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35 People Share What They Hate Seeing At Weddings A proposal. I've heard about people proposing at other people's wedding ceremonies or receptions. If you don't have permission from the bride/groom, DON'T DO IT because it's THEIR day, not yours.

WeirdWorkaholic Report

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243points

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Shelp 2 years ago

I have to admit that I almost did it once. I vividly remember how the idea crossed my mind — it seemed perfectly logical: everybody was so happy, positive, light-hearted; it's obvious that the guests would have been happy with us! Then I thought about it again, and realised that I was about to do something I would hate myself for my whole life long. And I didn't do it.

135points

We managed to get in touch with a Redditor, black_flag_4ever, who started up a thread on the Ask Reddit online group when they posed a question: "What should you absolutely not do at a wedding?" The user invited fellow members to post the most absurd answers in the thread, and boy did they deliver. At the time of writing, the post has amassed over 15K comments full of ridiculous and impolite stunts guests ever pulled at a wedding.

When asked how they came up with the idea to post this on Ask Reddit, black_flag_4ever revealed their sibling had recently gotten married and this question was on their mind. "You never know what gets people talking on Reddit," the user told Bored Panda. "This may have been the first of my posts that got to the front page. I remember feeling a bit overwhelmed because I tried to upvote and read everything and take the time to write in response to a post, but I eventually just turned off inbox reply notifications. If you’re on Reddit long enough, you will get the occasional front page hit and it becomes a routine thing," they said.

35 People Share What They Hate Seeing At Weddings Telling embarrassing stories about the bride/groom when you were told not to.

ButterscotchFog , Manny Moreno Report

Final score:

215points

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Shelp 2 years ago

that's something I will never understand

73points

ExistentialThreat , Kenny Eliason Report

35 People Share What They Hate Seeing At Weddings If there is a professional photographer there get the hell out of the way. Put up your sh**ty cell phone with it's awful flash. Good money was paid so that they could capture quality images of the event and people constantly jump in front of the photographer and screw up the lighting.

Final score:

206points

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Call Me Mars 2 years ago

As a photographer for school events/important events screwing up lighting is really not ok. I am trying to get a good picture of something that is important to a lot of the people there, yet you don't care.

68points

35 People Share What They Hate Seeing At Weddings Letting your 9 year old throw a tantrum because he's not the center of attention.

I've seen that at not only a wedding, but at a funeral as well. Same kid.

roh8880 , Anna Shvets Report

Final score:

202points

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Ka Se 2 years ago

This seems to be a problem of this particular kid. I attended a few weddings and funerals with kids and most of the time I hardly realised that they were there.

100points

Trillian 2 years ago

Also, throwing a tantrum is toddler-behavior. At 9 years old he is way too old for something like that.

30points

Mercedus Long 2 years ago

The problem isn't the kid. It's the parents. And it's their fault for getting that behavior under control when he was younger. As he gets older it will be their fault for not giving him the foundation he needed to grow into a well-rounded well-adjusted adult.

20points

Hans 2 years ago

We had many children at our wedding, ranging from toddlers to teenagers. I was fun!

6points

LagoonaBlueColleen 2 years ago

I don't think parents just "let" their kids throw tantrums. The parents are just trying to not make more of a scene by raising their voice and adding fuel to the tantrum. If kids are at a wedding then it's likely the bride and groom and their family accepted kids to attend the wedding, and they would likely understand the kids are going to get loud at some point. As a guest complaining about other guests... well, they're not obligated to stay. Js We were all kids once and I'm sure we acted up ourselves at the most inappropriate times, embarrassing our parents.

12points

Issey 2 years ago

No. If you know your child is most likely going to throw a tantrum during a wedding celebration (let's say in church), then the least the parents can do is calm the kid down or leave the church for a few minutes. It's what I would do with my kid. Just because the couple was ok with children at the wedding doesn't mean they have to listen to one screaming in church.

6points

Lyyyy 2 years ago

Yes, if they throw a tantrum to get attention, the best course of action is to not give them any attention. If you give them attention (negative attention is still attention) when they throw tantrums to get attention, it just reinforces that behavior. I have learned the hard way that unfortunately, some kids can be really persistent and consistent in some things. If my dog can’t behave, I just leave her home with grandma, but that doesn’t generally work with kids, because they have to grow up to be a part of this society… They just have to learn.

2points

Slinkaste 2 years ago

Come on! When child throws tantrums, you go outside not to bother others and deal with it there. Even my 2 years old got it. It was one time in play group when I needed left because of my child’s tantrums and it was cured.

0points

Matej Vrščaj 2 years ago

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Issey 2 years ago (edited)

I'll surely get downvoted for this, but I am against small children at weddings. Weddings are the least suited celebration for children, from church to reception to party. Church most of all is boring for small children, so the chance that one of them will cry is astronomically high. And even after church it doesn't get better. Everyone is in fancy clothing that must stay clean, most venues have expensive decorations/furniture, the food is fancy and not really suited for children - and if there is a designated "babysitter" during the wedding, this mostly just means that all the kids are crammed into one room with a few toys. HOW is that different from leaving them at home with a sitter? Don't get me wrong, flower girls are adorable and little ring bearers are the best. If it's direct family, go for it! But why do the kids have to stay for the whole day? Most parts of a wedding day are exeedingly boring for children, so why make them stay? For appearances?

8points

Maggie Dinzler Shaw 2 years ago

Some of these kids are IN the wedding party.

1point

Lara Verne 2 years ago

9 years old should know better, unless kid has special needs, I blame parents. I know that some kids can be very persistent, but in that case, you should take them somewhere else until they calm down.

