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David H 1 year ago

prison justice is a real thing. People like that have a low survival rate in Prison. Lots of accidents happen

9points

the_harbinger_of_dooms/t/h 1 year ago

everything is legal when the police arent around

4points

Princess Mar-li Cathryn 1 year ago

Facts

2points

Givemeabreak101 1 year ago

Mom and the Johns?

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Dominik 1 year ago

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Jane No Dough 1 year ago

This is so awful I don't have words. I hate that people can be this horrible and I'm so sorry they did this to you and your sister. I hope that life is a thousand times better for you now and that it keeps getting better.

24points

Dru Mode 1 year ago

You have to have a license to drive a car..catch a fish..kill a deer...adopt a dog but they let any Tom ..D**k ..or Jane be a parent...my grandma "gave" me to my grandpa at age 3 bcuz she couldn't have sex any longer due to a medical condition and when I con fussed he was raping me ..she told me to deal with it...her dad raped her and her sisters and her mom didn't stop it so she wasn't helping me..just learn to deal with it is what she told me

22points

tabithapaquette98 1 year ago

Omfg Dru Mode! I am so sorry. That is... there are no words. Awful. Horrific. I am so sorry your family sucks. So just because her parents did it, it's ok to do it to you? No!

11points

Duckie Measles 1 year ago

Sorry, Dru. Considering what she went through your grandma should've been more protective of you. Though we can't undo the past, I hope your life has since been filled with joy and love.

6points

Jessica Bertram 1 year ago

oh my god Dru. this is....i have no words, except that you are loved. and are worthy of autonomy, and dignity. i hope he's rotting. 🫂🥺

5points

GhostlySnail (she/her) 1 year ago

Dude I’m so sorry

2points

Tamra 1 year ago

Even if the justice system became involved on behalf of these poor children, some things can never be redressed. Some things are so terrible, they can never be made right.

17points

MsLou 1 year ago

That is truly unforgivable. I am so glad OP has done the work to heal and I wish I could give them a huge hug

9points

Leo Domitrix 1 year ago

Saw a t-shirt this week that said "I'll let God fix it... because if I fix it, I'll go to jail". Sums up how I feel about that "mother".

8points

Libstak 1 year ago

There is no way to forgive this. All that can be hoped for is the justice system to deal with this.

8points

iLoVeGrOoT.... 1 year ago

I am sorry,dear.

7points

Violet1854 1 year ago

So sorry for what you had to go through OP ❤️

4points

SpirklePlatz 1 year ago

I am so sorry. You are brave and strong person, and I admire you very much.

3points

lenka 1 year ago

OMG. I am so sorry this happened to you. I am glad you have found the resilience and courage to heal. I don't think forgiveness is necessary.

3points

strawberry.panda 1 year ago

Some things are unforgivable!

3points

Lee Banks 1 year ago

I'm glad that you've accepted, but it breaks my heart that it happened. My dad did the same, and it's just kinda weird. You know you did nothing wrong, but it still affects the way you work as a person. You want to talk about it, but that's not a burden for even the closest friends. At least my dad is no longer with us.

2points

María Hermida 1 year ago

There's no reason to forgive THAT. Just do what you feel you need to do to heal, but there are people that don't deserve forgiveness. In my opinion, they don't even deserve the air they breath, but killing them will land you in jail. Is your sister ok, too? I hope so. Such a terrible experience!

2points

Shannon Donnelly 1 year ago

There really should be some kind of testing that is required before people have children to weed out the psychopaths, negligent, incompetent, and other abusers. I'm dumbfounded that anyone could do this to a child. Not surprised, but just... SMFH. I can't even begin to tell you how sorry I am that you were put through this, and I hope the rest of your life is so blessedly happy to make up for the absolute s**t you've already gone through.

2points

Monday 1 year ago

Parenting licenses. We need a license to drive a car but we can f**k up a tiny human without anyone giving it a second thought.

3points

Id row 1 year ago

That is devastating.

1point

JelliTate 1 year ago

UNFORGIVABLE.

1point

Fabian Bernard 1 year ago

This give me nausea

1point

tabithapaquette98 1 year ago

I'm so sorry op. Your own mother! What a terrible person!

1point

nm 1 year ago

You cannot/must not forgive her. She deserves eternal damnation but there is no other life for this

1point

Amy Frank 1 year ago

Im so sorry for your pain, I hope you and your sister have healed from the trauma

1point

Amanda Fondaumiere 1 year ago

Some people should be unalived

1point

Amanda Hunter 1 year ago

A big hug for you, I'm sorry that happened to you.

0points

Mary Hurst 1 year ago

Horrible. Hope you and your sister have received counseling to deal with this trauma.

0points

BetterBitterButter 1 year ago

Oh God! Not everyone deserves to be a parent!

0points

LastButNotLeast 1 year ago

I'm speechless... I'm a future adoptive mother and I can't Imagine, and I don't want Imagine the pain of my Kids... Stay strong, I Hope somebody loved you most... My love

0points

Tams21 1 year ago

The kind of person that does that isn't a mother, in fact she's not a person at all. I hope she's rotting in prison.

0points

Mel Colley 1 year ago

I swear, I didn't think this was possible!

0points

Alecto76 1 year ago

Some things are unforgivable is an enormous understatement

0points

Pandora 1 year ago

I'm so sorry that you had to go through this and I hope your mother is in jail

0points

Jennifer Ness 1 year ago

You never know what a person has been through. I try to remind myself of this when I'm having judgemental thoughts.

0points

The voice of reason 1 year ago

That is unbelievably sad. So many stories in the news lately of heinous crimes of parents and the evil acts committed against their children by the parents.

0points

Allen Packard 1 year ago

Yep. That's one thing for sure. Good for you to move on and heal though!

0points

whatever 1 year ago

This woman needs to be executed.

0points

Someone Asks "What Is Something That Your Parents Did That You Will Never Forgive Them For?" And 35 People Deliver Heartbreaking And Honest Answers Close to Christmas when I was around 10/11 years old, I was home alone when there was a knock on the door. I answered and it was one of my mum's acquaintances.

He told me that he'd spoken to my mum and needed to come in to pick some stuff up, so off he went upstairs and proceeded to steal all of the Christmas presents that were destined to be placed under the tree for my brother, sister and I on Christmas morning.

I was oblivious to what the stuff that needed to be picked up was.

Mum comes home 30 minutes later, asks if anybody came round whilst she was out.

Proud as punch I say "yup, Craig came round and picked the stuff up you told him about".

"YOU LET HIM IN THE HOUSE?!?"

*oh c**p*

Mum runs upstairs....

"he's stolen all of your Christmas presents, you'll have nothing for Christmas now!"

High drama, anger and profound guilt filled the entire house for the remainder of the night and a while after.

About 6 months later I overheard a conversation I shouldn't have and figured out that there were no Christmas presents to start with, the whole thing was a setup.

The household budget didn't stretch to maintaining existence, sating a rampaging heroin addiction AND Christmas presents.

So yeah, my mum concocted a perfect plan to hide the lack of Christmas presents, remove herself from any perceived blame and let a 10 year old boy think that he had ruined Christmas.

Those were the days!

greenear_1 , RDNE Stock project Report

Final score:

279points

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KJ 1 year ago

That is plain evil, probably had a huge impact on the siblings relationship on top of the feelings of guilt.

117points

Someone Asks "What Is Something That Your Parents Did That You Will Never Forgive Them For?" And 35 People Deliver Heartbreaking And Honest Answers My mom letting my stepfather beat me almost unconscious and now denying 15 years of abuse on me and my brother. We were really affected when we realised that she will never apologise or even accept that it was also her fault for not doing anything about it.

