become a boring adult with a boring job who gave up on his dreams and passions."
Well, sorry little me, but I kinda did.
#5
Birdwatching. I used to think it was the lamest way someone could spend their time when I was a kid. How could anyone just sit around and look at birds? What are you, some kind of bird creep? ... 20 years later and I'm obsessed with birds. Love hearing their songs and seeing all the beautiful colors
We also asked Professor McGrath if kids often base their likes and dislikes on their parents or if it's just random: "Likes and dislikes are not random. Part of it is genetic. For example, some talents such as musical talent or mathematical talent are partly inherited. Much of our likes and dislikes are learned. Much is learned from our parents and also from our friends. Some are learned from the culture and social media."
#6
Get married. I was going to be the perpetual bachelor. Married over 30 years with 6 kids. Wouldn’t change a thing.
Dorothy Reiser 1 year ago
My husband of 44 years on our first date: "I'm not the marrying kind" hahaha
#7
I wanted nothing more than to escape my family for good and never come back.
They got help... I did not expect that...
The professor shared how kids decide what they want to be or be like when they grow up: "It is a mixture of learning, genetics, opportunity, and chance. I was going to be a priest, but then I decided to become what some say is the equivalent, a psychologist. I was influenced by a visitor to my parents' home, a priest who was studying to be a psychologist (see 'Pioneer Paper: An Accidental Scientist: Chance, Failure, Risk-Taking, and Mentoring,' Journal of Pediatric Psychology, Oxford Academic [oup.com] for the full story). Many kids follow into their parents' occupations."
#8
Stopped liking new music. And now I just listen to the music that was around when I was growing up.
Hutt'nKloas 1 year ago
That's idd a pity. Although my musical roots are set in the 70's-80's I contineously am on the lookout for & enjoy new sources. Youtube and Bandcamp are rather helpfull there
#9
have an abortion.
i was raised pretty evangelical by both (veru divorced) parents. i grew up believing being queer was wrong (BOY did puberty rock my world, lol) and that abortion was straight up selfish and evil. for more reference, i did a speech biography project on jesus f*****g christ in 6th grade and later on did a debate project on being anti-abortion in 8th grade (which my teacher properly f*****g schooled me on, as teachers are wont to do).
my senior year, still kind of a christian but very much less so, i got pregnant. my boyfriend at the time pressured me into protectionless sex, which we had never done before, and i foolishly gave in. lo and behold, i found out the day after my senior graduation that i was pregnant.
his mother, who actually really disliked me, helped me make and get to and from appointments with planned parenthood. i was 18 and i got government assistance. i was early enough to qualify for a medical abortion and i spent a few days with that boyfriend at my best friend's house (she is still my best friend over a decade and a half later) and had the abortion. she took care of me like i was a child. i messed up my medications meant for pain and nausea, and she wiped my forehead and cradled me and cleaned me up like i was an infant. she is an angel, i love her so much. she was my only support through the worst time of my life. that boyfriend ended up not only ignoring me and not supporting me, but cheated on me multiple times with teenage children. i still wonder to this day, so many years later, if he'll show up on the news. i bet he will.
long story short, i did something i never, ever thought i would do. i am a very happy and very loved mother now. i eventually met a wonderful, gentle, beautiful partner and we made a beautiful baby together who is now in school :) i am happier than i ever thought i could be, with a person who i'm crazy about. none of this would ever, EVER have happened if i didn't abort so long ago. i would do it over and over and over again to get where i am now.
Loverboy 1 year ago
Something really nice came out of something really bad, I wish that happened more often. Religion can do good but honestly I hate a lot of it. So much harm and suffering because of it. I feel you about the being queer thing, more because of my dad's idea of masculinity than anything though.
Professor McGrath also shared some other insights: "I am an old man and I never thought I would do anything artistic because I had no talent and I refused to try. But my wife wanted to try acrylics, so I tried painting. I still don’t have talent but I enjoy it. When I retire at 99, I will paint full time."