6points

🥔SaltyPotato🥔 2 years ago

😱 Who would let their kid scream at a funeral!!!!!!!!??????????? A 9yr Old?!!!!! Not being mean but those parents need to teach their kid some respect! That's like on an airplane I was on. I witnessed a kid kicking someone's seat (mother nonchalant as to why, what, and how) and a flight attendant came up to the mother and asked "Can you keep him from kicking the seat?" She said with the most disgusted look "What do you want me to do about it? You tell him." ME EDUCATE YOUR KID??? If I were that flight attendant, I would have asked if he and his mom wanted to go skydiving.

4points

Susanne B 2 years ago

No parachutes?

1point

Jp@nda 2 years ago

Honestly I really do not care what anyone says about this. I believe in and practice gentle parenting, however I also understand the limits of a child's ability to remain engaged in a social activity. A wedding is too much for most adults to sit through, so as much as I want my precious child there, I understand that they will not be able to last that long and there is too much going on for them. This is why I have no problem with child free weddings, I can handle my kids tantrums that doesn't mean that you have to

4points

Pamela Blue 2 years ago

Are your kids still throwing tantrums at 9 years old? I'd find that very disturbing.

2points

Slinkman 2 years ago (edited)

I think this comes from the fact that most people don't like parenting in public. At home it's easier to correct/ get angry at a child than in public. Somehow people just feel a bit ashamed to put their kid in place when other people are watching, because you shed a light on the way you raise your child, a thing that can be criticized by everyone. Better let it have a tantrum and blame it on 'the little sleep he had'.

3points

LagoonaBlueColleen 2 years ago

That, and parents just find scolding the child creates more attention because the parent ends up getting loud and making a scene. I've seen it at all family gatherings and any family-friendly place.

7points

.V. 2 years ago

Hey everyone ,when I got married 3 years ago, our then 4 year old son had an absolute tantrum when he saw me in my dress, getting out of the car. My sister in law brought him outside and they both missed the entire wedding. No one "let" him have a tantrum... He was hungry, tired, he has been with his grandparents all day and he had never seen me that fancy before. Things happen.

2points

Auntie Panda 1 year ago

Its sad your sister in law missed the wedding, but Bless her for helping you.

0points

Celtic Pirate Queen 2 years ago

Leave your brats at home, period.

1point

Darla Taylor 2 years ago

I’d make him the center of attention alright, he’d be with a babysitter after the first time and grounded

1point

The Mom 2 years ago

I nearly stopped my wedding due to a crying kid. I did turn and stare daggers at his mom and she was wise enough to take him and leave the church sanctuary.

1point

Adam Zad 2 years ago

If I had done something like that as a kid, my mother would have marched my misbehaving asset straight out the door.

1point

Slinkaste 2 years ago

Really? 9 years old? Come on! It’s not baby anymore! In that age child must know borders and rules. Hate when parents don’t teach their kids good behaviour.

1point

Mark Melton 2 years ago

Ever heard of Autism? It's hard as hell on both the child and the parents. Try not to judge others, you'll always be wrong.

1point

Maggie Dinzler Shaw 2 years ago

and there are many other issues that people have so being prepared to do whatever you have to to HELP the child and thus everyone else, is a good idea. But p[eoiple need to stop being so judgmental especially when they don't have all the facts,.

4points

GramDB 2 years ago

This child has a problem … check him out!

0points

DeadLetterOffice 2 years ago

Kids are the best! At my wedding, all the kids started a cupcake throwing war. I enjoyed it immensely!

0points

Pamela Blue 2 years ago (edited)

A 9 year old who still thinks he must be the center of attention is going to either be a narcissist, or he's going to spend his life being a "drama queen" at every event, driving people nuts. I need to know why parents would allow this behaviour in their child, knowing that it's going to make them very unpopular, if not downright hated, later in life?

0points

Justacrow 2 years ago

We didn't have any Littles at our wedding, because it was an extremely small ceremony. But if the reception it was a kind of free for all come if you want thing, with a snack buffet and cake. There were tons of little kids who showed up, and I loved it. But part of that is those kids were supervised. The only ones who cried were the little teeny tinies.

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Rob Davison 2 years ago

I'm thinking that it isn't just kids, there are too many adults that can't deal with someone else getting all the attention on a special day.

0points

Kryogen 2 years ago

"letting your 9 old throw a tantrum".... what a joke... parenting a kid can be very hard if he is stubborn.

0points

Ana Myous 2 years ago

Always an excuse

2points

Beverly Schmidt 2 years ago

bad parenting. 4kids all know how to sit still

-1point

Maggie Dinzler Shaw 2 years ago

Kids may KNOW how to sit still but if their nervous systems cannot deal with the situation, it is not about what they know how to do.

1point

Mayo 2 years ago

Surely, that would be parents' fault for not paid attention to their kid.

-3points

mossybunny , Lisa5201 / istockphoto Report

Black_flag_4ever believes that weddings are a natural source of comedy and figured there would be some great responses. "There’s few times in life where everyone in your family is stuck in the same room with a whole other family, plus random friends of the newlyweds. On top of this, everyone has to pretend to get along while being bored out of their minds during the ceremony."

"This creates a situation where minor things can balloon into the most annoying things imaginable," the user added. "You start noticing who won’t stop chewing their nails or tapping their foot or checking their texts every five seconds. And then, when people are finally done acting their best for a few hours, they get to go to the reception where things always get weird."

35 People Share What They Hate Seeing At Weddings Bringing a child to a child-free wedding. We had a child-free wedding this year, all the guests knew and then a couple (who we had told personally to not bring their child) turned up with their baby. Really put me in a sour mood with them and caused issues with people asking why their child was allowed but not their own.