Halundaar , Karolina Grabowska Report

Final score:

193points

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Take me to dinner first 1 year ago

It's so sad when people don't acknowledge their own faults cause they'll never believe they need to change

42points

Vile_Individual , Şengül Keleş Report

Now more than ever, people are becoming more comfortable with discussing mental health and trauma online. This is a wonderfully positive development for our mental and emotional wellbeing, but we can sometimes forget to consider the events that can make people have to deal with these issues in the first place.

Someone Asks "What Is Something That Your Parents Did That You Will Never Forgive Them For?" And 35 People Deliver Heartbreaking And Honest Answers Abandoned my dog and [unalived] my rat with a brick.

My rat was old and dying, I wanted desperately for my mum to take him to the vets to be euthanized in the most painless way possible. She was too lazy (We have access to free veterinary care in the UK for families on benefits, so there was no excuse). She used a brick to [unalive] him...

Then my dog, he was a former fighting dog my auntie had rescued and given to us. My mum couldn't handle his antisocial behaviour. He never attacked anyone, but he was easily spooked and only really got along with me. One day, while I was at school she dumped him and I don't even know where. He was a good and emotionally sensitive dog that deserved a home.

This stuff paired with the fact she was an abusive person, who hit me and my siblings almost daily, is the reason I haven't spoken to her in 4+ years and don't intend on doing so ever again.

Final score:

187points

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KJ 1 year ago

Some people shouldn't be allowed to have kids!

6points

Someone Asks "What Is Something That Your Parents Did That You Will Never Forgive Them For?" And 35 People Deliver Heartbreaking And Honest Answers I was 10 years old. I was given to a 34 year old man to be his third wife. My parents were so happy because it was a great "honour" to them that I was chosen out of all of the girls there to be with the man that was second in charge.

lika-kiki-no , Norma Mortenson Report

Final score:

179points

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Tamra 1 year ago

I don't give a s**t about "culture", this is disgusting and vile.

176points

Someone Asks "What Is Something That Your Parents Did That You Will Never Forgive Them For?" And 35 People Deliver Heartbreaking And Honest Answers Raising me as a Jehovah's Witness.

Septopuss7 , Alan Stanton Report

Final score:

159points

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RKBJR82 1 year ago

They raise you with no concept of the living world. Always afraid Armageddon is right around the corner. Don't believe in higher education. Cover up pedophile accusations. I could go on.

68points

Parenthood is hard, but that’s no excuse for any of the stories described here. The majority of these are child abuse through and through, and those that aren’t may still have damaged the children who experienced them forever.

Someone Asks "What Is Something That Your Parents Did That You Will Never Forgive Them For?" And 35 People Deliver Heartbreaking And Honest Answers I was sexually abused by my grandfather constantly for years. Its one of my earliest memories.
Later in life I found out that he did something to my older brother before I was even born. They stayed away from him briefly after that but then carried on as if nothing happened because they didn't want to cause an issue.

Edit: I want to thank everyone who has commented. I cant describe how much it has meant for me to recieve so much love and care.
I feel very alone most of the time so I'm going to remind myself that this proves that there are caring people out there.
❤️

HidingBehindTheSmile , Pixabay Report

Final score:

157points

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Libstak 1 year ago

They didn't want to cause an issue?....

7points

Someone Asks "What Is Something That Your Parents Did That You Will Never Forgive Them For?" And 35 People Deliver Heartbreaking And Honest Answers not allowing me enough social freedom. Im gonna be 18 soon and i have no friends because i wasnt allowed to attend most social events. planning to go far away from for college to change this.

alphaton777 , cottonbro studio Report

Final score:

149points

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Vee 1 year ago

I wasn't allowed out of the house by my stepdad. Once I got out - left at 17- I never looked back. Made a lot of stupid mistakes (trusting the wrong people etc) because I had 0 social awareness/experience.

61points

Someone Asks "What Is Something That Your Parents Did That You Will Never Forgive Them For?" And 35 People Deliver Heartbreaking And Honest Answers My mum sold my dog while I was at work. When I came home and was looking for them she told me that someone came to see him today and that they loved and took him.He went to a good home, but I never got to even say goodbye.

Edit: Appreciate all the love. After reading all your stories, I can say that I am unhappy that I am not alone in this

Fenrizian , Ruby Schmank Report

Final score:

143points

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Zephyr 1 year ago

Was 12 years old a "man of God" said my dog was possessed by evil spirits, dog was sold to people that eat dogs I had to chain up my dog and watch as he was hit on the head with a rebar until it died then watch them merrily take my dog to be cooked....(Nigeria) hated most pastors ever since

68points

im4lonerdottie4rebel , RDNE Stock project Report

The first step to healing the trauma from events like these is often to simply accept the trauma in the first place - accept that you’re not OK, that you’re hurt, and that you need help. The often-advised next step is to seek out professional help, but if someone is unwilling or unable to do so, here are a few steps to get started with healing your own trauma and improving your mental health.

#10

Someone Asks "What Is Something That Your Parents Did That You Will Never Forgive Them For?" And 35 People Deliver Heartbreaking And Honest Answers They beat the s**t out of me. Sent me to school with bruises. Threatened to have my sister's split from me if I ever told anyone what they did to us. Now my bio mom tries to guilt trip my sister's into convincing me to let her and her s****y husband back in my life.

Aside from that they also [hurt] our dog, poisoned my squirrel and cut my sister's guinea pigs head off.

But I'm the unhinged and unstable person.

Some people should never have children.

Final score:

143points

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SheamusFanFrom1987 1 year ago

I seriously hope OP cuts out the gangrenous scum excuse of a family he/she has right now. No guilt needed for that, just a cold, hard HELL NO!!!

52points

#11

Uhhhh lemme think for a second…

- my mom being proud to break a brand new wooden spoon by spanking me
- both of them forcing me to clear the plate no matter what was on it, if I liked it or not, if I was full or not. Lost the ability to feel if I’m full…
- both of them insult me (stuff like “you’re too stupid to take a s**t” if I made minor mistakes, for example dropped something while eating)
- my father SAing me
- my mother saying she would get a divorce after I told her but she never did until she died
- my fathers attempt to strangle me on the day I moved out

Yeah… that’s about it

ValifriggOdinsson Report

Final score:

127points

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Tamra 1 year ago

JFC...I can't read anymore.

52points

#12

My dad tried to commit suicide when I was a baby. That alone is bad enough but he tried to take me with him. My grandfather came to the house and basically told him "If you give up on life, that's your choice, but you aren't taking my grandson with you!"

I miss you, grandpa.

JesterFox194 Report

Final score:

126points

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Shannon Donnelly 1 year ago

Finally English has the best phrase for something! Family Annihilators (or sometimes just murder-suicide; you know BP's gonna censor that!) have been in the US news A LOT lately. So sad to see

11points

One strategy is to make an effort to observe yourself and take note of any emotional overreactions you exhibit throughout your day. Critical self-analysis may help reveal that these overreactions point to unresolved issues caused by your trauma. This step can work well together with professional help, as it will give you meaningful information to pass on to your therapist.

#13

Someone Asks "What Is Something That Your Parents Did That You Will Never Forgive Them For?" And 35 People Deliver Heartbreaking And Honest Answers After 10 years of promising me the house in exchange for living and taking care of them. Mom decided after a fight to give half the house to the man who tried to [unalive] me in my own home - my brother.

B***h still doesn't understand why my wife and kids moved 300k away from her and that psychopath.