#10
Become overweight. I’ve done or avoided doing everything else that I cared about, but am much bigger than I would like.
#12
Well, grew up supperrrr religious. Like homeschooled, on a farm, church 5x a week, the end is coming, street evangelism at 6, swear to your dad before God that you will stay a virgin till marriage at 13, religious. SOOOO, I intended to save my first kiss for marriage. Currently having amazing kinky sex 4x a week with the man of my dreams with an engagement on the horizon. Also, I'm a bisexual witch. woooooooooo cutting off my parents soon hopefully
#13
I said I wouldn’t curse unless a nuke was dropped on my house. That was a f*****g lie.
#14
Stop believing in Christianity
Donna Peluda 1 year ago
Having gone to religious primary school in UK as a child it was hard to see the good in Christianity. We simply weren't given the tools to question, we were blocked by our education. When I did my first communion I remember kneeling down after receiving the body of Christ and thinking, this is all BS.
#15
Become like my sister.
In elementary school, we had to write a one-page letter to ourselves as adults, about our expectations etc.
I wrote I never wanted to be like my oldest sister, because teenage her kept slapping me whenever she was annoyed, and was overall horrid to me.
Well, she changed when she got pregnant at 17, turned her life around, stopped doing drugs, finished school after having my niece (with lots of support from my parents), went to uni with her daughter in tow, married my BIL, lived in England for a year, became a teacher, and is now one of the people I admire the most.
We're now living less than half an hour from each other, both married, both with two daughters, living in a similar village right outside the same city. I spent a year in England, too, even in the same county, and of my 4 siblings, she's the one most like myself in temper, tastes and looks. And I really don't mind.
#16
Have sex before marriage. Thank f**k I never made good on that one since I'm 41 and have never been married.
#17
I always wanted to be this thin dainty woman as a kid, I hated my muscly calves and thighs, I hated that I had broad shoulders. I didn't think any man could possibly find it attractive, let alone finding myself attractive and lovable.
That went right out the window the moment my stubborn brain decided to join a male dominated field requiring muscle. I love myself in ways my younger self could never imagine, I'm proud of physical achievements my younger self would shy from.
From the bigger girl constantly trying to be smaller to the muscly woman trying to get more.
Oh and I have an absolutely gorgeous boyfriend who brags about his girlfriends muscle - and my tinder profile was very successful in hook-ups. So I guess I'm hot (well not ugly enough to not get hook ups) and have a decent enough personality.
#18
stop talking to my friends
there used to be 6 of us
now its just me
#19
Diet sodas. In my youth I swore I'd just die of diabetes before I drank that swill.
Now I'm in my 40s and unless the soda is sweetened with real sugar, I actually prefer diet/zero sugar options. Corn syrup sodas are so gross to me now. Oh, and once I stopped drinking high fructose corn syrup, I lost fifty f*****g pounds. Corn syrup has no place in our drinks.
#21
Tell my kid, "because I said so".
AndThenICommented 1 year ago
Sometimes it’s just nicer than ‘of I hear one more episode of Bluey I’m gonna lose it…’ 😂
#22
Become a teacher. My dad was one and people always told me I should do it and I'd be good at it. I swore I'd never do it, and hated the very idea of it. When I got to 26 and still didn't have an idea of what I wanted to do with my life, I got a teaching degree. I hate teaching. It was a mistake.
#23
Not believing in god.
But now I know we are on our own.
#24
Become a nurse. My mother was a nurse. Both of my grandmothers as well, and I always swore as I grew up, listening to mom’s gross stories it was something I would never do. Had a different career in my early 20s only to become a nurse by 30.😂
#25
I would never say "While you live under my roof, you live by my rules".
I said it a few months ago to my 17 year old.
As I was saying it, and realized what I was saying, I blushed and cringed on the inside. I can't even remember what the argument was about, but I sure remember the shame of what I said. I wonder if my father went through the same self questioning when he said it to me?