Final score:

199points

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Chucky Cheezburger 2 years ago

Um,that's when you tell them to leave. Sorry jacka$$, you knew the rules and tried to skirt them.GTFO...NOW!

165points

35 People Share What They Hate Seeing At Weddings Spelling out "help me" in tape on the groom's shoes so when he kneels everyone sees it.

onetimerone Report

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199points

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Laura Mende (Human) 2 years ago

Just like these "funny" cake toppers: The bride puts the groom in chains, drags him away by the tie, ...

172points

35 People Share What They Hate Seeing At Weddings Telling the bride about any hitches in the wedding. At my cousin's wedding, one of the guests told her (the bride) that the buffet was out of roast beef. She's stressed out enough and she doesn't need to know. Somebody else should take care of it. Tell the wedding coordinator or the maid of honor.

riaredfern , Anna Alexes Report

Final score:

191points

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Kathy Kitsune 2 years ago

Thats actually true. The bride needs to relax as shes done her part. Now its up to the ones responsible for this to take the lead and help

62points

Shy_Girl_2014 , Marvin Bellendorf Report

Receiving a wedding invitation should be an honor — the bride and the groom want you to witness them reach one of the most important milestones in their lives and hope to feel your support along the way. That should be considered pretty special, right? Well, as you’re reading through these stories, you’ll notice that most of these occasions are notorious for bringing out the worst in some people. Whether they drank the open bar dry, brought a disrespectful plus-one, popped up with an inappropriate surprise speech, or decided this is the perfect time to commit countless faux pas all over the place, they can make the big day memorable in all the wrong ways.

35 People Share What They Hate Seeing At Weddings My hair dresser was my really good friend's wife. As she was doing my hair, she insisted I had lice and I had to argue with her until she said I didn't but that I was just too calm on my wedding day, so she thought it was a good idea to freak me out a little.

Final score:

181points

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Laura Mende (Human) 2 years ago

What the actual FÙCK???????

262points

Abetterway_thisway Report

#10

During my wedding, my wife's cousin used the band's microphone to come out as gay... and then his boyfriend who nobody knew (and was definitely not invited) strolled in and together they announced their engagement.

I went straight to the bar.

Final score:

159points

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Laura Mende (Human) 2 years ago

Nice for them, but DEFINITELY the wrong place and time...

133points

#11

35 People Share What They Hate Seeing At Weddings True story: years ago, i was at a wedding reception at a big hotel that had two receptions going at once. I went to the mens' room and a guy in a tux was crying his eyes out while another guy comforted him. I took my time, nad learned that crying guy was the groom (from the other wedding), comforting guy was one of his groomsmen, and the cause of the drama was that groom walked in on his new bride having sex with his best man.

Nicetryatausername , Ekrulila Report

Final score:

158points

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Lord Hamad 2 years ago

This make me feel sad 😔

138points

When asked for black_flag_4ever’s opinion on the most annoying, rude, and cringey things that should immediately stop happening at weddings, they told us, "No one needs to hear the Electric Slide in 2022. But if you want to cringe, just wait for this jam." Moreover, the user said that guests should control themselves and avoid taking a billion pictures. "If you’re not the wedding photographer then you shouldn’t bother people constantly for photos. There’s going to be photos, don’t worry."

#12

35 People Share What They Hate Seeing At Weddings The most common issue I have seen IRL is being underdressed. People show up in boots, camo, t-shirts, etc. It's not the end of the world, but if you can't get dressed up for a wedding, what do you dress up for? It's one of the most formal events a normal person will attend.

ledfrisby , Polly Alexandra Report

Final score:

156points

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Kate 2 years ago

If there's a dress code, please SAY SO in the invitation. Not everyone has a few hundred dollars sitting around to blow on a new dress/suit for their idiot cousin's third wedding.

33points

#13

Doing anything that draws attention away from the happy couple and on to you. For example my cousin came out during his best man's speech during is brothers wedding...... Really you could not let someone have that one day in the spotlight?

BigHowski Report

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155points

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Stardust 2 years ago (edited)

At least read the room before coming out or doing other things like that. You can come out after the wedding if you really want to

36points

#14

35 People Share What They Hate Seeing At Weddings At my sister's (handsomely catered formal) wedding my no class cousin ordered himself a pizza. He had it delivered to the reception. I'd say that's pretty much out.

Anivair , Arantxa Aniorte Report

Final score:

146points

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Moosy Girl 2 years ago

Was it a vegetarian wedding with not enough food for him to take his medication with? :p (ps: I still think it’s rude)

77points

After all, nearly every wedding has that one person who manages to somewhat wreck the event, whether on purpose or not. To be sure that’s not you, pay attention to some helpful tips Carley Joy, owner of wedding planning company Carley Jeanne Events, in Springfield, Missouri, had to share.

According to her, the worst type of guests would be "guestzillas", people who are not considerate of the bride and groom and their special day. "Guests can avoid being 'guestzillas' by being respectful, patient, and gracious towards the couple, the venue and the vendors," she told Urbo. One thing that proves you’re being mindful of everyone’s efforts is punctuality. "The biggest pet peeve of most wedding planners is when the wedding party or family does not show up on time or has wandered off and no one can find them. This can push back the entire wedding timeline which can make it difficult for vendors to adjust," Joy said.

#15

As a man the biggest thing I learned was this; Ladies, never-EVER show up the Bride. The only outfit/hair/jewellery anyone should be talking about is hers.