Elfere , ConvertKit Report

Final score:

121points

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María Hermida 1 year ago

For f***s' sake, BP! Unalive!?!?!? Really??? Why censor the word "kiII"? See. It doesn't kiII anybody. KlLL. KlLL. KlLL.

9points

#14

Someone Asks "What Is Something That Your Parents Did That You Will Never Forgive Them For?" And 35 People Deliver Heartbreaking And Honest Answers Ignoring my obvious ADHD in spite of the fact that they were aware of how much I struggled. I got good grades and wasn't hyper, so it didn't matter!

purritowraptor , Ron Lach Report

Final score:

99points

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Mad Dragon 1 year ago

After years of struggling tremendously, I finally got diagnosed when I was 23. When I told my mom, she shrugged and said, "Yeah, we've known about it since you were 10." Gosh, thanks for letting me think I was lazy and stupid all those years!

27points

#15

Someone Asks "What Is Something That Your Parents Did That You Will Never Forgive Them For?" And 35 People Deliver Heartbreaking And Honest Answers Kicking me out the day after my 18th birthday because I turned 18. And now constantly calling me a failure for not finishing college (had to drop out because I couldn’t afford that/rent/transportation anymore) and telling me to do better

AkKik-Maujaq , Monstera Report

Final score:

94points

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Zephyr 1 year ago

Wait till they get very old then abandon them

43points

Another good tip is to do some research on whatever events you think may have been traumatic for you. If possible, check in with participants or third parties that may have been present or that may have otherwise known about what you went through.

#16

Someone Asks "What Is Something That Your Parents Did That You Will Never Forgive Them For?" And 35 People Deliver Heartbreaking And Honest Answers They made me drop every single hobby I got into because studying came first. I learned to hide my enthusiasm from them because of this. Even today I never show how excited I am for something I do or buy. I feel like I am unable to enjoy things to the fullest because of it.

eXclurel , Andrea Piacquadio Report

Final score:

93points

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* * * Being_Cori * * * 1 year ago

I feel you

16points

#17

Someone Asks "What Is Something That Your Parents Did That You Will Never Forgive Them For?" And 35 People Deliver Heartbreaking And Honest Answers Probably that I ended up being the mediator between my mom and dad as they went through a divorce and one side was being frustrating to communicate with than the other.

So I in part had to act as a go between information and nagging them to communicate for stuff like medical bills and insurance and school payment stuff from 7-15 or so.

Hellsoul0 , cottonbro studio Report

Final score:

89points

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Take me to dinner first 1 year ago

omg I'm so sorry for that, no kid deserves to go through that. Actually, no one deserves to live this

15points

#18

Someone Asks "What Is Something That Your Parents Did That You Will Never Forgive Them For?" And 35 People Deliver Heartbreaking And Honest Answers For breaking each and every promise they made, and trying to control me like a puppet. Otherwise they're good tho

Vip3rX01 , Monstera Report

Final score:

81points

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KombatBunni 1 year ago

No, they’re not. If they were, they would not have done any of that

38points

hunterravioli , Karolina Grabowska Report

A difficult but important step is also to embrace the pain. For many, coping with the pain and grief of trauma involves hiding or repressing it in some way. This manifests itself differently in every person, but it can involve substance abuse or other types of addictions. Most therapists agree that a key aspect of dealing with trauma is embracing and feeling the pain of that trauma. Crying is OK.

#19

Someone Asks "What Is Something That Your Parents Did That You Will Never Forgive Them For?" And 35 People Deliver Heartbreaking And Honest Answers He held a knife to my 12 year old brothers throat and threatened to [unalive] him. Abandoned multiple family dogs on the side of the road. Abuse of each other in front of me. She put her fist through the China cabinet in front of me. Blood everywhere. I was 5. I moved across the country. He is now gone, and I have no contact with her.

Final score:

79points

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Be glad im not a waffle 1 year ago

Oh my gosh. I am so sorry. No one should ever have to go through something like this. We are all here for you =)

13points

#20

Someone Asks "What Is Something That Your Parents Did That You Will Never Forgive Them For?" And 35 People Deliver Heartbreaking And Honest Answers They taught me very bad eating habits that have made it super hard for me to stay at a healthy weight. I am absolutely working at, and succeeding in teaching my children better eating habits.

djdeforte , Vova Kras Report

Final score:

73points

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Zephyr 1 year ago

Just don't become obsessive over it

27points

#21

One morning in 2002, my Dad woke me up for school, but I obviously fell back asleep. I've had big periods of insomnia since I was a child, but instead of recognising that when he came back into the room and saw me asleep again, he grabbed me by the hair, dragged me out of my room and slammed me onto the hallway floor. My Mum said nothing. It's been 21 years and that memory still haunts me.

Piwakawaka6 Report

Final score:

70points

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Yeet_girl360 1 year ago (edited)

I hate single serve cups of Macaroni. I made one for my brother and told him it was to hot to eat, and as a joke told him I had to eat it for him. He fake cried, and I gave it to him after putting an ice cube in it. Out of curiosity I asked my brother whether he loved macaroni, or God more, and he said macaroni. I didn't know how to reply, so I told him what I learned in school. That he should love God more. (We were in a homeschooling Christian type school) My mother came home about an hour later from shopping, and i went to the bathroom. When I finished my mother charged and slapped me so hard I fell against the wall. She yelled at me, telling a 12 year old that they were being a B-word. Apparently my sister twisted the situation and told my mother I wouldn't give my brother macaroni because he said he loved macaroni more than God. It really affected my relationship with my mother, sister, and brother. Eventually we sorted out what really happened, and apologized to each other. Still hurt though.

18points

Find someone you can talk to. This can be a friend or family member that you trust, but again, your best bet will probably be to work with a therapist who is trained to hear out your troubles and help you seek out a constructive path towards recovery.

#22

Someone Asks "What Is Something That Your Parents Did That You Will Never Forgive Them For?" And 35 People Deliver Heartbreaking And Honest Answers My dad used to tell us all the time how my step mom was the most important person in his life and how he wished he never had kids. When he was dying his wife was already moved on to her next man and didn’t even go see him the day he died because “she had other stuff she needed to do first.” I’ll never forgive him for putting her above us.

rosieree , Tima Miroshnichenko Report

Final score:

69points

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Zephyr 1 year ago

How in God's name do parents find it in them to tell their kids that having them ruined their lives, they didn't have a say in the matter and if they did they wouldn't choose s****y parents like them

34points

#23

Someone Asks "What Is Something That Your Parents Did That You Will Never Forgive Them For?" And 35 People Deliver Heartbreaking And Honest Answers my entire life my mom has always talked about “wanting me to have my own life”. when i finally moved out to live with my then girlfriend, she decided to write me a letter. it detailed how if i still lived with her, she could have done so many things for me (like getting me a car). she then wrapped the letter up with saying me being born ruined her life. now she wonders why our relationship is so bad.

navyblue013 , cottonbro studio Report

Final score:

66points

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Zephyr 1 year ago

Head spinning

13points

#24

Someone Asks "What Is Something That Your Parents Did That You Will Never Forgive Them For?" And 35 People Deliver Heartbreaking And Honest Answers They told me I could buy what I wanted since I had a job. Even so I was very careful with my spending because I didn't want them getting mad that I bought something "useless". One day I told them I was gonna buy a secondhand psp for my birthday and asked them if it was okay. They said it's fine because it's my money after all. Still I kept asking them just to make sure it's fine and that they promised they won't chew me out for it later. Sure enough I bought it and had my first personal game console.