T'Mar of Vulcan 1 year ago
I've quoted my mother so many times since I became a teacher, and I cringe every time. Sorry, Mom, your platitudes were c**p.
#27
I have become my father.
Aroace tiger (she/they/he) 1 year ago
I don't want to become too much like my parents. Partially I'm ok with it but not fully
#28
Smoking, alcohol, weed, soft drugs, hard drugs, I wish I would've listened to my younger self
#29
cry over a boy
That emo Girl 1 year ago
Meh. I'll cry over plenty of girls in my time, I just hope I don't wallow for too long 🤣🤣🤣
#30
Get fat 😕
What do you think ?
oktopus 1 year ago
I was sort of brainwashed by my parents to believe that any "popular" music (i.e. anything which came out after ca. 1970) is uncouth and common and always imagined myself going to classical concerts with maybe the odd bit of folk. Now I'm 50 and have literally just got back from a live house rock concert in a basement bar somewhere in Tokyo. Hah.
A girl 1 year ago
I swore I was never going to participate in a bar meat raffle. I don't go out of my way to attend but, dang, $1 to get $50 worth of meat? I'm in.
Cathy Lemay 1 year ago
i feel tat way about 50-50 raffles. But they serve a purpose and sometimes you win.
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Beatrice Fairchild 1 year ago
Omg, there are so many things I could write, but here's the short version. Getting married young, my parents got married at 17 as that is what their religion wanted, I got married on my 18th birthday so I couldn't marry who they wanted. We're still together 10 years later w/ 4 kids and a dog!
Kristy Nelson 1 year ago
Wow! Some of these people need some serious support. I'm sorry for everyone having suchba difficult time. Please reach out for help.
Stardust she/her 1 year ago
My younger self probably hates the person I’ve become. I promised myself that I will always eat healthy, go out and play everyday, not use the internet and not say bad words (word like stupid, idiot etc). Covid happened and from there I went from being the ideal child to a brat in 3 years.
Ola Polowczyk 1 year ago
Well, when I was a kid, I would swear I would never be as pedantic as my mum is. Until like 2 weeks ago I caught myself scrubbing the kitchen floor with a sponge and going to myself "yeah, this will finally be clean. This mop only pushes the dirt around" 🤷♀️
oktopus 1 year ago
I was sort of brainwashed by my parents to believe that any "popular" music (i.e. anything which came out after ca. 1970) is uncouth and common and always imagined myself going to classical concerts with maybe the odd bit of folk. Now I'm 50 and have literally just got back from a live house rock concert in a basement bar somewhere in Tokyo. Hah.
A girl 1 year ago
I swore I was never going to participate in a bar meat raffle. I don't go out of my way to attend but, dang, $1 to get $50 worth of meat? I'm in.
Cathy Lemay 1 year ago
i feel tat way about 50-50 raffles. But they serve a purpose and sometimes you win.
Load More Replies... Beatrice Fairchild 1 year ago
Omg, there are so many things I could write, but here's the short version. Getting married young, my parents got married at 17 as that is what their religion wanted, I got married on my 18th birthday so I couldn't marry who they wanted. We're still together 10 years later w/ 4 kids and a dog!
Kristy Nelson 1 year ago
Wow! Some of these people need some serious support. I'm sorry for everyone having suchba difficult time. Please reach out for help.
Stardust she/her 1 year ago
My younger self probably hates the person I’ve become. I promised myself that I will always eat healthy, go out and play everyday, not use the internet and not say bad words (word like stupid, idiot etc). Covid happened and from there I went from being the ideal child to a brat in 3 years.
Ola Polowczyk 1 year ago
Well, when I was a kid, I would swear I would never be as pedantic as my mum is. Until like 2 weeks ago I caught myself scrubbing the kitchen floor with a sponge and going to myself "yeah, this will finally be clean. This mop only pushes the dirt around" 🤷♀️
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