I feel like this should be rule #1

Ubuhio Report

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139points

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BetterBitterButter 2 years ago

A friend of mine got married and I could not attend (two weddings on same day).When I saw the wedding photographs I was shocked to see her sister-in-law(her brother's wife) looking like another bride! Later I learnt that the groom's friends(who were meeting the bride for the first time)thought that the SIL was the bride and were confused as she looked different from the previous photos. They even joked with the groom that there are two brides for him!

48points

#16

35 People Share What They Hate Seeing At Weddings Over-drinking. Unfortunately, I've seen too many mass brawls at the end because of drinking and drama.

nollaigkelly , engin akyurt Report

Final score:

134points

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LagoonaBlueColleen 2 years ago

Not a wedding, but at a social (that is where an engaged couple rents out a hall for a fundraiser party to help pay for their wedding.) a lot of people were getting really drunk and dancing haphazardly on the dance floor. This guy spun-swung his girlfriend and she just fell face-first on the floor like a tree. It got so crazy my folks and I left early.

19points

#17

As a wedding DJ I could give you a list a mile long. Don't b***h if your song is on the do not play list! No, you can't have the mic to sing along to this song. No you can't give a speech in the middle of the reception. Don't dance along to the couple's first dance/father daughter dance/mother son dance. Don't do a mic drop, those bastards are expensive. Don't follow the couple around all bloody night, there are others who want to wish them well. And for the love of c**p, give at least 5 minutes I'm between clinking your glassware to get the couple to kiss.

wyattj99 Report

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126points

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Kathy Kitsune 2 years ago

Holy macaroni why are people so inconsiderate!?

36points

AllJackedUpOnMtDew Report

Next up, respect the RSVP. Joy stated that to make the couple’s day as calm and easy as possible, you should send in your responses on time and, most importantly, stick to them. "Do not show up unannounced or bring a guest if they are not included on the invitation envelope," the wedding coordinator noted. "This can affect seating charts and the amount of food and drinks available for guests."

#18

DON'T WEAR A WHITE DRESS MOM! YOU'RE 46 YOU KNOW THAT A SATIN CREAM FLOOR LENGTH DRESS IS INNAPROPIATE, I DONT CARE HOW MUCH WEIGHT YOU LOST.

Final score:

123points

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Chich 2 years ago

Like I said above: With people like this you just ask them if they were born a c**t or took lessons.

46points

#19

35 People Share What They Hate Seeing At Weddings Giving a speech when nobody asked you to

Panaran , Jeremy McGilvrey Report

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122points

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Elisa Holm 2 years ago

Why?

20points

#20

35 People Share What They Hate Seeing At Weddings Letting everyone know during your speech that you're a divorce lawyer

Defgarden , banjo d Report

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121points

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little_frog_on_a_log 2 years ago

I- Who would do this XD- Its just mean-

12points

Lastly, show that you care and educate yourself on wedding etiquette. "Waiting for the couple, wedding party, and immediate family to eat first is always important and very respectful, rather than trying to be first in the buffet line," Joy suggested. "Thanking the couple for the invitation and thanking the couples’ parents for hosting the event before leaving is very gracious and will stick out in their minds after."

#21

Do not disrupt the bride and grooms dinner. They've been up since 5 in the morning and taking pictures the entire day. Greeting and not having any time to themselves. Be conscious of what you do and let them be peaceful for twenty minutes.

Final score:

121points

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Jiminy 2 years ago (edited)

Perhaps a dumb question but I really don't know: what is a "bride and groom's dinner"? Don't they eat together with all their guests?

27points

#22

35 People Share What They Hate Seeing At Weddings Hitting on the groom while the bride is chatting with other guests. One of my exes did this to me at my own wedding. I just stared at her and said, "um....no." My wife and I had a good laugh about it after the reception.

ZappySnap , cottonbro Report

Final score:

110points

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Diana van Boxel 2 years ago

Who invites exes to their wedding anyway? Never understood this.

94points

#23

If you are a bride, DON'T HOLD ANY BABIES.

They are going to s**t/piss/vomit/bleed/cry all over you.

Fish-and-chips Report

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108points

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Kate 2 years ago

Don't. Bring. Babies. To a wedding.

19points

#24

I've only ever been to two weddings in my life. My cousins wedding when I was a kid (I don't even remember it), and my sisters wedding last year. And the amount of NO-NOS at my sisters wedding was unbelievable.

One of my aunts wore a white dress (even though her daughter practically begged her not to). My sister said she was fine with it, but she was probably just trying to not cause any arguments.

One of my cousins (who we're not even really close to) brought her new boyfriend to the reception, they both got absolutely s**t faced and had an argument in front of all the guests, and then he stormed off. What's worse, he showed up wearing a f*****g Nike tracksuit tucked into white socks with a pair of dirty trainers.

Oh and my other cousin (the cousin from aboves brother) had an argument with the photobooth guy. He got super drunk and jumped into a groups photo and tried to spit on them, and when the guy running the photobooth gave out to him for it he tried to headbutt him. My sister then came out and very sternly told my cousin to leave.

Gotta say, my sister was a champ for all the s**t she put up with that day.

amytrails Report

Final score:

104points

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Stardust 2 years ago

Family reunions must be akward

46points

#25

35 People Share What They Hate Seeing At Weddings Playing Single Ladies when it's time for the bouquet toss.

Final score:

99points

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James016 2 years ago

Years ago a friend of mine got married to a girl who had a child she barely looked after and she was completely wrong for him. During the dancing, the DJ played Too Much Too Young by The Specials. Some of us had a good laugh at that. They divorced within a year

49points

#26

I'm a divorce attorney. I've been told NOT to hand out business cards at weddings.

fendaar Report

Final score:

95points

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Foxxy (The Original) 2 years ago

Yeah, that's pretty tacky.