Then a year later we got into an argument because my parents weren't satisfied with the money I was giving them. Then they brought up the psp I bought last year and chewed me out for spending on useless stuff like that instead of buying branded clothes to show off to our relatives. I will never be able to forgive them for that. They broke their promise and I was now in the very situation I was trying to avoid back then.

Anyways after that I just started buying whatever I want without telling them or lying about the price.

YuuHikari , Pavel Danilyuk Report

Final score:

64points

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Jill Pulcifer 1 year ago

This makes no sense to me, my adult daughter lives will me for free and since she chooses to work, she has spending money, and its all hers as it should be. Her two sisters will have the same, providing they want to stay here. As far as I see it, they are still my kids, I chose to have them, and this is still their home.

31points

While seeking mental and emotional recovery, don’t forget that your physical health is scientifically proven to impact your mental health (and vice versa). These tips are lampooned as woefully inadequate responses to trauma, but they are meant as the establishment of a healthy and supportive baseline, not as a cure. Make sure you’re eating enough food, drinking enough water, and getting 8 hours of sleep a night.

#25

When my son was first born, his grandpa on his dads side sent me 500 dollars to get through the month. I told my mom this and she asked me if I could help her pay one of her bills. I said yes, but that I would need it back eventually because I needed formula. I wasn’t working at this time and I was a 19 year old single mom. She agreed and said that was fine. End of the month rolls around and when I asked for the money back (it was 80 dollars) my mom went off, ended up messaging my sons grandpa and said “You don’t need to give her anymore money. She doesn’t manage it well because now she can’t even afford formula.” I guess I’ve forgiven her but it really irks me even 4 years later.

goldencloudxo Report

Final score:

61points

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Shannon Donnelly 1 year ago

If this was the only time Mom pulled this s**t, I could understand forgiving her, but I'm willing to bet $80 that it's not even close to the only time. If it were me, I'd go no contact with her.

26points

#26

Dad invited his nephew who was fresh out of jail for killing his own father, to stay at our place for a while. I was 3 at the time and he sexually abused me multiple times, and my dad would still have him babysit me :^)

When my mom learned and wanted to take legal action he fought her all the way, because family is family. Thank god I have my mom, she fought for me before I was able to.

I don't remember a lot from it, because of cptsd but some of the things she has told me are horrifying and explains a whole lot now that I am older

Caelumish Report

Final score:

60points

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Yoyo 1 year ago

Isn't it a bit weird that your mum told you about horrible things that you couldn't remember? I'm not saying she shouldn't talk about it but going into detail seems counterproductive.

15points

#27

Someone Asks "What Is Something That Your Parents Did That You Will Never Forgive Them For?" And 35 People Deliver Heartbreaking And Honest Answers Honestly, it would be the toxicity and overprotective nature of my parents. The way that I grew up made me feel as though I didn’t have anyone to lean back into, and it sure as hell didn’t help how my dad always made me feel worst about myself, and the constant need to prove myself and to try to be better. And my dad being overprotective made me not have a lot of friends, which screwed up my social skills.

As a result, I sucked pretty bad at school and didn’t have a lot of friends. I remember how when my parents used to fight back then, I’d just hide away in my way room playing video games or with legos, just to stay away from my family.

I guess because of how my childhood went, I don’t think I can really forgive my parents because of how much it would mess me up later on in my life. I still suffer from having an inferiority complex and can’t appreciate the things I’ve been able to accomplish. I’ve gotten better but it’s still hard. I respect my parents these days, because of they changed towards me, but I still can’t forgive them completely for how things have went. I could never have a heart to heart conversation with my dad about the things he’s done and I think that’s why I can only say that I love my dad, but I don’t like him.

UltraConic , Sand Fotógrafa Report

Final score:

60points

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Yeet_girl360 1 year ago

Yes, inferiority complex, something I struggle with too. Throughout childhood I was always told I was smarter than my decisions, and could do way better. Eventually every decision became major, and i felt forced to grow up and take on to much responsibility to fast. With my OCD I was the main cleaner, everything had to be done in a specific order, and in a timely fashion. My siblings on the other hand would diddle daddle, and get distracted. I know one of my siblings has really bad ADHD, so I tried to be understanding about why it would take her so long. Additionally my grades. I did home school after 6th grade so eventually I fell behind trying to keep up with life.(that is where my OCD really developed) I just became so overwhelmed and angry all at the same time. Eventually I just kinda broke down, but even then, that feeling of never being enough or what they wanted would eat away at my thoughts. I got back up again until I broke again and again. Luckily I'm not like that anymore.

11points

#28

My mom taught me my whole life that my worth is only determined by the way I look, my weight, the way I carry myself, how "lady like" I present myself. She instilled fear into me at such a young age, that as long as I was fat, I'd never find love, I'd never find a good job, I'd never have children. Dragging me to and from doctors to find "what was wrong with me" because I was "fat". Grounding me for weeks at a time because I didn't lose the amount of weight she wanted me too.
Now as an adult woman, I struggle so incredibly hard with my self worth and self confidence. Trying to separate her words and thoughts from my own, as I've never had an original thought about myself. The anxiety, depression, and self harm that rooted from this should've taken my life years ago.
She's my mother, and as hard as it may be for others to understand, I love her. I've come along ways with setting boundaries with her and putting my foot down.

As for my father, he never spoke up for me. He just turned a blind eye.

I've felt so out of place in my family for as long as I can remember.

I'll heal one day, but it won't be anytime soon. Just love your f*****g kids for who they are, unconditionally.

BLAZEDBADDIE7 Report

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60points

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Shannon Donnelly 1 year ago

You are a beautiful survivor. If you aren't in therapy, please find a good therapist. It helps a lot w/ that negative inner dialog. Yes, it's very hard to change. Just a thought but might be worth a try: have 1 of your favorite people record themselves saying things like "You are beautiful" "People love you b/c you have such a kind heart" "You make people happy b/c you're so funny" (Trust me, your friends will have no problem coming up w/ a list of your best qualities). Then when those bad thoughts are stuck on a loop in your head, listen to the recording of your friend saying those wonderful things about you. You want to replace your negative inner dialog w/a positive one, & while there's plenty of meditation sites online that do something similar, it will stick more if it's a voice that means something to you

17points

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#29

Not believing me when I came home from my first year of Uni & said I wasn't on drugs.
I was clinically depressed & suicidal, but they said my 'weird behaviour' was because I must be on drugs. I've never knowingly taken anything, even 20years later. No matter what I said or did, they wouldn't believe me or help me.
It took a friend at Uni intervening & getting me some professional help before I could cope again.

Final score:

58points

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Kate Κts 1 year ago

Sending you ❤ sometimes parents are not enough

10points

#30

Someone Asks "What Is Something That Your Parents Did That You Will Never Forgive Them For?" And 35 People Deliver Heartbreaking And Honest Answers Force me to give all my original star wars and action man toys to my little cousins.. which they absolutely destroyed within 3 months.

Would be worth a fortune now.

EDIT : I had no idea what I said would connect with people of my age.. for the record I had about 75-80 original Star Wars figures.. all with original added weapons and in great condition, but not in original packaging.

The ships and vehicles I owned were all in original packaging and great condition. About 7 of em.

I’ve also remembered as well I gave them about 30 original late 70’s early 80’s subbuteo teams in original green slide off boxes away as well.. but that was to the son of the guy that had gifted them to me.. so they weren’t really mines

Dazzling-Wash9086 , Aaron Vowels Report

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56points

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SheamusFanFrom1987 1 year ago (edited)

I've been down this road, but it wasn't so much my parents but rather my "beloved" uncles and aunties manipulating my grandparents into agreement. That BS all stopped when I got older and beefier, got a part-time/full-time job, and started buying my own stuff and downright giving them a not-so-friendly reminder that if I bought it, I say whether it can be given away or stays with me. Of course, being from a Chinese family, they keep playing the "Respect Your Elders" card but will always back off pretty fast when I play the "Who Bought It?" card instead.

