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Doing only what everyone else tells you to do is no way to go through life. Instead, it’s important to develop the confidence to embrace your true passions—and pursue them without embarrassment or guilt. Just because society tells you something is cool doesn’t make it so.

Jake Okechukwu Effoduh, a Ph.D. candidate at the Osgoode Hall Law School of York University, recently went viral on X (formerly Twitter) when he asked everyone for their thoughts on what they’re convinced people only pretend to enjoy. Camping, situationships, trips to Miami, and oysters are just the tip of the iceberg. Scroll down to see what everyone else had to share.

Bored Panda reached out to Jake and he was kind enough to share a few thoughts with us. Read on for his insights!

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We were interested to get Jake's thoughts on the massive popularity of his online thread. "I wonder why it resonated with so many people. I guess many people have thought about the question too!" he told Bored Panda.

"I didn't expect the tweet to get any attention, so seeing 38M views is shocking," he said.

Meanwhile, we were curious as to why people have such different opinions on various foods and activities. Here's what the author of the viral thread had to say: "As they say: 'One person's meat is another person's poison.'"

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    ॐBoyGanesh
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    1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Running feels awesome. Running cross country is physically, emotionally and mentally fulfilling. More so than in a track. Ergo, better than a treadmill. How could someone who likes to run not like doing it outside? Unless they live in New Delhi or a smoggy place.

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    According to Jake, "People find it hard to think that something they dislike so much is enjoyed by other people. For example, I love avocados but was surprised to see many people think those who enjoy avocados are pretending," he explained.

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    Though he has gone viral on Twitter, Jake doesn't consider himself a content creator. Instead, he used the platform to keep up with the news and to share his insights with others.

    "I use Twitter to catch up with what's happening in the world and share my thoughts sometimes," he told Bored Panda.

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    1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I enjoy going into the office, the team is great and we have a laugh BUT if you give me the option to work from home or from the office, i'm picking home every time

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    1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

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    If we sit down and think hard about our goals and priorities, then we can come up with a list of things that we genuinely enjoy doing. This might mean different things to everyone. Some, for instance, might be passionate about art and writing, while others might want to focus on music and dance. 

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    Most of us also want to have good, strong relationships with others because we’re social animals. Having an active social life isn’t just pleasant, it’s good for our health. The BBC stresses that loneliness can be just as dangerous as smoking. Leading a lonely life leads to more health problems, and shorter, lower-quality lives. According to health experts, around half of the American population is thought to be affected by this. 

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    However, it’s because our social lives are so important that we might be overly worried about our reputations and that others like us. Instead of being 100% authentic and true to ourselves, our aims, and our values, we may adapt our behavior to fit in better. This might mean copying our social group’s interests to leave a positive impression, whether it’s suddenly trying to enjoy camping or some other activity. 

    Here’s the thing, though: it’s perfectly fine to try out new and unexpected activities. Embracing a sense of adventure and surprise, and living curiously, are all wonderful things. However, pursuing specific activities just because you’re scared your friends and acquaintances might judge you otherwise isn’t healthy.

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    1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Instagram, depends on who/what you follow. Though the adverts/suggested posts in my feed can f**k right off

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    1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I live on an island where we have to watch for falling coconuts all the time. It’s so delicious. Especially if you filter the pulp or meat. How people don’t love coconut I’ll never understand.

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    It’s perfectly fine to say ‘no’ if you’ve tried, say, golf, but it never really clicked. On the flip side, if you did enjoy the activity like your friends do, then that’s wonderful, you’re on the same page. The point is, friendship—true friendship—means setting and enforcing boundaries, and feeling comfortable enough to be honest about what you enjoy and absolutely do not. So you might not like camping—that’s fine, you’ll bond with your pals over hiking or cooking.

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    Verywell Mind points out that herd mentality, also known as mob or crowd mentality, can be observed everywhere we go. That’s how fashion trends, investment decisions and political affiliations can spread: people set aside their personal judgments and individuality in exchange for adopting the beliefs of the majority. 

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    1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    have you ever tried salted licorice, cultural heritage of the Scandinavian countries, much worse than viking raids?

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    Folks who are victims of herd mentality tend to conform with the rest of the group, even if they had very different opinions before joining it. They often have a fear of being excluded and may adopt more extreme opinions in order to fit in better. Not only that, members of these social mobs also suppress dissent by stamping out contrary opinions. 

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    The best way to fight back against herd mentality is to cultivate more self-awareness. In other words, you have to take an honest look at your beliefs and (dis)likes. Be open with yourself about how much your peers affect how you act. Then, it all comes down to making the decision to be more authentic in the future… or to continue going with the flow.

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    John Harrison
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    1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    This is silly. Taylor is the biggest performer on the globe right now. Its not even close. People aren't pretending.

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    It also helps if you become more skeptical of all trends and popular opinions. Try to see through the hype and spot the nuances in situations. The more you develop your critical thinking skills, the more you’ll be able to protect your individuality. And though human beings crave certainty and stability, you can slowly develop your confidence if you start to embrace being uncomfortable going against the crowd. Though you shouldn’t be a contrarian just to stand out!

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    80 Van
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    1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Or, as my dad calls it, “pretending to be homeless for a few nights.”

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    Auntriarch
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    1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Nope, not pretending at all. Bought a tub of mountain gorgonzola this week, sharing it with my mother, that's how much I love her

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    So, dear Pandas, which of these tweets (or should we be calling them Xs now thanks to Elon Musk?) did you resonate with the most? What things do personally think aren’t all that enjoyable but folks feel pressure to say they love ‘em? What activities do you genuinely love? Share your thoughts in the comments, we’d love to hear from you!

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    1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    My mother used to force a vitamin syrup down me when I was little, same colour and taste, I'm afraid I will never warm to it

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    1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I’m sure women love getting ready to go out, spending an hour getting ready, only to step outside, immediately have an Afro, makeup running down your face and clothing damp with sweat

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    1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    My grandparents were married for 63 years. He took care of her after she had a series of strokes. They were 21 and 25 when they got married

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    1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Oatmeal raisin cookies are of the devil, but stay away from my pizza with pineapple on it.

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    1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Meanwhile gabb is pretending to enjoy the taste of the better tequila options...

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    1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Deadly serious. A book, a glass (also with bubbles as it happens) and if the bubbles aren't visible over the top of the bath, it's not bubbly enough

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    1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I dare to disagree. I went once on a week long trip to Benelux countries and I actually met more people, wasn't alone at all. I was tired? Went to the hotel to nap. Was hungry? I ate. Felt just like sitting on a bench? Why not. Really great experience

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    1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Much like people, it is what is on the inside3 that counts. Some are full of tender, high quality ingredients, and some are just packed with unhealthy awfulness. That goes for the people and the hotdogs both.

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    1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    What the actual f**k? I don’t like cold potato salad, but you’ve just disturbed me more.

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