66points

#27

35 People Share What They Hate Seeing At Weddings Don't include the brides beloved Nana in every round of shots or she might pass out at her table and everyone might think she's dead and get hysterical.

itoadaso1 , Al Elmes Report

Final score:

93points

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Got Myself 4 Pandas 2 years ago

All my grandparents are dead now so problem solved - but my nana could drink anyone under the table, seen her drink plenty but never saw her drunk, tipsy yeah, but that woman could easily drink double what everyone else did and still be the most sober person there. My mum however, total lightweight - she's letting the side down

31points

#28

Don't invite guests just because you want gifts. This usually ends up in having no gifts at all. (Had a bride invite 300 guests in hopes of getting gifts, she barely knew them and received 20 gifts)

Final score:

91points

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Carol Emory 2 years ago

Yes! And don't expect gifts from friends that you know are struggling financially. Had a friend that got mad at me because I told her I could not afford anything on her registry, but that I'd be happy to babysit her kid for free a few nights a year so the couple could have alone time. She stopped talking to me after that. Sorry.. I think eating and paying my rent are more important than your matching bathroom towel set.

72points

#29

I worked in a catering company for awhile The worst things I saw -
-Bride and grooms opening envelopes to pay for the party ( even once while guest where still in the room )
- someone changed a baby on the table. I have no idea why she could just take the baby to the restroom. ( they did have changing tables there )

- also had a groom get drunk and pinch my backside everytime I walked past. ( he even left me his number ).

But I think my favorite was a bride who refuse to come out of the bathroom and do the first dance because she had changed her mind and didn't want to be married. The whole wedding was spent with the groom pacing back and fourth. And the bride and her bridesmaids in the bathroom crying. It was the quietest wedding every. They didn't even leave together.

pumpkin107 Report

Final score:

90points

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Lord Hamad 2 years ago

Oh my lord

43points

#30

35 People Share What They Hate Seeing At Weddings You're at a wedding don't be on you're phone 24/7. Why did you come?

deleted , Eve Report

Final score:

89points

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Eb 2 years ago

Not sure about this one. Yes, it's rude but hard to turn down the invitation and weddings can be surprisingly boring for most of the people there.

40points

#31

Expect to get laid if you're single. Wedding Crashers is a lie. Weddings are 99.9% couples and old people.

superking87 Report

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88points

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Stardust 2 years ago

Why would anyone want to get laid during weddings? You have your whole life to do it and no need to think that everyone must do it

32points

#32

Don't have people that are not the bride and groom opening gifts at the gift table or opening cards. I s**t you not, I went to a wedding where the groom's sister and mother were manning the gift table and a side room, and they were actually opening every card, as soon as they were handed over to the table, and if there was cash or gift cards inside they were set aside, and they had a notepad with names and what the gift was, obviously for the thank you cards.

But, holy hell, how tacky can you be that you think it is ok to not be the bride and groom and open the presents on their behalf, right in front of the guests as they give them over. This pissed a lot of people off until the mother of the bride marched over to them and had a screaming fit at the groom's family to stop (There was a verbal disagreement when a first attempt at being civil to get them to stop did not work).

GeneticsGuy Report

Final score:

81points

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Keri Rogerson 2 years ago

Here, its really common for it to be the brides maids job

19points

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#33

35 People Share What They Hate Seeing At Weddings Clinking silverware on glasses to get the couple to kiss

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75points

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Michael Sanders 2 years ago

I thought that was for speech or toast not to get them to kiss. Never seen that

108points

#34

I'd say that throwing the best man out of a window would be off limits, but the groom actually did that at an event center I used to work at.

DrugsInYoSoup Report

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71points

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Stardust 2 years ago

What on mars…

30points

JustADudeOfSomeSort , Jonas Leupe Report

#35

35 People Share What They Hate Seeing At Weddings Texting the best man "Make sure your phone is set to silent" during the vows.

Final score:

61points

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Shelp 2 years ago

what a shitty thing to do

33points

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#36

I went to a wedding last year that had three of these:

1. When it came time for the father daughter dance the dad decided that dancing in front of everyone wasn't manly so he walked out leaving his daughter crying on the dance floor.
2. Ever heard of a dollar dance? It's basically an excuse to give the bride and groom cash. The DJ plays music and you pay some any amount of $ of your choosing to butt in and get to dance with either the bride or groom. Well, the bride's baby daddy decided it'd be a good idea to dance with her. I guess that leads to #3.
3. Don't invite your baby daddy to the wedding unless you're marrying them.

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24points

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John Baker 2 years ago

4. Don't say "baby daddy" if you're over three years old.

33points

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#37

35 People Share What They Hate Seeing At Weddings Asking your ex-GF, the bride, for a second chance

Shenko-wolf , Cássio Jardim Report

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23points

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Alan Gale 2 years ago

That ship has not just sailed, it is dissembarking on the other side of the ocean

18points

#38

This is for the bride and groom. Do not change anything during or the day before a wedding!!!

Generally for events, you made a decision for a reason, stick with it. Unless something major happens and thugs have to be changed then sure. But in general try to stick to the plan.

And if something goes wrong the day of, f**k it. Only one thing needs to happen for a wedding, you both need to say yes. If everything else goes to s**t, it doesn't matter because you're married.

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Final score:

23points

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Stardust 2 years ago

Yeah, don’t change thugs. They don’t like it

15points

#39

My mother, at my brother's wedding, decided it was a good idea to have a tequila drinking contest at the open bar... by herself. She then went on to hit on the father of the bride who is happily married, then my own father (divorced for over 30 years) and she then threw up down the front of her dress and passed out with her underwear around her ankles in a stall of the bathroom at the reception hall. The cherry on top is that to this day she still accuses the father of the bride of sexually assaulting her at the wedding when 70 witnesses, including her 3 children and all her relatives saw VERY MUCH to the contrary...