21points

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#31

Someone Asks "What Is Something That Your Parents Did That You Will Never Forgive Them For?" And 35 People Deliver Heartbreaking And Honest Answers Mother repeatedly saying " I have to raise my boys and I love your brothers but I don't love you." Told this at age 8 ,9,10 and so on my birthday and many times throw out the year . Never given a birthday party while 3 brothers had blowouts every year . Left on 16th birthday after I made sure whole family heard her this time.
Mom was jeckle and hide , never been back.found out mom told brothers i was evil and never to talk to me . Ain't talked to them since don't even know if there still alive .

Yura-ahole , Keira Burton Report

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55points

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SheamusFanFrom1987 1 year ago

Don't bother. They should have been dead to you a long time ago...

23points

#32

About to get pretty dark here lmao

But my childhood was pretty s**t. My parents have always had drug issues and it got to the point where they just locked my little sister and I in our room, and they'd just bring us plates of food but they'd never clean up any old food, and us being young kids, food got everywhere. It got to the point where we literally had maggots in our beds.

They kept my brother in a dark room all by himself and I remember as a baby/newborn he had to have breathing treatments because it really affected him, and they'd smoke in the house all the time.

Our grandmother got custody of us, thankfully but it really stuck with me. I was old enough to remember most of everything (I'm 5 years older than my sister, and 7 years older than my brother, so I was 7-8 or so around that time) it really f****d me up lmao.

My little sister was old enough to remember some stuff, and there was that weird middle child thing, but my parents treated her more like a friend than anything, when she was a teenager they'd do drugs and s**t with her. She really got into a bad path and she wasn't able to get off it, I tried to help her and I still feel guilty because I should have done more, but she did what she wanted to and didn't think she had a problem. About 4 years ago, she was killed in a mass shooting that was guns/drug related, it was some stupid little "gang" (gang as in dumb AF kids from a really small town who thought they were badasses) but they went and shot up the place and unfortunately she had been living there at the time and she was one of the victims. She had just turned 21 a couple of days before.

I'll always feel so guilty because I wish I could have done more to help her and I'll always have that regret.

RemiAkai Report

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54points

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Shannon Donnelly 1 year ago

I'm so sorry for your loss. But please know that you couldn't have saved your sister. Addicts won't and don't get clean until they're ready to, no matter how much the people around them (you) love them. You could have poured every ounce of love, energy, sweat, and blood of every minute of every day into her, and it still wouldn't have saved her. In fact, doing that might have just prolonged her addiction (I am in no way blaming you for this, btw, so please don't take it that way). Addicts need to hit their rock bottom (sometimes a few times) before they get clean. If you aren't already seeing a therapist, please find a good one. You've already gone through so much. You deserve to live a beautiful, happy life, not one clouded with guilt that isn't yours to bear. Sending love and blessings to you

17points

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#33

Someone Asks "What Is Something That Your Parents Did That You Will Never Forgive Them For?" And 35 People Deliver Heartbreaking And Honest Answers My mom left my bro and I behind to go be a m*thhead while lying to people about having cancer. I've confronted her, told her to show proof of the cancer. Nothing. She gets cancer every five to ten years without going to the doctors.

ShazBishop , MART PRODUCTION Report

Final score:

52points

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Samantha Mannion 1 year ago

I just want you to know I feel your pain. You're not alone by far. Manchausens syndrome is a b.i.t.c.h. grew up dealing with the same helping with my brother. Hated that I had to grow up so early.

9points

#34

Someone Asks "What Is Something That Your Parents Did That You Will Never Forgive Them For?" And 35 People Deliver Heartbreaking And Honest Answers Taking back an abusive partner who hated me even after telling the world all the horrible s**t she did. It became clear to me that I could be a perfect angel and successful and I would never be as good as a drunken, circular saw-wielding maniac who took her hatred of my other parent out on me, constantly made personal attacks, denies she ever did anything wrong and brainwashed my mother into defending her actions. Then when I called her out for her behavior, she accused me of being homophobic.

When her b***h of a partner dies, I guarantee she’ll be all over me. But she will get no favor from me.

GoodToe4691 , Anna Tarazevich Report

Final score:

51points

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and_a_touch_of_the_’tism 1 year ago

Just a reminder that y’all can clock out at any time. I’m about done with this article. You are all wonderful and beautiful and I hope you have a amazing day.

21points

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#35

My stepdad sent me to jail because I defended my mother from him

Dark_Wolf04 Report

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42points

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Chase The Lucario 1 year ago

How the heck is this legal

8points

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#36

… Among other things, “holding on” to gift money from relatives and such that I got on birthdays or Christmas or whatever. When I wanted to collect, I was either gaslighted about it existing in the first place, or reminded how I should be grateful for all the things they give and do for me.

When I’m older, if I ever give money to a kid as a gift, I’ll tell them to hide it from their parents.

n30l1nk Report

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22points

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Idkwhattoput 1 year ago

Wtf! 🤬

4points

#37

After their divorce, my mom tried to convince my brother and me that our dad never wanted us and never loved us.

My dad is the sweetest man. I'll never fully forgive my mom. She said some more f****d up s**t too. I know she was just heartbroken and tried to hurt him, but that is no excuse to hurt your kids in the process.

Feline_is_kat Report

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21points

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Bored Trash Panda 1 year ago

Sounds like my dad....

0points

Woman Moves Out Of Parents' Home After They Asked Her To Give Her Space To Brother, They Freak Out

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#38

My mom told me she was glad I was going to school all day the next year, since I wouldn't be wasting space at home. I had just been sexually abused and couldn't get out of bed when I came back home from school.

MissIndik Report

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20points

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Shannon Donnelly 1 year ago

Yeah, no question, I'd leave ASAP and never look back. That's just unforgivable

3points

#39

When I was 11 my parents were going through a very messy divorce. My dad cheated and got his mistress pregnant and he manipulated me into being an accomplice to keep my mouth shut about it by telling me my mom would kill herself if she found out. I had a trip planned to Disneyland with my cousins and was dying of excitement.

Anyway, it all came out about my dad and his mistress and my mom wouldn’t let me go on the trip and paraded me around extended family making me tell them I lied and didn’t tell my mom about my dad cheating. I was 11.

I will never forgive either of my parents for that. I have been used so many times by my parents and forced to be their emotional support throughout my life. I don’t talk to my dad or his 2nd family at all and have little communication with my mom. I hate them for ruining my childhood. I hate them for causing me to be emotionally stunted, I hate them so f*****g much for making me parent myself and othet siblings. They can’t tell me they did the best they could. They KNEW they were f*****g me over.

Carol_Pilbasian Report

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20points

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Shannon Donnelly 1 year ago

Beyond all the manipulation and other b******t, it's called Adultification, treating children like mini adults, dumping adult problems on them and making them grow up way too fast. I'm so glad you've cut all that toxicity out of your life. Family should be the people we choose, not just people we feel obligated to keep in our life simply based on biology and guilt. I'm not keeping an abusive, toxic a*****e in my life on the off chance that I might need a kidney one day. I'd rather live a happy life and, if need be, dialysis one day.