Daniel0909 Report

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23points

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Sinkvenice 2 years ago

The getting drunk and vomiting all over herself is obviously disgusting but accusing the father of the bride of sexually assaulting her is f*****g repugnant. That poor man, he must be unbelievably stressed out by her vile accusations.

23points

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#40

During the ceremony - in an ideal world you should keep your sh**ty cell phone in your pocket and not try to take pictures. But if you must take pictures, do NOT sit in the aisle seats, or worse - get out to the aisle and start snapping pictures. The bride and groom likely spent over a grand to have a photographer do this, and all you are doing is getting in the way of shots and ruining what would otherwise be fantastic pictures that professionals are trying to take.

Fizzle1982 Report

Final score:

23points

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#41

Had a friend wear all black with a black veil...we're not very good friends anymore.

onsan Report

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22points

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Lambchop 2 years ago

Perhaps she had a thing for the groom.

10points

#42

At the rehearsal dinner, don't give a toast and tell everyone to take a drink except the bride because she's secretly pregnant. That could upset certain family members.

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22points

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Lord Hamad 2 years ago

......

7points

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#43

Doing anything to make a scene.

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21points

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Millie 2 years ago

Why cant people get over the fact that their not going to be the centre of attention for a few hours?!

5points

#44

If the wedding is catered and everyone picks either "salmon or steak" on the invitation a month before the wedding DONT CHANGE YOUR GOD DAMN MIND. I work in catering. If people decide they want to sit at a different table or they want salmon instead of steak it f***s the whole kitchen up since parties are planned months in advanced and we only make enough food to cover what the guests selected on their invitations. I've seen Event Managers throw plates across the room in fury because of this.

hypertown Report

Final score:

21points

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Foxxy (The Original) 2 years ago

I went to a wedding where it was a set menu. There were 2 options but you couldn't choose which one. They served it in a way where it takes turns. Ie, I got the chicken, hubby got the lamb, the next person got the chicken, followed by the lamb etc. This was done for entree and the mains.

6points

#45

Giving a speech about the most common causes of divorce in order to sound wise. Narcissistic grandpa of the bride did this at one wedding I attended and the cringe was palpable.

Final score:

21points

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Lawrencium 2 years ago

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8points

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#46

35 People Share What They Hate Seeing At Weddings Coming clean about cheating on your wife when you are guests at someone else's wedding.

muppetspunk , Samantha Gades Report

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20points

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BetterBitterButter 2 years ago

That's very specific.And what was the person expecting ? His wife would not have a normal reaction because they were in someone's special day with other guests!

11points

#47

Announcing your own engagement

onlysane1 Report

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19points

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Alan Gale 2 years ago

Any announceents, about anything. It is someone else's special day, so STFU!

9points

#48

Tickling the person sat next to you when they say "Speak now or forever hold your peace" and everyone turns around.

VeryLazyLewis Report

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17points

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Csaba Hegedűs 2 years ago

Lol :D

4points

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#49

If you are a bride or groom, don't make a scene. It will be what nearly everyone remembers about your wedding if you do.

My wife and I had a small ceremony with just our parents and my sister and her husband. We were in a small dining room for the reception and the AC had broken earlier in the day. They had repaired it in time for dinner, but it was taking a while to cool down. The parents started getting ornery, but some strong drinks later we were all laughing, dancing, and sweating up a storm.

Talking with the family later, they were all surprised that my wife or I didn't pitch a huge fit about the temperature. They were pleased too, as it would have been the only hitch in an otherwise awesome day.

On the other hand, my sister and her husband were married and had a cousin announce her pregnancy over the microphone after dinner. My sister tried to ask her quietly to just leave, but she made a scene before doing so. Then the groom's best man got into a fight with his fiancee and she tried to drive off crying but backed into a tree (she was sober). The fiance was belligerently drunk and threatening to fight people to get him outside to cool off, so the groom tossed a bucket of ice water on him.

Despite that rest of the wedding, reception, and day being fine, that is all people remember!

ExcitedForNothing Report

Final score:

16points

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John L 2 years ago

Some people concentrate on having the perfect wedding, ignoring the fact that you are getting married. Can't see the forest fore the trees.....

5points

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#50

I work the soundboard at weddings, please dont harass the staff.

Some drunk dude comes up during the reception

"Hey... hey... hey... *hey*... can you play the cha-cha slide?"

Im sorry man, the bride gave me a *very* detailed playlist that didnt include that for a reason. Stop annoying me every five minutes. Im being polite and noncomittal because I have to.

Oh, and also pull up a family tree of the family you arent familiar with and go over it. Pretty much a tenth of the time someone gets a name wrong on mic, and thats easily avoidable

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14points

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#51

I got married a couple of weeks ago and the main thing that sticks out to me is that no one considered leaving us a parking spot at the reception. So we came from the ceremony after taking pictures and had to park in the dirt lot about 600 feet from the door of the venue. Best part? Rainyest day of the month. The most expensive thing my wife has ever bought to wear, now has mud stains all over the bottom of the dress.

Dizzy_one13 Report

Final score:

14points

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Hermien Greeff 2 years ago

I would have dropped my new wife at the door, then gone and parked the car. Option 2, park right in front of the entrance, and when you walk into the reception, hand your keys to your best man and get him to park the car. Option 3, make your new wife walk 600 feet through mud and complain about it on the internet. :)

57points

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#52

Leave your phone on loud.