5points

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#40

I had a pet bunny, but my parents wouldn't let me keep him inside. It was really cold one night and I begged my dad to let me keep it inside. When he finally said okay, I went looking for him in the dark, found him under our storage shed, he was dead. My dad made me pull him out from under the shed, hold him in my lap as we went for a long drive, so that we could dump him on some side of the road.

mrslang86 Report

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19points

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Shannon Donnelly 1 year ago

These animal cruelty (and in turn psychological child abuse cases) are killing me...

14points

#41

I overhead my father telling friends that my mother had f****d up raising me but they were doing a much better job with my little sister.

aville1982 Report

Final score:

19points

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Shannon Donnelly 1 year ago

Oh, well, good thing they had a backup. **rolling eye emoji** WHAT THE F**K?!?! Who says that?!?!

4points

#42

Someone Asks "What Is Something That Your Parents Did That You Will Never Forgive Them For?" And 35 People Deliver Heartbreaking And Honest Answers I don't think I could ever forgive my dad for his excessive drinking and calling me God awful names, threatening to call the cops on me for arguing with him or not finding his bag of nuts (while drunk), and chasing me out of my own home after I gave him a place to stay twice.

It's alot of s**t he did to me as a kid, except he threatened to send me to a psych ward. Putting me back there after he apologized about it only to do it again tells me he won't ever change.

TrailerCowboy , cottonbro studio Report

Final score:

17points

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SheamusFanFrom1987 1 year ago

OP, please. For your sake, dump that scumbucket onto the streets with just his belongings and shut your door in his face for the very last time. NO self-respecting dad would ever do that to his kid >:-(

7points

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#43

Someone Asks "What Is Something That Your Parents Did That You Will Never Forgive Them For?" And 35 People Deliver Heartbreaking And Honest Answers Give me crippling anxiety and worry I'll be a parent like they were. They were not monsters by any means and I had a lot more freedom than most of my generation. Just some things behind closed doors make me wish I'd grown up differently.

FubsTheNugget , cottonbro studio Report

Final score:

16points

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Shannon Donnelly 1 year ago

Some of the best parents come from the worst families because they know exactly how they DON'T want to raise their children. You'll be a great dad- just remember to do the exact opposite of what your parents did to you

3points

#44

Took my dog to the pound.
I left my dog with them when I moved out of home since she was used to living there and I was moving into a small rental. I went to visit then a few months ago and she wasn't there, they'd surrendered her to the dog's home saying she was too much work. Little dogs get adopted fast so it was too late to get her back. I own my own home now and could have taken her.

accidentalyoghurt Report

Final score:

16points

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Chexmy Licks/egg🇯🇵 1 year ago

so..raising u was so much easier than a dog? wtf

3points

#45

Someone Asks "What Is Something That Your Parents Did That You Will Never Forgive Them For?" And 35 People Deliver Heartbreaking And Honest Answers My father would always baby my younger sister. Even when she turned 8, she still relied on my father to feed her and shower her. She is now completely dependent on my father and can't do anything for herself. This caused serious attention problems with my younger brother, who was a middle child, and middle children commonly get less attention than the oldest and youngest. (Although my father never cared much for me either.) I'm grateful that my mother was able to try and give us the attention we needed, even if she was the only parent that worked full time.

iimochabear , Ketut Subiyanto Report

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15points

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Seabeast 1 year ago

Wait, he was showering an 8 year old girl?! There is something seriously wrong here. The kind of "attention" that she is getting is not the kind you want either.

18points

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#46

They both used me and my siblings to attack and hurt each other. Instead of realizing that we should come first, they selfishly made the divorce about themselves and their happiness at the expense of the other and apparently the kids. Everyone was much worse off in the end

Divorce sucks but when you have kids, try to make them as comfortable and secure as possible while being mature adults. My relationship skills are f****d because of them

armour56 Report

Final score:

14points

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Shannon Donnelly 1 year ago

I'm so sorry you were put through that. But please don't see your relationship skills as forever ruined. Just look at it this way, "Is this something my parents would have done? Yes? Then I know to do the exact opposite." Use their relationship/divorce as the example of what NOT to do. That's how some of the most horribly abused kids end up becoming the most amazing parents. Sending love and blessings to you

1point

#47

My mom ran out on the family when I was a kid. For a time she lived a couple miles away, and yet, I'd see her maybe once or twice a year. Ok, I forgave her and tried rebuilding a relationship with her when I was in college / my early to mid 20s. At that point she lived far away, but I would go see her here and there. Well, she decided to live a certain bohemian lifestyle, and decided to get rid of all of her animals including a cat and a dog that were elderly that she had since they were very young, AND, she got rid of multiple younger cats. Just so she could live this lifestyle of hers (and she could have taken them) for a year or two, grow tired of it, move a few hours away from where I live / grew up, settle down and get more animals.

I cannot forgive her for that. I forgave her for abandoning my siblings and I, but, about 15 years later doing the same thing with all of her animals, I cannot forgive that. A tiger does not change its stripes, and apparently my mom did not change.

I would never abandon my dogs like that. no matter what.

Also, several years ago one of my siblings was going through a tough time financially. He asked her for a couple hundred, and she declined. Then within a week bought a big new truck and a brand new grill, and posted it all over social media. This woman never paid child support / gave any of my siblings or i money, ever... so... yeah. I cannot forgive that either.

I still call her on big holidays, talk for a couple of minutes and then go about my separate life devoid of her. The only reason I do this is to be a good person and for good karma, otherwise, I'd be 100% no contact.

BigBearSD Report

Final score:

14points

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Seabeast 1 year ago

Forget karma. It doesn't exist.

11points

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#48

Stole our money. We lived on a veal farm so all of us kids — 7 total — were forced to work & we didn’t receive weekly allowances. It was once or twice a year, & like $10 or $20 at most. Then when we were teens, they wouldn’t let us work cos they needed us to do the free labor so when we were allowed to pick ginseng — which is backbreaking work — for under the table money, we were so happy. Parents lied & said we can keep it in their “bank” & they will “save” it for us. They wrote our balance down on a piece of paper for us to keep track. I asked to withdraw my money once so that I can buy Christmas gifts for the fam & all they said was that the paper was gone & since they don’t know how much I had, it was too bad so sad. We never saw those money again.

Beakynothappy Report

Final score:

14points

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Shannon Donnelly 1 year ago

That is beyond f****d up. Would have gotten out of there at the first opportunity and never looked back.

3points

#49

Apparently it was illegal to have my door closed and blinds closed when im in my room in my parents house. I never did drugs but that didnt stop them from repeatedly searching my room like a swat team and scolding me over a f****n cookie wrapper.

Whenever i did poorly in hs/college i felt like i was failing them not myself. For one reason or another this led to a depression spiral and i dropped out of college after only 1 year.

Theyre not monsters, after i finally told them how i felt they got their act together somewhat. I went back and graduated college with a degree in computer science. I now live in an apartment with my best friends ever and have a great job and am enjoying life, but if it came to it, i would pay every cent i have to not ever live with my parents ever again. They didnt mean to haunt me its just their style of parenting was… dont think, act.

Still stuffering from body image issues they passed on to me, and i do need to lose 25 pounds, but lets just say old habits die hard.

Final score:

14points

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#50

Someone Asks "What Is Something That Your Parents Did That You Will Never Forgive Them For?" And 35 People Deliver Heartbreaking And Honest Answers Teaching me that drinking soda like it's water is ok

80rexij , Pavel Danilyuk Report

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13points

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David H 1 year ago

well diet coke is 99.1% water, 0.9% really not good for you stuff

2points

#51

Put down our family dog without consulting me or my brother. We were both living together in our first appartment and both were out of town, just for 2 days tho. They could have given us the chance to say farewell or at least give us a call that they are going to put him down.