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Final score:

14points

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Jacob Nunez 2 years ago

Silent*

6points

#53

If you requests a song and the DJ doesn't play it. Chances are it's in the Bride and Grooms DO NOT PLAY list.

Final score:

14points

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#54

Getting hammered because of insecurity. One of my wife's friends wasn't chosen to be a bridesmaid because they just weren't that close, but for some reason the girl took it very personally. She had drink after drink until at one point while we were all dancing she came up to me to dance and tried to pull my face in for a kiss. I pushed her back and went to the bartender to cut her off from more drinks. A minute or two later she tripped over herself dancing and gave a table full of guests a complete up shot of her dress. It was humiliating and aggravating for both her and myself, haven't spoken to her since

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12points

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#55

Getting stupidly drunk and lifting up the bride's skirt while the groom is going for the garter thing on her leg. Puking all over the DJ's soundboard and in his bag. Almost starting a fist fight with childhood friends.

My friend Jorge did all this at my buddy's wedding. It's all on tape.

sickofallofyou Report

Final score:

12points

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Carol Emory 2 years ago

In the USA, you can actually sue him for reimbursement of costs.

1point

#56

Ugh, the tired, boring lame best man and maid of honer speeches.

"We've known each other since grade school when we were playing cars/barbies. Now this great person has come to take you away from me. But I can see from how you look at each other, this is meant to be. cry"

Even worse is when they try to insert some inside joke that only they'll understand in a room fucking full of people there to celebrate together.

I do enjoy when one of the people giving the speeches is trashed and makes for an amazing train wreck. Went to one where the best man got so wasted, puked all over the bathroom before the reception started, came up to the table to give his speech in only pants and his vest, and was escorted out by the bride's father. Classy.

1900grs Report

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11points

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Eb 2 years ago (edited)

If that was in the UK, pants and vest would mean he was in his underwear, rather than trousers and waistcoat.

19points

#57

Don't have your wedding on a f*****g holiday! For that matter, don't have it near a major holiday (Thanksgiving, Christmas) either. It doesn't matter than the Fourth of July is special to you as a couple, or that you had your first kiss on Valentine's Day. People make their own plans with their own families, and they don't want to be stuck at your crappy wedding wasting their day off.

PromoPimp Report

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8points

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Kate 2 years ago

My parents' wedding was on Veteran's Day. Why? So they could have a three day weekend for their anniversary. If someone wants to get married on a holiday weekend and you'd rather be fishing again, just decline the damn invitation.

35points

#58

35 People Share What They Hate Seeing At Weddings If you're a cariacture artist, drawing the bride in absolutely any unflattering way. Exaggerate the size of her ring, length of her train, number of tiers on the cake, groom, parents, relatives.. but never herself.

JooplaDev , Graeme Maclean Report

Final score:

8points

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2WheelTravlr 2 years ago

Or, you know, if you don't wish to have someone highlight your "faults", don't have a caricature artist at your wedding. It's not like they're required by law to be there.

23points

#59

35 People Share What They Hate Seeing At Weddings The chicken dance.

pickledpunk21 , Craig Pokorny Report

Final score:

2points

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Flopsy 2 years ago

I sense some snobbery here. What is wrong with the chicken dance?

24points

#60

The cool/cute/creative/generally unusual first dance. It's lame ass. No one but the couple is entertained by it.

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0points

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Tigerpacingthecage 2 years ago

Honestly, if it's their wedding - why not? You, as a guest might not like it but it's their day.

34points

#61

-Posting pics of the ceremony/couple before they've had their fame w**re moment of 160 likes.
-Drinking far to much causing you to heckle the said speech give.
-Drinking far to much, causing omnipresent sweaty dances moves that consist of you grinding like a r******d Britney Spears.
-Treating the Bouquet throwing like its ( Super Bowl ) the AFL grand final with out any rules. B***h catching a bunch of flowers isn't going magically make you get married. In fact from the way you elbowed and scratched women, including the groom's disable sister out of the way, has really killed the groom's cousin Eddie's half boner he had for you grinding on the dark, smoked filled dance floor.

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-6points

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august is mentally unstable 2 years ago

...what?

5points

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Marik 2 years ago

Sometimes the bride & groom can be sh***y to the guests too. I attended one wedding of one of my friends and didn't get to see the reception. Nor was I able to enjoy the party after dinner. Just b/c the bride told every parent that I was an educator trained for children of all ages including a special training for "difficult children" and I'd be able to watch and distract them so they won't get bored. She even got a place prepared for me to watch them. I wasn't asked or told beforehand. The parents were told that I volunteered to do so. I most definitly did not. So I had 14 children with me & wasn't been able to hunt down the parents between >150 guests. I just stayed as long as I did, b/c of the pups (I don't even like working with children less than 10y - I didn't got the special training just for fun). I caused no scene though - just left asap after dinner & my partner confronted the spouses the very next day. I just couldn't

19points

Kristal 2 years ago

I hope you took a good hard look at that "friendship" after that. That's horrible

14points

Kate 2 years ago

These all ultimately sound like reasons to elope.

10points

Tenacious Squirrel 2 years ago

Or just don’t get married, it’s defunct. Tell your partner you love them without needing a ceremony/contract. In many counties after a certain amount of time together you’re defacto (many couples are defacto before they marry). Live happily ever after, and save lots of time and money.

0points

Chich 2 years ago

Being a preacher of some sort, come to a secular wedding, complain until they allow you to say grace (to shut you up) and instead you give a 15 minute sermon. You are not winning any converts that day.