We never got to say goodbye.

PatientLettuce42 Report

Final score:

11points

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Shannon Donnelly 1 year ago

Was the dog even sick??? It sounds like the parents purposely waited until they were both out of town to take the dog to the vet to put him down. He doesn't mention that the dog was old or ill before they left, and why wouldn't they call them if something out of the blue happened to the dog and they had to rush it to the vet??? Sounds to me like they saw an opportunity to get rid of the dog and took it, heartless bastards

4points

#52

I got in an argument with my step-dad over grades in hs and he pulled the car over on the side of the road and threatened to beat me if I didn't get out, so did. And ofc he left me on the side of the highway in Alaska with nothing near by Andromeda 35 miles aw a cop saw me and asked if my parents abandoned me keep in mind I lived in Small town Alaska. Tjis cop was friends with my step dad who was a paramedic so I told a bold faced lie to keep him from involving cps. 4 hours later my mom came by and told me my step dad had called the grocery store and had them page her on the speakers to call home and he told her to pick me up. When she did I chtold her what happened and then demanded she admit that what he d I'd was wrong
I mean who leaves a teenage girl on the side of the road in the middle of nowhere? O Aldo told her tp either tell meot was wrong for him to threatened beat me.(he had already physically abused me) instead of admitting he was wrong , she took his side in our initial argument and then doubled down on her refusal to admit he was at all in the wrong. That was the day I stopped trusting her and there is no forgiveness in my heart for her

samanthajhack Report

Final score:

10points

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Shannon Donnelly 1 year ago

FOUR HOURS LATER??? If I had already been physically abused by my stepdad in the past, I would have told the cop that yes, he abandoned me on the side of the road, consequences be damned. Also wondering what lie she told the cop that he didn't offer to drive her home anyway and left her stranded in the middle of nowhere

5points

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#53

Having me in the first place.

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6points

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nachtinachtischachti 1 year ago

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#54

As a teen, I was out doing the food shopping with my Mum. In the middle of the freezer aisle she did the most rancid IBS fart I can ever remember, and then started very loudly exclaiming "babyscratch, that's so disgusting. I can't believe you just did that". The more I protested, the more guilty I looked to everyone else in the shop. I could've died from embarrassment.

xbabyscratchx Report

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5points

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Samantha Mannion 1 year ago

Lmfao dude my Nana always did this to me and my brother since we were kids! It was always funny usually. Farts and embarassment is funny in my family. Not that whoever the target was at the time wasn't annoyed and trying to slink away to another aisle, but it would always be a good laugh after lol 😆

5points

#55

Convinced me that turning on the car's interior light while driving is illegal.

MySpoon_IsTooBig Report

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COCO puff 1 year ago

well it is in most of the countries.

3points

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Stardust she/her 1 year ago

I will never forgive my dad for beating me, verbally abusing me, almost traumatising me and saying that because he had it harder I can’t complain

11points

Leo Domitrix 1 year ago

Living in fear of my dad's rage... Obeying him in silence.... Yeah, it's not almost traumatising. It *is* traumatising. You don't have an idea of what a non-trauma life is until you leave home. You can read Pete Walker on the phenomenon of complex PTSD (when we have no pre-trauma life, essentially, works for kids raised in war zones, too).

7points

MsLou 1 year ago

Well I had to stop reading this for this morning...I haven't had coffee yet and I am in tears.

11points

Danger Bunny (She/Her) 1 year ago

These people deserve to be boiled in battery acid

5points

Tiffany Valentine 1 year ago

When I was in elementary school there was a group of us kids that would share stories about our abuse and neglect. The school knew we were being abused. The police knew. But no one seemed to care. I admitted to a social worker that my mom and I were being beaten by my alcoholic dad. They said they would help, but nothing ever happened. There's a reason why I hate living in the "bible belt" of the US.

9points

athornedrose 1 year ago

after a real bad fight, my mom shoved us in the car in our car seat and booster seat respectively (sis was like 2-2.5? i was 6). she didn't turn on the car right away but instead slammed her hands against the steering wheel to release some anger and screamed about how awful he was and how she wished she'd never married my dad. i said "but that would mean no us, right?" my sister said "not me?" and my mom said "no no baby of course. i love you" and i asked about me too, and she just let out this disgusted sound and muttered "who knows". when i started to get upset she told us to calm the hell down and we were going to our grandmothers. i bit my lip the whole ride there. i hid in my grandmothers bedroom and read books while she shouted it out with her mom. we went back after a few hours, but my grandmother could tell something was wrong. i told her mom wouldn't have me if she didn't have to. she said "...you were not what she was expecting when they said she was having a girl

8points

InsertNameHere (They/Them) 1 year ago

Some people should be banned from having kids...

6points

InsertNameHere (They/Them) 1 year ago

... and thrown into prison for lifetime...

6points

TMoxraaar 1 year ago

I was the only witness to my ex-step father beating up my mother (it only happened once). This man raised me. I have known him his whole life. He was my dad from 1974-1990. He got angry at me for testifying (I was gd SUBPOENAED). He dumped me and hasn't spoken to me for 30 years. That is worse than all of the spankings and threats to kick me out.

6points

JustinTime 1 year ago

And Child Protective Services is often useless/complicit in the abuse

6points

ejfs 1 year ago

I will never forgive my parents for doing literally everything for my sister and nothing for me. She got/gets every assist possible, including a house, but I didn't even get to stay home from school when I had mono, or the flu, or concussion....

5points

Nice Beast Ludo 1 year ago

SAME my younger sisters were twins and got EVERYTHING while I got nothing but rules and restrictions only applied to me. Even had a cabinet of junk food for them that I wasn't allowed to touch. They got all brand new clothes while I got 80s hand ne downs with giant f*****g shoulder pads. They took my saved money and bought me an ugly car I hated and didn't even take me with then. My sisters got to pick out a brand new suv they wanted. The icing on the cake was the year I moved out they all went out and got the first family photo taken EVER without me in it and gifted it to me for Christmas! Jokes on them- I hung it right in my living room and evety friend who came through the door Said "Holy S**T your family is F****D UP!"

0points

COCO puff 1 year ago

What did I just read.... oh my....

5points

iona Butler 1 year ago

When I was about 10 yo my dad told me he was having an affair with my friends mum and they were going to run away together. He said if I told my mum he would cut my tongue out and kill me. Fun times 🙄

4points

detective miller's hat 1 year ago

These posts make me want to become a vigilante.

4points

censorshipsucks 1 year ago

yep.

0points

Ashley Lynne 1 year ago

My past is a long story, my childhood wasn't all bad, but was very abusive. My mother talked so much s**t about my dad that it only made me hate her. He just died 6/4/2023 they were married 51 years, and she still talks c**p About him. He was the only one that cared about me

4points

Shannon Donnelly 1 year ago

I'm so sorry for your loss. Love and blessings to you

1point

Rachel Reynolds 1 year ago

Jesus these are dark. I was gonna share mine, but I just feel petty now. Anyway, If anyone need to hear it, I'm proud of you, keep on keeping on. And I'm available if anyone wants to bake cookies and watch Gilmore Girls (or Forge in Fire, I'm not picky)

3points

Elio 1 year ago

People like the above exist, but wait I guess the real threat to children is them learning that gay people exist, not child abuse.

2points

Alexandra 1 year ago

they too will be taken into care. Everyone is powerless to stop this never-ending cycle, because she has the right to procreate and you can't take that away from her. Nor is it possible to sterilise her against her will. There is just no solution to such a situation.