8points

Issey 2 years ago

Generally we can summarize this as: 1. Don't be an a** during an event that is not about you. 2. Be polite. 3. Don't try to make the event about YOU. 4. If you wouldn't want someone to do a certain thing to YOU, don't do it during someone elses wedding. 5. If you don't like the wedding, leave. No one wants to hear you complain.

7points

censorshipsucks 2 years ago

so in short "do unto others."

3points

Blarrg 2 years ago

If you do the thing where you cut and feed one another a bite of the wedding cake, shoving it in your new spouse's face is not cute or funny. At all.

5points

censorshipsucks 2 years ago

Fortunately in my case I was quite clear that no shitty people were invited. Anyone who was likely to make a scene was not on the list. Result: 80 people in attendance total. And that was bigger than planned. Kids were allowed. Why? Because in South Africa kids are taught to be basically respectful and polite. If they get needy, then their parent/s must take them outside to play, or whatever. But it's important for kids to see this stuff. Even if it's old-fashioned.

3points

Jackie Walters 2 years ago

I am surprised nobody said the cake face smash.

1point

Gavin Johnson 2 years ago

I used to run weddings at a hotel here’s a mini list of offences…. Snorting coke in the loos, ODing on drugs, collapsing due to lack of food, collapsing due to too much alcohol, arguing / fighting relatives, sneaking booze in, stealing wedding gifts, jumping in the moat around the hotel (yes very funny but you are drunk and I know what’s in there so I’ll have to get you out), children misbehaving during the ceremony (it’s a weird environment for youngsters, be ready to go for a little stroll), chatting up the bar staff (you are v drunk, they are v sober and not allowed to sleep with guests anyway), throwing glassware / breaking plates, stealing cutlery, expecting a wedding ceremony to wait for your arrival (you aren’t the bride, be on time), not being divorced from your previous spouse (that one stopped the whole thin in its tracks!), punching the band / DJ, trying to steal a hotel golf cart and finally, setting off fire extinguishers inside the 15th century hotel, animals I tell you.

1point

Got Myself 4 Pandas 2 years ago

I'm definitely in a minority but I couldn't really care less about most of these things people hate at weddings - you want to wear white, crack on, you want to propose on the dance floor, cool, if she says yes I'll buy you a bottle of champagne to celebrate, she says no then I'll get you a few shots to numb the pain, you want pizza, go ahead, bring all of the kids, let them be noisy and run around - they're kids being kids - I mean, everyone is different, I'm not a huge fan of being the centre of attention so happy to have distractions away from me, and the people I would invite if I were having a big wedding would be people I love and want there and I'd be thrilled to see them happy and be part of big events in their lives too. It's not often people are together in big groups like that these days, so make the most of it when it happens. I get why some folk would be annoyed by having others invade their day but for me I just don't really care

1point

AndThenICommented 2 years ago (edited)

Most of these seem like common sense or indeed cringe worthy. But some just seem mean spirited. But then again, I don’t think I’ll have another wedding. A lavish forever home house warming will do for us.

1point

Andrew Gibb 2 years ago

This is a sub-list of why I won't be getting married.

1point

JJ 2 years ago

Or you make it the way my husband and me did: Decided to marry, made an appointment at the registry office, told two friends (and their partners) to come and witness, had lunch together and that was it. I don't regret it at all. My parents (esp. narcissistic mother) were furious, though.

7points

Brivid 2 years ago

I have had a big wedding and a small one. I hate to think of all the money that was wasted on that day, especially since we later divorced. But even if we would have stayed together, I would still say it wasn't worth the money that was paid. The anxiety killed all the fun, never tasted the food because I was trying to talk to everyone.

1point

Buttered Toast 10 months ago

If you're the officiant, don't sit down and rewrite your notes when the wedding is supposed to start, putting everything half an hour behind. Then tell the guests that the wedding hasn't started yet because the couple is writing their vows.

0points

Kristen Bellefeuille 1 year ago

RSVP really depends on the reason I once RSVPD and landed in the hospital the night before (was there all the next day) the bride still has not spoken to me 3 years later. If your being a jerk sure but a legitimate reason I think should be forgivable

0points

somnomania 2 years ago

i really don't understand formal weddings. like, at all. i'd much rather (if i could GET married without losing my disability money) just throw on my jeans and a tshirt, go to the local office, and sign a piece of paper. maybe go home and eat some delicious takeout with my parents and a couple of friends. it's all symbolic anyway.

0points

Bruce Leibee 2 years ago

BS. All of this, as usual, BP BS.

0points

Otto Maddox 2 years ago

lol, we got married in my wife's parents' living room. Then we drove five miles for our honeymoon. I certainly did not gaf what anyone did at our wedding. It only would have made it more memorable. Maybe people should focus less on how they think things "should" turn out, and more on just having a memorable experience that lasts for decades.

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Marik 2 years ago

19points

Kristal 2 years ago

I hope you took a good hard look at that "friendship" after that. That's horrible

14points

Kate 2 years ago

These all ultimately sound like reasons to elope.

10points

Tenacious Squirrel 2 years ago

0points

Chich 2 years ago

8points

Issey 2 years ago

7points

censorshipsucks 2 years ago

so in short "do unto others."

3points

Blarrg 2 years ago

If you do the thing where you cut and feed one another a bite of the wedding cake, shoving it in your new spouse's face is not cute or funny. At all.

5points

censorshipsucks 2 years ago

3points

Jackie Walters 2 years ago

I am surprised nobody said the cake face smash.

1point

Gavin Johnson 2 years ago

1point

Got Myself 4 Pandas 2 years ago

1point

AndThenICommented 2 years ago (edited)

1point

Andrew Gibb 2 years ago

This is a sub-list of why I won't be getting married.

1point

JJ 2 years ago

7points