2points

Alexandra 1 year ago

Someone I used to know has had all her children taken away and put into care because they were not properly looked after. Yet she still continues to have other children and

2points

ConstantlyJon 1 year ago

Made it about 10 posts in before calling it quits. It's a no from me, dawg.

2points

Chexmy Licks/egg🇯🇵 1 year ago

these kinds of people deserve nothing,they dont deserve kids or anything if they r that mean and stupid and EVERYTHING BAD U CAN THINK OF I RAN OUT OF IDEAS TO DESCRIBE THEIR SH!TTY BEHAVIOR UGHHHHHHHHHHHHH

2points

Zack Vander 1 year ago

My mother telling me 2 days after my father died that she never lived him and that she only married him because she knew he'd take care of her. He spent his last 5 weeks in the hospital and she never visited him once. I slept in his hospital room with him every night and he cried and asked why she hated him so much. I will never forgive the b***h for that. When she died I didn't bury her next to him and instead had her cremated and dumped her ashes.

1point

Maisey Myles 1 year ago

As someone whose parents were incredibly toxic, I couldn't bring myself to read this article. Can't take a chance on getting depressed (again) My heart pours out to those with horrifying stories. My parents have passed and I still can't forgive them

1point

rokkabety813 1 year ago

My father allowed me to live a childhood of fear and anxiety because my mother What's an emotionally immature volatile unpredictable person Who would go I'm completely happy and Having fun, Just flying into a rage For reasons, nobody really knows. She was also passive, aggressive, and You never understood what's at her off. Because when you said what's wrong, she'll never claim anything. What's wrong but slant doors and It was impossible to be anything other than live in A constant state anxiety and fear... Never knowing When she was going to go from loving me to screaming at you. I was extremely close to my father because he Understood how Hard she was to deal with

0points

Person 1 year ago

Not really bad like most stuff on this list, but my parents (similar to a post) ignore my obvious adhd, along with my (slight amount of) self harm

0points

Person 1 year ago

Other than that my life is pretty ok

0points

KimB 1 year ago

This thread was far worse than I imagined when I started reading....I am so sorry to everyone who had/has to live thru abuse/neglect...really makes me feel fortunate for my parents who were not perfect (forced their religion on me) but certainly no where near the caliber mentioned here. Hugs to you all!

0points

Candy Sheppard 1 year ago

Been through almost everything on this post. I’ve cut contact with all family except my own kids. How do you decide your own worth?

0points

Candy Sheppard 1 year ago

I’ve been having major surgeries to recover(?) from the abuse but I’ll never get my eye back and doctors want to remove it. I feel terrified of everything but I bull through it all

0points

Melissa Hernandez Olivas 1 year ago

My dad and I have not been exactly close but recently I found out he has cheated on my mom before. He has even mentioned that the best part of his adult life was when he was screwing around with other two women (this was when my brother and I were little). I has given me so much anxiety and depression; it makes me feel like neither my mom, sibling or I were enough for him and I (the oldest) shouldn't even exist.

0points

Visitor 1 year ago

I don't want to read this list. I didn't even like reading the title.

0points

Rens 1 year ago

My mother always favoured my two younger (half) brothers from her 2nd marriage over me, and she still does; she never protected me from my bio father's (narcissistic) abuse and my stepfather's (emotional, psychological and physical) abuse. There are plenty of other things but those are the main ones. She lives on the other side of the world from me so I maintain contact for her sake but if we lived in the same country, we would be NC.

0points

nut nibbler 1 year ago

I hate to say this because people will be suffering right now but I hope that some people will read these and realise they are in similar situations and get the help they need.

0points

Tyranamar Seuss 1 year ago

I got to number 2. Nope. Too much trauma. On to happier bored panda things!

0points

Kay 1 year ago

The emotional neglect during my formative years. I feel like I basically didn't have parents growing up.

0points

Eva Kašu 1 year ago

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Ron Baza 1 year ago

“i just think that women deserve treatment they get, because they´re stupid enough to have children, even when they can't afford them for whatever reasons”. It almost… as though… you could say the same… about men… No, scrub that. Men have no power over their reproductive organs. My mistake.

15points

Seabeast 1 year ago

You do know that not all pregnancies result from consensual sex, right? And that the right to have an abortion is being taken away from women in some countries, even in case of rape?

11points

Ashley Lynne 1 year ago

Are you Serious????? Because if you are, OMG. I feel for anyone that knows you

5points

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Stardust she/her 1 year ago

I will never forgive my dad for beating me, verbally abusing me, almost traumatising me and saying that because he had it harder I can’t complain

11points

Leo Domitrix 1 year ago

7points

MsLou 1 year ago

Well I had to stop reading this for this morning...I haven't had coffee yet and I am in tears.

11points

Danger Bunny (She/Her) 1 year ago

These people deserve to be boiled in battery acid

5points

Tiffany Valentine 1 year ago

9points

athornedrose 1 year ago

8points

InsertNameHere (They/Them) 1 year ago

Some people should be banned from having kids...

6points

InsertNameHere (They/Them) 1 year ago

... and thrown into prison for lifetime...

6points

TMoxraaar 1 year ago

6points

JustinTime 1 year ago

And Child Protective Services is often useless/complicit in the abuse

6points

ejfs 1 year ago

5points

Nice Beast Ludo 1 year ago

0points

COCO puff 1 year ago

What did I just read.... oh my....

5points

iona Butler 1 year ago

4points

detective miller's hat 1 year ago

These posts make me want to become a vigilante.

4points

censorshipsucks 1 year ago

yep.

0points

Ashley Lynne 1 year ago

4points

Shannon Donnelly 1 year ago

I'm so sorry for your loss. Love and blessings to you

1point

Rachel Reynolds 1 year ago

3points

Elio 1 year ago

People like the above exist, but wait I guess the real threat to children is them learning that gay people exist, not child abuse.

2points

Alexandra 1 year ago

2points

Alexandra 1 year ago

Someone I used to know has had all her children taken away and put into care because they were not properly looked after. Yet she still continues to have other children and

2points

ConstantlyJon 1 year ago

Made it about 10 posts in before calling it quits. It's a no from me, dawg.

2points

Chexmy Licks/egg🇯🇵 1 year ago

2points

Zack Vander 1 year ago

1point

Maisey Myles 1 year ago

1point

rokkabety813 1 year ago

0points

Person 1 year ago

Not really bad like most stuff on this list, but my parents (similar to a post) ignore my obvious adhd, along with my (slight amount of) self harm

0points

Person 1 year ago

Other than that my life is pretty ok

0points

KimB 1 year ago

0points

Candy Sheppard 1 year ago

Been through almost everything on this post. I’ve cut contact with all family except my own kids. How do you decide your own worth?

0points

Candy Sheppard 1 year ago

I’ve been having major surgeries to recover(?) from the abuse but I’ll never get my eye back and doctors want to remove it. I feel terrified of everything but I bull through it all

0points

Melissa Hernandez Olivas 1 year ago

0points

Visitor 1 year ago

I don't want to read this list. I didn't even like reading the title.

0points

Rens 1 year ago

0points

nut nibbler 1 year ago

I hate to say this because people will be suffering right now but I hope that some people will read these and realise they are in similar situations and get the help they need.

0points

Tyranamar Seuss 1 year ago

I got to number 2. Nope. Too much trauma. On to happier bored panda things!

0points

Kay 1 year ago

The emotional neglect during my formative years. I feel like I basically didn't have parents growing up.

0points

Eva Kašu 1 year ago

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Ron Baza 1 year ago

15points